WEBVTT - Could the Energy You're Surrounding Yourself With Be Multiplying? // Maritza Barone 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:02.400 Before we jump into this episode, I want to let 0:00:02.440 --> 0:00:05.440 you know about something new I've created just for you. Now. 0:00:05.440 --> 0:00:08.280 I've been interviewing health and wellbeing experts for more than 0:00:08.280 --> 0:00:10.720 a decade and one question I get asked all the 0:00:10.760 --> 0:00:14.520 time is what brands do you actually use and trust? 0:00:14.720 --> 0:00:17.360 So I decided to make it easy. I've created and 0:00:17.520 --> 0:00:22.680 curated a wellbeing marketplace featuring products from brands I genuinely 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:26.560 love and have discovered through the years of conversations with 0:00:26.680 --> 0:00:29.880 leading experts. Think of it as your shortcut to better 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:33.600 choices without having to do all the research yourself. 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I've come to realize in my four or so 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:57.560 decades on planet Earth that energy is everything. 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:00.000 And if you've been listening to this show. 0:00:59.840 --> 0:01:02.000 For a while, you know that I believe this because 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:05.720 I say it regularly and frequently, and by energy I 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:09.319 mean everything that is around us, in everything that we 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:12.440 do and say and touch, even in the way that 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:15.000 we greet people when we walk into a room, even 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:17.920 in the way we approach conversations, in the books we 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:20.840 choose to read, the TV shows we watch, even in 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:25.280 the facial expressions we make. Literally, bitchy resting face is 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:27.919 an energy. I saw it on my teenage order this morning. 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:32.360 Most of us, I think, all those listening here anyway, 0:01:32.800 --> 0:01:36.040 I believe, would be wanting to surround ourselves with energy 0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:38.560 that matches where we want to be in life and 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:41.319 the experiences that we want to have in our lives. 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:45.360 So when we have control of what energy is around us, 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:50.160 we try to make it high vibes, don't we And 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:55.040 if it's not, we distance ourselves from it. It sounds easy, 0:01:55.080 --> 0:01:57.760 because it can be when you get used to protecting 0:01:57.800 --> 0:02:01.720 your energy. But what if, like bitchy resting face, you 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:06.480 are in circumstances where you cannot remove yourself from or 0:02:06.600 --> 0:02:09.720 are less in control of what energy is around you 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:12.720 that you cannot walk away from at that point in time, 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:14.640 which happens this is life. 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:16.240 If I put myself. 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:19.239 In the shoes of someone that gives a one on 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:21.720 one service to other people, like a hairdresser, and I 0:02:21.840 --> 0:02:24.160 use this example because I was in a headdressing salon 0:02:24.280 --> 0:02:27.279 last week and me and my hairdresser had this conversation. 0:02:28.160 --> 0:02:31.560 She told me she'd been in the hairdressing industry since 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:34.679 she was fourteen years old, and as a teenager, she 0:02:34.720 --> 0:02:39.800 would listen all day long to her adult clients talking 0:02:39.960 --> 0:02:44.600 openly about their lives, their divorces, their illnesses, their heartbreaks 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:48.600 for eight hours every day as a fourteen year old. 0:02:48.600 --> 0:02:52.880 Can you imagine sitting there and absorbing this information and 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:57.760 this energy. Now, these are probably conversations she wouldn't have 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:02.440 had until later in life if she wasn't facing adult clients. 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:05.920 And it wasn't till later, and she's still relatively young, 0:03:06.240 --> 0:03:08.960 but it wasn't until later, and a few years into 0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:11.640 working as a headdresser, she realized that she felt like 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:15.040 she grew up quite quickly having these types of conversations, 0:03:15.440 --> 0:03:20.320 and she at the time had no clue on how 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:22.400 to step away from the things she didn't want to 0:03:22.440 --> 0:03:25.800 hear or divert a conversation she didn't want to be 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:30.079 part of, or not take it on personally. And these 0:03:30.320 --> 0:03:33.239 are conversations that stayed with her and they became part 0:03:33.280 --> 0:03:35.200 of what she felt at the time. 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:37.160 Funnily, enough. 0:03:37.160 --> 0:03:39.000 I also went to my beautician later that day after 0:03:39.040 --> 0:03:41.720 getting my hair done to give my eyebrowswaxed a bit 0:03:41.760 --> 0:03:44.360 of a glow up, if you would, And we started 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:47.680 chatting about this with my beauty therapist, and I had 0:03:47.720 --> 0:03:51.520 a similar conversation with her. She is in her forties, 0:03:51.680 --> 0:03:54.680 so obviously a little bit older, and she's spent years 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:57.960 in the industry, and she's said over time she has 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:02.040 gotten really good at being able to listen to her 0:04:02.040 --> 0:04:06.040 clients or hold space for them to talk and share. 0:04:07.000 --> 0:04:10.160 But over time she'd learned not to take it on 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:13.360 as her own because for many years she did, and 0:04:13.400 --> 0:04:15.839 she said it would feel really heavy on her when 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:19.400 she heard her clients' stories who were perhaps struggling at 0:04:19.400 --> 0:04:22.560 the time. And I think when we're highly empathetic people, 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:25.840 it's pretty hard to do that, to let it go, 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:27.359 to let it just wash off you. 0:04:28.000 --> 0:04:30.599 So if you're listening now and thinking, God, that is me. 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:35.200 I feel people's pain, I feel people's negativity, I feel 0:04:35.240 --> 0:04:39.680 people's angst. You are not alone. I am that person too. 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:43.520 But listening and then letting it go doesn't mean that 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:46.320 you don't care. It just means you are protecting the 0:04:46.520 --> 0:04:49.359 energy you are surrounding yourself with, so you're not taking 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:53.080 on stuff that isn't yours, because what happens when you 0:04:53.120 --> 0:04:55.800 take on stuff that isn't yours? Well, I believe the 0:04:55.920 --> 0:05:00.360 energy we surround ourselves with becomes greater in our life. 0:05:00.520 --> 0:05:04.080 The higher the vibes, the more good things start to happen, 0:05:04.480 --> 0:05:06.719 and the lower the vibes, I'm sure you can guess, 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:09.320 the more this seems to come into your world. How 0:05:09.360 --> 0:05:12.640 many times have you seen people and it might be 0:05:12.720 --> 0:05:15.799 even you that have gone through a shit show after 0:05:15.960 --> 0:05:18.520 shit show, and you wonder why on earth these poor 0:05:18.560 --> 0:05:21.760 people seem to experience the same thing over and over again. 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:26.560 Could the energy we are surrounding ourselves with be multiplying. 0:05:27.080 --> 0:05:30.039 If this is the case, how do you get rid 0:05:30.040 --> 0:05:32.919 of energy that is not yours if you feel like 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:36.919 you've taken it? On good question, I interviewed an energy 0:05:36.960 --> 0:05:39.680 healer and oracle and AM's Molly Jane, and she's been 0:05:39.720 --> 0:05:41.880 on this podcast couple of years ago. Go back and 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:44.240 have a listen. It was a great chat. But she 0:05:44.320 --> 0:05:47.680 gave me advice that I've used ever since. If I'm 0:05:47.680 --> 0:05:49.520 in a situation where i feel like I've taken on 0:05:49.560 --> 0:05:50.480 other people's stuff. 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:52.160 And I actually do this now after a. 0:05:52.160 --> 0:05:54.480 Day out with a big group of people, or if 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:57.719 I've had a negative or an emotional conversation. And also 0:05:57.800 --> 0:05:59.440 I do it when I get home from holding one 0:05:59.440 --> 0:06:01.760 of my live events. I have an audience that I've 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:04.520 connected with and there's a lot of people in the room. 0:06:04.920 --> 0:06:07.960 I get home and I simply wash it all off 0:06:08.000 --> 0:06:13.040 in the shower, consciously releasing what isn't mine. And I 0:06:13.040 --> 0:06:15.880 feel better every single time I do it, and it 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:21.080 happens pretty quickly. But I think it's just that awareness piece, 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:23.400 Like if you can simply be aware of it and 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:26.800 understand what is yours and what isn't and have your 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:30.720 own little richildren let it go, that will really work too. 0:06:31.279 --> 0:06:34.440 This same energy here. Actually, Molly Jane told me something 0:06:34.480 --> 0:06:38.040 else that stuck with me also. She told me, if 0:06:38.080 --> 0:06:41.760 you want to be more seen by others, take up 0:06:41.800 --> 0:06:46.120 more space. And it took me a while to understand 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:48.640 what she meant by that, but she meant it literally. 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:51.960 She meant, take up more space in the rooms you're in, 0:06:52.720 --> 0:06:56.440 And I thought, how doe you do that? And she 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:58.760 explained to me, she said, if you're walking out on stage, 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:01.320 or if you're walking into a room where you want 0:07:01.360 --> 0:07:06.039 to be noticed, walk in with your arms wide open, 0:07:06.279 --> 0:07:08.240 like do it now, put your arms wide open. You're 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:13.520 literally taking up more space. Do a twelve, speak up, 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:18.640 be more present in that room. And it makes so 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:21.040 much sense because when you take up more space, you 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:25.280 take up more energy and it changes the situation. And 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:27.200 I've seen her do this in action, and I had 0:07:27.240 --> 0:07:30.080 a little giggle to myself because I knew what she 0:07:30.240 --> 0:07:31.800 was doing and I know how. 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:32.680 Well it works. 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:38.680 Anthony Coudefidis, a former Carlton Football Club AFL champion some 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:41.080 of you may know, was also on this podcast several 0:07:41.160 --> 0:07:43.800 years ago, and he even used a similar example in 0:07:43.840 --> 0:07:47.680 the way he trained and became an elite athlete, which 0:07:47.720 --> 0:07:49.880 he later used in his personal life for his mental 0:07:49.920 --> 0:07:53.440 health and also in his parenting. He said if he 0:07:53.520 --> 0:07:58.679 was feeling off, feeling flat or unmotivated, he would quote 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:04.720 change the energy around him. He would push through the lull, 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:08.600 push through any disagreements, push through the lack of inspiration 0:08:08.720 --> 0:08:12.080 he was feeling, and go out for a run, or 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:15.320 start skipping with the skipping rope, or find another way 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:18.760 to shift what is feeling stuck or low vibe, and 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:21.400 he said, the moment he would choose to make this 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:26.680 change in energy, his whole vibe would feel different, and 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:30.160 his current perspective would shift, and the things that felt 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:34.760 impossible ten minutes earlier would somehow feel much lighter. I 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:37.760 think energy is such a low hanging fruit for us 0:08:37.800 --> 0:08:41.360 to use to create positive change quickly. You just have 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:43.840 to be aware of it. It happens in our house 0:08:43.880 --> 0:08:48.720 sometimes raising teenagers can be low vibration. Sometimes if you know, 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:52.760 you know. But I often say in our house, if 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:55.920 we're not getting along or someone's niggly or moody, the 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:58.440 energy's yuck in here, guys, we need to change it. 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:01.320 And if they don't change, I change it. So have 0:09:01.320 --> 0:09:03.240 a look at your life and know when you are 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:06.080 feeling off, and if you are, look at what you 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:09.679 can change energetically to get through that moment in time 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:13.679 to pull together lighter feelings that you want more of 0:09:13.800 --> 0:09:16.400 in your life. So have a think what energy are 0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:19.679 you feeding? Not just what energy is around you, but 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:23.160 what energy are you actively giving your attention to. We 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:27.120 can't control every person or circumstance or challenge that comes 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:29.760 our way. Life is always going to throw us difficult 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:33.440 conversations and hard seasons and people who drain us, but 0:09:33.559 --> 0:09:37.040 we can become more conscious of what we hold onto 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:41.040 and what we choose to release. Sometimes the most powerful 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:43.560 thing you can do isn't changing your entire life. It's 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:48.040 simply noticing when something feels heavy and asking yourself if 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:52.000 it belongs to you, and deciding not to carry it 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:56.679 any further. 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