Speaker 1: I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming
Speaker 1: she how do.
Speaker 2: I put this? Isn't a fan of my kissing style with.
Speaker 1: A boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. He's in
Speaker 1: a trash bin. He's non recyclable, catching them up.
Speaker 2: I love being love. I love love.
Speaker 3: On today's episode of Where's Your Head At, we are
Speaker 3: getting into the nitty gritty topic of if you should
Speaker 3: or shouldn't have sex when you're on your period. We'll
Speaker 3: be discussing all things communication and comfortability.
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Speaker 3: Okay, Matt has just rolled into the studio with the
Speaker 3: biggest pawn star mustar.
Speaker 1: I think I've ever seen you rock before. What's going on?
Speaker 2: Mat?
Speaker 1: Talk me through this?
Speaker 3: All right?
Speaker 2: Do you think I'm pulling it off? Though?
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I think you're pulling it off, But
Speaker 3: I need to know the backstory.
Speaker 1: What's going on?
Speaker 2: All right? Well, I'm obviously getting a head start and
Speaker 2: everyone for November. I need to start growing it now
Speaker 2: so it's luscious by the time November hits.
Speaker 1: It's a real head starting.
Speaker 3: Nah.
Speaker 2: I honestly, I've been so flat stick this weekend moving
Speaker 2: I didn't even get time to shave my whole face.
Speaker 2: I had to call it quits when I got to
Speaker 2: my mo.
Speaker 3: That's right, So you just moved in with Jen? How's
Speaker 3: that all going?
Speaker 2: Look, the weekend was hectic. It's probably going to be
Speaker 2: the last time I ever moved by myself. I'm definitely
Speaker 2: hiring people next time. It's literally one of the most
Speaker 2: painful things you can do, I reckon. Yeah, it's nuts.
Speaker 3: They say it's one of the most stressful things like moving, wedding,
Speaker 3: what else?
Speaker 1: Breakup it on?
Speaker 2: Yeah they all sound stressful compared to moving, but it
Speaker 2: is stressful enough. But it doesn't help when your partner,
Speaker 2: God love her, this isn't a good start forget the
Speaker 2: key to her storage unit, not for the first time,
Speaker 2: but the second time. So when we're moving everything into
Speaker 2: the storage unit, bless her soult Jen lost the key
Speaker 2: to the storage unit and we had to get a
Speaker 2: locksmith in get them. Obviously, they didn't know how to
Speaker 2: unlock it. It was a special locker. I don't know all that.
Speaker 2: Shenanigans ended up up charging us. But she did it
Speaker 2: again when we were unpacking her storage unit. She had
Speaker 2: the wrong key, didn't even fit in the hole. It
Speaker 2: just completely was different. I don't know how she managed it,
Speaker 2: but it did add an extra three hours to the moving.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a full added layer of extra stress.
Speaker 1: Did you guys have a big fight?
Speaker 2: You know what? We were with her sister's boyfriend, Murph,
Speaker 2: and he said it himself. He said, if you don't laugh,
Speaker 2: you'll cry.
Speaker 1: So you chose laughter.
Speaker 2: So he chose to laugh about it. We went to
Speaker 2: the pub, had a couple of beers and just waited
Speaker 2: for the locksmith, who ended up being her mum in
Speaker 2: the end, got there quicker. God, thank you Paula for
Speaker 2: getting there. She brought the spare key that Jen had
Speaker 2: given her just in case this happened.
Speaker 1: Again, and that's why we do this.
Speaker 2: So her mum came speed bolting in, gave us a key,
Speaker 2: helped us load the truck back up with all her stuff,
Speaker 2: and then we're now I moved in. Everything's in the house.
Speaker 2: There's a couple of miscellaneous boxes here and there. Niki
Speaker 2: and Jen they're twins, so you could imagine how much
Speaker 2: of fucking cookery they have or whatever you call it,
Speaker 2: cutlery and home wears. We've boxed up reboxed literally four
Speaker 2: big boxes of double up stuff.
Speaker 1: But that's good for you because then you don't have
Speaker 1: to buy it. You have to look at the silver lining.
Speaker 2: Mat I do, and I am, And I'll tell you
Speaker 2: what's funny. I've been joking. I went from a frat
Speaker 2: house with my boys where it literally was try pick
Speaker 2: which saucepan is less dirty, Literally an endless supply of
Speaker 2: cookery utensils.
Speaker 1: So you're living like, you know, first class.
Speaker 2: I'm living like a king now. Thank you Nicki and
Speaker 2: Jen for all your purchases over the years. I will
Speaker 2: definitely take advantage of that. All right, So but enough
Speaker 2: about my weekend of moving in Anna. It's good to
Speaker 2: see you actually in Melbourne for once. You've seen never
Speaker 2: jet seto. You're just in Adelaide.
Speaker 3: I know I've gone from BALI had a week in Melbourne,
Speaker 3: which I feel like was just like an admin week,
Speaker 3: and then we've gone to Adelaide because Michael's family lives
Speaker 3: in Adelaide, and we wanted to spend some time with them,
Speaker 3: so that was really nice.
Speaker 2: So you did all the family stuff and then I'm
Speaker 2: obviously guessing you guys had some quality couple time while
Speaker 2: you're in Adelaide. Near that you guys have become codependent.
Speaker 2: If you go back and work for our last episode,
Speaker 2: do you know about that?
Speaker 3: We're interdependent. That's what we learned from that episode.
Speaker 2: You can put whatever spin you want on it.
Speaker 1: Don't. You're the most codependent person.
Speaker 2: I know. That's why it takes one to know one.
Speaker 1: It does.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we had some family time and then we had
Speaker 3: some kind of like couples time as well. We said,
Speaker 3: in a really beautiful hotel in Adelaide, and I don't know,
Speaker 3: there's just something about being in a hotel room with
Speaker 3: your partner that's just really hot.
Speaker 2: I know what you mean. When Jen and I go
Speaker 2: away we're in the hotel rooms, the level of sexual tension,
Speaker 2: may I say, it definitely flares up a lot more.
Speaker 2: I reckon. You know, you got this whole new space
Speaker 2: to yourself, freshyet yeah, fresh angles, extra mirrors, your extra mirrors.
Speaker 2: I make sure that Jen brings a titling number with her.
Speaker 2: Did you bring any titling numbers with you?
Speaker 1: I didn't.
Speaker 3: I mean, I feel like it was that time of
Speaker 3: the month, so I feel like when it's that time
Speaker 3: of the month, I'm not like putting on exciting new costumes.
Speaker 2: Lentree role playing. Do you role play to a role play?
Speaker 3: I know you did, if I'm going down your contail
Speaker 3: with me, No, But I think there is something really
Speaker 3: sexy about being in a hotel room with your partner. Obviously,
Speaker 3: you know I was on my period, so we made
Speaker 3: good use.
Speaker 1: Of the shower.
Speaker 2: Big shower obviously in a hotel shower, lots of room
Speaker 2: for activities in there.
Speaker 3: And then Michael had ordered room service without me knowing,
Speaker 3: and we got interrupted and it was all over red Rover.
Speaker 2: So wait, before you've had sex, Michael's gone and going
Speaker 2: all right, I'm going to order some champagne to the room,
Speaker 2: get it to live it after, you know, set a hone.
Speaker 2: But obviously Anna couldn't wait for the champagne to come.
Speaker 3: It wasn't champagne. He got like two big boss pass
Speaker 3: so it was just like, you know, it is what
Speaker 3: it is.
Speaker 2: For some extra calves after the.
Speaker 1: Damce pro sex calves.
Speaker 2: As far as planning goes, I'm going to give michael
Speaker 2: An a plus for that. He's done, well, he's gone.
Speaker 2: All right, We're going to do the two step dance
Speaker 2: and then I'm gonna have some calves afterwards. Can't go wrong,
Speaker 2: you can't.
Speaker 3: But look, we really want to talk about having sex
Speaker 3: on your period in this episode, so let's just jump
Speaker 3: straight into this map.
Speaker 2: All right, let's do it.
Speaker 1: Okay, Map.
Speaker 3: I have a few questions for you because I just
Speaker 3: want to gauge your knowledge on periods, because you know,
Speaker 3: women have periods once a month.
Speaker 1: It's pretty normal.
Speaker 3: It's part of your life, it's part of my life,
Speaker 3: it's part of everyone's life. And it's really weird to
Speaker 3: me that it's not spoken about that much, like it's
Speaker 3: kind of this taboo thing.
Speaker 1: But then it's not, but it is.
Speaker 2: I don't know why it's taboo. I disagree with it
Speaker 2: being taboo. I grew up in a house obviously with
Speaker 2: three women, so for me, talking about a period was
Speaker 2: literally like normal. We would always speak about it. There's
Speaker 2: a cupboard in my hallway. You open and it is
Speaker 2: literally full of tampons and pads.
Speaker 1: Love that Like I.
Speaker 2: Opened it one time to find toilet roll and I
Speaker 2: was like, Jesus, what the just closed it? You know
Speaker 2: what I mean?
Speaker 1: Supply Central, Yeah, we love the supply.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like three women with it. I never really thought
Speaker 2: of it as a taboo topic. So we're also completely open.
Speaker 2: So let's see what I know about it, which I
Speaker 2: should know, but I'm a little bit nervous about this. Anda.
Speaker 2: It's got the question. She has not written any answers
Speaker 2: down on my script. So let's see how I go
Speaker 2: with this.
Speaker 3: Okay, Matt, So the first question is how long does
Speaker 3: a period last?
Speaker 2: Well, it's once a month and it lasts for a week,
Speaker 2: but then there's always like that PMS stage, isn't there?
Speaker 2: And how long does that last for?
Speaker 3: Okay, so, on average, a woman's period lasts two to
Speaker 3: seven days.
Speaker 1: Did you know that?
Speaker 2: What exactly are they classifying by that? Just the actual
Speaker 2: flow of the bleeding? Yeah, the bleeding the more you.
Speaker 1: Know, So is that new information to you?
Speaker 2: I knew it was a week, but I knew that, like,
Speaker 2: there's a heavy couple of days at the start, and
Speaker 2: then it should probably die down and it's just a
Speaker 2: little bit by the end.
Speaker 3: Everyone's different. Yeah, So like some people can have a
Speaker 3: two day period. Some people have a heavy flow, light flow.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you've heard of the terms and thrown around
Speaker 1: heavy flow.
Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely, that's the mean girls quote.
Speaker 1: Heavy flow and you're going to say that. Okay, how
Speaker 1: long is a mentoral cycle?
Speaker 2: Man? A month?
Speaker 1: Jesus do you want to think about that?
Speaker 2: Am I right? Or am I wrong?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 3: So a mental flow occurs every twenty one to thirty
Speaker 3: five days, and as you get older it becomes more regular.
Speaker 2: Okay. So I know my girlfriend Jenen has a flow
Speaker 2: app and she logs it in there so she knows
Speaker 2: when she's due for her next.
Speaker 1: Yeah, experienced, so she's fully on top of it.
Speaker 3: I need to do that. Actually, I know a lot
Speaker 3: of people use the flow app. Every time I go together.
Speaker 3: It it like tries to charge me like sixty dollars
Speaker 3: through the year, and I'm like, nah, no, I'm.
Speaker 2: Not going to do that. Well, I said to her,
Speaker 2: it'd be cool if we could, like literally, I could
Speaker 2: have it as well on my phone so I'm notified
Speaker 2: as well, so I know when she's due her period.
Speaker 3: Well, Like the thing is is, when you're in a relationship,
Speaker 3: it's kind of like a wee thing. Like it's not
Speaker 3: a gen thing or a me thing. It's essentially it
Speaker 3: affects both of you, definitely does How do you know
Speaker 3: when Jen's on her period?
Speaker 1: Is there something that kind of stands out to you?
Speaker 2: Yeah? So I normally get a knock on the door
Speaker 2: from an old priest and a young priest and they're
Speaker 2: ready to perform an exorcism.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, you're gonna get so much trouble.
Speaker 1: That's feeling extra balls today.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I'm kidding, No, no, as far no, how
Speaker 2: do I word this nicely? Then the tension picks up
Speaker 2: in the room, So like some stuff that two weeks
Speaker 2: prior that might not have been an issue become an issue.
Speaker 2: And I will then look at the date, because I'm
Speaker 2: obviously in tune with her flow app and I'll be like, ah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I see what's going on here.
Speaker 3: I asked Michael this question before I left the house
Speaker 3: this morning, and he was like, I know, because you
Speaker 3: get really annoyed at things that normally you wouldn't And
Speaker 3: that's exactly what you just said. So, for instance, we
Speaker 3: were in Col's like two weeks ago, and I was
Speaker 3: standing at the checkout and we forgot bacon. And I
Speaker 3: love having bacon on a Sunday morning, like bacon and eggs,
Speaker 3: Like it's anyway. So I'm like checking out everything. I'm like,
Speaker 3: oh shit, I forgot the bacon. Michael's like, I'll go
Speaker 3: get it. So he goes to get the bacon.
Speaker 1: I'm still like, you know, scanning things away. I'm all good.
Speaker 3: He comes back. He says, I can't find the bacon,
Speaker 3: and I was like, go find it. It's in the
Speaker 3: deli section.
Speaker 1: Like have a look.
Speaker 3: So then I'm like finished scanning everything at this point. Yeah,
Speaker 3: now waiting for him.
Speaker 2: Poor Michael.
Speaker 3: He comes back five minutes later, has just been like,
Speaker 3: oh I just met this guy over there.
Speaker 1: We just had a chat.
Speaker 3: I'm like, did you get the bacon. He's like, oh,
Speaker 3: I forgot the bacon, and we had a full blown
Speaker 3: like not domestic, but I wasn't happy, let's put it
Speaker 3: that way, because it was a Saturday and on the
Speaker 3: next morning I really wanted to have bacon and eggs.
Speaker 1: And he'd gone away twice and hadn't got the bacon.
Speaker 3: Like it is kind of annoying, but my period was due,
Speaker 3: so like the couple of days before my period, I
Speaker 3: get extra sensitive and moody. Anyway, I lost it about
Speaker 3: the bacon. I was like, how can you not find
Speaker 3: the bacon? Like it's a simple task.
Speaker 1: What is wrong with you?
Speaker 3: Do I need to draw you up a map to
Speaker 3: the bacon next time. Anyway, the next day I got
Speaker 3: my period and he was like, uh huh.
Speaker 2: That makes sense about the bacon. Now, I've got a
Speaker 2: couple of questions. If you weren't during your period the
Speaker 2: next day, do you think you would have been as
Speaker 2: irritable about the.
Speaker 3: Bacon, Like it's still annoying, but I probably would have
Speaker 3: not been as quick to fly off the handle. So
Speaker 3: my reaction when he didn't come back with the bacon
Speaker 3: was like, no, I don't get to have bacon and
Speaker 3: eggs for my breakfast. But I think if I wasn't
Speaker 3: really pmsy in that PMS stage, I would have just
Speaker 3: been like, Okay, you stay here, I'll go get the bacon,
Speaker 3: like more rational.
Speaker 2: Well, I've known girls that have been at one level
Speaker 2: and pmsing like completely Like I mean one I would
Speaker 2: turn off a light before I get into bed and
Speaker 2: they would go off, you know what I mean? And
Speaker 2: then the next night I wouldn't turn off the light
Speaker 2: and they would get angry like that sort of thing.
Speaker 2: And then I've had people in my life that are
Speaker 2: the complete opposite and like you wouldn't even know that
Speaker 2: they were pmssing. So I think it changes from every girl.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like everyone experiences pms differently. Everyone has.
Speaker 3: You know, we're very hormonal, like when you get your period,
Speaker 3: and I think it's important to have people around you
Speaker 3: who can be sensitive to that. And that's not saying
Speaker 3: like women are these like irrational, crazy, totally erratic people.
Speaker 3: Like we're very capable, but at the same time, like
Speaker 3: we do have moments of explosion naturally.
Speaker 2: I sometimes have my own when I get really irritable,
Speaker 2: when I'm really tired, angry or haven't even had my nap.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, mad, if you've not had your nap, it's
Speaker 1: not good.
Speaker 2: So I can relate to that. Well, and I'm telling
Speaker 2: you about the first time you had your period.
Speaker 3: Then yeah, well okay, So I was in year n
Speaker 3: when I got my period, which is actually really late,
Speaker 3: so yeah, that's quite late, Like I think people get
Speaker 3: it year seven eight ish anyway, So everyone else in
Speaker 3: my whole U level had got it, and I was
Speaker 3: the last one, and I used to like, I'm not
Speaker 3: even religious, but I would like go to bed at
Speaker 3: night and be like, please God, let me get my period.
Speaker 2: No, No, I can relate. I was quite late to
Speaker 2: the table as well with that sort of stuff.
Speaker 1: So I was late blue.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was desperate to get it as well.
Speaker 1: Get what puberty?
Speaker 2: Not my period?
Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah, I was very late. And I remember
Speaker 1: I went to the toilet at school.
Speaker 3: I literally like got my period and I had I
Speaker 3: remember sitting on the toilet with like the biggest smile
Speaker 3: on my face ever, Like I was like, yes, I've
Speaker 3: become a woman. The day has come at last. I
Speaker 3: told my whole class, told the.
Speaker 2: Teacher just walked in and announced it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like told everyone was just like I'm stoked. I
Speaker 3: was ecstatic, guys, announcement, announcement.
Speaker 1: So yeah, it was like it was a very big
Speaker 1: moment for me.
Speaker 3: I felt like I had finally caught out to my peers,
Speaker 3: and like, you know, I was excited.
Speaker 2: Little did you know that that was the first day
Speaker 2: of the rest of your life.
Speaker 3: No, but yeah, it was exciting for me. Have you
Speaker 3: asked Jen about the first time she got her period?
Speaker 2: No, I haven't. I definitely will after this and see
Speaker 2: if she has her first period story. I I don't know, no.
Speaker 1: But well, it's interesting because, like Michael's never asked me.
Speaker 1: Why don't we ask I don't know.
Speaker 2: That's probably one of the reasons why we just think
Speaker 2: this is like an off limit sort of topic. It's
Speaker 2: pretty weird story because you always talk about like when
Speaker 2: it was the first time you masturbated, when was the
Speaker 2: first time you had sex. I don't know what conversations
Speaker 2: you're like, you asked this sort of stuff, but you
Speaker 2: never asked one.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean it's interesting because, like it is a funny story.
Speaker 3: I would have loved to have told Michael that, but
Speaker 3: it's just a topic that's never really come up.
Speaker 1: But he's also super normal with periods.
Speaker 3: I openly talked to him about my period from like
Speaker 3: day one.
Speaker 1: I mean, you talk about my period?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, He'll be like Matt will literally say to
Speaker 3: me like, oh, when's your period, like because he needs
Speaker 3: to like mentally prepare, or like when we bicker. Yeah,
Speaker 3: sometimes I like take things better than others.
Speaker 1: Like the other day, Matt and I had this big
Speaker 1: interview trying to tell this story.
Speaker 2: Yeah, let me tell it. So we had this interview
Speaker 2: and Anna before we went on, I said something and
Speaker 2: Anna took it the wrong way completely and then like
Speaker 2: hung up on me. So I called back and I
Speaker 2: was like, are you due for your period? Like, what's
Speaker 2: going on?
Speaker 1: I know, I was like the audacity to ask me
Speaker 1: if it's my period? And yes it is.
Speaker 3: I'm so fucking annoyed that you just asked that it was.
Speaker 2: I could trust me. I know you Anna very well,
Speaker 2: and I knew that there was something after either way
Speaker 2: reply from my question.
Speaker 1: Now that has to keep.
Speaker 3: Track of his girlfriends, had my period cycles and his
Speaker 3: co host period cycles because they both affect him greatly.
Speaker 2: I've got I should get the af and load your
Speaker 2: boat in there.
Speaker 1: Me and Gen need a sync up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that would actually be very handy.
Speaker 1: You heard of that, the sink up thing?
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, my sisters and my mum would all have
Speaker 2: that growing up. They would be all set the thing. Yeah,
Speaker 2: they were living together.
Speaker 3: You know what, Matt though, Like, I always thought that
Speaker 3: women's periods sinking up was a real thing, Like I've
Speaker 3: had best friends and we seem to sync up with periods.
Speaker 3: But apparently, according to studies by Oxford University, who tracked
Speaker 3: periods from fifteen hundred people. They said that it was
Speaker 3: actually unlikely that women can disrupt each other's menstrual cycles
Speaker 3: by being in close proximity to one another.
Speaker 1: So apparently that's a myth.
Speaker 2: So it's probably just coincidence that they run at the
Speaker 2: same time.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I still feel like it's a thing, but I don't
Speaker 3: know who knows. I'm sure as the youth progress will
Speaker 3: find out. But as it stands, they're saying it's a myth.
Speaker 2: So obviously Michael doesn't get weirded out when you've got
Speaker 2: your period, and he's happy to have sex. Obviously, in Adelaide,
Speaker 2: you guys had sex while you're on your period in
Speaker 2: the shower.
Speaker 3: In regards to having sex on your period, I have
Speaker 3: no problem with it if I feel comfortable or if
Speaker 3: I'm made to feel comfortable by my partner.
Speaker 1: I think if someone straight.
Speaker 3: Up is like, oh, that's disgusting, yuck, then I would
Speaker 3: probably just go with the flow, like not the literal flow,
Speaker 3: but just the flow of being like yeah, I'm cool
Speaker 3: to like, not great fun, but like yeah, I think
Speaker 3: if someone is comfortable with it and it doesn't really
Speaker 3: phase them. Then it kind of puts me into a
Speaker 3: space of feeling comfortable, and then I'm kind of like, well, yeah, sure,
Speaker 3: like sex is messy anyway, Like it's not like you
Speaker 3: come out on scaredaed and dry, like.
Speaker 2: If you're not having if you're not messy after sex,
Speaker 2: I reckon you're doing it a little bit wrong.
Speaker 1: What do you think? What's your take on having sex.
Speaker 2: On a period, Matt, I have literally not a single
Speaker 2: qualm like period's natural. I've grown up with that sort
Speaker 2: of conversation of it. To me, you either do it
Speaker 2: in the shower, or you can put a tower down,
Speaker 2: whatever makes you feel comfortable. I've spoken to a couple
Speaker 2: of mates and they're like, no, it's gonna get messy,
Speaker 2: And I almost thought that's almost like an immature way
Speaker 2: of looking at it, Like, yeah, I guess at the start,
Speaker 2: when it's very heavy flow, probably stay away from it.
Speaker 2: If the girl's in a bit of like strife, like
Speaker 2: she's feeling uncomfortable in pain from cramps, yeah let's don't
Speaker 2: do it then. But if she's willing to like clean
Speaker 2: up the mess afterwards, or you find an option around it, yeah,
Speaker 2: I think it's more happy to.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I guess it's definitely personal preference. Like
Speaker 3: I wouldn't say it's immature or mature. I think like
Speaker 3: some people might before, some people might be against and
Speaker 3: like whatever.
Speaker 2: But I just feel like saying that to a girl
Speaker 2: is there's no need to.
Speaker 3: You definitely, Yeah, you're right, you definitely don't want to
Speaker 3: make someone feel uncomfortable about having a period.
Speaker 2: With something they're naturally going to have. There no point
Speaker 2: making him feel uncomfortable and insecure about it.
Speaker 1: Couldn't agree more?
Speaker 3: Yeah, like, yeah, like, I think it's important to make
Speaker 3: someone feel comfortable. But if for some reason you're a
Speaker 3: bit squeamish or like whatever it is, or if it's
Speaker 3: just too uncomfortable for you, that's also fine.
Speaker 1: To put up those boundaries and kind of work around.
Speaker 2: Them and communicate that with your partner so they know
Speaker 2: and they know it's not a personal thing against them.
Speaker 2: You actually have an issue, You might be actually have
Speaker 2: a phobia of.
Speaker 3: Blood to him, right, Yeah, I mean, yeah, there's lots
Speaker 3: of different like things that could be happening.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but just don't make your partner feel like it's them.
Speaker 3: Yeah, No, for sure, And like you know, there's a
Speaker 3: lot of positives about having sex on your period, Matt,
Speaker 3: so we're going to talk about them next. Okay, Matt,
Speaker 3: did you know that having sex or an orgasm on
Speaker 3: your period can actually reduce menstrual crams?
Speaker 2: I actually did not know that, Anna Genevieve, if you're listening,
Speaker 2: there you go.
Speaker 1: It's a good little stat to know.
Speaker 3: Like, I suffer from quite bad period pain. That's actually
Speaker 3: one of the reasons that I went on the Marina
Speaker 3: as a contraception, because the Marina is the number one
Speaker 3: contraception that actually minimizes really bad menstrual cramps.
Speaker 2: I obviously have never experienced these pains. I actually told
Speaker 2: Jen I'm willing to get hooked up to one of
Speaker 2: those machines that stimulates that pain, just so I can
Speaker 2: understand what pain she's going through.
Speaker 3: Does that stimulate period pain or is that for birth
Speaker 3: or is it both?
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure there's one for both. And I said,
Speaker 2: because one time she was in a lot of pain
Speaker 2: and she was like, you don't understand, and I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm willing to go through that so I can't understand
Speaker 2: and have a better understanding of what you're going through.
Speaker 3: Should maybe we should take you and Michael to one
Speaker 3: of these and just give you a little taste. It's
Speaker 3: actually funny because when me and Michael were in Bali
Speaker 3: and he had like very severe balley belly, Like he's
Speaker 3: never in his life experienced stomach cramps until he got
Speaker 3: Ballei belly.
Speaker 2: Oh no, So was that the closest thing. I wouldn't
Speaker 2: say it was the same, but he'd probably be one
Speaker 2: of the closest things to period cramps.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And so like when he was in the hotel
Speaker 3: room at the peak of his Barlei belly, like he's
Speaker 3: not in a good way. He was like crunched over,
Speaker 3: His stomach was in knots.
Speaker 1: He literally sounded like he was giving birth.
Speaker 3: Like the sounds that were coming out of his mouth
Speaker 3: were like no sounds I've heard from him before.
Speaker 1: And I remember in that moment, he goes, I now.
Speaker 3: Know what it feels like to have period, and I
Speaker 3: was like, I feel like you're in a little bit
Speaker 3: more pain than I normally am.
Speaker 1: But let's go with that.
Speaker 2: Well, that triggers a memory of my own. Actually, I
Speaker 2: remember one Christmas, I ate too many prawns and I
Speaker 2: don't know, so random I know, and I remember sitting.
Speaker 2: I was like sitting on my couch and I was like,
Speaker 2: I mean like having the worst cramps in my stomach. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and my sisters just walked past and they're like, he
Speaker 2: just walked off.
Speaker 1: They're like, no sympathy matters for me.
Speaker 3: I don't know about Jen, but on my period, I
Speaker 3: feel like my sex drive actually increases, So I'm actually
Speaker 3: more inclined to have sex on my period rather than
Speaker 3: not to.
Speaker 2: All Right, So if someone is feeling obviously a little
Speaker 2: bit more horny while they're on their period and they
Speaker 2: want to have sex, do we have any tips on
Speaker 2: how they can go about it?
Speaker 3: Okay, Look, the first one is just to be open
Speaker 3: and honest with your partner, tell them about how you're
Speaker 3: feeling if you have anxiety around it. But sex on
Speaker 3: your period is natural, and if you have any sort
Speaker 3: of hesitation, the best thing to do is just be
Speaker 3: open and communicate.
Speaker 2: Yeah, very good point. Also one is to go in
Speaker 2: the shower or in the bath. I find that can
Speaker 2: like clean up the mess real quickly. But another way
Speaker 2: is to put down a towe on the bed. So
Speaker 2: I suggest using like a dark towel so it doesn't
Speaker 2: stay or yeah.
Speaker 3: It's just so funny hearing you say, but you've said
Speaker 3: it so many times before, you're like, oh, I just
Speaker 3: put down a towel.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just no big deal, no big deal, Yeah, I
Speaker 2: just yeah. So another one that I recommend is to
Speaker 2: keep wet ones by the bed, so wet wipe so
Speaker 2: you can just have a quick cleanup if you don't
Speaker 2: want to see the mess or anything like that.
Speaker 3: Yeah. And I think the final one, which I think
Speaker 3: is really simple. This is the first time Michael and
Speaker 3: I did it when I had my period. We just
Speaker 3: put the lights off, like you really need to be
Speaker 3: like looking at it.
Speaker 1: You can just be in the darkness, imagine something else.
Speaker 3: You don't need to be actually fully aware of the situation,
Speaker 3: and then just go clean up after.
Speaker 2: Yep, I agree. All right, guys, it is that time
Speaker 2: of the show now where we ask you to ask
Speaker 2: us where our head's at. So we've got a couple
Speaker 2: of questions from our amazing where as you head at? Fam?
Speaker 3: Okay, The first one reads, help, I'm going to have
Speaker 3: my period on my anniversary and we are going away
Speaker 3: for a couple of nights to a hotel. Do I
Speaker 3: bring up that I will have my period and see
Speaker 3: if he wants to try having sex. I'm worried he
Speaker 3: will be weirded out. We never have sex when I'm
Speaker 3: on my period. On a side note, any tips for
Speaker 3: shower sex.
Speaker 1: It's getting saucy, all right.
Speaker 2: I think communication is key, obviously, ask him if he
Speaker 2: would like to have sex y and bring up that
Speaker 2: you do have your period, and ask him if he's
Speaker 2: willing to do it. I mean, like I said earlier,
Speaker 2: it's not a big deal, is it. I just don't
Speaker 2: see it as a massive deal. I honestly, Like, I
Speaker 2: just don't know why you would. It's a natural thing obviously,
Speaker 2: Like she's willing to have sex while she's on a period.
Speaker 2: I think maybe just like.
Speaker 1: That's like you're lucky, bro.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, I mean, don't turn down sex when
Speaker 2: it's coming to you.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Like, look, obviously it's your anniversary. You want it to
Speaker 3: be special and nice.
Speaker 2: And like we said earlier, it's in a hotel room,
Speaker 2: you know how get extra horny.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Like I think, as Matt said, be open, be honest,
Speaker 3: communicate that you do have your period, so there's not
Speaker 3: false expectations for that weekend. But yeah, like, have some
Speaker 3: shower sex. Put a towel down. Tips for shower.
Speaker 2: Sex, Matt, go, Look, one of you is always going
Speaker 2: to be cold. The shower is never to cover both.
Speaker 1: Of you unless it's a double shore.
Speaker 2: Unless it's a double shower, then you're onto something.
Speaker 1: What's your top tip for shower sex?
Speaker 2: Just go with it. Realize that, like you're both naked
Speaker 2: in a shower, there's water going everywhere. See what happens.
Speaker 2: Don't be shy to try new things while you're in there.
Speaker 2: All right, So our next listener has said, how do
Speaker 2: I explain to my boyfriend that I do not want
Speaker 2: to have sex on my period? I always have so
Speaker 2: much pain and discomfort. My periods are also extremely heavy,
Speaker 2: and I think he does not understand that I always
Speaker 2: feel like shit during my time of the month.
Speaker 3: Look, I think that your boyfriend needs to be more
Speaker 3: compassionate and understanding if you don't want to have sex,
Speaker 3: he has to respect that. And I think there's other
Speaker 3: things that you can do instead of having sex.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was going to say to other things, but
Speaker 2: obviously she's in pain and discomfort.
Speaker 3: So then again, like having orgasms during your mental cycle
Speaker 3: is supposed to relieve that.
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe try that and see how that goes.
Speaker 3: Okay, guys, thank you so much for listening to this episode.
Speaker 1: I hope this episode.
Speaker 3: Gave you a little more insight into having sex on
Speaker 3: your period.
Speaker 1: Matt. I think you've learned a lot.
Speaker 3: I have.
Speaker 2: I mean, I learned how long a cycle runs for.
Speaker 2: I'm definitely more in tune with a mental cycle.
Speaker 1: Now that much you are.
Speaker 3: I'm going to undersend you my dates, Matt, so that
Speaker 3: you're in tune with my Okay, guys, until next time.
Speaker 2: Bye, thank you, Bye,