1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:04,320 Speaker 1: Coming up on relatables. Sorry, Battie too, Like you're not 2 00:00:04,360 --> 00:00:06,280 Speaker 1: even entertaining these men. You can't get away from it. 3 00:00:07,400 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, men are crazy, like girls won't even entertained it. 4 00:00:11,680 --> 00:00:14,640 Speaker 2: For somehow, they're still involved, like what. 5 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:18,599 Speaker 1: Relatable? 6 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:28,280 Speaker 2: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself? 7 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:34,240 Speaker 1: Joke. The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Whaty Clark 8 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: ak My May and my partner in crime, mister Jake 9 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: Craig aka Daddy Dad There. Sorry, I felt like that 10 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:47,959 Speaker 1: came across as really controlling. Nah, I'm good, baddies, We're 11 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:53,000 Speaker 1: back with another Dilemma's episode. We have the prompt Jake Archives, Archives, 12 00:00:53,240 --> 00:00:56,920 Speaker 1: archival energy. As some baddies may know, some might not know. 13 00:00:57,040 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 1: We have a document that will be linked in the 14 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:03,640 Speaker 1: description three five hundred dilemmas, and we can't get to 15 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:05,680 Speaker 1: all of them on the main episode, so we go 16 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: through it and try to help you bad He's out. 17 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: Let's not waste any time, Jake, Yeah, you go first. 18 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 1: This is actually relatively new. Four years later meeting it. 19 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 1: This is the title, by the way. 20 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 2: By the way, it's like a cut of a confusing title. 21 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:23,319 Speaker 2: Four years later, meeting a guy, I get a message 22 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:24,640 Speaker 2: from the wife dot dot dot. 23 00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:27,479 Speaker 1: Four years later meeting the guy, I get a mind 24 00:01:27,680 --> 00:01:28,559 Speaker 1: message from the wife. 25 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 2: Okay, let's see what happens there, right, Hey, boys love 26 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:38,320 Speaker 2: the pod and the fresh male energy. In twenty twenty one, 27 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 2: I was working in hospo. The guy hit on me 28 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:47,920 Speaker 2: a prox ten years older. Okay, okay. He asked me 29 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 2: for lunch. I said, fuck it. You know, nothing came 30 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:57,320 Speaker 2: from it, and that was that. Twenty twenty three, he 31 00:01:57,400 --> 00:02:02,840 Speaker 2: started dating someone. In twenty twenty three, I randomly got 32 00:02:02,960 --> 00:02:06,680 Speaker 2: a message from him and sussed his profile. No more 33 00:02:06,720 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 2: photos of them. Okay, so they've broken up. I was 34 00:02:10,760 --> 00:02:13,960 Speaker 2: trying to be polite. He asked how I was, and 35 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:17,639 Speaker 2: I said happy, single and living my best life. How 36 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 2: are you, et cetera. Convo was surface level. I asked 37 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:23,720 Speaker 2: why he was reaching out, and he said he was 38 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:25,840 Speaker 2: single again and just wanted to reach out. He said 39 00:02:25,840 --> 00:02:28,919 Speaker 2: it didn't work with that girl. I kept at surface level, 40 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:31,519 Speaker 2: said I was happy alone and not interested, and left 41 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:34,080 Speaker 2: it at that. Yes, under five exchanges from me and 42 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 2: that's all. A few months after still twenty twenty three, 43 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 2: it came up on Insta that he popped the question 44 00:02:42,280 --> 00:02:48,519 Speaker 2: to the X now back together obviously, okay, onwards, happy 45 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:51,120 Speaker 2: living their life. And he has not reached out, and 46 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:55,639 Speaker 2: I have not thought able it. Okay, last night twenty 47 00:02:55,639 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 2: twenty five, all right. Two years later, last night twenty 48 00:02:59,600 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 2: twenty five, I got four calls from him on Insta. 49 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:08,040 Speaker 2: I didn't answer and let them ring not my monkey, 50 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 2: not my circus. Oh I like that, I like use that, 51 00:03:11,200 --> 00:03:13,880 Speaker 2: she said. I assumed it was a butt dial. I 52 00:03:13,919 --> 00:03:17,920 Speaker 2: opened my message requests and now time and now his 53 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 2: wife has messaged me. Oh hi there, this is girl 54 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:25,679 Speaker 2: boy's wife. Could you please do me a favor and 55 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:30,640 Speaker 2: tell me what was going on between YouTube tonight? I 56 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:34,520 Speaker 2: saw I saw messages from you to him. Definitely, he 57 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:37,480 Speaker 2: sent messages to YouTube, but he deleted his part of 58 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:41,440 Speaker 2: the messages. When you two were meeting in restaurants and 59 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 2: messaging each other, I was two and a half to 60 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:51,000 Speaker 2: three months pregnant. I haven't replied good and I haven't 61 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:53,320 Speaker 2: accepted the request. But what the fuck do I do? 62 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 1: Nothing? 63 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 2: Do I respond and clarify the above, or do I 64 00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 2: leave it? Because again, not my monkey, not my circus. Also, 65 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 2: I have not reached out at all. I assumed they 66 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 2: broke up. And got back together. And he messaged me 67 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 2: in the middle of this pregnant say what by the maths? 68 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 2: Maybe they got back together because she was preggy. 69 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 1: I don't know. 70 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:13,800 Speaker 2: Again, not my monkey, not my circus. Here's the thing. 71 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 2: I liked it the first time, the second time was cool. 72 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:18,720 Speaker 2: The third time I'm over it. Yeah, and I don't 73 00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:22,040 Speaker 2: want to be involved. Just ill SOS help about it out? 74 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:24,920 Speaker 2: Please ps take a shot of water every time I say, 75 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:25,200 Speaker 2: not my. 76 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 1: Monkey, not myself. Look what can be done? Not my monkey? Like, 77 00:04:34,600 --> 00:04:38,360 Speaker 1: nothing can be done. I think this man has been 78 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: seeing this girl the whole time and there wasn't a break. 79 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 2: He's a terribus terrible man. 80 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:47,560 Speaker 1: He was just keen for Yeah. Look, the answer is simple, 81 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:50,560 Speaker 1: just leave it. It's not in your life, it's not 82 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:51,279 Speaker 1: your problem. 83 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:54,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, you don't ever have to accept that message. 84 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 2: As soon as that message is accepted, then you have 85 00:04:56,560 --> 00:04:58,480 Speaker 2: seen it and you're choosing to ignore it. And even 86 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 2: though you have seen it and you're choosing to ignore it, 87 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:02,520 Speaker 2: it's it doesn't seem like you've seen it. 88 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:05,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, And like, I don't know, you could argue girl 89 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:07,680 Speaker 1: code in a sense of like you've got to tell 90 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:10,719 Speaker 1: the wife that he's a terrible man. But she already knows, 91 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: like she's already done her investigation. She wants confirmation. How 92 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:16,159 Speaker 1: sus can a man be of deleting the messages on 93 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 1: his site, Like that's just like shooting yourself in the foot. 94 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 1: Obviously he's a cheater. Yeah, it's hard. 95 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:27,919 Speaker 2: I mean I understand the probably the conflict going on 96 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:28,479 Speaker 2: in your head. 97 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:30,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, you feel like you should do the right thing, 98 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: but also I think you need to do the right 99 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:33,599 Speaker 1: thing by yourself. I would agree. 100 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:36,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, and like how about block him? 101 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:38,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, but blocking makes. 102 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:44,159 Speaker 2: You look I mean you've seen it. Yeah, it's ignore. Yeah, 103 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 2: do you follow him? Follow him? 104 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:45,839 Speaker 1: No? 105 00:05:45,839 --> 00:05:46,560 Speaker 2: No, no no no. 106 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:48,560 Speaker 1: So I just don't understand how like men are out 107 00:05:48,560 --> 00:05:52,800 Speaker 1: here with their loving wives who are two three months pregnant, 108 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:56,000 Speaker 1: fucking damning girls ten years younger than them, like fucking 109 00:05:56,040 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 1: grow up. Pissed me off? A Yeah, I just don't understand. 110 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:02,240 Speaker 1: I don't understand. I've never understood that day, Like, don't 111 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 1: get a girl pregnant if you're gonna do that shit, 112 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:05,280 Speaker 1: see here, like. 113 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 2: Choosing to choosing to actively go and look for someone 114 00:06:14,279 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 2: to cheat with. Crazy, his hands down, the craziest mindset. 115 00:06:19,560 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 2: To me, I can't even wrap my head like you're 116 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:30,880 Speaker 2: thinking to yourself, I want to cheat on my girlfriend, 117 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 2: so I'm going to go. 118 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 1: And look for it. To me, that's insane, like do yourself. 119 00:06:38,480 --> 00:06:41,920 Speaker 2: A favor, Like you're clearly unhappy in the relationship, Well, 120 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 2: how about don't bring her down with you? 121 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:47,400 Speaker 1: Just break up. I think it's a self sabotage thing 122 00:06:47,640 --> 00:06:50,279 Speaker 1: in a sense of he would rather or he doesn't 123 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:54,080 Speaker 1: have the emotional maturity or communication skills or decency to 124 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:57,400 Speaker 1: have a conversation with said partner and say, hey, look, 125 00:06:57,800 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 1: this isn't working and he would rather do something and 126 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:02,440 Speaker 1: have some fun. That's all he knows how to do 127 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:07,279 Speaker 1: to get the same solution. Here's the thing, right, people 128 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: that cheat, I assume. Right. 129 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:12,800 Speaker 2: Okay, so let's say someone's cheating because it's a self 130 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 2: sabotage thing, and they want to do the cheating because 131 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 2: for some reason they find that easier than the confronting 132 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:20,920 Speaker 2: conversation of the breakup. Yeah, okay, what about the confronting 133 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 2: conversation of the cheating? 134 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:25,800 Speaker 1: Like what? But yeah, I don't know. I think the 135 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 1: person who's doing the cheating doesn't think that many steps 136 00:07:28,080 --> 00:07:29,720 Speaker 1: ahead and The cheating is nice, so I'll figure it 137 00:07:29,720 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 1: out later. It kind of forces the conversation though, that's 138 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:35,160 Speaker 1: what's easy. So like he doesn't know how to start. 139 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:37,120 Speaker 1: The cheater doesn't know how to start the conversation in 140 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 1: a sense. But if he cheats, the conversations that he 141 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 1: started and he just can stick grovel. Yeah, Like, oh 142 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:45,240 Speaker 1: my god, I love doing so much, just one pie. 143 00:07:45,240 --> 00:07:51,600 Speaker 1: I swear seriously sorry about it too. Like you're not 144 00:07:51,640 --> 00:07:53,960 Speaker 1: even entertaining these men. You can't get away from it. 145 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, men are crazy, Like girls won't even entertain it 146 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:00,640 Speaker 2: for some hare they're still involved. 147 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:06,520 Speaker 1: What the alrighty my dilemma, no title. I'm a psych nurse. 148 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:08,760 Speaker 1: I've been at the same unit for five years. The 149 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:12,160 Speaker 1: workplace is toxic. I'm burnt out too much workplace politics, 150 00:08:12,240 --> 00:08:16,480 Speaker 1: violence and understaff, underpaid, under resource, undersupported, undervalued, and no 151 00:08:16,640 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: job satisfaction. 152 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 2: You know what should do in there? Just like can 153 00:08:20,280 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 2: make it funny underfucked. 154 00:08:23,320 --> 00:08:26,440 Speaker 1: I'm the youngest one there by about twenty years, and 155 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:29,320 Speaker 1: I have people in their mid sixties and fifties bullying me, 156 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:32,520 Speaker 1: making rumors and having beef with me because I refuse 157 00:08:32,960 --> 00:08:35,840 Speaker 1: to do the practice. They did and learn thirty years 158 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 1: ago and not the current policy. But I'm on minimum wage, 159 00:08:39,800 --> 00:08:44,080 Speaker 1: single in brackets and single income and now have a mortgage, 160 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:46,360 Speaker 1: and there's really not that many other jobs in the 161 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:51,360 Speaker 1: rural area for registered nurses. So for twenty twenty six, 162 00:08:51,720 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 1: do I just say fuck it and just raised quit 163 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:57,960 Speaker 1: and do some five fir slash travel nursing. Or should 164 00:08:57,960 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: I just stick it out with it and hope it 165 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 1: figures itself out and just focus on savings even though 166 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 1: they're barely enough. Or do I just properly resign? Please 167 00:09:07,040 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 1: help this twenty seven year old teenager out who loves 168 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:11,960 Speaker 1: what she does for work but hates her workplace. 169 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:15,960 Speaker 2: Twenty seven year old teenager hilarious, relatable. 170 00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:22,360 Speaker 1: Nah, I would say the mortgage thing is like lockdown, 171 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:25,800 Speaker 1: locked you in breadth. You're locked in and you said rural. 172 00:09:25,960 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: But it's hard though, because like you get a mortgage 173 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:29,960 Speaker 1: because you're like I love being a nurse, and then 174 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 1: everyone there sucks. But I guess that's I don't know 175 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 1: the mortgage thing. 176 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 2: I assume you can't really rent something out too easy 177 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:42,719 Speaker 2: in a rural area and like just maybe. 178 00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:44,040 Speaker 1: No, But to be fair, there's probably a lot of 179 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:46,640 Speaker 1: nurses in the same position. My brother actually was a 180 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 1: psych nurse, yeah, to be relatable, and he went to 181 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 1: fuck somewhere really. 182 00:09:51,480 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 2: Real, didn't he go to like broken Hell, Broken Hill yet? 183 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:58,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, Brokenhill with his partner and he did. He was 184 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: in between psych nursing and do some stuff online. But 185 00:10:01,760 --> 00:10:03,679 Speaker 1: exact same scenario. But a lot of those houses are 186 00:10:03,720 --> 00:10:06,160 Speaker 1: rented out to other people doing the same thing, pursing 187 00:10:06,200 --> 00:10:08,439 Speaker 1: in people within that industry, so you might be able 188 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:10,200 Speaker 1: to rent it out to be fair, you don't get 189 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:13,720 Speaker 1: that much though. You know what, though, I like the 190 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:17,360 Speaker 1: idea of like, why don't try this five FO thing? Yeah, 191 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:19,839 Speaker 1: like five you're probably gonna make Why yould minimum wage 192 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:21,360 Speaker 1: as a nurse? Is that minimum wage? 193 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:22,480 Speaker 2: I just get fucked over. 194 00:10:22,840 --> 00:10:27,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's annoying. So I reckon, I reckon, press the 195 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:30,080 Speaker 1: refresh button. Either do a travel year or a five 196 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:32,320 Speaker 1: FO year, rent it out at the bare minimum you 197 00:10:32,320 --> 00:10:34,760 Speaker 1: can do, and then after a year come back and 198 00:10:34,760 --> 00:10:36,320 Speaker 1: be like, do I want to give this another shot 199 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:39,000 Speaker 1: or not? And I don't know. Maybe it's coming back 200 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:40,800 Speaker 1: down to you know what you want with work. But 201 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:42,720 Speaker 1: a little bit of soul searching always goes a long way. 202 00:10:42,880 --> 00:10:43,040 Speaker 3: Fu. 203 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:46,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think the five FO thing sucks it out. 204 00:10:46,320 --> 00:10:48,600 Speaker 1: Yeah not, and like it's good too, because if it sucks, 205 00:10:48,640 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 1: you come back and you appreciate even though this is 206 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:52,640 Speaker 1: really fucking shitting annoying, you might appreciate it a little 207 00:10:52,640 --> 00:10:54,920 Speaker 1: bit more and then otherwise you might be like, Wow, 208 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 1: there's so much more to life than these old people 209 00:10:56,600 --> 00:10:57,640 Speaker 1: telling me what to do and they don't know what 210 00:10:57,679 --> 00:10:59,680 Speaker 1: they're doing, which is probably what's gonna happen. 211 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 2: I've just had a thought, so I saw I think. 212 00:11:05,200 --> 00:11:07,760 Speaker 2: I think that I'm about to solve a pretty major 213 00:11:07,800 --> 00:11:11,880 Speaker 2: issue with you or bad, with just Australia in general, 214 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:14,760 Speaker 2: maybe maybe a lot of places in the world in general. Right, 215 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:21,080 Speaker 2: So there's always like it's always said that nurses, there's 216 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:23,680 Speaker 2: we don't have enough, so we don't have enough nurses. 217 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:26,800 Speaker 2: I saw this thing in Victoria to get more nurses. 218 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 2: They were I think they may have been making the 219 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:31,600 Speaker 2: schooling for it, like nearly free. 220 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:32,840 Speaker 1: That's what happened to my brother. 221 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:38,360 Speaker 2: So my my question is like, if you want more nurses, 222 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 2: pay them more money. 223 00:11:40,960 --> 00:11:44,199 Speaker 1: Don't give them free school pay them more. So it's 224 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:46,320 Speaker 1: an it like make it so people actually want to 225 00:11:46,320 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 1: do it. We had this debate the other day in 226 00:11:48,800 --> 00:11:50,720 Speaker 1: a sense of like not a debate, because a debate 227 00:11:50,760 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 1: man you're arguing or not a debate is like if 228 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:56,439 Speaker 1: you and I debate each other, we just like it's 229 00:11:56,520 --> 00:11:58,720 Speaker 1: like a fancy word to argue. Okay, we had this 230 00:11:58,760 --> 00:12:02,200 Speaker 1: agreement the other day that we didn't understand how different 231 00:12:02,320 --> 00:12:05,679 Speaker 1: jobs hourly rate is valued differently, Like why is a 232 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:08,200 Speaker 1: teacher different to a nurse, or like I can understand 233 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:10,000 Speaker 1: on the major scheme of things if you're like working 234 00:12:10,040 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 1: in retail shop and then you're a brain searcher, but 235 00:12:12,080 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 1: all this stuff that's on you that I understand too. Yeah, 236 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:16,080 Speaker 1: but then all this stuff that's in the middle ground, 237 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:17,880 Speaker 1: and then some people are getting real estate agents what 238 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:19,640 Speaker 1: the fuck are they doing? And then a nurse is 239 00:12:19,679 --> 00:12:22,240 Speaker 1: way more important? Is getting bare minimum. 240 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:24,840 Speaker 2: Being a real estate agent? Yeah, I'm not even gonna lie. 241 00:12:24,880 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure it's like a one week course. 242 00:12:29,480 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't understand that. It's always annoyed me, especially 243 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:35,040 Speaker 1: for like teachers nurses. What else is there there's another 244 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:37,360 Speaker 1: one that's like really important that everyone needs and they're 245 00:12:37,400 --> 00:12:42,400 Speaker 1: just underpaid and undervalued. Yeah, I just pay them more. 246 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:43,280 Speaker 2: Your fuck, I don't know. 247 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:45,040 Speaker 1: Heaps of nurses who have to work, not shift to 248 00:12:45,080 --> 00:12:47,840 Speaker 1: get like the money that's actually deserved to them, to 249 00:12:47,880 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 1: make the money that they've worked for. It's annoying. Yeah, 250 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:55,800 Speaker 1: I don't know, man, soul searching and it's not gonna 251 00:12:55,800 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 1: answer all your questions, but it's gonna be fun. Yeah, 252 00:12:57,960 --> 00:13:00,320 Speaker 1: I agree. 253 00:13:00,800 --> 00:13:03,959 Speaker 2: All right, this is a doozy and this is from Quiet. 254 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:06,959 Speaker 2: This is from two years ago, two years and so, baddie, 255 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:09,280 Speaker 2: if you're still listening to the pod like on our 256 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:11,240 Speaker 2: archives two years ago, two years ago. Well, and so 257 00:13:11,240 --> 00:13:12,800 Speaker 2: if you're still listening to the pod, bad he was 258 00:13:12,800 --> 00:13:13,680 Speaker 2: said twenty twenty three. 259 00:13:13,760 --> 00:13:15,200 Speaker 1: Sorry, we get there in the end. 260 00:13:15,400 --> 00:13:17,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I would love an update. 261 00:13:17,840 --> 00:13:20,600 Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah. 262 00:13:20,640 --> 00:13:23,319 Speaker 2: Should I go for the affair or stay with the 263 00:13:23,440 --> 00:13:24,560 Speaker 2: husband question mark? 264 00:13:26,200 --> 00:13:28,080 Speaker 1: I've learned not the judge. 265 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 2: I have been together with my husband for about six 266 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:33,400 Speaker 2: years and we are married for about four years. I've 267 00:13:33,400 --> 00:13:36,000 Speaker 2: heard enough. We have two little kids together. Enough. 268 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:37,440 Speaker 1: My husband is a way a lot. 269 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:41,000 Speaker 2: For work and I never ever doubted our relationship before 270 00:13:41,040 --> 00:13:44,120 Speaker 2: having kids. To be honest, I do not think he 271 00:13:44,200 --> 00:13:48,000 Speaker 2: is a good father. He also does not appreciate what 272 00:13:48,040 --> 00:13:50,719 Speaker 2: I do for the children. I work and take care 273 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:54,040 Speaker 2: of the kids. We are very different and at first 274 00:13:54,240 --> 00:13:56,439 Speaker 2: I thought it were yin and yang, but now I 275 00:13:56,480 --> 00:13:59,400 Speaker 2: think I want someone that is more suitable. And so 276 00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:03,200 Speaker 2: about a year ago, I started an affair with someone 277 00:14:03,240 --> 00:14:06,800 Speaker 2: at work. He was very honest and I know I 278 00:14:06,840 --> 00:14:09,959 Speaker 2: am not his first affair. He also has a family. 279 00:14:10,679 --> 00:14:13,920 Speaker 2: We were friends at first and often joked how. 280 00:14:13,800 --> 00:14:15,280 Speaker 1: Well we suited together. 281 00:14:16,160 --> 00:14:18,600 Speaker 2: It was just sex at first, but now I think 282 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:20,880 Speaker 2: I am falling in love with him. I am pretty 283 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:24,120 Speaker 2: sure he just wants the affair to continue, but nothing more. 284 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:27,600 Speaker 2: But on the other hand, it is not just sex 285 00:14:27,880 --> 00:14:31,440 Speaker 2: because we text a lot, and yes he often texts. First, 286 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:34,440 Speaker 2: we have had a lot of fun together in the 287 00:14:34,440 --> 00:14:37,520 Speaker 2: workplace and went on a couple of playdates with the 288 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:38,160 Speaker 2: kids as well. 289 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:43,200 Speaker 1: What do I do borrow? What? I guess? Like, yeah, 290 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:46,840 Speaker 1: in the mindset of the cheaterh and like everything's bad, 291 00:14:46,880 --> 00:14:48,560 Speaker 1: so like how could we get worse? And he had 292 00:14:48,600 --> 00:14:49,800 Speaker 1: to have a bit of escapism. 293 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:55,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, true, I struggle to have sympathy for cheaters, but 294 00:14:55,800 --> 00:14:58,080 Speaker 2: then also sometimes I do, well they feel trapped. 295 00:14:58,280 --> 00:15:02,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, and like in her mind, I'm not saying it's right, 296 00:15:02,880 --> 00:15:05,440 Speaker 1: She's like, well, this dude's a piece of shit. Yeah, 297 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:07,280 Speaker 1: he's a dude who's not a piece of shit, and 298 00:15:07,320 --> 00:15:11,200 Speaker 1: I can have some fun. Yeah, what's the decision like 299 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:11,520 Speaker 1: to be? 300 00:15:11,680 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 2: I guess in this situation, if the person you're married 301 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:20,880 Speaker 2: to makes you feel terrible, yeah, and then someone you 302 00:15:21,720 --> 00:15:24,520 Speaker 2: and then someone you work with makes you feel great, 303 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:27,680 Speaker 2: Like you can see the appeal there, like not to 304 00:15:27,680 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 2: give it a benefit benefit of the doubt, but I 305 00:15:33,760 --> 00:15:36,400 Speaker 2: sometimes I think, like I use benefit of the doubt wrong. 306 00:15:36,880 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 2: So when someone does something that is maybe wrong or 307 00:15:41,280 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 2: maybe right, I'm pretty sure that's when you're like, I'll 308 00:15:43,360 --> 00:15:45,760 Speaker 2: give them the benefit of the doubt. But if someone's 309 00:15:45,800 --> 00:15:49,480 Speaker 2: done something that's black and white wrong, I always say. 310 00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:51,120 Speaker 1: Benefit of the doubt. But I'm pretty sure I'm using 311 00:15:51,160 --> 00:15:54,600 Speaker 1: that wrong. I reckon moving into twenty twenty six, we 312 00:15:54,640 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 1: should research our sayings now the opposite, lean into a 313 00:15:58,440 --> 00:15:59,040 Speaker 1: more fuck. 314 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:08,880 Speaker 3: It Like I unconsciously do think, yeah, but okay, you 315 00:16:08,920 --> 00:16:14,840 Speaker 3: know what, something's going to fuck up somewhere. 316 00:16:15,520 --> 00:16:18,800 Speaker 2: So it's like where my mind goes is do you 317 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:20,720 Speaker 2: just say fuck it? I may as well be the 318 00:16:20,720 --> 00:16:23,360 Speaker 2: one to start the fucking up, because it's gonna happen anyway. 319 00:16:23,800 --> 00:16:25,840 Speaker 2: Tell the husband you want that you're having an affair, 320 00:16:26,160 --> 00:16:28,160 Speaker 2: and then tell the guy you're having an affair with 321 00:16:28,240 --> 00:16:29,600 Speaker 2: you want to be with him and see what he does. 322 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:35,680 Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, I recon sense of make sure 323 00:16:36,320 --> 00:16:40,160 Speaker 1: the kids are unbeknownst to what's happening, and get a 324 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:45,440 Speaker 1: civil and to the relationship with your husband so they're 325 00:16:45,440 --> 00:16:48,400 Speaker 1: not involved, and then go through those steps. Do you 326 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:49,480 Speaker 1: best keep kids out of it? 327 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:52,800 Speaker 2: I have one thing that I really didn't like was 328 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:56,080 Speaker 2: that you had taken your kids and his kids on playdates. 329 00:16:56,400 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 2: I'm sorry that, like, so when it comes to betray 330 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:04,080 Speaker 2: rail so right now I understand your reasoning, I do, 331 00:17:04,200 --> 00:17:06,399 Speaker 2: and I actually sympathize with you. I do, but like 332 00:17:06,480 --> 00:17:09,439 Speaker 2: you are betraying your husband. There's no other way around it. 333 00:17:11,400 --> 00:17:14,199 Speaker 2: I don't think you're like a bad person. I do 334 00:17:14,240 --> 00:17:16,520 Speaker 2: think you're making a mistake, and you've made a mistake. 335 00:17:16,600 --> 00:17:19,880 Speaker 2: But I think when you like have taken the kids 336 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:24,040 Speaker 2: on playdate with the guys kids bro and his wife's 337 00:17:24,119 --> 00:17:26,560 Speaker 2: at home is betrayal and like you. 338 00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:29,960 Speaker 1: Guys are on a date with your kids. Yeah. Yeah, Also, 339 00:17:30,119 --> 00:17:32,119 Speaker 1: like we should say stop doing it and sort everything 340 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:32,720 Speaker 1: out first. 341 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:35,520 Speaker 2: Don't be in two years I have to have to 342 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:36,240 Speaker 2: have to know. 343 00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:38,920 Speaker 1: Imagine they're like happily together and they've combined the kids. 344 00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:39,800 Speaker 1: They're best things now. 345 00:17:40,280 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 2: Honestly, best case scenario. 346 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:44,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, true, well, absolutely best case scenario in my opinion. 347 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:48,159 Speaker 2: I really need to know. Please email us at Relatables 348 00:17:48,160 --> 00:17:52,200 Speaker 2: sixty nine at gmail dot com with the subject. 349 00:17:51,680 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 1: Line we're still together or no, no. 350 00:17:54,480 --> 00:17:56,680 Speaker 2: No, the subject line A fair update. 351 00:17:56,840 --> 00:18:01,880 Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, okay, yeah, thank you? Okay. Title where do 352 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:05,280 Speaker 1: you limit separating logic in emotion? Spock line or something? 353 00:18:05,560 --> 00:18:08,840 Speaker 2: Where do you limit separate? Okay, spock line. 354 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:11,560 Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. 355 00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:14,919 Speaker 1: It's been amazing, wonderful, beautiful, etc. Going into dating him, 356 00:18:14,960 --> 00:18:17,399 Speaker 1: I promised myself much before I met him that I 357 00:18:17,400 --> 00:18:20,360 Speaker 1: would take dating more seriously. Before that, I was kind 358 00:18:20,400 --> 00:18:23,879 Speaker 1: of in a hose slash independent phase. When I realized 359 00:18:23,920 --> 00:18:26,440 Speaker 1: we clicked, it was wonderful and I thought to myself, 360 00:18:26,520 --> 00:18:28,959 Speaker 1: I see a future with this man. Recently, we were 361 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:31,040 Speaker 1: talking about the future and things, and he said he 362 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:33,920 Speaker 1: sees a future with me. But understandably, he also said 363 00:18:33,960 --> 00:18:36,760 Speaker 1: the future to him means the more immediate future, like 364 00:18:36,800 --> 00:18:39,160 Speaker 1: the next five years. He said he can't even picture 365 00:18:39,200 --> 00:18:41,520 Speaker 1: himself in ten years, let alone us in ten years, 366 00:18:41,680 --> 00:18:43,600 Speaker 1: which is valid coming from a twenty four year old. 367 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:45,959 Speaker 1: I think the same thing to an extent. But I 368 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:48,600 Speaker 1: also can see us ending up together as life partners. 369 00:18:48,840 --> 00:18:51,240 Speaker 1: For me, it's kind of like, you never know. My 370 00:18:51,320 --> 00:18:54,320 Speaker 1: dilemma is am I being too logical? We've grown up 371 00:18:54,440 --> 00:18:57,240 Speaker 1: thinking about the one and when you know, you know, 372 00:18:57,840 --> 00:18:59,800 Speaker 1: And in the initial dating phase, I knew we were 373 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:01,879 Speaker 1: going to end up together in a serious way. But 374 00:19:02,000 --> 00:19:04,320 Speaker 1: I don't know how the future will unfold. But you 375 00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:07,160 Speaker 1: hear and see all things, like they know they were 376 00:19:07,160 --> 00:19:09,080 Speaker 1: going to get married the moment they met. I guess 377 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:11,399 Speaker 1: what I'm trying to say is should I expect a 378 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:15,000 Speaker 1: statement like that from my boyfriend? Of course, it's beautiful 379 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:17,879 Speaker 1: to hear something like that, but it's kind of illogical 380 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:19,840 Speaker 1: for both of us if you don't know what's going 381 00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:20,760 Speaker 1: to happen down the road. 382 00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:25,280 Speaker 2: I mean yeah, I think yeah. You get to a 383 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 2: point where it's like, are you just thinking about it 384 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:32,480 Speaker 2: too logically? Like even if you don't see yourself so like, 385 00:19:33,320 --> 00:19:35,159 Speaker 2: what do you mean you don't even see yourself in 386 00:19:35,200 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 2: ten years? Like are you going to be dead? 387 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 1: Yeah? I feel. I feel like that's a little bit 388 00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:45,480 Speaker 1: crude in a sense of like crude crude means like what, 389 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:47,200 Speaker 1: I don't know what crude? 390 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:47,680 Speaker 2: Crude? 391 00:19:47,680 --> 00:19:49,440 Speaker 1: You don't know, Yeah, it came to me, you know, 392 00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:51,160 Speaker 1: when one of those words come come to you when 393 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:55,240 Speaker 1: you're looking for another one. Crude crude means like giving 394 00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 1: an answer. Although if you could go in definition and 395 00:19:57,840 --> 00:19:59,960 Speaker 1: give me a second, yeah, look up. 396 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:00,760 Speaker 2: What does crude mean? 397 00:20:00,760 --> 00:20:00,960 Speaker 1: Though? 398 00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:06,600 Speaker 2: M tell me tell oh, no, no, no, you know what. 399 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:09,280 Speaker 2: Tell me, Tell me how you're using it, because I 400 00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:10,200 Speaker 2: don't have an answer yet. 401 00:20:10,359 --> 00:20:12,840 Speaker 1: Okay, so I'm using in a sense of crude. So 402 00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:16,640 Speaker 1: him saying I don't see past five years is shallow 403 00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:20,000 Speaker 1: in a sense of like I get our jail free 404 00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:20,960 Speaker 1: card crude. 405 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:26,240 Speaker 2: Okay. So there's a couple of meanings. Number one means 406 00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:29,919 Speaker 2: like crude oil or crude materials means like an untouched 407 00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:35,480 Speaker 2: state of something. On that one, here we go lacking refinement. 408 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:36,840 Speaker 1: That's kind of what I meant. 409 00:20:36,880 --> 00:20:41,639 Speaker 2: The drawing was crude, not detailed, not polished, or a 410 00:20:41,720 --> 00:20:44,760 Speaker 2: crude estimate, a rough guess, not very accurate. 411 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:46,119 Speaker 1: There we go. That's what I meant. 412 00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:47,560 Speaker 2: That's pretty much my one and then another one is 413 00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:49,960 Speaker 2: rude or inappropriate. Yeah, so I me in the middle one, 414 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:52,920 Speaker 2: so I would like say, well done. Yeah it's a 415 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:53,600 Speaker 2: crude statement. 416 00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:56,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, I really think it is, because like, future to 417 00:20:56,560 --> 00:20:59,440 Speaker 1: me means if you see us together for five years, 418 00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:02,480 Speaker 1: I see it together forever. Here's the thing, is what 419 00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:03,400 Speaker 1: it's like? What me I say? 420 00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:06,159 Speaker 2: He's like, so, yes, I see a future with you, 421 00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:08,200 Speaker 2: but you know which is more of a five year 422 00:21:08,240 --> 00:21:10,119 Speaker 2: thing for me? I don't even know where I'm going 423 00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:15,919 Speaker 2: to be in ten years. That's personally to me insane 424 00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:18,439 Speaker 2: that that. But like what it means to me is 425 00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:21,280 Speaker 2: like do you want to be with someone that doesn't 426 00:21:22,040 --> 00:21:22,240 Speaker 2: you know? 427 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:24,560 Speaker 1: Like I don't even know what I'm trying to say. 428 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:25,880 Speaker 1: What I'm I think what I'm trying to get at 429 00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:29,720 Speaker 1: is that what the fuck does he mean? I think 430 00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:32,040 Speaker 1: what the baddie is tossing up is so she said, 431 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:34,600 Speaker 1: Am I being too logical? And almost? Is it too 432 00:21:34,680 --> 00:21:37,320 Speaker 1: much to ask for? When you know, you know, the 433 00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:38,560 Speaker 1: moment you met, you knew you were going to be 434 00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:40,840 Speaker 1: together forever? All that movie type shit? And I think no, 435 00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:43,240 Speaker 1: I think you deserve that. I think every single person 436 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:45,480 Speaker 1: deserves that. And the fact that he's not giving you 437 00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:47,400 Speaker 1: an answer to me, means he's a little boy. 438 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:51,720 Speaker 2: I mean, look, when you first meet someone, I think 439 00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:53,639 Speaker 2: it's you know, you can't go on one date with 440 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:55,720 Speaker 2: someone and say some people might think they're going to 441 00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:57,680 Speaker 2: be with that person forever. Some people might say, well, 442 00:21:57,680 --> 00:21:59,119 Speaker 2: how am I fucking I supposed to I don't know 443 00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:01,640 Speaker 2: them yet. I think those are both valid answers. Right, 444 00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:03,680 Speaker 2: But how long have they been together? 445 00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:05,160 Speaker 1: A year? 446 00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:08,920 Speaker 2: You guys have been together for a year, right, I 447 00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:13,800 Speaker 2: just am not too sure, So there's got to be 448 00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:16,560 Speaker 2: a timeframe. But I, in my opinion, if you've been 449 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:21,000 Speaker 2: with someone for a full year, I think that's long 450 00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 2: enough to know whether or not you want to be 451 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:25,520 Speaker 2: with them for your whole life. Now you can be 452 00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:27,320 Speaker 2: with them for a year and believe you want to 453 00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:28,440 Speaker 2: be with them for your whole life, and then in 454 00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:31,760 Speaker 2: another year you might break up. Yes, but I don't 455 00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:35,199 Speaker 2: really think you should be with someone if after a 456 00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:38,800 Speaker 2: year you're like, I don't actually know where I'm going 457 00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:40,680 Speaker 2: to be in ten years, so I don't know if 458 00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:41,560 Speaker 2: you're going to be there. 459 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:43,639 Speaker 1: Well, I think that's where the problem lies, in a 460 00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:46,879 Speaker 1: sense of people are dating with the wrong intentions. So 461 00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:49,840 Speaker 1: a lot of people date just to date. Yeah, where 462 00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:51,679 Speaker 1: I think you should never ask someone to be your 463 00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:56,679 Speaker 1: girlfriend or boyfriend if you don't see the what's it 464 00:22:56,720 --> 00:23:00,639 Speaker 1: called when there's no ending, if you don't see the 465 00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:03,840 Speaker 1: full future with them. Yeah, Like I've always I've never 466 00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:05,639 Speaker 1: dated someone. I didn't think I was going to marry. 467 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:07,240 Speaker 1: In quotes, you know, you. 468 00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:09,480 Speaker 2: Date people, Yeah, you see yourself being with them forever 469 00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:12,040 Speaker 2: and then yes, things can happen where it ends. 470 00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:14,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, but this guy, this guy's just dating and men 471 00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:16,000 Speaker 1: like yeah, look five years, I could probably see it's 472 00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 1: together still, Like, I don't really think that far ahead. No, 473 00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:20,400 Speaker 1: you should have in your mind. I think in my mind, 474 00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:23,679 Speaker 1: I'm like marriage, two kids, white picket fence. Yeah, I 475 00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:25,600 Speaker 1: want to picture. You're not going to make someone you 476 00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:26,159 Speaker 1: will not make. 477 00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:29,240 Speaker 2: You're not gonna ask someone to be your girlfriend otherwise exactly. 478 00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:30,840 Speaker 1: But I think a lot of people, especially in this day, 479 00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:32,360 Speaker 1: and it's just date to have sex constantly. 480 00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:34,560 Speaker 2: Yeah. 481 00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:40,040 Speaker 1: So my answer would be you need a better answer 482 00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:42,479 Speaker 1: out of him, or I wouldn't waste my time. Yeah, agreed. 483 00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:47,120 Speaker 2: Okay, that is that is the end of dilemmas for Spotify. 484 00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:50,119 Speaker 2: But we have three more dilemmas to get to on Patreon, 485 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:54,400 Speaker 2: where it is five dollars a month. Okay, so if 486 00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:55,760 Speaker 2: you sign up before the end of the year, it 487 00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:57,040 Speaker 2: will be at five dollars a month, and you will 488 00:23:57,080 --> 00:23:58,399 Speaker 2: be at five dollars a month for the rest of 489 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:01,120 Speaker 2: the time of your subscribing to relatable After the New Years, 490 00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:02,399 Speaker 2: we are going to be putting it up a bit. 491 00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:04,399 Speaker 1: The rest of your life because that's how far you 492 00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:06,640 Speaker 1: think into the future. Yes, exactly, because you guys think 493 00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:07,320 Speaker 1: into the future.