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Speaker 2: Thank you for being here with me today.
Speaker 1: Now. I've come to realize in my four or so
Speaker 1: decades on planet Earth that energy is everything.
Speaker 2: And if you've been listening to this show.
Speaker 1: For a while, you know that I believe this because
Speaker 1: I say it regularly and frequently, and by energy I
Speaker 1: mean everything that is around us, in everything that we
Speaker 1: do and say and touch, even in the way that
Speaker 1: we greet people when we walk into a room, even
Speaker 1: in the way we approach conversations, in the books we
Speaker 1: choose to read, the TV shows we watch, even in
Speaker 1: the facial expressions we make. Literally, bitchy resting face is
Speaker 1: an energy. I saw it on my teenage order this morning.
Speaker 1: Most of us, I think, all those listening here anyway,
Speaker 1: I believe, would be wanting to surround ourselves with energy
Speaker 1: that matches where we want to be in life and
Speaker 1: the experiences that we want to have in our lives.
Speaker 1: So when we have control of what energy is around us,
Speaker 1: we try to make it high vibes, don't we And
Speaker 1: if it's not, we distance ourselves from it. It sounds easy,
Speaker 1: because it can be when you get used to protecting
Speaker 1: your energy. But what if, like bitchy resting face, you
Speaker 1: are in circumstances where you cannot remove yourself from or
Speaker 1: are less in control of what energy is around you
Speaker 1: that you cannot walk away from at that point in time,
Speaker 1: which happens this is life.
Speaker 2: If I put myself.
Speaker 1: In the shoes of someone that gives a one on
Speaker 1: one service to other people, like a hairdresser, and I
Speaker 1: use this example because I was in a headdressing salon
Speaker 1: last week and me and my hairdresser had this conversation.
Speaker 1: She told me she'd been in the hairdressing industry since
Speaker 1: she was fourteen years old, and as a teenager, she
Speaker 1: would listen all day long to her adult clients talking
Speaker 1: openly about their lives, their divorces, their illnesses, their heartbreaks
Speaker 1: for eight hours every day as a fourteen year old.
Speaker 1: Can you imagine sitting there and absorbing this information and
Speaker 1: this energy. Now, these are probably conversations she wouldn't have
Speaker 1: had until later in life if she wasn't facing adult clients.
Speaker 1: And it wasn't till later, and she's still relatively young,
Speaker 1: but it wasn't until later, and a few years into
Speaker 1: working as a headdresser, she realized that she felt like
Speaker 1: she grew up quite quickly having these types of conversations,
Speaker 1: and she at the time had no clue on how
Speaker 1: to step away from the things she didn't want to
Speaker 1: hear or divert a conversation she didn't want to be
Speaker 1: part of, or not take it on personally. And these
Speaker 1: are conversations that stayed with her and they became part
Speaker 1: of what she felt at the time.
Speaker 2: Funnily, enough.
Speaker 1: I also went to my beautician later that day after
Speaker 1: getting my hair done to give my eyebrowswaxed a bit
Speaker 1: of a glow up, if you would, And we started
Speaker 1: chatting about this with my beauty therapist, and I had
Speaker 1: a similar conversation with her. She is in her forties,
Speaker 1: so obviously a little bit older, and she's spent years
Speaker 1: in the industry, and she's said over time she has
Speaker 1: gotten really good at being able to listen to her
Speaker 1: clients or hold space for them to talk and share.
Speaker 1: But over time she'd learned not to take it on
Speaker 1: as her own because for many years she did, and
Speaker 1: she said it would feel really heavy on her when
Speaker 1: she heard her clients' stories who were perhaps struggling at
Speaker 1: the time. And I think when we're highly empathetic people,
Speaker 1: it's pretty hard to do that, to let it go,
Speaker 1: to let it just wash off you.
Speaker 2: So if you're listening now and thinking, God, that is me.
Speaker 1: I feel people's pain, I feel people's negativity, I feel
Speaker 1: people's angst. You are not alone. I am that person too.
Speaker 1: But listening and then letting it go doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: you don't care. It just means you are protecting the
Speaker 1: energy you are surrounding yourself with, so you're not taking
Speaker 1: on stuff that isn't yours, because what happens when you
Speaker 1: take on stuff that isn't yours? Well, I believe the
Speaker 1: energy we surround ourselves with becomes greater in our life.
Speaker 1: The higher the vibes, the more good things start to happen,
Speaker 1: and the lower the vibes, I'm sure you can guess,
Speaker 1: the more this seems to come into your world. How
Speaker 1: many times have you seen people and it might be
Speaker 1: even you that have gone through a shit show after
Speaker 1: shit show, and you wonder why on earth these poor
Speaker 1: people seem to experience the same thing over and over again.
Speaker 1: Could the energy we are surrounding ourselves with be multiplying.
Speaker 1: If this is the case, how do you get rid
Speaker 1: of energy that is not yours if you feel like
Speaker 1: you've taken it? On good question, I interviewed an energy
Speaker 1: healer and oracle and AM's Molly Jane, and she's been
Speaker 1: on this podcast couple of years ago. Go back and
Speaker 1: have a listen. It was a great chat. But she
Speaker 1: gave me advice that I've used ever since. If I'm
Speaker 1: in a situation where i feel like I've taken on
Speaker 1: other people's stuff.
Speaker 2: And I actually do this now after a.
Speaker 1: Day out with a big group of people, or if
Speaker 1: I've had a negative or an emotional conversation. And also
Speaker 1: I do it when I get home from holding one
Speaker 1: of my live events. I have an audience that I've
Speaker 1: connected with and there's a lot of people in the room.
Speaker 1: I get home and I simply wash it all off
Speaker 1: in the shower, consciously releasing what isn't mine. And I
Speaker 1: feel better every single time I do it, and it
Speaker 1: happens pretty quickly. But I think it's just that awareness piece,
Speaker 1: Like if you can simply be aware of it and
Speaker 1: understand what is yours and what isn't and have your
Speaker 1: own little richildren let it go, that will really work too.
Speaker 1: This same energy here. Actually, Molly Jane told me something
Speaker 1: else that stuck with me also. She told me, if
Speaker 1: you want to be more seen by others, take up
Speaker 1: more space. And it took me a while to understand
Speaker 1: what she meant by that, but she meant it literally.
Speaker 1: She meant, take up more space in the rooms you're in,
Speaker 1: And I thought, how doe you do that? And she
Speaker 1: explained to me, she said, if you're walking out on stage,
Speaker 1: or if you're walking into a room where you want
Speaker 1: to be noticed, walk in with your arms wide open,
Speaker 1: like do it now, put your arms wide open. You're
Speaker 1: literally taking up more space. Do a twelve, speak up,
Speaker 1: be more present in that room. And it makes so
Speaker 1: much sense because when you take up more space, you
Speaker 1: take up more energy and it changes the situation. And
Speaker 1: I've seen her do this in action, and I had
Speaker 1: a little giggle to myself because I knew what she
Speaker 1: was doing and I know how.
Speaker 2: Well it works.
Speaker 1: Anthony Coudefidis, a former Carlton Football Club AFL champion some
Speaker 1: of you may know, was also on this podcast several
Speaker 1: years ago, and he even used a similar example in
Speaker 1: the way he trained and became an elite athlete, which
Speaker 1: he later used in his personal life for his mental
Speaker 1: health and also in his parenting. He said if he
Speaker 1: was feeling off, feeling flat or unmotivated, he would quote
Speaker 1: change the energy around him. He would push through the lull,
Speaker 1: push through any disagreements, push through the lack of inspiration
Speaker 1: he was feeling, and go out for a run, or
Speaker 1: start skipping with the skipping rope, or find another way
Speaker 1: to shift what is feeling stuck or low vibe, and
Speaker 1: he said, the moment he would choose to make this
Speaker 1: change in energy, his whole vibe would feel different, and
Speaker 1: his current perspective would shift, and the things that felt
Speaker 1: impossible ten minutes earlier would somehow feel much lighter. I
Speaker 1: think energy is such a low hanging fruit for us
Speaker 1: to use to create positive change quickly. You just have
Speaker 1: to be aware of it. It happens in our house
Speaker 1: sometimes raising teenagers can be low vibration. Sometimes if you know,
Speaker 1: you know. But I often say in our house, if
Speaker 1: we're not getting along or someone's niggly or moody, the
Speaker 1: energy's yuck in here, guys, we need to change it.
Speaker 1: And if they don't change, I change it. So have
Speaker 1: a look at your life and know when you are
Speaker 1: feeling off, and if you are, look at what you
Speaker 1: can change energetically to get through that moment in time
Speaker 1: to pull together lighter feelings that you want more of
Speaker 1: in your life. So have a think what energy are
Speaker 1: you feeding? Not just what energy is around you, but
Speaker 1: what energy are you actively giving your attention to. We
Speaker 1: can't control every person or circumstance or challenge that comes
Speaker 1: our way. Life is always going to throw us difficult
Speaker 1: conversations and hard seasons and people who drain us, but
Speaker 1: we can become more conscious of what we hold onto
Speaker 1: and what we choose to release. Sometimes the most powerful
Speaker 1: thing you can do isn't changing your entire life. It's
Speaker 1: simply noticing when something feels heavy and asking yourself if
Speaker 1: it belongs to you, and deciding not to carry it
Speaker 1: any further. This episode has given you one of those
Speaker 1: little aha things you can unhear moments, one of those
Speaker 1: in that makes you look at life a little bit differently.
Speaker 1: I would love to hear about it, or I'd love
Speaker 1: you to share it with someone who you think needs it.
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