1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:03,880 Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gaddigal Land Always was, always 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:09,280 Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. 3 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 2: Hey chicks, I'm out and this is two broad chicks 4 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:17,239 Speaker 2: to show that shares life lessons and tips to help 5 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:19,080 Speaker 2: make you rich in life. 6 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:20,960 Speaker 1: And welcome back. 7 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:27,440 Speaker 2: Another jokey Chuesday. How sounds on a vibe this morning? Yeah, 8 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 2: she's kicking doors off, hinges, growing up looses. 9 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:33,600 Speaker 3: For context, chicks, I listened to like a real good 10 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 3: Friday forgotten Bager this morning, and yeah, it really changed 11 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:38,240 Speaker 3: my world. 12 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 2: She's vibing, thriving, sloping, sligh slopping love that I had 13 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:49,279 Speaker 2: a finger bun for breakfast. I really thought you were 14 00:00:49,280 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 2: going to say that. 15 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 1: If I read. 16 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:59,720 Speaker 2: Choose a finger bun had a finger ring, finger butt 17 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 2: every time. 18 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:03,080 Speaker 1: Okay, let's get into the right. 19 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:08,600 Speaker 2: So today we are talking sentences we wish we read sooner. 20 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:12,920 Speaker 2: I was about to go pointer sendences we we web sooner, 21 00:01:13,040 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 2: We wish we were to, we. 22 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 1: Wish we were. 23 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 2: So we are going to be reading the life lessons 24 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:22,759 Speaker 2: and sentences that truly have shifted and altered our brain chemistry. 25 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 2: But we also asked you chicks to send in some 26 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:27,200 Speaker 2: of your owns and we'll also be reading those out, 27 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:31,319 Speaker 2: plus a super spicy advice with the chicks at the end. 28 00:01:32,200 --> 00:01:32,480 Speaker 2: I know. 29 00:01:32,959 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: But first, Sally, what is your obsession of the week? 30 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 3: Okay, my obsession of the week is actually a new 31 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:43,319 Speaker 3: TV show that's on Netflix and it's called The Residents. 32 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 1: Have you seen that? I've heard of this? Yes, by 33 00:01:46,200 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 1: Shonda Rhymes exactly. You know it's going to be good. 34 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:55,280 Speaker 3: She did Crossroads, she did bridgeton Anatomy, Crossroads. 35 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:58,840 Speaker 1: No, no, no, you literally led We. 36 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:04,360 Speaker 2: Lag the least successful work of Shonda Rhyme. 37 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 1: It's her best in my mind. 38 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:08,360 Speaker 4: I also did Fuck What was that Scandal? 39 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 3: Yeah? 40 00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:12,919 Speaker 1: But it is essentially a Who Done It? Series? 41 00:02:13,480 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 3: And it's based in the White House and it's the 42 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 3: I think there's like eight episodes, but it's all over 43 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 3: one night and there's one hundred and fifty seven witnesses 44 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:26,040 Speaker 3: and there's a cameo from Kylie Minogue. 45 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: It's so so good. 46 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 2: Don't they like play on that Hugh Jackman but it's 47 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:32,040 Speaker 2: not Hugh Jackman and they only show the back of 48 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:35,639 Speaker 2: his head. Yeah, it's amazing because doesn't the Australian government 49 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:40,240 Speaker 2: visit the American government? Yeah, they're having a state dinner yeah, 50 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 2: with the Australian government. And while that's happening, a murder 51 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 2: happens somewhere upstairs. And then so they bring in like 52 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:50,959 Speaker 2: a really famous detective who is played by Uzo Duba, 53 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:53,239 Speaker 2: who you may know from Orange Is the New Black, 54 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 2: and God she's good. Yeah. 55 00:02:55,280 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, So definitely recommend because you know it'll keep you 56 00:02:58,320 --> 00:03:01,240 Speaker 3: on your toes. It's suspenseful, but it's also really funny 57 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:03,760 Speaker 3: and kind of stupid right up are Alley. 58 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:06,359 Speaker 1: Kind of funny and a little bit stupid. 59 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:10,240 Speaker 2: That should be our new tagline, welcome back to broads 60 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:12,680 Speaker 2: the show that's kind of funny and a little bit stupid. 61 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:17,040 Speaker 1: I like it. What's changing our bio? Okay, Kelly. When 62 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:19,800 Speaker 1: we had Domski on the pod, we were talking like 63 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:22,240 Speaker 1: our favorite Ride or Die beauty products. 64 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 2: And I was saying that the Morphy Sweet Tea brown 65 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 2: lipliner is like my Ride or fucking Die, Like I 66 00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 2: use this down to the nub trigger warning, I use 67 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:37,000 Speaker 2: the word nub, but it is literally my favorite lipliner. 68 00:03:37,040 --> 00:03:41,760 Speaker 2: And it got discontinued and I was horrified. I was disgusted. 69 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 2: I was going through probably the worst breakup of my 70 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 2: entire life that I then had to buy it on 71 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 2: Asos for like thirty dollars. 72 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:52,200 Speaker 1: And then anyway, I'm running out of it. This is 73 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:52,760 Speaker 1: all I have. 74 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:55,480 Speaker 4: Less shit, Okay, there's not much. 75 00:03:56,400 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 1: I've got it in the studio. 76 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 4: It's about ten centimes Alexa play the Fine Countdownyeah. 77 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah. 78 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 2: And I've been stressed because I then went to go 79 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 2: back on Asos and it wasn't there. I was like, fuck, 80 00:04:08,800 --> 00:04:10,840 Speaker 2: I'm going to have to go into stores and like 81 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:18,960 Speaker 2: Swatch next to my morphylipliner. Now, however, the ten dollar 82 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 2: discontinued morphilipliners are back at Mecca. 83 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 1: And I bought twenty. 84 00:04:30,760 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 3: Twenty quick mass and two hundred dollars worth of blipliners. 85 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:36,800 Speaker 1: They're ten dollars each. 86 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:40,719 Speaker 2: Now, I will preface this by I got ten of 87 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:43,800 Speaker 2: the Sweet Tea, which is the brown, and then there 88 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:46,440 Speaker 2: was another show that I was like, that's the vibe 89 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:50,320 Speaker 2: and I was like, you know what, I'm scared ten 90 00:04:50,360 --> 00:04:52,880 Speaker 2: of those two. Is it back for good or did 91 00:04:52,880 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 2: they just have random I don't know, So that is 92 00:04:55,440 --> 00:04:59,159 Speaker 2: why I bought ten And is that selfish? Probably, but 93 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 2: I am not sorry. I'm not sorry. And there was 94 00:05:03,200 --> 00:05:05,840 Speaker 2: still some left in stock. Okay, so please don't come 95 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 2: for me for being a selfish little bitch. I completely 96 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:11,240 Speaker 2: acknowledged that that was very selfish at me. But I 97 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:14,839 Speaker 2: have an emotional dependence on this slipliner. It's ten dollars. 98 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:18,280 Speaker 2: It's so buttery. It literally can be used on your 99 00:05:18,279 --> 00:05:20,080 Speaker 2: whole face. I use it to do my nose contour, 100 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 2: my freckles, my eyeshadow, my lips. Like that's the last 101 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:26,720 Speaker 2: of my worries. I'm really ramping myself up right now. 102 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 1: I like it. 103 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 2: But truly, someone posted on TikTok and I commented it 104 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:31,280 Speaker 2: and I. 105 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:32,840 Speaker 1: Was like, oh my hagking God, you've changed my life. 106 00:05:32,880 --> 00:05:34,040 Speaker 1: I was like, thank you, you have. 107 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:37,040 Speaker 3: Done God said that's we should send them a check, truly, 108 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:39,760 Speaker 3: like they should send you an invoice which work. 109 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 1: Like, I don't know if it's back for good. 110 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:47,200 Speaker 2: I'm hoping singer scrolls or if they just found like 111 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:48,160 Speaker 2: a box out the back. 112 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:50,960 Speaker 1: But it was the best thing that happened to me 113 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:53,719 Speaker 1: this week. I'm really happy for it. It truly was. 114 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:56,599 Speaker 1: I bought my my second cat this week. But the 115 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 1: more legliners, now that's good shit. 116 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:04,160 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, the Morphy lipliners are the best, and they're 117 00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:04,919 Speaker 2: ten dollars. 118 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:07,839 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so affordable. What the hell? So I'm really happy? 119 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 1: What a great day? 120 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:18,240 Speaker 2: I know. Okay, sentences we wish we read sooner? 121 00:06:18,600 --> 00:06:22,040 Speaker 3: I really have to sound tongue huge I say it, 122 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 3: sentences we wish we read sooner? 123 00:06:25,279 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 1: Is ill? I still my mouth. 124 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:30,719 Speaker 3: That. 125 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:33,359 Speaker 1: Have you ever read the book The Five People You 126 00:06:33,400 --> 00:06:34,080 Speaker 1: Meet in Heaven? 127 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:34,640 Speaker 3: Oh? 128 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:37,359 Speaker 2: No, But I've been recommended this so many times, and 129 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:39,560 Speaker 2: whenever I ask people about the book, they wish they 130 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:40,799 Speaker 2: could read for the first time. 131 00:06:40,839 --> 00:06:43,720 Speaker 1: Again, this is always in the comments. That's a really 132 00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:46,039 Speaker 1: good one, and I agree. I read this book. 133 00:06:46,080 --> 00:06:48,480 Speaker 3: It's by Mitch Album if you haven't read it before. 134 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:51,600 Speaker 3: I read this I think in my early twenties, and 135 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 3: I got it as a gift from one of my 136 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 3: best friends, and I completely agree it changed my life 137 00:06:56,640 --> 00:06:59,600 Speaker 3: after reading it. There are so many gems of wisdom 138 00:06:59,720 --> 00:07:02,840 Speaker 3: in the book, but I do have one that, as 139 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:06,520 Speaker 3: a young twenty year old, I think really shaped me. 140 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:09,800 Speaker 3: This is the quote or sentence that stood out to me. 141 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 3: Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from the inside. 142 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:18,040 Speaker 3: We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the 143 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:21,679 Speaker 3: person who harmed us, but hatred is a curved blade 144 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 3: and the harm we do we do to ourselves. 145 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 1: Wow, that is amazing. 146 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:32,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, so you know, obviously there's going to be times 147 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:35,400 Speaker 3: when we don't agree with people or we don't like people. 148 00:07:36,120 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 3: But I know that as a young person, I felt 149 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:41,200 Speaker 3: so much kind of like power in being. 150 00:07:41,040 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 1: Like I guess like the people that all the things 151 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 1: that I. 152 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:46,760 Speaker 3: Didn't like, all the people that I you know, disagreed 153 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:50,200 Speaker 3: with or really didn't like, I would be really staunch 154 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 3: about my opinions on things and could like really struggle 155 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:57,480 Speaker 3: to let things go. I think he love a grudge. 156 00:07:57,520 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 3: He loved a grudge, loved a grudge, loved like standing 157 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 3: up for injustices on behalf of my friends and doing that, 158 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:06,920 Speaker 3: you know, under the pretense that I was being really 159 00:08:06,960 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 3: loyal or not putting up with people's shit. All of 160 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 3: these things I think are positive qualities in moderation. But 161 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 3: holding onto something for so long only poisons you. Like 162 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:21,800 Speaker 3: you're the one who's ruminating on these things when you 163 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:23,880 Speaker 3: go to bed at night. The other person doesn't know 164 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:27,320 Speaker 3: and probably doesn't care, So let it go. 165 00:08:27,960 --> 00:08:29,320 Speaker 1: I think that's so powerful. 166 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 2: It really does encourage you to think, like, truly, is 167 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 2: there anyone that I like genuinely hate Yeah, and why 168 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:40,560 Speaker 2: because even if you know, you think about maybe the 169 00:08:40,640 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 2: people that like severely bullied you in high school. 170 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:45,120 Speaker 1: When I think about that, I don't hate them, hmm. 171 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:48,840 Speaker 2: But I'm like, I don't necessarily like you, but I 172 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:50,360 Speaker 2: also never think about you anymore. 173 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:51,120 Speaker 1: Yeah. 174 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:54,720 Speaker 2: That It's like even you know, in the last couple 175 00:08:54,720 --> 00:08:57,720 Speaker 2: of years, I've had a few reach out and offer apologies, 176 00:08:57,760 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 2: which is great. Yeah, it's a lot of growth and yeah, 177 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:02,320 Speaker 2: and it's a lot of great, but I'm also like, 178 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:06,000 Speaker 2: thank you, but I also don't need the apology anymore 179 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:08,160 Speaker 2: because I don't hold on to it, and I think 180 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:11,679 Speaker 2: that does take time, and that takes effort, and sometimes 181 00:09:11,679 --> 00:09:14,079 Speaker 2: it does even take talking to a professional to help 182 00:09:14,160 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 2: you through the emotions to get over some of those humps. 183 00:09:18,040 --> 00:09:22,480 Speaker 2: Because again that's not to say that there isn't necessarily 184 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:25,200 Speaker 2: you don't have to forgive people either, Like if you've 185 00:09:25,240 --> 00:09:29,800 Speaker 2: been really hurt or something really devastating has happened to you, 186 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:30,640 Speaker 2: you don't have to. 187 00:09:30,720 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 1: We're not saying like, no, you've got to like the 188 00:09:32,520 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 1: move on. Everyone's in kumbaia and far assholes. 189 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 2: Finger bang, But I think exactly what you're saying, do 190 00:09:42,840 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 2: you remember did you ever read this book in primary school? 191 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:47,199 Speaker 1: It was this story. 192 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 2: Book about a kid that carried around this brown ball, 193 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:54,320 Speaker 2: and the ball just throughout the book kept getting bigger 194 00:09:54,360 --> 00:09:55,840 Speaker 2: and bigger and heavier and heavier. 195 00:09:55,880 --> 00:09:56,520 Speaker 1: Do you remember that? 196 00:09:56,559 --> 00:09:56,839 Speaker 3: Yes? 197 00:09:57,000 --> 00:09:59,160 Speaker 1: Does it end up as like a boulder in the hands. 198 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:02,840 Speaker 2: And he's pushed this boulder and this rock and he's 199 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:04,560 Speaker 2: pushing it up hills and trying. 200 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 1: To get it to school. 201 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:07,959 Speaker 2: And by the end of the book, as so many 202 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:12,000 Speaker 2: children's books are, the life lesson is letting go of 203 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:16,040 Speaker 2: grudges and heaviness because it actually just ends up you 204 00:10:16,120 --> 00:10:18,199 Speaker 2: who's carrying the weight exactly. 205 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: I need to find what that book is. If you 206 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:22,080 Speaker 1: chicks remember what it's called put in the comments. 207 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:25,920 Speaker 2: I also think it's very helpful in today's climate, especially 208 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:30,120 Speaker 2: based on the conversation that we had recently in terms. 209 00:10:29,760 --> 00:10:34,679 Speaker 1: Of don't be a hater, just be a coin yees. Yeah, 210 00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:35,679 Speaker 1: what's your first one? 211 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:41,120 Speaker 2: My first one is actually from a fictional fantasy book 212 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:46,560 Speaker 2: that I'm reading. And sometimes in fictional books, you don't 213 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:50,280 Speaker 2: expect like a quote to come out and like smack 214 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:51,760 Speaker 2: you on the bum. 215 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:55,720 Speaker 1: And you like it gives you a little pinch and 216 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:59,839 Speaker 1: you're like, oh, oh, expecting that, and I was like, good, nay. 217 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:04,480 Speaker 2: So the book is the plated prisoner series and I 218 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:06,640 Speaker 2: spoke about this on the Basic Bitch book Club and 219 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 2: I hated the first book. 220 00:11:08,679 --> 00:11:10,640 Speaker 1: I load it, that really. 221 00:11:10,440 --> 00:11:14,720 Speaker 2: Came out, but I let go of my hate as 222 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:16,920 Speaker 2: per this episode, and. 223 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 1: I read the second. 224 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:20,640 Speaker 2: I was like yea me, and then I kind of 225 00:11:20,840 --> 00:11:23,560 Speaker 2: fell off, I mean third of the way through the 226 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 2: third one. But then one of the chicks in the 227 00:11:25,920 --> 00:11:27,959 Speaker 2: book club was like, no, this is like my book 228 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:29,760 Speaker 2: series that if I could read it again for the 229 00:11:29,760 --> 00:11:32,360 Speaker 2: first time, I would, and I was like fine. I 230 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:34,040 Speaker 2: read the whole third book in one day and I 231 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:36,440 Speaker 2: was like, all right, you're right. It's filthy, it's smutty, 232 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:39,000 Speaker 2: and I loved it. But in the book there was 233 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:40,679 Speaker 2: this one quote that I was like, write that down, 234 00:11:40,720 --> 00:11:44,360 Speaker 2: write that down, and it was this, there comes a 235 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:46,440 Speaker 2: point in time in your life when you have to 236 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 2: choose between having regrets and the possibility of making mistakes. 237 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:57,559 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Because truly, I think that's just like your 238 00:11:57,559 --> 00:12:00,920 Speaker 2: whole life. To be honest, there is so many times 239 00:12:00,920 --> 00:12:04,360 Speaker 2: in my life that I just wouldn't do something because 240 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:08,760 Speaker 2: I was so scared of the negative, and I was like, no, 241 00:12:08,840 --> 00:12:11,840 Speaker 2: that's as if it was a sure thing, as if 242 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:13,240 Speaker 2: that negativity or. 243 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:15,120 Speaker 1: That thing that would go wrong. 244 00:12:15,240 --> 00:12:20,040 Speaker 2: Of what if that was not positive was written in 245 00:12:20,080 --> 00:12:22,560 Speaker 2: the stars and was like one hundred percent going to happen. 246 00:12:23,080 --> 00:12:26,800 Speaker 2: But it's simply a possibility. And as we've said on 247 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:27,800 Speaker 2: this show so many. 248 00:12:27,600 --> 00:12:30,080 Speaker 1: Times, there is only one thing in. 249 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 2: This life that you cannot get a refund for, and 250 00:12:32,280 --> 00:12:35,920 Speaker 2: that's your time. And would I rather regret not doing 251 00:12:35,960 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 2: that and never being able to do it again or 252 00:12:39,920 --> 00:12:44,360 Speaker 2: possibly make a mistake, which really is just a life lesson. 253 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:45,280 Speaker 1: Yeah. 254 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:47,320 Speaker 3: I can think of times in my early twenties when 255 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:51,800 Speaker 3: I literally self sabotage myself in job interviews because I 256 00:12:51,840 --> 00:12:54,600 Speaker 3: was scared of the possibility of getting into another job 257 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:57,440 Speaker 3: and all the things that could potentially go wrong even 258 00:12:57,440 --> 00:12:58,360 Speaker 3: though I wanted the job. 259 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:03,160 Speaker 2: Well, there's so like even people do it with relationships, 260 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:05,160 Speaker 2: Like you know, I would do it when I was 261 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 2: single and I would meet someone and I'd be like yeah, 262 00:13:08,440 --> 00:13:11,160 Speaker 2: and I would then self sabotage and I would sabotage 263 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:13,200 Speaker 2: your relationship because I was scared of getting hurt. 264 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:14,439 Speaker 1: So I was like I'm not. 265 00:13:14,360 --> 00:13:17,520 Speaker 2: Gonna let this go any further because I don't want 266 00:13:17,559 --> 00:13:20,720 Speaker 2: to get hurt again. And there's you can probably list 267 00:13:20,760 --> 00:13:23,200 Speaker 2: out so many times in your life where you're looking 268 00:13:23,280 --> 00:13:26,120 Speaker 2: at like a fork in the road being like your name, 269 00:13:27,840 --> 00:13:31,080 Speaker 2: and it's scary, but it might not go wrong, like 270 00:13:31,160 --> 00:13:32,080 Speaker 2: what if? 271 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:33,360 Speaker 1: What the what if? 272 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:34,000 Speaker 2: Is good? 273 00:13:34,440 --> 00:13:35,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, And most. 274 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:38,280 Speaker 3: Of the time it is exactly or even if it 275 00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:41,360 Speaker 3: is bad, it's never as bad as we think it's going. 276 00:13:41,280 --> 00:13:43,120 Speaker 2: To be, truly, and you will deal with it so 277 00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:44,920 Speaker 2: much better. So yeah, when I read that, I was. 278 00:13:44,880 --> 00:13:48,400 Speaker 1: Like me, like, fine, damn it, all right, what's. 279 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:51,040 Speaker 2: Your next sentence? You wish you read sooner? 280 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 1: So I feel like you're gonna laugh at me for 281 00:13:53,120 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 1: this one. Oh great. 282 00:13:54,640 --> 00:13:58,720 Speaker 3: This one is from the Elton John documentary Very Good 283 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:02,080 Speaker 3: that recently came out on Disney Plus, and it's about 284 00:14:02,120 --> 00:14:05,440 Speaker 3: his last tour that he ever did. And he's obviously 285 00:14:05,480 --> 00:14:09,319 Speaker 3: had an amazing career, has achieved so much and has 286 00:14:09,400 --> 00:14:13,199 Speaker 3: left an incredible legacy on the world in so many ways, 287 00:14:13,559 --> 00:14:16,440 Speaker 3: especially on me. But there was one quote from the 288 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:19,080 Speaker 3: documentary that really stood out to me, and I was 289 00:14:19,160 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 3: just like, fuck, if Elton John can say this, I 290 00:14:22,160 --> 00:14:25,840 Speaker 3: think we could all say this to ourselves, And he 291 00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:30,120 Speaker 3: said on my gravestone, I wanted to say he was 292 00:14:30,160 --> 00:14:33,800 Speaker 3: a great husband and a great father, not he was 293 00:14:33,840 --> 00:14:37,600 Speaker 3: the best musician or best songwriter. And I just thought 294 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 3: that was so beautiful coming from somebody like him that 295 00:14:42,560 --> 00:14:46,040 Speaker 3: has achieved so much, And it was a good reminder 296 00:14:46,120 --> 00:14:49,560 Speaker 3: that I think the sum of our legacy isn't our achievements, 297 00:14:49,600 --> 00:14:52,400 Speaker 3: but the connections that we make, and that's the true 298 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:56,520 Speaker 3: impact that we'll have, because so many of us will 299 00:14:56,680 --> 00:14:59,280 Speaker 3: be like I don't know if you're like working a 300 00:14:59,360 --> 00:15:01,080 Speaker 3: job and you're like, oh, but I could be doing this, 301 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:03,480 Speaker 3: or you're comparing yourself to other people, or why haven't 302 00:15:03,520 --> 00:15:07,320 Speaker 3: I achieved this by this time? And it's like, is 303 00:15:07,320 --> 00:15:09,880 Speaker 3: that really what is important? Like is that what you're 304 00:15:09,920 --> 00:15:11,760 Speaker 3: going to be thinking back on at the end of 305 00:15:11,800 --> 00:15:14,040 Speaker 3: your days, or what the people in your life will. 306 00:15:13,920 --> 00:15:14,560 Speaker 1: Remember you for. 307 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:17,480 Speaker 3: Like I really doubt that any of the people that 308 00:15:17,520 --> 00:15:20,880 Speaker 3: we love in our life will be thinking about us 309 00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:23,160 Speaker 3: or think about us and be like, God, their podcast 310 00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:25,640 Speaker 3: is good, you know what I mean? Like I would 311 00:15:25,680 --> 00:15:27,880 Speaker 3: hope that they would be proud of our achievements, but 312 00:15:27,920 --> 00:15:29,440 Speaker 3: I think there would be so many things that would 313 00:15:29,480 --> 00:15:30,440 Speaker 3: come before that. 314 00:15:30,760 --> 00:15:35,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, I really like that, like that a lot, a lot. Okay, 315 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:37,560 Speaker 1: this one's short and sweet. 316 00:15:37,800 --> 00:15:41,160 Speaker 2: Stop expecting honesty from people who lie to themselves? 317 00:15:41,440 --> 00:15:42,640 Speaker 1: Ooh shit. 318 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:46,720 Speaker 2: You know how sometimes we can really rev ourselves up 319 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:53,720 Speaker 2: with frustration with people potentially colleagues, potentially family members, potentially 320 00:15:53,920 --> 00:15:59,800 Speaker 2: toxic friends or relationships that you truly can't see how 321 00:16:00,000 --> 00:16:02,920 Speaker 2: they get to a certain point in what they're saying, 322 00:16:03,600 --> 00:16:08,240 Speaker 2: and they are absolutely living in a state of just 323 00:16:08,400 --> 00:16:12,800 Speaker 2: non reality. That we're never going to agree with everyone, 324 00:16:13,000 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 2: But I do believe that sometimes we can waste too 325 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:20,720 Speaker 2: much energy trying to convince people of a truth that 326 00:16:21,040 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 2: they are never going to accept because they are just 327 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:26,600 Speaker 2: continuously lying to themselves. That's not to say that everyone 328 00:16:26,640 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 2: also needs to have the same perspective as us, but 329 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:32,920 Speaker 2: I think we have all probably had an experience with 330 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:36,880 Speaker 2: someone who you've tried to find middle ground with and 331 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:40,040 Speaker 2: they just won't budge. There is also the saying that 332 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:42,640 Speaker 2: is very common that there's three sides to every story, 333 00:16:42,720 --> 00:16:46,320 Speaker 2: your truth, their truth, and what actually happened, So like 334 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:49,720 Speaker 2: with everything there like there are multiple ways that you 335 00:16:49,760 --> 00:16:51,920 Speaker 2: can discuss these sentences, which is what I like about 336 00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:56,680 Speaker 2: them to be honest, But I really enjoy it because, 337 00:16:57,520 --> 00:17:02,800 Speaker 2: especially with this job, sometimes people can sometimes push a 338 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:05,120 Speaker 2: narrative or they comment things, and I'm like, but. 339 00:17:05,080 --> 00:17:08,199 Speaker 1: That's not like I don't know. 340 00:17:08,280 --> 00:17:11,280 Speaker 2: Even sometimes like years ago, we had we did a 341 00:17:11,320 --> 00:17:15,040 Speaker 2: brand partnership and we displayed that it was a brand partnership, 342 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:17,680 Speaker 2: but someone was just like, you didn't. 343 00:17:17,359 --> 00:17:20,359 Speaker 1: Discover I was like, yes, I did, yeah, and so 344 00:17:20,480 --> 00:17:23,440 Speaker 1: I deleted the comment. I was like I literally did, yeah, 345 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:25,040 Speaker 1: And I was like, you're misleading people. 346 00:17:25,119 --> 00:17:27,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I was by saying that, And then they came 347 00:17:27,760 --> 00:17:29,760 Speaker 2: in and they came in so hot, and I was 348 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:32,840 Speaker 2: like so like no, no, no, like I wasn't lying, 349 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:36,320 Speaker 2: I wasn't lying, and I got so wrapped up in 350 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:38,639 Speaker 2: like needing to prove that I was honest. But I 351 00:17:38,640 --> 00:17:40,040 Speaker 2: was like, do you know what, I'm never going to 352 00:17:40,080 --> 00:17:43,000 Speaker 2: convince you. Yeah, so what's the point. Why am I 353 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:46,080 Speaker 2: waste energy? And also this was like five minutes of 354 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:48,880 Speaker 2: their day. Yeah, but I'm letting it ruin my whole day. 355 00:17:49,440 --> 00:17:52,360 Speaker 2: So don't let people who lie to themselves ruin your day. 356 00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:55,720 Speaker 2: Love that should we get into some of the Chicks sessions. 357 00:17:56,280 --> 00:17:57,400 Speaker 1: Okay, this one kind of. 358 00:17:57,520 --> 00:18:01,240 Speaker 2: Backs off from that one, but it's actually from Zigsmam 359 00:18:01,320 --> 00:18:03,760 Speaker 2: aka Carmen who wrote it in and. 360 00:18:03,880 --> 00:18:05,919 Speaker 1: She is always full of words of wisdom. 361 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:08,360 Speaker 2: If you haven't listened to her podcast, I've always said that, 362 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:12,920 Speaker 2: definitely give it a listen. But she sent in I've 363 00:18:12,920 --> 00:18:16,440 Speaker 2: never received hate from someone I'd want to swap lives with. 364 00:18:17,320 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 1: Oh my god, God, that's good. 365 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:19,920 Speaker 4: Isn't that good? 366 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:23,800 Speaker 2: If you constantly find that you're disagreeing with someone at 367 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:26,800 Speaker 2: work and you're really struggling with like the way that 368 00:18:26,880 --> 00:18:28,760 Speaker 2: they speak to you or talk to you or give 369 00:18:28,760 --> 00:18:33,000 Speaker 2: you feedback, sometimes it's really nice and it does put 370 00:18:33,040 --> 00:18:35,399 Speaker 2: you on a little bit of a superiority trip, but 371 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:36,760 Speaker 2: maybe that's how you get through it. 372 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, it's a coping. 373 00:18:38,840 --> 00:18:40,560 Speaker 1: Do you know what I wouldn't want to be you? 374 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:43,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, if this is your biggest problem in your life, 375 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:44,920 Speaker 3: I wouldn't want to have your life. 376 00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:45,520 Speaker 1: And that's okay. 377 00:18:45,560 --> 00:18:49,040 Speaker 4: And I do feel like that literally makes. 378 00:18:48,760 --> 00:18:54,000 Speaker 2: You the most chill colme, easy going water. 379 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:57,040 Speaker 1: For Duck's back, bitch, like being like, do you know what? 380 00:18:57,440 --> 00:19:00,520 Speaker 1: I don't want your life? It's very let them theory, 381 00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:01,760 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? 382 00:19:03,080 --> 00:19:05,960 Speaker 2: I actually prefer being me so you can have that 383 00:19:06,040 --> 00:19:09,120 Speaker 2: opinion because I don't want to be you. Yeah, but yeah, 384 00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:11,240 Speaker 2: you do get like a little bit of a higher 385 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:14,520 Speaker 2: mighty feeling. But hey, it goes God to do what 386 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:17,040 Speaker 2: girl's gonna do, honestly, And I like that. 387 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:18,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good one. 388 00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:21,680 Speaker 2: It's very similar to you will never be looked down 389 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:23,439 Speaker 2: on by anyone doing better than you. 390 00:19:24,000 --> 00:19:24,240 Speaker 3: Yeah. 391 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:26,560 Speaker 2: True, you know people are very often trying to bring 392 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:29,399 Speaker 2: you down to their own level. Yeah, when they're doing that. 393 00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:32,760 Speaker 2: This one I did really love as well. And it's 394 00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:36,840 Speaker 2: actually very similar to a philosopher Alan Watt, and some 395 00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:40,600 Speaker 2: speakings and lectures that he also spoke about. And it's 396 00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:44,159 Speaker 2: that your feelings are valid, but your behavior is not. 397 00:19:46,119 --> 00:19:49,280 Speaker 1: So every emotion you have is valid. 398 00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:53,560 Speaker 2: You are allowed to feel how you feel, but your 399 00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:59,600 Speaker 2: reaction is what you need to control, which I sometimes struggle. 400 00:20:02,240 --> 00:20:07,040 Speaker 2: I am getting better, But it's like the not sending 401 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:10,680 Speaker 2: the text when you're pissed off. It's the sleeping on 402 00:20:10,720 --> 00:20:12,960 Speaker 2: it after you've had a disagreement with someone. 403 00:20:13,240 --> 00:20:14,520 Speaker 1: It's a counting to. 404 00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:18,160 Speaker 4: Den whatever it is, but let them the Yeah. 405 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:21,000 Speaker 2: And Alan Watts does kind of talk about this that 406 00:20:21,040 --> 00:20:23,720 Speaker 2: it's like if something has upset you if you're feeling 407 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:29,159 Speaker 2: angry or sad or anything along those lines. You're allowed 408 00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:32,439 Speaker 2: to feel those emotions. Yeah, but what you do with 409 00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:36,040 Speaker 2: those emotions is what is necessarily valid or not valid. 410 00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:38,880 Speaker 3: It takes a lot of self control, but I think 411 00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:41,480 Speaker 3: it's such a good skill to have. Okay, one of 412 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:45,920 Speaker 3: my favorites is you can't heal in the same environment 413 00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:47,159 Speaker 3: that made you sick. 414 00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:57,359 Speaker 5: A laming the studio. How fucking good is that? I 415 00:20:57,400 --> 00:21:01,880 Speaker 5: don't even need to elaborate a flash as to. 416 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:08,399 Speaker 2: Like every toxic relationship I've ever had where you just 417 00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:09,439 Speaker 2: try and you try to. 418 00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:13,880 Speaker 1: Fix it and it's broken. Bitch. Yeah, Oh my god. 419 00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:16,920 Speaker 1: I feel like this could apply to so many things. 420 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:22,760 Speaker 3: It's like toxic friendships, romantic relationships, workplaces, even relationships with 421 00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:27,000 Speaker 3: your family, and how sometimes you need to physically remove 422 00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:29,280 Speaker 3: yourself from the situation to get better. 423 00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:30,560 Speaker 1: Do you know what it reminds me of. 424 00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:33,840 Speaker 2: It reminds me of all the people that like constantly 425 00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:37,280 Speaker 2: say as soon as they gave a relationship space and 426 00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:39,680 Speaker 2: I'm not talking like romantically, I mean more like friendships 427 00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:40,720 Speaker 2: or family. 428 00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:43,119 Speaker 1: How much healthier that that became. 429 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:46,560 Speaker 2: Like people that you know don't live with their siblings anymore, 430 00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:50,000 Speaker 2: and how that's when they finally became friends or friends 431 00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:53,160 Speaker 2: that moved away from their friendship group and that actually 432 00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:54,959 Speaker 2: helped them have a little bit more balance and move 433 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:59,239 Speaker 2: away from group think mentality, and how getting out of 434 00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:02,640 Speaker 2: the toxic and bye moment shock helps. 435 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:04,920 Speaker 1: I know that's really good. 436 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:11,840 Speaker 2: That's my forehead. Put that ship on a shirt. 437 00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:14,880 Speaker 3: I think this is a nice one. Everyone is doing 438 00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:17,280 Speaker 3: their best with the knowledge and tools they have available 439 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:21,240 Speaker 3: to them. Oh wait, this is another good one too. 440 00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:24,520 Speaker 3: Find people that make time for you, not those who 441 00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:25,920 Speaker 3: see you in their free time. 442 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:34,600 Speaker 1: Boom boom, out of my drownag. 443 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:40,480 Speaker 2: Suck. 444 00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:46,600 Speaker 1: Hey, yo, that's the best thing. 445 00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:49,720 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 446 00:22:49,720 --> 00:23:00,680 Speaker 1: I like what that was amazing. You're welcome. I love it. Oh, okay, 447 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:04,040 Speaker 1: hit me. Since our last one, this is our phinal one. 448 00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:09,320 Speaker 2: They left you confused because clarity would have meant accountability. 449 00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:23,160 Speaker 1: Sing it. Oh my god? 450 00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:26,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, oh do you know what. We've said it once 451 00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:30,280 Speaker 2: and we'll say it again. He wires a bunch of chicks. 452 00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:33,080 Speaker 1: You are I love you, guys. I love you guys. 453 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:35,480 Speaker 4: All right, shall we get into advice with the chicks. 454 00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:36,160 Speaker 1: Let's do it. 455 00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:45,440 Speaker 2: I've been dealing with a problem that is technically not mine, 456 00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:47,320 Speaker 2: but I have now been involved, so I feel like 457 00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:50,600 Speaker 2: I need to do something about it. I've recently found 458 00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:52,959 Speaker 2: out that the husband of one of my close friends 459 00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:55,160 Speaker 2: let's call her Emma, is cheating on her. 460 00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:59,359 Speaker 1: You fucking dog, You dumb dog. 461 00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:02,760 Speaker 2: I found out through another friend, let's call her Amy, 462 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:06,639 Speaker 2: who this guy has texted and snapped, knowing that Amy 463 00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:10,879 Speaker 2: knows Emma and they have mutual friends as well. Amy 464 00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:13,480 Speaker 2: told me immediately, and at first we thought he might 465 00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:15,880 Speaker 2: have reached out because he thought they were good friends. 466 00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:19,720 Speaker 2: After a while, the vibe seemed off, so Amy stopped responding. 467 00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:22,960 Speaker 2: We had decided to tell Emma, but this couple is 468 00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:26,040 Speaker 2: long distance, and Emma was struggling, so we couldn't find 469 00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:29,160 Speaker 2: a way to tell her. She was going to visit 470 00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:32,720 Speaker 2: her husband soon, and he also stopped texting Amy, so we. 471 00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:33,280 Speaker 1: Let it go. 472 00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:39,520 Speaker 2: But he started texting Amy again while Emma was right there. 473 00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:42,840 Speaker 2: At this time, he was telling Amy that he wanted 474 00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:46,320 Speaker 2: to see her, etc. We tried to contact Emma to 475 00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:50,159 Speaker 2: see if something was wrong, but she was absolutely blissful 476 00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:54,080 Speaker 2: about finally getting to spend time with her husband. Oh fuck, 477 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:57,800 Speaker 2: they are back to long distance. Now and have plans 478 00:24:57,840 --> 00:24:59,840 Speaker 2: to be together soon permanently. 479 00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:01,320 Speaker 1: What do I do? 480 00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:03,960 Speaker 2: My instinct is to tell her, but I don't know, 481 00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:06,679 Speaker 2: and even more worried about how she will take it. 482 00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:10,359 Speaker 1: Oh my god, tell her, I think. 483 00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:14,280 Speaker 3: I just think if I was in that position, I 484 00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:17,000 Speaker 3: would want to know. And as much as you of 485 00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:20,600 Speaker 3: course want your friend to be happy, I just don't 486 00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:25,040 Speaker 3: think that it's I just don't think it's right because 487 00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:28,040 Speaker 3: she's happy under false pretenses, like she doesn't have the 488 00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:31,320 Speaker 3: full story, and if she had that information, maybe she 489 00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:35,080 Speaker 3: wouldn't be as happy with the relationship, I assume. But 490 00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:38,280 Speaker 3: also then that gives her the power to bring this 491 00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:40,440 Speaker 3: up with him, And do you know what, that's not 492 00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:42,160 Speaker 3: necessarily a deal breaker her. 493 00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:45,399 Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot a lot of people get through, you know, 494 00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:49,840 Speaker 2: cheating within their relationships because as the episode with Susie Kim, 495 00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:53,959 Speaker 2: who is a relationship expert, she said that sometimes cheating 496 00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:57,520 Speaker 2: is the thing that allows couples to put a spotlight 497 00:25:57,640 --> 00:26:00,000 Speaker 2: onto what's lacking in the relationship. Yeah. 498 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:02,840 Speaker 4: I still think he's a piece of dog shit. 499 00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:08,800 Speaker 2: Same but I also am like, because there is the 500 00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:11,440 Speaker 2: argument that you would say, well, you have to tell 501 00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:13,960 Speaker 2: you tell him that he has to tell her, right, Yeah, 502 00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:18,159 Speaker 2: and you give him the space and the timeframe to 503 00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 2: be honest with his partner, because maybe it's better. 504 00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:21,520 Speaker 1: To come from him. 505 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:23,840 Speaker 2: And I don't know if I'm cynical for this, but 506 00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:26,680 Speaker 2: I just don't trust that he would be completely honest, 507 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,119 Speaker 2: Like I feel like he'd be like, hey, look like 508 00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:31,720 Speaker 2: the girls just told me that to like to like, 509 00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:33,720 Speaker 2: I've sent a couple of messages, but I didn't mean 510 00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:36,880 Speaker 2: anything by it, like it was just like, yeah, half asked, 511 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:39,000 Speaker 2: but like I just want to like, but that's just 512 00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:42,159 Speaker 2: me being cynical, Like maybe he would be very open. 513 00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:43,359 Speaker 1: And honest and blah blah blah blah. 514 00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:46,679 Speaker 4: Yeah, but I just doubt it that. 515 00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:49,840 Speaker 2: I am also of the mindset that if this was 516 00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:53,320 Speaker 2: happening to you, for example, you best fucking believe I'm 517 00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:53,760 Speaker 2: telling you. 518 00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:58,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, And also she's your friend. Yeah, it's not even 519 00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:00,840 Speaker 3: like the hay girly message from A because. 520 00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:04,119 Speaker 2: I would feel betrayed if I found out that my 521 00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:06,920 Speaker 2: boyfriend was cheating on me and my best friend knew 522 00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:09,359 Speaker 2: about it and didn't tell me, that would be like 523 00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:13,720 Speaker 2: double whammy. Yeah, you've got to tell her, You've got 524 00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:15,840 Speaker 2: to tell her, And I Yeah, I don't know if 525 00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:19,080 Speaker 2: it's the right advice to be like, fuck that guy 526 00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 2: like he should. He has lost his right to like 527 00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:25,680 Speaker 2: be able to own up to it. He can own 528 00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:26,840 Speaker 2: up to it when she confronts him. 529 00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:28,520 Speaker 1: I was going to say, you'll still have his chance. 530 00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:30,680 Speaker 2: The other thing that I do want to say, though, 531 00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:33,880 Speaker 2: is we did have a similar dilemma to this on 532 00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:38,200 Speaker 2: two Broke Chicks, like on ig where were like anonymously 533 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:40,840 Speaker 2: someone anonymously sent it in and asked what they should do, 534 00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:43,960 Speaker 2: And I put a poll up to kind of see 535 00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:47,760 Speaker 2: what people also wanted to contribute as part of the advice, 536 00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:52,480 Speaker 2: And one of the responses that did come through a 537 00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:56,600 Speaker 2: couple of times was from women who had been cheated on, 538 00:27:56,840 --> 00:28:00,680 Speaker 2: and they very often said, you'd be surper how many 539 00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:02,679 Speaker 2: times the woman does actually know. 540 00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:05,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, So I. 541 00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:07,879 Speaker 2: Think there's also that point in mind that you know, 542 00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:10,800 Speaker 2: she might also be like your friend Emma might also 543 00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:15,399 Speaker 2: be really really embarrassed, and she may become defensive. Yeah, 544 00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:19,640 Speaker 2: and she may put the blame on you for bringing 545 00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:22,880 Speaker 2: such a negative piece of information into her. 546 00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:24,400 Speaker 1: Relationship, shooting the messenger. 547 00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:28,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, so when you tell her, if you tell her, 548 00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:33,560 Speaker 2: just prepare yourself for the potential of that happening. 549 00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:35,159 Speaker 1: Obviously, it's not your fault. 550 00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:37,119 Speaker 2: Obviously you were trying to do the right thing, but 551 00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:41,200 Speaker 2: there is potential that it's your fault she's found this out, 552 00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:47,080 Speaker 2: not her partner's fault for actually doing it. Yeah, I'm 553 00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:49,640 Speaker 2: not saying that's right, but I'm saying there's potential that 554 00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:53,920 Speaker 2: that could happen. But yeah, Like, all I know is 555 00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:56,560 Speaker 2: what I would do, And if it was you or 556 00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,720 Speaker 2: any of our other friends, I'm kicking the fucking door 557 00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:00,600 Speaker 2: in and being. 558 00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:03,200 Speaker 1: Like, I've got a bottle of wine. We're gonna drink this. 559 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:06,120 Speaker 2: First, Yeah, and then I'm gonna tell you that I've 560 00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:09,640 Speaker 2: got some news. I've got a slider show presentation where 561 00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:12,720 Speaker 2: every second slide is Henry cavill as a palate cleanser. 562 00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:15,160 Speaker 1: M Oh, that's horrible. 563 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:19,680 Speaker 6: That's a good strategy, though, I hope, Okay, Amy's a 564 00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:23,880 Speaker 6: good girl too, To be honest, I wonder whether it 565 00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:25,880 Speaker 6: should come from Amy hope. 566 00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:29,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, Like she's the one that was in bold. 567 00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:32,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, so I wonder whether it's best for it to 568 00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:35,440 Speaker 2: come from Amy or But then I'm like, is it 569 00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:37,200 Speaker 2: safer for it to come to her best friend? And 570 00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:39,160 Speaker 2: then her best friend's like, Amy's so happy to speak 571 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:40,160 Speaker 2: to you about it as well. 572 00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:42,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, but didn't want to make you uncomfortable. 573 00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:42,320 Speaker 2: I don't know. 574 00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:43,840 Speaker 1: I've never been in this position, and I hope I 575 00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:45,560 Speaker 1: never fucking am you never will be. 576 00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,280 Speaker 3: But I think as one final note, you mentioned that 577 00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:52,040 Speaker 3: you're worried about how it will affect her, especially given 578 00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:53,800 Speaker 3: that she's so happy at the moment, and all you 579 00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,440 Speaker 3: can do with that is just be there for her 580 00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:59,280 Speaker 3: and support her through it, because that's really all you 581 00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:00,720 Speaker 3: can do. But I think that you'd be doing the 582 00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:04,040 Speaker 3: right thing by telling her, yeah. 583 00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:07,720 Speaker 2: Good sounding your love and kisses and hatred and despair 584 00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:10,520 Speaker 2: to a dozen eggs. They're hard to get at the moment, 585 00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:12,080 Speaker 2: but we'll lock them down for you. 586 00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:16,080 Speaker 4: We'll do a brand collapse and I'll get. 587 00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:17,920 Speaker 1: You some eggs. We'll get you some eggs. I'll be like, 588 00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:20,400 Speaker 1: all right, I GA what you got. We'll do contra 589 00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:21,920 Speaker 1: gifted partnership. 590 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:24,640 Speaker 2: You can I get twelve dozen eggs and we'll do 591 00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:25,840 Speaker 2: a shout out on the pod. 592 00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:28,200 Speaker 3: Perfect that can be the next like broake Chicks, made 593 00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:29,560 Speaker 3: Up Well Chicks. 594 00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,200 Speaker 2: That is a wrap for today's episode of Two Broke 595 00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:36,120 Speaker 2: chicky Chicks were just literally mouthed microphone. 596 00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:38,240 Speaker 1: I feel like that was a bit of an unhinged 597 00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:44,440 Speaker 1: but thanks for. 598 00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:47,120 Speaker 3: Coming along, right and I'll just focus something with my 599 00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:48,080 Speaker 3: friends going on. 600 00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:53,160 Speaker 4: This hit needs to eat my fucking ass. 601 00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:53,960 Speaker 1: I'm over it. 602 00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:59,400 Speaker 2: Love you chicks, big kisses, big smooches, and boom boom 603 00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:03,320 Speaker 2: boom claps after my double I'm sorry. 604 00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:05,840 Speaker 1: Thanks to m I K made for many times I 605 00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:06,440 Speaker 1: was saying I'm in 606 00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:09,320 Speaker 2: Wait.