1 00:00:00,960 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: I'll get a team. Welcome to another instorm on the show, 2 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:04,800 Speaker 1: Tiffany and cooks back. I don't know if you've ever 3 00:00:04,840 --> 00:00:09,799 Speaker 1: heard of her. She's a pugilist, she's she's the hostess 4 00:00:09,840 --> 00:00:14,040 Speaker 1: with the mostess. She is the she's the life force. 5 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: She's the blood that courses through the typ veins but 6 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:23,480 Speaker 1: also more importantly on Planet Tiffy Roll with the Punches 7 00:00:23,560 --> 00:00:28,080 Speaker 1: podcast veins. So she's here, I'm here. It's a Saturday. 8 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: We thought we'd get together and if you had an 9 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:34,879 Speaker 1: idea you wanted to, what do you want to do? 10 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:36,159 Speaker 1: Unpack a few things. 11 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:41,600 Speaker 2: I thought we'd wheel the whiteboard lessons out, wheel the 12 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:44,959 Speaker 2: whiteboard out and drill down on some of these lessons 13 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:47,000 Speaker 2: you post. 14 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:49,559 Speaker 1: Let's do let's do that, shall we? It's do you know? 15 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 1: It's been. It's been a lot of years. It's been. 16 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:56,040 Speaker 1: There's a lot of six thousands something whiteboards there. 17 00:00:56,280 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 2: It's the whiteboard University. Now. It is more than just 18 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 2: a lesson. 19 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 1: It's little life tidbits. It's some of them are silly 20 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:07,320 Speaker 1: and some of them are insightful. Some of them are 21 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 1: a bit deep and philosophical. Some of them cause a 22 00:01:10,720 --> 00:01:14,679 Speaker 1: bit of angst with some of the readers. Some people 23 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 1: feel compelled to send me I hate your gut, you're 24 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 1: a fucking idiot kind of email. Thank you, Brian got 25 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:22,280 Speaker 1: all of those. You're welcome. Welcome. 26 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 2: Do you know what it's like though, it's similar to 27 00:01:25,959 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 2: it's they're a little bit like Buddhism, whereas they're very 28 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:33,399 Speaker 2: simple but very deep depending on the person on the 29 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:35,760 Speaker 2: other end of them readings. 30 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:38,520 Speaker 1: So it's so, I mean this whole thing of you know, 31 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:42,560 Speaker 1: sharing thoughts and ideas and messages and not not me necessarily, 32 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:46,479 Speaker 1: but everyone who does that. It's yeah, like with Buddhism, 33 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 1: or like little things that are extracted from the Bible 34 00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 1: or the Koran or the bag of the Vita. If 35 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 1: is that the yeah, you know, like they're just a 36 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 1: little like in sites, the little lessons, they're little, you know, tidbits, 37 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:08,240 Speaker 1: cognitive and emotional or spiritual tidbits. But the funny thing, 38 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: and you know this is that what resonates with one person, 39 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:12,959 Speaker 1: we'll definitely not And then. 40 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:17,200 Speaker 2: I always thought it was tit bits, I wrote, I. 41 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:23,240 Speaker 1: Think it's tidbits. I don't think it's titbits, but I 42 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:28,600 Speaker 1: will stand corrected if and we could call this episode 43 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:35,639 Speaker 1: titbits in brackets by tip You're welcome. Yeah, yeah, ha 44 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:43,280 Speaker 1: ha ah. That's a funny start. That's a funny start. Yeah. 45 00:02:43,880 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: Oh that does make me laugh. All right, So here's 46 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 1: what we're going to do. You're going to share something 47 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 1: that I wrote. I don't know what's coming, by the way, 48 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: and I'll share. Also, you share some thoughts and ideas, 49 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:57,000 Speaker 1: because like, some of the things that I write that 50 00:02:57,080 --> 00:03:00,640 Speaker 1: I think are really profound, it's more than it's just 51 00:03:00,720 --> 00:03:05,639 Speaker 1: really profound for me, and some things. You know, sometimes 52 00:03:05,680 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 1: you'll get a response which is somewhat underwhelming considering the 53 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 1: millions of people that look at my shit each month, 54 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:17,400 Speaker 1: and you're like, ah, but then I'll write something that's 55 00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:20,960 Speaker 1: essentially hey, don't be a dick head, and it goes nuts. 56 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:25,840 Speaker 1: So there's that, you know, there's that intersection of oh, 57 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 1: what's going to work? And you know, like on on 58 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 1: social media and on the internet in general, it's like, 59 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:34,960 Speaker 1: don't make it too long, make make it catchy, you know, 60 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:37,600 Speaker 1: make you know, lots of razzle, dazzle, don't do it 61 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:41,720 Speaker 1: post anything longer than twenty seconds. And you know, the 62 00:03:41,800 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 1: longer thing that I the longer than my posts are 63 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 1: generally the worse. 64 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 2: They go, what do you reckon? Do your number one's been. 65 00:03:51,320 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: Theme? 66 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 2: Yeah? Or your number one post? The number one thing? 67 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 1: I mean I wrote, I literally have put up a post, 68 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:04,120 Speaker 1: which you know, and that's the thing. Some of the funny, 69 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 1: like so this one got over two million. Of course, 70 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:10,840 Speaker 1: life's a shit show, and then it's awesome, and then 71 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 1: you're sad and then happy, and then it's lunchtime. Your 72 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: challenge is not to create a perfect life, but rather 73 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 1: to thrive in the inevitable imperfection of it all. And 74 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: that's kind of a nice intersection of oh, yeah, that's 75 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:27,479 Speaker 1: kind of cute, and you know, it's like it's this 76 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 1: and that it's like, fuck, life is that? And then 77 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:33,040 Speaker 1: the next line and then it's lunchtime, people go, oh, 78 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:36,480 Speaker 1: that's kind of a bit amusing. But also the message 79 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: is that life is all of that. Life is not 80 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: fun quick, easy. You're painless. Sometimes it's amazing, sometimes it's joyful, 81 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:51,840 Speaker 1: sometimes it's hysterical, sometimes it's painful, and like, really, what 82 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:54,280 Speaker 1: do we talk what is life? We're just really talking 83 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:57,359 Speaker 1: about the peaks and troughs of being a human and 84 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: the experiences of being a human. So, and as you 85 00:05:00,839 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 1: and I have said, even I think yesterday or the 86 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:06,320 Speaker 1: day before on a podcast, we were or some stage 87 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:09,320 Speaker 1: talking about you know, Socrates, who was around two and 88 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:12,919 Speaker 1: a half thousand years ago, was talking about self awareness. 89 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:16,720 Speaker 1: And in twenty twenty five, I'm doing a PhD in 90 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: self awareness. It's like I've invented fucking nothing. There's nothing 91 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:24,040 Speaker 1: that I tell people that's new. I'm just a different 92 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 1: bloke who does it a slightly different way. So, and 93 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 1: I think that's the thing is it's like I, you know, 94 00:05:32,279 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 1: people who put me on a pedestal, which is not many, 95 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:38,920 Speaker 1: just marm and Annie Marge. But like I always say, 96 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 1: I'm not the wisdom, Like I'm just the conduit to 97 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:44,320 Speaker 1: the wisdom. I didn't invent any of these, you know, 98 00:05:44,480 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: I might word it in a way that's a bit amusing, 99 00:05:47,760 --> 00:05:51,520 Speaker 1: but that insight or that wisdom, or that expression of 100 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:55,839 Speaker 1: understanding of the human experience existed long before me. You know, 101 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:58,719 Speaker 1: self awareness having an awareness of who you are and 102 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:00,560 Speaker 1: how you are and why you are the way you are, 103 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:05,120 Speaker 1: which is my obsession. I didn't invent that. I just 104 00:06:05,240 --> 00:06:08,280 Speaker 1: got bored on board the train that was already moving, 105 00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:13,360 Speaker 1: you know, cognitive central you know, all right, hit me up. 106 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:17,159 Speaker 2: All right, first one at our call. We all want 107 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 2: to be wanted, needed, valued, respected, understood, and loved. Problems 108 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 2: arise when we seek those things from the wrong people. 109 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't think you go I don't know what 110 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 1: I thought you'd go with, but I didn't think that. Yeah, 111 00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: that is interesting. I think sometimes in our effort to 112 00:06:33,880 --> 00:06:36,359 Speaker 1: belong or to be loved, or to you know, have 113 00:06:36,640 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 1: a person in our life, we will overlook or compromise 114 00:06:40,839 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: on a lot of things that in the short term 115 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 1: feels like love and connection and all of those things, 116 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:50,760 Speaker 1: but over the long term we find out, no, this 117 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:54,760 Speaker 1: is really just a form of self destruction because I'm 118 00:06:55,680 --> 00:07:00,720 Speaker 1: not paying attention to the signs. I'm not the room 119 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:04,280 Speaker 1: and I'm letting a And it doesn't necessarily have to 120 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:06,479 Speaker 1: be a romance. It could be your boss, it could 121 00:07:06,520 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 1: be a colleague, it could be your sister, it could 122 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:12,160 Speaker 1: be your mum, like it could be just any person 123 00:07:12,200 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 1: that's in your life where you so much want to 124 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 1: belong and have somebody that cares about you or you 125 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: feel like cares about you, that you'll put up with 126 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 1: a lot of shit that you know and I'm not 127 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 1: talking about the regular peaks and troughs of relationships. I'm 128 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 1: not talking about that. I'm talking about people who really 129 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:37,240 Speaker 1: are toxic. And that's you know, I think I think 130 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: it's like, you know, it's nice to be nice, but 131 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:41,280 Speaker 1: it's not nice to be a doormat. It's good to 132 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 1: be kind and empathetic and all of those things and 133 00:07:43,840 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 1: to care about people, but you also need to have 134 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:51,760 Speaker 1: the ability to be able to say no, no, that's 135 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 1: not okay. So that thing that you said not okay, 136 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 1: that way that you treat me not okay. And I 137 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 1: know this is complex because of the dynamics of relationships 138 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:04,760 Speaker 1: and DV and all of those things. So this is 139 00:08:04,800 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 1: a very complicated area. But I think in general terms, 140 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 1: you know, I'd rather two great friends than fifteen or 141 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:18,080 Speaker 1: twenty kind of alright, somewhat shit, you know, talk crap 142 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:19,840 Speaker 1: about you when you're not around friends. 143 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:24,840 Speaker 2: So with that, my question about that post is when 144 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 2: for the readers, how often do you think that message 145 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:35,960 Speaker 2: is read and absorbed with the intended meaning and message 146 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 2: for someone that's in it rather than someone that might 147 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:41,600 Speaker 2: be reflecting back. 148 00:08:42,800 --> 00:08:47,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. Look, I mean I think most people kind of 149 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: get the message. I think sometimes people say to me 150 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:57,280 Speaker 1: stuff like oh yeah, Craig, great, yeah, brilliant, not that easy, champ, 151 00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:02,560 Speaker 1: And I'm like, I completely agree. And by the way, 152 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:06,280 Speaker 1: where show me where I said this is easy? Show 153 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:08,640 Speaker 1: me where I said this is fun or painless or 154 00:09:08,720 --> 00:09:13,560 Speaker 1: quick or convenient. Of course, it's fucking hard, Like this 155 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:18,080 Speaker 1: stuff is real hard and real horrible sometimes. And I 156 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:21,080 Speaker 1: think the first part of getting out of toxic relationships 157 00:09:21,160 --> 00:09:25,520 Speaker 1: or situations or things which are not good for your 158 00:09:25,559 --> 00:09:29,440 Speaker 1: mental or emotional health broadly speaking, is to be able 159 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 1: to recognize it, acknowledge it. And then maybe you're not 160 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:35,840 Speaker 1: going to fix it, change it or turn it around instantly. 161 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:40,000 Speaker 1: Maybe it's a work in progress. But yeah, I think 162 00:09:40,120 --> 00:09:42,200 Speaker 1: that the start of anything, like the start of any 163 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:44,360 Speaker 1: positive change that you want to make in life, whether 164 00:09:44,400 --> 00:09:47,679 Speaker 1: it's get fit, get healthy, get out of a toxic relationship, 165 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:51,320 Speaker 1: stop spending money that you don't need to spend, Stop 166 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:56,959 Speaker 1: stop putting yourself in debt unnecessarily, you know, start a business, 167 00:09:57,000 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 1: get a you know, get yourself in a different situation. 168 00:10:00,040 --> 00:10:03,839 Speaker 1: All of those things. It starts with with us saying, look, 169 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:06,000 Speaker 1: I need to do this, I don't know how to 170 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:08,640 Speaker 1: do it. Yet I don't know when I'll do it. 171 00:10:08,880 --> 00:10:11,880 Speaker 1: I'm scared, and I'm all of this stuff, and but 172 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:16,200 Speaker 1: all of that's all right, But but doing nothing is 173 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:17,079 Speaker 1: never the answer. 174 00:10:18,760 --> 00:10:24,840 Speaker 2: Ready for the next one, I'm ready, Remember, one can 175 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:27,480 Speaker 2: see the look on your face. You look like gout 176 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:28,720 Speaker 2: gout at the start line. 177 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:32,280 Speaker 1: I'll tell you what. He goes all right, doesn't he? 178 00:10:32,440 --> 00:10:32,800 Speaker 2: He does. 179 00:10:33,840 --> 00:10:37,319 Speaker 3: He makes me look like a fucking fungus at the 180 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:44,320 Speaker 3: bottom of a plant. Is full, is quick, He's quick. 181 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:47,840 Speaker 1: Hit me up, butter Cup. 182 00:10:48,040 --> 00:10:50,720 Speaker 2: When I obsess about the past that I can't change 183 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:53,680 Speaker 2: and stress about the future that doesn't exist, yet, I 184 00:10:53,760 --> 00:10:56,120 Speaker 2: miss out on the beauty of the present, the place 185 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:56,760 Speaker 2: I exist. 186 00:10:57,640 --> 00:10:59,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, this is this is one of those kind of 187 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:08,120 Speaker 1: toll Buddhist Eastern philosophy, you know, one of those very philosophical, 188 00:11:08,160 --> 00:11:13,560 Speaker 1: spiritual kind of constructs. And so when we think about 189 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:17,320 Speaker 1: the past, like when we think about last Wednesday, when 190 00:11:17,440 --> 00:11:20,319 Speaker 1: last Wednesday, when we were in the middle of last Wednesday, 191 00:11:20,440 --> 00:11:24,079 Speaker 1: we were in the middle of what was then the present, 192 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:28,959 Speaker 1: like the present moment last Wednesday at twelve o'clock, whatever 193 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:31,839 Speaker 1: you were doing, whatever I was doing at midday at 194 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:33,959 Speaker 1: that moment in time for me, it was now. At 195 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 1: that moment, it was now for you, and then when 196 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:39,240 Speaker 1: it was one o'clock, it was still now, and then 197 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: when it was you know, yesterday at midday, it was 198 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:45,320 Speaker 1: still now. Like life is a series of now moments. 199 00:11:45,400 --> 00:11:49,760 Speaker 1: You can never live live being a present tense verb. 200 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:53,000 Speaker 1: You can never live in the past. You can never 201 00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:56,559 Speaker 1: change the past, you can never live in the future. 202 00:11:57,280 --> 00:12:00,840 Speaker 1: When next Wednesday comes around, which we call the future, 203 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:05,760 Speaker 1: as we are today on Saturday afternoon. In the context 204 00:12:05,760 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 1: of this moment, next Wednesday is the future. But we 205 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:12,680 Speaker 1: can't live in next Wednesday yet because we're in Saturday afternoon. 206 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 1: So when Wednesday comes around, it's just another installment of now. 207 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:23,480 Speaker 1: Which is not to say that the past, what we 208 00:12:23,559 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 1: now refer to as the past, can't affect us in 209 00:12:26,280 --> 00:12:29,959 Speaker 1: the present. It can. People get a bit confused with this. 210 00:12:30,880 --> 00:12:33,080 Speaker 1: I'm not saying that what happened in the past won't 211 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:36,800 Speaker 1: affect you. Of course it will, you know, trauma, anxiety, 212 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:41,480 Speaker 1: all of those experiences. We absolutely get it. And I'm 213 00:12:41,520 --> 00:12:44,360 Speaker 1: not being disrespectful or thoughtless when I say, but there's 214 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:51,200 Speaker 1: nothing that happened that we can change. Can we change 215 00:12:51,240 --> 00:12:55,240 Speaker 1: how that impacts us in the moment. Yes, can we 216 00:12:55,360 --> 00:13:00,440 Speaker 1: change our dialogue around an experience with and of that thing, 217 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:04,480 Speaker 1: Yes we can with therapy of all different kinds. But 218 00:13:04,600 --> 00:13:08,640 Speaker 1: the thing that happened happened, so and the thing that's 219 00:13:08,640 --> 00:13:10,880 Speaker 1: going to happen next week is going to happen next week. 220 00:13:11,480 --> 00:13:14,360 Speaker 1: And so it's not that we don't care about the 221 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:16,840 Speaker 1: past or the future. It's not that we shouldn't consider 222 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:19,520 Speaker 1: the past or learn from the past. It's not that 223 00:13:19,559 --> 00:13:23,840 Speaker 1: we shouldn't think about the future or plan for the 224 00:13:23,880 --> 00:13:27,800 Speaker 1: future based on what we now know. It's just that 225 00:13:28,400 --> 00:13:31,000 Speaker 1: we can only ever be in the present moment. And 226 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:34,120 Speaker 1: that's why I have such a gratitude for like right now, 227 00:13:34,120 --> 00:13:37,600 Speaker 1: three twenty seven on a Saturday, Like, I'm never going 228 00:13:37,679 --> 00:13:41,920 Speaker 1: to have the twenty sixth of July twenty twenty five 229 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:45,200 Speaker 1: at three twenty seven ever again in my life. And 230 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:48,400 Speaker 1: I know this is deep and philosophical, and twenty percent 231 00:13:48,400 --> 00:13:50,840 Speaker 1: of the listeners are like, go harps, this is fucking amazing, 232 00:13:50,840 --> 00:13:53,079 Speaker 1: and eighty percent like sharp a fuck up, tell a 233 00:13:53,120 --> 00:13:57,520 Speaker 1: dick joke, right, But I mean, this is my point. 234 00:13:58,160 --> 00:14:04,240 Speaker 1: We are always aligned with the familiarity of time, you know, 235 00:14:04,280 --> 00:14:06,840 Speaker 1: fourteen hundred and forty minutes in a day. You know, 236 00:14:06,920 --> 00:14:08,840 Speaker 1: you and I have had lots of Saturdays, but we've 237 00:14:08,840 --> 00:14:12,360 Speaker 1: never had this Saturday. And there'll come a day where 238 00:14:12,400 --> 00:14:15,880 Speaker 1: it's your last day. It's your last day. And if 239 00:14:15,880 --> 00:14:19,160 Speaker 1: someone said to you, tif today's your last day, but 240 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:21,960 Speaker 1: if you give me all the shit that you have, 241 00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:26,440 Speaker 1: you can have ten more days, you'd go take my shit, right, 242 00:14:26,760 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 1: Probably depending on that if you're in extreme agony or that, 243 00:14:29,600 --> 00:14:32,800 Speaker 1: probably not. But you know what I'm saying. And so 244 00:14:33,920 --> 00:14:36,680 Speaker 1: what's more important your things all your life? Well, it's 245 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 1: a no brainer. What's more important how you look or 246 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:41,800 Speaker 1: your life? What's more important what people think you or 247 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:45,440 Speaker 1: your life? Right? Nonetheless, we are so obsessed with all 248 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 1: of the things that ultimately only matter because we think 249 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 1: they matter, and so my and when you think something matters, 250 00:14:54,040 --> 00:14:56,480 Speaker 1: By the way, this is not judgmental, because I'm exactly 251 00:14:56,480 --> 00:14:59,840 Speaker 1: the same. If I think connection and love and co 252 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:05,720 Speaker 1: passion and kindness and service really matter, then that's my experience. 253 00:15:06,600 --> 00:15:10,600 Speaker 1: If I think what people think my motorbike collection really matters, 254 00:15:10,840 --> 00:15:15,480 Speaker 1: then that's what really matters to me. Until something happens 255 00:15:15,560 --> 00:15:18,520 Speaker 1: and I have a paradigm shift and I go, oh, 256 00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:22,240 Speaker 1: this shit is pointless because what I really need is 257 00:15:22,320 --> 00:15:26,760 Speaker 1: I need emotional and spiritual and social and intimate connection 258 00:15:27,120 --> 00:15:29,800 Speaker 1: with people that love me and I love That's it. 259 00:15:31,400 --> 00:15:36,280 Speaker 2: Well, what's your experience with how long it took or 260 00:15:36,360 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 2: takes or how often it happens that you can take 261 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 2: these moments of introspection and perspective, because I know I 262 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:47,640 Speaker 2: can experience them and have them, and they're like epiphanies 263 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:49,600 Speaker 2: and it's like, fuck, I'll put that on a bloody 264 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:52,040 Speaker 2: tile and put it out to the world. But how 265 00:15:53,800 --> 00:15:56,920 Speaker 2: easy is it then for that to start integrating into 266 00:15:57,120 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 2: just how you call it, equanimity alive? How you just 267 00:16:01,600 --> 00:16:04,600 Speaker 2: show up in that moment often? How often do you 268 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:07,480 Speaker 2: stay there? And how often do you get pulled back? 269 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:11,840 Speaker 1: That was a great question because all of us have 270 00:16:13,360 --> 00:16:16,000 Speaker 1: self interest, all of us have ego, all of us 271 00:16:16,160 --> 00:16:20,400 Speaker 1: like comfort, all of us like convenience, all of these things, 272 00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:27,520 Speaker 1: and me included, maybe me the most. It is to 273 00:16:28,360 --> 00:16:31,120 Speaker 1: live in alignment with your values, to really not while 274 00:16:31,160 --> 00:16:34,240 Speaker 1: people are looking, not while you know you're videoing your 275 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:39,240 Speaker 1: fucking self on Instagram to get some kind of you know, accolades, 276 00:16:39,280 --> 00:16:41,960 Speaker 1: Oh look at me being humble and just helping people 277 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:44,840 Speaker 1: while I've got a fucking camera crew following me. That's 278 00:16:44,880 --> 00:16:48,200 Speaker 1: not service, that's ego. Right Have I ever done well? 279 00:16:48,240 --> 00:16:50,160 Speaker 1: Not that I've never done that, but have I ever 280 00:16:50,200 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 1: done shit out of ego? While kind of thinking I was, yes, 281 00:16:53,640 --> 00:16:58,120 Speaker 1: of course I have right. This is you know, personal development, 282 00:16:58,240 --> 00:17:04,080 Speaker 1: real growth, real and deconstructing and reconstructing. Let's say you 283 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:08,560 Speaker 1: as a person. It's just fucking hard. It's not it's hard, 284 00:17:08,640 --> 00:17:11,879 Speaker 1: and it's ongoing. But I think a great way to 285 00:17:12,040 --> 00:17:15,719 Speaker 1: stay closer to that space that we're talking about. Tiffany 286 00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:21,720 Speaker 1: and Cook is two. But do it, don't go And 287 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:23,639 Speaker 1: I mean you, I mean all of us, you me. 288 00:17:23,920 --> 00:17:27,120 Speaker 1: I do it every day. I truly do it every 289 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:30,440 Speaker 1: well unless I forget, but I would say three hundred 290 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:32,760 Speaker 1: and sixty days of the year. I have little practice. 291 00:17:32,760 --> 00:17:34,800 Speaker 1: And my practice is what are three things that I'm 292 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:37,200 Speaker 1: super grateful for? And I do it when I sit 293 00:17:37,240 --> 00:17:42,240 Speaker 1: at the coffee table in the morning. And sometimes it's 294 00:17:42,240 --> 00:17:44,920 Speaker 1: the same things. And sometimes it's that I can walk, 295 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:50,720 Speaker 1: Sometimes that Dad's alive. Sometimes it's that it's that the 296 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:54,320 Speaker 1: crabs alive. That you know, my mate died in the 297 00:17:54,359 --> 00:17:56,679 Speaker 1: gym and now he's not dead. Like I'm saying, and 298 00:17:56,720 --> 00:18:00,119 Speaker 1: it's like I'm going to his sixtieth birthday tonight. It 299 00:18:00,160 --> 00:18:03,359 Speaker 1: was a very very big possibility. He wasn't going to 300 00:18:03,400 --> 00:18:06,399 Speaker 1: have a fifty fifth birthday, lit alone a sixtieth. And 301 00:18:06,440 --> 00:18:09,680 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful. And if you said to me or so, 302 00:18:09,920 --> 00:18:13,639 Speaker 1: if God came down and went, hey, Craig, the crab 303 00:18:13,680 --> 00:18:16,760 Speaker 1: can live for ten more years. But in or he's 304 00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:19,120 Speaker 1: going to die tomorrow. But in order of for him 305 00:18:19,119 --> 00:18:20,960 Speaker 1: to live ten more years, you've got to give me 306 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:23,960 Speaker 1: everything that you own. I'm like, take it, God, not 307 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:27,120 Speaker 1: a problem. I can get more shit. I can't get him. 308 00:18:27,359 --> 00:18:30,920 Speaker 1: I can't get another hymn right, And people go, yeah, 309 00:18:30,960 --> 00:18:34,000 Speaker 1: sure you would. I think you know me pretty well. Like, 310 00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:36,200 Speaker 1: by the way, do I want to lose all my shit? 311 00:18:36,320 --> 00:18:39,000 Speaker 1: Definitely not. I like my shit. 312 00:18:40,480 --> 00:18:42,760 Speaker 2: Jackon, he'd let you at least keep one of the motorbikes, 313 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:45,200 Speaker 2: because God's a pretty good dude. 314 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:49,640 Speaker 1: But you know what, yeah, well yeah, I mean yeah. 315 00:18:49,680 --> 00:18:52,520 Speaker 1: The thing is that it's just like self help personal growth. 316 00:18:52,520 --> 00:18:56,840 Speaker 1: It's not glamorous. It's not it's like, you know, even 317 00:18:57,800 --> 00:18:59,760 Speaker 1: whether or not you believe the Bible or but even 318 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:05,280 Speaker 1: you know, so jesus right hand man was Peter right, 319 00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:10,480 Speaker 1: who allegedly was the first pope. Kind of well, one 320 00:19:10,560 --> 00:19:13,600 Speaker 1: day Jesus was hanging out with some people and I 321 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:15,920 Speaker 1: think it was a soldier that approached him and tried 322 00:19:15,920 --> 00:19:20,640 Speaker 1: to grab him. Peter, who was like top dog number 323 00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:23,680 Speaker 1: one apostle, got his sword out and cut off old 324 00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 1: mate's ear. So you know, everyone's a work in progress. 325 00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:31,919 Speaker 1: You know, it's like, yeah, of course he lost his 326 00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:36,720 Speaker 1: shit and Jesus turned him in saith, don't lose thou 327 00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:40,600 Speaker 1: shittest pete or something like that. I might have the 328 00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 1: scripture wrong, you know. There's another scripture that actually says 329 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:46,600 Speaker 1: don't add to the scriptures, which I just did. So 330 00:19:46,640 --> 00:19:51,000 Speaker 1: I apologize God and everyone else. But yeah, I this 331 00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:55,400 Speaker 1: and for me, like these little whiteboards or tiles as 332 00:19:55,440 --> 00:19:59,120 Speaker 1: you call them, they're just a really a fun way 333 00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:01,960 Speaker 1: to share thoughts ideas. But have you got another one? 334 00:20:01,960 --> 00:20:03,440 Speaker 1: Are you ready to go? Yeah? I got to another 335 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:04,320 Speaker 1: one in the spot. 336 00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:05,920 Speaker 2: I'm locked and loaded. Are you ready? 337 00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:07,000 Speaker 1: I'm ready? Does? 338 00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:09,199 Speaker 2: I feel like a lot of people will see this 339 00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:10,879 Speaker 2: one from you and be like, well, that's a bit 340 00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:14,520 Speaker 2: of a red herring from Harts. Next time someone compliments. 341 00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:17,520 Speaker 2: You don't dismiss it, don't put yourself down, don't point 342 00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:20,800 Speaker 2: out the flaws, and don't turn positive into another moment 343 00:20:20,840 --> 00:20:24,040 Speaker 2: of self loading. Instead, just say thanks. 344 00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:27,200 Speaker 1: Well, we all do that, but as you quite rightly 345 00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:29,960 Speaker 1: point out, I do that about me. I am a 346 00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:33,960 Speaker 1: work in progress on this for me, it is And 347 00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:36,159 Speaker 1: so are you kind of highlighting the fact that I 348 00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 1: put myself down a fair bit? 349 00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:42,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, and so yeah, yeah, yes, yeah. 350 00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:44,080 Speaker 1: So yeah. I know I've got to work on this. 351 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:47,360 Speaker 1: I because and you and I said this on your 352 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:50,560 Speaker 1: podcast recently, and what I think I want people to 353 00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:53,000 Speaker 1: know that when I say this, I'm not being disingenuous. 354 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:56,679 Speaker 1: When I say I don't think highly of me, it 355 00:20:56,720 --> 00:20:59,160 Speaker 1: doesn't mean I think I'm a piece of shit, right, 356 00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:02,720 Speaker 1: But I don't think I'm a genius. I don't think 357 00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:04,880 Speaker 1: I'm a gift to the world. I don't think any 358 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:08,560 Speaker 1: of that shit, right. But I'm so grateful for where 359 00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:10,320 Speaker 1: I am and what I have and what I get 360 00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:16,440 Speaker 1: to do. And I probably need to do a deep 361 00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:19,080 Speaker 1: dive on the origin story of that, like what is 362 00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:23,520 Speaker 1: that about? But if somebody said to you, harps is awesome, 363 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:25,679 Speaker 1: and you told me that, I would like that, but 364 00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:28,640 Speaker 1: if somebody says that to my face, I don't. It's 365 00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:30,800 Speaker 1: not that I don't like it, I'm uncomfortable with it. 366 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:33,560 Speaker 1: So but yeah, I need to be better at that. 367 00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:36,560 Speaker 1: I'm no good at that. I'm better than I used 368 00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:40,640 Speaker 1: to be most times when someone like you can see 369 00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:43,879 Speaker 1: when someone writes a really nice compliment, these days, I 370 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:45,880 Speaker 1: just say thank you and I put a little heart, 371 00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:48,960 Speaker 1: you know, I don't try to talk them out of 372 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:49,760 Speaker 1: my awesomeness. 373 00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:56,199 Speaker 2: What's your relationship with your feelings, as in, do you 374 00:21:56,440 --> 00:22:00,680 Speaker 2: feel like they are an integral part of you and 375 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:05,920 Speaker 2: who you are? Because there's that separation of being reactive, 376 00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:08,280 Speaker 2: like we have to have this relationship with how we 377 00:22:08,359 --> 00:22:13,600 Speaker 2: feel and having an objective view on what's happening and 378 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:15,719 Speaker 2: why we feel a certain way. How do you manage that? 379 00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:22,960 Speaker 1: Or yeah, okay, So so we have feelings but we're 380 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:25,720 Speaker 1: not feelings. We have thoughts but we're not thoughts. We 381 00:22:25,800 --> 00:22:27,800 Speaker 1: have a body, but we're not a body, right, it's 382 00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:31,720 Speaker 1: these are experiences and like, the funny thing is when 383 00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:39,560 Speaker 1: it comes to emotions feelings, I can feel unworthy while 384 00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:45,840 Speaker 1: knowing that's not true. Yeah, right, So there's the logical 385 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:50,520 Speaker 1: critical thinking brain, the awareness that will Craig, you've done 386 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:52,840 Speaker 1: this quite a few times and you've got a lot 387 00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:55,840 Speaker 1: of You've got way more positive than negative feedback. You know, 388 00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:59,960 Speaker 1: as a let's say, corporate speaker, you're you're all right, 389 00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:03,359 Speaker 1: You're not terrible. But I could get up there and 390 00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:06,600 Speaker 1: feel like not good enough on the day, or I 391 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:10,000 Speaker 1: just acknowledge those things for what they are, especially when 392 00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:15,840 Speaker 1: it's that super self loathing stuff. But so it's not 393 00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:18,680 Speaker 1: always the same response. I might be in a situation 394 00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:22,600 Speaker 1: where I feel some low level fear or anxiety, and 395 00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:27,879 Speaker 1: I think sometimes that's my subconscious mind that knows something 396 00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:33,239 Speaker 1: that my prefrontal cortex hasn't become aware of yet, or 397 00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:41,199 Speaker 1: whatever intuition, instinct, god, divine awareness, whatever you want to 398 00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:45,679 Speaker 1: call it. I mean, yeah, I've had so many of 399 00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:49,920 Speaker 1: those things in my life where it seems like psychobabb 400 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:53,200 Speaker 1: or bullshit. And especially someone who's literally studying the brain 401 00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:58,000 Speaker 1: in the mind, I know it doesn't make sense in 402 00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:01,880 Speaker 1: inverted commas sometimes, but it's like, well, you know, when 403 00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:03,919 Speaker 1: we and we've said this, I've said this before, but 404 00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:07,080 Speaker 1: when I say makes sense, then you go well to 405 00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:10,200 Speaker 1: who you know, if you spoke to people two hundred 406 00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:13,000 Speaker 1: years ago about the possibility of three hundred people being 407 00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:17,240 Speaker 1: in a metal tube hurtling across the sky landing in 408 00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:22,560 Speaker 1: another country. They would go, that's irrational, that's illogical, that 409 00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:25,760 Speaker 1: doesn't make sense. There's something wrong with you. We're going 410 00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:30,240 Speaker 1: to burn you at the stake, right like, because that's 411 00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:35,400 Speaker 1: completely in you know, eighteen twenty five, two hundred years ago, 412 00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:40,800 Speaker 1: the idea, Oh, it's fucking ridiculous. It's impossible because you know, 413 00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:45,240 Speaker 1: how much does that weigh? Are hundreds of tons? Well? No, 414 00:24:46,280 --> 00:24:48,600 Speaker 1: you know, the idea of you being in one part 415 00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:50,800 Speaker 1: of the world like you are right now, me being 416 00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:53,800 Speaker 1: in another part of the world. We're looking at each 417 00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:57,360 Speaker 1: other and talking to each other while not being physically 418 00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:03,920 Speaker 1: near each other. Also, well that's illogical, you know. So yeah, 419 00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:08,359 Speaker 1: I just think that there's so much more that we 420 00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:15,240 Speaker 1: can tap into an access but our overthinking brain gets 421 00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 1: in the way. And I think also we not all 422 00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:22,320 Speaker 1: the time, but I think quite often we confuse the 423 00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:27,480 Speaker 1: rational brain with the fearful brain. You know, it's like, oh, 424 00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,840 Speaker 1: this doesn't make sense to me, this scares me a bit, 425 00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:33,240 Speaker 1: so it must be bullshit, and I need to criticize 426 00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:38,040 Speaker 1: it versus I don't know if that's real. I don't know. 427 00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,359 Speaker 1: It could be, it might not be. I don't know. 428 00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:45,080 Speaker 1: Based on what I understand, which, let's be honest, is 429 00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:47,639 Speaker 1: in an ocean of what there is to know. I 430 00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:51,359 Speaker 1: have a fucking drop, right, you know, My knowledge is 431 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:54,040 Speaker 1: a drop of water in an ocean of what there 432 00:25:54,119 --> 00:25:57,439 Speaker 1: is to know. But I'm looking through the lens of 433 00:25:57,480 --> 00:26:00,440 Speaker 1: that drop of water. I'm the drop of water. I'm 434 00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:04,040 Speaker 1: not the ocean. So of course I don't know nearly everything. 435 00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:09,600 Speaker 2: It really highlights how hard it is to be human 436 00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,480 Speaker 2: and to try and get better in this space, because 437 00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:17,199 Speaker 2: you know, I ask you about feelings and how do 438 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:20,480 Speaker 2: we separate from those feelings that aren't true, that are 439 00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:23,080 Speaker 2: in the way and get and make them not a 440 00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:25,840 Speaker 2: part of our identity. They're kind of this separate thing 441 00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:30,000 Speaker 2: to us. But then also on the other side, you 442 00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:33,600 Speaker 2: talk about intuition and go, well, okay, so here's an experience. 443 00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:36,199 Speaker 2: It's not great. You need to not you know, just 444 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:37,639 Speaker 2: that's not part of you. You need to put it 445 00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:40,840 Speaker 2: over in a box and carry on and be okay. 446 00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:44,199 Speaker 2: And then over here we've got intuition that's good for you. 447 00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:47,320 Speaker 2: It's got no explanation, and this is a lesson for 448 00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:49,439 Speaker 2: you in your world. Out you go and know the 449 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:50,680 Speaker 2: difference and live your life. 450 00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:53,840 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, and I mean this is this is 451 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:58,200 Speaker 1: the ongoing you know. Not too many years ago, scientists 452 00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:00,439 Speaker 1: were saying nobody could run a four minute it was 453 00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:04,200 Speaker 1: physiologically impossible for a human to run that fast, right, 454 00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:08,040 Speaker 1: And what's funny is when Roger Banister did that for 455 00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:11,399 Speaker 1: the first time, I think it was in nine to 456 00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:13,040 Speaker 1: fifty four. I could be wrong, but it was in 457 00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:16,399 Speaker 1: the fifties, Like it was a widely held belief that 458 00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:19,080 Speaker 1: it was physiologically impossible, and a lot of people ran 459 00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:23,600 Speaker 1: like four zho one point one four minutes and half 460 00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:26,480 Speaker 1: a second, Like there was a myriad of people who 461 00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:30,800 Speaker 1: ran within two seconds, but nobody had ever done it. 462 00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:33,800 Speaker 1: Now when he did it, and he ran I think 463 00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:37,360 Speaker 1: like three point fifty nine to four within six months, 464 00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:40,040 Speaker 1: like my mum and her friends from school did it, 465 00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:44,800 Speaker 1: I mean it was like, you know, like something like 466 00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:50,040 Speaker 1: ten people did it. Because all of a sudden, Mary 467 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,640 Speaker 1: was pretty quick over the first Mary is pretty quick 468 00:27:53,680 --> 00:27:55,600 Speaker 1: over the first four but she could only do it 469 00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:58,560 Speaker 1: with a shopping trolley. That was the that's why she 470 00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:10,520 Speaker 1: didn't get the record, but insensible shoes. But what happened, well, 471 00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:14,679 Speaker 1: of course, bodies didn't change, humans didn't get more potential. 472 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:18,119 Speaker 1: What happened was, all of a sudden, everybody knew that 473 00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:24,400 Speaker 1: it was possible. Everybody knew, Oh, so now it's illogical, 474 00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:28,120 Speaker 1: it's irrational, it's impossible, and boom, something happens. Then all 475 00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:31,640 Speaker 1: of a sudden, everyone has evidence. Now, so the thing 476 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:35,320 Speaker 1: that was illogical and not possible last week, now we 477 00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:38,960 Speaker 1: know it's possible. We know it's possible. And then all 478 00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:42,040 Speaker 1: of a sudden, these other runners achieved the same thing. 479 00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:46,800 Speaker 1: So yeah, it's I mean, the you know, the mind 480 00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:50,640 Speaker 1: is incredible, but also what's beyond the mind, Like we 481 00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:52,719 Speaker 1: don't and that's the thing we don't know, but it 482 00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:56,760 Speaker 1: freaks It can freak humans out to go, oh, there's 483 00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:59,040 Speaker 1: you know, because we like to think the mind is 484 00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:02,240 Speaker 1: all there is in terms of comprehending the world and 485 00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 1: human behavior, and but I'm pretty positive that there's wisdom 486 00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:13,120 Speaker 1: and insight and intelligence that definitely exists beyond fucking Fatty 487 00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:17,600 Speaker 1: Harps's brain and mind. Let's do one quick one then. 488 00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:21,840 Speaker 2: This one's titled The Saddest shit ever. Trying to get 489 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:24,960 Speaker 2: people to like you as the saddest shit ever. Live 490 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:29,240 Speaker 2: your values, invest your energy wisely, don't be a selfish coconut, 491 00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:31,360 Speaker 2: and see who hangs around. 492 00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:35,840 Speaker 1: Yes, I'm glad you changed that word there. Yeah. Look, 493 00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:38,480 Speaker 1: I think like wanting to be needed and liked and 494 00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:41,880 Speaker 1: valued and loved and to belong one hundred percent understandable 495 00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:45,400 Speaker 1: and normal and healthy and human. I want that. I 496 00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:48,560 Speaker 1: want that. You want that. Nobody wants to be alone 497 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:53,000 Speaker 1: or isolated or you know, unwelcome more. But I think 498 00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:56,200 Speaker 1: you know there can when when the price to pay 499 00:29:56,400 --> 00:30:00,400 Speaker 1: to belong to that person or that group or that whatever, 500 00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:03,400 Speaker 1: that thought cult, that religious cult, when the price to 501 00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:06,320 Speaker 1: pay is that you've got to essentially not be the 502 00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:09,480 Speaker 1: true version of you, and you've got to align and 503 00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,160 Speaker 1: you've got to think what they think and say what 504 00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:15,120 Speaker 1: they say, and have their same values and language and behavior, 505 00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:19,920 Speaker 1: and then you're actually losing yourself to become a version 506 00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:22,760 Speaker 1: of them. And that is the saddest shit ever. It's like, 507 00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 1: I think it's not the best model, perhaps, but I 508 00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,600 Speaker 1: think a pretty good model is what are the things 509 00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:32,840 Speaker 1: that are really important to you, also known as your values, 510 00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:40,400 Speaker 1: Identify your values, then try and build a life around that. Habits, behaviors, choices, 511 00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:46,080 Speaker 1: lifestyle relationships, build an existence around those values, and you're 512 00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:48,120 Speaker 1: probably going to be in a better place than the 513 00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:53,920 Speaker 1: person who's always trying to be liked. You know, if 514 00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:55,480 Speaker 1: we've got to go because I've got a meeting. But 515 00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:57,840 Speaker 1: it's been great, Thanks so much. 516 00:30:58,080 --> 00:30:59,520 Speaker 2: Thanks almost, doctor Harper. 517 00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:02,880 Speaker 1: Let's talk soon, all right, Thanks