1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:16,241 Speaker 1: Apologie, production, sex, feeling desired, all the juicy, spicy moments 2 00:00:16,281 --> 00:00:18,800 Speaker 1: and what we're kind of craving more of, which is 3 00:00:18,841 --> 00:00:21,041 Speaker 1: really cool. So it's gonna be really open today. 4 00:00:21,241 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 2: This is a very vulnerable episode. Yeah. 5 00:00:23,161 --> 00:00:25,401 Speaker 1: I think it's so important to get clear on what 6 00:00:25,401 --> 00:00:28,401 Speaker 1: you're actually desiring, and it will change over the years 7 00:00:28,441 --> 00:00:31,881 Speaker 1: and over the seasons. Yeah, but once you're clear, communicate 8 00:00:31,881 --> 00:00:34,201 Speaker 1: that with your partner and then talk about how you 9 00:00:34,241 --> 00:00:35,840 Speaker 1: can make that happen. So it's for me, it was 10 00:00:35,841 --> 00:00:38,560 Speaker 1: little things like every morning or when we get home 11 00:00:38,561 --> 00:00:40,200 Speaker 1: from work, it's like a kiss and a cuddle and 12 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: it's cute. But I'm starting to like have a bigger hug. 13 00:00:43,281 --> 00:00:45,240 Speaker 1: I jump on Steve, wrap my legs around him for 14 00:00:45,281 --> 00:00:47,041 Speaker 1: a nice big bear hug instead of just a little 15 00:00:47,081 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 1: quick hug, instead of a little peck, Like holding that 16 00:00:49,521 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 1: kiss for a little bit longer, grabbing his face like 17 00:00:52,120 --> 00:00:53,641 Speaker 1: when he spects me on the ass in the kitchen. 18 00:00:53,681 --> 00:00:56,361 Speaker 1: We're having fun, Like, get more playful with that. Don't 19 00:00:56,401 --> 00:00:58,520 Speaker 1: let that just be it, Like, extend it, even if 20 00:00:58,561 --> 00:01:00,761 Speaker 1: it's just a thirty second longer hug, Yeah, a thirty 21 00:01:00,801 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 1: second longer kiss, Like just those moments of presence and 22 00:01:04,481 --> 00:01:08,361 Speaker 1: juiciness and spiciness I think will really for me fill 23 00:01:08,441 --> 00:01:12,161 Speaker 1: up that cup and then overflow to more intimacy, more connection, 24 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:15,321 Speaker 1: more playfulness, because when you're younger and you don't have kids, 25 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 1: you're so horny if fucking all the time, like you 26 00:01:18,481 --> 00:01:19,241 Speaker 1: are each other's. 27 00:01:19,081 --> 00:01:21,041 Speaker 2: Number one prior. You have so much more energy. 28 00:01:21,081 --> 00:01:23,161 Speaker 1: But it does get harder when you're running business and 29 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 1: having kids. But I also don't want to think, oh, 30 00:01:25,521 --> 00:01:27,921 Speaker 1: like it's not possible. That was just us when we 31 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:29,801 Speaker 1: were younger, like oh we used to do that. It's like, okay, 32 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 1: that used to be us. But what I want now 33 00:01:32,321 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 1: and how can I bring more of that? 34 00:01:33,601 --> 00:01:36,401 Speaker 3: In making out that is something we're all like, great, 35 00:01:36,441 --> 00:01:38,041 Speaker 3: we have little things that are like quick and easy, 36 00:01:38,081 --> 00:01:39,640 Speaker 3: like we walk past other and Kirkfog's tongue out and 37 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:41,481 Speaker 3: all of his tongue. Yeah, and we do like things 38 00:01:41,521 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 3: like that, like cheeky, playful things. But yeah, even when 39 00:01:44,161 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 3: he said, I'm like, well, you need to do it 40 00:01:45,401 --> 00:01:47,401 Speaker 3: more because it is so fun and it takes like 41 00:01:47,441 --> 00:01:49,161 Speaker 3: away from like the stress of the day. Like if 42 00:01:49,201 --> 00:01:50,681 Speaker 3: the kids like screaming, this is happening, that's happen in 43 00:01:50,681 --> 00:01:51,961 Speaker 3: a partner like looks at you and like does like 44 00:01:52,001 --> 00:01:54,161 Speaker 3: a bit cheeky, and he's kind of like, oh, that's 45 00:01:54,201 --> 00:01:55,161 Speaker 3: like nice. 46 00:01:55,041 --> 00:01:58,681 Speaker 1: And how nice is kissing? And really, you know, like meditation, 47 00:01:58,761 --> 00:02:01,361 Speaker 1: it stops you. You get so present and it's such 48 00:02:01,401 --> 00:02:05,561 Speaker 1: a beautiful moment, like making love, kissing, being intimate, hugging. 49 00:02:05,641 --> 00:02:07,041 Speaker 1: Like there are things that you just do with your 50 00:02:07,081 --> 00:02:10,441 Speaker 1: partner that separates you from being roommates or just like 51 00:02:10,481 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 1: co parenting in the same household. 52 00:02:12,761 --> 00:02:13,961 Speaker 2: And I'm super aware of it. 53 00:02:14,001 --> 00:02:17,721 Speaker 1: And I feel like so many couples normalize that, and 54 00:02:17,761 --> 00:02:20,081 Speaker 1: I get it because I know it's harder. 55 00:02:20,361 --> 00:02:22,001 Speaker 2: But I don't want that to be my reality. 56 00:02:22,041 --> 00:02:23,681 Speaker 1: Like I want my kids to look at us and 57 00:02:23,841 --> 00:02:26,001 Speaker 1: go ookay and love they are like ill, gross, they're 58 00:02:26,041 --> 00:02:27,761 Speaker 1: kissing again, Like I want that to be the normal 59 00:02:27,761 --> 00:02:30,081 Speaker 1: because they get a role model what they see. I 60 00:02:30,081 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 1: love kissing, I love making love. I love being flirty 61 00:02:32,721 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: and playful and keeping my relationship and spark alive. So 62 00:02:36,321 --> 00:02:38,481 Speaker 1: I need to put more effort into doing that. But 63 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:40,481 Speaker 1: it was cool to have that conversation with Steve for 64 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:43,041 Speaker 1: him to be like, Okay, she's needy as fuck, but all. 65 00:02:43,041 --> 00:02:46,281 Speaker 2: Right, So I'm saying that I was like, you are 66 00:02:46,321 --> 00:02:46,601 Speaker 2: the Kurt. 67 00:02:46,641 --> 00:02:49,241 Speaker 3: I feel like Kurt's the one who's like wanting me, 68 00:02:49,441 --> 00:02:52,241 Speaker 3: and yeah, it's so funny. Funny is I think that 69 00:02:52,321 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 3: playful funness is really nice aspect of it. And it's 70 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:58,321 Speaker 3: not too serious and it's not that like needy like 71 00:02:58,361 --> 00:02:58,801 Speaker 3: I want you. 72 00:02:58,841 --> 00:03:03,361 Speaker 1: Then it's like fun, not like a codependent need. 73 00:03:03,401 --> 00:03:07,801 Speaker 2: It's just like I just like you. Yes, I miss you. 74 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:09,121 Speaker 2: The kids had been at me all fucking. 75 00:03:09,001 --> 00:03:11,801 Speaker 1: Days, definitely, And sexual energy is so fun. It's that 76 00:03:11,841 --> 00:03:13,800 Speaker 1: thing that you just do with your partner. It's so 77 00:03:13,881 --> 00:03:16,641 Speaker 1: special and I don't even mean it has to be 78 00:03:16,761 --> 00:03:18,641 Speaker 1: like having sex every single day for me. 79 00:03:18,841 --> 00:03:21,001 Speaker 2: Quality over quantity for sure when it comes to sex. 80 00:03:21,121 --> 00:03:26,401 Speaker 1: But I think each day you can find sexual sensual, playful, juicy, 81 00:03:26,481 --> 00:03:29,881 Speaker 1: spicy moments that are almost the full play and the 82 00:03:30,081 --> 00:03:32,321 Speaker 1: lead up to what's coming. 83 00:03:32,361 --> 00:03:34,520 Speaker 2: You know, for the actual deed of sex. 84 00:03:34,961 --> 00:03:37,041 Speaker 1: I think it really excites me more when there's a 85 00:03:37,081 --> 00:03:39,041 Speaker 1: little bit we're talking about this. This is a little 86 00:03:39,161 --> 00:03:42,841 Speaker 1: more chase and like game playing, but it does feel fun. 87 00:03:42,961 --> 00:03:44,521 Speaker 2: Have attached your partner, be like, what are you desire? 88 00:03:44,561 --> 00:03:45,881 Speaker 3: What are you wanting more of? How can we make 89 00:03:45,881 --> 00:03:48,801 Speaker 3: our relationship more fun, Like you know, what could I 90 00:03:48,881 --> 00:03:51,681 Speaker 3: do differently? Tell them, express to them what you would like. Like, 91 00:03:52,121 --> 00:03:53,441 Speaker 3: it doesn't mean to be anything rude, Like I just 92 00:03:53,441 --> 00:03:54,921 Speaker 3: had a chat and I was like, hey, babe, I 93 00:03:54,921 --> 00:03:56,801 Speaker 3: would love if like I could come on to you more. 94 00:03:57,081 --> 00:03:58,361 Speaker 3: You know, it doesn't need to be like you're doing 95 00:03:58,361 --> 00:03:59,921 Speaker 3: this and you're doing that and I don't do that. 96 00:03:59,961 --> 00:04:01,481 Speaker 3: You can just be like, hey, i'd love to do that. 97 00:04:01,561 --> 00:04:04,001 Speaker 1: I love that, I said to you last night. The 98 00:04:04,041 --> 00:04:06,321 Speaker 1: question I haven't asked it even you probably haven't asked Kurt, 99 00:04:06,361 --> 00:04:08,761 Speaker 1: but like, I would love to know what Steve's like 100 00:04:09,041 --> 00:04:11,321 Speaker 1: dream ideal partner is like if I asked him, I'm 101 00:04:11,321 --> 00:04:13,041 Speaker 1: sure he'd be like you babe, That's what Kurt says. 102 00:04:13,121 --> 00:04:15,441 Speaker 2: Yeah, but break it down, like is. 103 00:04:15,441 --> 00:04:17,201 Speaker 1: There things that I do that really annoy you or 104 00:04:17,241 --> 00:04:19,161 Speaker 1: turn you off? You're just like, is it an ick? 105 00:04:19,241 --> 00:04:21,400 Speaker 2: Kurt told me I did ask these questions. 106 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 3: It was all with the conversation cards again, so he 107 00:04:24,721 --> 00:04:28,681 Speaker 3: said to me, his it was when I decide I 108 00:04:28,721 --> 00:04:31,721 Speaker 3: want to do something, I get like obsessed about that thing, 109 00:04:31,961 --> 00:04:34,801 Speaker 3: or like say like if I go with you, okay, 110 00:04:34,841 --> 00:04:36,721 Speaker 3: we're gonna go do this right now? For grong glow. 111 00:04:36,761 --> 00:04:38,681 Speaker 3: I'll like, just like hone in on something. He's like 112 00:04:38,961 --> 00:04:42,320 Speaker 3: sometimes just like go at a slower pace. I'll just like, 113 00:04:42,561 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 3: doesn't really get everything else that relationship, don't Nobodcause like 114 00:04:45,521 --> 00:04:46,801 Speaker 3: say I urt and I like gonna go up to 115 00:04:46,841 --> 00:04:48,241 Speaker 3: bed and I've got something i really want to do. 116 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:49,520 Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm gonna get this done. 117 00:04:49,561 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 2: So he gets parked to the side. 118 00:04:50,961 --> 00:04:52,641 Speaker 3: Sometimes and I was like, yeah, I said to him. 119 00:04:52,641 --> 00:04:53,761 Speaker 2: I was like, I can totally see that. 120 00:04:53,961 --> 00:04:55,121 Speaker 1: Yeah, but it would just be like. 121 00:04:55,121 --> 00:04:57,121 Speaker 3: One day, maybe a month. But if it's something that 122 00:04:57,161 --> 00:05:00,361 Speaker 3: I'm like really passionate excited about, He's like in those moments, 123 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:02,481 Speaker 3: I can see you're so excited, but he's like, just 124 00:05:02,481 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 3: still give me a bit, yes, And I was like, 125 00:05:04,801 --> 00:05:05,761 Speaker 3: that's that's yeah. 126 00:05:06,281 --> 00:05:09,281 Speaker 1: I can say I heard. I can't remember the podcast. 127 00:05:09,281 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 1: I'm so bad at like remembering where I start. I 128 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:14,001 Speaker 1: remember it was some sort of couple and they were 129 00:05:14,001 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 1: talking about how they have monthly check ins. Yeah, and 130 00:05:16,601 --> 00:05:18,201 Speaker 1: I think that's such a cool idea. And I said 131 00:05:18,201 --> 00:05:19,400 Speaker 1: to say, what would you be open to doing this 132 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:21,281 Speaker 1: because we'd love to go on date nights. It's like definitely, 133 00:05:21,281 --> 00:05:22,400 Speaker 1: And I said, well, do you want me to come 134 00:05:22,481 --> 00:05:23,481 Speaker 1: up with the questions do you want to come up with? 135 00:05:23,481 --> 00:05:25,320 Speaker 1: And he's like, if you want to, I was like, cool, 136 00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:27,481 Speaker 1: I love coming up with journal prompts, So I'm going 137 00:05:27,521 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 1: to come up with. 138 00:05:27,921 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 2: The journal prompts. 139 00:05:28,561 --> 00:05:30,161 Speaker 1: Once a month we go on date night questions to 140 00:05:30,201 --> 00:05:31,601 Speaker 1: ask each other And that's going to be one of 141 00:05:31,601 --> 00:05:33,721 Speaker 1: my questions for him and form for both of us 142 00:05:33,721 --> 00:05:36,001 Speaker 1: to ask each other. What's your ideal partner? What do 143 00:05:36,081 --> 00:05:37,041 Speaker 1: I do that annoys you? 144 00:05:37,121 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 3: Like? 145 00:05:37,681 --> 00:05:39,721 Speaker 1: What can I do better at? Is there something that 146 00:05:39,761 --> 00:05:41,921 Speaker 1: turns you on turns you off? Like I don't really 147 00:05:42,161 --> 00:05:44,681 Speaker 1: ask him that often. And because you have to remember, 148 00:05:44,721 --> 00:05:46,961 Speaker 1: like I've been with Steve for nearly sixteen years this year, 149 00:05:47,001 --> 00:05:49,361 Speaker 1: you guys are the same, and sixteen is it? It's 150 00:05:49,401 --> 00:05:52,041 Speaker 1: a long time to be with Some time things change, 151 00:05:52,081 --> 00:05:54,601 Speaker 1: people change, like your opinions, your desires, your wants, the 152 00:05:54,681 --> 00:05:56,361 Speaker 1: things it turns you on and off, like it changes 153 00:05:56,401 --> 00:05:59,080 Speaker 1: all the time. Constantly be checking in with each other. 154 00:05:59,161 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 1: It's just so important. 155 00:06:00,961 --> 00:06:04,721 Speaker 3: Those conversation cards, they're so great. Honestly, we brought another 156 00:06:04,721 --> 00:06:06,481 Speaker 3: big you know, the blue ones that we did together 157 00:06:06,481 --> 00:06:08,041 Speaker 3: in one of those episodes, so you can get a 158 00:06:08,081 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 3: whole big pack of them. I got a big pack 159 00:06:10,001 --> 00:06:12,641 Speaker 3: and they're really great, like really great questions obviously, that's 160 00:06:12,641 --> 00:06:14,281 Speaker 3: why they made them in a big pack, four. 161 00:06:14,201 --> 00:06:14,840 Speaker 2: Hundred of them. 162 00:06:14,961 --> 00:06:17,081 Speaker 3: So Kurt and I just pull them out and we've 163 00:06:17,121 --> 00:06:18,721 Speaker 3: been doing them a lot, like at least once a week, 164 00:06:18,761 --> 00:06:21,961 Speaker 3: and it brings up things you don't even think about. 165 00:06:22,121 --> 00:06:23,001 Speaker 2: Yes, how good. 166 00:06:23,041 --> 00:06:24,681 Speaker 3: It just prompts in general, like. 167 00:06:24,681 --> 00:06:26,401 Speaker 1: And not only for your plant of with yourself like 168 00:06:26,721 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 1: Ye and I did the other day we have their 169 00:06:28,481 --> 00:06:31,401 Speaker 1: red table talk ones and it was like, yeah, things 170 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:33,561 Speaker 1: about when he asked me like whoa, I didn't. 171 00:06:33,281 --> 00:06:35,241 Speaker 2: Really realize that was sitting on the surface. And then 172 00:06:35,281 --> 00:06:36,241 Speaker 2: things about him were. 173 00:06:36,121 --> 00:06:37,921 Speaker 1: Like wow, I didn't know he felt that about himself, 174 00:06:38,001 --> 00:06:41,361 Speaker 1: And that can help me have more compassion understanding to 175 00:06:41,401 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 1: why he does that. Cool, I'm going to like leaning 176 00:06:43,721 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: and like love on him a bit more there and 177 00:06:45,361 --> 00:06:46,321 Speaker 1: support him more. There. 178 00:06:46,801 --> 00:06:47,961 Speaker 2: Such a good idea, aren't they? 179 00:06:48,281 --> 00:06:50,161 Speaker 1: And there's endless Like I know, one of the girls 180 00:06:50,161 --> 00:06:52,041 Speaker 1: in our Facebook community asks which runs we had, but 181 00:06:52,281 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 1: literally jump onto Google and type in conversation started cards. 182 00:06:55,081 --> 00:06:57,001 Speaker 1: There's hundreds of brands that are doing it now. There's 183 00:06:57,081 --> 00:06:59,401 Speaker 1: so many options. I feel like when you've done a pack, 184 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:01,640 Speaker 1: you probably would need new ones. It's something you'll probably 185 00:07:01,641 --> 00:07:02,401 Speaker 1: buy different much. 186 00:07:03,121 --> 00:07:05,881 Speaker 2: Yeah, try new ones. But yeah, that's a. 187 00:07:05,761 --> 00:07:07,961 Speaker 1: Conversation we had. And I really was talking to Kiara 188 00:07:08,001 --> 00:07:10,401 Speaker 1: about and my girlfriend the Dean and just that want 189 00:07:10,401 --> 00:07:12,961 Speaker 1: to feeling more desired and like I love the word 190 00:07:13,001 --> 00:07:17,961 Speaker 1: spicy turns me out. I'm like, oh, spicy, saucy, like juicy, Like. 191 00:07:17,841 --> 00:07:20,281 Speaker 2: It's so yummy and exciting and I want more of that. 192 00:07:20,481 --> 00:07:22,481 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think when you are pregnant and you've 193 00:07:22,481 --> 00:07:24,241 Speaker 1: been breastfeeding and you're kind of just finding your feet, 194 00:07:24,241 --> 00:07:26,281 Speaker 1: I'm feel like I'm kind of out of that baby 195 00:07:26,281 --> 00:07:29,201 Speaker 1: baby stage now and really like feeling like myself again, 196 00:07:29,241 --> 00:07:32,161 Speaker 1: feeling confident again, and can put more time and focus 197 00:07:32,281 --> 00:07:34,681 Speaker 1: into Steve and I because it's so on the baby 198 00:07:34,681 --> 00:07:37,801 Speaker 1: when they're young, which is hobnot you know, necessary, But 199 00:07:37,801 --> 00:07:39,961 Speaker 1: I'm ready to like pour back into my relationship. 200 00:07:40,081 --> 00:07:41,641 Speaker 3: Yes, and I feel like to as of this to Kurt, 201 00:07:41,681 --> 00:07:43,441 Speaker 3: I feel like this year for us, with having two 202 00:07:43,521 --> 00:07:46,041 Speaker 3: kids at school, yeah, we're gonna notice we'll have more 203 00:07:46,041 --> 00:07:46,401 Speaker 3: time and. 204 00:07:46,361 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 2: Space well work together all day every day. 205 00:07:48,881 --> 00:07:52,201 Speaker 3: But it's so hard to change the like work versus 206 00:07:52,441 --> 00:07:53,961 Speaker 3: I guess we work together, but a lot of our 207 00:07:54,001 --> 00:07:55,841 Speaker 3: work is separate. Now he does a lot of level 208 00:07:55,841 --> 00:07:57,761 Speaker 3: of stories I help out with, like obviously photo shoots 209 00:07:57,761 --> 00:08:00,641 Speaker 3: we do together, yes, and stop barking, but usually he 210 00:08:00,721 --> 00:08:02,481 Speaker 3: does like the supply stuff and I just choose it. 211 00:08:02,921 --> 00:08:04,881 Speaker 3: But it's that thing though, of being like hey, switch 212 00:08:04,881 --> 00:08:07,081 Speaker 3: off like now, yes, you know, like let's go do 213 00:08:07,121 --> 00:08:08,841 Speaker 3: an hour and we just need to do a date 214 00:08:09,081 --> 00:08:11,081 Speaker 3: time in the day. Yeah, And I said to car 215 00:08:11,121 --> 00:08:12,401 Speaker 3: I love to go do like a different fun actively 216 00:08:12,481 --> 00:08:15,041 Speaker 3: like a hike one week, golf one week, just an 217 00:08:15,081 --> 00:08:16,361 Speaker 3: hour or half an hour. 218 00:08:16,401 --> 00:08:18,681 Speaker 1: So beautiful, Just something fun that can be like in 219 00:08:18,681 --> 00:08:20,561 Speaker 1: our goal sitting session, you guys every eight weeks, do 220 00:08:20,641 --> 00:08:22,761 Speaker 1: something yeah, different like set of date. 221 00:08:23,001 --> 00:08:24,081 Speaker 2: Yeah, something fun? 222 00:08:25,001 --> 00:08:27,761 Speaker 1: Love it so good? Well, I hope you guys enjoyed 223 00:08:27,801 --> 00:08:29,241 Speaker 1: that episode. We're very open. 224 00:08:29,281 --> 00:08:30,041 Speaker 2: We're an open book. 225 00:08:30,081 --> 00:08:32,161 Speaker 1: I don't think anything's off the table, Like I think 226 00:08:32,201 --> 00:08:35,081 Speaker 1: these are conversations that should be had more often. And 227 00:08:35,161 --> 00:08:37,881 Speaker 1: maybe like you don't have girlfriends close girlfriends to talk 228 00:08:37,881 --> 00:08:39,481 Speaker 1: about this with, or maybe it's something you're carrying a 229 00:08:39,481 --> 00:08:40,361 Speaker 1: bit of shame around. 230 00:08:40,441 --> 00:08:41,881 Speaker 3: Yeah, even then, make out every day, like when you 231 00:08:41,881 --> 00:08:44,241 Speaker 3: ask me. I was like, oh no, you don't, and 232 00:08:44,281 --> 00:08:46,041 Speaker 3: like maybe this will make you also not feel so 233 00:08:46,201 --> 00:08:48,681 Speaker 3: like bad about like okay, they don't do it either. 234 00:08:48,841 --> 00:08:50,161 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, it's not like. 235 00:08:50,321 --> 00:08:51,881 Speaker 1: It was nice to talk to you and my girlfriends 236 00:08:51,881 --> 00:08:52,281 Speaker 1: about it. 237 00:08:52,401 --> 00:08:52,641 Speaker 2: Yeah. 238 00:08:52,761 --> 00:08:55,801 Speaker 1: But I think sex conversations a lot of people carry 239 00:08:55,801 --> 00:08:58,361 Speaker 1: shame around, or they think what they're desiring might be 240 00:08:58,561 --> 00:09:00,881 Speaker 1: bad or dirty or slutty you or shaming, and there's 241 00:09:00,881 --> 00:09:03,521 Speaker 1: all these labels, and it's like, who said that who 242 00:09:04,201 --> 00:09:08,321 Speaker 1: you're desiring is true and valid and cool and okay 243 00:09:08,361 --> 00:09:09,401 Speaker 1: and beautiful