1
00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:14,041
Speaker 1: Apologie Production, Growing Glows Twelve Days of Christmas.

2
00:00:14,361 --> 00:00:16,721
Speaker 2: Welcome back to Grow and Glow. It's our final day

3
00:00:16,881 --> 00:00:20,000
Speaker 2: of the Twelve Days of Christmas. I've got Katie, my

4
00:00:20,041 --> 00:00:21,561
Speaker 2: producer here. Thanks for joining me.

5
00:00:21,681 --> 00:00:22,800
Speaker 1: Thank you for having me.

6
00:00:23,161 --> 00:00:25,401
Speaker 2: It's like the last episode of the Twelve Days of Christmas,

7
00:00:25,401 --> 00:00:28,561
Speaker 2: but the last episode of Growing Glow. Yes, out of

8
00:00:28,561 --> 00:00:31,921
Speaker 2: all the twelve Days of Christmas, what's been your favorite episode?

9
00:00:32,161 --> 00:00:35,441
Speaker 1: My favorite episode was with Carlia Lake.

10
00:00:35,481 --> 00:00:36,961
Speaker 2: True. Yes, I knew you're going to say that.

11
00:00:37,241 --> 00:00:41,961
Speaker 1: Thanks worker. Yeah, She's so interesting. I could literally talk

12
00:00:42,001 --> 00:00:42,640
Speaker 1: to her all day.

13
00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:45,200
Speaker 2: I love that she's such an open book, Like she

14
00:00:45,281 --> 00:00:47,480
Speaker 2: literally answered all the questions I had, and she was

15
00:00:47,521 --> 00:00:49,040
Speaker 2: so free to talk about it.

16
00:00:49,081 --> 00:00:51,161
Speaker 1: And I think as a woman as well, like I

17
00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:54,200
Speaker 1: think there's a kind of assumption that you're like, oh, no,

18
00:00:54,441 --> 00:00:56,641
Speaker 1: that would be awful, But then when you hear a talk,

19
00:00:56,921 --> 00:00:58,561
Speaker 1: there's kind of a part of me that's.

20
00:00:58,441 --> 00:01:03,481
Speaker 2: Like, oh, I know, it sounds exciting. Yeah, especially because

21
00:01:03,521 --> 00:01:05,481
Speaker 2: she is very picky on her client and she can

22
00:01:05,481 --> 00:01:07,441
Speaker 2: literally look up their background, look what they look like.

23
00:01:07,521 --> 00:01:10,080
Speaker 2: She's really investigate who she's going to go and spend

24
00:01:10,121 --> 00:01:12,080
Speaker 2: time with. Blew my mind.

25
00:01:12,441 --> 00:01:14,961
Speaker 1: How little sex she actually has though. Yeah. It's a

26
00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:18,280
Speaker 1: lot about connection, yeah, and about conversations crazy, and about

27
00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:21,281
Speaker 1: men being heard, which is it's so interesting because we

28
00:01:21,321 --> 00:01:22,520
Speaker 1: think that men don't need that.

29
00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:26,681
Speaker 2: I so do. Yeah, yeah, alrighty, well let's get into it.

30
00:01:26,721 --> 00:01:28,921
Speaker 2: I thought we'd start off today's episode with ins and out,

31
00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:31,360
Speaker 2: so things that we want to bring in too twenty

32
00:01:31,441 --> 00:01:33,601
Speaker 2: twenty five and things you want to say goodbye to.

33
00:01:33,961 --> 00:01:37,640
Speaker 2: So my one is more fun and less pressure and

34
00:01:37,761 --> 00:01:40,440
Speaker 2: every day living. A lot more fun brought into my

35
00:01:40,481 --> 00:01:42,841
Speaker 2: everyday life. And if it doesn't bring me joy and

36
00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:45,361
Speaker 2: make me excited for it, then it's just not meant

37
00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:47,401
Speaker 2: for me. I feel like I've been in business for

38
00:01:47,441 --> 00:01:49,241
Speaker 2: a very long time and I feel like you have

39
00:01:49,321 --> 00:01:51,481
Speaker 2: to do things you don't want to do. But I'm

40
00:01:51,521 --> 00:01:54,041
Speaker 2: in this place now, maybe call me privilege where I

41
00:01:54,121 --> 00:01:56,001
Speaker 2: actually get to choose what I do and where I

42
00:01:56,001 --> 00:01:57,600
Speaker 2: spend my time, and I want it to be fun.

43
00:01:57,761 --> 00:01:57,961
Speaker 1: Yeah.

44
00:01:58,081 --> 00:01:59,801
Speaker 2: And that's why I'm putting so much into this podcast,

45
00:01:59,801 --> 00:02:02,641
Speaker 2: because I literally love coming up here so much and

46
00:02:02,681 --> 00:02:05,241
Speaker 2: I go back home just so excited and like all

47
00:02:05,241 --> 00:02:07,681
Speaker 2: this inspired energy, and I want more of that.

48
00:02:07,801 --> 00:02:10,121
Speaker 1: I love the quote do what you love and the

49
00:02:10,201 --> 00:02:12,961
Speaker 1: money will come. So true, And I totally get you know,

50
00:02:13,121 --> 00:02:16,321
Speaker 1: we have bills to pay and kids to feed and

51
00:02:16,361 --> 00:02:18,601
Speaker 1: all the rest of it. But yeah, do what you

52
00:02:18,641 --> 00:02:20,481
Speaker 1: love and the money will come. I'm such a believer

53
00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:21,881
Speaker 1: in that. And I say that to my kids as

54
00:02:21,881 --> 00:02:24,041
Speaker 1: well when they say, oh, you know the teachers at school,

55
00:02:24,121 --> 00:02:25,881
Speaker 1: so you got to have a backup plan, And I'm like,

56
00:02:26,121 --> 00:02:29,120
Speaker 1: do what you love. Yeah, like your backup plan you

57
00:02:29,481 --> 00:02:33,001
Speaker 1: most probably won't need if you're so passionate about what

58
00:02:33,001 --> 00:02:33,440
Speaker 1: you're doing.

59
00:02:33,921 --> 00:02:36,081
Speaker 2: And isn't the dream to be able to do something

60
00:02:36,081 --> 00:02:38,441
Speaker 2: you love and make amazing money off it. I would

61
00:02:38,481 --> 00:02:40,641
Speaker 2: hate to be working in nine to five just to

62
00:02:40,641 --> 00:02:42,241
Speaker 2: pay my bills. But that's what I got taught in

63
00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:44,081
Speaker 2: school as well. It's like you go to UNI or

64
00:02:44,121 --> 00:02:45,881
Speaker 2: you get a job to pay your bills. That's life.

65
00:02:46,441 --> 00:02:49,561
Speaker 1: But no, look at things like Facebook. Like when Mark

66
00:02:49,641 --> 00:02:51,921
Speaker 1: Zuckerberg started up Facebook, he didn't know how he was

67
00:02:51,921 --> 00:02:54,721
Speaker 1: going to monetize it. He had a passion for what

68
00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:56,601
Speaker 1: he was doing. He knew that people were going to

69
00:02:56,680 --> 00:03:00,361
Speaker 1: use it and love it, and then them monetizing came later.

70
00:03:00,641 --> 00:03:03,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, so cool. So that's my inn. My out is

71
00:03:03,881 --> 00:03:07,001
Speaker 2: abandoning myself. I'm not suppressing or allowing myself to have

72
00:03:07,041 --> 00:03:10,481
Speaker 2: the full experiences, even if it's uncomfortable and no more distracting.

73
00:03:10,601 --> 00:03:12,801
Speaker 2: So what I mean by that is I spoke about

74
00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:15,641
Speaker 2: it in a previous episode. I realized when I was

75
00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:19,601
Speaker 2: feeling something, I would distract myself away from it through food,

76
00:03:20,001 --> 00:03:23,520
Speaker 2: through scrolling, or through being busy because it just got

77
00:03:23,561 --> 00:03:25,761
Speaker 2: so uncomfortable, or the kids were there. I just like,

78
00:03:26,121 --> 00:03:28,641
Speaker 2: do you know what to do with all these heavier emotions?

79
00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:31,481
Speaker 2: And I worked three months with a life coach, and

80
00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:34,881
Speaker 2: she's a feminine body life coach, and I've just learned

81
00:03:35,081 --> 00:03:37,881
Speaker 2: tools now how to soothe myself in those moments to

82
00:03:38,001 --> 00:03:41,081
Speaker 2: not have to carry them around so heavily. So now

83
00:03:41,081 --> 00:03:43,121
Speaker 2: when I feel something, I fully allow myself to have

84
00:03:43,201 --> 00:03:45,721
Speaker 2: the whole experience. But I don't sit there either. And

85
00:03:45,761 --> 00:03:47,681
Speaker 2: if I don't, if I go to my phone, or

86
00:03:47,721 --> 00:03:50,440
Speaker 2: if I go and have a snack or get into work,

87
00:03:50,441 --> 00:03:53,481
Speaker 2: I'm literally abandoning myself. I'm not only abandoning myself as

88
00:03:53,481 --> 00:03:55,801
Speaker 2: an full grown a woman, I'm abanding my inner child

89
00:03:55,841 --> 00:03:57,641
Speaker 2: as well. I look at my kids, I'm like, I

90
00:03:57,681 --> 00:03:59,361
Speaker 2: would never do that to them, So why am I

91
00:03:59,401 --> 00:04:01,881
Speaker 2: doing that to myself. So that's out, like, I'm not

92
00:04:01,881 --> 00:04:02,521
Speaker 2: doing that anymore.

93
00:04:02,601 --> 00:04:05,441
Speaker 1: Feel the feels it's so important. It's like when we

94
00:04:05,041 --> 00:04:09,401
Speaker 1: were kids it was don't cry, stop crying. Now it's

95
00:04:09,401 --> 00:04:11,281
Speaker 1: like we know how important it is to cry and

96
00:04:11,361 --> 00:04:13,241
Speaker 1: let all of that out, and even the horrible feelings,

97
00:04:13,281 --> 00:04:16,161
Speaker 1: the yucky feelings that things like the jealousy or the

98
00:04:16,361 --> 00:04:18,961
Speaker 1: y you do your own head in going that's not

99
00:04:19,001 --> 00:04:21,401
Speaker 1: a feeling that I should be feeling, Yes.

100
00:04:21,201 --> 00:04:24,880
Speaker 2: It is. It's valid. We all feel like that sometimes,

101
00:04:25,361 --> 00:04:27,241
Speaker 2: and if it doesn't come up, if you put shame

102
00:04:27,281 --> 00:04:29,641
Speaker 2: around it and you push it down, it will come up.

103
00:04:29,721 --> 00:04:31,520
Speaker 2: It will just come up in a really ugly way

104
00:04:31,561 --> 00:04:33,121
Speaker 2: that you're not proud of. You'll take it out on

105
00:04:33,161 --> 00:04:35,881
Speaker 2: someone and you'll lash out. You'll have a big explosion.

106
00:04:35,961 --> 00:04:38,281
Speaker 2: You'll be like, holy shit, what was that? But it's

107
00:04:38,281 --> 00:04:40,200
Speaker 2: because you've suppressed and shamed. If you just bring it

108
00:04:40,281 --> 00:04:42,401
Speaker 2: up and allow it to be there and still love

109
00:04:42,401 --> 00:04:45,681
Speaker 2: on yourself, it moves a lot quicker and you just

110
00:04:45,721 --> 00:04:47,520
Speaker 2: get to get it out of your system. Doesn't mean

111
00:04:47,761 --> 00:04:49,841
Speaker 2: that you are a jealous person. It's you are having

112
00:04:49,841 --> 00:04:53,241
Speaker 2: feelings of jealousy, and we all experience that yes, it's normal,

113
00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:54,440
Speaker 2: all right, what's your in and out?

114
00:04:55,121 --> 00:04:59,201
Speaker 1: So my inn is slowing down, So not feeling like

115
00:04:59,241 --> 00:05:01,121
Speaker 1: you have to hustle all the time, you have to

116
00:05:01,161 --> 00:05:04,721
Speaker 1: work all the time, allowing yourself to be slower, to

117
00:05:05,521 --> 00:05:08,320
Speaker 1: not race around having to do a million things and

118
00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:11,681
Speaker 1: actually go to yourself. Is that gonna make my life harder?

119
00:05:11,721 --> 00:05:14,961
Speaker 1: Right now? With the kids? You go, okay, they have

120
00:05:15,041 --> 00:05:18,841
Speaker 1: to have a nutritious dinner tonight. But if you're rushing

121
00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:21,601
Speaker 1: around doing after school activities and you know that you're

122
00:05:21,641 --> 00:05:26,321
Speaker 1: going to get hardly any time, grab them some over eats. Yeah, like,

123
00:05:26,481 --> 00:05:28,361
Speaker 1: just allow that and instead of giving yourself a hard

124
00:05:28,361 --> 00:05:30,601
Speaker 1: time about it, go okay, is this going to make

125
00:05:30,601 --> 00:05:31,801
Speaker 1: my life easier right now?

126
00:05:31,921 --> 00:05:34,241
Speaker 2: Yes? It is? Okay? Great, or in that moment, it's like,

127
00:05:34,281 --> 00:05:36,281
Speaker 2: what's more important to me? It's connection, It's just being

128
00:05:36,281 --> 00:05:36,880
Speaker 2: with my kids.

129
00:05:37,001 --> 00:05:40,640
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, So slowing down, doing less, not saying

130
00:05:40,681 --> 00:05:42,961
Speaker 1: yes to everything you're invited to, not like it's okay

131
00:05:43,001 --> 00:05:45,401
Speaker 1: to say no, And the reason is I just want

132
00:05:45,401 --> 00:05:47,280
Speaker 1: to be at home in my pajamas time that's okay?

133
00:05:47,521 --> 00:05:51,361
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, what's that saying? The people who matter don't mind.

134
00:05:51,521 --> 00:05:54,281
Speaker 2: The people who mind don't matter. Yes, I love that

135
00:05:54,401 --> 00:05:56,241
Speaker 2: saying because it's so true your true friends like of

136
00:05:56,241 --> 00:05:57,921
Speaker 2: course babes stay home, like how do you?

137
00:05:58,281 --> 00:06:00,121
Speaker 1: I'm being honest as well, not feeling like you need

138
00:06:00,161 --> 00:06:02,761
Speaker 1: to make up an excuse the amount of times you go, oh,

139
00:06:02,801 --> 00:06:06,241
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, I can't do that. My dog is sick,

140
00:06:06,361 --> 00:06:09,601
Speaker 1: you know, like, no, just I've got people and honesty.

141
00:06:09,841 --> 00:06:11,520
Speaker 1: I really don't feel like doing that tonight, but thank

142
00:06:11,521 --> 00:06:12,841
Speaker 1: you so much for inviting me anyway.

143
00:06:13,041 --> 00:06:14,841
Speaker 2: Yeah, one hundred percent. I love that.

144
00:06:15,521 --> 00:06:18,961
Speaker 1: My out is comparing yourself to other people. So instead

145
00:06:19,001 --> 00:06:21,001
Speaker 1: of looking at other people and going, oh I want

146
00:06:21,041 --> 00:06:22,841
Speaker 1: to be like that, or they're doing this, or why

147
00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:27,121
Speaker 1: aren't I at that stage, compare yourself to you last.

148
00:06:26,880 --> 00:06:31,961
Speaker 2: Week, good advice. I love that one. Mine's more Steakcase.

149
00:06:32,241 --> 00:06:35,801
Speaker 2: I said this last year and we really didn't prioritize it.

150
00:06:36,201 --> 00:06:37,760
Speaker 2: I had stay Case coming out to the podcast. But

151
00:06:37,841 --> 00:06:39,681
Speaker 2: for Steve and my kids, I want to just like

152
00:06:39,721 --> 00:06:41,721
Speaker 2: book a farmhouse on a weekend and book an MV

153
00:06:41,841 --> 00:06:44,600
Speaker 2: and b like down the coast, just more little things

154
00:06:44,601 --> 00:06:46,960
Speaker 2: to look forward to to break up the working weeks

155
00:06:47,001 --> 00:06:50,801
Speaker 2: and months. So that's my inn and out caring so

156
00:06:50,921 --> 00:06:53,281
Speaker 2: much of what other people think. I feel like this

157
00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:56,080
Speaker 2: is a gradual thing and every year I do get better,

158
00:06:56,641 --> 00:07:00,361
Speaker 2: but I still have found there's been moments, even particularly lately,

159
00:07:00,481 --> 00:07:02,361
Speaker 2: you know, where people have said false things about me

160
00:07:02,401 --> 00:07:06,801
Speaker 2: online or said really hopeful things. I don't lose sleepover

161
00:07:06,841 --> 00:07:08,921
Speaker 2: it anymore and I don't cry about it and it

162
00:07:08,921 --> 00:07:12,681
Speaker 2: doesn't like consume me, but there's still that moment of like, damn,

163
00:07:12,761 --> 00:07:14,841
Speaker 2: that sucks that they think that, And I don't want

164
00:07:14,841 --> 00:07:17,481
Speaker 2: to get online and like defend myself or whatever, but

165
00:07:17,601 --> 00:07:20,441
Speaker 2: there's still that little niggle. It's like a scratch that

166
00:07:20,601 --> 00:07:23,681
Speaker 2: still triggers me of like that sucks. I still care

167
00:07:24,161 --> 00:07:25,361
Speaker 2: that people think that about me.

168
00:07:25,561 --> 00:07:28,081
Speaker 1: I think that's an impossible thing to ever not care,

169
00:07:28,201 --> 00:07:31,840
Speaker 1: no matter how much you tell yourself you are a human.

170
00:07:32,241 --> 00:07:35,961
Speaker 1: But often some of that negative stuff, it's sometimes saying

171
00:07:36,001 --> 00:07:37,401
Speaker 1: more about them than it is about you.

172
00:07:38,321 --> 00:07:41,321
Speaker 2: It's nice to feel the progress of it not consuming anymore,

173
00:07:41,321 --> 00:07:44,201
Speaker 2: because if say, like three or five years ago, I

174
00:07:44,241 --> 00:07:46,121
Speaker 2: would be in bed and like wouldn't be able to

175
00:07:46,201 --> 00:07:48,641
Speaker 2: work and it would just destroy me. Whereas now I'm

176
00:07:48,721 --> 00:07:51,241
Speaker 2: just like, oh damn, that sucks, and might have a

177
00:07:51,241 --> 00:07:53,321
Speaker 2: little vent to someone, but then I'll move on and you.

178
00:07:53,201 --> 00:07:55,161
Speaker 1: Know the other thing, and this is sometimes easier said

179
00:07:55,201 --> 00:07:57,961
Speaker 1: than done, but just stop reading that stuff. Yeah, like,

180
00:07:58,081 --> 00:07:58,601
Speaker 1: don't read it.

181
00:07:58,681 --> 00:08:00,681
Speaker 2: I don't read gossip pages or anything like that anymore.

182
00:08:00,721 --> 00:08:02,801
Speaker 2: I think it's recently it's been people screenshotting me and

183
00:08:02,801 --> 00:08:04,641
Speaker 2: be like, have you seen this about you? And then

184
00:08:04,681 --> 00:08:07,121
Speaker 2: it's in my because I do reply to all my dms. Yeah,

185
00:08:07,201 --> 00:08:10,481
Speaker 2: but otherwise I used to go and read forums and stuff,

186
00:08:10,521 --> 00:08:12,361
Speaker 2: and I'm like, it was just so bad for my

187
00:08:12,401 --> 00:08:13,001
Speaker 2: mental health.

188
00:08:13,121 --> 00:08:15,001
Speaker 1: So no, thank you, no, but you don't read them.

189
00:08:15,041 --> 00:08:16,601
Speaker 1: You don't know, and then you can't hurt me.

190
00:08:17,161 --> 00:08:18,201
Speaker 2: That's so true.

191
00:08:18,801 --> 00:08:22,361
Speaker 1: My next one is remembering that life is right now.

192
00:08:22,761 --> 00:08:23,801
Speaker 2: Oh, such a good one.

193
00:08:23,961 --> 00:08:26,241
Speaker 1: So instead of always thinking about what's next. When I

194
00:08:26,241 --> 00:08:28,801
Speaker 1: have this much money, where my business is doing this well,

195
00:08:28,841 --> 00:08:32,040
Speaker 1: when the kids are doing this, enjoy the right now.

196
00:08:32,201 --> 00:08:33,681
Speaker 1: Remember that life is right now.

197
00:08:34,281 --> 00:08:35,281
Speaker 2: Never get this time back.

198
00:08:35,801 --> 00:08:39,241
Speaker 1: My next out is worrying that you're not where you

199
00:08:39,281 --> 00:08:40,681
Speaker 1: should be at this age.

200
00:08:40,921 --> 00:08:43,441
Speaker 2: Oh okay, I think we focus a lot on age.

201
00:08:43,481 --> 00:08:45,681
Speaker 1: It's like whether I should be married at this stage,

202
00:08:45,721 --> 00:08:47,681
Speaker 1: I should be having children at this stage, I should

203
00:08:47,681 --> 00:08:49,801
Speaker 1: be doing this with my career at this stage. And

204
00:08:49,881 --> 00:08:54,441
Speaker 1: I saw something recently about Ricky Gervaise. Obviously he's a

205
00:08:54,561 --> 00:08:57,921
Speaker 1: very successful comedian, but he didn't become a successful comedian

206
00:08:58,001 --> 00:08:59,361
Speaker 1: until he was in his forties.

207
00:08:59,521 --> 00:09:00,081
Speaker 2: Wow.

208
00:09:00,321 --> 00:09:04,281
Speaker 1: I screenshotted a post that he put up which said,

209
00:09:04,321 --> 00:09:06,401
Speaker 1: when I was in my twenties, I had a cleaning

210
00:09:06,521 --> 00:09:09,521
Speaker 1: job to pay for rehearsals. If I got a gig,

211
00:09:09,681 --> 00:09:12,521
Speaker 1: I'd make my own posters and push the equipment to

212
00:09:12,561 --> 00:09:16,281
Speaker 1: the venue in a shopping trolley. Hope is amazing far out.

213
00:09:16,801 --> 00:09:18,441
Speaker 2: That's so cool. I remember seeing a post it was

214
00:09:18,481 --> 00:09:20,881
Speaker 2: like Vera Wayne didn't start she was forty two or something,

215
00:09:20,921 --> 00:09:24,041
Speaker 2: and there's a whole list of really successful people and

216
00:09:24,081 --> 00:09:26,681
Speaker 2: they were all started in their forties. It's really cool.

217
00:09:26,761 --> 00:09:28,721
Speaker 1: Yeah, So don't give yourself a hard time about your

218
00:09:28,721 --> 00:09:30,681
Speaker 1: age and we're at in your life, because you'll get

219
00:09:30,681 --> 00:09:33,761
Speaker 1: there when you're ready. I mean, it's right, and age

220
00:09:33,841 --> 00:09:34,481
Speaker 1: is just a number.

221
00:09:34,561 --> 00:09:36,681
Speaker 2: And it's also cool that, like, even if you've made

222
00:09:36,681 --> 00:09:38,841
Speaker 2: it in your career and you're feeling like you've achieved

223
00:09:38,881 --> 00:09:41,121
Speaker 2: and take lots to boxes, you can actually change your mind.

224
00:09:41,161 --> 00:09:42,881
Speaker 2: If you get to thirty eight and you've achieved everything

225
00:09:42,921 --> 00:09:44,921
Speaker 2: and you're like I feel like I should be happy here,

226
00:09:45,241 --> 00:09:47,081
Speaker 2: but you want to do something completely different than cool,

227
00:09:47,121 --> 00:09:48,761
Speaker 2: It's not too late to start. I never thought i'd

228
00:09:48,761 --> 00:09:51,201
Speaker 2: be podcasting this much. Yeah, and I love it more

229
00:09:51,201 --> 00:09:52,481
Speaker 2: than anything I've ever done before.

230
00:09:52,561 --> 00:09:55,601
Speaker 1: And remembering your achievements as well. So you might have

231
00:09:55,641 --> 00:09:57,561
Speaker 1: a previous job where you did really well and you

232
00:09:57,601 --> 00:09:59,441
Speaker 1: did this, that and the other, and instead of going,

233
00:09:59,681 --> 00:10:02,321
Speaker 1: oh that was the old me, that was the last job,

234
00:10:02,401 --> 00:10:03,401
Speaker 1: I'm not that anymore.

235
00:10:03,481 --> 00:10:03,921
Speaker 2: Yes you are.

236
00:10:04,001 --> 00:10:07,241
Speaker 1: You still got those two allow yourself to take them.

237
00:10:07,641 --> 00:10:12,241
Speaker 2: We're gone anywhere, yep. Ins more face to face connection

238
00:10:12,321 --> 00:10:15,681
Speaker 2: in my community. I love the online world, I love podcasting,

239
00:10:15,761 --> 00:10:17,681
Speaker 2: but I really want to run some more events and

240
00:10:17,801 --> 00:10:21,081
Speaker 2: like intimate ones, do a live show, dream to go

241
00:10:21,121 --> 00:10:23,601
Speaker 2: on a tour like I really just love more face

242
00:10:23,641 --> 00:10:25,961
Speaker 2: to face. It's just even when I have guests on here,

243
00:10:26,001 --> 00:10:28,121
Speaker 2: compared to if we have a guest on like an

244
00:10:28,161 --> 00:10:30,521
Speaker 2: online platform, it's just so much better face to face.

245
00:10:30,761 --> 00:10:32,681
Speaker 2: You can feel people's energy and just get to spend

246
00:10:32,681 --> 00:10:35,161
Speaker 2: that time together. And I think since COVID, we're all

247
00:10:35,201 --> 00:10:38,121
Speaker 2: craving more connection. So I want to incorporate that into

248
00:10:38,201 --> 00:10:39,241
Speaker 2: everything I do next year.

249
00:10:39,481 --> 00:10:43,001
Speaker 1: And allowing yourself to enjoy other people's stories and what

250
00:10:43,041 --> 00:10:44,201
Speaker 1: they've got to say as well.

251
00:10:44,481 --> 00:10:48,241
Speaker 2: So true, everyone's got a story. Hey yeah yeah. Out

252
00:10:48,961 --> 00:10:54,161
Speaker 2: Relationships that can't communicate respectfully, kindly and effectively. I feel

253
00:10:54,161 --> 00:10:57,841
Speaker 2: like sometimes whether it's family members or friends or intimate relationships,

254
00:10:57,841 --> 00:10:59,881
Speaker 2: it's like, oh, that's just who they are, Like you

255
00:10:59,961 --> 00:11:02,481
Speaker 2: know they're aggressive like that, or you know they're going

256
00:11:02,521 --> 00:11:05,001
Speaker 2: through a hard time, but it's like, where's the best

257
00:11:05,041 --> 00:11:08,001
Speaker 2: boundary your standards of how you want to be treated.

258
00:11:08,521 --> 00:11:10,081
Speaker 2: And I think Steve and I've been together it will

259
00:11:10,121 --> 00:11:13,361
Speaker 2: be seventeen years next June, and there's been so many

260
00:11:13,401 --> 00:11:16,641
Speaker 2: conversations and arguments, but like from every single one of them,

261
00:11:16,681 --> 00:11:19,521
Speaker 2: we have learned how to communicate more effectively and more

262
00:11:19,601 --> 00:11:21,761
Speaker 2: kindly and more respectfully, Like we wouldn't have a relationship

263
00:11:21,841 --> 00:11:24,281
Speaker 2: if we didn't. It's not about being perfect or even

264
00:11:24,361 --> 00:11:26,801
Speaker 2: just owning if you've lashed out and been like, hey, gosh,

265
00:11:26,801 --> 00:11:28,561
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, sorry I said that. I was really angry

266
00:11:28,601 --> 00:11:30,241
Speaker 2: and I've really needed to take a fucking breath, like

267
00:11:30,281 --> 00:11:33,801
Speaker 2: please forgive me. But if someone just isn't taking any

268
00:11:33,841 --> 00:11:36,921
Speaker 2: responsibility and that's just how they are, I just don't

269
00:11:36,961 --> 00:11:39,241
Speaker 2: want relationships like that in my life anymore. I don't

270
00:11:39,281 --> 00:11:42,441
Speaker 2: think I deserve to be treated or spoken to like that.

271
00:11:42,881 --> 00:11:44,521
Speaker 2: So it's been a big boundary that I want to

272
00:11:44,521 --> 00:11:47,161
Speaker 2: put in place. Now life's tis shut, it really is.

273
00:11:47,241 --> 00:11:49,801
Speaker 2: And when you have people in your life that treat

274
00:11:49,921 --> 00:11:52,561
Speaker 2: you so kindly, Like I've got a couple of girlfriends

275
00:11:52,561 --> 00:11:55,521
Speaker 2: that like Tianna and Megsie. I've learned so much from

276
00:11:55,561 --> 00:11:58,641
Speaker 2: them and how to communicate kindly. But still they've got

277
00:11:58,801 --> 00:12:01,121
Speaker 2: such strong boundaries with what's okay and what's not, and

278
00:12:01,161 --> 00:12:03,801
Speaker 2: I've really learned from them and I've improved so much.

279
00:12:04,041 --> 00:12:05,641
Speaker 2: When you have people like that in your life, that

280
00:12:05,761 --> 00:12:08,521
Speaker 2: highlights the other ones that are the opposite, and you're like,

281
00:12:08,601 --> 00:12:11,321
Speaker 2: why am I allowing this? Yeah, you normally allow it

282
00:12:11,321 --> 00:12:13,761
Speaker 2: because you don't think you're worthy of anything else. And

283
00:12:13,801 --> 00:12:15,641
Speaker 2: when I was growing up, I didn't think I was

284
00:12:15,681 --> 00:12:18,001
Speaker 2: worthy of being loved in that kind of beautiful way.

285
00:12:18,001 --> 00:12:19,521
Speaker 2: But now I've got people that love me like that,

286
00:12:19,561 --> 00:12:21,761
Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't need to be spoken to like that.

287
00:12:22,601 --> 00:12:23,601
Speaker 2: So that's my out.

288
00:12:23,681 --> 00:12:26,041
Speaker 1: I'm making sure that everything that's going in is coming

289
00:12:26,041 --> 00:12:29,401
Speaker 1: from both sides as well. Like everybody's got friends where

290
00:12:29,521 --> 00:12:31,721
Speaker 1: you go hang on. I always invite them to things.

291
00:12:31,761 --> 00:12:34,321
Speaker 1: I always call them. I'm always the one that messages

292
00:12:34,641 --> 00:12:35,841
Speaker 1: I need to work both ways.

293
00:12:35,921 --> 00:12:37,641
Speaker 2: Oh, it's two people in every dynamic. A.

294
00:12:39,401 --> 00:12:44,561
Speaker 1: Yeah, So my next in is remembering where you are

295
00:12:44,681 --> 00:12:48,361
Speaker 1: right now is where you once wanted to be. So true,

296
00:12:48,561 --> 00:12:50,761
Speaker 1: it's okay to have goals and want to grow, but

297
00:12:50,881 --> 00:12:55,241
Speaker 1: remember back ten years. Everything that you have now is

298
00:12:55,281 --> 00:12:56,921
Speaker 1: what you probably dreamt off back then.

299
00:12:57,521 --> 00:12:59,161
Speaker 2: Yeah. If you could go back in that time and

300
00:12:59,201 --> 00:13:01,841
Speaker 2: see your future, be like, that's a fucking cool life,

301
00:13:01,921 --> 00:13:02,641
Speaker 2: Like I did that.

302
00:13:03,001 --> 00:13:05,361
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, once upon a time, this is what I

303
00:13:05,441 --> 00:13:08,201
Speaker 1: dreamt of. And it's not taking away from the fact

304
00:13:08,241 --> 00:13:09,641
Speaker 1: that you still want goals and you still want to

305
00:13:09,681 --> 00:13:11,801
Speaker 1: move forward, and you still want things in the future,

306
00:13:12,281 --> 00:13:15,041
Speaker 1: but just remembering that it's a cool thing to remember

307
00:13:15,201 --> 00:13:17,601
Speaker 1: and enjoying that success that where you are right now

308
00:13:17,761 --> 00:13:18,681
Speaker 1: where you once wanted to.

309
00:13:18,681 --> 00:13:20,641
Speaker 2: Your past self would be stoked to be where you

310
00:13:20,681 --> 00:13:22,601
Speaker 2: are right now. Yeah.

311
00:13:22,681 --> 00:13:26,961
Speaker 1: My next out is wearing too much fragrance.

312
00:13:27,201 --> 00:13:28,841
Speaker 2: Oh yes, yeah.

313
00:13:28,881 --> 00:13:31,841
Speaker 1: I love scented moisturizes, I love Hideaway and I will

314
00:13:31,841 --> 00:13:34,521
Speaker 1: always wear that. But I was also then wearing a

315
00:13:34,561 --> 00:13:37,841
Speaker 1: body spray, and then I was also wearing perfume, and

316
00:13:37,881 --> 00:13:39,801
Speaker 1: then I just felt like it was too much and

317
00:13:39,841 --> 00:13:42,881
Speaker 1: it was overpowering. It was giving me headaches, and I'm like, no,

318
00:13:43,121 --> 00:13:43,721
Speaker 1: choose one.

319
00:13:44,041 --> 00:13:46,801
Speaker 2: Like most days I only wear custard, and I get

320
00:13:46,921 --> 00:13:48,921
Speaker 2: so many compliments still like what perfume r I'm like,

321
00:13:48,961 --> 00:13:51,361
Speaker 2: it's literally discusted. Or if I am wearing like in

322
00:13:51,401 --> 00:13:53,721
Speaker 2: winter from wearing long sea stuff, I was more spray perfume,

323
00:13:53,881 --> 00:13:56,561
Speaker 2: not wear custard. My legs don't need to be as moisturized,

324
00:13:56,601 --> 00:13:58,921
Speaker 2: but you don't. Yeah, you don't need to lay them, no.

325
00:13:58,881 --> 00:14:02,081
Speaker 1: And it's just remembering as well that other people can

326
00:14:02,121 --> 00:14:04,481
Speaker 1: smell that on you, Like you stop smelling on yourself,

327
00:14:04,481 --> 00:14:06,081
Speaker 1: so you'll put per everyone in the morning, you can't

328
00:14:06,121 --> 00:14:07,801
Speaker 1: smell it for the rest of the day everyone else can.

329
00:14:07,881 --> 00:14:09,361
Speaker 1: I but everyone else can. And then you think that

330
00:14:09,441 --> 00:14:11,521
Speaker 1: you haven't got it on anymore, and so then you

331
00:14:11,521 --> 00:14:13,001
Speaker 1: put more on and then it's overkilled.

332
00:14:13,161 --> 00:14:16,521
Speaker 2: Yeah. Nice. Like in I feel like I'm already doing this,

333
00:14:16,721 --> 00:14:18,601
Speaker 2: but even more so, I always just want to do

334
00:14:18,641 --> 00:14:20,281
Speaker 2: like that a little bit better. That little bit more

335
00:14:20,641 --> 00:14:24,161
Speaker 2: is eating more organic food and more animal products, because

336
00:14:24,201 --> 00:14:26,641
Speaker 2: since I've changed this way of eating, I feel so

337
00:14:27,001 --> 00:14:29,561
Speaker 2: much better. I feel like for the last fifteen years,

338
00:14:29,601 --> 00:14:34,041
Speaker 2: I've been like seventy thirty healthy eating balanced, cleaner options.

339
00:14:34,481 --> 00:14:39,041
Speaker 2: But now I'm probably ninety percent organic food and whole food,

340
00:14:39,481 --> 00:14:41,241
Speaker 2: with like a ten percent in there, which is like

341
00:14:41,281 --> 00:14:42,681
Speaker 2: when I go out for date night or I get

342
00:14:42,721 --> 00:14:45,841
Speaker 2: a random yoche with taj or I have a clean treat.

343
00:14:45,961 --> 00:14:48,521
Speaker 2: But most of my food is organic now and I

344
00:14:48,641 --> 00:14:50,761
Speaker 2: want to even improve that even more. So I just

345
00:14:50,801 --> 00:14:53,361
Speaker 2: feel so good. And for me as I get older,

346
00:14:53,401 --> 00:14:55,841
Speaker 2: it's just about longevity. I really want my body to

347
00:14:55,921 --> 00:14:58,601
Speaker 2: be thriving some around my kids and my grandkids.

348
00:14:59,121 --> 00:15:01,561
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think putting more effort into food preps.

349
00:15:01,561 --> 00:15:05,441
Speaker 1: So it's spending the time finding those nice ingredients and

350
00:15:05,601 --> 00:15:08,201
Speaker 1: remembering what to do with them or finding recipes and

351
00:15:08,481 --> 00:15:13,121
Speaker 1: rather than being busy and then just grabbing some whatever shit.

352
00:15:13,401 --> 00:15:16,081
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so easy to do. I get it. And

353
00:15:16,121 --> 00:15:19,601
Speaker 2: then out feeling shame around my achievements and not celebrating

354
00:15:19,601 --> 00:15:23,641
Speaker 2: my wins in fear of upsetting other people in life,

355
00:15:23,681 --> 00:15:26,401
Speaker 2: in business, in financials. And I said this on a

356
00:15:26,401 --> 00:15:30,281
Speaker 2: previous episode that when I see other women celebrating their wins,

357
00:15:30,361 --> 00:15:32,561
Speaker 2: saying I made this much money in my launch, or

358
00:15:32,561 --> 00:15:35,361
Speaker 2: I've just bought this new car or flying business class here.

359
00:15:35,361 --> 00:15:38,841
Speaker 2: I'm always so inspired. I don't get jealous or envy

360
00:15:38,881 --> 00:15:42,001
Speaker 2: of that stuff for me is like, wow, she did that.

361
00:15:42,001 --> 00:15:44,441
Speaker 2: That's possible for me too. I find it really inspiring.

362
00:15:44,961 --> 00:15:48,041
Speaker 2: So I'm like, why do I dim my light in

363
00:15:48,121 --> 00:15:51,041
Speaker 2: fear of upsetting someone where I could be that person

364
00:15:51,041 --> 00:15:53,561
Speaker 2: that inspires someone else to live like this through hard

365
00:15:53,601 --> 00:15:55,441
Speaker 2: work and finding your passions. Like, I know it's not

366
00:15:55,481 --> 00:15:58,321
Speaker 2: for everyone, but I'm kind of sick of hiding and

367
00:15:58,361 --> 00:16:00,761
Speaker 2: carrying shame when I do well and there's an achievement

368
00:16:00,761 --> 00:16:03,161
Speaker 2: and I don't feel like even really celebrate it myself.

369
00:16:03,161 --> 00:16:05,201
Speaker 2: I want to celebrate it myself and then also be

370
00:16:05,241 --> 00:16:07,921
Speaker 2: an inspiration for other people too, So I'm going to

371
00:16:07,961 --> 00:16:09,801
Speaker 2: bring more of that in. It feels very edgy for me,

372
00:16:10,001 --> 00:16:11,681
Speaker 2: but that's cool. Why not.

373
00:16:11,841 --> 00:16:13,561
Speaker 1: It's a really good place to be in because we've

374
00:16:13,601 --> 00:16:15,441
Speaker 1: definitely all felt that when we go, oh it's all

375
00:16:15,521 --> 00:16:17,881
Speaker 1: right for them, like yeah that, or they're rubbing it

376
00:16:17,921 --> 00:16:20,401
Speaker 1: in your face so they're bragging, but it feels so

377
00:16:20,641 --> 00:16:23,361
Speaker 1: nice to go good on them, Yeah, yeah, good on

378
00:16:23,401 --> 00:16:25,841
Speaker 1: them for being able to do that. And then I

379
00:16:25,921 --> 00:16:27,561
Speaker 1: want to do that too, So how am I going

380
00:16:27,601 --> 00:16:27,961
Speaker 1: to get.

381
00:16:27,881 --> 00:16:29,241
Speaker 2: There at the end of the day. It's a projection.

382
00:16:29,321 --> 00:16:31,321
Speaker 2: So when I used to have those thoughts of like, oh,

383
00:16:31,321 --> 00:16:33,321
Speaker 2: of course she's got that, or wow, she's bragging or

384
00:16:33,361 --> 00:16:35,881
Speaker 2: rubbing in your face, you're judging them, but you're actually

385
00:16:35,921 --> 00:16:38,481
Speaker 2: judging yourself. Now that I've like switched, my mind still

386
00:16:38,481 --> 00:16:41,361
Speaker 2: around and I find it really inspiring. It just feels

387
00:16:41,361 --> 00:16:44,481
Speaker 2: so different. But I'm just all about being a cheerleader

388
00:16:44,521 --> 00:16:46,361
Speaker 2: for women and celebrating them, and I think there's room

389
00:16:46,401 --> 00:16:49,441
Speaker 2: for all of us. There's no need to put down

390
00:16:49,521 --> 00:16:51,521
Speaker 2: what they're celebrating. Like there was this girl on TikTok

391
00:16:51,561 --> 00:16:52,561
Speaker 2: the other day and she was like, I made a

392
00:16:52,601 --> 00:16:54,841
Speaker 2: hundred thousand dollars in my first twenty four hours of

393
00:16:54,881 --> 00:16:57,001
Speaker 2: Black Friday, and she was crying. It was three times

394
00:16:57,041 --> 00:16:59,601
Speaker 2: more than what she made last year. And I didn't

395
00:16:59,601 --> 00:17:01,201
Speaker 2: know who she was, but I was like, fuck, yeah,

396
00:17:01,201 --> 00:17:03,721
Speaker 2: I go you. This is amazing. Yeah, And like all

397
00:17:03,761 --> 00:17:05,441
Speaker 2: the comments are really supportive, and it's like, this is

398
00:17:05,481 --> 00:17:07,881
Speaker 2: what I mean. This is really cool that she's celebrating herself,

399
00:17:08,041 --> 00:17:10,000
Speaker 2: she's sharing it with her community, and we all get

400
00:17:10,041 --> 00:17:10,840
Speaker 2: to support her in that.

401
00:17:11,120 --> 00:17:11,321
Speaker 1: Yeah.

402
00:17:11,521 --> 00:17:12,241
Speaker 2: So beautiful.

403
00:17:12,561 --> 00:17:16,680
Speaker 1: Those moments of jealousy as well, are so normal, so normal,

404
00:17:16,721 --> 00:17:19,720
Speaker 1: we'll felt them, but it feels so much nicer to

405
00:17:19,761 --> 00:17:22,001
Speaker 1: be able to go, oh, okay, so I'm jealous right now,

406
00:17:22,001 --> 00:17:23,761
Speaker 1: So what do I need to do about my life?

407
00:17:24,241 --> 00:17:26,441
Speaker 1: Because it's actually not about that person and what they're doing.

408
00:17:26,880 --> 00:17:28,161
Speaker 1: It's like what do I need to do?

409
00:17:28,360 --> 00:17:31,840
Speaker 2: Yeah? And jealousy and envy is just highlighting what you want.

410
00:17:32,481 --> 00:17:37,200
Speaker 2: So anytime I have felt jealousy or envy, I'm just like, oh, interesting, Okay,

411
00:17:37,360 --> 00:17:38,161
Speaker 2: it's not about them.

412
00:17:38,241 --> 00:17:40,760
Speaker 1: I'm actually wanting that. I'm desiring that. Well, what are

413
00:17:40,761 --> 00:17:41,721
Speaker 1: you doing about it? Yeah?

414
00:17:41,761 --> 00:17:43,321
Speaker 2: Are you putting in the work they're doing? Have you

415
00:17:43,400 --> 00:17:45,840
Speaker 2: seen what they do to get there? Are you willing

416
00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:47,960
Speaker 2: to sacrifice what they've sacrificed to get there? Is it

417
00:17:48,001 --> 00:17:50,360
Speaker 2: that important to you? And when you start asking yourself

418
00:17:50,360 --> 00:17:52,921
Speaker 2: those questions, you can get to the bottom of it. Yeah,

419
00:17:52,961 --> 00:17:55,081
Speaker 2: and then you can change what you're doing. So I'm

420
00:17:55,120 --> 00:17:58,360
Speaker 2: not carrying more shame around my success and my achievements. Good.

421
00:17:58,721 --> 00:18:03,201
Speaker 1: Yes, My next in is putting yourself first. Oh yeah,

422
00:18:03,241 --> 00:18:07,281
Speaker 1: and I think especially for mum, we put everybody else first.

423
00:18:07,400 --> 00:18:09,201
Speaker 1: It's all about the kids. It's about what they want

424
00:18:09,241 --> 00:18:12,761
Speaker 1: to do. It's so important for you to take that

425
00:18:12,840 --> 00:18:16,280
Speaker 1: time out. Don't feel guilty. No, go and do what

426
00:18:16,321 --> 00:18:17,801
Speaker 1: it is that you need to do for yourself. Go

427
00:18:17,880 --> 00:18:20,481
Speaker 1: for a massage, sit on your own for a bit.

428
00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:25,281
Speaker 1: Like I think kids also thrive when you're happy and

429
00:18:25,321 --> 00:18:26,761
Speaker 1: you are doing scent.

430
00:18:27,281 --> 00:18:30,561
Speaker 2: They feel our energy when our cups forward overflows to them.

431
00:18:30,801 --> 00:18:33,801
Speaker 2: I love the quote put your own life jacket on first.

432
00:18:34,281 --> 00:18:35,361
Speaker 2: It's a good one, isn't it.

433
00:18:35,521 --> 00:18:37,440
Speaker 1: Whenever they say that on an aeroplane, when they do

434
00:18:37,481 --> 00:18:39,960
Speaker 1: that safety thing, you're like, of course I wouldn't do that.

435
00:18:40,001 --> 00:18:41,840
Speaker 1: Of course I'm going to put it on my baby first.

436
00:18:42,360 --> 00:18:43,640
Speaker 1: And it's like, well, no, you have to put it

437
00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:45,080
Speaker 1: on your celf phone and actually help them, because if

438
00:18:45,080 --> 00:18:48,080
Speaker 1: you can't help them, yeah, if you're dead. My next

439
00:18:48,080 --> 00:18:51,761
Speaker 1: out is deciding not to buy the thing you love

440
00:18:51,801 --> 00:18:54,921
Speaker 1: when you see it, Oh okay. I feel like I've

441
00:18:54,961 --> 00:18:58,201
Speaker 1: done this all of my life, where I have seen

442
00:18:58,400 --> 00:19:01,281
Speaker 1: something and been like, oh, it's a bit expensive, it's

443
00:19:01,281 --> 00:19:03,920
Speaker 1: not on sale, but I'm like, I really love it.

444
00:19:03,921 --> 00:19:06,360
Speaker 1: And you know, when you walk away from something, you're like, no,

445
00:19:06,521 --> 00:19:08,960
Speaker 1: be sensible, you can't afford it, right, now you need

446
00:19:09,001 --> 00:19:11,281
Speaker 1: to wait till payday or whatever it might be, and

447
00:19:11,321 --> 00:19:13,880
Speaker 1: then you don't find it again. So when you have

448
00:19:13,961 --> 00:19:16,480
Speaker 1: got money and you're like, I really loved it, I

449
00:19:16,521 --> 00:19:20,960
Speaker 1: did it recently. Actually, I saw some barstools and I

450
00:19:21,001 --> 00:19:23,521
Speaker 1: was like, oh, my goodness, I love those barstels. And

451
00:19:23,561 --> 00:19:26,041
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, they're really expensive, and I've got

452
00:19:26,041 --> 00:19:28,600
Speaker 1: bartels at home and there's nothing wrong with them, but

453
00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:31,401
Speaker 1: I really love those ones. I haven't stopped thinking about. Oh,

454
00:19:31,761 --> 00:19:34,441
Speaker 1: and now I'm looking for new barstels because they are

455
00:19:34,481 --> 00:19:37,240
Speaker 1: getting to the point where they need replacing. And I

456
00:19:37,241 --> 00:19:38,600
Speaker 1: can't find those barstles.

457
00:19:39,400 --> 00:19:40,480
Speaker 2: I wish I bought that, but I've.

458
00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:42,960
Speaker 1: Drilled the internet and yeah, I can't find them. So

459
00:19:43,321 --> 00:19:47,200
Speaker 1: buying that one thing instead of always bargain hunting and

460
00:19:47,241 --> 00:19:50,521
Speaker 1: then putting up with the thing that you've bought really

461
00:19:50,561 --> 00:19:53,400
Speaker 1: because you like the price the best, you don't actually

462
00:19:53,481 --> 00:19:55,760
Speaker 1: love the product, no, And then you might end up

463
00:19:55,761 --> 00:19:59,080
Speaker 1: with loads of those things that you half like because

464
00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:01,561
Speaker 1: they were cheaper, and actually you've spent the same amount

465
00:20:01,561 --> 00:20:03,081
Speaker 1: of money as you would have on that one thing

466
00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:03,920
Speaker 1: that you really loved.

467
00:20:03,961 --> 00:20:08,360
Speaker 2: Anyway, True, my inn is loving every part of me,

468
00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:10,321
Speaker 2: and I've got a girlfriend that's really helped me with this,

469
00:20:10,360 --> 00:20:12,961
Speaker 2: the things that I've carried shame over the years within

470
00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:17,041
Speaker 2: my friendship groups or just with how I feel. She's

471
00:20:17,080 --> 00:20:20,440
Speaker 2: bought a really playful aspect to it, and she's very

472
00:20:20,481 --> 00:20:23,161
Speaker 2: similar to me. So when I was telling her about

473
00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:24,961
Speaker 2: these things I carry shame for and she was like, oh,

474
00:20:25,001 --> 00:20:27,640
Speaker 2: I'm like that, But the way she's worded it and

475
00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:29,600
Speaker 2: how playful she is with it, I just love that

476
00:20:29,681 --> 00:20:32,080
Speaker 2: about her. Son, I had this realization, I'm like, well,

477
00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:33,921
Speaker 2: if I love that about her, why can't I love

478
00:20:33,921 --> 00:20:36,521
Speaker 2: that about me. I don't have to carry shame around that.

479
00:20:36,801 --> 00:20:39,080
Speaker 2: And I'll go into more details about it next year.

480
00:20:39,521 --> 00:20:41,561
Speaker 2: I'm just in this space now. I'm like, I don't

481
00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:44,281
Speaker 2: have to hate any part of me, and hating parts

482
00:20:44,281 --> 00:20:47,600
Speaker 2: of myself it doesn't serve anyone all. That doesn't feel

483
00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:49,801
Speaker 2: heavy for me. And I want my kids to know that, like,

484
00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:51,920
Speaker 2: no one's perfect, and there'll be parts of them that

485
00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:54,001
Speaker 2: they want to work on or they've got their own

486
00:20:54,001 --> 00:20:56,880
Speaker 2: wounds that they can still love so hardly on themselves

487
00:20:57,001 --> 00:20:59,840
Speaker 2: and love on other people for their wounds. Yeah, So

488
00:20:59,921 --> 00:21:00,721
Speaker 2: that's my inn.

489
00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:03,920
Speaker 1: And not seeing things as negatives as well, yeah, like

490
00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:07,281
Speaker 1: viewing them differently. Oh, that's really bad about myself, Like

491
00:21:07,360 --> 00:21:09,041
Speaker 1: I hate that I do that. It's like, well, no,

492
00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:12,120
Speaker 1: actually that's part of me. Yes, And how can that

493
00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:14,761
Speaker 1: be a more of a positive How has it served me?

494
00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:17,120
Speaker 1: Like it's kept you safe for it's you know, helped

495
00:21:17,120 --> 00:21:20,760
Speaker 1: you with something, putting a positive spin on it out

496
00:21:20,801 --> 00:21:23,681
Speaker 1: taking things personally just because someone says something, it doesn't

497
00:21:23,721 --> 00:21:25,480
Speaker 1: mean I have to take it on. Projection is a

498
00:21:25,521 --> 00:21:27,001
Speaker 1: real thing, and a lot of the time it's not

499
00:21:27,160 --> 00:21:30,281
Speaker 1: about me. It's different when it's constructive criticism, but you

500
00:21:30,281 --> 00:21:33,161
Speaker 1: feel like you can feel through energy and tone when

501
00:21:33,201 --> 00:21:36,401
Speaker 1: someone's projecting or if they're giving you constructive criticism. Yeah,

502
00:21:36,801 --> 00:21:39,400
Speaker 1: and I'm all for constructive criticism, but yeah, I just

503
00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:42,280
Speaker 1: I feel like I've just taken things so personally for

504
00:21:42,321 --> 00:21:44,521
Speaker 1: so long. But a lot of the time, when someone

505
00:21:44,561 --> 00:21:46,801
Speaker 1: projects something onto you, it's not even about you. It's

506
00:21:46,801 --> 00:21:48,801
Speaker 1: just something they're feeling or they've been triggered all they

507
00:21:48,801 --> 00:21:51,521
Speaker 1: don't know how to regulate, so they just like spit

508
00:21:51,561 --> 00:21:53,480
Speaker 1: it out on you. So I've just noticed now that

509
00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:55,720
Speaker 1: i feel like I'm more regulated, I can take a

510
00:21:55,761 --> 00:21:58,000
Speaker 1: breath and like see if what it is and then

511
00:21:58,080 --> 00:22:00,880
Speaker 1: not react to them instead just like ignore it or

512
00:22:00,921 --> 00:22:02,201
Speaker 1: give them compassion or.

513
00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:04,640
Speaker 2: Just like brush it aside. Because before I'd be like,

514
00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:06,400
Speaker 2: oh my god, oh they said this about me, like

515
00:22:06,481 --> 00:22:08,881
Speaker 2: even I know it's not true, and it would really

516
00:22:08,961 --> 00:22:11,481
Speaker 2: upset me. Now I'm like, I don't have to take

517
00:22:11,521 --> 00:22:14,801
Speaker 2: that on. It's not overthinking things. Yeah, even to the

518
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:15,680
Speaker 2: point where.

519
00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:18,001
Speaker 1: I'll go to send a text message and then I'll

520
00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:20,440
Speaker 1: look over it again and I'll be like, no, just

521
00:22:20,481 --> 00:22:21,921
Speaker 1: send it, Just send it. Yeah.

522
00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:27,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, so true, more emotional releasing, like somatically energetically, and

523
00:22:27,441 --> 00:22:29,321
Speaker 2: then allowing I've kind of said it before, but allowing

524
00:22:29,360 --> 00:22:32,600
Speaker 2: more of the feels to come up, but actually implementing

525
00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:34,680
Speaker 2: and practicing all the tools I've learned from my coach,

526
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:36,760
Speaker 2: like making that just a part of what I do,

527
00:22:36,801 --> 00:22:38,761
Speaker 2: like brushing my teeth. If I feel something, it's like, Okay,

528
00:22:38,801 --> 00:22:40,880
Speaker 2: I'm going to do this, this and this, rather than

529
00:22:40,921 --> 00:22:43,281
Speaker 2: pushing it to the cyber I'm going to really practice

530
00:22:43,321 --> 00:22:44,880
Speaker 2: that in my week to week living.

531
00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:48,440
Speaker 1: I've got one more place not giving yourself such a

532
00:22:48,441 --> 00:22:48,961
Speaker 1: hard time.

533
00:22:49,441 --> 00:22:50,360
Speaker 2: Oh that's nice.

534
00:22:50,441 --> 00:22:52,521
Speaker 1: So when you go through your day, I feel like

535
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,881
Speaker 1: often I will have a conversation with somebody and then

536
00:22:56,241 --> 00:22:59,001
Speaker 1: they'll leave and you go on your way and you're like, oh,

537
00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:01,201
Speaker 1: should I said that? Like that, what did they think

538
00:23:01,241 --> 00:23:04,400
Speaker 1: about this that I said? And it's like, no, it's said,

539
00:23:04,761 --> 00:23:08,200
Speaker 1: it's done, move on because they're not thinking about it now.

540
00:23:08,321 --> 00:23:10,321
Speaker 2: So why should I be making stuff up in your head?

541
00:23:10,321 --> 00:23:13,080
Speaker 2: And then it expands and your spiral. Yeah, it takes

542
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:14,561
Speaker 2: over your whole day, and then it's like not even

543
00:23:14,561 --> 00:23:15,001
Speaker 2: a big deal.

544
00:23:15,201 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, so just letting that stuff go and going okay, cool,

545
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:19,761
Speaker 1: Well that was five minutes ago and this is now,

546
00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:21,281
Speaker 1: and let's move on. That's cool.

547
00:23:21,441 --> 00:23:24,281
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good one. This is officially the last

548
00:23:24,281 --> 00:23:27,521
Speaker 2: grond Blow episode. Yes, there is no more gron Glow

549
00:23:27,561 --> 00:23:30,241
Speaker 2: after this. However, it's not the end. If you guys

550
00:23:30,241 --> 00:23:33,281
Speaker 2: missed previous episodes. We have a new podcast name which

551
00:23:33,321 --> 00:23:36,600
Speaker 2: is really exciting. Stay tuned for our social media. I'll

552
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:39,480
Speaker 2: be posting a video to announce it. A new co host.

553
00:23:39,561 --> 00:23:41,840
Speaker 2: I will have another reel for that introducing her, which

554
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:45,841
Speaker 2: is really cool, and so many new conversations. Our Friday

555
00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:48,041
Speaker 2: episodes are going to be completely different. So in the

556
00:23:48,120 --> 00:23:52,121
Speaker 2: last year, Katie's been cutting up like highlights of previous episodes. Yeah,

557
00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:54,921
Speaker 2: whereas we've got a whole new theme and different topics

558
00:23:54,921 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 2: and pillars that Friday will be And it's like a

559
00:23:56,721 --> 00:24:00,641
Speaker 2: completely different look and feel and sides to our personalities,

560
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:03,521
Speaker 2: which I'm so excited for. And yeah, we've got some

561
00:24:03,521 --> 00:24:05,801
Speaker 2: big plans where we hope to do some live events

562
00:24:05,961 --> 00:24:07,761
Speaker 2: and we've got some programs you want to be bringing

563
00:24:07,801 --> 00:24:10,321
Speaker 2: out and just different cool things that you guys get

564
00:24:10,360 --> 00:24:12,840
Speaker 2: to be involved with. And I honestly couldn't be more excited.

565
00:24:12,961 --> 00:24:14,761
Speaker 1: And when you say it's going to be totally different,

566
00:24:14,801 --> 00:24:17,281
Speaker 1: there's still the same content, So still the same stuff

567
00:24:17,281 --> 00:24:20,640
Speaker 1: that you are already loving listening to this podcast, just

568
00:24:20,761 --> 00:24:24,400
Speaker 1: with a different person, different perspectives, And yeah, it's going

569
00:24:24,481 --> 00:24:25,321
Speaker 1: to be bigger and better.

570
00:24:25,441 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 2: It really is. You guys are gonna absolutely love it.

571
00:24:28,321 --> 00:24:30,480
Speaker 2: But I also just want to say thank you so

572
00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:32,761
Speaker 2: much to everyone who's tuned in. We couldn't do this

573
00:24:32,801 --> 00:24:35,521
Speaker 2: without all of you, so thank you for being alongside

574
00:24:35,561 --> 00:24:37,721
Speaker 2: the journey and the ride for us. And we're really

575
00:24:37,761 --> 00:24:39,681
Speaker 2: excited for you guys to keep listening and learning from

576
00:24:39,721 --> 00:24:42,480
Speaker 2: us and for us to be doing this together. Stay tuned.

577
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:46,521
Speaker 2: What Day to be Back January January sixth, I think

578
00:24:46,521 --> 00:24:49,400
Speaker 2: you said. Hey. Therefore, after New Year's Eve on my

579
00:24:49,481 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 2: social media, there'll be three reels going out and now

580
00:24:52,001 --> 00:24:55,201
Speaker 2: it'cing the new co host, the new name, and then

581
00:24:55,241 --> 00:24:57,921
Speaker 2: the day that our first episode goes live, and then

582
00:24:57,921 --> 00:25:00,080
Speaker 2: we'll be in your ears three times every single week.

583
00:25:00,281 --> 00:25:02,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, so excited.

584
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:04,400
Speaker 2: Merry Christmas, yes, Mary Christmas, have the best time with

585
00:25:04,441 --> 00:25:07,641
Speaker 2: your family, enjoy all the food and happy New Year.

586
00:25:07,801 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 2: Please be safe and can't wait to be back next year.

587
00:25:10,921 --> 00:25:11,561
Speaker 1: Bye bye,