1 00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:04,080 Speaker 1: With Kate Rick podcast. 2 00:00:05,559 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 2: Welcome to the podcast Guys special episode We Got Her. 3 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 2: She's the mum of all moms, Maggie Dent. I love 4 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:12,920 Speaker 2: to give her a hug, and I say, Maggie, am 5 00:00:12,920 --> 00:00:14,720 Speaker 2: I doing okay as a parent? And how would I 6 00:00:14,760 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 2: handle this? And what would I do if this was 7 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:21,680 Speaker 2: to happen. Maggie has your answers, child psychologist author. She's 8 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:24,960 Speaker 2: the ultimate parent and expert. And if you've got a question, 9 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:27,480 Speaker 2: tom you I mean, you've had all sorts of issues 10 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:33,200 Speaker 2: nothing to do with your kids in general. Maggie can't 11 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 2: help with any of them. To let everybody know that 12 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 2: you've still got issues is We'll focus on those in 13 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 2: the next podcast. But thank you Maggie Dent. Here for 14 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:44,320 Speaker 2: all those good parents. 15 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:44,800 Speaker 3: Soon. 16 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 2: This is the Whipper with Cape Ritchie podcast. Hey Fitz, 17 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 2: I want to talk about this one cravings. Can I 18 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 2: just ask a quick question the Aldie snack stand that's 19 00:00:56,000 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 2: arrived in the studio? Mage, who puts a snack stand 20 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:04,959 Speaker 2: next to the snack man? It's just an obvious mistake, Tommy. 21 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:06,959 Speaker 4: Yeah, but a wonderful mistake. 22 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:14,360 Speaker 2: I've just been smashing grapes covered in good all morning. 23 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:18,040 Speaker 5: We have usually bars. We do have fruit there as well, 24 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 5: so you have some great options. And thank you very 25 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:25,120 Speaker 5: much for Audi for put and to watch him go 26 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 5: back and forth. 27 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 2: Well, this is why I want to talk about what's 28 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 2: called urge surfing fits and they talk about urges. Whatever 29 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 2: your urge might be, whether you're an overspender or maybe 30 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:39,840 Speaker 2: you're a gambler, you eat bad food, or whatever it 31 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:43,680 Speaker 2: might be. Let's take chocolate for example. Okay, because everybody 32 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:45,959 Speaker 2: did it over Easter and they reckon, there's another Easter 33 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 2: egg in it, I'll have a go. Urge surfing is 34 00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:51,880 Speaker 2: the way they describe the urge, and there's some techniques 35 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:54,560 Speaker 2: so you can control your urges. So they call it 36 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 2: urge surfing because you need to actually pitch the urge 37 00:01:57,400 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 2: like a wave. It builds, it builds, it builds, the 38 00:02:01,200 --> 00:02:04,160 Speaker 2: wave crashes, hits the shore, and then it's gone. So 39 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:06,720 Speaker 2: you need to be able to surf through the urge. 40 00:02:07,040 --> 00:02:10,120 Speaker 2: So the first thing there says, recognize the urge. Okay, 41 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:12,799 Speaker 2: so I'm sitting there, I'm looking at an Easter egg. 42 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:15,840 Speaker 2: I can feel the urge. They then say, name the 43 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:21,160 Speaker 2: urge chocky edge, choky egg urge. Right, So I'm still 44 00:02:21,200 --> 00:02:22,799 Speaker 2: looking at the egg, So the urge is still there, 45 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:26,400 Speaker 2: but I've named it, so I've recognized it. Your next thing, 46 00:02:26,639 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 2: next thing to do is prepare for the wave. So 47 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 2: I'm still looking at it. I've given it a name, 48 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:34,840 Speaker 2: the egg urge, and I'm going to prepare for it. 49 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:36,840 Speaker 2: So I brace myself. Maybe I put my hands out 50 00:02:36,880 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 2: in the chair as I'm staring at a table or 51 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:41,920 Speaker 2: a bowl full of eggs. And then you need to 52 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 2: let the urge run its course, let that wave crash. 53 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 2: Shut your eyes and picture the urge crashing like a 54 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 2: wave and then dissolving into the sand. Get up and 55 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 2: move yourself away from the egg. 56 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 5: Well, if you're I mean, if we're talking chocolate chocolate, 57 00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 5: you'd have to be the killing slater, wouldn't you? 58 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:05,680 Speaker 2: In your You're right up seven times world champ. So, Tommy, 59 00:03:05,720 --> 00:03:07,880 Speaker 2: if I go blank in any of the meetings, I'm 60 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:10,240 Speaker 2: just going I'm urged surf. Here we go, right, I'm 61 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 2: talking myself through an urge. 62 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:16,480 Speaker 5: Your nique name around here is turds actually, so it's 63 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:17,320 Speaker 5: very similar. 64 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:18,920 Speaker 2: I don't want a turd surf. I'm not done a 65 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:20,320 Speaker 2: bondig with a BONDI cigar. 66 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:22,880 Speaker 6: This is the fits and with her with Kate Richie 67 00:03:22,919 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 6: podcast tell You what it Feels A bit warmer and 68 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:26,240 Speaker 6: cozy're in the studio. 69 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 2: I know I'm comforted because brand new episode season two 70 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 2: of Maggie Dan's podcast, The Good Enough Dad is out now, 71 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 2: Episode one with Larry and I love that. Maggie Dent 72 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 2: welcome and j guys in. 73 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 3: Sydney, mug She's just the best. Can I kick this off? 74 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:46,480 Speaker 3: I was listening to a podcast the other day. 75 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 5: There was a guy, Maggie by the name, and it's 76 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 5: the environment that kids have around at home and do 77 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:54,240 Speaker 5: you know what? We're talking about kids all the time 78 00:03:54,280 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 5: with you, But there's different parenting styles that I've never 79 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 5: really thought about before. This guy was called a Lane 80 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 5: de Botan is his name. He has a master's in 81 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:05,880 Speaker 5: philosophy and he was talking about environments at home. 82 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:06,680 Speaker 3: But have a listened to this. 83 00:04:07,400 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 7: Children come into the world and all of us are 84 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 7: honed by nature to figure out what do I need 85 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 7: to do here to survive? In some families you need 86 00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:19,719 Speaker 7: to excel academically. In some families, you need to fail academically. 87 00:04:19,920 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 7: In some families, you need to be very witty, in 88 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 7: some families, you need to be invisible. Why would you 89 00:04:23,839 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 7: fail in some families? Well, the classic one is parental envy. 90 00:04:28,440 --> 00:04:31,480 Speaker 7: Some parents are hugely envious of their own children, and 91 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:34,159 Speaker 7: they cannot bear that their child, who they've put on 92 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 7: the earth should be happier than they've managed to be. 93 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:41,760 Speaker 3: This blew me away. Have you seen cases of this, 94 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:43,040 Speaker 3: this parental envy? 95 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:43,719 Speaker 6: Oh? 96 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:45,880 Speaker 8: Look, I have to say that that that can be 97 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:48,559 Speaker 8: a thing. And when I've worked with teenagers over the years, 98 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 8: sometimes the pressure from their parents for their academic grades 99 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:57,240 Speaker 8: is so like debilitating because they know if they don't 100 00:04:57,279 --> 00:04:59,520 Speaker 8: get that A, the A plus when they go home, 101 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:02,479 Speaker 8: they just you know that you're not loved right there. 102 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: You let everyone down. 103 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:07,239 Speaker 8: Parental disappointment is it's like a knife in their heart. 104 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:09,760 Speaker 8: And yet sometimes parents I'm in where they're doing it. 105 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:12,960 Speaker 8: They're thinking, I'm encouraging you, and I'm you know, giving 106 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:15,400 Speaker 8: you that motivation and I'm telling you to aim high. 107 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:18,120 Speaker 1: But sometimes it doesn't land that way with a with 108 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 1: a kid. 109 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 8: And it another really difficult one is and you know, 110 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 8: because we're doing to talk about dads, the dad that's 111 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 8: into rugby and into sport and into watching. 112 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:29,000 Speaker 1: Wrestling, and then he has a boy he likes music. 113 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:32,600 Speaker 8: He can also struggle in that space because he's just 114 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:34,040 Speaker 8: not in the you know, I feel like I let 115 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:36,320 Speaker 8: my dad down. And I've actually shared so many stories 116 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:39,159 Speaker 8: with boys around that that I'm a failure for my dad. 117 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:42,479 Speaker 5: Right, It's a tough one because you know that this 118 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:44,359 Speaker 5: is the other one. And we've spoken about this so 119 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 5: many times, Maggie about well, it's just, you know, like 120 00:05:48,400 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 5: my son, he loves football, but he also loves these 121 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:53,600 Speaker 5: video games. We talk about video games with you all 122 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:55,840 Speaker 5: the time and how much time he actually gets on there. 123 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 5: But I actually see the joy in his face, Maggie 124 00:05:59,000 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 5: when he plays it. 125 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:03,720 Speaker 3: And now we had a no video game policy at home. 126 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:06,880 Speaker 5: That's completely changed now because I can see the joy 127 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:09,040 Speaker 5: that he gets out when he's on there with his mates. 128 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:12,160 Speaker 5: It's just a matter of pulling it back. But I 129 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:15,360 Speaker 5: just said to my wife, we can't deny this because 130 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:16,719 Speaker 5: he loves it so much. 131 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 8: So one of the things we know about boys particularly 132 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:23,080 Speaker 8: is they're hunting dopamine, Right, They're hunting that really good 133 00:06:23,120 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 8: neurochemical It makes you feel freaking amazing, right, Well, they 134 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 8: don't all of them get it. At school because quite 135 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 8: often I've got to sit longer than they want to 136 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:32,280 Speaker 8: and the stuff's boring and they don't think it's going 137 00:06:32,320 --> 00:06:34,480 Speaker 8: to be Trust me, I taught ear nine boys who 138 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 8: really thought writing an essay was a waste of time 139 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 8: because I'm going to play football for Australia. But what 140 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:44,280 Speaker 8: happens when they're video gaming, it's instance shots of dopamine 141 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 8: when they're doing it their mates. The second thing that 142 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 8: teenagers particularly want and boys want is connection with friends. 143 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:52,479 Speaker 8: And so you're filling the connection cup. You're filling this 144 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:55,280 Speaker 8: competence company am I getting better and better? And you're 145 00:06:55,279 --> 00:06:57,919 Speaker 8: filling the fun cup And so it's not a bad 146 00:06:57,960 --> 00:06:59,480 Speaker 8: thing at all. But what we've got to make sure 147 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:01,480 Speaker 8: is they're not in it all night. And then also 148 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 8: that their language doesn't escalate, because that's one of the 149 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:05,599 Speaker 8: things parents say. 150 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:07,960 Speaker 1: Sometimes they hear this horrible. 151 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:09,800 Speaker 8: Language coming out of their room that happens and going 152 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:12,520 Speaker 8: that's not my son. But when we pull them back 153 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 8: up on that, saying if you want to keep playing, 154 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 8: you know, then that sort of language has got to stop. 155 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 8: So once again it's not all harmful, but we've got 156 00:07:19,880 --> 00:07:21,360 Speaker 8: to make sure we've got boundaries around it? 157 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 2: Can I ask Maggie back to the point you made fits? 158 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 2: And I think this is one thing as a parent 159 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 2: I'm trying to work out quite often with my kids. 160 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:36,320 Speaker 2: Where's the line of me being a constructive dad in 161 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:40,160 Speaker 2: supporting a child and encouraging them to do something, and 162 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:44,840 Speaker 2: then me forcing them past the point where they're not interested? 163 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 2: So how do I know when I go from hey, 164 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 2: you're going to play this sport and you're going to 165 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:52,400 Speaker 2: do that, to do you know what, maybe that kid 166 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 2: doesn't want to do that sport? Where do you stop? 167 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:55,520 Speaker 5: Oh? 168 00:07:55,520 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 8: Look, that's one of the biggest parenting dilemmas, isn't it 169 00:07:58,400 --> 00:08:00,680 Speaker 8: That we and I'll keep on saying to parents when 170 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 8: your kid comes home and wants to sign up for 171 00:08:03,040 --> 00:08:05,040 Speaker 8: you know, soccer or netbook as all their friends are, 172 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 8: and then week three they don't want to go again. 173 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:12,800 Speaker 9: You paid my house with typewan do uniforms books? 174 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:16,880 Speaker 3: So straight off to say. 175 00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:21,200 Speaker 8: That marketplace, same sort of thing, like, we do want 176 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:24,840 Speaker 8: to encourage them to stretch and grow, and sometimes they 177 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 8: want to go because their friends are doing it, But 178 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:29,760 Speaker 8: we really do need to know that sometimes too much. 179 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:32,840 Speaker 8: And I think we're over scheduling today's children, no question, 180 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:35,280 Speaker 8: We've got far too much on and then they're exhausted 181 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:37,280 Speaker 8: and tired, and then we wonder where they get grumpy. 182 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:39,600 Speaker 2: That is really interesting. Thirteen twenty four to ten. Maggie 183 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:42,679 Speaker 2: Dannis in the studio. If you've got any questions, as 184 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 2: you want to ask, you know, she's good, you know 185 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 2: what the topic is, Get involved and give us a call. 186 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 6: This is the Fitsy and with Her with Kate Richie podcast. 187 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:52,360 Speaker 2: Maggie dandas here in the studio with us and the 188 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:55,800 Speaker 2: podcast The Good Enough Dad. I love this, Maggie, because 189 00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 2: you do talk to all sorts of different dads. And 190 00:08:57,920 --> 00:09:00,440 Speaker 2: one of the great parts of this podcast is when 191 00:09:00,520 --> 00:09:04,559 Speaker 2: you ask about fails. Oh man, dad, fils. 192 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:06,520 Speaker 8: So beautiful because we wanted to normalize that there's no 193 00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:10,000 Speaker 8: perfect and parenting or stuff. Dads can often take these 194 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:13,000 Speaker 8: things really rarely personally, like I've mucked up, and then 195 00:09:13,040 --> 00:09:14,640 Speaker 8: they want to, you know, they really want to beat 196 00:09:14,679 --> 00:09:16,960 Speaker 8: themselves up because you've got to look at them. Boys 197 00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 8: and men's worth off and comes from what I do 198 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:21,839 Speaker 8: good and I give myself self worth. So when I've 199 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 8: mucked up, I feel really really bad. 200 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:26,200 Speaker 2: You share the guys about because this is a beauty 201 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:27,000 Speaker 2: and I just. 202 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:28,840 Speaker 8: Kind of had guy up there as you know, this 203 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:32,600 Speaker 8: amazing human and he just opened up so beautifully. When 204 00:09:32,600 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 8: I asked for the dad far he burst out laughing, 205 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:36,240 Speaker 8: said I've got a really good one. Make it probably 206 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:38,959 Speaker 8: is the best of two seasons. So we know he's 207 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:40,640 Speaker 8: got a place down in Girola, which is not far 208 00:09:40,679 --> 00:09:42,440 Speaker 8: from me, and he's got a tinny down there, so 209 00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 8: quite often they go out and get some squid Easter 210 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:48,679 Speaker 8: weekend picture it and Archie, his youngest sons, are at 211 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:50,440 Speaker 8: the front of the boat and he said on you know, 212 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:53,120 Speaker 8: getting going out and the people everywhere, of course, and 213 00:09:53,160 --> 00:09:54,959 Speaker 8: he said, and as I went to jump in, I've 214 00:09:55,000 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 8: actually knocked the tiller on the boat and I've ended 215 00:09:57,920 --> 00:10:01,079 Speaker 8: in the water and the boat's taken off doing loops right. Oh, 216 00:10:01,640 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 8: And of course his son's screaming out, da da Dad, 217 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:06,800 Speaker 8: and he said, don't jump, don't jump, because he's worried 218 00:10:06,800 --> 00:10:07,480 Speaker 8: about the propeller. 219 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:08,760 Speaker 1: And each time the boat came around, he had a 220 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 1: duck so he didn't get his bits cut off. And 221 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 1: then he says, eventually I've worked out which way it's going. 222 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:15,920 Speaker 8: I've got you to jump off, got him to shore, 223 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:18,040 Speaker 8: and then I'm out there trying all these attempts to 224 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:18,240 Speaker 8: get it. 225 00:10:18,240 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 1: Eventually gets in the boat and. 226 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:22,720 Speaker 8: Quietly brings it back, and I just thought he said 227 00:10:22,760 --> 00:10:24,600 Speaker 8: his son keeps saying, no, Dad, don't want to go 228 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 8: get this scud. 229 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:27,080 Speaker 1: I've scarred for life on that. 230 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:29,880 Speaker 8: But don't you think it's just a beautiful horus accident 231 00:10:29,920 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 8: to a moment that you thought was going to be 232 00:10:31,400 --> 00:10:32,240 Speaker 8: a treasured. 233 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 1: Memory that went absolutely that often the fails are the 234 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:38,920 Speaker 1: treasured memories. 235 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:42,960 Speaker 9: Just hearing you speak there, I'm like, oh God, I 236 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:46,280 Speaker 9: remember my dad took it upon himself to treat me 237 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 9: to a haircut, and what ensued just has gone down 238 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:56,680 Speaker 9: in family folklore. I went into the salon as a 239 00:10:56,679 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 9: as an average ten year old, and I came out 240 00:10:59,240 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 9: looking like like the queen on a coin. I had 241 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 9: this like a playdough old lady head. And I'm sure 242 00:11:08,080 --> 00:11:10,840 Speaker 9: that he beat himself up over that. But you know, 243 00:11:10,960 --> 00:11:15,040 Speaker 9: that's become one of our greatest hysterical memories together. 244 00:11:15,200 --> 00:11:15,760 Speaker 5: Yeah, I have a. 245 00:11:15,679 --> 00:11:17,600 Speaker 8: Pretty big one that only farm kids would have. So 246 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:20,200 Speaker 8: when a sheep's fly blow and you use these clippers 247 00:11:20,200 --> 00:11:21,839 Speaker 8: to cut it off, and then you spraying with stuff 248 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:23,960 Speaker 8: that kills all the maggots and everything. And I'm holding 249 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 8: the sheet for dad right with my wellies on, and 250 00:11:26,400 --> 00:11:27,560 Speaker 8: as he's cutting, all these. 251 00:11:27,400 --> 00:11:29,360 Speaker 1: Maggots are going into my boot, and. 252 00:11:29,280 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 8: I'm sitting there thinking, oh, right, in a moment, I 253 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:34,840 Speaker 8: got a walk and it was some one of those moments. 254 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:35,720 Speaker 1: What would my dad want me to do? 255 00:11:35,840 --> 00:11:37,320 Speaker 8: And I've just thought I can do this and just 256 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:39,079 Speaker 8: walked off and just squash all the. 257 00:11:39,160 --> 00:11:41,240 Speaker 1: Magic boots that I thought. 258 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:43,240 Speaker 8: I told my dad later, and he just gave me 259 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:46,880 Speaker 8: a big wink, like, that's my girl. 260 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:49,559 Speaker 3: Why have you not had the nickname Maggot Dent? 261 00:11:52,040 --> 00:11:54,720 Speaker 8: And I also wrote a poem once called Maggots and 262 00:11:54,840 --> 00:11:57,600 Speaker 8: the new teacher nearly fainted because she was a city 263 00:11:57,640 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 8: girl and she really didn't get the quite Maggie's. 264 00:12:00,480 --> 00:12:01,560 Speaker 2: In the Boots by Maggie? 265 00:12:01,600 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 9: Do you remember any of the of the stanzas from Maggiets? 266 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:12,440 Speaker 2: That is Allison from a grassiell. Hello Allison, Hi guys, 267 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 2: how are you? I'm Maggie Live with Maggie. What is 268 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:15,760 Speaker 2: your question? 269 00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:19,000 Speaker 10: My question is is probably a little bit of a 270 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 10: long winded one, but my daughter seems to second guess 271 00:12:22,880 --> 00:12:27,440 Speaker 10: herself in tasks that she's more than capable of doing. So, 272 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:30,679 Speaker 10: for example, we do little athletics. She's a good runner, 273 00:12:31,080 --> 00:12:33,400 Speaker 10: did really well last season. It was her first season, 274 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:36,080 Speaker 10: and so when it comes to the long distance straight away, 275 00:12:36,120 --> 00:12:39,160 Speaker 10: she's like, I can't do it. She starts getting a stitch, 276 00:12:39,320 --> 00:12:40,360 Speaker 10: all that sort of stuff. 277 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:42,000 Speaker 11: You know. 278 00:12:42,080 --> 00:12:44,160 Speaker 10: We do the positive reinforcement, and it's the same thing 279 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:48,280 Speaker 10: like her academics, like particularly mats. She starts sort of 280 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:53,400 Speaker 10: stressing out and sort of getting upset with herself before 281 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:54,320 Speaker 10: she's even attempted. 282 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:55,160 Speaker 2: What do you do, MEGANE. 283 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:58,800 Speaker 8: Now it's really really common, remember, really really common. So 284 00:12:58,800 --> 00:13:00,360 Speaker 8: one of the things I'm going to say sound a 285 00:13:00,360 --> 00:13:00,679 Speaker 8: bit weir. 286 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:01,520 Speaker 1: We're in a bit weird. 287 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:03,959 Speaker 8: But what I want you to do, because I've worked 288 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 8: in this space for years as a counselor, is I 289 00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:07,959 Speaker 8: want her the last thing she does at night and 290 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:09,840 Speaker 8: the first thing is morning. In the morning, she's going 291 00:13:09,880 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 8: to visualize herself nailing it, like getting those test results. 292 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:16,040 Speaker 8: She's going to see herself running like the wind. The 293 00:13:16,120 --> 00:13:18,840 Speaker 8: more times that she does that vividly, the brain thinks 294 00:13:18,840 --> 00:13:20,880 Speaker 8: she's already done it, so it tends to move the 295 00:13:20,960 --> 00:13:21,400 Speaker 8: doubt and. 296 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:22,319 Speaker 1: The self doubt away. 297 00:13:22,920 --> 00:13:26,760 Speaker 8: And there's a visualization on my website called accepting Myself, 298 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:30,680 Speaker 8: which is a neurolinguistic programming technique where they see a 299 00:13:30,720 --> 00:13:34,440 Speaker 8: big white screen and they watch themselves confident because they 300 00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:36,120 Speaker 8: run a video in their head and we need to 301 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:39,040 Speaker 8: turn that video off, and the sooner we turn it off. 302 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:40,920 Speaker 8: So I use it with all my classrooms when I 303 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:42,760 Speaker 8: was still teaching it, and oh my gosh, you should 304 00:13:42,760 --> 00:13:44,000 Speaker 8: have seen the difference in the grade. 305 00:13:44,040 --> 00:13:44,920 Speaker 2: So I love that. 306 00:13:45,000 --> 00:13:45,400 Speaker 3: There you go. 307 00:13:45,480 --> 00:13:47,720 Speaker 8: You can't talk them out of a mindset or a 308 00:13:47,760 --> 00:13:50,000 Speaker 8: belief or a pattern, but we're going to change the video. 309 00:13:49,880 --> 00:13:50,760 Speaker 1: In the mind. 310 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:53,360 Speaker 9: And I think that comes from I've got three kids 311 00:13:53,360 --> 00:13:57,000 Speaker 9: as well, ranging from sixteen to twelve, and I have 312 00:13:57,200 --> 00:14:01,560 Speaker 9: seen that exact thing happening. I can't I can't do it. 313 00:14:01,600 --> 00:14:03,640 Speaker 9: And I think there's so much pressure to be the 314 00:14:03,679 --> 00:14:07,040 Speaker 9: best at everything. And I just say to my kids 315 00:14:07,400 --> 00:14:10,160 Speaker 9: that really, it is about the journey. 316 00:14:10,200 --> 00:14:11,400 Speaker 1: It's about having a crack. 317 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:14,760 Speaker 9: It's exciting about the best. I don't expect you to 318 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:16,960 Speaker 9: be the best. I'm not the best at anything. Nobody 319 00:14:16,960 --> 00:14:19,720 Speaker 9: and I knows the best at anything, but gosh, it's fun. 320 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:23,120 Speaker 8: To have a go, celebrate effort, Always celebrate effort, get 321 00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:24,440 Speaker 8: up and have a go, even if we've got no 322 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:25,160 Speaker 8: chance of winning. 323 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:29,080 Speaker 5: They're the messages that just quickly Maggie, girls and boys difference. 324 00:14:29,680 --> 00:14:30,960 Speaker 4: At what age should they start? 325 00:14:31,680 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 12: No? 326 00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:34,560 Speaker 3: No, but what mental resilience? 327 00:14:34,680 --> 00:14:36,800 Speaker 5: At what age do they start getting a bit of 328 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:39,680 Speaker 5: mental resilience and they and they start pushing back? 329 00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:42,880 Speaker 8: Look, they can they can develop that at any point 330 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:45,680 Speaker 8: in their whole life journey, because what resilience really is 331 00:14:45,680 --> 00:14:48,160 Speaker 8: is that I can come across things that challenge me 332 00:14:48,240 --> 00:14:51,160 Speaker 8: or that are adversity or difficulty, and I have an 333 00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:52,400 Speaker 8: ability to push through. 334 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:53,400 Speaker 1: Because I've experienced it. 335 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:55,280 Speaker 8: This is one of the reasons I keep saying your 336 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:57,280 Speaker 8: kids are supposed to fall out of trees. They're supposed 337 00:14:57,280 --> 00:14:58,960 Speaker 8: to fall over, they're supposed to not to get one 338 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:02,040 Speaker 8: prize in past the parcel, because we're wanting them to 339 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:04,280 Speaker 8: get used to moments that are difficult so that we 340 00:15:04,320 --> 00:15:06,440 Speaker 8: can go through it. So the more times they deal 341 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:08,960 Speaker 8: with those, the soon that that happens, regardless of gender. 342 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 1: Gotcha, And that's a really. 343 00:15:10,520 --> 00:15:13,200 Speaker 8: Important message for us not to keep rescuing our kids. 344 00:15:13,200 --> 00:15:16,720 Speaker 2: So Truemelian Blackson your question for Maggie Dent Hi. 345 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 13: I have a question regarding taking my children to the shop. 346 00:15:21,560 --> 00:15:24,120 Speaker 13: I have a three year old who always ends up 347 00:15:24,120 --> 00:15:26,800 Speaker 13: wanting a lolly and if I say no, he then 348 00:15:26,840 --> 00:15:30,800 Speaker 13: has a complete melt down. My question is do I 349 00:15:31,040 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 13: just cave in and just buy one each time? Do 350 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 13: I deal with it there at the shops and talk 351 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:37,400 Speaker 13: to him about it, or do I just take him 352 00:15:37,400 --> 00:15:39,680 Speaker 13: home and have that discussion with him later. 353 00:15:39,880 --> 00:15:41,960 Speaker 8: All right, so of course he wants a lolly, what 354 00:15:42,240 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 8: who doesn't. I'd still like one two if I went 355 00:15:44,320 --> 00:15:47,000 Speaker 8: and I'm seventy. What I'm going to suggest to you 356 00:15:47,120 --> 00:15:48,600 Speaker 8: is that before you get out of the car you're 357 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:49,840 Speaker 8: going to you're going to have a little chat to 358 00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 8: him and say when we there's only these days of 359 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:54,560 Speaker 8: the week. And of course he's not going to know 360 00:15:54,600 --> 00:15:57,640 Speaker 8: those days, is he? But Monday, Wednesday, Friday, if you 361 00:15:57,640 --> 00:16:00,160 Speaker 8: know we've not been really awful to my mum and 362 00:16:00,240 --> 00:16:02,720 Speaker 8: drawn lipstick on the wall and things, there will be 363 00:16:02,720 --> 00:16:04,800 Speaker 8: a lolly treat when I go shopping. Right, And then 364 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:06,280 Speaker 8: you pull up in the car park and you go, 365 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 8: what day is it? 366 00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:07,440 Speaker 1: Today? 367 00:16:07,520 --> 00:16:08,120 Speaker 3: Is this day? 368 00:16:08,720 --> 00:16:11,520 Speaker 1: So it is a treat day. Today is Tuesday, no 369 00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:12,160 Speaker 1: treat day. 370 00:16:12,160 --> 00:16:14,200 Speaker 8: So we go okay with that, not today, But if 371 00:16:14,240 --> 00:16:16,520 Speaker 8: we have a tantrum about today. 372 00:16:16,280 --> 00:16:17,480 Speaker 1: Then there won't be one tomorrow. 373 00:16:17,560 --> 00:16:20,560 Speaker 8: And it might sound really but they learn okay, So 374 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:22,960 Speaker 8: you're not banning forever, because if you're banned forever, I'm 375 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:25,080 Speaker 8: going to get upset too because I like my chocolate. 376 00:16:25,800 --> 00:16:27,760 Speaker 8: But so we actually setting him up to now not 377 00:16:28,200 --> 00:16:30,480 Speaker 8: to be able to predict what are the days that 378 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:31,880 Speaker 8: he can look forward to going to you. 379 00:16:31,920 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 1: Plus the other thing is, yeah, leave him with someone else. 380 00:16:35,080 --> 00:16:37,920 Speaker 1: We go shopping. 381 00:16:40,080 --> 00:16:41,200 Speaker 10: Super buggedy year. 382 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:44,560 Speaker 2: Yes, Scott in Scofielder question for Maggie Dent. 383 00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:46,440 Speaker 3: Here you're going good? 384 00:16:47,600 --> 00:16:50,000 Speaker 14: What question is my nine year old boy? He's quite 385 00:16:50,640 --> 00:16:54,720 Speaker 14: nervous and shy even round strangers. But then with people 386 00:16:54,760 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 14: that we go, we'll be out of supporting events and 387 00:16:57,560 --> 00:17:00,680 Speaker 14: things like that. Talk to him for your boys contacts 388 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:02,840 Speaker 14: and I just want to know what's the best way 389 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:05,440 Speaker 14: to support him or how do I get about it? Shelf, Well, it. 390 00:17:05,400 --> 00:17:06,480 Speaker 1: Sounds like he's a lamb. 391 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:09,960 Speaker 8: So lambs are less brave, and you know they've turned 392 00:17:10,040 --> 00:17:11,840 Speaker 8: up less brave, less fearless. But I'm going to give 393 00:17:11,880 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 8: you a couple of things that really can help in 394 00:17:13,560 --> 00:17:16,760 Speaker 8: that space is your practice at home. So your roleplay 395 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:19,439 Speaker 8: situations with him like he's a stranger and put on 396 00:17:19,480 --> 00:17:22,320 Speaker 8: some weird o face mask or something and say so mate, 397 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:25,200 Speaker 8: how are you going? You know, you actually practice the things. 398 00:17:25,200 --> 00:17:26,920 Speaker 8: It's a bit like what I said before about the 399 00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:30,560 Speaker 8: video and the head to build his confidence at being able, 400 00:17:30,600 --> 00:17:32,840 Speaker 8: you practice like heck, so you can you know, all 401 00:17:32,880 --> 00:17:36,040 Speaker 8: everyone in the house can play. And bottom line, he 402 00:17:36,119 --> 00:17:39,600 Speaker 8: becomes an adult sometimes and you're the child and you 403 00:17:39,640 --> 00:17:42,320 Speaker 8: can mimic how he might be a bit reluctant. But 404 00:17:42,359 --> 00:17:44,560 Speaker 8: we also so there's another strategy I used with a 405 00:17:44,560 --> 00:17:46,320 Speaker 8: lot of shy children early on, and they had to 406 00:17:46,359 --> 00:17:48,520 Speaker 8: have had to pick out some undies that were their 407 00:17:48,560 --> 00:17:51,679 Speaker 8: brave undies awesome so bright red, bright yellow, whatever. 408 00:17:51,840 --> 00:17:53,520 Speaker 1: And so there were days. 409 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:55,439 Speaker 8: When they were going to be going out that potentially 410 00:17:55,480 --> 00:17:57,440 Speaker 8: they might meet people they're not so sure at. 411 00:17:58,240 --> 00:17:59,600 Speaker 1: They had to wear their brave. 412 00:17:59,440 --> 00:18:01,919 Speaker 8: Undies, their fun undies, whatever you want to call it, 413 00:18:01,960 --> 00:18:04,120 Speaker 8: because it sort of makes them feel a little braver 414 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:06,840 Speaker 8: on the inside and it's a bit of fun. But 415 00:18:06,920 --> 00:18:08,760 Speaker 8: what I do want to say is don't ever force 416 00:18:08,840 --> 00:18:11,720 Speaker 8: him like because when we force a child whoo's a 417 00:18:11,720 --> 00:18:13,959 Speaker 8: little bit shy and anxious that we set them up 418 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:17,040 Speaker 8: for a whole lifetime full of dread. So we've got 419 00:18:17,119 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 8: to make sure we allow them to be Yes, stay 420 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:21,520 Speaker 8: with me until you're safe. It's quite often in circle 421 00:18:21,560 --> 00:18:24,440 Speaker 8: of security. It's a brilliant parenting program. Our kids want 422 00:18:24,440 --> 00:18:26,920 Speaker 8: to stay close to the safest person and venture a 423 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:29,680 Speaker 8: little bit and then come back. And then you're gratually 424 00:18:29,720 --> 00:18:32,679 Speaker 8: helping him go a little bit further each time, so 425 00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:35,680 Speaker 8: that you know he will gradually develop that capacity later. 426 00:18:35,800 --> 00:18:38,560 Speaker 9: And Maggie, would you agree with me here because I've 427 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:42,280 Speaker 9: got a couple of shy kids and I sort of 428 00:18:42,640 --> 00:18:50,439 Speaker 9: and I'm not shy. And I sort of realized early 429 00:18:50,480 --> 00:18:53,640 Speaker 9: on when I got this shy child out of nowhere 430 00:18:54,880 --> 00:18:58,480 Speaker 9: that me trying to encourage them. I feel like I 431 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:02,240 Speaker 9: was coming from a good place because you know, interacting 432 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:04,680 Speaker 9: with human beings is the greatest joy in my life, 433 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:08,639 Speaker 9: and I wanted them to have that too. When I 434 00:19:08,800 --> 00:19:13,520 Speaker 9: realized that me talking about it kind of got lost 435 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:17,400 Speaker 9: in translation. I was saying, this is a great way 436 00:19:17,400 --> 00:19:19,720 Speaker 9: to be Try this, try that, But what they're hearing 437 00:19:19,920 --> 00:19:22,160 Speaker 9: is you're not good enough the way you are. 438 00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:25,359 Speaker 8: You're actually failing as you are, You're dead right, Yeah. 439 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:27,199 Speaker 1: I know, best intentions in the world. Welcome to the 440 00:19:27,200 --> 00:19:28,320 Speaker 1: tricky part of parenting. 441 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:29,199 Speaker 3: Yeah. 442 00:19:29,240 --> 00:19:32,520 Speaker 9: So now I just say, you're either a shy person 443 00:19:32,640 --> 00:19:33,960 Speaker 9: or you're going through a shy phase. 444 00:19:34,320 --> 00:19:35,240 Speaker 1: Let's see where it goes. 445 00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:36,560 Speaker 2: And it's perfectly normal. 446 00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:39,840 Speaker 1: Celebrate those ones. Celebrate the lambs and the roosters. 447 00:19:39,920 --> 00:19:41,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, let's take one more called Leah and Harrington Park. 448 00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:43,320 Speaker 2: Your question for Maggie Dent Lea. 449 00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:45,920 Speaker 11: Oh, good morning, Maggie. 450 00:19:46,040 --> 00:19:46,399 Speaker 6: Thanks. 451 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:49,600 Speaker 11: I just wanted to know. I've got a fifteen year 452 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:51,639 Speaker 11: old son and I've been a fan of yours for 453 00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:56,159 Speaker 11: oh well, since he was conceived. To be honest, it 454 00:19:56,200 --> 00:20:00,320 Speaker 11: was him, and he's not a fan. I kind of 455 00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:03,160 Speaker 11: I'm showering, he gets hygiene. 456 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:06,720 Speaker 8: Yeah yeah, okay, so this is really really company. 457 00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:06,840 Speaker 13: Now. 458 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:10,000 Speaker 8: The weirdest thing about our tween and teen boys is 459 00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:12,960 Speaker 8: I actually don't realize they smell. Oh I'm in a 460 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:15,360 Speaker 8: classroom full of them, right and I'm nearly passing out 461 00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:17,719 Speaker 8: and not one of them notices that there's this body 462 00:20:17,720 --> 00:20:20,280 Speaker 8: odor in the room. They don't smell it. So they 463 00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:22,800 Speaker 8: want to say, look, why should I bother? Because a 464 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:24,879 Speaker 8: I don't smell and there's no skin on my jocks, Like, 465 00:20:24,920 --> 00:20:26,639 Speaker 8: what's the point of saving water? 466 00:20:27,800 --> 00:20:30,240 Speaker 1: Okay, So I don't know if you can try this one. 467 00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:31,920 Speaker 8: I did it with my four year olds some because 468 00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:33,959 Speaker 8: he was decided he didn't want to shower in bath anymore. 469 00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 8: So I tried the incentivizing. You know, of course it's 470 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:39,840 Speaker 8: not going to work with a fifteen year old boy. 471 00:20:40,240 --> 00:20:41,600 Speaker 8: But what I said to him at one point I 472 00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:43,480 Speaker 8: sat with him and said, you know, mummy doesn't have 473 00:20:43,520 --> 00:20:46,040 Speaker 8: a penis. But you know, if I didn't, I didn't 474 00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:48,200 Speaker 8: wash it. I reckon, I go moldy and fall off. 475 00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:52,560 Speaker 8: He was in the shower like a flash. At the 476 00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:55,040 Speaker 8: end of the day. I'd probably come with you know 477 00:20:55,160 --> 00:20:57,040 Speaker 8: that sort of thing that if you don't look after 478 00:20:57,040 --> 00:20:58,000 Speaker 8: your peters. 479 00:20:57,800 --> 00:21:01,160 Speaker 2: It'll fall could get a bit rotten and. 480 00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:05,240 Speaker 8: Still still yeah, the more you nag, the less it's 481 00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:05,879 Speaker 8: going to shower. 482 00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:15,680 Speaker 5: Hasn't a made thank you mate on that to wash I've. 483 00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:16,720 Speaker 1: Got a sixteen year old. 484 00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:21,600 Speaker 9: Is there a nice way to say you're a bit 485 00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:22,320 Speaker 9: on the nose? 486 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:24,640 Speaker 1: Because it's a it's a tolty thing. 487 00:21:24,760 --> 00:21:28,800 Speaker 9: If anybody said to me you stir I so offended, 488 00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:31,360 Speaker 9: all right, so let me have it sort of Chip. 489 00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:33,520 Speaker 8: It's such a crazy thing because of course I had 490 00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:34,359 Speaker 8: housefuls of boys. 491 00:21:34,359 --> 00:21:35,960 Speaker 1: They all bought their mates and ate me out of 492 00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:36,560 Speaker 1: house and home. 493 00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:40,000 Speaker 8: But you know what, the mother of one of your 494 00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:44,119 Speaker 8: son's mates is the person who drops the truth bomb. 495 00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:46,080 Speaker 1: Because while you're in my house there was a boy. 496 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:47,600 Speaker 8: Oh my god, and I said, mate, I'm going to 497 00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:50,359 Speaker 8: take your home, so I can't have that really off. 498 00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:52,639 Speaker 1: Do you want to go up and put some andy 499 00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:54,639 Speaker 1: bo on? Yeah, no, worries. 500 00:21:55,040 --> 00:21:56,639 Speaker 8: His mum's been trying to nag the hell out of 501 00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:58,359 Speaker 8: him because he really likes coming to my house. 502 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:02,280 Speaker 1: I'm not his mother, and he knows I like him. 503 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:03,600 Speaker 1: He goes up, but you know. 504 00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:05,320 Speaker 8: What, he did that, But when I came back later, 505 00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:10,119 Speaker 8: he sprayed the whole whole mirror with the and the 506 00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:11,680 Speaker 8: deodorant all over the mirror. 507 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:12,560 Speaker 3: Because that you thought they. 508 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:16,520 Speaker 2: Were funny too? Oh, I love him in. 509 00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:18,320 Speaker 3: Your home anymore? He was. 510 00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:19,359 Speaker 1: He definitely was. 511 00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:23,399 Speaker 2: Oh, Maggie, that is sensational. Thank you for happiness. 512 00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:26,560 Speaker 5: Her brand new podcast, The Good Enough Dad, It's out now, 513 00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:28,960 Speaker 5: Like you said, Larry MD is the first episode. You're 514 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:32,399 Speaker 5: guys Abashian, Cameron Dadda, We love Cameron Data. You've also 515 00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:35,480 Speaker 5: got war veterans to professional surfers. 516 00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:37,080 Speaker 3: The podcast is out. 517 00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:38,920 Speaker 8: Now you have to hear about the bit about surfers. 518 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:40,680 Speaker 8: My boys were going to sack me as their mother 519 00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:44,359 Speaker 8: because they're all surfers because I didn't have any surfers 520 00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:45,400 Speaker 8: or AFL footballers. 521 00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:47,240 Speaker 1: No, don't just go cut me out. They're going to 522 00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:48,120 Speaker 1: cut me right out. 523 00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:49,720 Speaker 3: So I've nailed it. 524 00:22:49,840 --> 00:22:50,920 Speaker 8: I'm allowed to stay there. 525 00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:51,240 Speaker 9: Mother. 526 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:55,440 Speaker 3: I love you, Maggie, thank you very much for coming in. 527 00:22:57,240 --> 00:23:01,120 Speaker 6: And with the with Kate WHICHI podcast crazy and we're 528 00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:01,600 Speaker 6: all with Kate. 529 00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:05,439 Speaker 1: Ritchie's Mother's Day Lunch. 530 00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:10,040 Speaker 12: Make her Mother's Day with a personalized card from moon Peer. 531 00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:13,000 Speaker 12: Create your masterpiece at moon peg dot com. 532 00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:15,800 Speaker 2: Hey, this is going to be really special. Fits. Moonpeg 533 00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:17,160 Speaker 2: have come on board and said we want to help 534 00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:20,879 Speaker 2: you celebrate mums for Mother's Day, and we want you 535 00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:23,960 Speaker 2: to be at our very own lunch. It's a Mother's 536 00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:26,639 Speaker 2: Day lunch and we want you to celebrate your mum. 537 00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:30,919 Speaker 5: It's next Friday, so Mother's Day's next Sunday comes around 538 00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:33,639 Speaker 5: very quickly, and we need to celebrate the one of 539 00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:37,560 Speaker 5: the most important people in our life, our mum's Moonpig's 540 00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:41,399 Speaker 5: awesome mate. These customized cards personalized cards that you can 541 00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:43,600 Speaker 5: get from moon Peg, so you create. 542 00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:44,960 Speaker 3: Your own masterpiece. You're putting a couple of. 543 00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:49,920 Speaker 5: Photos, videos, message and then they send it out to you. 544 00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:52,000 Speaker 5: You got to moonpeg dot com to do that. But 545 00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:54,480 Speaker 5: they've jumped on board and said, what don't you guys 546 00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:58,040 Speaker 5: throw a Mother's Day lunch for all the best mums 547 00:23:58,040 --> 00:23:58,679 Speaker 5: around Sydney. 548 00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:01,639 Speaker 2: It's a great idea, isn't it. They also do personalized mugs, 549 00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:05,560 Speaker 2: cookie cookie candles, cookies and candles, So I could get 550 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:09,320 Speaker 2: a candle from moon Pick. Smells like tom Ivy cookie candles. 551 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:11,840 Speaker 4: I'm not a mother. I don't know why you would get. 552 00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:14,080 Speaker 2: What about a mug for my mum with your face 553 00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:15,960 Speaker 2: on the just a picture of your bum on it? 554 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:19,480 Speaker 2: Will they print who's your moon pig? 555 00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:20,520 Speaker 5: Moon? 556 00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:23,840 Speaker 3: So this is what you need to do. 557 00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:25,800 Speaker 5: You need to write a special letter for your mum 558 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:28,920 Speaker 5: or whoever mumm is to you and you can win 559 00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:31,280 Speaker 5: a seat at the Mother's Day lunch with yourself and 560 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:33,920 Speaker 5: your mother. You need to register via the Nova player 561 00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:35,919 Speaker 5: app or online it and over at FM and we 562 00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:37,800 Speaker 5: could be calling you back. 563 00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:39,960 Speaker 3: Next week we'll read out a little bit of you. 564 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:42,359 Speaker 3: I mean it only has to be a paragraph or whatever. 565 00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:43,440 Speaker 3: It doesn't have much. 566 00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:45,199 Speaker 2: It's a tribute. You said you'd have a crack at 567 00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:48,760 Speaker 2: it overnight, mat if you're yeah, I have about Claire fizzles. 568 00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:50,679 Speaker 5: This took a while, you know, because you want to 569 00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,120 Speaker 5: make sure it's right. You fel like I need Mum 570 00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:54,680 Speaker 5: in front of me. Can we get Mum on next 571 00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:56,000 Speaker 5: week and I can read it back to her? 572 00:24:56,040 --> 00:25:00,960 Speaker 2: Tommy, absolutely right with a well there's a moon peak right, cookies? 573 00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:03,640 Speaker 4: Do the all brands from the oldest snack standing here 574 00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:07,920 Speaker 4: and mid mid mid talk breaking it? 575 00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:09,320 Speaker 3: Haven't you made all right? You want me to ever 576 00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:13,840 Speaker 3: read mine out? Dear Mum, the country girl from Riverland, raised. 577 00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,560 Speaker 5: On strong morals and values, you are the most beautiful 578 00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:20,560 Speaker 5: example of love, patience and strength a young half cutter 579 00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:25,479 Speaker 5: could ever ask for. Honesty, kindness, hard work and the 580 00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:28,600 Speaker 5: importance of family have shaped the way I live and 581 00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,520 Speaker 5: I love. You didn't just tell me what was right. 582 00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:35,600 Speaker 5: You showed me every single day, Mum. As I've matured 583 00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:40,160 Speaker 5: only in the last bloody couple of years, I've appreciated 584 00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:42,960 Speaker 5: your resilience during tough times, and the way that you 585 00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:47,359 Speaker 5: always made sure everyone felt included and cared for, constantly 586 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,560 Speaker 5: putting smiles on our faces in even the most difficult 587 00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:53,480 Speaker 5: of times. It's something that I'll never forget and will 588 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:58,080 Speaker 5: be forever grateful. Claire, Jeannine Schwatz, Fitzgerald ickleber Dick. 589 00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:00,879 Speaker 2: Love you, Mam sorry mane a German. 590 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:03,000 Speaker 3: That's Germany for I love you. Yes. 591 00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:04,919 Speaker 5: She used to say that to me every night she 592 00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:06,400 Speaker 5: would put me to Beddie cleb Dick. 593 00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:08,440 Speaker 2: She then said it. She then said it to Mick. 594 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:12,679 Speaker 5: Do you know what that was a beautiful moment that 595 00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:15,720 Speaker 5: you've brought down the rude. 596 00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:19,919 Speaker 2: Pig, rude moon pig, your rude moon pig. You That 597 00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:23,439 Speaker 2: was beautiful, mate, Tommy. Would I pen something to Nustine? 598 00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:26,560 Speaker 2: Should I write a letter to Christine? 599 00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:28,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just texting her at the moment. 600 00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:37,560 Speaker 2: All right, more chances you need register of don't you 601 00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:39,800 Speaker 2: make fun about my mother? Of my mother? 602 00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:41,359 Speaker 4: That's funny. I just did the same thing too. 603 00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:45,040 Speaker 2: Physics bombarded very early for Christine to get those sorts 604 00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:45,560 Speaker 2: of messages. 605 00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:46,639 Speaker 3: She could just return that. 606 00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:54,920 Speaker 2: Tracks register the Nova player or nov FM. We could 607 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:59,760 Speaker 2: be calling you back. Next week at the Mother's Day lunch, 608 00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:01,400 Speaker 2: Fitzy will get his pants back. 609 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:05,480 Speaker 6: This is the Fitting In with Her with Kate Richie podcast. 610 00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:09,040 Speaker 2: Let's talk about a brand new TV show, Ryan James, 611 00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:12,919 Speaker 2: It's coming to Binge. It's called Billion Dollar Playground. Have 612 00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:13,680 Speaker 2: a listen to this. 613 00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:17,080 Speaker 1: Which people want all kinds of things. If my guest 614 00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:18,960 Speaker 1: wants lobster for breakfast, they get it. 615 00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:21,560 Speaker 4: They want a Lamborghini, no problems. 616 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:25,960 Speaker 8: You can never tell these people no MAdM career streamboats 617 00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:26,520 Speaker 8: at five. 618 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:28,240 Speaker 1: Unicorns are like crinkles. 619 00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:32,400 Speaker 2: This team, we're like swans, gliding beautifully on the top champagne. 620 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,960 Speaker 7: Where's the coming, paddling like crazyer pins. 621 00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:37,119 Speaker 4: It is high pressure. 622 00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:38,280 Speaker 2: You're all a joke. 623 00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:38,879 Speaker 3: The light of you. 624 00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:43,440 Speaker 2: Here's the catchphrase. If it's legal, make it happen. What Yeah. 625 00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:49,160 Speaker 2: The luxury accommodation company Luxico. They rent out unbelievably beautiful, 626 00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:51,800 Speaker 2: high end houses and these people need to make their 627 00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:54,320 Speaker 2: customers feel like the most important person in the world. 628 00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:55,080 Speaker 2: Ryan James. 629 00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:57,080 Speaker 3: Oh, do you know what, I'll get a phone call 630 00:27:57,200 --> 00:28:00,880 Speaker 3: for this whip. Well, they wanted to use your no no, 631 00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:01,439 Speaker 3: no no. 632 00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:04,760 Speaker 5: Do you know live the live golf to me? So 633 00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:08,680 Speaker 5: these golfers are worth an absolute fortune. And there's a company, right, 634 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:12,520 Speaker 5: and what they do They hire amazing houses and then 635 00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:15,080 Speaker 5: they have these parties in the houses and the golfers, 636 00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:18,000 Speaker 5: after playing golf all day go back there. They have 637 00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:21,160 Speaker 5: a few old dervs, they have a couple of champagnes, 638 00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:22,640 Speaker 5: and they have the sponsors there. 639 00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:25,680 Speaker 3: So there are companies out there that actually. 640 00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 2: Do this, right. So they were looking at looking for houses. 641 00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:30,560 Speaker 3: Well, yeah, they said, do you know anyone that's got 642 00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:31,040 Speaker 3: a house? 643 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,520 Speaker 2: Can I tell you about a really weird phone call 644 00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:37,800 Speaker 2: I got not long ago. I'm sitting at home phone rings. 645 00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:42,160 Speaker 2: I look at the phone, says Dickie Wilkins, and here 646 00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:42,440 Speaker 2: we go. 647 00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:45,320 Speaker 3: Which phone was a second or third pone. 648 00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:46,960 Speaker 2: I think was his fifth and he was in his 649 00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:49,760 Speaker 2: second pool at the time, the afternoon pool that he 650 00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:53,479 Speaker 2: doesn't have the permit for. Anyway, I answer the phone 651 00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:56,440 Speaker 2: and he goes, hey, mate, can we talk? And I said, yeah, 652 00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:58,800 Speaker 2: what's going on? Dickie? He said, I'm here with someone 653 00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:02,080 Speaker 2: and I can't tell you who I'm here with. Okay, 654 00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:05,600 Speaker 2: I love these games. So he goes, is there any 655 00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:09,880 Speaker 2: chance that a well known celebrity could possibly look to 656 00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:12,520 Speaker 2: rent out your house a little bit later on in 657 00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:15,280 Speaker 2: the air and I all right, well, just tell me 658 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:17,760 Speaker 2: how you're talking about to start with, yeah, you gotta know, 659 00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:21,040 Speaker 2: and he goes, let's just say there's more than one 660 00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:24,600 Speaker 2: dick calling right now. I'm here with Richard Marx's the 661 00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:25,640 Speaker 2: two dicks. 662 00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:30,120 Speaker 5: That's a hazard in itself. 663 00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:34,600 Speaker 3: Oh Marxie, we saw him at the walk Ward. Do 664 00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:36,400 Speaker 3: you know what would have happened though as well? 665 00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:39,680 Speaker 2: Dicky would have moved in with Richard Marx. 666 00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:41,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, with out of doubt. 667 00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,160 Speaker 5: He would have gone, well, you're there, Richard, I'll just 668 00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:46,600 Speaker 5: move in with your news one of Whipper's rooms as well. 669 00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:49,840 Speaker 2: If that's okay, I mean, Richard, just remember the catchphrase though, 670 00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:52,560 Speaker 2: if it's legal, make it happen. We'll see you on 671 00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:55,080 Speaker 2: Binge's brand new show, Billion Dollar Playground, The. 672 00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:59,680 Speaker 12: Fid And with Kate Richie Podcast and Whipper with Kate 673 00:29:59,880 --> 00:30:01,280 Speaker 12: che Origin Upgrade. 674 00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:04,000 Speaker 1: His greatest rivalry is back. 675 00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:08,960 Speaker 12: Women's Stay of Origin starts tonight, Exclusive Life and Free 676 00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:12,120 Speaker 12: on nine and nine now your home of free footage. 677 00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:16,600 Speaker 3: And so it begins. Oh man, what a journey this 678 00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:18,120 Speaker 3: will be. Kicks off tonight. 679 00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:20,400 Speaker 5: Cannot wait to watch this on Channel nine, and one 680 00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:24,240 Speaker 5: man who has represented his state so many times and 681 00:30:24,320 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 5: brought it home for us is the magnificent Freddy Fitler, 682 00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:31,480 Speaker 5: Freddy well Forday, Betty, we're far he's there. 683 00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:33,200 Speaker 2: No, not at the moment. 684 00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:37,240 Speaker 3: But no, she's not here at the moment. Yeah no, 685 00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 3: but he's there. 686 00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:40,280 Speaker 2: No, not at the moment. 687 00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:43,200 Speaker 5: But no, she's not here at the moment we've been 688 00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:45,920 Speaker 5: Yeah no, but Freddie. Actually, do you know what I 689 00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,959 Speaker 5: did the other day just to support you, and Andrew Johns, 690 00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:51,800 Speaker 5: is that I walked off the show with twenty one 691 00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:55,840 Speaker 5: minutes to go. This is what WHEP If you don't know, 692 00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:58,680 Speaker 5: Andrew John's walked off the broadcast the other day because 693 00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,560 Speaker 5: he's so disgusted with the sinbins that are happening in 694 00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:02,600 Speaker 5: the NRL at the moment. 695 00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:05,240 Speaker 3: Are you at that point as well, Freddy? Will you 696 00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:05,920 Speaker 3: walk off? 697 00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:07,400 Speaker 6: No? 698 00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:09,720 Speaker 15: I walk off? It was interesting watching Andrew in the 699 00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:13,760 Speaker 15: corner having a little stock just hilarious. Couldn't control himself, 700 00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:16,479 Speaker 15: just couldn't can Yeah, well he could actually just sat there. 701 00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:18,680 Speaker 15: He dropped the mic and he didn't look at anyone 702 00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:20,200 Speaker 15: and didn't speak for twenty five minutes. 703 00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:22,320 Speaker 3: I still got mad. 704 00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:25,000 Speaker 15: I just added my eye added a little bit to 705 00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:28,960 Speaker 15: staid of the invoice because it's the extra workover lifting. 706 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:31,680 Speaker 2: Freddy, Yeah, it. 707 00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,800 Speaker 3: Is ridiculous, Freddy. Are you really worried about the game 708 00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:35,640 Speaker 3: and where it's going. 709 00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:39,280 Speaker 15: Well, there's a lot going on, I think in all sports, 710 00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:44,800 Speaker 15: especially contact sports. I think everyone's nervous about concussions and 711 00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:47,120 Speaker 15: you know the consequences of them. So I feel like 712 00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:50,600 Speaker 15: they try to be proactive and they have been, but 713 00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:52,280 Speaker 15: every now and then they just go a bit far. 714 00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:56,160 Speaker 15: I think, I don't know whereas people not understanding the 715 00:31:56,240 --> 00:32:01,520 Speaker 15: game and how accidents and happen and the way they 716 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:04,640 Speaker 15: defend now and you just got to be you gotta 717 00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:06,960 Speaker 15: be careful, you to understand the place. You got to 718 00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:11,520 Speaker 15: be sympathetic towards them because there's a situation the signs 719 00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:14,200 Speaker 15: one where you know he's standing there and the bloke's 720 00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:17,880 Speaker 15: running full piled out again, You've got a decision or 721 00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:19,680 Speaker 15: to move out of the road and you lose your 722 00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:22,760 Speaker 15: job or you hold your ground. And that's what he did, 723 00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:26,800 Speaker 15: and he's got two weeks with uh. They've come out 724 00:32:26,840 --> 00:32:29,600 Speaker 15: and said that they have got it wrong. They went 725 00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:32,640 Speaker 15: too fast, So you know they're really under the spotlight 726 00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:35,480 Speaker 15: this week at Magic Round with us every games in 727 00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:37,440 Speaker 15: the one spot, but they're going about other ways to 728 00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:40,920 Speaker 15: change in the lod with bunker and having more consistent 729 00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:42,840 Speaker 15: people in the bunker from a point of view of 730 00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:47,360 Speaker 15: less and trying to find the best. So they're definitely 731 00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:49,360 Speaker 15: realized they've made an error and they're moving on. 732 00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:51,560 Speaker 2: Pretty Where are you at the moment, morning walk or 733 00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:52,840 Speaker 2: you've just done your yoga. 734 00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:57,680 Speaker 15: Class or laying some grass brother, you're laying some grass 735 00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:03,840 Speaker 15: code for something anymore? 736 00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:07,600 Speaker 2: Those days are gone. You're putting a bit of tiff 737 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:08,840 Speaker 2: to inmte or what are you doing? 738 00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:12,920 Speaker 15: It's a bit of buffalo, very durable. 739 00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:15,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, did the kids help you out? 740 00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:17,680 Speaker 3: Do they made the lawns every now and then, fred 741 00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:18,000 Speaker 3: or that. 742 00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:20,280 Speaker 2: Damn lazy. 743 00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:23,960 Speaker 15: Whole generation. It's a lazy generation. 744 00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:27,040 Speaker 2: If we get one thing out of this foota chat, 745 00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,760 Speaker 2: it's the Freddie thinks it's a lazy generation coming. 746 00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:34,040 Speaker 5: Freddie every day this week thanks to your company nine 747 00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:36,120 Speaker 5: and nine now we've been given away a fifty five 748 00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:38,720 Speaker 5: inch four K Smart TV and two hundred dollars cash 749 00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:41,640 Speaker 5: and Freddie solaa Leah and Harrington. 750 00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:42,880 Speaker 3: Because she's won herself and you're telling me. 751 00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:52,040 Speaker 11: Good morning, good morning guys. 752 00:33:52,040 --> 00:33:53,239 Speaker 10: Well I can't believe it. 753 00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:56,600 Speaker 2: Thank you, Hey, Freddie. Leah joined the show earlier. She 754 00:33:56,680 --> 00:34:00,239 Speaker 2: told us about her son who won't shower. You had 755 00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:01,360 Speaker 2: that issue with the kids, Freddy. 756 00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:05,720 Speaker 15: No, no, no, no, very high journey. But I want 757 00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:09,600 Speaker 15: said cold sales for about years now. Haven't to throw 758 00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:12,560 Speaker 15: the cold ones the cold yes. 759 00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:15,439 Speaker 2: Actually also similarly to just squirting him with the hose. 760 00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,520 Speaker 2: If you won't get in the shower, that's what. 761 00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:18,760 Speaker 14: We do do We throw him in the pool? 762 00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:23,320 Speaker 5: Good Leah, can you just tell Freddie about your best friend? 763 00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:27,319 Speaker 3: Tell fred I've got. 764 00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:29,959 Speaker 11: A friend with schel and she's just had a major 765 00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:33,799 Speaker 11: crush on you for her whole entire life. And had 766 00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:35,239 Speaker 11: she ever pass out, you're the. 767 00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:39,360 Speaker 4: One, Oh my god, still got into my billions? 768 00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:45,000 Speaker 2: Does he like laying? By the way, I don't have. 769 00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:51,240 Speaker 14: Instagram, so yeah, to say wow, anyway, thank. 770 00:34:51,040 --> 00:34:51,560 Speaker 3: You so much. 771 00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:53,680 Speaker 2: Strange things have happened, and you've got a TV and one 772 00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:55,480 Speaker 2: hundred dollars or two hundred. 773 00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:58,359 Speaker 11: Dollars later when you got it wrong earlier in the week, 774 00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:03,720 Speaker 11: which are. 775 00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:05,239 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think six hundred thousand. It was just two 776 00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:08,640 Speaker 2: hundred dollars. Leah TV is all yours. Well done, thanks 777 00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:10,320 Speaker 2: for playing along, Freddie, You're a superstar. 778 00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:16,520 Speaker 9: This is the Fits and Whipper with Cape Ritchie Podcast. 779 00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:16,960 Speaker 3: Stevie Wonder. 780 00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:21,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, Stevie update, do you maney? 781 00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:22,840 Speaker 3: What a talent funk? 782 00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:25,120 Speaker 1: Get the funk out of here. 783 00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:28,960 Speaker 2: He's good, isn't He's footage. I don't know if I'm 784 00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:31,400 Speaker 2: I don't want to steal anyone's thunder here, but that 785 00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:36,440 Speaker 2: footage where he catches the microphone stands, Yes. 786 00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:39,680 Speaker 5: I have Paul, that was with you, Paul McCartney. It 787 00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:44,040 Speaker 5: was Paul McCartney. Paul McCartney knocks and Mike stand and 788 00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,840 Speaker 5: Stevie Wonder catches it, catches it, tell the live story 789 00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:53,160 Speaker 5: fits There's okay, I've got some more here. So this 790 00:35:53,239 --> 00:35:57,600 Speaker 5: is the reason why we're doing the break. There's a compilation. 791 00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:03,000 Speaker 5: There's five different mates of his who have told stories. 792 00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:06,640 Speaker 3: The first one is Snoop. Someone's put them into a compilation. 793 00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:07,160 Speaker 2: Awesome. 794 00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:09,759 Speaker 5: Snoop Dogg is first up. Let's have a listen to 795 00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:11,480 Speaker 5: Snoop on everything. 796 00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:11,919 Speaker 9: I love. 797 00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:14,279 Speaker 14: Stevie Wonder does FaceTime. 798 00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:18,080 Speaker 2: I can't make this up. I went bool and he 799 00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:22,000 Speaker 2: was like, I've been looking for you. That person. 800 00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:25,600 Speaker 5: This is actor Ving Raims, who's good mates with Stevie. 801 00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:27,279 Speaker 3: One day I have a listen to this. There was 802 00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:29,200 Speaker 3: one like one in the morning. In the morning. 803 00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:32,600 Speaker 5: Why does this guy beat all three of us whipped 804 00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:34,120 Speaker 5: our ass an air hockey? 805 00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:36,600 Speaker 2: I said, I don't care what you said. You can 806 00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:38,799 Speaker 2: see right yeah, he. 807 00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:42,719 Speaker 3: Beat them in air hockey. This is this. This is 808 00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:44,080 Speaker 3: Shakille O'Neills. 809 00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:47,640 Speaker 2: We live in a building on Wheelshaw Dover. There's Stevie Wonder. 810 00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:52,560 Speaker 2: He comes in. He says, what's up. Shot, presses the button. Sorry, 811 00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:55,760 Speaker 2: presses the button, gets up on the floor Bytom goes. 812 00:36:55,640 --> 00:37:01,640 Speaker 3: To this road below. This is Lionel Rece. This is 813 00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:02,640 Speaker 3: Lionel Ritchie. 814 00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:05,319 Speaker 16: I go over to his house and he says, I 815 00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:07,000 Speaker 16: got a record I want you to hear. So he 816 00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:08,920 Speaker 16: pulls the cassette and he says, come go with me 817 00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:10,919 Speaker 16: in the car and he goes on the driver's side. 818 00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:13,399 Speaker 2: He said, get it on the passage side. 819 00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:14,359 Speaker 3: I get on the passenger side. 820 00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:16,759 Speaker 16: He cranks the car, he puts it in reverse and 821 00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:17,960 Speaker 16: starts down the driveway. 822 00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:20,279 Speaker 3: I said stephe he goes, I got you. 823 00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:24,080 Speaker 2: That is Lina Ritchie. 824 00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:27,120 Speaker 3: And then this is a Canadian code. Anthony Anderson have 825 00:37:27,280 --> 00:37:28,959 Speaker 3: listened to these. Steedee flew me. 826 00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:32,120 Speaker 16: To Tobago one time for a jazz festival that he 827 00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:35,080 Speaker 16: was producing. I'm on stage with Chris Tucker and Johnny Gill. 828 00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:37,640 Speaker 16: Me Chris Tucker and I are Johnny Gill's background dancers. 829 00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:41,759 Speaker 16: Stevie walks on stage, walks to me, looks me dead 830 00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:43,640 Speaker 16: in my eye, says Anthony, get me to a piano. 831 00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:45,560 Speaker 2: I was like, Steve, you will have if you just 832 00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:46,360 Speaker 2: walked to me, you could have. 833 00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:47,359 Speaker 3: Walked to the piano. 834 00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:50,400 Speaker 4: Himself. 835 00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:55,280 Speaker 3: He called himself like car. 836 00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:57,360 Speaker 2: On Rabitchelly was the same the other day that he 837 00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:59,400 Speaker 2: wasn't actually blonde. And then we saw a photo of 838 00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:02,080 Speaker 2: on Rabbit Chill on a horse. A blind guy doesn't 839 00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:03,040 Speaker 2: get on a horse, does he. 840 00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:05,680 Speaker 5: In all the comments to this compilation, a lot of 841 00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:07,879 Speaker 5: people are saying that he's legally blind, so he can 842 00:38:07,880 --> 00:38:09,240 Speaker 5: see shapes and stuff. 843 00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:11,719 Speaker 3: I mean, with Shaquille O'Neil. 844 00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:14,120 Speaker 5: You can understand because you'd see how big that man 845 00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:15,359 Speaker 5: is and you know who it is. 846 00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:22,000 Speaker 9: Maybe if one sense has gone, you know your others 847 00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:27,399 Speaker 9: are heightened. Maybe Shaquille has an amazing smell that Stephen Right. 848 00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:31,320 Speaker 9: I know who that is, but there is something going 849 00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:35,680 Speaker 9: on here that is a massive conspiracy and I'm here for. 850 00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:38,879 Speaker 5: It's It's a great thing to have in your back pocket, though, 851 00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:42,440 Speaker 5: knowing who's around, and then you can freak him out, 852 00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:43,479 Speaker 5: what are you doing here? 853 00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:46,480 Speaker 2: I love that whip it. Kate Ritchie is a nov 854 00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:50,320 Speaker 2: podcast walk great shows like this. Download the Nova Player, 855 00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:52,480 Speaker 2: find the app store or Google Playing.