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Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables.

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Speaker 2: As it's going good, all of a sudden he lets

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Speaker 2: out the most deadly, eye watering, silent arc no.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you have to be in the worst position possible.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like hot air rises and it went directly into

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Speaker 2: my nostrils. My nostrils, if you can just imagine the scenario,

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Speaker 2: are the only form of oxygen.

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Speaker 3: The Relatables Podcasts is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka

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Speaker 3: Daddy and.

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Speaker 1: The Patrick to my SpongeBob. Come on, man, bodie class.

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Speaker 4: And everybody listening, our baddies, and we love every single

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Speaker 4: one of you.

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Speaker 1: Yes we do.

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Speaker 3: Now, I wanted to start this episode with a question,

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Speaker 3: and within the question is I guess the answer. So,

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Speaker 3: if you're struggling to decide to bring up something that

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Speaker 3: your partner or your friend did because you can't decide

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Speaker 3: if it's bad enough or if you're overreacting, ask yourself,

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Speaker 3: would you downplay it.

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Speaker 1: When explaining it to your mum?

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Speaker 4: Hmm okay, so obviously your answer you're implying is talk

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Speaker 4: to your mum about your problems.

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Speaker 1: In a sense.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, But I and like, well, I mean I was thinking,

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Speaker 3: like whether or not you bring up, like a situation

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Speaker 3: you're not sure of whether or not you should just

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Speaker 3: like brush under the carpet or if you should bring

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Speaker 3: it up. And so if you're thinking, if you were

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Speaker 3: to explain it to your mum, if you were to

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Speaker 3: say to yourself, like, oh, if I was to tell

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Speaker 3: my mom about situation, would I downplay what they did

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Speaker 3: a little bit to like protect how my mum feels

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Speaker 3: about them your mum's opinion, Yeah, it does, especially if

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Speaker 3: it's your partner friends not as much, but yeah, true

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Speaker 3: and they're just like.

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Speaker 4: Gonna And what should you do if you downplay it?

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Speaker 4: Bring it up with the partner, the partner or the friend. Okay,

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Speaker 4: I want to add friend and they're just because I

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Speaker 4: don't know.

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Speaker 1: I think it is applies to both contexts. I'm a

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Speaker 4: I think some things you don't always have to talk

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Speaker 1: Oh no, no no, yeah, no, no no.

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Speaker 3: And that's what I mean though, like you don't have

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Speaker 4: But I think one of the hardest things, especially in

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Speaker 4: a relationship, but also friendships, is like you don't want

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Speaker 4: to voice your opinion just because of how it'll make

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Speaker 4: the other person feel, or more so, how the other

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Speaker 4: person will react when they hear what they did, if

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Speaker 4: it's unconsciously doing it.

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Speaker 3: Good point, like you don't want to so and the

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Speaker 3: And then so you don't want to bring it up because,

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Speaker 3: like you know, because it's gonna hurt, because guilt feels

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Speaker 1: Sorry, and yeah.

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Speaker 4: The hardest thing also in a relationship is like feeling

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Speaker 4: like you're too much for the other person. It's just

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Speaker 4: like human nature, and you think, am I being over dramatic?

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Speaker 4: And should I just brush this under the carpet? So

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Speaker 4: maybe it is a good technique, like if you would

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Speaker 4: downplay it to one of your parents when telling them

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Speaker 1: It's a big enough problem. It is a good little tip. Maybe.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I can't say I've ever used it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't think you're going to think that deeply,

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Speaker 4: but maybe if you unconsciously do it, like you're talking

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Speaker 4: to your mum about your problems. Yeah, and then you

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Speaker 4: say like, I don't know, I leave out the part

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Speaker 5: Yeah, And I'm always I definitely in the past have

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Speaker 3: And I think even up until I mean pretty recently,

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Speaker 3: because they're going to be so on your side kind

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Speaker 1: The very one sided. They're going to pick their blood.

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Speaker 3: Like even if you were to like cheat on a spouse,

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Speaker 3: you know, your parents aren't going to stop loving you.

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Speaker 1: They're going to be like you idiot, but they're still

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Speaker 3: So even if they're on your side for the worst

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Speaker 1: Someone's just going to be on your side.

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Speaker 4: I think the best thing for parents the older I'm

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Speaker 4: growing is they're really good for advice, but they're not

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Speaker 4: there for all your answers, like yeah, like obviously taking

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Speaker 1: But growing up, I used to think my parents.

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Speaker 4: Are always right yeah, yeah, or same yeah, and they're

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Speaker 4: right sometimes, don't get me wrong. But the older I'm getting,

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Speaker 4: the more I'm realizing that what they're saying is just

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Speaker 4: the pure reason.

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Speaker 1: Why I make a decision. Very very good point.

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Speaker 4: Especially there's been point when I'm talking about parents and like,

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Speaker 4: they mean, they have the best intentions.

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Speaker 1: But then sometimes I'm like, I know right now that

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Speaker 1: you're wrong. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Sometimes you think like, oh you are yeah, yeah, you

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Speaker 1: It's just being human.

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Speaker 4: It's the same thing we've talked We've talked about, like

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Speaker 4: you think teachers are always right in school. When the

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Speaker 4: people who are like got the most middle education ever.

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Speaker 1: It's the same with your parents.

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Speaker 4: You think they're right and they can do no wrong,

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Speaker 4: but they're just figuring it out like we are. Well, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I mean the teacher one is crazy, Like I don't

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Speaker 4: I'm not taking that away from them, but it's just

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Speaker 1: But that is normal people.

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Speaker 3: They are, Yeah, and they're they're very normal people. I

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Speaker 1: It's a hard job.

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Speaker 4: You're not taking it away from how hard the job is. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: But it's so funny because I'm trying to actually trying

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Speaker 1: It's a very good point.

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Speaker 3: You always think like a teacher's opinion while you're growing up.

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Speaker 3: Your teacher can like really what the mood they're in,

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, is like fucking what your mood is thinking

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Speaker 1: If you like that whole class facts, bro, if you'd.

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Speaker 3: Like it on a school, did you ever have a

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Speaker 3: teacher Have you got something so you're we're twenty four,

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Speaker 3: Have you got to teach out a game of why

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Speaker 3: got that ten year reunion in a few years.

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Speaker 1: Ah, So have you.

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Speaker 3: Did you ever have a teach you're like, you know

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Speaker 3: how everyone maybe has a story of like all this

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Speaker 3: one teacher did this, like change my life. It's always

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Speaker 3: stuck with me. Have you got something like that?

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't say life changing? Yeah. Teachers did like me though. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I think it was because I wasn't the smartest kid

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I could call it like I was a hard

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Speaker 4: and like I think teachers appreciated that I was trying. Yep,

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Speaker 4: more so than being like the smarty pants. Nothing life changing,

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Speaker 4: I would say, just the sooner I got treated like

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Speaker 4: changed my schooling experience, which happened in like year ten,

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Speaker 1: Oh, it didn't happen for me at all.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I left after so I didn't get your eleven

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Speaker 1: You don't have there.

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Speaker 3: They don't have this moment of like this teacher's just

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Speaker 4: I've got a couple things in my mind where like

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Speaker 3: Has changed my life because I mean some of them

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Speaker 4: There was one time it was actually one of our friends, Mums,

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Speaker 4: business and she submitted my business report to like this,

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Speaker 4: I don't know something in Australia where you present your

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Speaker 1: Oh shit okay, And I was like, no, I don't

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Speaker 3: Enough business.

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Speaker 4: My business report was really good, okay, And she submitted

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Speaker 4: it anyway, and I got accepted to like I don't know,

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Speaker 1: What are you doing here?

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Speaker 3: Mate?

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Speaker 1: Should be running a business? And I remember this sort

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Speaker 1: of is a life changing thing.

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Speaker 4: And she picked me up from my house, took me

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Speaker 1: Like so nervous and she wanted you to go so bad.

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Speaker 4: Well, I've always been so introverted in school, and I

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Speaker 4: was like, I don't want to talk in.

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Speaker 1: Front of all these random people. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I think there's also a misconception on this pod that

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Speaker 4: we're so extroverted because we like put all of our

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Speaker 4: thoughts onto the world, but were in a safe environment.

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Speaker 1: Ye yea yeah, yea yea yea yeah.

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Speaker 4: And maybe that was a little bit of a life

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Speaker 4: changing experience if you remember it. She thought something was

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Speaker 1: In yeah, very nice, which is life changing.

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Speaker 3: I'm trying to I thought the reason I asked you

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Speaker 1: I thought about this not long ago.

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Speaker 3: And I don't have like a.

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Speaker 1: A I have.

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Speaker 4: I have a year four teacher, right or no, year five, sorry,

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Speaker 4: year five teacher that I remember as my favorite teacher ever.

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Speaker 3: I still think like if I saw I bet you

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Speaker 3: It must have been that year eleven and twelve thing

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Speaker 4: Maybe it's funny the core memories we do take away

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Speaker 1: We hadn't you said? I've probably said it before. Go

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Speaker 4: But I really I never I knew I had something

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Speaker 4: And I think the fact that I was good at

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Speaker 3: It's got us news for your skills. I don't think

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: If someone we would have considered.

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Speaker 1: And then we'll put Jess in there wherever Jack is,

446
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Speaker 1: Jess is.

447
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Speaker 3: But like again, you know, we always say, you know,

448
00:18:54,600 --> 00:18:57,280
Speaker 3: we're friends in them conditionally because you're dating them, But

449
00:18:57,359 --> 00:18:58,879
Speaker 3: while you're dating them, obviously we're friends.

450
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Speaker 1: But I just can't think of any more.

451
00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:04,600
Speaker 3: No, really, And I'm going to get dinner with a

452
00:19:04,600 --> 00:19:05,000
Speaker 3: friend tonight.

453
00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:08,400
Speaker 1: Oh you are, yeah, just me and him. That's cute.

454
00:19:08,440 --> 00:19:13,680
Speaker 4: No, I'm busy. But before, we've mentioned on a pod

455
00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:20,280
Speaker 4: that male friendship groups aren't emostly invested. It's very surface level,

456
00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:25,119
Speaker 4: and I think for that reason it's sort of started

457
00:19:25,160 --> 00:19:28,880
Speaker 4: to dissipate a little bit. But our conversation, do you reckon?

458
00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:32,120
Speaker 4: Extroverts have conversations that are a lot more surface level

459
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Speaker 4: about like random shit.

460
00:19:35,080 --> 00:19:36,960
Speaker 1: I mean, you gotta surely.

461
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Speaker 4: Yeah, So I'm thinking, like being I'm just trying to

462
00:19:40,080 --> 00:19:42,280
Speaker 4: glass half full for me. No, no, no, definitely like

463
00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:45,360
Speaker 4: being an introvert, you have more meaningful conversations because when

464
00:19:45,359 --> 00:19:47,320
Speaker 4: I do say something like I try and make it

465
00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:50,160
Speaker 4: somewhat a good conversation, Like I try I steer clear

466
00:19:50,200 --> 00:19:51,440
Speaker 4: of like I hate small talk.

467
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Speaker 3: Same all right, I hate it the amount of times

468
00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:57,640
Speaker 3: this isn't a cocky thing, this is I genuinely believe

469
00:19:57,680 --> 00:19:58,640
Speaker 3: this is an introvert thing.

470
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Speaker 1: Whether I am or not. And maybe I'm on the customer.

471
00:20:00,520 --> 00:20:03,840
Speaker 3: I don't know the amount of times I've been having

472
00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:07,520
Speaker 3: a conversation with someone that I've just met and I've

473
00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:10,800
Speaker 3: thought to myself, I need to get out of there.

474
00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:15,879
Speaker 4: I think my thinking process is I'd prefer to stand

475
00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:16,960
Speaker 4: or sit here in silence.

476
00:20:17,680 --> 00:20:19,040
Speaker 1: Same like I don't want to talk about the weather.

477
00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:22,120
Speaker 3: I'm not a person that thinks science is awkward. Never mind,

478
00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:23,160
Speaker 3: I'm a big silence guy.

479
00:20:23,240 --> 00:20:24,760
Speaker 4: Like I would prefer, like I don't want to hear

480
00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:27,200
Speaker 4: about your holidays coming up next year. Like I don't

481
00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:28,679
Speaker 4: know if that kind of sounds bad to say it,

482
00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:30,960
Speaker 4: but like I just I don't like I prefer to

483
00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:34,440
Speaker 4: have like stimulating conversations about like feelings and emotions and stuff.

484
00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:35,639
Speaker 4: And that's what you do with people you have a

485
00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:37,320
Speaker 4: connection with, not with like people you go.

486
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Speaker 1: To work with.

487
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Speaker 3: I guess, yeah, I'm thinking, like, to be fair, if

488
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Speaker 3: I was to meet a new person, I it's more

489
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Speaker 3: like the questions I think that you as like personality wise,

490
00:20:48,320 --> 00:20:49,960
Speaker 3: I found while we like we just can't.

491
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Speaker 1: We just went away and we just go home.

492
00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:56,160
Speaker 3: We're auted like an event for a company. And and

493
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Speaker 3: they had a lunch and they did they sat addie

494
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Speaker 3: and eye away from each other.

495
00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:05,560
Speaker 1: I live it, and they kind of you.

496
00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:07,200
Speaker 3: Could tell they did shit like that on purpose, because

497
00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:10,040
Speaker 3: like I got sat to like people that are like

498
00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:13,200
Speaker 3: at a global position in that company. You got sat

499
00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:16,600
Speaker 3: next to just like some famous Australia like some guy

500
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,040
Speaker 3: that's just like men's health like shit like that. And

501
00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:21,439
Speaker 3: we were at this thing and we're having this like

502
00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:24,720
Speaker 3: really nice lunch. It was really cool, and I just

503
00:21:24,760 --> 00:21:27,440
Speaker 3: found myself having a conversation with the girl across me,

504
00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:29,840
Speaker 3: and then it was two people to my left and

505
00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:32,720
Speaker 3: just like I was just asking like questions and she

506
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:35,359
Speaker 3: actually she works in marketing for this company, but she

507
00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:38,679
Speaker 3: worked in China for seven years. And I got the

508
00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:42,520
Speaker 3: in depth reason as to why.

509
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:43,400
Speaker 1: Where she's from.

510
00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:45,840
Speaker 3: And I think it maybe it's like the questions you ask,

511
00:21:46,280 --> 00:21:48,639
Speaker 3: so maybe as are different because I found the small

512
00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:49,040
Speaker 3: talk I.

513
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,000
Speaker 1: Was really enjoying, but I was finding out a lot

514
00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:51,439
Speaker 1: about her.

515
00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:53,760
Speaker 4: I was really uncomfortable at the start of that just

516
00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:57,840
Speaker 4: because of my introverted nature, but maybe also on the

517
00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:00,600
Speaker 4: other end of the spectrum would be a little bit

518
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:03,200
Speaker 4: of the problem. And I'm not allowing myself to have

519
00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:05,480
Speaker 4: the harder conversations because I shot him off too quickly.

520
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:07,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I mean you did in the end, Yeah,

521
00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:07,600
Speaker 1: I did in the end.

522
00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:10,240
Speaker 3: I remember at the start, the fellow you were talking

523
00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:15,560
Speaker 3: due fuck it, Tim Robot. He started a conversation with us. Yeah,

524
00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 3: and then like the guy got like like said little seech.

525
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:19,200
Speaker 1: And then we had lunch.

526
00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:21,520
Speaker 3: But then a guy sat between in between me and Tim,

527
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:23,480
Speaker 3: and then you were across room, so you kept talking

528
00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 3: to him, and you spoke to him.

529
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Speaker 1: The whole line.

530
00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:27,440
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, Yeah, hardest thing about that lunch. Just side note,

531
00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:29,359
Speaker 4: this is just funny. We had to eat with chopsticks.

532
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:32,399
Speaker 6: They were the skinniest chop sticks. I can't use on planet.

533
00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 4: I can't use them anyway. Like three different people tried

534
00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 4: to show me how to use them. Yeah, and like

535
00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:38,960
Speaker 4: we're at this fancy dinner. Like they weren't really waitresses

536
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:39,639
Speaker 4: or waiters.

537
00:22:40,040 --> 00:22:44,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it was kind of like just people just

538
00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 3: bringing stuff out, taking stuff away, Like you couldn't really

539
00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:46,520
Speaker 3: stop them.

540
00:22:46,560 --> 00:22:46,760
Speaker 1: Yeah.

541
00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:49,240
Speaker 4: So I'm like having this conversation with his famous dude

542
00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:51,520
Speaker 4: trying to pick up some chicken with blood chopstick.

543
00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:53,280
Speaker 1: I ended up just sticking it in there and eating it.

544
00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:56,080
Speaker 1: So funny, but also I was just overthinking.

545
00:22:56,720 --> 00:22:58,679
Speaker 3: I guess I actually wanted to, like to finish on

546
00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:02,239
Speaker 3: the fun anything. Like, there's so many people out there

547
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:05,159
Speaker 3: are like I think a lot of people figure out

548
00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:07,199
Speaker 3: like I think a lot of people think they're an

549
00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:09,280
Speaker 3: extrovert and then they figure out they're an introvert, or

550
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 3: they think they're an introvert and figure out they're an etrovert.

551
00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:14,240
Speaker 3: And obviously, like certain scenarios and stuff, you're one of

552
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,600
Speaker 3: the other more than one of the other. But I

553
00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 3: always found it kind of crazy. So we go to

554
00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:24,120
Speaker 3: something we've said this before, we go somewhere and meet

555
00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:27,400
Speaker 3: people we've never met, all right, and then let's say

556
00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:29,679
Speaker 3: we're going to an event and we'll say to this

557
00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:33,920
Speaker 3: person that's like bringing us in, like, oh, this isn't

558
00:23:33,920 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 3: gonna be fun for us, and they're like why, They're like, oh,

559
00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 3: I a bit introverted at heart, and they're like really, yeah,

560
00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 3: it doesn't seem like that on the podcast, And you

561
00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:44,240
Speaker 3: just got to like we just have to explain, like, yeah,

562
00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:47,159
Speaker 3: but currently, like at this very second, we are in

563
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Speaker 3: a room with the two of us.

564
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:49,720
Speaker 1: No when I was seeing it.

565
00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:51,840
Speaker 3: Jackson here today you know, where there's no one and

566
00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 3: it doesn't care, and he does like we could say

567
00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 3: whatever we want to front of him. Yeah, you know,

568
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:59,159
Speaker 3: so although we are broadcasting on the internet at a

569
00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:02,639
Speaker 3: later date after just something about like I don't feel

570
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:04,800
Speaker 3: like I don't feel like anyone's listening.

571
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:07,200
Speaker 1: To what I'm saying. Right, You're in a very safe environment. Yeah.

572
00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 4: And one thing I've never been able to understand is

573
00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 4: so a lot of people get energy from being around

574
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 4: other people, like group workouts or going to like I

575
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:19,800
Speaker 4: don't know, talk to people. I don't even know where

576
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:24,639
Speaker 4: you do that us, on the other hand, that like

577
00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 4: that myself social battery just goes down like this, But me,

578
00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:30,200
Speaker 4: I get charged for being by myself.

579
00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:32,879
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, and my social battery goes down eavesdropping

580
00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:33,520
Speaker 3: on a conversation.

581
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:35,399
Speaker 6: Yeah, and I feel like I'm part of it, and

582
00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 6: I'm like I'm tired, Like.

583
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:40,359
Speaker 4: My perfect day is like spending the whole day by myself. Yeah,

584
00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:42,560
Speaker 4: like not even talking to my parents, like I'm hoping

585
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:43,840
Speaker 4: they've gone to work by the time I wake up

586
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:44,120
Speaker 4: with something.

587
00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:44,360
Speaker 2: Fact.

588
00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:47,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, sometimes you want to get home from work, like

589
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:48,080
Speaker 3: when I get how was work?

590
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 1: When I get home and no one's out? Yes, yes,

591
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 1: it's so. Isn't that funny? Some people do? They just

592
00:24:53,600 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 1: like being alone, they thrive. Yeah, yeah.

593
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:55,320
Speaker 6: Yeah.

594
00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:58,920
Speaker 4: It's also like I'm trying to figure out what's best

595
00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 4: for me of being an intro but it's also like

596
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 4: whatever you're given, it's just using that to your advantage.

597
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 4: Like I'm sure in a lot of social situations, if

598
00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:07,040
Speaker 4: I was an extrovert, I could have met some way

599
00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:08,680
Speaker 4: cooler people and have better opportunities.

600
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:11,520
Speaker 1: But you worked out that way.

601
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:14,199
Speaker 6: Yeah, you know what if this?

602
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:14,760
Speaker 1: What is that?

603
00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 4: But yeah, it's very interesting, like working with the cards

604
00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 4: you've been dealt. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, and just figuring

605
00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 4: it out along the way.

606
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, Jake, do you know what time it is?

607
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 2: Now?

608
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:33,879
Speaker 6: Dilemas dilemmas, baby.

609
00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:35,200
Speaker 3: You guys know what to do if you want to

610
00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:36,160
Speaker 3: submit a dilemma.

611
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:38,639
Speaker 4: Is in the description of this episode, or go to

612
00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:41,399
Speaker 4: an Instagram link in bio scroll to the bottom and

613
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 4: it says dilemmas all anonymous.

614
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Speaker 1: By the way, we don't even know who's sending these in.

615
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:46,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, the way I set it up kind of dumb,

616
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:50,000
Speaker 4: but we can't even see works out for anyone I

617
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Speaker 4: wants to be anonymous.

618
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Speaker 3: There's enough we're stuff in there for years. Okay, we're

619
00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 3: not changing it now, keep keep submitting. We like checking

620
00:25:57,080 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 3: the new ones.

621
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Speaker 4: Don't fix it. It's not broken. Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay relatables.

622
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Speaker 4: First of all, I love you guys, We love you too.

623
00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 4: My favorite podcast hands down. My boyfriend and two closest

624
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 4: friends also listen now, to which I thought was a

625
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:13,160
Speaker 4: little bit of a dangerous game to be playing.

626
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:14,880
Speaker 1: But anyway, your boyfriend listening.

627
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:18,840
Speaker 4: I have a dilemma. I need support with I love

628
00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:24,680
Speaker 4: my boyfriend very much, but we disagree on something I've

629
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 4: never had pushback on before. I'd really appreciate your input,

630
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 4: the input of and the input of listeners. I think

631
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 4: we should keep some things in our relationship between us,

632
00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 4: but he thinks he should be able to speak to

633
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:43,440
Speaker 4: his friend's SaaS family about everything I share with him.

634
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 4: He feels that like it affects him. I've tried to

635
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:48,959
Speaker 4: explain that it's hard for me to open up and

636
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 4: be vulnerable, but part of what makes it easier is

637
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:54,159
Speaker 4: knowing that things are just between us. He says, this

638
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:55,960
Speaker 4: isn't my call. What do you think?

639
00:26:58,240 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 1: Fucking hoh?

640
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 3: This which is like I would like to point everyone,

641
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:04,240
Speaker 3: this is the definition of a dilemma.

642
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 6: This is the definition of a dilemma.

643
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:10,640
Speaker 4: They should put this in the Urban Dictionary mate dilemma.

644
00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:12,400
Speaker 3: And example good example, example, textbook example.

645
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 1: Wow. See because when you came because like, if you're.

646
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 3: Telling him something that's like happened to you, and you're

647
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:19,119
Speaker 3: just like, I'm telling you because I trust you. I

648
00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 3: don't want you to tell anyone. But he's like, well,

649
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 3: now that's on me.

650
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:25,640
Speaker 1: I need to get like so it's affecting him more

651
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:27,760
Speaker 1: than you know, like it's my body, it's my rules.

652
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 3: Which sucks because now you probably keep stuff from him,

653
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 3: but that you like, you keep stuff from him that

654
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:34,480
Speaker 3: you would normally tell him, but stuff that you would

655
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 3: not ever.

656
00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:41,640
Speaker 4: Told what because immediately I would say, normally he's in

657
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:45,239
Speaker 4: the wrong. But if your problems are affecting him and

658
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,920
Speaker 4: he needs his own healthy outlets, which are his friends

659
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:51,480
Speaker 4: and families, like that's also fine.

660
00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:57,440
Speaker 3: I don't know though, what if because if I told

661
00:27:57,440 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 3: you a secret and I was like, Oddie, you're the

662
00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:06,000
Speaker 3: only person that I can tell this too. Okay, I'm

663
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:08,879
Speaker 3: the closest to you. I need to keep this off

664
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:11,760
Speaker 3: my chest. You have to promise me you won't tell anyone.

665
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 3: And then you're like, well, hey, if it affects me,

666
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Speaker 3: I can't promise anything.

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Speaker 1: Sure. If you said like that, I.

668
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Speaker 6: Would be like, fuck, I'm telling you it's true.

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Speaker 1: It sort of comes down to respect.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, like I've got yeah, Like if Beth

671
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Speaker 3: said to me, don't tell anyone this, I wouldn't tell anyone.

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Speaker 1: What if like the gooss she told you, like if

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Speaker 1: she murdered.

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Speaker 6: Someone, I'd tell someone.

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Speaker 4: But like, what about like I don't know, the burden

676
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Speaker 4: of her life was starting to make you depressed, like

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Speaker 4: she was telling you like you know, I would bring

678
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Speaker 4: it up with her, true, I would say like, hey,

679
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Speaker 4: I'm trying to play Devil's no.

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Speaker 1: I know, I know.

681
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Speaker 3: But that's a good point though, because it's like she's

682
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Speaker 3: this girl's gonna get a example of what someone else

683
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Speaker 3: would probably do. Like if her telling me things that

684
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Speaker 3: I can't tell anyone else was really weighing heavy on me,

685
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Speaker 3: And then like I'm getting mentally affected I would be

686
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Speaker 3: I would have to have a conversation with her like, hey,

687
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:08,960
Speaker 3: either you got to get help. Mmm, Like still I

688
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Speaker 3: want to know about it, but I need to I

689
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Speaker 3: need to know that you're also going to other avenues.

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Speaker 1: To get this better.

691
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Speaker 3: Or like, hey, wait, why didn't the boyfriend go to therapy?

692
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Speaker 3: You can tell a therapist and they're not gonna tell soul.

693
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Speaker 1: They're not allowed. It's illegal to tell him.

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Speaker 4: I was gonna say, what doesn't she go to a therapist?

695
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Speaker 6: Why do they both go?

696
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I was I was thinking, like, if your

697
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Speaker 4: boyfriend's saying like anything that's just like goss or like

698
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Speaker 4: sexual or anything like that, he's completely in the wrong.

699
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Speaker 4: But if it's like the burdens of life and you

700
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:39,800
Speaker 4: have a stressful job, yeah, if.

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Speaker 3: You're kind of like I just don't know if I

702
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Speaker 3: can do this anymore.

703
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Speaker 4: Yeah, Like if you have a really bad job of

704
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Speaker 4: like I don't know, in child health care or something

705
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:47,640
Speaker 4: like that, and like bringing all these parents problems home

706
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:49,400
Speaker 4: or something, you need to voice him. And then he's

707
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 4: telling his friends like I would say, that's completely wrong,

708
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 4: and then you should talk to a therapist.

709
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Speaker 1: But like I'm thinking, I'm thinking I'm thinking for this one.

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Speaker 4: By the way she worded it, I'm thinking it's just

711
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Speaker 4: like sexual sh.

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Speaker 1: Well, it sounds like it's just everything.

713
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Speaker 3: So I mean it's like, really you could say it's

714
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Speaker 3: best case and worst case. I feel like it's just

715
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:08,000
Speaker 3: every case, every case scenario.

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Speaker 1: So I think my advice would be.

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Speaker 3: Two oh man, maybe kay, Okay, what's that thing we

718
00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 3: learned about argument? Okay, bring it up with your boyfrien k.

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Speaker 3: You've got to start it with a with a few eyes.

720
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Speaker 3: So it's like you said to your boyfriend, I feel

721
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 3: uh like I feel hurt. Maybe you could you have

722
00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 3: to say how you feel about something and say and

723
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Speaker 3: then and then another thing with an eye and then

724
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Speaker 3: like the solution of what you want them to do

725
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 3: to help fix the situation.

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Speaker 1: Remember that arguments thing talk I brought.

727
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Speaker 4: I feel hurt that you're telling other people about my problems.

728
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 1: Yes, I think I feel hurt, And then that you're

729
00:30:57,840 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 1: telling people about my other problems.

730
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Speaker 3: And it's like I would really appreciate if we It's

731
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Speaker 3: it's like I and okay, I forard that you turn

732
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 3: other people my problems. I know that it also burdens you. Yeah,

733
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 3: I know it also burdens you. A solution I think

734
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:16,800
Speaker 3: that could help us both is if we both went

735
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 3: and saw someone so we're venting to them and not

736
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 3: people that have biased opinions on our lives.

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Speaker 4: I think he's in the wrong a little bit same,

738
00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:29,080
Speaker 4: just because in a relationship you should have that underlying

739
00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:32,720
Speaker 4: rule that it stays between you two. And it's sort

740
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:34,800
Speaker 4: of like even with me and Jake, if Jake tells

741
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 4: me something, I know when it's appropriate for me to

742
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:40,280
Speaker 4: tell Cassie, my girlfriend, and when it's not good.

743
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:42,200
Speaker 3: Point A, I can't remember a time saying to you, like,

744
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:43,440
Speaker 3: don't even tell Cassie this.

745
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:44,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, just like a thing.

746
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's an unspoken Yeah, it's just he should know

747
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 4: when it's okay to share your thoughts and emotions and

748
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 4: when it's not, which is just like in any relationship. Yeah,

749
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:57,000
Speaker 4: which I think you should tell him that, And like

750
00:31:57,080 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 4: he shouldn't be sharing everything, especially with his parents, because

751
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 4: they're going to make an opinion of you, Like we

752
00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 4: said at the start, Yeah, they just have this, they'll

753
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 4: look at you different. Yeah yeah, yeah, one hundred percent.

754
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:07,520
Speaker 4: So I think he's in the wrong a little bit.

755
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:09,880
Speaker 4: It's not too bad, and I see why there's a

756
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 4: bit of a dilemma here, and this is a tricky one.

757
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 3: And you could also go to therapy first see if

758
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:16,680
Speaker 3: you like it, and then you can also explain your

759
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 3: experience to it at like and then maybe that'll be

760
00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 3: make him more on board if that's what you want

761
00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 3: to do.

762
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:22,440
Speaker 4: I love the advice of therapy, right, and I know

763
00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 4: it's such a healthy strategy. Yeah, but like saying go

764
00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 4: to therapy to someone, it's so yeah easy. Yeah, it's

765
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 4: just like I don't know, like Jelfrey, like I want

766
00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:31,720
Speaker 4: to do it too, Like I've been wanting to do

767
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 4: it for like two years, and I'm just like I

768
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:34,000
Speaker 4: haven't done it.

769
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:35,600
Speaker 3: Neither of I I've wanted to do it as well,

770
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Speaker 3: I just haven't done it.

771
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, It's just something like it seems like such a

772
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 4: big stepping stone. So I'm saying, voice how.

773
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:41,640
Speaker 1: It makes you feel.

774
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 4: Tell him that there should be some type of safety

775
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:46,560
Speaker 4: net in our relationship where you only tell the things

776
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 4: that are appropriate to tell, because otherwise it feels like

777
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 4: I'm going to be having to keep secrets befrom you

778
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:53,080
Speaker 4: because I can't trust you.

779
00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:56,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yea, yeah, yeh yeah yeah. But yeah, yeah,

780
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:58,920
Speaker 3: it hurts that. It hurts me that you tell people

781
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 3: about the things I tell you. I don't want to

782
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 3: be keeping secrets from you. I'd really appreciate it if

783
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:05,480
Speaker 3: we have some stuff that just stayed in our relationship. Yeah.

784
00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 4: And also I didn't like his response how he said, well,

785
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 4: it's my problem now, because like it's sort of like

786
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 4: saying like you make me sad, and then he's going like, well,

787
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 4: that's not my problem. Mm, like it's your problem, like

788
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying.

789
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Speaker 1: Then it's hard. It's hard to explain for me. I

790
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 1: do know what you mean.

791
00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:32,959
Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, it's kind of like, oh, it's not my problem,

792
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 3: so why should.

793
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:37,320
Speaker 1: I let it burden me? Kinder?

794
00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:41,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, fuck, I gotta say. I mean, I hope there

795
00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 3: was some advice in therefore. I seriously, when.

796
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Speaker 1: We spitball, we spit something out and something comes out.

797
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Speaker 3: You know, we're not saying that you have to do

798
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Speaker 3: any of those things, but at least, like hopefully maybe

799
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Speaker 3: this one.

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Speaker 1: I think this one could be good for the Facebook group, just.

801
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Speaker 3: To hear, just to hear, because we had because he

802
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Speaker 3: hears so many different opinions.

803
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:02,960
Speaker 4: She did say the thoughts of our listeners as well.

804
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Speaker 4: And I also think that she wanted a little bit

805
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Speaker 4: of support to know that she's not overreacting, which I

806
00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 4: definitely think you're not.

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Speaker 3: I don't think she's ever reacting at all neither. Yeah,

808
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 3: and we've really tried to look at it from both ways.

809
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Speaker 3: So we've done our best there. We'll go like, like

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Speaker 3: it is a plug, but the best place to fucking

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Speaker 3: we'll put it in the Facebook group. Yeah, you know

812
00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:25,960
Speaker 3: when this comes out and there's some great advice in there. Yeah,

813
00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 3: they're fucking pretty good. They're die hard listeners who we love.

814
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Speaker 1: We love all of you. They're pretty smarty.

815
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Speaker 3: They should all of everyone in that group start a

816
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Speaker 3: podcast better than our.

817
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Speaker 4: All right, guys, Confession Sessions went down so good last

818
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Speaker 4: week we had to do it again Double Trouble.

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Speaker 1: We are back with and OG. We used to do

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Speaker 1: whole episodes of this we did.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we recommend going back and yeah, listening to the

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Speaker 3: whole I actual love of the pod.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I love them because you get to like interact with

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Speaker 4: people listening and yeah, they just get to come on

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Speaker 4: and tell their story. So this is Confession Sessions. Yes,

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Speaker 4: and we have a lovely caller from Canada named Osha.

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Speaker 1: Don't give it away, man, what are you doing? That's

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Speaker 1: not our actual name.

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Speaker 4: If you would like to submit a confession session, link

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Speaker 4: in our description of this episode, and it's also in

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Speaker 4: our bio on our Instagram.

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Speaker 3: You click the link and you scroll down and it'll

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Speaker 3: see confession sessions.

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Speaker 1: But otherwise enjoy, enjoy. Hello, Hello, welcome to confession session.

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Speaker 1: How is it going good?

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Speaker 2: How are you guys?

838
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,759
Speaker 1: Good? Thanks? Where are you calling from? First?

839
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:40,920
Speaker 2: I'm calling from Canada, Canada? Vancouver Island, Yes.

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Speaker 1: Than Island. We had a friend that lived there for

841
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:45,520
Speaker 1: a while. Yeah, very nice, very nice?

842
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 4: And first things first is can we use your actual

843
00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:50,000
Speaker 4: name or would you like to be anonymous?

844
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:53,399
Speaker 2: I'll stay anonymous.

845
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:56,239
Speaker 4: Is there any name you've ever want to be called?

846
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 4: Or would you like me and Jake to pick something?

847
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Speaker 2: You guys can pick something.

848
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm going to go with Ocean, Osha Osha. Okay,

849
00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 1: I like that. Niche Osha and Osha. You have a story?

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Speaker 1: What would you give the prompt of the story? What

851
00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 1: would you call it a prompt?

852
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:17,360
Speaker 2: Like the title?

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00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:17,799
Speaker 4: Yeah?

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00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 1: Give it a title?

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Speaker 2: Oh god, I don't.

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Speaker 3: Know, like.

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Speaker 2: Worst, I don't even know what to call it, but

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Speaker 2: the ultimate ich. Yeah, the ultimate ick. It's a story

859
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 2: that I tell when people are like, what's your worst

860
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 2: sexual experience?

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Speaker 1: Oh, okay, I like that you're in the right place. Well,

862
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:42,440
Speaker 1: if you want to take it from the top, we're

863
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:43,840
Speaker 1: going to interact. Go ahead.

864
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Speaker 2: Yeah. So a while, a long time ago, actually, I

865
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:53,799
Speaker 2: was dating this guy for about four months, and we

866
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:56,960
Speaker 2: are pretty comfortable with each other because we had been

867
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Speaker 2: friends for like a year before that, and everything was

868
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 2: going good. We were comfortable physically and i'd say emotionally.

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Speaker 2: And then one night I was feeling a little bit adventurous.

870
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Speaker 2: I had never sixty nine before.

871
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:16,840
Speaker 6: Oh, I was like, I've never done it.

872
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Speaker 1: I've done it adventurous.

873
00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 2: I was like, let's let's try it feels good, feeling constant,

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Speaker 2: and then so everything is going as you would guess,

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Speaker 2: like I initiated it. I let's say I'm the sixth,

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Speaker 2: he's the nine okay on top? Right, Yeah, I volunteered

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Speaker 2: a tribute to be on the top.

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Speaker 1: Imagine him on top of you. That'd been heavy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Anyways, so it was going good and he sort

880
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:54,040
Speaker 2: of took a break. So I was like feeling generous

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Speaker 2: and taking all the work and then uh, as it's

882
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Speaker 2: going good, all of a sudden he lets out the

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Speaker 2: most deadly, eye watering, silent arc No.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you have to be in the worst position possible.

885
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:26,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, like hot air rises and it went directly into

886
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 2: my nostrils. Oh, my nostrils, if you can just imagine

887
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:36,319
Speaker 2: the scenario, are the only form of oxygen.

888
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:39,719
Speaker 3: I've also got to point out, like, yes, they're the

889
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:42,360
Speaker 3: only form of oxygen. But also it's like there's something

890
00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 3: that's really triggering your gag reflex.

891
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:48,920
Speaker 1: Also, like did he address it or did he just

892
00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:50,240
Speaker 1: like pretend like it didn't happen.

893
00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:54,239
Speaker 2: No, So what happened was I was like trying to

894
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:57,280
Speaker 2: process it all really fast and like lots of happening,

895
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:01,760
Speaker 2: and my subconscious was just like just pretend it didn't happen.

896
00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:14,920
Speaker 2: Keep going Trooper, right, No, yeah, I didn't. I don't

897
00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 2: know if he actually knew that it had happened, so

898
00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:20,760
Speaker 2: I just sort of I mean, in hindsight, I would

899
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:24,400
Speaker 2: have just stopped and like switched things up, but I

900
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:27,319
Speaker 2: don't know. I think I was felt like secondhand embarrassment.

901
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:31,480
Speaker 1: You should have embarrassed the funk out of me, so

902
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:32,919
Speaker 1: you finished him off.

903
00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:38,400
Speaker 2: I held my breast to the bitter end. Uh.

904
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, we know why he stopped me out for a

905
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:42,280
Speaker 3: while because.

906
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:43,879
Speaker 1: He was his bitter end.

907
00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:49,040
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. Yeah. But we we dated for like

908
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:55,359
Speaker 2: another six months, talked about it. What we talked.

909
00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:58,439
Speaker 1: I thought you were emotionally intact with each other.

910
00:39:58,640 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, clearly there were some issues there, and then we

911
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:07,680
Speaker 2: didn't acknowledge it or anything. But we're like on good terms.

912
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:09,719
Speaker 2: We're not like, he's not like a bad person in

913
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:10,160
Speaker 2: my life.

914
00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:14,480
Speaker 1: Oh Jesus, well that's nice. I guess. I want to

915
00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:17,560
Speaker 1: say he one hundred new. He had to. He had

916
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 1: to have known he was playing it off.

917
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:23,279
Speaker 3: Yeah. One, because I mean, you don't know when he's

918
00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 3: gonna smell bad.

919
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 1: You can tell by the heat of it when it

920
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:27,960
Speaker 1: came out. That came out hot, for.

921
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:29,879
Speaker 4: Sure, And the fact that it was silent was that

922
00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:32,279
Speaker 4: he was like squeezing his butt cheeks to make sure

923
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 4: it didn't happen, and he was hoping he got away

924
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 4: with it, which he probably thinks he did.

925
00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, he does now.

926
00:40:39,840 --> 00:40:41,799
Speaker 2: A chance, and he just didn't know. Do people just

927
00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:43,719
Speaker 2: not know when they fight it? Sometimes?

928
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know if we can give him

929
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:47,840
Speaker 1: the benefit from my experience.

930
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 3: I've never not known and I want to say that, No,

931
00:40:51,920 --> 00:40:52,319
Speaker 3: I got it.

932
00:40:52,320 --> 00:40:52,960
Speaker 6: I just got a point.

933
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:54,759
Speaker 3: I really think he should have been like just like

934
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 3: tapped on the leg, like okay, stop now switch it up.

935
00:40:57,280 --> 00:40:58,880
Speaker 1: So at least it didn't go straight to you to

936
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:03,240
Speaker 1: know like I need a second or something.

937
00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 2: Oh, that would have been the crutiest thing to do.

938
00:41:06,560 --> 00:41:10,200
Speaker 1: Before you leave, Before you leave? Have you ever done

939
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:10,840
Speaker 1: it again?

940
00:41:13,239 --> 00:41:15,920
Speaker 2: What sixty in my face?

941
00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:18,880
Speaker 1: Sixty nine again? All that?

942
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:22,759
Speaker 2: Ah, yes, I did with another person. I didn't do

943
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:23,480
Speaker 2: it with him again.

944
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 1: At least you weren't scarred from the experience. Ah No, definitely.

945
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:29,239
Speaker 1: Well that's good. Well thanks for coming on.

946
00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:33,400
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, thanks for having me and thanks for listening.

947
00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 1: That's I have a good rest, you know you too.

948
00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 2: Thanks bye bye.

949
00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:44,000
Speaker 1: No, I couldn't be that dude. You have to be

950
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:46,880
Speaker 1: courteous and be like like, just don't address that you're

951
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: going to fight, be like, oh, time for me to

952
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:50,359
Speaker 1: go on top, and then in the transition like let's

953
00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 1: hearth me out or something better than being in her face.

954
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:58,120
Speaker 3: Mate, I can't even begin to imagine what that smell like.

955
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:01,799
Speaker 1: Poor girl Trooper too went kept going to town just

956
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:07,759
Speaker 1: like hell with her breath and kept ah. I hope

957
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:09,799
Speaker 1: that doesn't sky anyone thinking about doing a sixty nine

958
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:10,200
Speaker 1: out there.

959
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 6: Holy moly.

960
00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:14,800
Speaker 4: Also, when she said taking one for the team and

961
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 4: went on top, I just wanted to let every girl know,

962
00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 4: like you should always be on top in sixty nine.

963
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:21,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's I thought that was like customary

964
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 1: where I was like, you may die, Yeah, you may

965
00:42:26,120 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 1: unless you're like bigger than your boyfriend. But I don't

966
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 1: even think it's about being bigger. I think it's just

967
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:30,680
Speaker 1: about like.

968
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 6: You have control angle of trajectory, you have.

969
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 1: Control on top, Yeah, you have control top that you

970
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 1: can lift your head and breathe. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I

971
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:40,200
Speaker 1: don't think he's got anything.

972
00:42:39,960 --> 00:42:43,719
Speaker 3: To do with like size. I think it's more just yeah,

973
00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 3: like I don't, I don't know you done.

974
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:49,759
Speaker 1: It well sixty nine You haven't. I did to think

975
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:51,680
Speaker 1: about that, who you are? I was thinking about it.

976
00:42:52,160 --> 00:42:54,839
Speaker 3: I'm trying to think of because there's just so many times.

977
00:42:56,280 --> 00:43:10,760
Speaker 1: Kidding which girl for about? No, I haven't. All right, everybody,

978
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:12,399
Speaker 1: thanks for listening. You know what to do.

979
00:43:12,800 --> 00:43:16,480
Speaker 4: As we said, join the faith five star this episode.

980
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:18,880
Speaker 4: They're going great, keep it going, Holks for the Algorithm

981
00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:21,799
Speaker 4: and then Patreon Extra Episode which is an hour long

982
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:22,760
Speaker 4: every single week.

983
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 1: Yep, and we love you. See you on Wednesday. Love you.