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Speaker 1: I'm Anna and I'm Matt. Let's jump in. Good morning, Good.
Speaker 2: Morning, Good morning Anna. How are you feeling today?
Speaker 1: I'm thirty one, having fun.
Speaker 2: Don't look at day over thirty big day.
Speaker 1: We celebrated my birthday on the weekend. Yes, well, we
Speaker 1: all went to Redhill.
Speaker 2: Yes, it was nice winery down there when we went
Speaker 2: to two wineries. Actually did?
Speaker 1: We went to Montalto and we went to Point Leo Estate,
Speaker 1: both incredible.
Speaker 2: Yes, so much fun. You stayed down there as well
Speaker 2: with Michael.
Speaker 1: I did. We stayed at the Lamps More in Red
Speaker 1: Hill and we had like the most amazing experience there.
Speaker 1: It was so nice, the grounds are amazing. It was
Speaker 1: just very romantic. I just was like, you know, when
Speaker 1: you romanticize your life, you know how they say, like
Speaker 1: on those TikTok videos, like romanticize your life and it
Speaker 1: was just like it was so nice. They had a
Speaker 1: cellar door at the hotel and they were playing like
Speaker 1: I don't know the type of music that I like,
Speaker 1: like jack Bots or like Ziggy Albert's type of slow
Speaker 1: I don't know vibe. We like walked over there and
Speaker 1: it was just like so chill, and I was like,
Speaker 1: this is heaven, Like this is gorgeous.
Speaker 2: You had some wines while you're down there and.
Speaker 1: Had some venos. We kind of were getting into a
Speaker 1: bit more like winter fashion as well. Had like a
Speaker 1: big jacket on. Sounds great by the fire.
Speaker 2: How good is the staycation with your partner doing that stuff?
Speaker 2: I love it when you're talking about it the other day,
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, that sounds so good. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I literally got home back to Melbourne and my dad
Speaker 1: was like, where were you staying? I want to stay there?
Speaker 1: Literally booked the same place because he was like, was
Speaker 1: it actually good? And I was like it was incredible.
Speaker 1: Definitely go there. So my parents have already booked.
Speaker 2: The same swart id a romantic get away do that?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, but anyway, I'm thirty one, Yeah, so how
Speaker 1: does it feeling thirty one?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 1: You know what I was actually like completely fine with it.
Speaker 1: And you know how I said, like my friend Ciro
Speaker 1: had a bit of a wobble with turning thirty one
Speaker 1: because like she was kind of like, well, turning thirty,
Speaker 1: like you know, there's all of the you know, bars
Speaker 1: and excitement and the parties and like you kind of
Speaker 1: get lost in like the excitement of it all, and
Speaker 1: then she was a bit like worried about turning thirty one.
Speaker 1: From me, I didn't feel it until the very night before,
Speaker 1: so the last night of being thirty, and then I
Speaker 1: was like, shit, this is the last time I'm going
Speaker 1: to be able to say I'm thirty. So I made
Speaker 1: Michael ask me like ten times that night. I made
Speaker 1: him ask me how old I am, so he'd be
Speaker 1: like how old are you? And I was like, I'm thirty.
Speaker 1: And I literally did it like ten times because I
Speaker 1: was like, I just want to get it in like
Speaker 1: one last time.
Speaker 2: So there was no real like anxiety like around. It
Speaker 2: was just like turning another year older, the normal anxiety
Speaker 2: you get like every year when you're like, fuck, what
Speaker 2: happened to the last year of my life?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Did that go?
Speaker 1: But that's what I said to Michael. I'm like, what
Speaker 1: have I done when I'm thirty? Like, what what have
Speaker 1: I achieved? Like we have men, you like, we put
Speaker 1: a lot of pressure on ourselves to keep like pushing
Speaker 1: forward and doing all this stuff. And he's like, Babe,
Speaker 1: you've done so much, Like the podcast is doing amazing.
Speaker 1: You've almost hit two million listens, which we're gonna celebrate soon.
Speaker 1: You know. He's like, you got engaged at thirty. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, yeah, I did too.
Speaker 2: I actually saw a TikTok the other day and it
Speaker 2: was do you watch Friends?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've watched it here and there, but I wouldn't
Speaker 1: be able to like.
Speaker 2: Quote yeah, I loved it growing up and like watch
Speaker 2: it all the time. But it was saying how they
Speaker 2: the show started in they were like twenty five, yeah,
Speaker 2: and then so it finishes when they're thirty. So it's
Speaker 2: just real like perception of or like you, how your
Speaker 2: life isn't like growing up to your thirties and how
Speaker 2: where they starts where they finish and finish saying like
Speaker 2: you don't need to stress shit like their life starts
Speaker 2: to come at the end and it's still not this
Speaker 2: shit isn't sort of out and there like thirty five. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so you know what I mean? Yeah, So there's no
Speaker 2: real like saying don't stress about your age and where
Speaker 2: your life Isn't that? So that was a good TikTok.
Speaker 2: I was like, ah, maybe I should.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty seven something. A quote that I love about
Speaker 1: aging the most is that quote where it says You're
Speaker 1: never going to be as young as you are today.
Speaker 1: I love that because I'm like, yeah, maybe thirty one
Speaker 1: to some people does sound old, right, and that's fine.
Speaker 1: I can handle that, but to me, this is the
Speaker 1: youngest I'm ever going to be, and like, I love that.
Speaker 2: Speaking of that, actually, my sister said on the weekend,
Speaker 2: my dad was telling a story how I accidentally introduced
Speaker 2: my younger brother to someone as Matthew, and Lara's like,
Speaker 2: how'd you get an eight year old mixed up with
Speaker 2: Matthew who's nearly thirty, And I was like, fuck, I'm
Speaker 2: nearly thirty. So I had that like thing, do you
Speaker 2: know what I mean?
Speaker 1: That?
Speaker 2: Like that realization that I'm nearly thirty, But I'm fine,
Speaker 2: it's two years off.
Speaker 1: When do you turn twenty eight? Again? That's right?
Speaker 2: So a couple of months off that as well.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's exciting. There's nothing to be anxious about when
Speaker 1: it comes to birthday. It's like I just think, like
Speaker 1: embrace it, Like what's the point of being stressed out.
Speaker 1: Michael's mum told me a really good It's like a
Speaker 1: quote and she was like, why worry about something twice?
Speaker 1: And that's like the thing about anxiety, right, Why worry
Speaker 1: about it twice if it's actually gonna happen in the
Speaker 1: end and you're gonna have all the stress of.
Speaker 2: It, should I tell you my recommendation? Now, I was
Speaker 2: going to save it, go for it, Okay. So it's
Speaker 2: so funny you say that, and this is not planned, guys.
Speaker 2: My recommendation is. I saw this TikTok and the expression
Speaker 2: it was eat the frog in the like, yeah, so
Speaker 2: it means that every day you pretend you have to
Speaker 2: eat a frog and that's the task that you don't
Speaker 2: want to do. So you know you don't want to
Speaker 2: eat a frog. Who wants to eat frogs? You know,
Speaker 2: no one wants to. So it was like, like, do
Speaker 2: that task that you don't want to do first thing
Speaker 2: in the morning because or first thing when you wake off,
Speaker 2: because then you do it that's shit. But if you say,
Speaker 2: like you wait to do it, then like stressing yourself
Speaker 2: out and punishing yourself all day till you do it.
Speaker 1: I really like that.
Speaker 2: So you're worrying about it twice. So like the expression
Speaker 2: was like eat the frog first thing in the morning.
Speaker 2: So that's what I've been doing, like going on runs
Speaker 2: and shit that I don't want to do as soon
Speaker 2: as I wake up because I'm getting it out of
Speaker 2: the way.
Speaker 1: Matt and I on Thursday are going to be at
Speaker 1: Federation Square in Australia's tiniest bar serving drinks, and well,
Speaker 1: I'm just thinking personally we have to both do an RSA,
Speaker 1: And I was thinking about the RSA whilst you were
Speaker 1: saying that. I'm like, Oka, I should have done it
Speaker 1: before I got here, because I really don't want to
Speaker 1: do it today.
Speaker 2: So now if you've done it first thing in the morning,
Speaker 2: it would be out. So you've punished yourself once by
Speaker 2: doing that, and then you don't. Now you're punishing yourself
Speaker 2: all day stressing about it.
Speaker 1: I really am.
Speaker 2: Yeah, good luck of the RSA.
Speaker 1: Were talking about it before Matt did it, said it
Speaker 1: was I that frog.
Speaker 2: I ha the frog and the Frog.
Speaker 1: Matt's leading by example over here, and we're loving it
Speaker 1: for a for bright and early to our morning.
Speaker 2: Great in by Matt here. So that's that's my recommendation
Speaker 2: is eat the frog first thing in the morning.
Speaker 1: Well, anyway, it's engagement party week. It's been a big
Speaker 1: build up. It's been a really big build up. I
Speaker 1: feel like I started with the build up on my
Speaker 1: socials too early because now I'm just like, I just
Speaker 1: wanted to be here.
Speaker 2: But yeah, everything organized.
Speaker 1: Everything's organized. I have DJ booked in. We have a
Speaker 1: sax player from like ten to twelve. We have the Yeah,
Speaker 1: we have the bongoes from the DJ. If you listened last.
Speaker 2: Week, you had a three sixty camera.
Speaker 1: We have a three sixty camera, which is very exciting.
Speaker 2: I've done that.
Speaker 1: Well, we anone.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never done it. Is it like it spins
Speaker 2: pretty fast. I've watched people do it.
Speaker 1: Doesn't it And then yeah, yeah, yeah, so you have
Speaker 1: to like to practice in the mirror just so it's
Speaker 1: like on point. I'm sure you'll have your Zoolander on
Speaker 1: the three sixty camera. But yeah, I'm just super excited.
Speaker 1: I think my parents are going to say a little
Speaker 1: something Michael's parents are going to say something, and then
Speaker 1: me and Michael will say something, which I'm a little
Speaker 1: bit stressed about because like eat the frog, do it first.
Speaker 2: You get there.
Speaker 1: So, like we're gonna say a few words each. Michael
Speaker 1: wants us to like prepare them separately and then say
Speaker 1: them together, but I was like, what.
Speaker 2: Happens if, like you repeat yourself, we.
Speaker 1: Both say the same thing, which we have a very
Speaker 1: similar personality, so we definitely could do that. I don't know,
Speaker 1: I'm just like a little bit nervous about it because obviously,
Speaker 1: like I said a bit of a speech at my
Speaker 1: birthday from my thirtieth and that was fine because it
Speaker 1: is what it is. But when you're like declaring your
Speaker 1: love in front of.
Speaker 2: All the people, you're declaring your you're we're not.
Speaker 1: Declaring our love, but we're going to say something like
Speaker 1: kind of nice about each other.
Speaker 2: I was expecting it more to be like around everyone else,
Speaker 2: beding there and all that sort stuff. But if you're
Speaker 2: doing it to each other, that's intense.
Speaker 1: No. No, no, like we will like thank you everyone
Speaker 1: for coming, blah blah blah.
Speaker 2: Vows.
Speaker 1: No, it's not going to be vows. I'm just going
Speaker 1: to be I'm just going to say, like, you know,
Speaker 1: Michael is the love of my life, you know, all
Speaker 1: of that kind.
Speaker 2: Of thing, to spend the rest of my life with you. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you're a year of getting married, don't you.
Speaker 1: I am thirteen months of.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, sorry, I thought it was this time of year.
Speaker 1: Let's not go to that.
Speaker 2: First.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And also, my dresses will be going on sale
Speaker 1: on Sunday with my collaboration that I've done with Helen O'Connor,
Speaker 1: which I'm all excited about. I've seen all of them
Speaker 1: now and they look insane.
Speaker 2: Sent me a video of one of them from the back.
Speaker 2: It looked pretty good.
Speaker 1: It's pretty epic, is that one.
Speaker 2: You're wearing on the day? Yeah, So how many you
Speaker 2: decide to wear?
Speaker 1: I think three, but like two at the party and
Speaker 1: one for the aftern party type of vibe don't last
Speaker 1: I go all for. I know they're all amazing, So
Speaker 1: I still haven't decided which one I won't wear. But yeah,
Speaker 1: very excited about those dresses. Keep an eye out on
Speaker 1: my socials if you don't follow me, and make sure
Speaker 1: you do so that you can see those.
Speaker 2: Yes, very keen for your engagement. Party this weekend. I
Speaker 2: was thinking about having a weekend sober, but.
Speaker 1: I'm paying her heads, so I'm going to have.
Speaker 2: To drink those after alls. Well it was that, and
Speaker 2: then I was like, then I've got like a Footy
Speaker 2: ten year reunion the next week. Then I've got another
Speaker 2: engagement party for my mates. Just it's never ending, is
Speaker 2: it this time of year.
Speaker 1: I'm very sorry that I'm interfering with your life to
Speaker 1: invite you to my engagement party.
Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no, I like I said, I'm excited.
Speaker 2: I'm like what I was trying to say was I'm excited.
Speaker 2: Let's not pass out on a park bench this time.
Speaker 1: I have a question for you, WHOA Because obviously after
Speaker 1: my thirtieth where you passed out in a park bend,
Speaker 1: she would have had a lot of anxiety. And on
Speaker 1: the weekend, on the weekend that has just gone for
Speaker 1: my thirty first birthday, there was a lot of alcohol intake.
Speaker 1: Did you have any anxiety?
Speaker 2: I actually wasn't too bad. I told you when you
Speaker 2: guys were pouring me a wine at the start, I
Speaker 2: was like, I'm not going to drink wine. Wine makes
Speaker 2: me loopy drunk, Yeah, not like find like crazy white
Speaker 2: girl who drunk. So I was like, maybe not. So
Speaker 2: I had a couple of beers, but then we did
Speaker 2: the wine tasting. Yeah, and then we went on to
Speaker 2: the next winery where I had maybe two a couple
Speaker 2: of something. So I wasn't too bad with you.
Speaker 1: Anxiety, I was a little bit, but like not too much.
Speaker 1: But I was talking to Michael, I was like, why
Speaker 1: do we get anxiety? Like what is it? And I
Speaker 1: think the reason we get anxiety vibes after drinking is
Speaker 1: because we're in iram sleep, so our in the rapid
Speaker 1: eye movement sleep, so you don't actually get a proper
Speaker 1: good night sleep. So have you ever woken up from
Speaker 1: king and you're just like so exhausted and you're like,
Speaker 1: I've had eight hours, Like why am I? Why am
Speaker 1: I sleeping? And I think that's why. So anyway, I'll
Speaker 1: probably be an iram sleep next Sunday after my gage.
Speaker 2: Hey, I got one for you. Yeah, what hangover? Would
Speaker 2: you rather? Anxiety or vomiting all day?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say anxiety. I'll take some ash Gander stress
Speaker 1: relief tablets.
Speaker 2: Fair enough, Anxiety or that headache that lingers all day
Speaker 2: in the back of your.
Speaker 1: Head, anxiety. Okay, no, actually I'd take I'd take the headache, but.
Speaker 2: Like you can't get rid of it, and you can't
Speaker 2: get rid of.
Speaker 1: It anxiety anxiety, but you can take as stress relief
Speaker 1: medication for the anxiety, like you don't have.
Speaker 2: Toure them hate that headache called.
Speaker 1: I hate that headache. I had a migraine actually, speaking
Speaker 1: of I haven't even touched on this. So on my birthday,
Speaker 1: my actual birthday, I got to migrain So literally my
Speaker 1: whole thirty first birthday I spent in bed. I went
Speaker 1: to my hair dresser's, got my hair blowwave for me
Speaker 1: to then lie in bed. And then the next day
Speaker 1: I woke up and I had a UTI, So I
Speaker 1: don't know what is going on with my body. I
Speaker 1: spoke to you guys about how I was on this
Speaker 1: like health journey. I literally didn't have a UTI for
Speaker 1: the whole year, and then all of a sudden, I
Speaker 1: go to Hamilton Island get one UTI, and since then
Speaker 1: it's been downhill, downhill, Like what is wrong with my body?
Speaker 1: It actually concerns me, Like I think about it and I'm.
Speaker 2: Like fuck, like do you reckon me to get that surgery?
Speaker 1: What the wee whole opening surgery maybe, I mean, fuck,
Speaker 1: I will take anything. At this point, that's like like seriously,
Speaker 1: like it actually is a concern of mine. I'm like,
Speaker 1: imagine if I was to one day get pregnant and
Speaker 1: I just have all these.
Speaker 2: Like would you get UTIs while being pregnant?
Speaker 1: Well, I mean if I did, are you allowed to
Speaker 1: take antibiotics? Like you know, there's lots of there's lots
Speaker 1: of questions question marks around that. It's just it's it
Speaker 1: does give me a lot of anxiety.
Speaker 2: I said that it might be the underwear you're wearing.
Speaker 1: Like yeah, Matt said that to me, and I was like,
Speaker 1: he's no, what did I say? It goes? Maybe you
Speaker 1: should change your underwear And I was like, excuse, that's right,
Speaker 1: Like you think I don't change my underwear.
Speaker 2: He then then I had to recorrect myself and I
Speaker 2: was like, no, change like the material or like the
Speaker 2: way maybe the G strings. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So we were thinking, like and when I say
Speaker 1: we were thinking, Matt said it and I was like,
Speaker 1: maybe I should go from G string because I'm a
Speaker 1: G string. Were like, I don't wear anything else. If
Speaker 1: I move into like nanny underwear, not nanny underwear, but
Speaker 1: what would you call it, like a full brief underwear? Well, yeah, like.
Speaker 2: Underwear and stirring orton need proper. Yeah, maybe it's the
Speaker 2: fabric software or something using as well.
Speaker 1: I just feel like more like and this is like
Speaker 1: a random chat, like I feel more comfortable in a
Speaker 1: G string.
Speaker 2: Like it's just like I don't know any girl that
Speaker 2: really isn't well that I've known that just always wear
Speaker 2: g strings.
Speaker 1: And then it's like so annoying, like wearing nanny underwear
Speaker 1: not nanny. I'm gonna start stop calling them nanny is
Speaker 1: I call them back like what I call them pid
Speaker 1: like nanny underwear for like when I'm on my period,
Speaker 1: I'll wear them because like obviously you know, yeah, if
Speaker 1: I decide to wear a pat at night or something,
Speaker 1: I'll just.
Speaker 2: Call it normal underwear brief.
Speaker 1: So yeah, like just no, not trunks.
Speaker 2: Not tidy whities anyway, anyway, I maybe that there is
Speaker 2: something in that, and like at this point, like I'll
Speaker 2: do anything like I said, could be the fabric, softignre
Speaker 2: or something you're using as well, that's not it's sucking
Speaker 2: up your pH Is that what causes them?
Speaker 1: No, it's about it's about like bacteria getting into your
Speaker 1: week hole than we like that. I don't know which
Speaker 1: can happen during sex, but I wee straight after sex.
Speaker 1: I even shower after sex because the doctor said that
Speaker 1: that's like the best way to make sure that you
Speaker 1: don't get a UTI, even if it's.
Speaker 2: Like the middle of the night, sort of like tough
Speaker 2: on the shoulder, hoke in the back, you get up
Speaker 2: and you get up and shower after.
Speaker 1: Them, hoak in the back, You sicker? What is wrong
Speaker 1: with you?
Speaker 2: You initiate it when you're both asleep.
Speaker 1: I mean having like doing like having sex during like
Speaker 1: your sleep is actually like kind of fun.
Speaker 2: It's the best. It's one of the best.
Speaker 1: It's not one of the best, but it's like it's good.
Speaker 1: And then you're like, did that happen?
Speaker 2: Well, Hotel sex is probably up there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Hotel sex is the vibe.
Speaker 2: And it's the best. You know that you're just those
Speaker 2: four walls don't have to have to see you again.
Speaker 2: You can let them see things, and they're probably seeing
Speaker 2: worse to be fair, what you're about to you just
Speaker 2: like go for goal.
Speaker 1: You're just loud as they come in a hotel room.
Speaker 2: Yeah, hotel. Sex is different, gravy.
Speaker 1: I think you've heard me having sex before?
Speaker 2: When Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, that's right. Did I say something? Yeah? Yeah, place. Look,
Speaker 2: this is a weird chat speaking of anxiety. I actually
Speaker 2: on the weekend. I actually got up early because I
Speaker 2: had my brother's first game of football.
Speaker 1: How was that?
Speaker 2: Look? Look, I love good quality football, hundred ninees play.
Speaker 2: It's not the best. There was some good passages of play,
Speaker 2: Don't get me wrong.
Speaker 1: How did your brother do?
Speaker 2: It was great? It was his first game, so he
Speaker 2: was a bit like.
Speaker 1: Say, he was good, right now?
Speaker 2: He was good for his first game. He was good.
Speaker 2: I mean he could have gone in harder to get
Speaker 2: the ball. He had a good kick on him.
Speaker 1: Did you give him this feedback after the game?
Speaker 2: Oh no, no, I'll save it for when he's not
Speaker 2: and I'll let him just run around here. But I
Speaker 2: would like to jump on this platform and use this
Speaker 2: to have a formal apology. I got a bit carried
Speaker 2: away in the heat of the moment of the game
Speaker 2: with who the opposition the umpires. But I would like
Speaker 2: to start by apologizing to number thirty three from the
Speaker 2: Ashy red Backs. You are not a magoo.
Speaker 1: Did you call a child a magoo? Are you okay?
Speaker 2: I said, and that was a clear push in the
Speaker 2: back and it should have been paid. But I'm sorry
Speaker 2: for calling you that. Also like to apologize to the
Speaker 2: umpire Oh my god, that you're actually not You do
Speaker 2: not need to go get your eyes checked. I'm sorry
Speaker 2: if this is just your volunteering, but maybe get someone
Speaker 2: that knows the rules of AFL.
Speaker 1: Nah. I'm actually a.
Speaker 2: Passionate fan for the game and for my brother, and
Speaker 2: if someone's going to push him in the back, I'm
Speaker 2: going to get Rev Duff.
Speaker 1: It's under ni. You need to take a deep, deep breath.
Speaker 1: You need to take a long, hard look at yourself.
Speaker 2: Your brother get pushed in the back, wouldn't you get
Speaker 2: RAS's for fun? They're nine, They don't even keep score.
Speaker 1: Exactly, if they're not even keeping school, what are you
Speaker 1: getting all up and about about? You know what? To
Speaker 1: be fair, Well, okay, you can keep score on your own.
Speaker 1: But the thing is is I have noticed that you
Speaker 1: do somewhat get mildly aggressive whilst driving. So hearing you
Speaker 1: talk about.
Speaker 2: Aggressive driving, you know what, I was so good at
Speaker 2: road rage for so long. It is no because I'm
Speaker 2: getting older, I'm getting grumpier.
Speaker 1: No, you're twenty seven. I can absolutely not accept that.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to accept that you can't be so
Speaker 1: good at road rage. You just have to shut up
Speaker 1: and accept that people on the road are at different
Speaker 1: skill sets, are driving, and never to let anyone disturb
Speaker 1: your peace. That's my recommendation to you.
Speaker 2: Don't let anyone. Okay, So the next.
Speaker 1: Time, especially in child's football.
Speaker 2: So next time I see my brother get clearly pushed
Speaker 2: in the.
Speaker 1: Back, breath in through the nose, out through the mouth,
Speaker 1: do not say anything disrespectful to anyone, especially not the
Speaker 1: fucking umpire. What do you think this is? Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: I mean it's just I just I can't believe it.
Speaker 2: I get you into my footy. I love my brother,
Speaker 2: I love watching footy. I love, you know, just watching
Speaker 2: a fair game of football.
Speaker 1: Jeez, Louise, guys, hit us up on our Facebook page.
Speaker 1: I think we need to give a mat a taste
Speaker 1: of some medicine because I just think it's not right.
Speaker 1: You can't. You can't go to a children's game of
Speaker 1: football and get up and about.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I love to see it. The coach
Speaker 2: like people are laughing, like it's a good game of football.
Speaker 1: But it's not about you.
Speaker 2: Is it about getting a laugh, about getting a pop
Speaker 2: from everyone watching? It's about, you know, focusing on the game.
Speaker 1: Okay, really quickly, I have a recommendation. It was yesterday
Speaker 1: that me and Michael Binge watched a show highly recommend
Speaker 1: It was actually recommended by my brother to my parents.
Speaker 1: My parents watched it and then they recommended it to
Speaker 1: Michael and I and we watched six episodes yesterday during
Speaker 1: our little hangover.
Speaker 2: Is that a full season series?
Speaker 1: No, there's actually like ten episodes. But it's it's healthy,
Speaker 1: it's amazing. It's called The Night Agent. Incredible, it's action packed.
Speaker 1: I'm actually not a big action person, but I could
Speaker 1: definitely get around it.
Speaker 2: It's on Netflix. Yeah, Netflix, I've seen it come up.
Speaker 2: He must suggested.
Speaker 1: It's like number three in TV shows at the moment.
Speaker 2: Have you seen The Bodyguard on Netflix? It's sort of
Speaker 2: like that.
Speaker 1: It's something like that, Yes.
Speaker 2: And I liked that, so maybe I have to give
Speaker 2: it a whirl.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm just watching movies at the moment. I'm not investing
Speaker 2: in TV shows.
Speaker 1: Just trust me. I wasn't either, And here I am
Speaker 1: giving the biggest recommendation to you. Also, I finished watching
Speaker 1: the show that I recommended last week, which was My
Speaker 1: Strowne Blue. Oh my god, Like I just wanted to
Speaker 1: discuss it so badly on the podcast. Did you ever
Speaker 1: get around to watching that?
Speaker 2: No? I haven't, I haven't. You were speaking about it
Speaker 2: at your birthday and you sort of got me convinced
Speaker 2: to watch it.
Speaker 1: It's also just so good because like, obviously you're coming
Speaker 1: to my wedding in corfuod Grease, and some of it
Speaker 1: is film there, so it's like nice to see kind
Speaker 1: of the area. It's also filmed in Paksos, and Michael
Speaker 1: and I were talking about the fact that we're going
Speaker 1: to Greece and August and we were like, fuck it,
Speaker 1: should we go to Paksos just because we've seen how
Speaker 1: beautiful it is there and like they take boats out
Speaker 1: together and like you know, makes sweet love on the boats.
Speaker 2: Anyway, is it soft porn?
Speaker 1: Is it good? Yeah? Yeah, there's some you see some stuff.
Speaker 2: What stuff, you know, a bit of boom.
Speaker 1: It's it's pretty hot. It's actually very like you know
Speaker 1: how when you like watch a seamy sex scene and
Speaker 1: then your sex life like really.
Speaker 2: Like gets you in the mood.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that happens in my Stone Blue.
Speaker 2: Definitely give it a whirl then definitely definitely, you know
Speaker 2: if I do it in the next week.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, on that note, let's jump into our hot line. Hello,
Speaker 1: you've reached Anna and Matt.
Speaker 2: We can't get to the phone right now, but.
Speaker 1: Please leave us a message on our hotline after the beep.
Speaker 2: Okay, So this first hot line is anonymous.
Speaker 4: Hello Matt, Anna, I've been on your show before in
Speaker 4: the Worst Date Ever hot line. I just wanted to
Speaker 4: share another that I had. So before I met my
Speaker 4: current partner, I was using dating sites, specifically Tinder, and
Speaker 4: I was talking to a lot of people, like a lot,
Speaker 4: And unfortunately I didn't listen to what you learn in school,
Speaker 4: and I didn't listen to what your parents tell you,
Speaker 4: and I was like a bit of late to the game.
Speaker 4: So I first had sex when I was twenty so
Speaker 4: almost twenty one, so I felt a bit behind on
Speaker 4: it at all. So when it came to talking to guys,
Speaker 4: I had never had a boyfriend.
Speaker 3: And it was all new to me, so I kind
Speaker 3: of went overboard. I loved the attention.
Speaker 4: I loved talking to hyps of people, and then after
Speaker 4: a while, like after meeting people, you know, having one
Speaker 4: night stand, I would always feel pretty shitty about myself.
Speaker 4: Ultimate goal was to find a boyfriend. But I just
Speaker 4: went about it the wrong way. And I think that
Speaker 4: a lot of young women like don't understand like that
Speaker 4: you can lose respect for yourself pretty quickly because that
Speaker 4: attention feels great. But I wasn't happy in myself. But anyway,
Speaker 4: I didn't respect myself enough. I was meeting heaps of
Speaker 4: people for the wrong reasons, and I justified it that
Speaker 4: I was going to find someone.
Speaker 3: And luckily when I met my partner, we've been together
Speaker 3: a year.
Speaker 4: Look, I spoke a lot about this because his friend
Speaker 4: had called him and said that him and a few
Speaker 4: guys from their cricket group were talking and like I'd
Speaker 4: sent nudes to them or something, and so A spoken
Speaker 4: to him about this earlier on, because I did talk
Speaker 4: to a lot of people. Anyway, that was sort of
Speaker 4: over with My partner and I have a discussion and
Speaker 4: we talked it through and he's been really supportive of me.
Speaker 4: And then a couple of weeks ago, there was a
Speaker 4: fake account on a Facebook that added him with my
Speaker 4: name and it added me as well, but I didn't
Speaker 4: add a bag and it sent him a message saying, hey,
Speaker 4: do you want my pictures? And I'm not sure the
Speaker 4: conversation he had with them. He told me that someone
Speaker 4: had message and then he would deal with it. I
Speaker 4: know they said that they were going to put my
Speaker 4: pictures on porn hum if he tried to do anything
Speaker 4: about it. And I don't know the rest of the conversation,
Speaker 4: but basically my partner dealt with it, and then this
Speaker 4: person deleted all the accounts.
Speaker 3: Something changed, and I just want to put out a warding.
Speaker 4: For people because because I don't know who did it,
Speaker 4: I talked to way too many people when I had
Speaker 4: Tinder because it was so accessible and so easy, and
Speaker 4: I just want some awareness around it that no one
Speaker 4: should be respecting themselves. You are amazing, You do deserve
Speaker 4: someone great, And if you've ever felt like you're not
Speaker 4: getting anywhere with dating sites, just delete them.
Speaker 3: Work on yourself first. Know you're worth and.
Speaker 4: Know that no matter what, you shouldn't be putting yourself
Speaker 4: in dangerous situations. You deserve to go on dates and
Speaker 4: try and find the one. There are amazing people out there.
Speaker 4: I have found someone so amazing, and I am so
Speaker 4: incredibly lucky. And despite all of this that he's heard
Speaker 4: about my past, he's still here. So don't settle for
Speaker 4: anything less and don't put yourself out there just because
Speaker 4: you think that you will never find anyone and all
Speaker 4: that guys want is sex, because a lot of people
Speaker 4: on Tinder do just want that.
Speaker 3: There are people out there who are better.
Speaker 1: Wow, what a powerful This is probably the most powerful
Speaker 1: word smell we've had. Thank you so much for sending
Speaker 1: that in.
Speaker 2: First of all, I agree completely with what she's saying
Speaker 2: about the one night stand, So like I was under
Speaker 2: the mentality as well, like one night stance, like you know,
Speaker 2: quantity over quality for a lot of my life, and
Speaker 2: I'm now under the opinion of nah, like you don't
Speaker 2: need to do that, You don't need that validation or
Speaker 2: like is it reassurance or valid I think it's more
Speaker 2: validation from just random people, like random girls, random guys,
Speaker 2: whoever you're sleeping with, because like you would wake up
Speaker 2: the next day and nine times out of ten, they're
Speaker 2: leaving pretty quickly if they haven't already left, and you're
Speaker 2: just left there being like, well, fuck, like yeah, now
Speaker 2: what sort of thing you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: And you question yourself and you ask yourself, am I
Speaker 1: good enough? Like what did I do wrong? Et cetera,
Speaker 1: et cetera, Yeah, I think.
Speaker 2: It, don't get me wrong. Like a one night stand
Speaker 2: can be fun here and there, but like after a while,
Speaker 2: if you're doing them over and over again and you're
Speaker 2: and you're actually actively trying to find a partner, yeah,
Speaker 2: and you're looking in the wrong places. You're looking in
Speaker 2: low value places.
Speaker 1: You're also sending the universe the wrong signals of what
Speaker 1: you want because you're kind of basically saying that you
Speaker 1: want something quick and fun and easy and like I'm
Speaker 1: like single and young, world and free. But then you're
Speaker 1: wanting something with substance and something that would take some
Speaker 1: time to like invest in and curate.
Speaker 2: So like sleeping with just sur random persons, like it works,
Speaker 2: and sometimes it works, but the chances are that that
Speaker 2: person is looking for one night stand as well, taking
Speaker 2: from a guy's opinion, they're not wanting anything more. So
Speaker 2: you're looking in low value places for low value experiences,
Speaker 2: but they could Like when I say low value, I
Speaker 2: mean like it's not going to get used. It doesn't
Speaker 2: serve you, serve you in the long run. It's a
Speaker 2: quick fix of our serotonin or dopamine. And it's good,
Speaker 2: like I said, if people want to do that, they hand.
Speaker 2: But if you're looking for, like the girl said, a
Speaker 2: real relationship and further with someone, it's just not going
Speaker 2: to happen doing that.
Speaker 1: I don't feel it's so hard though as well, right
Speaker 1: because like you know, when you are single, you are
Speaker 1: kind of chasing that serotonin or dopamine here, Like you
Speaker 1: do need it. It's part of like being human. We
Speaker 1: all search for it and want it some more than others.
Speaker 1: And I think, like her message is so great to
Speaker 1: remind people to always value yourself and you know, put
Speaker 1: yourself first because like she said, if you, you know,
Speaker 1: sleep with one too many people, deep down inside, it
Speaker 1: can feel a little empty, and it can you do,
Speaker 1: become a bit of a shell of yourself. And if
Speaker 1: you don't feel respected by other people, not that other
Speaker 1: people's opinions of you should have any you know, and
Speaker 1: it should affect yourself steam or self respect. But like
Speaker 1: it does kind of.
Speaker 2: Affect it in a way, she did say, and that
Speaker 2: your partner now is probably a stronger man than I am.
Speaker 2: She said that he's teammates of have nudes of her.
Speaker 1: That's a hard one.
Speaker 2: He's a bigger man than I am to accept that.
Speaker 1: You don't think you could accept that you've got like
Speaker 1: your teammates the thing if you meet that. I think
Speaker 1: if you meet the like the one, the person who
Speaker 1: you're going to send forever with and maybe you maybe
Speaker 1: you would accept it. Who's to say that you wouldn't.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, it's not an ideal situation. And like, also,
Speaker 1: just like a PSA to anyone listening, like, be very
Speaker 1: careful if you if you are like wanting to send nudes,
Speaker 1: be very careful because once someone has these images of you,
Speaker 1: you can't take them back, and you don't know who
Speaker 1: they've sent it to. If everyone sends that image to
Speaker 1: just one person, just one, well that would be everyone,
Speaker 1: then it news travels fast, basically. I mean, I've never
Speaker 1: sent a nude with my face in it, so like
Speaker 1: even a boyfriend, like I remember my first ex boyfriend
Speaker 1: used to hound me for news. Hound me, please send
Speaker 1: me a nude. I really like want to have a
Speaker 1: picture of you on my phone, And I would be like, no,
Speaker 1: you get to fucking experience a real life thing. You're welcome,
Speaker 1: and like, no, you're not going to have an image
Speaker 1: of me, And like, I'm so glad that my younger
Speaker 1: self did that because like just even thinking about like
Speaker 1: where could that image have gone? Wow, it's scary stuff.
Speaker 2: Someone to have. Yeah, and I agree that, like somebody
Speaker 2: the page, the Facebook page like saying that I put
Speaker 2: it on porn hub.
Speaker 1: It's very scary stuff. It's illegal, legal totally, it's.
Speaker 2: A legal seek legal advice if somebody does that to you, because.
Speaker 1: That's revenge porn.
Speaker 2: Is revenge porn it is. Yeah. My My opinion though,
Speaker 2: is like who would want to if they had a
Speaker 2: Fu's just respect. I would never send something on if
Speaker 2: someone sent me on like that's just fucked. I think
Speaker 2: it's just respect, just genuine.
Speaker 1: How many people have dick pics from you with your
Speaker 1: faces off, face with your face in it? Yeah, I couldn't.
Speaker 2: Just I don't know if I've done face to my exes.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's your maybe.
Speaker 2: It's my axes, yeah, but not random. No, I don't
Speaker 2: really go out of my way to send one.
Speaker 1: Like what, Yeah, there's really no need to send them
Speaker 1: like I mean personally, like to our whar's your head out? Fam?
Speaker 1: I would probably just say don't send them like there's
Speaker 1: really no need if you really feel like it's necessary,
Speaker 1: at least at a bare minimum, do not have your
Speaker 1: face in them, because it's very dangerous.
Speaker 2: A circumstantial circumstances. Circumstantial, Yeah, circumstances, you know what I'm
Speaker 2: trying to say. That's way from a serious moments.
Speaker 1: Circumstance like circumstantial.
Speaker 2: That they should. You should judge it like who the
Speaker 2: person is, not to anyone, Just off like Tinder, and
Speaker 2: don't feel pressured into sending them either. Okay, So our
Speaker 2: next caller on the hot line is Annie.
Speaker 5: Hi, Matt and I have a weird first date story.
Speaker 5: So I was on Camper's job and this old woman
Speaker 5: who I were twe wanted to set me up with
Speaker 5: her son. So I said yes because she was a
Speaker 5: nice person, and so he abided me over to his
Speaker 5: place of for dinner. And not only I wouldn't do
Speaker 5: that for a first date to a stranger, but his mum, so.
Speaker 1: I forget it was fine.
Speaker 5: Anyway, cut to the first date, I rock up at
Speaker 5: his house and turns out he still lives at home,
Speaker 5: and so I had dinner with him and my colleague
Speaker 5: on our first dake.
Speaker 1: We didn't go out again. That's the idea.
Speaker 2: This goes back to the other hotline as well. And
Speaker 2: I have a very strong opinion on this. Don't ship
Speaker 2: where you eat. Yeah, keep it awkward, Yeah, like don't
Speaker 2: just yeah, Like I've always said, it's like, don't are
Speaker 2: you have a friends with like single friends, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean? Just don't know what expand out from
Speaker 2: people you sort of know, because it can make for fuck.
Speaker 2: Like imagine going to work after having dinner with your
Speaker 2: colleague and her son that was meant to be a date.
Speaker 1: There's billions of people in the world. Steer far away
Speaker 1: from people in your close circles like your work friends,
Speaker 1: your friendship.
Speaker 2: Groups, yeah, your friend's.
Speaker 1: Friends, your friends, your friends as boyfriends's group that doesn't
Speaker 1: need to be touched either.
Speaker 2: Like your siblings, boyfriends. Like you know, just just let it,
Speaker 2: like let it expand your horizon.
Speaker 1: And how fun is it when you meet someone and
Speaker 1: like they don't know anyone that you know, and you
Speaker 1: just get to totally form your own perception of them
Speaker 1: and just like really get to know them without like
Speaker 1: other people's like input. Like I remember once I met
Speaker 1: this guy and he had a very bad reputation, terrible
Speaker 1: reputation in fact, and when I first went on a
Speaker 1: date with him, I probably had about three or four
Speaker 1: girls being like watch out for him. He's the biggest
Speaker 1: fuck boy. He's gonna fuck you over. He does this
Speaker 1: on dates, he does that on dates, and like there
Speaker 1: was so much like cloudiness around him, and I think
Speaker 1: I actually remember bringing it to his attention, and I
Speaker 1: was just like, look, don't have the best reputation, Like
Speaker 1: a lot of people are telling me to avoid you,
Speaker 1: and he was like, you know, I think it was
Speaker 1: part of his like little you know, charm, being like
Speaker 1: so shocked that people would say that, Oh my god,
Speaker 1: what they would say that about me. I can't believe it. Now,
Speaker 1: in hindsight, I realized that they were all very very correct.
Speaker 1: But in the same breath, it's nice to meet someone
Speaker 1: where you don't have to listen.
Speaker 2: To the opinions form your own.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you formulate your own opinion of someone. And I
Speaker 1: think as well, like we've brought We've spoken about it
Speaker 1: on the podcast before. If you say to someone like,
Speaker 1: oh are you a fuck boy. Well, then in their
Speaker 1: mind they're going to be like, well, she thinks I'm
Speaker 1: a fuck boy, so I might as well act like one.
Speaker 1: Whereas like if you kind of have high expectations of
Speaker 1: someone like oh, you're an amazing guy, then in their
Speaker 1: mind they go, oh, she thinks I'm an amazing guy,
Speaker 1: so I'm going to show her how much of an
Speaker 1: amazing guy I can really be.
Speaker 2: Also, you can get a whole new group of friends,
Speaker 2: a whole new like people you've ever met before, and
Speaker 2: you're just learning new things.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just be careful that they're not a serial killer.
Speaker 2: You know, I always send it into the podcast if
Speaker 2: you want to hear the story.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, if they're a serial killer, they'll probably
Speaker 1: be dead, then it's probably not. But no, like obviously,
Speaker 1: like with dating, obviously you have to be safe and
Speaker 1: like always you know, have people know where you are.
Speaker 1: It just goes without saying. But I think sometimes it's
Speaker 1: good to be reminded.
Speaker 2: The world is a massive place. There's heap, Like you said,
Speaker 2: billions of people out there.
Speaker 1: Some of them are a bit so.
Speaker 2: Let's like factor it down to maybe half a billion.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I just think that like maybe like maybe
Speaker 2: it could have been differently, what.
Speaker 1: Do you say, don't shoot where you eat? Don't that's
Speaker 1: they're basically our advice to you, and like you know,
Speaker 1: it's obviously their worst dating story.
Speaker 2: So coming in to work and you have to see
Speaker 2: that lady like that would be so.
Speaker 1: And also when it doesn't work out or not when
Speaker 1: but if it doesn't work out, that's just uncomfortable. And
Speaker 1: then when you have a new partner and you like
Speaker 1: start talking about it at work and she ever hears
Speaker 1: it and then she relates it back to the guy, or.
Speaker 2: If you have to put your partner in a situation
Speaker 2: in your new partner and then they're around people that
Speaker 2: you've dated before, like that makes for an awkward situation.
Speaker 1: Too close to home? Yeah, shot out? Yeah, Okay, guys,
Speaker 1: that's all we have time for on today's hot Line.
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