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Speaker 2: Welcome back. Oh my goodness, we are loving this advice segment.

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Speaker 1: So today's is all about would you tell the other woman?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Take it away? Yeah? No? What if we got so?

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Speaker 2: I need advice. I was single, he was in a

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Speaker 2: relationship with kids. We slept together once. I've regretted it

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Speaker 2: since the moment it had happened, knowing how wrong it was.

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Speaker 2: I've never told a soul, and I assume that he

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Speaker 2: has an either, but it makes me feel sick knowing

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Speaker 2: how wrong it was when I see them around. He

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Speaker 2: has more kids. It's been a long time now, ten

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Speaker 2: plus years. Do I tell the wife or do I

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Speaker 2: let it go? Now that it's been this long. Oh gosh,

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Speaker 2: Oh that's tough.

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Speaker 1: Holy shit, I don't know. I don't know either. Oh.

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Speaker 1: Half of me is like, why now, what's this going

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Speaker 1: to achieve? Everyone's moved on, And then the other half

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Speaker 1: was like, no, I would need to know. I would

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Speaker 1: want to know if my husband cheated on me while

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Speaker 1: we had children and then went on to have more children, Like,

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Speaker 1: I just feel like I deserve to know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is a tough one as well, because I

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Speaker 2: just be curious to know what has triggered this ten

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Speaker 2: years later, you know, like, has this been something like

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Speaker 2: you said, like you've been regretting it ever since. But

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Speaker 2: I just am curious on why now the urge to

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Speaker 2: tell her is coming forward.

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Speaker 1: Is it just your own guilt or are you genuinely

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Speaker 1: feeling like the other woman to know? Yeah? Is it

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Speaker 1: beneficial for this to come out right now? I feel

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Speaker 1: like I would want to know. I would want to

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Speaker 1: be given my own option of deciding if I stay

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Speaker 1: with him.

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Speaker 2: Or not totally the transparency, like that is.

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Speaker 1: My decision to make, but it's not someone else's decision

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Speaker 1: to control my life like that, for sure, If I

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Speaker 1: would want to know, if I would hope someone would

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Speaker 1: tell me, And I think I would tell the other woman,

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Speaker 1: but I wouldn't have left it this long.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. See, I'm so conflicted with this, Like you know, actually,

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Speaker 2: like I'm so big on transparency. I think it's a

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Speaker 2: really important thing. And also owning your mistakes, I think

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Speaker 2: is a really it's obviously really uncomfortable, but it's also

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Speaker 2: a very freeing thing and also for you to start

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Speaker 2: the journey of healing from this experience. Sometimes I feel

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Speaker 2: like it's important to really own your mistakes and be

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Speaker 2: willing to wear them and take the accountability for it. However,

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Speaker 2: it's been so long now, I just wonder if it's

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Speaker 2: I mean? But I also think that she deserves to know.

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Speaker 2: But I just wonder if now, oh, this is your

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Speaker 2: work to do that you just have to be willing

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Speaker 2: to forgive yourself for it, overcome it, take accountability for it,

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Speaker 2: and be willing to let it go. But it's going

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Speaker 2: to take some work and a lot of self forgiveness

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Speaker 2: for the person that you were when you did it

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Speaker 1: I think that's going to happen regardless though. Yeah, she

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Speaker 1: has to live with this, she has to do that

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Speaker 1: work on forgiving herself for sure. Yeah. But this is

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Speaker 1: Is this something that we want it bring up and

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Speaker 2: He if they know I reckon after ten years Like, oh,

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Speaker 2: I don't know. The timing is tough because it's ten

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Speaker 1: If you were in the other woman's position, Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: Here's the details, here's the proof. And it was one

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Speaker 1: hundred percent true. What would you do? Would you be

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Speaker 2: I want to talk about it, but like they would

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Speaker 2: definitely create cracks in the relationship for sure. Yeah, And

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Obviously I've never been in that situation.

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Speaker 2: But the first thing that pops to my mind is

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Speaker 1: To get over it. Same, I think so too. But

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Speaker 1: then also it always been a bout in the back

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Speaker 2: But then also in the same breath, I'm like, how

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Speaker 2: ten years? Yes, I feel you too, that's the betray

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Speaker 2: I've got a betrayal wound, right and I think that

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Speaker 2: would fucking eat away at me.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It's like, it depends on how willing I would be

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Speaker 2: would take a lot of consideration, I think it would,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, and a.

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Speaker 1: Lot of work together with a marriage counselor elounsla her,

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Speaker 2: I don't think it'd be something you'd be able to

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Speaker 2: is very true.

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Speaker 1: Or and I feel like it would depend on where

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Speaker 1: wound it back in that time. Because I don't ever

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Speaker 1: It is never the right thing to do. I think

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Speaker 1: we can always say no to it, and it's something

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Speaker 1: I will never partake in. But I can also see

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Speaker 1: how relationships break down. I can see why it happens

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Speaker 1: sometimes when emotional needs are not getting met, physical needs

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Speaker 1: if she was to wind back, and this is not

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Speaker 1: helping this girl that's written in, but the woman that's involved,

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Speaker 1: break like there could be so much more context for

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Speaker 1: we don't know any of that, and this is you

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Speaker 1: definite answer of I would do this, but I'm really

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Speaker 1: conflicted on this. I'm conflicted on this too.

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Speaker 2: I think the decision that you've made to not already

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Speaker 2: tell her ten years later almost is an answer. I

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Speaker 2: feel like no decision is a decision, and maybe this

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Speaker 2: you're not ready to have that conversation, or for whatever reason,

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Speaker 2: you felt like you wanted to protect their relationship.

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure, but.

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Speaker 2: I think maybe the fact that you've waited so long

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Speaker 2: that you've waited ten years because I think if it

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but what if you didn't.

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Speaker 2: What if it was ten years later and you were

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Speaker 2: holding onto this. If I didn't, I wouldn't tell you, wouldn't.

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Speaker 2: I don't think I would not after ten years. I

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Speaker 2: either tell them straight away or I just think after

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Speaker 2: a family of a decision I made ten years ago. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but then is that the right thing to do? I

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Speaker 1: It's also he's doing as well, that's breaking up the fact,

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Speaker 1: not just this woman. Yeah, I'm really really struggling with

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Speaker 1: this one too. I hear you and saying you don't

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Speaker 1: away my choice. And I feel like by not being told,

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Speaker 1: going to be with her unfaithful husband. You're right, Oh,

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Speaker 1: that's her decision to make. That's not up to us.

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Speaker 2: I don't think it's taking away somebody's choice. Yea be

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Speaker 2: able to decide whether, And like.

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Speaker 1: Also, like what if so many other people do know

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Speaker 1: law and I only I will share this. My mum

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Speaker 1: and I just shut them down.

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Speaker 1: I went to him and then he gasped me and

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Speaker 1: So just ya hearing hearing my mum say that, I

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Speaker 1: but I was just gasolt and made to feel so

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Speaker 1: silly for ever thinking he could do that to me

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Speaker 1: and need my whole relationship. Yeah, what if he's still

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Speaker 1: doing it, It could still be doing it. Yeah, that's true.

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Speaker 2: Listening to you say that, what comes to me is like,

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Speaker 2: transparency is always the best honesty and accountability for your actions.

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Speaker 2: And at the end of the day, I don't think

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Speaker 2: it's your responsibility to protect their relationship when he didn't

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Speaker 1: I think so too. Yeah, I think the right.

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Speaker 2: Thing is to like, it's not just about clearing your

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Speaker 2: conscious it's about choosing who you want to be and

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Speaker 2: who you are choosing to be. Today and not who

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Speaker 2: you were ten years ago. And there are definitely things

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Speaker 2: in my life that I've done, what I've fucked up,

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Speaker 2: and I've made shit decisions, and taking accountability for those things,

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Speaker 2: better person on the other side of it.

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Speaker 1: So I'm just feeling so sick for this woman that

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Speaker 1: dropside down. Oh man, Yeah, this is such a heavy one.

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Speaker 2: Thank you for And the bravery is the courage. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: And too. Also if anyone has ever considered cheating, or

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Speaker 1: Just no, this isn't just about you. Yeah, it could

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's the whole like acting on emotion thing.

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Speaker 2: It's like, can we just look at maybe where you're

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Speaker 1: This is such a tough one. Feel for your babe.

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Speaker 1: We would love an update. Yeah, that would be awesome.

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Speaker 1: Whether you're deciding not to continue, we'd love to hear

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Are you going to go straight to her, You're going

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Speaker 2: Or if you need help deciding on how to communicate

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Speaker 1: Definitely. Oh man, it's a big one. Yeah, please give

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Speaker 1: us an update. Yeah, we're sending your lots love. We

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Speaker 1: People make mistakes. Yeah, humans are messy. You're younger. It's

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Speaker 1: good luck, and thanks dropping that in. We have soon.

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