Speaker 1: I want the fairy tale, I want the prince charming.
Speaker 2: She how do I put this? Isn't a fan of
Speaker 2: my kissing style with the.
Speaker 1: Boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours.
Speaker 2: He's in a trash bin.
Speaker 1: He's non recyclable. Catching her up.
Speaker 2: I love being love, I love love.
Speaker 3: On today's episode of Where's Your Head At, we are
Speaker 3: delighted to welcome back to the studio our amazing manifestation coach,
Speaker 3: Maddie Summers.
Speaker 2: You loved it last time when she came and visited us,
Speaker 2: so today we have her back and to discuss the
Speaker 2: reasons why you may be attracting unavailable and toxic men.
Speaker 3: Maddie will answer all of our juicy questions, is sexual
Speaker 3: chemistry enough and what your energy may be telling others.
Speaker 2: Stick around to find out the reason why you keep
Speaker 2: going back to your toxic x.
Speaker 3: Where's Your Head At is a podcast that talks all
Speaker 3: things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows, and everything in between.
Speaker 2: This is your new go to destination for life gossip,
Speaker 2: intimate details, advice, and much more.
Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, welcome back.
Speaker 2: Good morning, Maddie.
Speaker 1: So excited to be back. I'm loving the green today.
Speaker 1: I know it's a little poper color fabulous Scorpio, I
Speaker 1: am beware. Yeah, why beware?
Speaker 2: Well?
Speaker 1: I mean I feel like Scorpio has got a pretty
Speaker 1: bad wrap. Is she what she like? What one?
Speaker 2: Lara is a bit she's fiery, fiery, Yeah, she knows
Speaker 2: what she wants. She's stay on the line. Is that
Speaker 2: what you are?
Speaker 1: I love that? Yeah, I am. But then it's also
Speaker 1: a water sign, so we're like deeply emotional. Not people
Speaker 1: think we're a fire sign and we're all fiery. I
Speaker 1: think we're just deeply emotional, which can make us what's cancer.
Speaker 1: We're the most compatible, man, we're the most compatible friends.
Speaker 1: Taurus and Scorpio incredible best friends. Really, it's so interesting, Seah,
Speaker 1: I just love it.
Speaker 3: I'm loving this already.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: What have you been manifesting lately? Oh? So much since
Speaker 1: last time we've spoken. I feel like so much has happened,
Speaker 1: and so much has happened with you with the wedding.
Speaker 1: You've manifested marriage. I know, crazy, crazy, my dream man,
Speaker 1: he was manifested from the very first time we spoke
Speaker 1: about it to now. It's happened so quickly, I know,
Speaker 1: isn't it wild?
Speaker 3: It's crazy to think that, like I wrote a letter
Speaker 3: of a guy who encompassed everything I wanted and I
Speaker 3: got that and so much more.
Speaker 1: It's crazy exciting. It's so exciting. Do you know what
Speaker 1: Matt was saying.
Speaker 3: Actually, he was like we were talking because obviously you
Speaker 3: were coming in today, and He's like, I don't believe
Speaker 3: in manifestation, but everything I've manifested has happened.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, nah, so yeah, what I said was
Speaker 2: I said, was look, I like I said last time,
Speaker 2: I don't not believe in it. I think that there's
Speaker 2: nothing wrong with having a positive mindset, you know, like
Speaker 2: thinking about what you want you get there, Like, nothing
Speaker 2: wrong with that. But I said, if you think about
Speaker 2: five years ago, I was, you know, sitting at Smoko,
Speaker 2: like sitting there eating my lunch, listening to radio, and
Speaker 2: I was like, I want to do this, I want this,
Speaker 2: I want to be at this place of my job.
Speaker 2: I want to be doing this. And literally five years later,
Speaker 2: everything I'm doing everything that I well, you can say
Speaker 2: it's manifesting, but I said I wanted to do I'm
Speaker 2: doing it, but it happened. But is that hard work?
Speaker 2: Is that just doing the right things? Being in the
Speaker 2: right place at the right.
Speaker 3: Time, like believing what are you doing?
Speaker 1: Like what do you think what did you do between
Speaker 1: that smoker and now, like with your energy and with everything,
Speaker 1: Like even the things that you did physically, what did
Speaker 1: you do together?
Speaker 2: Well, I say, for instance, get to the job I
Speaker 2: wanted to do. I literally worked hard and I was
Speaker 2: just convincing the right people to move me into that position.
Speaker 2: Is that manifesting or is that just you believed it?
Speaker 1: If you're convincing yourself, that's the thing I think. If
Speaker 1: you're convincing other people as well, you had to have
Speaker 1: a pretty deep root of belief that it was going
Speaker 1: to happen for you too.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I knew what I was good at doing, and
Speaker 2: I knew that's where the business would literally find the
Speaker 2: best for me and the best out of me.
Speaker 1: That's the groundwork for it.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: Manifestations is not like this crazy, hectic like I said
Speaker 1: last time, like floating above the earth. It's just knowing
Speaker 1: what you want and knowing that it's going to happen
Speaker 1: because you know that you deserve it and you're good
Speaker 1: at it, and then taking the aligned action Like that's manifestation.
Speaker 2: I put my crystals out in the full moon. Yeah. Actually,
Speaker 2: Sen and I bought a bunch of them when we
Speaker 2: went and went away, and then we put them out
Speaker 2: on the back of the ute tray just to get
Speaker 2: the full sun on and just you know, I got
Speaker 2: to get the full charge. I was like, someone's going
Speaker 2: to steal them because we're in some motel. Someone's going
Speaker 2: to knock them off.
Speaker 3: If they weren't fully charged, they wouldn't have stole them.
Speaker 1: But since they they're out of the people know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I've got them on my window lags now,
Speaker 2: Like did I tell you last time, I have the
Speaker 2: money one the money crystal to bring money into your life.
Speaker 2: And it started to like crumble and my sister change
Speaker 2: the dust like fuk mat. That's not a good sign.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, this is a good sign because I
Speaker 2: sprinkled some of my money tin. I put some in
Speaker 2: my wallet, I put somewhere on my wallets and I
Speaker 2: put some like in where I keep my money's in
Speaker 2: my car.
Speaker 3: Yeah, bring something.
Speaker 1: Over from me, everyone, Yeah, just wallet, You're welcome.
Speaker 2: So I feel like that was generating money. Yeah, you
Speaker 2: feel like it on my cards, my post cards, Oh
Speaker 2: my gosh, you've got full.
Speaker 1: In you say you're not into manifestation from last time
Speaker 1: I was here doing stuff like that. That's hectic. I
Speaker 1: love it. He's a believer.
Speaker 2: Was like fully into it. Yeah, she was.
Speaker 1: And you're open to a lot of things, very open.
Speaker 3: He's an open person, which is why I think you
Speaker 3: kind of get around it.
Speaker 2: This is something that I should touch on. We had
Speaker 2: you on last time. I remember I sung the Checks
Speaker 2: in the Mail song. I got a job from that,
Speaker 2: from a photo shoot that I did, had resold again
Speaker 2: in the next two days. I got it. I got
Speaker 2: a in the mail still I swear in my life,
Speaker 2: then again I did. I had done this already with
Speaker 2: Jen and her sister. I sung it to them and
Speaker 2: then the next day we were driving up to the
Speaker 2: beach house in New South Wales and the next day
Speaker 2: I woke up and I had another one Checks in
Speaker 2: the Mail.
Speaker 1: You should release this album the Male and everyone just.
Speaker 2: Gets through it.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So hopefully after this, now between.
Speaker 1: That and your dusted crystals, mate, things are looking up
Speaker 1: are looking up.
Speaker 2: Well.
Speaker 3: Look, we have had so many people on our Facebook
Speaker 3: group asking a huz about trying to avoid toxic men,
Speaker 3: and they loved tearing everything you had to say. So
Speaker 3: we are going to touch on all things toxic and
Speaker 3: unavailable men next, okay, Maddie. So firstly, let's start with
Speaker 3: why people keep attracting toxic men.
Speaker 1: Oh, this is such a huge topic lately. I feel
Speaker 1: like it's so juicy because it's so layered. So many
Speaker 1: of my clients and friends at the moment are really
Speaker 1: experiencing this like influx of toxic men and unavailable men.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm not too sure what's happening in the world.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's really coming out of COVID and people are like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't just want a date anymore. I really want
Speaker 1: those relationships. You know. People, a lot of my clients
Speaker 1: at least and friends are really coming to the stage
Speaker 1: where they're like, Okay, I want someone, I want something
Speaker 1: big and meaningful, and then they keep getting stuck in
Speaker 1: this pattern of getting these unavailable toxic quote unquote men.
Speaker 1: And there are so many reasons to this, and this
Speaker 1: is why it's such a good topic because, like I
Speaker 1: said in our last meeting together, it all comes back to,
Speaker 1: you know, sort of what your energy is doing, what
Speaker 1: your deep rooted beliefs are, and then within that there's
Speaker 1: so many layers as well.
Speaker 2: What defines a toxic man then that they're going for.
Speaker 1: Well exactly, This is a point too, And I think
Speaker 1: the question that you shouldn't really be asking is why
Speaker 1: do I keep attracting toxic men? But why am I
Speaker 1: attracted two toxic men? And I think this is a
Speaker 1: really big question because it's something that's going on in
Speaker 1: your subconscious and your psyche. So each toxic man is
Speaker 1: going to look different to each woman totally, and each man,
Speaker 1: you know, it's going to look different. So you've got
Speaker 1: to figure out, Okay, what's going on in my psyche
Speaker 1: that makes that not a match to me? And an
Speaker 1: unavailable man, well, that's obviously someone that's you know, stated
Speaker 1: I don't want a relationship, or they're not ready for
Speaker 1: a relationship, or they're not showing you the signs that
Speaker 1: they ever want to be in a relationship. That's unavailable.
Speaker 1: But when it comes to toxic it's those games and
Speaker 1: those traits and those power trips that make that man
Speaker 1: toxic or woman. You know, it's not just men, women
Speaker 1: as well. It can be toxic and manipulative. So you've
Speaker 1: got to think, Okay, why am I attracted to that?
Speaker 1: Type of person. This is so juicy because there are
Speaker 1: so many reasons and it does come back to, Okay,
Speaker 1: what's gone on in my deep rooted belief system, and
Speaker 1: that does come back to family dynamics. So something that
Speaker 1: Jay Sheddy always talk which is really interesting is from
Speaker 1: your parents, you get either a gift or a gap.
Speaker 1: So they'll either gift you with something in your childhood
Speaker 1: like a lot of love or a lot of attention
Speaker 1: in this area. But then there's a gap, which is
Speaker 1: maybe they didn't show you the right kind of love,
Speaker 1: like maybe a parent walked out, or maybe it was
Speaker 1: a really hostile environment at home, or maybe they didn't
Speaker 1: come to your football games, or there was a gap
Speaker 1: there where you felt like you lacked something that you needed.
Speaker 1: And so within our relationships as an adult, we look
Speaker 1: to fill those gaps with that person. So we go, Okay,
Speaker 1: you need to take up that space and fill that gap,
Speaker 1: and we put all of that on our partner and
Speaker 1: with the gift that our parents gave us, so a
Speaker 1: lot of love or a lot of attention, whatever it
Speaker 1: may be, something more specific, we look for them to
Speaker 1: also give that.
Speaker 2: I say we expect that as well, because what happens
Speaker 2: if you had one parent that overcompensated for the other one. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so like you're wanting them to give you that, but
Speaker 2: no one can compete with that one totally.
Speaker 1: And I think the main issue here is that you
Speaker 1: are looking exterior for someone to fill something with you,
Speaker 1: and this.
Speaker 3: Is so toxic because you shouldn't try to fill.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's toxic, but in the same way, it's of
Speaker 1: course we would feel that way because we're so conditioned.
Speaker 1: Like look even at movies or songs, it's called like
Speaker 1: the Hollywood effect, right, So Beyonce's got crazy in love
Speaker 1: and then you know, we expect someone to be outside
Speaker 1: our window in the pouring rain, singing us songs or
Speaker 1: love is meant to look like a roller coaster where
Speaker 1: he deceives me, but then he you know, he begs
Speaker 1: to have me back and he gets me back and
Speaker 1: it's exciting and it's passionate, it's insane. And we look
Speaker 1: at all of these songs and movies and books and
Speaker 1: we go, that's love. Where is it? And then we
Speaker 1: get into a relationship that's easy and lovely and beautiful
Speaker 1: and go, oh, bored, this isn't love, This isn't what
Speaker 1: I'm meant to have boring. I've got the ick where
Speaker 1: they go, oh this feels easy, what's wrong with them?
Speaker 1: Because this isn't replicating how I've seen love at home.
Speaker 1: How I've seen love is my parents being hostile, or
Speaker 1: someone leaves, or you know, feeling neglected. So I need
Speaker 1: to constantly chase for love. You know, maybe there's a
Speaker 1: parent that didn't give me love some comfortingly going I
Speaker 1: need love. I need love. I need love, And when
Speaker 1: they don't show that love, then we go, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: that's what love is. So then when we get into
Speaker 1: a relationship and they give us all that love, we go, oh,
Speaker 1: this doesn't fit with my nervous system. My nervous system
Speaker 1: is used to a different type of love, so it
Speaker 1: literally in our physical body feels wrong.
Speaker 2: So what you're saying that's different to manifesting them. That's
Speaker 2: what your condition to what your brain is wired in
Speaker 2: that way to expect that and to look for that
Speaker 2: in a relationship. Well, is that like the meaning of
Speaker 2: manifesting it into your life?
Speaker 1: Manifestation is that is a huge part of manifestation because,
Speaker 1: like I said last time, the second step in manifestation
Speaker 1: is working through your limiting beliefs is working through those blockages, because,
Speaker 1: like I just said, that's your energy, that's what you're
Speaker 1: putting out there. This is what you want, that's what
Speaker 1: you're getting clear with the universe. The first step of
Speaker 1: manifestation is all of those things. I want this type
Speaker 1: of guy, I want to feel this certain way ABC
Speaker 1: and that. If you don't work through that those blockages,
Speaker 1: if you don't bring awareness to where your gifts and
Speaker 1: gaps are to what you're wanting to call in, if
Speaker 1: you don't bring awareness and work towards healing them, then
Speaker 1: that's what you're going to call in. That's what you're manifesting.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 2: It's pretty easy though to save work on stuff though,
Speaker 2: Like I know that human brain is fully formed by
Speaker 2: the age of seven, so like what they expect and
Speaker 2: what they've used to seeing is like ingrained in them.
Speaker 2: So how do you recommend then, like breaking that because
Speaker 2: that's obviously would be very hard.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but hallelujah, happy days you can. Thank God you can.
Speaker 1: It's being proven through signs through all of these studies.
Speaker 1: You can literally rewire your neurological pathways in your brain
Speaker 1: to think and feel different ways. Insane that's like the
Speaker 1: beauty of this manifestation work is there's so much neuroscience
Speaker 1: behind it that really does back it up. These first
Speaker 1: steps in clearing the blockages, you can heal these different
Speaker 1: pathways and these different thought processes. But the first thing
Speaker 1: you need to do, and if you are someone that's
Speaker 1: listening to this and you're experiencing, you know, these sort
Speaker 1: of patterns or this is resonating with you all you have,
Speaker 1: the first thing you have to do is bring awareness
Speaker 1: to it and go, Okay, what are these patterns? Because
Speaker 1: a lot of the time, these beliefs that we have
Speaker 1: are so deep rooted that they're subconscious and we go, no,
Speaker 1: it's just all the guys, it's just all the girls,
Speaker 1: It's just all the things that keep happening to me,
Speaker 1: or it's like other people, or even if this is
Speaker 1: just the way I am, this is just who I am,
Speaker 1: and they don't realize, oh okay, there's actually a lot
Speaker 1: of layers under the surface that have been so suppressed
Speaker 1: or they happened between the ages of zero and seven
Speaker 1: that it's forgotten about, but we remember it physically through
Speaker 1: our nervous system. Through going Love is meant to make
Speaker 1: me feel like a roller coaster. It's meant to feel
Speaker 1: crazy in love. It's meant to feel all these certain ways,
Speaker 1: and when it's my nervous system isn't used to it.
Speaker 2: Well, I know that I do in my relationship, like
Speaker 2: you're saying, I want to be stimulated. So if there's
Speaker 2: no like stimulating in the relationship, which is like arguments
Speaker 2: or anything like that, I don't feel like it's proper,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, like a relationship, because that's
Speaker 2: what I was used to. So I did a bit
Speaker 2: of investigating myself about it and how did you go? Well,
Speaker 2: that's where I came to the conclusion about like my
Speaker 2: ADHD and all that sort of stuff that because every
Speaker 2: relationship had like the same pattern in it, and I
Speaker 2: was like, it's not the girls at this point, it's
Speaker 2: fucking me.
Speaker 1: I'm the common denominator.
Speaker 2: I was like yeah, I was like, I'm like, like,
Speaker 2: not every girl's the same, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Like I have to be here to take accountability for myself.
Speaker 1: And even saying that, you're thirty thousand steps ahead of
Speaker 1: so many other people that are going through this because
Speaker 1: people aren't willing to acknowledge the fact that Okay, I
Speaker 1: am the common denominator here, what is going on? And
Speaker 1: really do that inner curiosity, that inner work, and that
Speaker 1: first step is the hardest, and that's going Okay, where
Speaker 1: has this come from? This has come from a hostile
Speaker 1: home environment. This is manifesting in relationships, which is super common,
Speaker 1: by the way, and it can be to an extreme
Speaker 1: or it can be the fact that you know, maybe
Speaker 1: someone now as a people pleaser because there was conflict
Speaker 1: in their home and they were maybe the eldest sibling
Speaker 1: and they tried to keep the peace.
Speaker 2: When you say, like rewire your brain, what happens if
Speaker 2: you do have like a neuro deficiency or something like that,
Speaker 2: like in your brain, like a mental illness like depression
Speaker 2: or something ain't like that? How do you rewire that then?
Speaker 2: Like isn't that actual chemicals in your brain? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Well, I mean that's more a question for a doctor. No, No,
Speaker 1: well totally. Still we do it there, Yeah, you can
Speaker 1: do it. And like depression and anxiety, they are chemically
Speaker 1: and in your brain, you know, and so is everything.
Speaker 1: So all of these things, it's literally chemicals that you
Speaker 1: can see in your brain being imbalanced, and you can
Speaker 1: heal those things. But something's like anxiety and depression. That's
Speaker 1: why people go to you know, medical doctors, and there
Speaker 1: are ways that you can you know, take medications or
Speaker 1: work through therapy or do all these things that you
Speaker 1: really can rewire those thought processes.
Speaker 3: Yeah, everyone's capable. I can definitely relate to what you're saying.
Speaker 3: Just even hearing you saying that, I just like can
Speaker 3: picture myself in these toxic relationships with toxic cycles and
Speaker 3: being me being toxic and I'm being accountable for that,
Speaker 3: but also the other person being toxic and remembering myself
Speaker 3: getting to a point and being like, I never want
Speaker 3: to be in a relationship like this again. It's exhausting,
Speaker 3: it doesn't serve me, and it's just a waste of
Speaker 3: my time. And I feel like, literally six months later
Speaker 3: I met Michael, you know, like how crazy.
Speaker 1: But I remember even through our coaching, we worked through
Speaker 1: a lot of those things, being like, Okay, what's going on?
Speaker 1: Why am I again in a relationship that is quite
Speaker 1: you know, hostile? Yeah, you know it is those and
Speaker 1: it's good. It's so so good, you know those friends
Speaker 1: that you have with like oh the guy when it's good,
Speaker 1: it's so so good. But when it's bad, it's really
Speaker 1: really bad. Yeah, they're addicted to that feeling.
Speaker 2: That was me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I remember. It's that addiction to that feeling
Speaker 1: because it's what's familiar, or it's because it's something you're
Speaker 1: trying to feel, or a multitude of different reasons that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: being able to work through it is.
Speaker 3: I remember saying to you, like, we've only fought once
Speaker 3: this week, and you were like, that's still not good,
Speaker 3: and I was like, oh, really, we've not thought.
Speaker 2: It depends on the depths of the fight. Everyone everyone
Speaker 2: should agree totally.
Speaker 1: And that's something that definitely I should preface. I don't
Speaker 1: want people going out and just seeking these boring relationships,
Speaker 1: Like you shouldn't feel bored in a relationships. Feel stimulated
Speaker 1: and challenged and excited, and there should be disagreements. That's healthy,
Speaker 1: that's important. But there's a difference between feeling stimulated in
Speaker 1: a relationship and being addicted to these dramatic highs and
Speaker 1: dramatic lows totally and looking at a relationship at a
Speaker 1: step back and going, Okay, is this really nourishing me?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: What would you say then to girls that are looking
Speaker 2: for a guy and they go he's toxic. He's toxic.
Speaker 2: But it might just be that the bloke's unt available
Speaker 2: and he's not really looking to date someone, and you've
Speaker 2: put a lot of eggs in his basket and he's
Speaker 2: just turned around and said, not what I'm looking for. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So, like I said, there is a difference between
Speaker 1: toxic and unavailable men. You know, an unavailable man will
Speaker 1: come to a relationship and be like, you know, maybe
Speaker 1: I'm not looking to date, and a toxic man will
Speaker 1: do things that sort of manipulate or playing the games
Speaker 1: or you know, a multitude of different que unquote fut boy,
Speaker 1: bread crubbing you, yeah, bread crumbing a little.
Speaker 3: Bit here, yet I like.
Speaker 1: This, Yeah, whatever it may be. But you have to
Speaker 1: recognize the difference there. But then also know that you
Speaker 1: have to stand in the truth of what you want.
Speaker 1: So Mark Groves has this really great quote, which is
Speaker 1: if you don't stand in the truth of what you want,
Speaker 1: you'll inevitably get what you don't want. And a lot
Speaker 1: of girls will twist and turn their boundaries when they
Speaker 1: meet someone that they're like, oh, well, I really like him,
Speaker 1: and he said to me, oh, you know, I'm unavailable.
Speaker 1: I'm not looking for a relationship, and so the girl
Speaker 1: then twists her values, her boundaries and goes, well, maybe
Speaker 1: I'm not looking for a relationship too, Maybe I just
Speaker 1: want to have sex. Maybe I just want to, you know,
Speaker 1: play the game for a little while. Maybe I do,
Speaker 1: when in actual fact, that's not what she wants at all.
Speaker 1: She wants a deep rooted, valuable relationship. And so then
Speaker 1: she goes into this relationship with the fuck boy who's
Speaker 1: clearly stated the unavailable man, sorry not fuck boy, the
Speaker 1: unavailable man, going, you know, I don't want a full
Speaker 1: committed relationship, and then she goes in down the track
Speaker 1: somewhere he'll go, oh, I'm actually sleeping with other people,
Speaker 1: or I don't want to see you anymore, whatever it
Speaker 1: may be, and she'll go heartbroken, gutted, and he'll be like, well,
Speaker 1: I stood in the truth of what I want, and
Speaker 1: she didn't stand in the truth of what she wanted,
Speaker 1: and she inevitably got what she did not want.
Speaker 3: And the thing is is when you don't stand in
Speaker 3: your own truth, it's actually very unattractive to the other person.
Speaker 3: Like if I know I dated a guy wants and
Speaker 3: everything I said he just agreed with or like he would.
Speaker 3: I could see him changing his boundaries to just do
Speaker 3: what I wanted. And he never stood up and said like,
Speaker 3: this is what I'm looking for, this is what I want,
Speaker 3: And it's just not attractive when someone just does.
Speaker 1: What you want to do all the time. And you're
Speaker 1: also putting that message to the universe, going this is
Speaker 1: what I want. I want, you know, I want these
Speaker 1: mixed signals. I don't. I want all of these, you know,
Speaker 1: men that are unavailable. That's what I'm saying. I'm wanting.
Speaker 1: That's what my actions are going. So the universe is
Speaker 1: just going to give you more of that type of man.
Speaker 1: You're going to reaffirm those beliefs. You're going to reaffirm
Speaker 1: those He.
Speaker 2: Said to Anna as well before we came on here,
Speaker 2: because we're talking about the unavailable man and that, and
Speaker 2: I said that if my mum told me the other day,
Speaker 2: she said, if you actually listen to people, they tell
Speaker 2: you what they want. Yeah, what they want in between
Speaker 2: the lines of what they're saying, everyone's telling you what
Speaker 2: they want and like literally what they're going to do. Everything,
Speaker 2: everything telling you and you need to see those not
Speaker 2: red flags, but you need to see those alarms, those
Speaker 2: you know, those what would you call it, they're trying
Speaker 2: to tell you what they're trying to.
Speaker 1: Believe what people tell you. And also in saying that,
Speaker 1: a lot of the time people that are so shrouded
Speaker 1: with their own stuff going on, their own beliefs, their
Speaker 1: own traumas, can't see it. They can't break through, which
Speaker 1: is why it's so important. The first step is to
Speaker 1: come back to you. And I know that sounds so
Speaker 1: bloody cheesy, but it is so important that you've got
Speaker 1: to come back to you. What do you actually want?
Speaker 1: What do you value? And this is why when you're
Speaker 1: writing a list of the list of the things that
Speaker 1: you want in a partner, don't just list tall, blonde hair,
Speaker 1: whatever it may be. List how you want to feel
Speaker 1: in a relationship asolutely. Because I had a client recently
Speaker 1: be like, he filled every single thing on my list
Speaker 1: and now I don't have him. Well, what was on
Speaker 1: your list? And she listed, Okay, his occupation, how much
Speaker 1: he earned, what he looked like, what he did for fun,
Speaker 1: all of these things, but she not once mentioned how
Speaker 1: I want to feel. And then when she did write
Speaker 1: that list of okay, well, I want to feel loved nourished.
Speaker 1: I want to feel like I've got their attention. I
Speaker 1: want to feel sexy, I want to feel needed, whatever
Speaker 1: these things were. Then I made her look at that list.
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, did he make you feel that way
Speaker 1: in those few dates?
Speaker 2: No, we do, say, we do some on a first date.
Speaker 2: Don't worry if they like you, worry if you like.
Speaker 1: Them totally, totally. It's so important, but girls just disregard that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, people get sucked into sexual chemistry and that's
Speaker 3: just not enough, is it.
Speaker 1: No, sexual chemistry can be sort of this twisty windy,
Speaker 1: a little bit of a devil road. So people put
Speaker 1: so much emphasis and value onto sexual chemistry. It doesn't
Speaker 1: even have to be chemistry. Just sexual chemistry is chemistry
Speaker 1: in general. They meet someone and they go, oh my god,
Speaker 1: there was all this sexual tension. It was so hot,
Speaker 1: we're meant to be The sex was amazing, or even
Speaker 1: if they didn't have sex, you know, the making out
Speaker 1: was so good whatever it was, and then working out, yeah,
Speaker 1: amen's stuff. But this is the trap, right, This is
Speaker 1: the trap because you get trapped in that and when
Speaker 1: you are having sex, it releases oxytocin and oxytocin makes
Speaker 1: you feel like you're in love. It releases the hormone
Speaker 1: of you're in love. And so if you have sex
Speaker 1: on the first few dates or whatever it is, or
Speaker 1: or a lot at the start of a relationship, your
Speaker 1: body is giving you that feeling of being in love.
Speaker 1: You've got that sexual chemistry. We've put so much emphasis on.
Speaker 1: It's conditioned into us to be like, but how is
Speaker 1: the chemistry?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: So much so that we disregard all of the other
Speaker 1: important stuff, like how does he, you know, make you feel?
Speaker 1: What are his values? Do you really actually get along?
Speaker 1: Do you want the same things in life? Does he
Speaker 1: want to live in Australia? Do you want to live
Speaker 1: you know, wherever? Whatever it may be. And then there's
Speaker 1: all this beautiful, passionate sexual chemistry, and then that fades off,
Speaker 1: or know, the stigma of it fades off, and then
Speaker 1: you're left with, oh, fuck, you know, there's all this
Speaker 1: other stuff that's left unsaid.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true, but fuck I love good sexual chemistry.
Speaker 3: I have to say, beats some good even just even
Speaker 3: hearing you say it.
Speaker 2: I was like to get back to some slack and
Speaker 2: people have sexual chemistry.
Speaker 3: I was and I was like, yeah, Matt was saying
Speaker 3: to you he had some great sex, and I was like, yeah, man,
Speaker 3: like had some great sex.
Speaker 2: And then you're talking about that and we're both.
Speaker 1: Like, I leave it to it. I mean, it's true,
Speaker 1: but you need it, right, you need it. You need
Speaker 1: to have that sexual chemistry. Obviously you don't want to
Speaker 1: see your partner and be like, you know, but you
Speaker 1: need to. You need to have some type of attraction.
Speaker 1: You need the funny flowries. But we can't put so
Speaker 1: much value on it that it's the most important thing.
Speaker 1: You know. People will be like, oh, he doesn't do this,
Speaker 1: he doesn't like this, he doesn't do that. But the
Speaker 1: chemistry was amazing, So I'm just got to forget all that.
Speaker 2: That's where you need to sort of tickle the other
Speaker 2: boxes and then they don't have mystery.
Speaker 1: Then it's well that's important too. You know that that
Speaker 1: is important. But things like sexual chemistry can be developed,
Speaker 1: but sometimes I can't, you know, So it's just it's
Speaker 1: case ruling.
Speaker 2: Fucking what's it called, like list of stuff that you
Speaker 2: need to find.
Speaker 3: Well, that's the thing about dating, which Maddie and I
Speaker 3: were talking about the other night, is like ninety nine
Speaker 3: percent of the dates that you go on with someone,
Speaker 3: they're going to end like it's not going to work out,
Speaker 3: and it's it just takes one person, just one person,
Speaker 3: not even one percent, just one person for it.
Speaker 1: All to be just put to the side.
Speaker 3: And then you meet the dream person and you're like, finally,
Speaker 3: I'm happy, I can relax. So it's about enjoying the journey,
Speaker 3: right Yeah.
Speaker 1: And each person that you date, even if it might
Speaker 1: not seem so at the time, is teaching you a
Speaker 1: lesson and they're pulling you one step closer to that
Speaker 1: dream person. And a lot of the time clients will
Speaker 1: come and be like, oh we broke or it didn't
Speaker 1: work out, and I'm gutted, and I always feel like saying, congratulations,
Speaker 1: this has just redirected you and you're one step closer
Speaker 1: to that person, because, like I spoke about last time,
Speaker 1: there's that sort of shift and there's that space in
Speaker 1: manifestation where you do all your parts, and just before
Speaker 1: you get your manifestation, the universe will test you and
Speaker 1: they'll give you a massive curve ball, they'll give you
Speaker 1: a massive challenge and then go, okay, can you handle it?
Speaker 1: And right after that usually ninety percent of the time
Speaker 1: your manifestation will come. We talk about.
Speaker 2: Before that is there worse one?
Speaker 1: Maybe then that's telling you that there's lessons that you
Speaker 1: haven't healed. Maybe you've got the lesson and you've been like, yo, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's right, but you haven't done the work to sort
Speaker 1: of go in deeper and heal it. And so the
Speaker 1: universe will keep showing you the same lesson, the same lesson,
Speaker 1: the same lesson. It'll do the same thing, repeat and
Speaker 1: repeat and repeat until you heal it. So maybe it's
Speaker 1: a sign to work through it. But like you said before,
Speaker 1: you're like a fuck. It's grueling process. It is a
Speaker 1: grooling process. It sounds that when you're listening like okay,
Speaker 1: this and this and this, but it's when you're in
Speaker 1: those moments, moment to moment and you've done the work
Speaker 1: on yourself and you truly know who you are, what
Speaker 1: your gifts and gaps are, who you are to the core.
Speaker 1: It's so easy because you've just done this massive filtration
Speaker 1: on your life. You've done a massive filtration on all
Speaker 1: these women or men that would have come through before
Speaker 1: and you would have maybe dated for a while and
Speaker 1: seen how it gone, and then got heart broken and
Speaker 1: gone through the process again. But if you do the
Speaker 1: work on you first, and you discover what you know
Speaker 1: your little traumas are, or what your big traumas are,
Speaker 1: or you know what's holding you back, what are your beliefs,
Speaker 1: and you heal them, then it's going to be so
Speaker 1: clear because you'll meet a girl and she won't give
Speaker 1: you the feelings that you desire, she won't give you
Speaker 1: the values that you've so clearly known that is so
Speaker 1: important to you, and you'll go, oh, actually, I don't
Speaker 1: have to go through this process with you, because I know.
Speaker 2: That's what I've said to Anna, because Ana can't believe that,
Speaker 2: Like obviously I'm single now and I'm not going out
Speaker 2: there and dating and all that sort of stuff, but
Speaker 2: I've said I can't. But I've said that like literally,
Speaker 2: while I'm like at the moment i'm single, I'm still
Speaker 2: obviously hanging out with Jen we saw each other last
Speaker 2: all that sort of stuff, and I'm staying at my mom's.
Speaker 2: I just want to work on myself, Like I'm not
Speaker 2: putting any energy into anyone else, if it's like Jen
Speaker 2: or another girl or anything like that. I'm just trying
Speaker 2: to literally focus on myself and like you said, like
Speaker 2: I'm going to psychologist psychiatrists, trying to be the best
Speaker 2: version of myself.
Speaker 1: That's amazing all those Yeah, And I think that's really important.
Speaker 1: And being on your own is so important, and that's
Speaker 1: something that is especially stune.
Speaker 2: I think I lost that because it was like literally
Speaker 2: like it was like here us straight into like moving
Speaker 2: in with my mate, straight into Jen and I've just
Speaker 2: forgotten who the fuck like I was to hang out
Speaker 2: by myself.
Speaker 1: But do you know what, though, I'm not surprised, and
Speaker 1: so many people face what you're facing because we're so
Speaker 1: conditioned to believe that being alone means we're lonely, and
Speaker 1: being alone equals loneliness. And it comes back to like
Speaker 1: at the school yard, like if you were sitting on
Speaker 1: your own at lunch, that's absolute social suicide.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: It's like you can't sit on your own. If I'm
Speaker 1: on my own, it's gonna look terrible. I don't want
Speaker 1: to live on my own. I want to be on
Speaker 1: my own. And all the movies, they always end up
Speaker 1: with someone. If I'm alone, I'm lonely.
Speaker 2: Another one of my excess did say that to me once.
Speaker 2: She was like, you need to learn how to be
Speaker 2: alone and not feel lonely. She's like, you need to
Speaker 2: like and I was like, I do love my own time,
Speaker 2: but it gets to a point when I'm like, oh, like,
Speaker 2: you know, somebody could be here cuddling me, and if
Speaker 2: it's yeah, you know what I mean, I want that.
Speaker 2: And it's like, so I got it. I'm learning how
Speaker 2: to be alone now and like actually enjoy it and
Speaker 2: I'm loving haven't I said that ip saying to you,
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 3: I know that you think I'm shocked that you're not dating,
Speaker 3: but I think it's it's more just it's such a
Speaker 3: change and so much growth for you because from that's
Speaker 3: last relationship. He literally went straight out and was just like, mister,
Speaker 3: like you basically had like a sticker on your head
Speaker 3: saying I am available.
Speaker 1: You were like, you know what that is, that's filling
Speaker 1: a gap.
Speaker 2: I've always said that, that's me single. Yeah. I always
Speaker 2: said that episode, like a previous episode that did not
Speaker 2: work for me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I didn't want doesn't work for a lot
Speaker 1: of people though.
Speaker 3: But what I'm saying is is I'm actually proud of you.
Speaker 3: For going about your break up the way you have, because,
Speaker 3: as Maddie said, it is amazing to learn to be
Speaker 3: alone and to really like think into that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, thanks, thanks, No, it is, it is. It's really
Speaker 1: really important because if we just go straight out, like
Speaker 1: I said, it's like you are just looking to fill
Speaker 1: the gaps and even you know, on this journey for
Speaker 1: you now and this version of you, it's going to
Speaker 1: be so cool for you to realize. Okay, when are
Speaker 1: the moments where I think, Okay, I really do want
Speaker 1: to cuddle or I really do want someone. Is that
Speaker 1: because I do want that companion or is it because
Speaker 1: I'm trying to fill a gap or is there something
Speaker 1: that I'm I'm missing within myself? And where can I
Speaker 1: feel that for myself before I find it?
Speaker 2: Why I'm holding off buying Dashy, I just don't want
Speaker 2: to fill that void, but I have now and then you.
Speaker 1: Know, self development.
Speaker 3: If Matt got a dog, that's not really filling in
Speaker 3: a gap because it like it is, but like.
Speaker 1: I think that's healthy.
Speaker 3: That's a healthy way.
Speaker 1: Puppies are for life for sure. Yeah that's healthy, Matt.
Speaker 2: All right, maybe I'll keep looking into it. Like I said,
Speaker 2: I just yeah, I want to be right in my
Speaker 2: life before I get on. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think that's important too, no matter what
Speaker 1: it is, even if it's a new pair of jeans.
Speaker 1: You know, you want to feel like, Okay, am I
Speaker 1: doing this because this is going to add to my life?
Speaker 1: Or am I doing this to fill a void in
Speaker 1: my life?
Speaker 3: Yeah? I think just going on the journey of like
Speaker 3: dating and just appreciating every single moment and then learning
Speaker 3: a lesson and taking something out, as you said, from
Speaker 3: each situation is the best way to date because then
Speaker 3: it's like you're taking less things personal when they don't
Speaker 3: work out, because you're almost expecting them to not work out,
Speaker 3: but you're just kind of in joying and living in
Speaker 3: the moment.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's interesting you say that you're expecting them not
Speaker 1: to work out, because that again comes back to limiting beliefs, right,
Speaker 1: And if you've got the deep rooted belief that every
Speaker 1: man is going to leave me, or that all men
Speaker 1: are shit and there are no great men out there,
Speaker 1: then no matter what you do, you've got those rose
Speaker 1: colored glasses on and you are looking for those men
Speaker 1: subconsciously that are going to let you down. You're looking
Speaker 1: for the men that don't treat you well because that's
Speaker 1: what you've conditioned yourself to believe. And then again if
Speaker 1: they don't get that, your nervous system's like, who, well, well,
Speaker 1: this isn't reaffirming what you truly believe. Absolutely not so sure.
Speaker 2: I said before, I've changed the way, and I've taken
Speaker 2: responds to you that I'm not. They're not the problem
Speaker 2: more me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's changing that belief system is huge because once
Speaker 1: you change that new adopt new beliefs, which is one
Speaker 1: of the last steps, adopting those new beliefs and taking
Speaker 1: them as your own and reaffirming them, and those new
Speaker 1: beliefs will again create that filtration system and it won't
Speaker 1: feel grueling dating because you'll be so clear on what
Speaker 1: it's meant to feel like, what you want to feel like,
Speaker 1: and the universe is just going to deliver it to
Speaker 1: you the energy're putting out.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's talk about why working on yourself first is
Speaker 3: so important. Next.
Speaker 2: Okay, Maddie, So, how does your energy determine what manifestation
Speaker 2: show up into your life?
Speaker 1: Well, I mean a lot of what we've just been
Speaker 1: speaking about, right, So we're all vibrating in a frequency
Speaker 1: and like attracts like so things are the similar frequency
Speaker 1: to us, are like a magnet to us. So, like
Speaker 1: I just said, if your belief system, which is creating
Speaker 1: your energy again manifests. If your belief system is low
Speaker 1: in things like lack and all guys are shit and
Speaker 1: there's no good people out there, and even subconsciously if
Speaker 1: you're just telling yourself no, I will find someone. But
Speaker 1: subconsciously you've got all this shit going on that's going
Speaker 1: to create a low frequency and you're going to again
Speaker 1: attract people at that low frequency.
Speaker 3: Okay, Maddie, So how do our listeners manifest the right partner?
Speaker 3: So let's just say they've been dating for a while,
Speaker 3: they've had no luck. They kind of like at their
Speaker 3: wits end, you know, They've we've got all of these
Speaker 3: limiting beliefs of like I'm never going to meet someone,
Speaker 3: I'm going to be single and alone forever. How do
Speaker 3: they find that right person?
Speaker 1: I think like I've said, and I'm sorry if I
Speaker 1: sound like a broken record, but you have to come
Speaker 1: back to yourself. It's so so important. You have to
Speaker 1: spend time in solitude, you have to spend time on
Speaker 1: your own. You have to spend time really doing the
Speaker 1: inner work and going who do I want to be?
Speaker 1: How do I want to feel in love? Because that's
Speaker 1: the most important thing, And then looking, Okay, what are
Speaker 1: my traumas, what are my beliefs, and how are they
Speaker 1: affecting the way that I love? How has my upbringing
Speaker 1: affected the way that I love? Start to ask yourselves
Speaker 1: these hard questions. Yeah, because a lot of the time
Speaker 1: it's easier to just be like, there's no good guys
Speaker 1: out there, I'm never going to find someone dating shit,
Speaker 1: Maybe I'll just sleep around. Maybe I do always want
Speaker 1: to you know, fuck boy, whatever it may be. It's
Speaker 1: easier to do that instead of going, Okay, what's going
Speaker 1: on within me? Yeah, which is you know what you've
Speaker 1: been doing, and it's easier to do other things. But
Speaker 1: at one stage or another, you're gonna get sick of
Speaker 1: it and you're gonna get tired, and you're going to go,
Speaker 1: why is this not working for me? Because these patterns
Speaker 1: are occurring because, like I said, you have not healed
Speaker 1: something in your past. You have not healed your inner child,
Speaker 1: you have not healed your beliefs, you have not healed
Speaker 1: your upbringing. So these things are going to keep coming
Speaker 1: and coming and coming and coming until you heal it.
Speaker 1: So if you've got a pattern, thank the Lord because
Speaker 1: you can be like, Okay, great, there's a reason I've
Speaker 1: getting this pattern over and over again. This is a
Speaker 1: sign to go inward.
Speaker 3: Do you reckon this? Saying it'll happen when you least
Speaker 3: expect it is kind of just like a bit of
Speaker 3: a cop out statement that we say to our single friends.
Speaker 1: I think this is a really interesting one because I
Speaker 1: think it'll happen when you least expect it. For me,
Speaker 1: if you look at this in regards to releasing control,
Speaker 1: then I think it's great because so many women, especially
Speaker 1: right now, we are all in our masculine energy. This
Speaker 1: masculine energy is very much do we do do? We
Speaker 1: have to control, We have to make things happen. We're
Speaker 1: going to get the thing, and masculine energy is great,
Speaker 1: we all need it, but we need a balance. But
Speaker 1: as a society, women are so out of their feminine
Speaker 1: energy and we're all in this masculine so we need
Speaker 1: to control. So we're in this like no, this has
Speaker 1: to work out, and I need to find a guy
Speaker 1: by this time, and I haven't found a guy, so
Speaker 1: I'm going to go you know, date date, date, date data,
Speaker 1: or I'm going to look at all these people or
Speaker 1: whatever it may be, trying to get control of a situation,
Speaker 1: which is very much this masculine energy, but that controlling
Speaker 1: energy is very low frequency. Like think of if you're
Speaker 1: dating someone, Matt and you can sort of sense that
Speaker 1: she's like you know, triple messaging or you know, sort
Speaker 1: of that like controlling energy where she's trying to sort
Speaker 1: of shift and change things about you maybe.
Speaker 2: Or control me very quickly once they realize they can't,
Speaker 2: they life's a lot easier, don't fucking appen me.
Speaker 1: Realize going, well it is, It's like that, it sort
Speaker 1: of it has that desperate sort of controlling energy, which
Speaker 1: is unattractive in the first place, you know, and that
Speaker 1: low energy of needing to control always does come back
Speaker 1: to self worth. It comes back to fear, and it's
Speaker 1: low vibration. So if we relinquish the control and surrender
Speaker 1: to the universe and you work on yourself and you
Speaker 1: do all the things you need to do and then
Speaker 1: go when it happens, it will happen. And that sort
Speaker 1: of comes back to it will happen when you least
Speaker 1: expect it, because you've released that control of it needs
Speaker 1: to happen by this time and this date.
Speaker 3: So how do we get back into our feminine more?
Speaker 1: Then, there's heaps of ways you can get back into
Speaker 1: your feminine And I do a lot of masculine and
Speaker 1: feminine work in my work with my clients because it's
Speaker 1: so important for men as well to have a balance
Speaker 1: of masculine and feminine. And there are so many different
Speaker 1: ways that you can do this, and a lot of
Speaker 1: you know, the sort of easiest, superficial ones, so the
Speaker 1: things like going and having a bath and you know,
Speaker 1: getting a massage and grounding your feet on the earth
Speaker 1: and all of these different things connecting to mother Nature.
Speaker 1: But more so it's going back and doing that work
Speaker 1: as well and going, Okay, what am I trying to control?
Speaker 1: Why is this being conditioned into me? And answering those
Speaker 1: So things like journaling through it is so important, meditating
Speaker 1: on your inner child, releasing that control, Women asking for
Speaker 1: what they want, women expressing their emotion because a lot
Speaker 1: of the time, now you know, if a woman was
Speaker 1: to cry in the workplace, it's like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: she's being so dramatic, or she's hysterical. Yeah, she's hysterical,
Speaker 1: exactly right, And oh she's crazy, and all of these
Speaker 1: things for a woman just expressing her emotions. And we've
Speaker 1: all got those friends or you know, people we know
Speaker 1: that don't show any emotion because they see emotion as
Speaker 1: a sign of weakness. That is a woman suppressing her
Speaker 1: feminine energy.
Speaker 2: Sign of strength.
Speaker 1: Me too, And that's a beautiful thing to find in
Speaker 1: your feminine energy. And that's releasing that beautiful feminine withinside you,
Speaker 1: you know, and releasing that control. Feminine is very much
Speaker 1: being and masculine is very much doing, and we need both.
Speaker 1: It's yin and yang.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we need both.
Speaker 1: It's about releasing that control and being and going with
Speaker 1: the floor.
Speaker 2: So it's almost like at least when you least expect
Speaker 2: is once you found that right spot, it's going to
Speaker 2: happen sort of thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like releasing their control and knowing that it
Speaker 1: will be when it will be. You know, I think
Speaker 1: that's a better phrase to use, rather than it will
Speaker 1: happen when you least expect it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I f like that. What is the worst advice
Speaker 2: you can give someone who is actively trying to manifest
Speaker 2: the right person into their life.
Speaker 1: Rushing into it, I think is the worst thing you
Speaker 1: can do, or taking on too many people's opinions, or
Speaker 1: taking on other people's idea of what love should be,
Speaker 1: because every single person is on their own path. Every
Speaker 1: single person views love differently and wants to receive love differently. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think this is your sole path, and like you're
Speaker 1: doing right now, this work, this inner healing is so
Speaker 1: unique to you, you know, And obviously you can seek professional
Speaker 1: help that is going to guide you. But if everyone's selling, oh,
Speaker 1: you should do this, and you should do this, and
Speaker 1: you should do this, then it's going to clout your judgment.
Speaker 3: Yeah. It is a concern though, Like we see so
Speaker 3: many movies where you know, Prince Charming comes and sweeps
Speaker 3: off our savor day. Yeah, and you, as a young girl,
Speaker 3: you kind of do like expect that.
Speaker 2: I think this generation grew up on a lot of
Speaker 2: Disney films and expect expect it, but expect it to
Speaker 2: come like straightaway.
Speaker 3: Yes, but also just like not being open to people
Speaker 3: like he doesn't look like my Prince Charming. It's so no,
Speaker 3: because look, I've been on dates where I wasn't like
Speaker 3: that attracted to the person initially, but then they opened
Speaker 3: their mouth and I was like, wow, like I'm attracted
Speaker 3: to who you are, like your personality, You're funny, You're
Speaker 3: bringing so much energy to the table, like all of
Speaker 3: this type of thing, and like, what would you say
Speaker 3: to someone who's just like really not giving anyone a chance.
Speaker 1: I think that's really important too, And that again is
Speaker 1: sort of that control, right, It's that masculine of like, well,
Speaker 1: it has to be this certain way. I have to
Speaker 1: tick it off all in the boxes, and he has
Speaker 1: to tick everything off in all my boxes. Which is
Speaker 1: why again I change that list and make it more
Speaker 1: feminine by going, okay, we still got the list, but
Speaker 1: how do you want to feel? Because so many women, yes,
Speaker 1: are so set on well he has to have be
Speaker 1: in this pay bracket and he has to do this,
Speaker 1: and he has to look like this, or he has
Speaker 1: to come and sweep me off my feet. But until
Speaker 1: you truly engage with someone, and you meet someone and
Speaker 1: you notice how they make you feel, then you're never
Speaker 1: gonna know. And so many women are like, oh, there's
Speaker 1: no good guys out there. It's because they're only looking
Speaker 1: at that tiny fraction of men that maybe tick a
Speaker 1: few of their boxes just on the exterior. Of course,
Speaker 1: it's going to be hard.
Speaker 2: I know girls that like literally that, like you said,
Speaker 2: they have to be dressed in like a Hugo Boss
Speaker 2: suit and have to make X amount. Hello, they're single
Speaker 2: and they're thirty one thirty two, And I'm like to
Speaker 2: their friend, I'm like, literally, no wonder there's single. When
Speaker 2: they're like exactly, what's the word? Just literally going for
Speaker 2: that niche market of.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, men, But it's true, right, I have to
Speaker 1: be open like when I know when I was dating
Speaker 1: and I was single, and I know when you went
Speaker 1: through that journey too, I had such an open mind
Speaker 1: and I would be like this person seems interesting, like
Speaker 1: on dating apps, so like, this person seems interesting, Let's
Speaker 1: go get a coffee, Let's go for a walk, you know,
Speaker 1: straight away, and let's not spend all this time over
Speaker 1: analyzing and thinking how it has to be perfect and
Speaker 1: does he tick everything off? Go on the walk, see
Speaker 1: how it feels. Let yourself be open to what these
Speaker 1: different types of possibilities can be.
Speaker 2: Recently they were like, oh, what's your type? And I
Speaker 2: was like, well, It's funny enough. All the girls are
Speaker 2: actually dated like official with have the same like energy,
Speaker 2: the same like personality, the same looks about him. But
Speaker 2: I have dated like a vast range of different style women. Yeah,
Speaker 2: because I might look I'm open to whatever.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's so important, right, And how cool is
Speaker 3: it when you go on first date and you're kind
Speaker 3: of like, I'm not that keen initially, but then you're like,
Speaker 3: I'm like, you tell yourself, I'm gonna be open to this,
Speaker 3: and you just open yourself up. You just like ingest
Speaker 3: everything that's kind of going on, taking everything, and then
Speaker 3: you can make a decision from there. Like as you said,
Speaker 3: it's not a rush, it's kind of like more of
Speaker 3: a marathon. Yeah, just kind of like playing each kind
Speaker 3: of role and stuff.
Speaker 1: But then on the other side of that, you could
Speaker 1: meet someone that's like, they're so hot, there's all this
Speaker 1: sexual chemistry, he's so good looking, and then you go
Speaker 1: on and on and the you're like, god, he's dull
Speaker 1: as bread. You know, really it could be either way.
Speaker 3: We've spoken about this man like God, I remember I
Speaker 3: once like I thought, like even still to this day,
Speaker 3: like this beautiful man, like stunning he was at Chadwick
Speaker 3: Models with Matt and I and I just had him
Speaker 3: on the biggest pedestal and I kissed him and I
Speaker 3: was just like, nah, it's just not for me. And
Speaker 3: from the moment I kissed him, I was off him.
Speaker 3: I can visually see he's gorgeous, but it's just like
Speaker 3: not for me.
Speaker 1: It's just that's the vita frequency you're at and his frequency. Literally,
Speaker 1: that's what it comes down to. And I know that
Speaker 1: sounds like no, that's cauldron spinning, but it is. It's
Speaker 1: like your energy mix with someone else's. Like if you
Speaker 1: meet two people at a party and they're both got
Speaker 1: the same job and the same age, and they have
Speaker 1: a similar sort of look. But one person, I mean,
Speaker 1: you got to win the dating game. Thank you for
Speaker 1: the industry, little plug, but it is true. And then
Speaker 1: one person you could be like, oh my gosh, I
Speaker 1: love that person. Another person you'd be like, God, I
Speaker 1: don't know why, but she kisses me the hell off.
Speaker 1: You know those people you meet and it's like, oh God,
Speaker 1: you shit me, and you can't really decipher why. It's
Speaker 1: an energy You're in a completely different frequency to them.
Speaker 2: Totally workplace, Just like I don't get it. I just
Speaker 2: don't get it. I don't get it. I don't get
Speaker 2: just don't. We're on different frequencies. Like I can't even
Speaker 2: have small talk with her in the kitchen.
Speaker 3: I'm just like I can't everyone who listens to our
Speaker 3: podcast that you're working what.
Speaker 1: You're talking about, that there's no small.
Speaker 3: It's funny though, it's it's it's super interesting.
Speaker 1: It's dating is hard, right, it's.
Speaker 3: It's ruthless, it's difficult, it's heart wrenching. How do you
Speaker 3: not take rejection personally in the dating world, Because if
Speaker 3: someone's saying, nah, sorry, I'm not keen, then you think,
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm just talking from personal experience. I think
Speaker 3: am I not pretty enough? Am I not skinny enough?
Speaker 3: Am I not intelligent enough? Am I not blonde?
Speaker 2: Enoughtte enough? Whatever?
Speaker 3: It is like, you literally grasp it all of the
Speaker 3: things that maybe you feel could be better.
Speaker 1: If someone's giving you some form of rejection, you have
Speaker 1: to know that that person was never ever meant for you,
Speaker 1: because if they were, they wouldn't have felt that way.
Speaker 1: And you have to then thank them for the redirection
Speaker 1: and then go, this has nothing to do with you,
Speaker 1: This has nothing to do with you as a person.
Speaker 1: All it comes down to is the things that you offer.
Speaker 1: Your amazing, incredible, unique energy that's so powerful and so
Speaker 1: many people love. This person is just at a different frequency.
Speaker 1: And that's nothing to do with you, nothing to do
Speaker 1: with who you are or how you look. It just
Speaker 1: doesn't mesh with that person's vibration.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's got nothing to do with you. It's more
Speaker 2: with them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, with them, absolutely. And again that's a lesson for you,
Speaker 1: and that's a beautiful lesson from the universe. And that
Speaker 1: rejection is taking you one step closer and redirecting you
Speaker 1: to more of the person that you're meant to be with.
Speaker 1: And yeah, it's it's not a rejection, it's redirection and
Speaker 1: it's all a lesson and it's nothing to do with you.
Speaker 1: It's just your energies don't match.
Speaker 3: Would you say that love is probably the hardest thing
Speaker 3: to manifest.
Speaker 1: I think love would be the hardest to manifest if
Speaker 1: you aren't intentional about how to go about it, because
Speaker 1: I think love is so abundant, and love is everywhere.
Speaker 1: It's the most abundant thing that you could ever manifest.
Speaker 1: It's everywhere. Love is everywhere, and everyone wants to feel
Speaker 1: in love. Everyone wants love. Everyone does. No one's at
Speaker 1: home going. I hate love. I don't want to ever.
Speaker 2: Feel love, no one, no I do. I just don't.
Speaker 2: I want to just to love myself again.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's self love. There's family love. I know I
Speaker 1: love it. There's family love, there's romantic love, there's sexual love. Like,
Speaker 1: there's so many different variations of love. And when you
Speaker 1: tap into your own unique variation of love and what
Speaker 1: you need and this particular version of you, then it's
Speaker 1: not hard to manifest if you're clear on what that
Speaker 1: is and how you want to feel. It's hard when
Speaker 1: you're trying to manifest a love that's so far from
Speaker 1: you because it's what you've been conditioned to feel, or
Speaker 1: it's what your trauma tells you you need, or it's
Speaker 1: what you know, you believe, you think you should have. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but when you're true about who you are and what
Speaker 1: you want to manifest in, it's the easiest thing in
Speaker 1: the world.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you've spoken a lot about limiting beliefs, and that's
Speaker 3: the reason why we struggle to manifest what we want
Speaker 3: and bring things into our life. What would you say
Speaker 3: is the most common limiting belief that people have.
Speaker 1: I'm not good enough, I'm not good hands down, especially
Speaker 1: with the women I coach, so twenties, thirties, early thirties,
Speaker 1: late twenties especially, it's this feeling of I'm not good enough,
Speaker 1: I'm not deserving, I don't deserve love. I have to
Speaker 1: earn love instead of just deserving it. It's a huge one.
Speaker 1: I have to earn love. I'm not worthy of love,
Speaker 1: I'm not good enough. These are huge, huge, huge, huge,
Speaker 1: especially in today's society. And I think a lot of
Speaker 1: that is because there are all these feelings and no
Speaker 1: one's really been told how to deal with that and
Speaker 1: why they're there, These subconscious things that are so deep
Speaker 1: rooted that we just pass off to oh, that's just
Speaker 1: the way I am, instead of no, actually, so I
Speaker 1: feel that way because I had an absent present parent
Speaker 1: or this happened, and that's a beautiful part of who
Speaker 1: I am. But it all comes back. Every single belief
Speaker 1: someone has is about self worth and not being good enough.
Speaker 1: Every belief sad. It is, it's sad, but it's also
Speaker 1: beautiful when people can realize where it comes from, because
Speaker 1: it's a beautiful self journey. And it makes you truly
Speaker 1: love yourself when you can go this is why I
Speaker 1: am this way, and that's powerful.
Speaker 2: How do you suggest overcoming overcoming limiting beliefs.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's a really big one too, and there's heaps
Speaker 1: of different ways. First getting a therapist or a coach
Speaker 1: to really guide you through that journey. But there's so
Speaker 1: many different techniques to do this, and it's about, first
Speaker 1: of all, like I said, acknowledging, it is the first.
Speaker 1: You're ninety percent of the way there when you realize, Okay,
Speaker 1: the reason I've got these reoccurring patterns is because of
Speaker 1: this or I do this, or I want this in
Speaker 1: a relationship, or I'm a people pleaser. I'm a savior
Speaker 1: in a relationship, and I'm always trying to, you know,
Speaker 1: help the guy and hope that he'll you know, if
Speaker 1: he's a bad guy and I fix him, then that,
Speaker 1: you know, says heaps about my self worth and I'm
Speaker 1: proving my worthiness and I'm valuable if I can fix
Speaker 1: the damaged guy, you know, the toxic man, and I'll
Speaker 1: date him, you know, all of these different things. The
Speaker 1: savior giving me a nightmare and that's huge, saved him,
Speaker 1: I mean I've tried to say a lot of people.
Speaker 3: Doesn't and a lot of people succeeded.
Speaker 1: Because it's not your job to save someone. It's not
Speaker 1: your job to feel what they need or to change them.
Speaker 1: It's their job. And just so much on the other foot,
Speaker 1: it's not someone else's job to heal you. It's not
Speaker 1: someone else's job to fix you. You know, it's like
Speaker 1: you've changed people as well. This idea of his my
Speaker 1: better half. What does that make you the worst half?
Speaker 1: He's the missing puzzle piece? Does that mean you're incomplete?
Speaker 1: There's so many ways that we're conditioned to believe that
Speaker 1: our man or our woman is going to save us
Speaker 1: and heal us, and they're going if I'm bored, they're
Speaker 1: going to entertain me, and if I'm sad, they're going
Speaker 1: to make me happy.
Speaker 2: And something I've realized as well is and I said
Speaker 2: this on when I spoke about my break cut, was
Speaker 2: that the more and more I've grown up, I've realized
Speaker 2: that like people do not think they're in the wrong.
Speaker 2: Like no matter what, people do, not think they are
Speaker 2: in the wrong. So it's so hard to like prove
Speaker 2: to people what they've done and how they are so
Speaker 2: it's really hard to save someone.
Speaker 3: I reckon, I have a question for you. Has anyone
Speaker 3: ever tried to save you?
Speaker 2: I think they'd like to think they are.
Speaker 3: Yeah, just from a matter of perspective, I'm just interested
Speaker 3: to hear us.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't know like if they actually do think they are, Like, are.
Speaker 1: They trying to like change you?
Speaker 2: You've obviously had the partners, Like you know, one of
Speaker 2: my exes tried to change everything about me to the
Speaker 2: way I even sit for my wine that is, I'm like, sweet,
Speaker 2: that's exhausting. I'm one hundred and ten plows six, six
Speaker 2: foot six, Like I take big SIPs. Tell what, I'm
Speaker 2: a big boy, like, like I think I'm going to
Speaker 2: take big SIPs. Like she was fucking on me about
Speaker 2: the way I cheese cheese? Yeah, I should run.
Speaker 1: Then, how to cheese like a burger?
Speaker 3: I've eaten with Matt before he eats normally. Just a
Speaker 3: preface in case anyone's like thinking that it's like scoffing
Speaker 3: the wheel.
Speaker 2: Of breathe pretty much. Yeah, Like she just was like
Speaker 2: on me about like all that sort of stuff that
Speaker 2: was really early in the relationships.
Speaker 1: Well, but then then you have to think Okay, where
Speaker 1: in her life as she led to believe that she
Speaker 1: has to be the fixer? Maybe you know, growing up
Speaker 1: she had a really hostile dynamic and she was the
Speaker 1: pleaser and she feels like you have to fix people or.
Speaker 2: She should probably work on this isn't this isn't being rude,
Speaker 2: But I think that she should fix stuff about herself.
Speaker 1: First, I thought, you say, this hasn't been rude. She
Speaker 1: should probably listen to this episode of the podcast.
Speaker 2: We've spoken about this x a lot. Everyone knows this one,
Speaker 2: and she should probably work on herself a bit.
Speaker 1: And I think that, I mean everyone should write like, yeah, everyone,
Speaker 1: we all and that's why relationships are our biggest lessons,
Speaker 1: Like that's where we learn the most. Our our partners
Speaker 1: can be a mirror, you know, and they are, and
Speaker 1: that would be a mirror to her going geez, Okay,
Speaker 1: who am I really trying to fix here? And who
Speaker 1: do I need to fix here?
Speaker 3: So does that mean if Matt's attracted this specific ex
Speaker 3: that we're talking about, that she is a mirror of
Speaker 3: what Matt actually is?
Speaker 1: Isn't that how it works? Yeah, well maybe that's something
Speaker 1: to look at too.
Speaker 2: I would not say no, not.
Speaker 1: That you're like no, not that you're like her, but
Speaker 1: maybe the way that she acted is filling some type
Speaker 1: of gap for you. Maybe you needed someone that was
Speaker 1: absent in your life. I mean, I don't want to
Speaker 1: put words in it. It could be so many different things,
Speaker 1: but maybe there's someone that was absent in your life
Speaker 1: that you wanted more attention from, that you wanted to
Speaker 1: give you those things that the X.
Speaker 2: Before her, I used to say, like I was so
Speaker 2: literally this exact expression was, She's not like stimulating me.
Speaker 2: I want to go up and point to poker with
Speaker 2: a stick like some sort of something out of her.
Speaker 2: It's like it's like, you know, I just get some
Speaker 2: sort of reaction. You're so cruisy. And then she was
Speaker 2: at this end of the spectrum. And then literally my
Speaker 2: next girlfriend, this one I'm talking about, was manifested. That
Speaker 2: manifested the opposite. She was like like literally like calm down,
Speaker 2: like that was my foot on the couch. Well, but
Speaker 2: I think that was the charas.
Speaker 1: Like you know, like.
Speaker 2: Come on and on lockdown with this girl, like you know,
Speaker 2: everything I did was wrong. I turned off the light
Speaker 2: like you know, Charaes.
Speaker 3: Are you taking gulps of charading it down the imagination.
Speaker 2: But this mouth can hit a lot more in than
Speaker 2: like her. Well, look at the size of me.
Speaker 1: Man, you need to stop calling yourself a big boy.
Speaker 1: I think you need I think you need to heal
Speaker 1: your relationship with sipping as well. I think.
Speaker 2: I wonder I was sipping so much when I have
Speaker 2: to do with her. It must probably cycle.
Speaker 1: I think it's just at the end of the day.
Speaker 1: That was a huge lesson for you. Both of them were.
Speaker 1: I think the lesson with the first was Okay, maybe
Speaker 1: I do need some more stimulation in my partner, and
Speaker 1: the next one was okay, maybe I need less or
Speaker 1: whatever whatever that lesson. But they were all huge lessons
Speaker 1: for you obviously.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, Well, I see every relationship has a lesson
Speaker 2: my most recent ex as well, Like I'm taking the
Speaker 2: lesson from Jen.
Speaker 1: And friendships have lessons. Your work colleagues you get lessons from.
Speaker 1: Like every relationship in general you get lessons lessons. Romantic
Speaker 1: ones are no different.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I love that.
Speaker 3: What is the biggest mistake people make when dating? Would
Speaker 3: you say, someone who is struggling to find someone and
Speaker 3: they seem to not really be learning their lessons and
Speaker 3: continuing to make the same.
Speaker 1: Mistakes, bending boundaries. Probably. I think, like I said before,
Speaker 1: not sending in your truth. Yeah, I think if someone
Speaker 1: is you know, yeah, I think if someone is struggling
Speaker 1: again and again and again and can't get past maybe
Speaker 1: a first date or a second date, then they go, oh,
Speaker 1: maybe I need to change, and then so they go,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not in like a healing way, but
Speaker 1: in like a maybe I do just want, you know,
Speaker 1: someone that I can just sleep with, or maybe I
Speaker 1: do want that type of guy that doesn't make me
Speaker 1: feel that type of way. Or I think bending those boundaries,
Speaker 1: mending your values, changing who you are being like, oh
Speaker 1: oh listen to Screamo music so that he'll like me,
Speaker 1: or you know whatever it is. Changing and bending who
Speaker 1: you are, I think is the biggest mistake because you're
Speaker 1: just going to make it so much harder for yourself.
Speaker 1: It becomes so easy when you're really clear on what
Speaker 1: you want and how you want to feel. I love
Speaker 1: that so true.
Speaker 3: If you're listening to this, guys, stand in your truth,
Speaker 3: be you don't change for anyone.
Speaker 2: Just so as where I'm manifesting something I saw on
Speaker 2: TikTok a TikTok or an Instagram reel was not saying
Speaker 2: stuff like you know, wow, that killed me or something
Speaker 2: like that out into the universe or of something as
Speaker 2: well that I can't do this.
Speaker 3: Because I say like dead and so funny dead.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And then another one was like I can't do that.
Speaker 2: I'm too broke when you actually have money. But thing
Speaker 2: is you're saving You're not broke, Like you're just changing
Speaker 2: the dialogue of what you say and language that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: just changing the language and dialogue to put out into
Speaker 2: the universe is a different thing.
Speaker 1: Language is so important. That's why I keep saying girls
Speaker 1: that are like, there's no good guys out there, You're
Speaker 1: reaffirming these beliefs and you don't know how much power
Speaker 1: is in language. Our subconscious is always listening, and our
Speaker 1: subconscious is what we're manifesting in. So if our subconscious
Speaker 1: is constantly hearing no good guys, no good guys, all
Speaker 1: guys are shit, I'm going to be abandoned in love.
Speaker 1: I'm only going to be left alone. All my friends
Speaker 1: are going to get married before me. If that's what
Speaker 1: your subconscious is constantly hearing, that causes a deep rooted,
Speaker 1: limiting belief. That's how they're formed, that causes the belief,
Speaker 1: and then all you're going to attract in are unavailable men,
Speaker 1: toxic men, men that leave you because your body, your subconscious,
Speaker 1: only wants to reaffirm your beliefs.
Speaker 3: Something that stuck with me that you actually said on
Speaker 3: our last interview with you is when we used to
Speaker 3: do our coaching and I used to continuously say, I
Speaker 3: always get fucked boys. I'm always attracting fuck boys. I'm
Speaker 3: so sick of it, and you were like, you need
Speaker 3: to stop saying that because you are literally pulling in
Speaker 3: fuck boys.
Speaker 1: Yeah, without knowing it. People do it all the time.
Speaker 1: And like you said, Matt, people are like, i've got
Speaker 1: no money, I'm so broke. You know those friends that
Speaker 1: are always just like, I've got no money, I can't
Speaker 1: do anything. They're reaffirming more.
Speaker 2: I've been very big on the language that I use
Speaker 2: to people as well, and just like how you can
Speaker 2: tweak just the singulest word, single word, and it literally
Speaker 2: changes the outcome that you get from someone.
Speaker 1: And even saying things like I have to go to
Speaker 1: the gym, so I get to go to the gym.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: Little things like that make such a big difference. And
Speaker 1: it sounds like, oh yeah, I'm sure that would make
Speaker 1: a difference. Yeah, I get to go for a run.
Speaker 1: It sounds like, oh yeah, it would make a difference. No,
Speaker 1: what you don't realize is your subconscious is going to
Speaker 1: completely alter when you shift your language.
Speaker 2: I do daily affirmations every night.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 2: I do three And I've said this on podcasts before
Speaker 2: because I was so focused on making them each different,
Speaker 2: like every day different. No, I was like, pick something
Speaker 2: from the day that was, and it can be the
Speaker 2: same as another day, but just that I'm grateful for.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, gratitude.
Speaker 3: Love that.
Speaker 1: Gratitude's the highest vibrational frequency you can get. So whenever
Speaker 1: I get new clients in the first thing I say
Speaker 1: is every day from here on out, you're going to
Speaker 1: do gratitude. And they can be one thing a day.
Speaker 1: It can be five things a day, can be twenty
Speaker 1: things a day. It's going to change day today.
Speaker 2: Reckon before you go to better. When you wake up, wake.
Speaker 1: Up, I do wake up. It can be either because
Speaker 1: when you first wake up, your brain is still like
Speaker 1: coming out of that Theta state, and that's when you're
Speaker 1: like a sponge. So when you first wake up, any
Speaker 1: like first coming to if you like, reach for your
Speaker 1: journal instead of like scrolling and immediately start rolling.
Speaker 2: So bad. Yeah, I've heard it.
Speaker 1: Start with gratitude. You're going to take it. But the
Speaker 1: same when you go to sleep.
Speaker 2: Yeah, when you wake up, you want to you're on
Speaker 2: a search for dough for me. So your brain is
Speaker 2: like lacking do for me, so you're on a search
Speaker 2: for it. So they say don't go and scroll Instagram,
Speaker 2: especially someone like me, because the rest of the day
Speaker 2: you're searching for that dopamine. So you keep going back
Speaker 2: at the head to the heat, trolling your phone or
Speaker 2: that's why they reckon coffee ninety minutes after you wake up. Yes,
Speaker 2: then you're looking for that dochmain hit of coffee.
Speaker 1: Totally, totally Yeah, And gratitude works the same way. You know.
Speaker 1: It's like if you in the morning, the first thing
Speaker 1: you do is gratitude, you're starting your day off on
Speaker 1: such like a beautiful high, and then that's the.
Speaker 2: Benchmark you're looking for as well, so you're grateful the
Speaker 2: whole day and then that's changing your whole frequency.
Speaker 3: Literally, Michael and I like this sounds so cheesy, but
Speaker 3: we like reaffirm our own love, like every morning, like
Speaker 3: we wait up and we hug and we'll be like,
Speaker 3: I love you so much, and then we both will
Speaker 3: like verbally say three things we're grateful for, not each other,
Speaker 3: but like other things. And I just feel like it's
Speaker 3: such a positive way to start my day. And I
Speaker 3: feel like when shit gets hard or I get really
Speaker 3: anxious or stressed, the first thing I do is forget
Speaker 3: to do those things, and I just feel.
Speaker 2: So much worse.
Speaker 3: And then when I start to really implement things because
Speaker 3: I'm conscious that I need to like re like put
Speaker 3: them back in to my daily routine, I notice a
Speaker 3: huge difference.
Speaker 1: It's just like meditation too. Starting your day with meditation
Speaker 1: is starting your day in this stay myself.
Speaker 2: I used to do that. It's just gotten too cold
Speaker 2: in the morning, so I set the alarm early, and
Speaker 2: I was doing it for like two weeks, and I
Speaker 2: wasn't just stay in bed.
Speaker 1: You can just stay in bed and do it. That's
Speaker 1: better than not doing it.
Speaker 2: I like to go out and go for a walk
Speaker 2: or something first and then come back so my mind's
Speaker 2: getting clear. But I might if setting my alarm early
Speaker 2: and I was, I'm not getting out of bed, but
Speaker 2: I get it's an hour half sleep, so I just
Speaker 2: like set through and didn't.
Speaker 1: Have you noticed the difference from when you've stopped doing.
Speaker 2: It, Yeah a little bit. Yeah, but I do it
Speaker 2: in the evening. Yeah, oh good. Yeah, but it's not
Speaker 2: the same. I liked it in the morning.
Speaker 1: I like it in the morning.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Maddie, thank you so much for coming in. We
Speaker 3: really hope that this has helped some people who are
Speaker 3: struggling in their dating life at the moment. We know
Speaker 3: it's challenging. We ask here for you. We're going to
Speaker 3: try and bring you more of these episodes if you
Speaker 3: want to reach out to Maddie.
Speaker 1: Her handle is best with Maddie or Madeline Summer's coaching online.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for me.
Speaker 1: We really appreciate you so much for having me by