Speaker 1: Today we're recording on Gadighul country and.
Speaker 2: We'd like to pay our respects to the traditional custodians
Speaker 2: of the Gati. Girl people, I know you're gonna dig this.
Speaker 2: It's like I've been given like an extra sprinkle of something.
Speaker 1: You've got layers, Yeah, I got layers.
Speaker 3: I was just thinking, I'm like, we're just such beautiful storytellers.
Speaker 2: You make a lot of sense to that. Girl. No,
Speaker 2: I'm done, lest I've been too.
Speaker 1: Honest to go. Let's not Valentine's Day. First things First.
Speaker 2: Who pranks someone on Valentine's Day?
Speaker 3: That is a bit savage. It is a bit savage.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie what was going through Denny's mind.
Speaker 2: I don't know if anything was, because look, I at
Speaker 2: first thought, oh my god, like what is happening. He
Speaker 2: put this blindfold on me. I knew this camera was
Speaker 2: set up, so I thought something cute was happening.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you honestly thought beyon tickets.
Speaker 2: I thought Beyonce tickets. But I also said a few
Speaker 2: other things that he cut out, Like I was like,
Speaker 2: what are you doing? Like did you make something? Did
Speaker 2: you cook? Like I just thought that it was going
Speaker 2: to be something cute, and then when it wasn't like
Speaker 2: there's such a mixed bag of emotions for me with this,
Speaker 2: so like at first I was like, what the fuck's
Speaker 2: going on? Like, oh, he can't be proposing, Like is
Speaker 2: this actually happening? Like yeah, I just thought, all that's
Speaker 2: a bit too soon, Like that's the first reaction I
Speaker 2: had was like, Oh, I don't know if like this
Speaker 2: is the moment, you know.
Speaker 3: Which because you saw like so he takes a blind
Speaker 3: oh you take the blindfold off?
Speaker 2: Yeah? And in my voice, in his voice, it sounded
Speaker 2: so sincere It sounded like he was gonna cry. So
Speaker 2: his voice was like, you know, you deserve so much
Speaker 2: more than this and everything. I was thinking, oh my god,
Speaker 2: like is he actually going to do this? But I
Speaker 2: was like wait, what did you hear my voice? I
Speaker 2: was like what like that? That's like where my emotion was.
Speaker 2: It was so like what what's happening? And then when
Speaker 2: the box came around and there was an egg in it,
Speaker 2: and then I was like you fucking kidding me? Like
Speaker 2: is this actually happening? And then I got pissed off
Speaker 2: because I was like, you're playing with my feelings a
Speaker 2: little bit. And then it went from that to being
Speaker 2: really funny afterwards. I laughed for so long, Like I
Speaker 2: laughed for probably like a good five minutes after being angry.
Speaker 2: But then everyone started sliding into the dms and made
Speaker 2: almost like influenced what I had. Then got over, Yeah,
Speaker 2: got over and accepted as okay, stupid funny prank. Then
Speaker 2: everyone was messaging me saying this is cruel. So then
Speaker 2: my mind goes, yeah, this motherfucker, this is cruel. This
Speaker 2: is cruel, This is cruel. So now I'm back in this,
Speaker 2: like I feel sorry for myself, you know, like I'm like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: he shouldn't have done that. And I think that because
Speaker 2: of everyone else's reaction and how much they probably hated
Speaker 2: it for me. Yeah, I then became even deeper.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie. I definitely did feel that as well. Yeah,
Speaker 3: because like I know, like love is so important to you,
Speaker 3: and like obviously a proposal was such a grand gesture
Speaker 3: and like I've had a had like you know, I've
Speaker 3: been proposed too, so I like, what did.
Speaker 2: You do in that moment? Can I just ask how
Speaker 2: did it actually feel?
Speaker 3: I the second I'll talk about the second time, because
Speaker 3: the first time was like just more of a.
Speaker 2: Like it's happened twice.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: The first time was like more of a cover up
Speaker 3: of like a like fixed relationship kind of thing. Yeah,
Speaker 3: and then like three months later we end up breaking up,
Speaker 3: and then the second time.
Speaker 1: I guess the second time, I probably want to talk
Speaker 1: to a bit more because.
Speaker 3: Like, I don't know, I felt like those two moments
Speaker 3: like took away my big moment. Okay, yeah, and I
Speaker 3: think it's really I think women, not all women feel
Speaker 3: this way, but I think a proposal was really important
Speaker 3: to a woman and how it's done because it's I
Speaker 3: guess that's also a societal push thing as well, Like
Speaker 3: it's like this grand gesture. So I can imagine like
Speaker 3: how I would feel in that situation. And I felt
Speaker 3: for you because it's like it's not one on Valentine's
Speaker 3: Day like any other day. Sure, but then I'm like
Speaker 3: a prank on Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2: It was like three days before, just to be honest, it.
Speaker 1: Was three days before, okay, so it.
Speaker 2: Wasn't on Valentine's Day, but then he posted it before
Speaker 2: Valentine's Day, like the day before, so yeah, it was before,
Speaker 2: but it was.
Speaker 3: But everyone around that time, it was just like everyone's
Speaker 3: like saying love. There are actual, like legitimate like engagements happening,
Speaker 3: and like you're probably like maybe you know, there's some
Speaker 3: comparison culture going on, and you're like, oh, like that's cute.
Speaker 2: And you know what his actual reaction to me to
Speaker 2: talking about this. So basically on Valentine's Day he didn't
Speaker 2: post anything. Oh so he posted that video the day
Speaker 2: before Valentine's.
Speaker 3: And then nothing like and then nothing So for me,
Speaker 3: I'll tell you something.
Speaker 2: So I went to see a show Friday night, Valentine's Day. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that was Friday, Yeah, Friday Friday, and I was Christy
Speaker 2: in our news show Hadestown, Yeah, And I was in
Speaker 2: the crowd watching the show, and my focus should have
Speaker 2: been on the show, but all I was thinking was
Speaker 2: I wonder because my phone was on flight mode. I
Speaker 2: was like, I wonder, by the time if I get
Speaker 2: out of this show, has he posted anything. It's been
Speaker 2: all day, so I was hoping that maybe he would
Speaker 2: have posted something to share his love for me. Right,
Speaker 2: he didn't, And so I got home and I was like, hey,
Speaker 2: I just want you to know something. I feel a
Speaker 2: little bit like sad. Actually that I, you know, posted
Speaker 2: a nice video of us and like some like cute
Speaker 2: memories and created this real and you haven't posted anything
Speaker 2: other than the prank video and now everyone's reaction to that,
Speaker 2: plus you not posting something nice and genuine and exactly.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I think that if he posted something that was opposite
Speaker 2: to that, I would have felt like, oh, okay, you
Speaker 2: know what. But he didn't. So I ended up telling
Speaker 2: him that, and then we ended up having like a
Speaker 2: bit of an awkward moment where he was like, well,
Speaker 2: it doesn't matter about how other people see us. It's
Speaker 2: about how I treat you and how this you know, this,
Speaker 2: this holiday, this day is so commercialized, but it is
Speaker 2: and I get that. But at the same time, he
Speaker 2: is not hearing what I'm saying to him, So I'm
Speaker 2: saying to him, I feel sad, right, So if I
Speaker 2: feel sad and you're just telling me all the excuses
Speaker 2: as to why you didn't do it, wouldn't you just
Speaker 2: think to yourself, Okay, babe, you know what. Sorry, I'll
Speaker 2: post something. Yeah that's gonna make you feel nice. I'm
Speaker 2: going to post something. But he's not big on like
Speaker 2: doing things for But.
Speaker 3: Can I ask the question so like, you know, him
Speaker 3: doing that prank video, did he kind.
Speaker 1: Of get your approval to post that up?
Speaker 2: Or yes?
Speaker 1: Okay, okay.
Speaker 2: And that's when I was in funny land. That's when
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, that is so funny
Speaker 2: and I'm so glad to chuck the egg at you
Speaker 2: because everything was a natural reaction yea in you. And
Speaker 2: I was like this mother effer like and chuck the egg.
Speaker 1: You know, think to do a prank back?
Speaker 2: Well, I have, And I said to him, I will
Speaker 2: get you back and I'll tell you what it is. Okay,
Speaker 2: So all.
Speaker 1: Right, if you are listening, message Maddie and tell him.
Speaker 2: I've got I've got the best. I'm going to tell you.
Speaker 2: I'm going to tell you, but the editor is going
Speaker 2: to stop here really quickly, right oh yeah. And it's
Speaker 2: like he's so what I'm going to do is I'm
Speaker 2: going to and I'm going to be like paybacks a bitch,
Speaker 2: isn't it?
Speaker 1: Guys?
Speaker 2: Isn't that good?
Speaker 1: That's good?
Speaker 2: Yes? And I workshop this with people at my work
Speaker 2: at SBO. We sat around like how can I get
Speaker 2: him back? So I'm going to get him back because
Speaker 2: that's he wants to play with some big emotions. Guess
Speaker 2: what so can.
Speaker 3: I guys, It's good. I think I'm going to be
Speaker 3: really well, you know what, I'm here for it. I'm
Speaker 3: really here for it. Like I've never been pranked this
Speaker 3: valad like I yeah, no, and he.
Speaker 2: Knows it's coming. But I said to him it won't
Speaker 2: be anytime soon because I don't want you to get like,
Speaker 2: you know, wind of it, but I will get you back.
Speaker 3: And adds a bit of spice to a relationship though,
Speaker 3: like in Sanse But then he's super ended and deleted video.
Speaker 3: Well yeah, on a lighthearted note, like you know, you
Speaker 3: have this this banta with your partner, which is really special,
Speaker 3: and then like yeah, but when is it too far?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: I think maybe the egg was Honestly.
Speaker 3: I also just think like you guys are going through
Speaker 3: this journey of like baby and surrogency and just an
Speaker 3: egg just is not like yeah, totally.
Speaker 1: I can imagine like a vibrator or like condom.
Speaker 2: Or something was that the egg was expensive and eggs
Speaker 2: are expensive these days.
Speaker 3: And you know avocados, like do an avocado, they're fucking expensive.
Speaker 2: Speaking of avocados, you know what I fucking hate when
Speaker 2: you open an avocado and it's not ripe because you
Speaker 2: can't fix that ship. It's hard and it goes in
Speaker 2: the bin. But anyway, Valentine's Day.
Speaker 3: I'll commercialize a little bit though. Yeah, but I get
Speaker 3: around it.
Speaker 2: I'm like you one hundred percent around it because you
Speaker 2: normally have your gals and Gallantines.
Speaker 3: Gazing Galantine gazing Galentine. Yeah, the last three or four
Speaker 3: years I've held a Gallantine. So when I first moved
Speaker 3: to Melbourne in twenty twenty one, just before the Bachelorette,
Speaker 3: I actually came to Melbourne for Galentines and it was
Speaker 3: with all First Nations women.
Speaker 2: So pretty cute.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we just like booked an airbnban and like it
Speaker 3: was in Collingwood. So that's sort of you know, I
Speaker 3: get around the girls because I don't think I've really
Speaker 3: had a Valentine, like a proper Valentine. Yeah, so what
Speaker 3: about this yere air or yeah, oh I mean that
Speaker 3: year I had a very weird Valentine.
Speaker 2: But yeah, but you go like super cutesy with your
Speaker 2: Valentine like events, like you do the colors, the roses,
Speaker 2: the right to the pink little things. I saw on
Speaker 2: your story. I was like cute.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well this year I did have a Valentine, but
Speaker 3: they weren't in Melbourne, so I still got around the girls.
Speaker 3: You know, I organized a little Gallantines thing and I
Speaker 3: just sort of said to a few group charts that
Speaker 3: I have with some people, if you don't have a Valentine,
Speaker 3: like come over and like we'll just have like drinks
Speaker 3: and snacks and all kind of themed I don't know, you.
Speaker 2: Said getting around the girls. Yeah, was that a hint at.
Speaker 3: She's I literally like have this like that like vision
Speaker 3: of myself literally walking in slow motion like throwing a
Speaker 3: paper in the air, and all of it is just
Speaker 3: like I'm back, Like she's back, She's she's back on
Speaker 3: the girl train. I mean I've been back a little bit.
Speaker 3: Like give me some grace.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Do you ever feel pressure because of how people see
Speaker 2: you in terms of being bisexual or pan sexual? Do
Speaker 2: you ever feel pressure that like if you're if you
Speaker 2: haven't been with someone of the same sex, that you're
Speaker 2: going to be labeled like not that.
Speaker 3: I think maybe like from yeah, a societal pressure. And
Speaker 3: I've read a lot of books around bisexually bisexuality and
Speaker 3: TV and I've never really like, I didn't really care
Speaker 3: for it to be fair in terms of like the
Speaker 3: views and everything that they have as a bisexual.
Speaker 1: Woman, because it kind of just gets dismissed, you know.
Speaker 3: It's like, oh, they're just confused or they're greedy, and
Speaker 3: I'm just all these perceptions that you have on a
Speaker 3: bisexual woman. Like I just never felt, honestly, like, as
Speaker 3: much as I was the bisexual bachelorette, the word bisexual
Speaker 3: never really like just really felt like a whole of me.
Speaker 2: It sounded great for the title, though, but they have
Speaker 2: you know that sounds nice, Yeah, exactly tally four B.
Speaker 2: So they would have really capitalized on that sound.
Speaker 3: Because they actually asked me, if anything, if we go
Speaker 3: back in time and they you know, they're like, what
Speaker 3: do you want to be titled? And I was like, well,
Speaker 3: you're only casting men and women, so I can't really,
Speaker 3: you know, title myself a pan sexual Batchel because you're
Speaker 3: not really being gender diverse, you know what I mean,
Speaker 3: no non binary people on the show. So I was
Speaker 3: kind of confined to that in a sense. But when
Speaker 3: I think about my footy days and my queerness and
Speaker 3: growing up with a lot of queer women playing footy,
Speaker 3: Like no one was like, Hey, I'm Alisha, I'm bisexual,
Speaker 3: or like hey I'm Jane Doe and I literally I
Speaker 3: play forward but I'm also bisexual, Like no one was
Speaker 3: like that.
Speaker 1: It was like, hey, I'm my name and that's ime with.
Speaker 2: Hey I'm Maddie and I'm definitely straight, Like no, but yeah, I.
Speaker 3: Feel like, like you know, me doing my TED talk
Speaker 3: in twenty nineteen and was like how do you introduce yourself?
Speaker 3: That really mattered to me because I felt like how
Speaker 3: I ever like introduced myself wasn't really how people saw me.
Speaker 3: And I felt like The Bachelorette just really like it's
Speaker 3: exacerbated that and like that feeling of like, oh fuck,
Speaker 3: I just feel like I'm not in the driving seat,
Speaker 3: Like I feel like I'm just a passenger to these
Speaker 3: titles and it's fine, but anyways, going on a tangent now,
Speaker 3: but I feel like I have like a specific like
Speaker 3: specific girl or type when I want to date women,
Speaker 3: and it's like for me, it just like someone needs
Speaker 3: to spark like a visceral reaction.
Speaker 2: And sort of reaction like what is what is visceral reaction?
Speaker 3: Like honestly, everything like butterflies, like intensity of like like
Speaker 3: I'm attracted to them.
Speaker 1: I know that I'm attracted.
Speaker 3: To them, like I actually like look at them like
Speaker 3: I want to kiss them. And I don't even have
Speaker 3: that with men like at all, Like I literally feel
Speaker 3: like I'm putting up with men like in a sense,
Speaker 3: but like I have had that attraction, but that's come later.
Speaker 3: But for specific women, it has to have this like
Speaker 3: for me, yeah, and I feel like.
Speaker 1: I'm in a god what Yeah, Anyways, I had that.
Speaker 2: I'm opposite you looking at you and pretending that no
Speaker 2: one else is in studio, giving you the cue of
Speaker 2: like are you gonna introduce?
Speaker 3: Yeah, well I had that with someone and it's such
Speaker 3: a weird and unusual like story in a sense. But
Speaker 3: I saw this girl, and you know, I made this
Speaker 3: like really subtle video like to let her know that
Speaker 3: I like her.
Speaker 1: And today it was bringing your girlfriend to work day.
Speaker 1: So my new girlfriend Miya is in studio.
Speaker 2: Ah, welcome Mia. I was gonna say, like Mia, like
Speaker 2: missing in action, but she's here now, not missing in action. Look,
Speaker 2: I've tried to get my boyfriend to come on this
Speaker 2: pod for so long, like I'm talking about maybe a
Speaker 2: year still hasn't happened, and so I mean it's a
Speaker 2: hard launch one day in and fresh yeah, one day in.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah.
Speaker 3: I only asked me yesterday, which was quite cute. I
Speaker 3: love this one day exclusive.
Speaker 2: So I want to go back to the video because
Speaker 2: you told me about this video when we finished the
Speaker 2: Apple Podcast and we were sitting there and we were debriefing,
Speaker 2: and she was like, I did this video and I
Speaker 2: was like.
Speaker 4: Okay, she says, it's subtle. It was like the least
Speaker 4: subtle thing.
Speaker 3: I feel like it was subtle to like my general audience,
Speaker 3: but like to me, it was not very subtle.
Speaker 1: It was like this like silly video.
Speaker 3: It was like a message to Santa, being like, hey,
Speaker 3: like still literally waiting for like my present, like I've
Speaker 3: been waiting, And I honestly feel like I said this
Speaker 3: to me.
Speaker 2: How did you know it was for you? Though? Like
Speaker 2: I need to I need to understand the link between
Speaker 2: you creating something, putting it on your story and you
Speaker 2: go she's speaking to me.
Speaker 4: It's because literally thirty minutes before she had followed me
Speaker 4: on all platforms.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that was pretty commented on my TikTok, liked my
Speaker 5: TikTok videos, and then once I followed her back half
Speaker 5: an hour later, there was this story that she put
Speaker 5: up being like, yeah, hey, Sanna, I just wondering, like,
Speaker 5: why has my present been delayed three years? I'm looking
Speaker 5: for a five to four brunette with like brown eyes
Speaker 5: or whatever.
Speaker 4: And I was like, and I called my best mate.
Speaker 4: I was like, is this play about us?
Speaker 2: I was like yeah.
Speaker 4: I was like, I have to take the bait.
Speaker 3: I kind of got your height wrong though, because I
Speaker 3: think I said five three five three yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 4: Mean, how are you supposed to?
Speaker 1: In my heart, I just took.
Speaker 3: A guess and you know, a leap of faith, so
Speaker 3: I didn't get it correct, but you know, I shot yeah,
Speaker 3: and I was like, fuck your six five blue eyes.
Speaker 1: Guy works in finance. I was like, this is what
Speaker 1: I want, like you know what I mean? Okay, that's
Speaker 1: pretty direct.
Speaker 3: And I thought it was like a bit more subtle
Speaker 3: the general public again, like to my audience, like they
Speaker 3: would be like, oh, yeah, this is just some queer
Speaker 3: shit that Brooks posting like whatever, and not thinking that
Speaker 3: it would be for anyone. And me knew and that
Speaker 3: was good because then I didn't think she would get
Speaker 3: it or like care enough to like get it so obvious,
Speaker 3: but your response was like such gold. I was like, fuck, okay,
Speaker 3: I cannot beat this in a sense. She comes back,
Speaker 3: She's like, hey, Santa called something about a delayed present.
Speaker 1: And then got me. I was like hooked. After that.
Speaker 1: I was like, humor is like one of the most
Speaker 1: attractive things and mirror.
Speaker 2: Did you reply that reply to the story? Okay?
Speaker 4: Yeah, so that was my slide.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like it. That's a ballsy like line to
Speaker 2: throw out. And then you just came back and you're like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I got it.
Speaker 1: But can we talk about how.
Speaker 4: State?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, ooh, I would love to know the first
Speaker 2: day that didn't No, So did you know off Brooke?
Speaker 5: Yes, but I didn't follow her, And to be fair,
Speaker 5: like i'd seen the Bachelorette, but I hadn't seen really
Speaker 5: anything else. So like when we were talking, I think
Speaker 5: we established that pretty quickly. But then she was like, oh,
Speaker 5: I'm literally moving back to Melbourne in like two weeks,
Speaker 5: and I was.
Speaker 4: Like, oh, that's annoying.
Speaker 5: But yeah, so I was like, okay, I need to
Speaker 5: see her before she goes because I don't want it
Speaker 5: to fizzle.
Speaker 4: She had like nice spanter, but I was like, I
Speaker 4: can't fizzle.
Speaker 5: So I was trying to like lock her in, but
Speaker 5: she was filming at the time, so she was like
Speaker 5: super busy. Anyway, somehow, like I did, we planned this date.
Speaker 5: So then like on the day comes and I said
Speaker 5: to Brooke, I've organized.
Speaker 4: Like, let's do a picnic. I was like, you've had
Speaker 4: a big week. Let me take the reins, I'll organize it.
Speaker 5: So I when I've got a freaking picnic basket. I
Speaker 5: packed this like oh yeah, I packed this whole picnic.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: And during the like at the start of the day,
Speaker 5: she was like, oh, can we do like three? And
Speaker 5: I was like yeah, sick yeah, because she was literally
Speaker 5: moving to the next day.
Speaker 4: So we planned it the night before, which.
Speaker 5: I kind of was like, oh, that's pushing it, but
Speaker 5: I was like whatever, yeah yeah, And so yeah, she's
Speaker 5: organized it for three and then she was like, I'm
Speaker 5: still packing. Can we push it back to six? And
Speaker 5: I was like, yes, sweet six, we'll do a sunset thing.
Speaker 5: I'm here for it, yeah, because that's where.
Speaker 2: I was, Yeah, I'm betraying, like yeah, brangeroo reserve.
Speaker 5: So then it gets to five thirty, A kid yeknot
Speaker 5: and I'm still like she should have left by now,
Speaker 5: but I was like whatever, like fashion of eight.
Speaker 4: But it's all good.
Speaker 5: It gets like five thirty and I get I cot
Speaker 5: this message being like super stressed. I'm not going to
Speaker 5: make it like I'm really sorry, which it was a
Speaker 5: genuine message. I'm not gonna lie like I did. I
Speaker 5: was like I did could now she felt bad, but
Speaker 5: she's like anyway, She's like, I'm really sorry, but if
Speaker 5: you ever find yourself in Melbourne, let me know otherwise
Speaker 5: are you free in March?
Speaker 1: This was December.
Speaker 2: She's like, I book you for martigraph March.
Speaker 4: I was like March.
Speaker 5: My date went from three pm to six pm to March.
Speaker 5: I was like that is that's fuel Like March, I'm like.
Speaker 4: Weight around too much.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh god. I was like I was upset.
Speaker 4: I was like damn it.
Speaker 5: But I was like whatever out what is meant to
Speaker 5: be will be, and then we just kept in touch.
Speaker 3: Mind you like my thinking around it was that you know,
Speaker 3: I potentially was going to move in Sydney. March was
Speaker 3: like my locked in sort of like date. But now
Speaker 3: things have sort of like changed a little bit with work,
Speaker 3: which I kind of knew as well, but I knew
Speaker 3: i'd be back in Sydney at some point. So my
Speaker 3: mentality was like, like I could have met up with you,
Speaker 3: like and I just think that I would have been
Speaker 3: like a not a very good version of myself because
Speaker 3: you saw my apartment, like I had to pack that
Speaker 3: whole thing up. I was a bit stressed and then
Speaker 3: drive like eight hours back to Melbourne.
Speaker 2: So like my I had the best idea. You should
Speaker 2: have asked her to go on the drive with you.
Speaker 2: That's what you should have done.
Speaker 1: That's a huge U haul, that's a huge date.
Speaker 2: Let's get to know each other. E fucking perfect that
Speaker 2: really liked each other by the end.
Speaker 5: Or you would have been like now this way, like
Speaker 5: I get to Melbourne and the like part ways to
Speaker 5: find myself.
Speaker 1: Home.
Speaker 4: Now that actually road trip telling really fun. I would
Speaker 4: actually love that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I did say this to me or later
Speaker 3: like I'm glad that you know. Well. Our first day
Speaker 3: ended up being on FaceTime, which I didn't want. Hey,
Speaker 3: Like I was like no, no, like I was in
Speaker 3: my in my mind, I was like no, no, I
Speaker 3: want our first time to be like really present and
Speaker 3: I want to be in person, like I want her
Speaker 3: to gauge that I'm in it, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: And yeah, anyways, our first date was on FaceTime. It
Speaker 3: was very cute, and then we just kept chatting from
Speaker 3: them and then I was like, Hey, having my birthday,
Speaker 3: do you want to just come? And honestly, this is
Speaker 3: the whole thing. If they want to, they will and
Speaker 3: I'm not over.
Speaker 2: I could have she could have had that same response
Speaker 2: to the day.
Speaker 1: Yes, I agree that.
Speaker 3: I was literally gonna say that, I don't doubt, like, yeah,
Speaker 3: that's I was probably giving very flaky vibes, which was
Speaker 3: the opposite of what I wanted to give you. It
Speaker 3: was like like I wanted to let you know. But anyways,
Speaker 3: she booked flights straight away and was like coming. I
Speaker 3: was like, all right, great, do you want to come
Speaker 3: to stay with me? Stayed with me, my friends, my family,
Speaker 3: met my.
Speaker 2: Dad, baptism of fire. It was everyone in the room. Ye,
Speaker 2: how great, though, Like that's that gives you such a
Speaker 2: snapshot of Brooks world.
Speaker 4: It was, Yeah, that's honestly the best weekend.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Oh, it's a highlight of my twenty twenty five already.
Speaker 1: Yeah, riding that high.
Speaker 3: I'm still riding a guy, Like my birthday was just
Speaker 3: so special, like beautiful. Yeah, I'm still remembering the words
Speaker 3: that you said dinner like it was so good. But yeah, anyways,
Speaker 3: fast forward, it's honestly not been obviously that long in
Speaker 3: terms of but when we calculated it in lesbian years,
Speaker 3: but like, yeah, it's been a while.
Speaker 2: She goes years.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, we'll try to work out like how because
Speaker 5: we spent four days with each other.
Speaker 4: So she was like, okay, any dates would be in
Speaker 4: how many dates would be that.
Speaker 5: She's like, okay, so like a normal date goes like
Speaker 5: five hours. We spent four days together and so we
Speaker 5: like kind of did the math and she's like, so
Speaker 5: we've kind of been on like fifteen.
Speaker 4: Dates, like fifteenth dates.
Speaker 1: Why we married?
Speaker 2: Yeah, fifteen dates. That's a lot lot. Yeah, but you
Speaker 2: live in Sydney, yeah, and Brooks in Melbourne. I know,
Speaker 2: so you it will take a little bit longer to
Speaker 2: you know, get to know each other in terms of
Speaker 2: like spacing out when you'll be together. And I think
Speaker 2: that might be a good thing, you know, for lesbians
Speaker 2: and gays as well, trust me, Like gays are the same,
Speaker 2: you know, Yeah, I know that well, we're very quick,
Speaker 2: like I am. I'm like, if I've dated someone for
Speaker 2: at least two months, then I would want to move
Speaker 2: in with them. You know. I've been like that, So
Speaker 2: I think that I'm quick like that. I think a
Speaker 2: lot of gay men are.
Speaker 4: I've had a lot of game in like pay me
Speaker 4: out for how oh really?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean lesbians are quicker for sure, Like they're
Speaker 2: like you know, one month.
Speaker 4: We kept saying every time we FaceTime.
Speaker 5: We FaceTime every night, but every time we'd FaceTime, we'd
Speaker 5: be like, we're not you hauling it.
Speaker 4: We're not you hauling it. We're not you hauling it?
Speaker 2: What what do you all look like? If you did, I.
Speaker 4: Would have someone would have moved already.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, it's difficult because like my whole house is
Speaker 3: not that your house is not set up, but like
Speaker 3: I've got other people to be responsible for as well
Speaker 3: in a sense, so it'd be harder for me to
Speaker 3: move to Sydney.
Speaker 1: But I mean it would be a conversation.
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, but why do you go to Canberra.
Speaker 3: Halfway in Sydney and like, yeah, but anyways, are you
Speaker 3: doing Marti gra together.
Speaker 1: We haven't really even spoken about Mardi Gras.
Speaker 5: Yeah cool.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I only just asked me to be my girlfriend yesterday,
Speaker 3: like officially, like both explicit, how did you do?
Speaker 4: It's so cute.
Speaker 1: I'll let me take this. People are interested.
Speaker 3: To be fair, I had already started saying, like my partner,
Speaker 3: my girlfriend, like I sort of cut my ties, cleared
Speaker 3: the fucking roster. I was like, I'm all in, baby,
Speaker 3: Like I was like having these real, like cutthroat conversations
Speaker 3: like goodbye, and so I literally did that in the
Speaker 3: first FaceTime.
Speaker 1: I was like a rat that was like I'm in
Speaker 1: a tizzy here.
Speaker 2: A bit of a would take some time sometimes too,
Speaker 2: you know, well I just.
Speaker 1: Don't want one. I would never ever fucking want to
Speaker 1: like yeah at all.
Speaker 3: And I also like, and that's I think that's a
Speaker 3: really good conversation to have. Like we were kind of
Speaker 3: making up this random comedy skit where like someone like
Speaker 3: really surprises you like and ask you out, and you're like,
Speaker 3: you say yes, and then you're like in the.
Speaker 1: Like see you like.
Speaker 2: That's great, but like it's funny.
Speaker 1: That's not what I was doing.
Speaker 3: Just to clarify, but it had been a you know,
Speaker 3: an interesting process because I'm like a very friendly person
Speaker 3: as well, and like I get a lot of messages
Speaker 3: and I'm like every time someone in a message, i'd
Speaker 3: be like, hey, yeah, it would be great to hang
Speaker 3: but just letting you know, like I'm seeing someone and
Speaker 3: I'm in a relationship, like you know. And I started
Speaker 3: already having those conversations. And then I actually hadn't asked
Speaker 3: me yet. Okay, so I asked her yesterday and anyway,
Speaker 3: you want to.
Speaker 1: Tell you how I asked so cute. I was at work.
Speaker 5: And Brooke messaged me and said, hey, what time are
Speaker 5: you going to be home. I'm going to go for
Speaker 5: a run. And I was like, I'll be home like
Speaker 5: half plast five and she's like, okay, sweet, plenty of time.
Speaker 5: It's like amazing. Anyway, I get home and I opened
Speaker 5: the door and she's like looking like a little doll.
Speaker 4: I was like, okay, that's not giving. I just went
Speaker 4: for a run. I was like, oh, I guess she didn't. Anyway.
Speaker 5: I like she was all like giddy and like all sprightly,
Speaker 5: and I was like hey, and just like behind her
Speaker 5: on my kitchen bench was like this huge bouquet of
Speaker 5: flowers and a wine cupcakes and these three envelopes and
Speaker 5: I know, so cute. And I was like, and to
Speaker 5: be honest, I thought this was like a late Valentine's
Speaker 5: Day gift, yeah, because we didn't get to like spend
Speaker 5: Valentine's Day together. So I was like, okay, perfect, like
Speaker 5: we're just we're just yeah, touching up.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So that was straight away what my mind went too.
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh, that's really sweet.
Speaker 2: There wasn't an egg prank that was coming.
Speaker 4: No, maybe that's later, but yeah.
Speaker 5: I walked up to the bench and there was like
Speaker 5: these cupcakes and it said that she had like iced
Speaker 5: them and wrote in like icing.
Speaker 3: I thought, if I start off with something like really
Speaker 3: pathetic and funny, yeah, she'll have no inkling onto what's
Speaker 3: going to happen?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 5: And so the cupcakes said you're cute. I like you
Speaker 5: a lot with a little love heart, and I was like,
Speaker 5: oh sweet.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: And then there's three cards and it said option one,
Speaker 5: Option two, Option three, and she's like okay, like we're
Speaker 5: gonna go to go on a date night tonight. There's
Speaker 5: three options and you can choose where you want to go.
Speaker 5: I was like, okay, cool, So I opened option one
Speaker 5: and Option one was just like, oh, like we'll eat in,
Speaker 5: I'll cook you something and we'll just like watch uple
Speaker 5: side vinegar and yeah, have a nice date night. In
Speaker 5: the second one was open this yes second envelope and
Speaker 5: it was like we can go to the Oxford House
Speaker 5: and like have a hotel stay. I was like, ah yeah,
Speaker 5: I was like lovely and that was really cute. And
Speaker 5: I was like, oh, like, I was like, three options
Speaker 5: is so cute. And then the third card I opened it.
Speaker 5: Oh my god, I'm going to cry. The third card
Speaker 5: I opened it and it was like, I don't know,
Speaker 5: every time it gets me, it gets me. It's just
Speaker 5: been a rough time, so it's just really nice. But
Speaker 5: third card I opened and it was like, you can
Speaker 5: make me the happiest.
Speaker 4: Girl in the world. Will you be my girlfriend?
Speaker 5: And I was like I tell you, like my jaw
Speaker 5: hit the floor because I was not.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm videoed it as well.
Speaker 2: You're looking for the third option. I was like the
Speaker 2: other day yeah.
Speaker 5: And so I literally I was like are you and
Speaker 5: I just started crying and then she's like how do
Speaker 5: you feel?
Speaker 4: Are you good? Are you sad? Are you happy? Are
Speaker 4: you are you nervous? And I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 5: Anyway, I was like, of course, oh, that's so cute.
Speaker 3: So the two other options were really just like how
Speaker 3: do you want to celebrate?
Speaker 1: Yeah, which I already had in my mind.
Speaker 2: So then what did you do after?
Speaker 1: What did you choose?
Speaker 4: We stayed at the Oxford House.
Speaker 2: Oh nice, beautiful, so nice.
Speaker 4: It's a beautiful stay.
Speaker 1: It was the best.
Speaker 4: And yeah, I seriously feel like, I don't know, very happy.
Speaker 2: That's so cute. That is a hard launch. We've done
Speaker 2: it right here on the first things first, and our
Speaker 2: producers standing in the back looking very happy and proud
Speaker 2: over there.
Speaker 4: Hard launch, I've been posted.
Speaker 3: I know. Well, if you think about how long we've
Speaker 3: had this podcast and absolute turmoil and shitty but you know,
Speaker 3: comedic slash, you know, content heavy dates and fun show
Speaker 3: over the lineup of dudes that updated, Like, yeah, it
Speaker 3: actually feels amazing.
Speaker 2: This is for love, not for the plot.
Speaker 1: Finally, no, mirror is not a plot line.
Speaker 4: I mean good plot. It's a great long plot.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So yeah, there you have it. We've got to
Speaker 1: wrap up.
Speaker 3: But congratulations, thank you, thanks for listening to our love story.
Speaker 1: It actually does feel like a bit of a love story.
Speaker 2: You know, it's so funny. The views at home won't
Speaker 2: know this, but this episode had nothing to do with
Speaker 2: this and and we are so like, I'm so happy
Speaker 2: that it did because it's like you too, genuine love
Speaker 2: and I'm really happy for you both.
Speaker 3: It started with a prank and it ended with a
Speaker 3: love story. That's how this lesson Valentine's Day goes.
Speaker 2: That's how your Valentine's stage.
Speaker 1: No, we love you anyways. That's all we have time
Speaker 1: for today. Thank you so much for listening to First things.
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