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Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables. I wanted to have the exercise

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Speaker 1: of writing a letter to your older self, so future yourself. Yeah, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm writing a letter to OUDI two three years ago.

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Speaker 1: Also your younger self. Yeah, yeah, my younger self, my

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Speaker 1: past uf.

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Speaker 2: You said your older self. I didn't do I'm pretty

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Speaker 2: sure I said my past up.

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Speaker 1: I thought my older self.

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Speaker 2: I feel like the first time you said you said,

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Speaker 2: like writing a letter to my older self, I feel

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Speaker 2: like I said past.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I'm pretty keen for the edit.

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Speaker 1: Lucky I edited Relatable.

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Speaker 2: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka Daddy,

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Speaker 2: and my partner in crime, Oddie Clark aka Mummy. And

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Speaker 2: Audi is Mummy because he's the one you go to

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Speaker 2: when you want to talk about feelings.

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Speaker 1: And Jake is Daddy because he always drives and he's

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Speaker 1: driver a good driver compliment. I feel like all dad's

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Speaker 1: are good drivers. Valid can reverse a trailer. I can

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Speaker 1: can do anything. Yeah, my dad taught me how to reverse.

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Speaker 2: Same. And you guys are the baddies because it's just

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Speaker 2: who you are. Yeah, because you're bad, A couple of

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Speaker 2: bad bitches. Bad to the boom, big announcement. Big, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: huge announcement. We're back in our own studio. Huge. It

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Speaker 2: feels good to be back. I got to say it

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Speaker 2: feels great. Bali was great. But enough about Bali. We

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Speaker 2: haven't seen each other for a while because you were

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Speaker 2: in Bali. Sorry to mention it again. You were. You

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Speaker 2: were there for about a week longer than me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we didn't hang out together yesterday, did we know?

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Speaker 2: We went together all day yesterday.

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Speaker 1: We refuse to talk to each other and save it

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Speaker 1: for the podcast. Yeah, that's what we do. That's how

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Speaker 1: much we love you guys.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. But how was your last week? How was

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Speaker 2: your last week? Was good?

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Speaker 2: Yeah. It really is being in control of everything, all

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Speaker 2: the tech, all the gears, ours we know. Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 2: with Beth. I'm telling you guys, it's sleeping with me. No.

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Speaker 2: I was sleeping on my own in your spare room.

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Speaker 2: When I didn't piss and I woke up, I fall asleep.

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Speaker 2: First time I woke up from my alarm. I set

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Speaker 1: I have a great scientific experiment we can do. Okay,

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Speaker 1: how can you test your cortisol? Can you do it

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Speaker 1: Not gonna waste any time today, are we, Jake?

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Speaker 1: With what is your favorite segment?

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Speaker 1: So let's start with the IG question of the week.

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Speaker 1: is what are your non negotiables when dating?

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Speaker 1: These are good and I kind of picked some which

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Speaker 2: All the boxes. I've never had one.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but it also whears your line of non negotiable,

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Speaker 2: because I know some of these you do not fucking work.

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Speaker 1: let me kick things off. What are your non negotiables

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Speaker 1: when dating? If I've asked three questions and they haven't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I feel like it's gotta be reciprocated.

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Speaker 1: Bro, let me ask the questions and you just talk

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Speaker 2: Okay, what questions? Like some classic questions? Yeah, I'll be like, oh,

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Speaker 2: a podcast? A podcast?

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Speaker 1: What's it about?

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Speaker 2: It's about me and my friend? We kind of go on.

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Speaker 2: We tried like to give the men's perspective on things

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Speaker 1: Where can I find it?

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Speaker 2: Spotify, YouTube, a, podcasts, just wherever you get your podcasts.

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Speaker 1: Do you have any extra episodes Anywhay?

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Speaker 2: There's a single Patreon where we have an extra episode

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Speaker 2: I dabble. I have wings? You have wings? Not me?

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Speaker 1: fairies some It's harder for me to keep asking questions.

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Speaker 2: It's actually, what's I'm saying is if I've asked three questions,

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Speaker 2: Fucking know, all right, girls, what are your non negotiables

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Speaker 2: when dating? He washes his hands after he goes to

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Speaker 1: No matter what you welcome. Yeah, you're welcome. Yeah, that

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Speaker 4: All right, that's clean, by the way, because I've showered.

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Speaker 2: And then when I leave, same thing, use my shirt,

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Speaker 2: what op of a dog?

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Speaker 1: I want a sausage?

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Speaker 1: Because I agree with your mindset with like recycling, like

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Speaker 2: Research of like what's the actual best breed for me?

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Speaker 2: You know what? Fair? That's probably ethical? A bit off looks,

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Speaker 2: off looks. Fact. Sausage dogs are cute. Yeah, they are

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Speaker 1: You know that they got the personality got like crazy

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I've heard that one.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, when you take your shirt off, all right.

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Speaker 2: Girls, what are your non negotiables when dating? He must

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Speaker 1: Like twice a year.

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Speaker 2: Never.

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Speaker 1: When I was a gardener, I used to do it

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Speaker 2: You're lucky if I if I washed my thights, yeah,

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Speaker 1: You're a credit card slot asshole guy.

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Speaker 1: It's like a fountain.

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Speaker 2: I got a clean crack. But I don't understand what

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. I go swimming.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I got dirt down there. Obviously I'm going to

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Speaker 1: Exactly.

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Speaker 2: But what's the point.

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Speaker 1: Another one, they're not valid.

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Speaker 2: I don't think that's valid at all.

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Speaker 1: Girls. What are your non negotiables when dating transparency regarding

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Speaker 1: sexual health? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Good one, that's a great one. That's a great one.

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Speaker 2: I think I've said this before. Before death, I had

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Speaker 2: it's also supposed to Like I don't remember actually even

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Speaker 2: after every new sexual partner, you get tested. Yeah, you

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Speaker 2: to go have sex with one person, have caught something

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Speaker 1: To be fair to tell both, it's a good non negotiable,

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Speaker 1: but also it's kind of like should be granted, like

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Speaker 2: This should be a it should be a default. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I guess that's why it's non negotiable. True, somebody, it

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Speaker 2: should be a default, bare minimum type. Shit, girls, what

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Speaker 2: are your non negotiables when dating? I can't be friends

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Speaker 1: Oh I had one like that doesn't talk to the

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Speaker 1: x vallida valid ballid red flag.

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Speaker 2: If they do, we're still friends? No? Why are you friends? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: That's all I want to know is why? Reason? Tell me,

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Speaker 2: good reason, that's why?

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Speaker 1: Because they want to fuck.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the only reason I can think of Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's the only reason I can think of.

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Speaker 1: All right, if you've seen him naked, it's not fair

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Speaker 1: call me, call me jealous.

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Speaker 4: I don't give a fuck, all right, call me in secure,

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Speaker 4: I and give a fuck.

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Speaker 2: You don't need to be friends of yourn.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's jealous jealousy.

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Speaker 2: don't have to be bash. You don't have to be

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Speaker 2: I'll just bring you along with me, bring you down.

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Speaker 2: Let's just say for some reason, I'm singing, Yeah, maybe

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Speaker 2: in my mid thirty Fuck, I've had a transplant. By

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Speaker 2: the way, hair transplants.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you're back off. I was picturing like belly people.

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Speaker 2: Belly. Yeah. We talked about if anything, we would have

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Speaker 1: Drinks non gluten belly.

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Speaker 2: And I'm single. Unfortunately Bets left me. She's taking Henry

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Speaker 2: and ship. But I'm dating.

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Speaker 1: Henry's Jake's dog, not his kids.

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Speaker 2: And I'm dating. I'm in the dating pool and I

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Speaker 2: I'm quite friendly, like I'm very I'm good friends with

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Speaker 2: my ex you know kids, I'd be like, okay, valid,

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Speaker 2: Look I'll tuck away someone.

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Speaker 1: You took the longest way to get there to say that,

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Speaker 1: all sausage, no sizzle.

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Speaker 2: I mean sorry, all sizzle, no Sausagejohnny, learn from the best.

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Speaker 1: Whatever, Okay?

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Speaker 2: Is it me? Yep?

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Speaker 1: Girls? What are your non negotiables and dating? A guy

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Speaker 1: enjoys going down on me? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I like that? Yeah, yeah, I tick that box.

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Speaker 1: Turns me on?

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Speaker 2: Oh, turns you on? I gotta compliment the other day,

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Speaker 2: I make that sound like I got it from someone.

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Speaker 1: Round I was processing how I then.

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Speaker 2: I don't actually know why. I feel like I probably

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Speaker 2: I feel like some stuff should be I'll leave that

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Speaker 1: Be yeah left upside.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: The compliment goes a long way when you're down. Yeah

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Speaker 2: Girls, what are your non negotiables when dating?

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Speaker 1: Fuck?

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Speaker 2: Don't be a fucking misogynistic pig. That sucks for you. Yeah. Me.

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Speaker 1: Hey, I'm not in that category, but I feel like

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Speaker 1: that one is the most relatable. Yeah, this is the

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Speaker 1: one you tick the most, I think. Okay, girl, what

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Speaker 1: are your non negotiables when dating little Pippy?

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Speaker 2: She wants a little peepy Yeah, hey, someone's finally admitting it.

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Speaker 2: The big ones? Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, to be fair, the perfect side just medium, yeah, small,

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Speaker 2: I feel like I knew so to be derogatory, I

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Speaker 2: until like two days ago. I have a way bigger

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Speaker 1: You see some other dicks to compare it to something.

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Speaker 2: No, No, I just feel like I always kind of

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Speaker 2: thought I had like a straight Maybe it's bending more.

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Speaker 2: I just maybe I don't look at it that much,

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Speaker 2: you know what, You should check it out. Maybe it's

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Speaker 2: trying to grow but the skin's holding it back.

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Speaker 1: Yea yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: But it's just a way bigger bend than I thought.

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Speaker 1: Good to know, Yeah, which way up?

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Speaker 2: Down? So like if I'm looking down left, like hard left.

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Speaker 1: Bro, maybe trying to get out of there and hard

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Speaker 1: it's not like a captain's hook but it's like hard,

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Speaker 1: It's like veering left.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like off a freeway.

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's one of those things when you

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Speaker 2: Like I just clocked it, you know. I was like,

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Speaker 2: what are you doing now? Girls? What are your non negotiables?

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Speaker 2: When dating makes noise during sex? Yeah, I've been heavy

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Speaker 2: on the moon like that, like you gets missed this,

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Speaker 2: you missed it? Sexy. I like to go down actually,

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Speaker 2: like I like to fucking kiss the nape of her

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Speaker 2: neck like cassion, Like is that what it's called the

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Speaker 2: nap of the neck, the napors here the back? No,

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Speaker 2: you don't.

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Speaker 1: You don't kiss the back of her neck. You don't

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Speaker 1: do that for hell.

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Speaker 2: So she's like, you're for now you think about it

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Speaker 2: and doggy about it, and doggie think about it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I didn't know you that flexible.

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Speaker 2: But no, I'm not being now.

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Speaker 1: Oh she's coming up.

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Speaker 2: I can taught up.

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Speaker 1: Oh you can taught her. Oh I need I needed

440
00:20:07,280 --> 00:20:13,480
Speaker 1: the mental diagram. She was like on the bed, face

441
00:20:13,560 --> 00:20:16,520
Speaker 1: down like flat.

442
00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:18,880
Speaker 2: I would do that too, Yeah.

443
00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:20,160
Speaker 1: Like she's waiting for a mass.

444
00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:22,119
Speaker 2: The only reason I know that this is called the

445
00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:24,760
Speaker 2: nape of your neck is because of an anime I watched.

446
00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:31,280
Speaker 2: I'll fucking get ship done, bros, My turn your time

447
00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:34,119
Speaker 2: me girls.

448
00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:37,680
Speaker 1: What's your non neghostles when dating similar sex drives?

449
00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:38,600
Speaker 3: Oh?

450
00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:40,480
Speaker 2: Really fair? Actually that would make a lot of sense.

451
00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:42,520
Speaker 1: I think that's valid. But I feel like you don't

452
00:20:42,520 --> 00:20:44,040
Speaker 1: find that out ntil you start dating for a lot

453
00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:44,280
Speaker 1: of time.

454
00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:47,240
Speaker 2: No, yeah, you need to actually yeah, be dating for

455
00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:49,320
Speaker 2: a while to find out and have like real life

456
00:20:49,720 --> 00:20:54,280
Speaker 2: in this scenario, What do you reckon? I saw a

457
00:20:54,359 --> 00:20:57,879
Speaker 2: video I think maybe it was Emma Chamberlain made. It

458
00:20:57,920 --> 00:20:59,280
Speaker 2: was it was like on her podcast, but it was

459
00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:02,120
Speaker 2: a TikTok I watched and she got asked a question

460
00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:05,200
Speaker 2: about someone said like, how do you deal with wildly

461
00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:08,480
Speaker 2: different sex drives? Oh? And she I didn't really remember

462
00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:10,200
Speaker 2: going on to answer it, but I thought it was

463
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:13,000
Speaker 2: like a kind of a good conversation starter. I don't

464
00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:16,560
Speaker 2: wildly different sex drives because sometimes I would say, sometimes

465
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,520
Speaker 2: I can be I could want it every day every

466
00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:22,040
Speaker 2: second day, and that's like a lot for me. But

467
00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:26,200
Speaker 2: then sometimes I could go a week two weeks where

468
00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:28,240
Speaker 2: it's like not something that really crosses my mind.

469
00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:31,320
Speaker 1: I think it's hard for the partner who wants it less.

470
00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:34,360
Speaker 1: It's hard for both people. Actually, the person who wants

471
00:21:34,359 --> 00:21:36,960
Speaker 1: it less, their point of view is they kind of

472
00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:39,359
Speaker 1: feel an obligation to have sex with the person, and

473
00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:41,080
Speaker 1: then they start to resent them because they're having sex

474
00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:42,560
Speaker 1: for them, not because they want it.

475
00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:43,680
Speaker 2: Yeah. So it's a.

476
00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:49,080
Speaker 1: Weird like situation where you have to communicate being like okay, no.

477
00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:51,200
Speaker 1: But also it comes down to like communication at the

478
00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:52,920
Speaker 1: end of the day because you have to get yourself

479
00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:54,080
Speaker 1: in the mood. A lot of people be like, oh,

480
00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:56,160
Speaker 1: I'm not turned on. Yeah, but it's also as much

481
00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:57,760
Speaker 1: as your part getting turned on, and it as is

482
00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:00,640
Speaker 1: your counterpart to turn you want I fuck it valid.

483
00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:04,320
Speaker 1: I think that the person that wants it more they

484
00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:07,320
Speaker 1: probably need to put I would say, a bit more

485
00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:10,480
Speaker 1: effort into making the person that wants it less just

486
00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:12,560
Speaker 1: genuinely feeling sexier.

487
00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:14,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I mean.

488
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:17,160
Speaker 1: It's it's a mindset thing for both people. Yeah, because

489
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:19,480
Speaker 1: it's not as much about the sex. It's about it's

490
00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:22,080
Speaker 1: about a mental state of being there and consciously being

491
00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:23,280
Speaker 1: ready to be in the mood.

492
00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:25,920
Speaker 2: Yeah. Also, I find I reckon a lot of people

493
00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:28,119
Speaker 2: kin'd of get worried. They'll be like in a relationship

494
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:30,360
Speaker 2: and they haven't had sex for three weeks or some shit,

495
00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 2: and they're probably thinking like, oh my god, there's something wrong,

496
00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:35,159
Speaker 2: Like what's wrong? People that gets stressed about that I

497
00:22:35,200 --> 00:22:36,760
Speaker 2: feel bad for because I'm thinking, like, so, I.

498
00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:38,520
Speaker 1: Think it's immaturity. I also think that when I was younger.

499
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:40,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I definitely just to think it as well, just.

500
00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:42,159
Speaker 1: Be like fuck, it was also like we're going through

501
00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:44,040
Speaker 1: puberty and shit, and like when you're eight a nine

502
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:45,920
Speaker 1: as a man, like you're fucking ready to go every

503
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 1: six hours?

504
00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:47,560
Speaker 2: Valid.

505
00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:49,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think the best takeaway from that as

506
00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:52,480
Speaker 1: well is just like, don't ever do it because you

507
00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:54,159
Speaker 1: feel obligated. Do it because you want it.

508
00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:58,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good bys. Girls, what are your non

509
00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 2: negotiables when dating? I must want to rip his shirt off?

510
00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 1: Oh yes, that is a non negotiable Tweetah, imagine like

511
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:15,160
Speaker 1: a girl like whipped your shirt up when you're getting

512
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:16,240
Speaker 1: down like.

513
00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:21,520
Speaker 2: All the Yeah you know what if I was I'm

514
00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:24,080
Speaker 2: gonna say, if I was wearing a button and we

515
00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:25,800
Speaker 2: were getting crazy and she just goes, I need to

516
00:23:25,800 --> 00:23:27,639
Speaker 2: get in there, she's like ravaging me and she just

517
00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 2: goesroos my button up to be like my buttons. I'd

518
00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:32,960
Speaker 2: run around and pick them up with my pants off

519
00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:36,280
Speaker 2: and share I need them. What the hell?

520
00:23:37,480 --> 00:23:38,400
Speaker 1: That's one hundred dollar things?

521
00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:40,880
Speaker 2: What is going on?

522
00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:49,639
Speaker 1: Not that movie? Girls? What are your non negotiables when dating?

523
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 1: They say, paper scissors rock? What crazy?

524
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,040
Speaker 2: Paper scissors rock? Let's se if we did the same way? Wait?

525
00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 2: Wait wait are you actually insane? Ready? Wait? Wait wait

526
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,359
Speaker 2: wait wait wait wait please? Okay, no, let's play it

527
00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:05,359
Speaker 2: and say it that way and see how weird it feels. Ready,

528
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:13,440
Speaker 2: paper rock, it's you proper paper rock? Yeah? What? What

529
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 2: the fuck?

530
00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:16,040
Speaker 1: My brain couldn't even comprehend that? Do you know what

531
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:17,880
Speaker 1: they do in Canada where I grew up? At least

532
00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:20,959
Speaker 1: I'll be like, hey, Bud, you know it was rock papers,

533
00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 1: all of them papers rock. I reckon rock rock papers

534
00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 1: is better than paperses of rock. Paper, but it's his

535
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 1: paper rock rock runs off the tongue peper rock quick

536
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:41,639
Speaker 1: ends a good game, all right?

537
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:49,600
Speaker 2: What are your non negotiables when dating? Tomato sauce in

538
00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 2: the cupboard.

539
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 1: Now, I'm a fridge guy. I'm a fridge guy as well,

540
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:54,320
Speaker 1: you want that ship cool.

541
00:24:54,680 --> 00:25:00,840
Speaker 2: I genuinely have a hatred for people that put their

542
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:05,679
Speaker 2: tomato sauce in the cupboard. Yeah. Also, there was a

543
00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 2: thing that came out Heinz so Heines has catch up,

544
00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:12,919
Speaker 2: but Master foods tomato sauce. They're like, guys, it needs

545
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 2: to go in the fridge. Yeah, it goes off, it'll

546
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,119
Speaker 2: go off, it goes moldy, it needs to go in

547
00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 2: the fridge. Yeah, sus I grew up using catch up

548
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:25,359
Speaker 2: to one time I was I remember as well. I

549
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:28,760
Speaker 2: was really young and my food was like piping hot,

550
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 2: and my grandpa said, he used this, it'll cool it down.

551
00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:35,840
Speaker 2: And it was catch up up until I was like fifteen.

552
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 2: I thought catchup and tomato sauce was used to cool

553
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:38,520
Speaker 2: your food down.

554
00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:41,680
Speaker 1: Really, I'm hundred percent ghastly. You oh to be fair,

555
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:42,200
Speaker 1: to be wrong.

556
00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:44,359
Speaker 2: He was like it was cold, and he was like

557
00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 2: he dipped in this, it'll cool it down. And I

558
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 2: also just tasted delicious, and I was like, give me more.

559
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 1: Moto sauce is a game changer.

560
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:52,639
Speaker 2: I used to get in trouble for how much tomato

561
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 2: sauce I put on my plate. Really, yeah, because they'd

562
00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:56,480
Speaker 2: be like you waste it because I wouldn't use it

563
00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:57,399
Speaker 2: all you love your baby Q.

564
00:25:57,720 --> 00:25:59,359
Speaker 1: No, it's better to have too much and not enough.

565
00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:01,600
Speaker 2: I used to what are you a barbecue or tomato sauce?

566
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:04,679
Speaker 1: Tomato bit? Catchup or catch up better than to catch up?

567
00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:08,480
Speaker 2: Way better? Yeah, I like tomato sauce better sweeter. Yeah,

568
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:10,359
Speaker 2: that's why I come up. I like sour bet than sweet.

569
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:12,560
Speaker 2: But I used to I'm a bubble sauce guy. Now

570
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:14,479
Speaker 2: you've always been a bubb Also, I can't have any

571
00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:18,199
Speaker 2: of it anymore. Yeah, both made from onion. Yeah? Does

572
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:21,840
Speaker 2: I have fire fod onion and garlic top of the

573
00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:22,359
Speaker 2: fog mask?

574
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:25,240
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it sucks with me me guys, Yeah, ship

575
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:27,639
Speaker 1: sucks if like a vampire comes to you.

576
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:31,680
Speaker 2: You why you kind of garlic? I can hold onto it.

577
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:38,840
Speaker 2: I can hold on to whatever. Smart.

578
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 1: Okay, girls, what are your non negotiables when dating? Knows

579
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 1: how to apologize?

580
00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:47,040
Speaker 2: Oh?

581
00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 1: Good one, I'm sorry, here's some flowers. Not good now

582
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 1: the proper apology.

583
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:56,400
Speaker 2: I'm done.

584
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:59,240
Speaker 1: I have last one that we both tick?

585
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 2: Girls?

586
00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 1: What do you no negostables when dating? Two showers a day?

587
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I am morning and night. I'm two or three

588
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,879
Speaker 2: sometimes sometimes I'll have a third. If I get a

589
00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:11,639
Speaker 2: mad sweaty at the gym, Yeah, come home and have

590
00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:12,159
Speaker 2: one and then have it.

591
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:13,520
Speaker 1: I always shower after the gym, no matter what.

592
00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:16,919
Speaker 2: I used to be, Like, I used to be always morning.

593
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:19,600
Speaker 2: And then if I went throughout the day, like if

594
00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:22,240
Speaker 2: I stay home all day and don't do much, I

595
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 2: could go to bed without having one. But then Beth

596
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:25,639
Speaker 2: was like, get the fuck in the shower.

597
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 1: I saw a video and it was like dading men

598
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:31,480
Speaker 1: for the first time, you realize men shower at the

599
00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 1: most random hours.

600
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:34,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, no matter.

601
00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:36,440
Speaker 1: What time I wake up, I'm showering. Why, no matter

602
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 1: what time I'm going to bed, I'll shower before.

603
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:39,440
Speaker 2: I go to sleep. And I also usually I don't

604
00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:41,639
Speaker 2: even shower in the morning because I feel dirty. It

605
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:43,280
Speaker 2: wakes me up. Yeah, I do it because like it

606
00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:45,400
Speaker 2: wakes me up, and like fixing my hair and shit,

607
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 2: like you give your bed head that she fixes the

608
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:48,680
Speaker 2: bed head that looks like a cock too. I always

609
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 2: think it's so crazy that, like because Beth doesn't she

610
00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:53,640
Speaker 2: showers some mornings, but not every morning. Those girls don't,

611
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 2: and so she'll wake up and she just like does

612
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 2: her hair even though she's just slept in it, and

613
00:27:57,480 --> 00:27:59,960
Speaker 2: I'm like, how are you? It's just wis me?

614
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 1: It feel seaedy to me?

615
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 2: Like now they've done it so much valid, Just like

616
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:06,920
Speaker 2: just brushing my teeth and maybe cleaning my face wouldn't

617
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 2: be enough. Nobody needs to be drenched.

618
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 1: Yeah see, we don't wash our legs, but we show

619
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 1: more than you, guys.

620
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:16,119
Speaker 2: Fucking valid. The amount of water that hits our legs

621
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:16,760
Speaker 2: cleans it.

622
00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:28,879
Speaker 1: It's hits your exactly alrighty Jake up next, I got

623
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 1: a fun little exercise I want to post to you

624
00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:32,320
Speaker 1: to do next week.

625
00:28:32,440 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 2: Easy.

626
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 1: This week is my turn. And as we mentioned, we

627
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 1: just got back from I was a month in ballet.

628
00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 2: Jake was three weeks.

629
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:41,360
Speaker 1: But it was kind of a bit of a reflection

630
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 1: and it's a good find a refresh button on our lives.

631
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 1: And with that, I wanted to have the exercise of

632
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:54,080
Speaker 1: writing a letter to your older self. So future, no yourself,

633
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 1: Yeah no, I'm writing a letter to two to three

634
00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 1: years ago.

635
00:28:57,400 --> 00:28:58,320
Speaker 2: It was your younger self.

636
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, my younger self myself.

637
00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:03,200
Speaker 2: You said your older self. I didn't do I'm pretty

638
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 2: sure I said my past ulf.

639
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:05,560
Speaker 1: I thought my older self.

640
00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 2: I feel like the first time you said you said,

641
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 2: like writing a letter to my older self, I.

642
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 1: Feel like I said past. I don't know.

643
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 2: I'm pretty keen for the edit.

644
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 1: Lucky i edit it. But this is a letter to

645
00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 1: my past self. And it's just cool to reflect and

646
00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 1: see how much you've changed, because when you're in it,

647
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 1: you kind of don't feel everything that's going on in life.

648
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 2: We've got a specific age.

649
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:32,840
Speaker 1: I'm going two years ago, so I was twenty three.

650
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:37,320
Speaker 2: Easy fucking getting old. Two years ago you were twenty three.

651
00:29:37,560 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 2: Crazy to say you're older than me, but I'm also

652
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:42,120
Speaker 2: two years ago I was also twenty three, but also

653
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:45,240
Speaker 2: you're older than me. All right, Okay, same year.

654
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 1: So dear Oddie, be proud of yourself. Last time you

655
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 1: wrote to yourself. Your life looks so much different looking

656
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 1: back now, I can't believe how much you've accomplished in career, mindset,

657
00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 1: and relationship. You've worked hard, but remember to take a

658
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 1: second to breathe, relax, and take it all in. Life

659
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:05,560
Speaker 1: feels like it's moving at a million miles a minute,

660
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 1: and two years ago feels like a blink of an eye.

661
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 1: You've always been a dreamer and a stubborn dreamer at that.

662
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 1: It's one of your best attributes. Stick to what you believe,

663
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:16,360
Speaker 1: stay tue to your path, but keep in the back

664
00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:18,880
Speaker 1: of your mind that along your path, beautiful people will

665
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 1: start to join the journey. Be conscious of their goals

666
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 1: and your own, and figure out a way to support

667
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:27,080
Speaker 1: them and yourself. I know the future is scary and unknown,

668
00:30:27,440 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 1: but that's what makes it exciting.

669
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:29,360
Speaker 2: Right.

670
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:32,440
Speaker 1: Your life is yours to live. You are in complete control,

671
00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 1: and when you do feel stuck or overwhelmed, you know

672
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 1: there are people around you you can talk to. You

673
00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 1: don't have to deal with everything alone. You'll get better

674
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 1: at this, don't worry. I want to say your goals

675
00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:43,720
Speaker 1: haven't changed too much. You still want to have the

676
00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 1: best pod in Australia. But I want to say you

677
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,040
Speaker 1: kind of a feeling like you need to plan your

678
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 1: future more. You're looking forward to having a family and

679
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 1: you're going to have a dog very very soon. My

680
00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:54,760
Speaker 1: final message is to have more fun.

681
00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:55,760
Speaker 2: That's literally it.

682
00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 1: Enjoy yourself.

683
00:30:56,680 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 2: Regards older Oddie, Damn, that's pretty sick. Yeah.

684
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: I think it's a really healthy exercise for your mindset

685
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 1: and everything going on in your life because it does

686
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:10,840
Speaker 1: go so quickly and you don't really realize everything you've

687
00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 1: achieved mentally, physically, emotionally.

688
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 2: It's going to think about what you trying to think?

689
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, like what we used to be like yeah, even

690
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 1: like you could do eighteen to twenty five, and I'm

691
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 1: such a different person. It's crazy.

692
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:28,160
Speaker 2: I feel like you changed so yeah from like eight

693
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:30,760
Speaker 2: like from for your first like twenty five years of

694
00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 2: your life. I feel like every year you change a bunch,

695
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 2: but it doesn't feel like a base personality stays the same. Yeah,

696
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:40,680
Speaker 2: but you feel like I actually don't feel like I

697
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 2: have changed much. But I guarantee you, if I could

698
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:46,840
Speaker 2: go back and watch myself, yeah, on like a fucking TV,

699
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 2: I'd be like, I even think as simple as simple

700
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 2: as your demeanor has changed so much, the growth of experienced,

701
00:31:56,640 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 2: like the unconscious growth. I think I've become, I want

702
00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 2: to say more, maybe relaxed, relaxed. I feel like I've

703
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:14,720
Speaker 2: become maybe easier going. Yeah, but I've always been easy going.

704
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I mean, like, I don't know, I feel

705
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 1: like nothing phases you.

706
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, like nothing phases me. I'm trying to think what

707
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 2: a good word for it is, Like, oh, I think

708
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 2: I am now less influenceable that would you know what

709
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 2: I mean by other people, By other people, Yeah, like

710
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:36,360
Speaker 2: by surroundings, Like I'm not going to fucking better saying no,

711
00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:38,640
Speaker 2: but yeah, I'm not just gonna like agree with a

712
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:40,640
Speaker 2: friend group because I want to belong in the friend

713
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:43,360
Speaker 2: group and like kind of base a personality around that.

714
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:45,560
Speaker 2: I feel like in the past, I can remember times

715
00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 2: where you I think I can feel like I was

716
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 2: maybe playing along. Oh yeah, that's relatable.

717
00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I felt like I was playing a part of

718
00:32:57,480 --> 00:32:59,640
Speaker 1: what I thought my role in the group was.

719
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:03,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel I genuinely think that is something that

720
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 2: I did and that I do. Think that's probably why

721
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 2: we have veered away. Wait, our whole friend group. So

722
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:14,720
Speaker 2: we you and myself pretty much out of contact. Yeah,

723
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 2: with their friend group, bar like one or two people.

724
00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:21,160
Speaker 2: But also I'm pretty sure our friend group is the

725
00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 2: same thing. I think there's people. So let's say there

726
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 2: was a group of ten you and I have kind

727
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 2: of veered off. We keep in contact with a few,

728
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:31,640
Speaker 2: but pretty rarely. And then there's three more that veered off.

729
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 2: They all didn't just stay together, No, it's like it's happened.

730
00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:38,720
Speaker 2: Everyone's grown separately, and the whole friend group is kind

731
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:41,240
Speaker 2: of as it's in my from what I can see

732
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:43,440
Speaker 2: on the outside of least has veered off. Yeah, it's

733
00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:44,320
Speaker 2: kind of wild to think about.

734
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 1: It's kind of like we were friends because of proximity

735
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 1: in a sense.

736
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's all we ever knew. Fuck. You know what

737
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:54,440
Speaker 2: this brings up is the fact that majority of it

738
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 2: was very surface level. Oh it was so we've spoken

739
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:00,920
Speaker 2: about this before, I think, yeah, but I actually saw

740
00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 2: it was an Abbi Chatfield video. Beth and I watched

741
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 2: it and she was reacting to a video. So the

742
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:10,280
Speaker 2: video was this guy was sitting with a couple friends

743
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:12,799
Speaker 2: and he made a video and they thought it was

744
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:17,439
Speaker 2: quite funny. And this guy said, Oh, I'm gonna ask

745
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:20,239
Speaker 2: my friends a couple questions. Now I've seen this exact video,

746
00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:22,000
Speaker 2: and it's the one where he says, what's my ex

747
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:25,719
Speaker 2: girlfriend's name? I didn't know, none of them knew. And

748
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:28,399
Speaker 2: then one of them's like, oh, is this the one that?

749
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 2: Is this the one you broke up with? And and

750
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:32,440
Speaker 2: it hurt you so bad that that you had to

751
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 2: leave your apartment, you had to leave New York or

752
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:35,359
Speaker 2: like you had to leave the city you were in

753
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:37,759
Speaker 2: you had to leave cities. That's how much it hurt him.

754
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 2: And then someone goes, wait, you I didn't know that's

755
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:43,319
Speaker 2: why you left the city. And then this guy that's

756
00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 2: asking the questions is laughing. They're all laughing and they're

757
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:48,400
Speaker 2: all like, fuck, we know nothing. And then Abby Chatfield

758
00:34:48,440 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 2: makes that this great point. She she kind of beams

759
00:34:51,040 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 2: in and she's like, she's like, fuck, I feel bad

760
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:55,759
Speaker 2: for this dude. His friends don't know anything about him.

761
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:57,320
Speaker 1: That's most male friendship groups.

762
00:34:57,320 --> 00:35:01,920
Speaker 2: That's honestly the major already of male friendship groups. But

763
00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:05,680
Speaker 2: even thinking about it, right, So she goes on to

764
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:09,640
Speaker 2: say some good points like men love to talk about

765
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 2: how say dramatic girls are right and how they always

766
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 2: are moving friends because they always have falling outs and

767
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:19,880
Speaker 2: it's way more common to have falling outs. But the

768
00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:24,000
Speaker 2: reason men don't have falling outs is because we don't

769
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:27,359
Speaker 2: know them. Like we don't know our friends.

770
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:28,120
Speaker 1: There's nothing to fall out about.

771
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:30,520
Speaker 2: It that we don't know them well enough to give

772
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:33,239
Speaker 2: enough of a shit to have a falling out. So

773
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:36,040
Speaker 2: if they do something wrong, we don't care about that

774
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:39,080
Speaker 2: friend enough to call them out because we want them

775
00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 2: to be better, So therefore there is no argument. You

776
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:46,480
Speaker 2: just let shit happen because you cannot be bothered because

777
00:35:46,480 --> 00:35:50,040
Speaker 2: you don't. Like with you and I, it is a

778
00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:53,360
Speaker 2: little different, like we would value it enough where we

779
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:56,480
Speaker 2: would if an argument needed to happen, an argument would

780
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 2: happen because it's like we care about like we have

781
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:02,439
Speaker 2: like a deep love, if that makes sense. But also

782
00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 2: if you think about it, how often maybe say off

783
00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:10,799
Speaker 2: the pod, like we don't really ask each other all

784
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 2: that often, just like oh and you know, and how

785
00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:15,320
Speaker 2: do you feel about X situation?

786
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:16,279
Speaker 1: We do sometimes like.

787
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 2: We do, we definitely do sometimes like but and it's more,

788
00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 2: it's way less, it's way more under the surface than

789
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:24,960
Speaker 2: like every other friendship I have. Yeah, but still like

790
00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 2: we still do kind of just like go around and

791
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 2: chill and like agreed and we don't like, you know,

792
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:33,279
Speaker 2: we're moving to Queensland and we talk about it and

793
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 2: we're like, you know, making sure we want to do it,

794
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:36,240
Speaker 2: and like are you keen to do it and stuff,

795
00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 2: But at the same time it's like we could. I

796
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:41,359
Speaker 2: don't know, it's funny, it's weird, you know what I mean?

797
00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 1: Do you think that's where do you know how men

798
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:47,920
Speaker 1: in relationship. Most people, most men, sory, don't put in

799
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 1: enough effort and it stems from all their relationships they've

800
00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 1: ever known, their friendships, they've never put any effort in,

801
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,960
Speaker 1: and now they're in an actual relationship and all they've

802
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:57,880
Speaker 1: ever known is not putting any effort and they not

803
00:36:57,920 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 1: giving it an excuse by any means, but like that's

804
00:36:59,719 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 1: what they're doing because that's what they're used to it

805
00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:03,399
Speaker 1: and it's both things are relationships in different sense love

806
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:05,759
Speaker 1: and platonic. And they're like, oh, I.

807
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 2: Don't know this is what this is how relationship were

808
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 2: They don't they don't know how to how to do it.

809
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:13,839
Speaker 2: And also complete other end of the spectrum. When they

810
00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 2: do get in a relationship, most of the time the

811
00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:18,000
Speaker 2: girlfriend that they have or the boyfriend that they have,

812
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:21,440
Speaker 2: like this deep relationship is the only deep relationship they

813
00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 2: now have. This is the only person that they can

814
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 2: tell everything to because they don't tell everything to their friends.

815
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:32,440
Speaker 1: The crossovers in girls friendship to a relationship compared to men, Yes.

816
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:37,400
Speaker 2: Like the reason that on average women have more of

817
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:40,080
Speaker 2: a falling out, like way more falling outs than men

818
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 2: is genuinely because it's like an actual relationship is that

819
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 2: we have the nerve to say they're dramatic and yeah,

820
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:48,440
Speaker 2: and we have the nerve to say, yeah, they're dramatic.

821
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:50,920
Speaker 2: Men are way more simple, like we're chilen. Haven't hard

822
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:52,719
Speaker 2: to fight with my friends in my whole fucking twenty

823
00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 2: five years of being friends with them, And it's like, yeah.

824
00:37:54,360 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 1: But what do you actually know about what his fucking

825
00:37:56,640 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 1: middle name?

826
00:37:57,320 --> 00:37:59,879
Speaker 2: What's his middle name? And how did he feel last

827
00:37:59,880 --> 00:38:02,839
Speaker 2: week when his mum and him had a fucking fight?

828
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:05,279
Speaker 2: All Right, you don't know because you didn't ask, because

829
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 2: you don't care exactly, like exactly. And also it's like

830
00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 2: there's this whole thing about the male loneliness and epidemic.

831
00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:17,759
Speaker 2: Apparently we're all so good with our friends, but we're

832
00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 2: all super fucking lonely.

833
00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 1: And you kind of realize that when some of these

834
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 1: male friends are going through really traumatic times, men don't

835
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 1: have the tools to talk about what they're going through. Yeah,

836
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 1: they're just there and drink. That's all they know how

837
00:38:33,120 --> 00:38:33,359
Speaker 1: to do.

838
00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:35,880
Speaker 2: The only time I have ever had an open and

839
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 2: honest conversation about feelings with friends is when we're both

840
00:38:39,280 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 2: so fucked up, we're not going to remember it. The

841
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:43,320
Speaker 2: next day. That's insane to say.

842
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,839
Speaker 1: I've done it with Like, I think I'm decent at it.

843
00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 1: I've got like two friends and three friends including you

844
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:50,200
Speaker 1: that i've done it with before I had really deep

845
00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:53,480
Speaker 1: but everyone's gone through a traumatic time and you've had

846
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:54,120
Speaker 1: to talk about it.

847
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:55,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's what.

848
00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 1: And you also need that thing in the background as

849
00:38:57,560 --> 00:38:58,960
Speaker 1: a male, Like we used to do it by gaming.

850
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 1: That's where you're even We won't.

851
00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 2: One on one facing each other, but you talk about

852
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:03,960
Speaker 2: it because that was like a safe thing that Yeah,

853
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:06,080
Speaker 2: having a game playing in the background, you felt comfortable

854
00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:07,239
Speaker 2: in your own home. So if we got a little

855
00:39:07,239 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 2: awkward and silent, it could be like you're doing something yeaheah.

856
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:11,879
Speaker 1: If it got awkward or sign, you'll be like, yeah,

857
00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:13,839
Speaker 1: fucking fucking kill this dude.

858
00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:18,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like it's fucking like my own end, right.

859
00:39:19,719 --> 00:39:22,759
Speaker 2: I know your dad's sweet, your dad's healthy. Yeah. I

860
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:25,680
Speaker 2: haven't asked you since you've told me that your dad's healthy,

861
00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:31,359
Speaker 2: Like how genuinely is he? And how do you feel

862
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 2: about it? How does your brother feel about Have you

863
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 2: spoken in depth like with your brother and mum about

864
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:36,319
Speaker 2: Like these are things I don't even know if you

865
00:39:36,360 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 2: do behind closed doors and not saying that you need

866
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:40,239
Speaker 2: to talk to them in depth about it. But it's

867
00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 2: like these are the things we just don't ask each other. Shit, no,

868
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:45,239
Speaker 2: not really. I never talk about my mum.

869
00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:47,320
Speaker 1: He's fucked.

870
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:51,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's crazy, you know. But with Beth and like

871
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 2: with Cassie, like you just have like mad in depth conversations. Yeah,

872
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:55,160
Speaker 2: it's funny.

873
00:39:55,600 --> 00:40:00,000
Speaker 1: Maybe it's somethings to do with like the gender different

874
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 1: is and how we feel comfortable around women.

875
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:05,360
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's yeah, I wouldn't. I wouldn't know

876
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 2: the answer, right, It's just as a man.

877
00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 1: You do feel more comfortable talking to a woman for

878
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:11,440
Speaker 1: some reason. Yeah, Like when I was looking at therapist,

879
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:14,320
Speaker 1: I initially wanted a women because I felt more comfortable

880
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:16,560
Speaker 1: talking to them, like about my feelings.

881
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 2: Because women I just fucking better. They just feel better.

882
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:25,040
Speaker 1: They have a better understanding of emotions and like they

883
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:26,600
Speaker 1: just I don't know, Yeah, I don't know where to

884
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:27,319
Speaker 1: put your finger on it.

885
00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:28,799
Speaker 2: It's a freaking weird thing though. It's like it was

886
00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:30,400
Speaker 2: I just thought was like a cool observation and I

887
00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:33,520
Speaker 2: was just thinking, like it's just so valid. Even with

888
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:38,120
Speaker 2: my friend justin that. I swear he's not imaginary. I

889
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 2: saw a video of him, looked at it, look a.

890
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:47,680
Speaker 1: I feel like he's camera shyed too. I couldn't pull

891
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 1: off the edit.

892
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:51,719
Speaker 2: I couldn't afford to have him in there for longer

893
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:56,800
Speaker 2: than two seconds. But I was even thinking, like, because

894
00:40:57,480 --> 00:41:00,360
Speaker 2: I play so, I play golf with him. He's a

895
00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:02,520
Speaker 2: new friend, but he's a new friend. But also golf

896
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:09,359
Speaker 2: takes how you know, and so, and I was thinking, see,

897
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:11,759
Speaker 2: I was like, what do we talk about when we're

898
00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:13,719
Speaker 2: playing gold? I was like, what do we fucking talk about?

899
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 2: Because surely it's just if we literally just talk about

900
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 2: nothing interesting, it is interesting.

901
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 1: I had another interesting observation, like you said that, I

902
00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:27,040
Speaker 1: wanted your take on and ask how you feel about it,

903
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:30,319
Speaker 1: because I know we both want kids, right. I saw

904
00:41:30,360 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 1: someone online a girl explaining or trying to justify why

905
00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 1: she didn't want kids, Not that she had to, but

906
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:37,600
Speaker 1: that's what she was doing, and that's beside the points.

907
00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 1: But it made beside the point. But it made me

908
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:42,520
Speaker 1: think about how I want kids. It kind of sparks

909
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:44,600
Speaker 1: something in my mind and I've never thought of it

910
00:41:44,680 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 1: like this before, but something that would I still want them,

911
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 1: but makes me feel like I wouldn't want them is

912
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:54,040
Speaker 1: because of how hard life is now for young people.

913
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:56,560
Speaker 2: I went through a mad long phrase of being of

914
00:41:56,600 --> 00:42:03,000
Speaker 2: saying I don't want kids purely because privileged position to

915
00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 2: say this being born in Australia. But the whole world's

916
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:08,520
Speaker 2: pretty fed up.

917
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:11,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I mean. And like our parents' generation

918
00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 1: like living I don't know, but it seemed a lot

919
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:20,839
Speaker 1: more freeing, cheaper, different, easier to get at different. Yeah, now,

920
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 1: like our parents bought houses for twenty thousand dollars, all

921
00:42:24,239 --> 00:42:25,760
Speaker 1: of us a million dollars plus.

922
00:42:26,080 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 2: I can't. I can't.

923
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:28,680
Speaker 1: I don't want to think what our kids are going

924
00:42:28,719 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 1: to be paying two three four million dollars. And like

925
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:34,280
Speaker 1: I'm getting overwhelmed right now trying to figure out my life.

926
00:42:34,440 --> 00:42:36,319
Speaker 1: I'm like, fuck, do I want to bring someone into

927
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:37,680
Speaker 1: this world to have their own problems?

928
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 2: I know.

929
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:40,200
Speaker 1: I'm like it's really overwhelming for me. And I was

930
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:41,560
Speaker 1: like fuck. I was like, I've never thought of it

931
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: like that, because it's kids are cool one one.

932
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 2: That's what I think. Like, I want to have a family,

933
00:42:45,040 --> 00:42:48,799
Speaker 2: and we also have some sort of duty within us

934
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 2: to let the race live on. Let the human beings

935
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:52,880
Speaker 2: live on.

936
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:55,680
Speaker 1: But yeah, but then, like, even like everyone these days,

937
00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:57,440
Speaker 1: you have to either buy a house with your partner

938
00:42:57,560 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 1: or a friend to be able to do it. Fuck

939
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:00,879
Speaker 1: what they're going to get for six people to buy

940
00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:01,240
Speaker 1: a house.

941
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 2: It's fuck, It's actually insane. Sometimes I think, right, like,

942
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 2: do we all so? Reproducing is obviously an instinctive thing. Yeah,

943
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:16,200
Speaker 2: but sometimes I also think, like is another reason we

944
00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:19,400
Speaker 2: do it because of the same reasons why we do

945
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 2: literally everything. We go to university because we're told to.

946
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:25,400
Speaker 2: We get jobs because we're told to, We buy a

947
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:28,799
Speaker 2: house because pretty much we're told to. People having kids

948
00:43:28,840 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 2: because we're told to. Like, is it free will or

949
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:33,359
Speaker 2: is it something that you just think you need to do.

950
00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:37,319
Speaker 1: I don't think you can beat the feeling of having

951
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:37,760
Speaker 1: a family.

952
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:40,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it also it's coming from someone without a

953
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:42,840
Speaker 2: family of a family. What do you mean, No, you

954
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:43,879
Speaker 2: haven't had kids yet.

955
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 1: I've been the kid in the family valid and I

956
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:47,960
Speaker 1: can see how like my mum and dad react to

957
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:48,440
Speaker 1: having kids.

958
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:49,880
Speaker 2: It's amazing. Yeah, but it.

959
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 1: Also made me reassessed of like the position I want

960
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:53,280
Speaker 1: to be in before I have kids.

961
00:43:53,520 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 2: Yeah.

962
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:56,239
Speaker 1: I know some people don't have that choice, yeah, and

963
00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 1: you go to play with the cards you're dealt. But

964
00:43:58,040 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 1: for me, I was like, fuck, like I want to

965
00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 1: be able to give my life, my kid a life

966
00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 1: where like he doesn't have to, even though I'm very

967
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:05,880
Speaker 1: privileged and have a good life too, like better than me.

968
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:08,360
Speaker 2: I don't want him to have problems. Why exactly? You know,

969
00:44:09,120 --> 00:44:10,160
Speaker 2: I feel like that's all you want for you.

970
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:13,799
Speaker 1: I think that's a male mindset to you always feel

971
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:16,719
Speaker 1: like you have to provide, provide, and do one better

972
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:17,239
Speaker 1: than your dad.

973
00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:19,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, what's with that comparison?

974
00:44:19,360 --> 00:44:22,960
Speaker 1: I don't know, that's a very relatable male mindset.

975
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, probably toxic in a sense, or maybe maybe not toxic.

976
00:44:26,719 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 2: It's like classic comparison with thy for joy jealousy not.

977
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:37,839
Speaker 1: Jealousy, I think, just comparison. Yeah, I don't know, living

978
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:40,239
Speaker 1: in the shadow, but pretty much. And then I also

979
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 1: caught myself out on it and saying like that's you

980
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 1: kind of just figure that stuff out. And the beauty

981
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:49,360
Speaker 1: that's in family comes from the connection you make with

982
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:52,960
Speaker 1: this little thing that you build, your family and your

983
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:53,760
Speaker 1: partner births.

984
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:56,279
Speaker 2: Do you know, I gotta say I do want them.

985
00:44:56,719 --> 00:45:02,120
Speaker 2: I I don't think that this is a bad mindset.

986
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 2: But I just want to be in a position I

987
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:05,840
Speaker 2: think I said this to you yesterday. Even I just

988
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 2: want to be in a position where when we have

989
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:16,399
Speaker 2: a child, that Beth has the option to not work

990
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:17,960
Speaker 2: if she does not want to work, if she wants

991
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:21,440
Speaker 2: to go to work on childcare. But I just wanted

992
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:23,880
Speaker 2: to be an option. I don't want her to feel

993
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:28,120
Speaker 2: as low to survive I need to go back to work, Yeah, exactly.

994
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:30,120
Speaker 2: I just want her to have the option, you know.

995
00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 2: And I want to have the option to also be

996
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 2: able to be home often.

997
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, you want to be able to give the kid

998
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:35,879
Speaker 1: a good life.

999
00:45:36,120 --> 00:45:37,919
Speaker 2: Like why have a kid if you can't be around

1000
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:38,320
Speaker 2: the fucker?

1001
00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:42,759
Speaker 1: And I think it's also a naive mindset, yeah, but

1002
00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's also a thought that a lot

1003
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 1: of young people are kind of having twenty five twenty people.

1004
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 2: There's a fucking population crisis in the world right now.

1005
00:45:51,200 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 2: We don't have enough or too many where there's more

1006
00:45:53,360 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 2: dying than being born because everyone's waiting because everyone can't.

1007
00:45:57,160 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's good or not, because like

1008
00:45:59,239 --> 00:46:02,880
Speaker 2: economies will fucking collapse and ship, so like people, we

1009
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:05,000
Speaker 2: need more children in Australia is thinking about bringing back

1010
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 2: the incentive of you get five K when you have

1011
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:08,240
Speaker 2: a kid. We don't have enough house.

1012
00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 1: I don't understand. Yeah, it's just overwhelming, the whole situation overwhelming.

1013
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:15,480
Speaker 1: Everywhere you look. You're like, there's a problem there.

1014
00:46:15,520 --> 00:46:25,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, always a problem. Okay, bad. He signed

1015
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:28,919
Speaker 2: for dilemmas. You know how this works in the link

1016
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:31,880
Speaker 2: in the description going in, going and submit. I'm going

1017
00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 2: to start doing a story every week asking for dilemmas

1018
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:38,520
Speaker 2: with specific themes. So keep an eye out for that,

1019
00:46:38,680 --> 00:46:40,840
Speaker 2: and in the story on our Instagram there will be

1020
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:44,000
Speaker 2: the link to the dilemmas. So this week, no theme,

1021
00:46:44,160 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 2: just as per us. I've got two though, Okay, I

1022
00:46:47,120 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 2: got two juicy juicy ones, and I need to choose. Okay,

1023
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 2: number one. I'm talking to four different guys at once,

1024
00:46:58,160 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 2: and I'm not serious with any of them. I just

1025
00:47:01,600 --> 00:47:04,879
Speaker 2: do it because I'm single and bored. I like one

1026
00:47:04,920 --> 00:47:07,719
Speaker 2: of the guys more, and I know he listens to

1027
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:11,480
Speaker 2: the podcast, so we will call him Noah. Okay. About

1028
00:47:11,480 --> 00:47:15,319
Speaker 2: two days ago, I got a friend request on Instagram

1029
00:47:15,719 --> 00:47:20,239
Speaker 2: and accepted it. An hour later he DMed me. The

1030
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:24,960
Speaker 2: DM wrote, Hi, I started following you because I usually

1031
00:47:25,080 --> 00:47:28,319
Speaker 2: do this to all the girls i'm talking to. I'm

1032
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 2: checking to see if you are texting multiple guys at once,

1033
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:38,880
Speaker 2: So what's my name? I've seen this trend on TikTok.

1034
00:47:39,360 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 1: This was his fucking track.

1035
00:47:41,480 --> 00:47:43,520
Speaker 2: This is great. So I'm back to the dilemma. I've

1036
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:47,359
Speaker 2: seen this trend on TikTok where guys do the same thing,

1037
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:50,440
Speaker 2: and I'm guessing that is where he got the idea from.

1038
00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:53,440
Speaker 2: I really like Noah out of the four guys that

1039
00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:57,040
Speaker 2: I'm texting, and I'm guessing it's him. But this is

1040
00:47:57,080 --> 00:48:00,160
Speaker 2: giving me the biggest dick that either one of them

1041
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:02,839
Speaker 2: would text me that, and I'm really hoping that it's

1042
00:48:02,840 --> 00:48:05,720
Speaker 2: not him. What do I do and how do I respond?

1043
00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 2: This is giving you yeah that show?

1044
00:48:10,040 --> 00:48:11,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't like that at all.

1045
00:48:12,120 --> 00:48:15,440
Speaker 2: It's dad is insane. Drop him.

1046
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:17,919
Speaker 1: You're completely within your rights to talk as many people

1047
00:48:17,920 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 1: as you want. Facts he doesn't have any say in that.

1048
00:48:20,520 --> 00:48:22,279
Speaker 1: And the fact that you like him, the fact that

1049
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:24,320
Speaker 1: even though you've liked him and he's done this, I would.

1050
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:26,520
Speaker 2: Drop him, Like if the person that sent you this

1051
00:48:26,960 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 2: really likes you and is trying to find out if

1052
00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:31,520
Speaker 2: you're talking to more than one person at once, how

1053
00:48:31,560 --> 00:48:34,960
Speaker 2: about don't be super fucking immature. Just the next time

1054
00:48:34,960 --> 00:48:37,759
Speaker 2: you're with her, ask her are you talking to multiple people?

1055
00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:39,640
Speaker 2: Because I really like you and I would actually like

1056
00:48:39,680 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 2: to be exclusive. And so if she is talking to

1057
00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:43,719
Speaker 2: multiple people, she can be honest and say, look, I am,

1058
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:45,520
Speaker 2: but I also want to be exclusive, So I'll end

1059
00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:47,440
Speaker 2: all of that and you have to be okay with that.

1060
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:49,879
Speaker 2: But also, he's got to prove himself as a man

1061
00:48:50,680 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 2: before he says that this is the pussiest thing. Yeah

1062
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:54,280
Speaker 2: I ever see.

1063
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:57,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, like, go on three or four dates, prove yourself

1064
00:48:57,400 --> 00:48:59,840
Speaker 1: as a person, prove you're a good man and you

1065
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:03,960
Speaker 1: deserve her exclusivity, and then ask her and put your

1066
00:49:03,960 --> 00:49:06,400
Speaker 1: heart on your sleeve and be willing to get rejected.

1067
00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:08,399
Speaker 2: Dude, this is fun.

1068
00:49:08,560 --> 00:49:10,440
Speaker 1: How do you She must be young this, it must

1069
00:49:10,440 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 1: be what young people do.

1070
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:13,480
Speaker 2: That's crazy, you know what? Okay, how the hell do

1071
00:49:13,520 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 2: you respond to this? Because this is a joke. Yeah, yeah,

1072
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:19,280
Speaker 2: let's play like some games. Yeah, some fun.

1073
00:49:19,520 --> 00:49:23,120
Speaker 1: So he's made this fake account and there's obviously no

1074
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:23,879
Speaker 1: followers on it.

1075
00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:27,280
Speaker 2: What cand you do that? Like puts him in his place?

1076
00:49:27,280 --> 00:49:27,480
Speaker 4: Here?

1077
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:31,600
Speaker 2: Just be like you could somehow make I'm sorry, but

1078
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:34,320
Speaker 2: I need this man to feel like a fool.

1079
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 1: So she doesn't know if it's Noah or not.

1080
00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:38,360
Speaker 2: She doesn't know if it's him or not, but she

1081
00:49:38,360 --> 00:49:40,080
Speaker 2: actually really likes no One. But if it is nowhere,

1082
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:42,239
Speaker 2: she's got the biggest dick from it, which is.

1083
00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:44,880
Speaker 1: We don't want her to pursue this man anymore. So

1084
00:49:44,920 --> 00:49:46,880
Speaker 1: how can we have some fun? How do we like,

1085
00:49:47,800 --> 00:49:50,200
Speaker 1: say like, this is the most bitch move I've ever

1086
00:49:50,239 --> 00:49:52,560
Speaker 1: seen in my life, grow some balls and talk to me.

1087
00:49:53,040 --> 00:49:55,799
Speaker 1: Maybe you should allude to the fact that you're talking

1088
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:58,440
Speaker 1: to more people and then say, even if I was

1089
00:49:58,480 --> 00:49:59,360
Speaker 1: talking to more people.

1090
00:49:59,200 --> 00:50:01,439
Speaker 2: I wouldn't tell you this something like that.

1091
00:50:01,840 --> 00:50:02,440
Speaker 1: How can you do that?

1092
00:50:02,480 --> 00:50:04,480
Speaker 2: Though? Okay, okay, okay, wait. Could you say something like

1093
00:50:05,200 --> 00:50:07,279
Speaker 2: ha ha ha, mustn't be my favorite one because they

1094
00:50:07,280 --> 00:50:10,239
Speaker 2: would never be immature enough to do this. Yeah, something

1095
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 2: like that, And you're saying like, mustn't be my favorite one?

1096
00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:16,520
Speaker 1: Like fuck, yeah, I like that. That's good.

1097
00:50:16,680 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 2: Or you could say same thing like ha ha ha,

1098
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:21,759
Speaker 2: you mustn't be my favorite one because he wouldn't be

1099
00:50:21,800 --> 00:50:22,880
Speaker 2: insecure enough to do this.

1100
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:27,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, insecure, I like that playing on that.

1101
00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:27,480
Speaker 2: That would fuck something, that would.

1102
00:50:27,280 --> 00:50:27,840
Speaker 1: Fuck him up.

1103
00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:28,719
Speaker 2: Yeah. I like that.

1104
00:50:28,840 --> 00:50:31,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, the best response I could give he wouldn't be

1105
00:50:31,760 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 1: this insecure send me a message like this, yeah yeah.

1106
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:37,080
Speaker 1: And also walk away from she? How did she has

1107
00:50:37,080 --> 00:50:38,359
Speaker 1: to find out which one it is so she can

1108
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:39,280
Speaker 1: walk away from him?

1109
00:50:39,680 --> 00:50:42,880
Speaker 2: No, because her saying that it's just going to make

1110
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:45,040
Speaker 2: him walk away. True, So it's just gonna be the

1111
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:50,840
Speaker 2: one that stops messaging her. True. True. Hopefully it's not Noah.

1112
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:51,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, hope.

1113
00:50:52,320 --> 00:50:54,160
Speaker 2: I can't believe that she thinks it's no one though,

1114
00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:56,719
Speaker 2: walk away girl. If it's Noah, yeah, any of them.

1115
00:50:56,760 --> 00:50:58,439
Speaker 1: You have to be able to find out how who

1116
00:50:58,480 --> 00:51:03,359
Speaker 1: it is somehow. But yeah, yeah, I'm trying. I'm trying

1117
00:51:03,360 --> 00:51:04,880
Speaker 1: to like get in my head. How could you like

1118
00:51:04,920 --> 00:51:05,640
Speaker 1: figure it out too?

1119
00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:11,760
Speaker 2: Like nah, yeah, you gotta figure it out somehow. Yeah.

1120
00:51:12,640 --> 00:51:15,239
Speaker 2: I mean that message that is it will hurt him

1121
00:51:15,280 --> 00:51:15,960
Speaker 2: enough to not talk to you.

1122
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:17,360
Speaker 1: So that's what men I like out there.

1123
00:51:17,640 --> 00:51:21,719
Speaker 2: Wow, that's insane. Wow. That is also the fact that

1124
00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:26,799
Speaker 2: it's like, how's the what's it called? Uh? When you

1125
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:33,280
Speaker 2: damn it? What's the word? How's the balls? The nerve? Right?

1126
00:51:33,520 --> 00:51:35,000
Speaker 2: How does this guy have the nerve to start the

1127
00:51:35,040 --> 00:51:38,200
Speaker 2: message off by saying, I do this to all the

1128
00:51:38,200 --> 00:51:41,680
Speaker 2: girls I talk to. Yeah, like, so it's like he

1129
00:51:42,239 --> 00:51:45,200
Speaker 2: needs to feel special knowing you don't talk to anyone.

1130
00:51:45,560 --> 00:51:47,960
Speaker 2: But it's like he's more than It's totally fine to

1131
00:51:48,040 --> 00:51:49,319
Speaker 2: him to be like I do this to all the

1132
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:54,400
Speaker 2: girls that I talked to, like past and president type shit. Yeah,

1133
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:55,600
Speaker 2: what a fucking hypocrite.

1134
00:51:55,880 --> 00:51:57,040
Speaker 1: Give me the beggest dick ever.

1135
00:51:57,920 --> 00:52:00,920
Speaker 2: Fuck it. Anyways, next one you're gonna hate. I hated

1136
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:04,120
Speaker 2: that one. Yeah, No, you're gonna hate this one too. Okay,

1137
00:52:05,600 --> 00:52:07,440
Speaker 2: we've got a juicy best friend dilemma.

1138
00:52:09,160 --> 00:52:10,399
Speaker 1: They slept together, didn't they?

1139
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 2: Hey, guys, love the pody. My dilemma is girl best

1140
00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:17,759
Speaker 2: friend based. My boyfriend of one year now has had

1141
00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 2: a girl best friend, which I have stated from the start.

1142
00:52:21,320 --> 00:52:24,279
Speaker 2: I don't feel comfortable with. Yes, sorry, I don't feel

1143
00:52:24,280 --> 00:52:26,800
Speaker 2: comfortable with him hanging out with her one on one, Yes,

1144
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:29,440
Speaker 2: but I don't mind if we all hang out together.

1145
00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:33,880
Speaker 2: It's my one non negotiable, which has been fine. Then

1146
00:52:34,280 --> 00:52:36,680
Speaker 2: a few months ago he went and hung out with

1147
00:52:36,719 --> 00:52:39,640
Speaker 2: her and didn't tell me until I found out, So

1148
00:52:40,040 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 2: we haven't hung out with her since anyway to the problem.

1149
00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:45,600
Speaker 2: Now he has said that I need to change my

1150
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:48,440
Speaker 2: attitude towards the situation and let him see her one

1151
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:50,160
Speaker 2: on one, or he'll leave me. What do I do?

1152
00:52:50,480 --> 00:52:58,479
Speaker 2: Leave him? The fuck are you talking about? Leave this man?

1153
00:52:58,840 --> 00:53:00,400
Speaker 1: One wordpulation?

1154
00:53:00,880 --> 00:53:02,280
Speaker 2: That's insane.

1155
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:04,719
Speaker 1: He is manipulating you. He went behind your back to

1156
00:53:04,719 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 1: see this person after your voice that you're uncomfortable with it,

1157
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:09,400
Speaker 1: and now he's put it on you saying you're the problem.

1158
00:53:09,520 --> 00:53:10,319
Speaker 2: What do you do?

1159
00:53:11,320 --> 00:53:16,600
Speaker 1: Fucking leave him? Yeah, even if he thinks it's a

1160
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:19,080
Speaker 1: toxic mindset, You've done the right thing and communicated how

1161
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:21,680
Speaker 1: you feel and he hasn't respected how you're feeling and

1162
00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:24,360
Speaker 1: gone behind your back and done that. You just say, hey, no,

1163
00:53:24,480 --> 00:53:27,000
Speaker 1: you've lost my trust. Fuck you go have sex of it.

1164
00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:29,359
Speaker 1: I'm moving on. You're ugly, check that in there?

1165
00:53:29,520 --> 00:53:29,799
Speaker 2: Why not?

1166
00:53:29,920 --> 00:53:30,680
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1167
00:53:30,719 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 2: Why not? You're ugly? Anyway, that's no reason. Why dude?

1168
00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:35,480
Speaker 2: What the fuck?

1169
00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:38,560
Speaker 1: I can't believe he said that after It's what's with

1170
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:40,960
Speaker 1: people getting caught out in the wrong and then turning

1171
00:53:40,960 --> 00:53:44,600
Speaker 1: it on the other person like they're the problem. You've

1172
00:53:44,640 --> 00:53:46,240
Speaker 1: been caught in a lie and now you're the problem.

1173
00:53:46,239 --> 00:53:50,120
Speaker 1: What it's like you made me cheat, Like what is it?

1174
00:53:50,560 --> 00:53:55,120
Speaker 2: Like, like, yeah, you drove me to so yeah, my

1175
00:53:55,280 --> 00:53:55,920
Speaker 2: question for you.

1176
00:53:56,000 --> 00:53:59,839
Speaker 1: Is like, obviously our advice is you need to leave

1177
00:53:59,880 --> 00:54:00,359
Speaker 1: this man.

1178
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:05,080
Speaker 2: He ne should dump him. Obviously, that's insane, and he's

1179
00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:07,120
Speaker 2: going to try and like if you go to break

1180
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:09,080
Speaker 2: up with him, he's obviously going to try and make

1181
00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:11,200
Speaker 2: you feel toxic and show stuff like that, like don't

1182
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:13,200
Speaker 2: be so mature, like I can have friends and shit,

1183
00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:14,759
Speaker 2: tell this guy to fuck off.

1184
00:54:14,800 --> 00:54:17,680
Speaker 1: I think what you've done is extremely healthy. Voiced how

1185
00:54:17,680 --> 00:54:21,000
Speaker 1: you feel, and you've given alternative to allow him to

1186
00:54:21,080 --> 00:54:23,799
Speaker 1: still hang out with his in quotes friend in a

1187
00:54:23,840 --> 00:54:27,800
Speaker 1: healthy manner which you're both comfortable with, and he hasn't

1188
00:54:27,800 --> 00:54:30,880
Speaker 1: respected that boundary. I think you've done everything right. So

1189
00:54:31,160 --> 00:54:33,160
Speaker 1: I feel bad for you, Sam because he's treated you

1190
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:35,160
Speaker 1: this way. Yeah, and you shouldn't be treated this way.

1191
00:54:35,200 --> 00:54:36,759
Speaker 1: So you know what to do because whenever you are

1192
00:54:36,800 --> 00:54:38,680
Speaker 1: treated badly, that's when you should leave a situation.

1193
00:54:39,520 --> 00:54:42,399
Speaker 2: Fuck good luck girl. How he's fucking young? Too young? Dude?

1194
00:54:42,400 --> 00:54:43,120
Speaker 1: Is this what they're doing?

1195
00:54:43,239 --> 00:54:44,759
Speaker 2: I want an update and I want to know how

1196
00:54:44,760 --> 00:54:46,920
Speaker 2: he handled the breakup as well. I need an update

1197
00:54:46,960 --> 00:54:48,480
Speaker 2: and I need to know how he handled the breakup.

1198
00:54:48,800 --> 00:54:51,319
Speaker 1: I want to know why he wants the friendship with

1199
00:54:51,400 --> 00:54:54,520
Speaker 1: the other girl, Like, what's his justifications?

1200
00:54:54,880 --> 00:54:59,040
Speaker 2: There aren't any, they can't be I don't know. Fuck,

1201
00:54:59,200 --> 00:55:01,920
Speaker 2: we stand on this business so often, just like the

1202
00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:05,800
Speaker 2: best friend thing. I just I just.

1203
00:55:06,280 --> 00:55:08,440
Speaker 1: It's not even like if we're right or wrong that

1204
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:10,600
Speaker 1: you kind of girls who are best friends. She's voice

1205
00:55:10,640 --> 00:55:13,000
Speaker 1: that she's uncomfortable with it exactly. It means it's wrong

1206
00:55:13,080 --> 00:55:14,160
Speaker 1: from the beginning as.

1207
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:19,840
Speaker 2: Well, you know, it's it's it's it's an interesting like

1208
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:24,000
Speaker 2: you guys obviously just weren't compatible. Unfortunately because you voiced

1209
00:55:24,000 --> 00:55:26,480
Speaker 2: it you didn't like it, and then he just wanted

1210
00:55:26,480 --> 00:55:28,480
Speaker 2: to be with you, so he said, okay, yeah, I

1211
00:55:28,480 --> 00:55:31,879
Speaker 2: won't see her. But then he's also like, so something

1212
00:55:31,920 --> 00:55:33,839
Speaker 2: for him is he needs to find someone that's okay

1213
00:55:33,840 --> 00:55:37,160
Speaker 2: with him having a girl best friend. But that's not you.

1214
00:55:37,200 --> 00:55:39,879
Speaker 2: So you guys probably shouldn't have dated in the first place. Yeah,

1215
00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:42,879
Speaker 2: let's be completely real. That's just you need to find

1216
00:55:42,880 --> 00:55:44,040
Speaker 2: someone that's okay with it.

1217
00:55:44,480 --> 00:55:46,279
Speaker 1: I'm thinking too, like, even if you took gender out

1218
00:55:46,280 --> 00:55:49,280
Speaker 1: of the equation, and if for some reason I voiced

1219
00:55:49,280 --> 00:55:52,080
Speaker 1: to my partner that I don't feel comfortable when you

1220
00:55:52,120 --> 00:55:55,440
Speaker 1: hang out with X, and she went and hanged out

1221
00:55:55,440 --> 00:55:58,319
Speaker 1: of X behind my back after I voiced that, and

1222
00:55:58,360 --> 00:56:00,759
Speaker 1: then came back and said, you need to sort yourself out.

1223
00:56:00,800 --> 00:56:02,520
Speaker 1: I'll be like, you just went behind my back to

1224
00:56:02,520 --> 00:56:04,239
Speaker 1: hang out with them. I was like, you just lied

1225
00:56:04,280 --> 00:56:05,839
Speaker 1: to me. You've ruled my trust.

1226
00:56:05,840 --> 00:56:08,319
Speaker 2: I'd be like, okay, how am I the problem?

1227
00:56:08,440 --> 00:56:10,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've just voiced you that and you respected that

1228
00:56:10,440 --> 00:56:12,759
Speaker 1: boundary we communicate and you said that was fine, and

1229
00:56:12,760 --> 00:56:14,200
Speaker 1: now you've done this without talking again.

1230
00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:15,600
Speaker 2: That's not fair on me.

1231
00:56:15,719 --> 00:56:25,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's I'm so sorry.

1232
00:56:26,120 --> 00:56:28,520
Speaker 2: Okay, it's time for comments. I've got YouTube or he's

1233
00:56:28,560 --> 00:56:30,920
Speaker 2: got Spotify. I'll go first. I've only got one. This

1234
00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:33,319
Speaker 2: is actually one that I have replied to already the

1235
00:56:33,360 --> 00:56:36,600
Speaker 2: other day. Okay, okay, that's from Sassy Mouse eighty eight.

1236
00:56:37,239 --> 00:56:39,520
Speaker 2: She said, only watching the intro and can already tell

1237
00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:42,320
Speaker 2: Jake is definitely a fart smeller and not a smart

1238
00:56:42,360 --> 00:56:45,719
Speaker 2: feller because of the shirt. I was weary and so

1239
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:47,319
Speaker 2: w I replied, and I said, yeah, I'm a fat

1240
00:56:47,360 --> 00:56:49,480
Speaker 2: smeller because as soon as the camera goes off, Bodie

1241
00:56:49,480 --> 00:56:50,840
Speaker 2: farts like there's money on the line.

1242
00:56:50,920 --> 00:56:54,279
Speaker 1: Hey, I do not.

1243
00:56:57,280 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 2: Whatever.

1244
00:56:58,560 --> 00:57:03,000
Speaker 1: You smell your own farts. I've got Charlotte Mary. The

1245
00:57:03,120 --> 00:57:06,280
Speaker 1: term slutty for an object is used all the time,

1246
00:57:06,840 --> 00:57:10,320
Speaker 1: mainly about fictional men. Think the watch on Conrad Fisher

1247
00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:13,120
Speaker 1: or think the glasses Jonathan Bailey wears in Jurassic Park

1248
00:57:13,440 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 1: slutty little watches or slutty little glasses.

1249
00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:17,360
Speaker 2: Damn, what about anything else?

1250
00:57:17,600 --> 00:57:21,480
Speaker 1: Because we asked, how can I watch looks slutty and

1251
00:57:21,800 --> 00:57:23,280
Speaker 1: or like an object be sludy and what has this

1252
00:57:23,360 --> 00:57:25,880
Speaker 1: thing slutty? And we said it'd be more naked, so

1253
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:28,160
Speaker 1: like kind of like emphasizes how sexy they are.

1254
00:57:28,440 --> 00:57:31,400
Speaker 2: Slutty little glasses. I see it. I do see I

1255
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:33,120
Speaker 2: see the I like it.

1256
00:57:33,240 --> 00:57:35,880
Speaker 1: I like how you couldn't say that about anything, would

1257
00:57:36,000 --> 00:57:36,840
Speaker 1: war No?

1258
00:57:36,960 --> 00:57:39,600
Speaker 2: Probably not no, but like kind of funny about a man. Yeah,

1259
00:57:39,760 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm not gonna lie if someone said, like,

1260
00:57:41,960 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 2: you know, I love you in that slutty little ring Jake, Yeah,

1261
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:48,640
Speaker 2: he kind of like thank you. Yeah, I'd feel like

1262
00:57:48,680 --> 00:57:51,640
Speaker 2: it's flattered. Bro, don't know why couldn't do that?

1263
00:57:51,720 --> 00:57:53,520
Speaker 1: And that's slutty little No, it's an object, you can't

1264
00:57:53,520 --> 00:57:55,760
Speaker 1: do it. I guess light, little nose piercing or something.

1265
00:57:56,040 --> 00:58:01,920
Speaker 2: Surely what other objects can be? Slutty? A bag, a

1266
00:58:01,960 --> 00:58:05,720
Speaker 2: little bag, a man with a bag. Genuinely I want one, But.

1267
00:58:05,680 --> 00:58:07,200
Speaker 1: I also don't think you could do clothing. You can't

1268
00:58:07,240 --> 00:58:08,560
Speaker 1: like say, that's slowly little show like.

1269
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:09,560
Speaker 2: I don't realize that.

1270
00:58:09,600 --> 00:58:11,320
Speaker 1: Because it's revealing. It has to be like a it's

1271
00:58:11,360 --> 00:58:13,280
Speaker 1: got to be a what an object classes?

1272
00:58:13,400 --> 00:58:16,400
Speaker 2: Maybe a hat? It's backwards hat.

1273
00:58:16,560 --> 00:58:18,240
Speaker 1: It looks good in that slightly, Maybe it needs to

1274
00:58:18,280 --> 00:58:21,160
Speaker 1: be complimented with a compliment.

1275
00:58:21,200 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 2: Slood little ear rings, yeah, oh, slunty little nails, slightly

1276
00:58:25,400 --> 00:58:26,720
Speaker 2: little nails. Yeah.

1277
00:58:26,760 --> 00:58:30,320
Speaker 1: Interesting, I would take that as a compliment. Okay, now

1278
00:58:30,360 --> 00:58:32,880
Speaker 1: we know. But now, baddies, we haven't done this in

1279
00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:35,040
Speaker 1: a month, so we are excited to talk to you.

1280
00:58:35,160 --> 00:58:37,760
Speaker 1: It is time for the baddie sign off. This is

1281
00:58:37,800 --> 00:58:39,640
Speaker 1: where we call one of you lovely baddies and if

1282
00:58:39,640 --> 00:58:41,120
Speaker 1: you want to get called by us, there is a

1283
00:58:41,160 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 1: link in the bottom of the description to sign off

1284
00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:49,600
Speaker 1: the episode. Today, we are calling Graces.

1285
00:58:51,920 --> 00:58:52,200
Speaker 5: Hello.

1286
00:58:52,800 --> 00:58:56,960
Speaker 2: Hello, is this Grace, Yes, the suit Grace. This is

1287
00:58:57,040 --> 00:58:59,240
Speaker 2: Jake and Oddie from the Relatables. How are you?

1288
00:59:00,000 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, I actually didn't think you guys were called.

1289
00:59:02,720 --> 00:59:08,840
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, how are you guys?

1290
00:59:09,040 --> 00:59:10,240
Speaker 1: We're great, We've got good.

1291
00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:12,440
Speaker 2: It's the first time in a month that we've called

1292
00:59:12,480 --> 00:59:14,160
Speaker 2: one of the baddies to sign off an episode.

1293
00:59:14,200 --> 00:59:14,800
Speaker 1: So excited.

1294
00:59:15,680 --> 00:59:17,480
Speaker 5: How was Barley? Did you guys enjoy it?

1295
00:59:17,560 --> 00:59:20,240
Speaker 2: Yes? Yeah, yes, it was very very good, great time.

1296
00:59:20,240 --> 00:59:22,520
Speaker 2: But we missed so jealous, we missed talking to all

1297
00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:23,920
Speaker 2: the baddies. We wanted to ask if you could sign

1298
00:59:23,960 --> 00:59:24,800
Speaker 2: up the episode for us.

1299
00:59:25,400 --> 00:59:27,960
Speaker 5: Oh okay, yes. I was thinking of this the other

1300
00:59:28,040 --> 00:59:32,040
Speaker 5: day and my friend called me for some advice and

1301
00:59:32,320 --> 00:59:36,360
Speaker 5: she was just not loving, like single life and everything,

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Speaker 5: and so I came back to her and I said

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Speaker 5: that you really got to love yourself and have enjoy

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Speaker 5: your own company and everything. And I think that's so

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Speaker 5: much more important. And then a relationship will come when

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Speaker 5: you want it, when you don't need it.

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Speaker 1: That's textbook relatables. Baddiescing from the mountaintop.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like we've from the mountaintops for so

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Speaker 2: long now. That is good advice. Grace, Well, thank you

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Speaker 2: very much.

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Speaker 5: All right, Well, stay bad and grew up.

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Speaker 1: Let's go, Yeah, cut her off, better off.

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Speaker 2: We love you. Stay bad,