1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:03,920 Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land, Always was, always 2 00:00:03,920 --> 00:00:09,280 Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. 3 00:00:12,680 --> 00:00:15,840 Speaker 2: Hey chicks, I'm out and this is two wrote Chicks, 4 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 2: the show that shares life lessons and tips to make 5 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:21,599 Speaker 2: you rich in life. And hope you're in for a 6 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 2: love episode or maybe even a drama episode because that's 7 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:27,000 Speaker 2: gonna be juicy. 8 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:28,280 Speaker 3: I'm excited. 9 00:00:28,440 --> 00:00:31,560 Speaker 2: We are doing dating horror stories, so you cheeks have 10 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:35,639 Speaker 2: sent in your dating horror stories because it's Valentine's Day 11 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:36,400 Speaker 2: this week. 12 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:40,479 Speaker 3: So we'll better time to talk about dating horror story. 13 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: I think it's actually the best time so that we 14 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:46,920 Speaker 1: can all collectively hold hands in kumbaya through the trauma 15 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:48,200 Speaker 1: that is dating. 16 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:51,879 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not gonna lie glad. I'm out of those 17 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:53,279 Speaker 3: fucking woods, I know. 18 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 1: So we've had you chicks text in and send us 19 00:00:56,840 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: a bunch of your stories and and I haven't looked 20 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:04,040 Speaker 1: at any of them. May neither because I want to 21 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:09,480 Speaker 1: be surprised and shocked, gooped and garg But before we 22 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:13,640 Speaker 1: get into the episode, we always discuss our obsessions of the. 23 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 3: Sally love of my life. 24 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:21,319 Speaker 1: Wow, my Valentine, if you will, what is your obsession. 25 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:24,200 Speaker 2: Of the week. It's not very romantic. But my obsession 26 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 2: of the week is a TV show, and it's the 27 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:32,479 Speaker 2: new Goosebumps, the Vanishing TV series. Rosqueller, Yes, with David 28 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:35,920 Speaker 2: Swimmer Rosqueller Rosqueller and he I feel like he basically 29 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:40,320 Speaker 2: some respect on his name. I feel like he basically 30 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:43,200 Speaker 2: plays the exact same real character. It's very similar. But 31 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:49,120 Speaker 2: he's a dad, but he's still that sort of bubbling guy. 32 00:01:49,440 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 2: But if you were a fan of the original Goosebump series, 33 00:01:52,360 --> 00:01:55,000 Speaker 2: or if you're a fan of TV shows like Stranger Things, 34 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 2: you'll like it. It's an easy watch. It's like horror, 35 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 2: but it's not actually scary. It's more creepy in that 36 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 2: sort of like Goosebumps nineties vibe. And it also has 37 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:09,919 Speaker 2: a really good soundtrack. Yeah, is it all old music? 38 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 2: It's pretty much all nineties there, because the throwback of 39 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 2: the story is said in the nineties, and then you 40 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 2: know they're sort of uncovering what has happened, and I 41 00:02:21,639 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 2: like that. It's really cool. And all of the episodes 42 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:28,639 Speaker 2: are throwbacks to the original Goosebump stories, So if you're 43 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:30,240 Speaker 2: a fan, you'll be like, oh my god, because there's 44 00:02:30,240 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 2: a little easter eggs and stuff in there, and if 45 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 2: you're not, like, it's still yeah, love that cure. What's yours? 46 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:42,840 Speaker 1: My obsession of the week is what I truly believe. 47 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:45,359 Speaker 1: I think I found the holy grail and I think 48 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:50,440 Speaker 1: I have found the universally perfect. 49 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 3: Maxie slip dress. 50 00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:53,080 Speaker 2: Oh tell me so. 51 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:57,079 Speaker 3: It's from Raife, the label R A F. 52 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:02,200 Speaker 2: And it is the most beautiful. 53 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:04,520 Speaker 3: Slip dress ever. 54 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 1: And it's in black, which obviously, but it does also 55 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:12,480 Speaker 1: come in like kind of like an oystery pink, and 56 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:16,919 Speaker 1: it's thick straps, so you can wear a bra number 57 00:03:16,919 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 1: one that's always a number one requirement, not a low back, 58 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 1: and it's like a really like the material is heavy 59 00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 1: ish but still super flowy. 60 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:29,160 Speaker 3: You could dress it up, you could. 61 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:30,840 Speaker 1: Dress it down like I could easily wear it to 62 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:33,959 Speaker 1: a wedding, and I could also easily chuck some sneakers 63 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:36,480 Speaker 1: on and wear it to the markets and like a 64 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 1: baseball cap, you know, like it is just the most 65 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:41,600 Speaker 1: perfect slip dress I have ever. 66 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 3: Ever worn, and I love it. 67 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:45,600 Speaker 2: I want one. You should buy one, or you can 68 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 2: always borrow a mind perfect that was what you're really 69 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:52,720 Speaker 2: going for as a short girlie. I feel like the 70 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 2: length is really good because as well. 71 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: One of my pet peeves is when like you wear 72 00:03:57,600 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 1: a Maxi dress and either it's like dragging on the 73 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: floor and I look like I'm like a little girl 74 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 1: dressing up in my mum's clothing. Or two it's too 75 00:04:07,400 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 1: short that when I sit down it then looks like 76 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: a Midi. 77 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:13,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's Maxie. She's a maxy girl. 78 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 2: Yeah. 79 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:16,560 Speaker 3: And anyway, I love it. It's gorgeous. 80 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:18,839 Speaker 2: And they're an Australian brand, aren't they they are? Yeah? 81 00:04:18,839 --> 00:04:21,320 Speaker 3: I love that. Yeah, it's a ten out of ten. 82 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 2: All right, should we get into the dating horror story. 83 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:33,480 Speaker 2: Let's go our first dating horror story. Hey, chicks strap 84 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:34,640 Speaker 2: in for this messy one. 85 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:36,919 Speaker 3: Oh okay, wait. 86 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:42,160 Speaker 2: She strapped in. My ex and I dated back when 87 00:04:42,200 --> 00:04:45,280 Speaker 2: I was eighteen. I broke it off due to communication 88 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:50,960 Speaker 2: breakdowns and moral differences. I would love the content moral difference. 89 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:54,320 Speaker 2: We reconnected a year later and he said he wanted 90 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 2: to try again and he had grown. He then went 91 00:04:57,200 --> 00:05:00,719 Speaker 2: back to his hometown and slept with someone else, ghosted me, 92 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:04,119 Speaker 2: and started posting her less than forty eight hours after 93 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 2: having dinner with me and my parents. Fuck, I had 94 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:11,719 Speaker 2: my nineteen year old meltdown and got past it, removing 95 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 2: him on Everything good Girl. While he was still dating 96 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:17,560 Speaker 2: this girl, he kept requesting to follow me on Instagram 97 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 2: and add me back on Snapchat. I was very confused 98 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:23,039 Speaker 2: as to why he was trying to follow me again. 99 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:27,359 Speaker 2: This went on for three years of me constantly declining 100 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:30,920 Speaker 2: his follow requests. End of last year, I got very 101 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:33,279 Speaker 2: drunk and said fuck it and let him follow me. 102 00:05:33,520 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 2: Damn it. Him and the girl had now broken up. 103 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 2: I haven't dated anyone since him due to the epidemic 104 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:41,000 Speaker 2: of situationships. 105 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 3: It is a true epidemic. 106 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:47,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, five minutes after accepting it, he starts texting me 107 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 2: that he missed being friends with me and that I 108 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 2: got him like no one else did. He also said 109 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 2: he wasn't trying to date me or convince me to 110 00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:57,280 Speaker 2: date him, but he wanted to apologize for what he did. 111 00:05:57,360 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 2: He knew he hurt me and had no right to 112 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:01,960 Speaker 2: my response or company, but he wanted to go back 113 00:06:01,960 --> 00:06:05,200 Speaker 2: to being friends. Me, being stupid, agreed to be friends 114 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:07,160 Speaker 2: with him. I haven't hung out with him even though 115 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 2: he wants to, but I do find myself texting him 116 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 2: nearly every time I'm drunk and I'm finding myself imagining 117 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 2: a relationship with him again and bringing up old feelings. 118 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:20,480 Speaker 2: So chicks, now that we're twenty two and hopefully more mature, 119 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:22,880 Speaker 2: do I try with him again three years later? Or 120 00:06:22,920 --> 00:06:25,000 Speaker 2: do I block him on everything and go back to 121 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:27,680 Speaker 2: being at peace with no contact and deal with the 122 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:29,640 Speaker 2: small heartbreak that we can never be again. 123 00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 3: Block him, Fuck that guy. 124 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 2: Block him. 125 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:39,880 Speaker 1: No, Because the fact that he was requesting to follow 126 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:44,360 Speaker 1: you and like crawl from under the rock that you 127 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:47,680 Speaker 1: banished him to and he's trying to crawl out like 128 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 1: little fucking gremlin. I'm like picturing that like nosferatum with 129 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:54,480 Speaker 1: like the guy coming out of like the great thing, 130 00:06:54,680 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 1: like getting me out that like he that's like, that's fucked. 131 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 1: Like the fact that he was dating someone else and 132 00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:07,000 Speaker 1: trying to request to follow you is just so yuck. 133 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 1: The fact that like he went and had dinner with 134 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:13,200 Speaker 1: your family and then forty eight hours is like messaging 135 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 1: another girl. 136 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:16,080 Speaker 3: And I know this happened three years ago, but no. 137 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:19,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, And the fact that he's been requesting to follow 138 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 2: you consistently over the last three years while he had 139 00:07:22,680 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 2: been dating so a lot. But the fact that he 140 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 2: continued to request to follow you while he was dating 141 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 2: somebody else for three years shows that he hasn't grown. Yeah, 142 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:36,760 Speaker 2: because if he really was, like, I'm so sorry for 143 00:07:36,840 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 2: what I did to her, I feel really bad, he 144 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:41,800 Speaker 2: would have respected the fact that you haven't accepted and 145 00:07:41,920 --> 00:07:42,800 Speaker 2: left you alone. 146 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 3: Yeah. 147 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:46,200 Speaker 2: And like the fact that he's apologizing to you about 148 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 2: being a piece of shit then treating another girl like 149 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 2: a piece of shit exactly what you just said, shows 150 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:54,560 Speaker 2: he hasn't grown. I know there's probably like some part 151 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 2: of you that when his name pops up on your 152 00:07:57,160 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 2: phone and he said that he was really sorry, and 153 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:02,000 Speaker 2: you know what, it probably was a really convincing and 154 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 2: beautiful apology, and like maybe he even did mean it, 155 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 2: you know. But and I know that there was like 156 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:09,440 Speaker 2: a sparkly little flutter in your chest of being like, 157 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:12,360 Speaker 2: oh my god, like maybe he has changed, And of 158 00:08:12,440 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 2: course you want to believe that, of course, like there 159 00:08:14,920 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 2: is absolutely nothing wrong with the fact that, like you're like, 160 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 2: oh my god, like that. 161 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 3: You want to believe that. But I think. 162 00:08:23,680 --> 00:08:26,720 Speaker 1: Even in your message, you know the right thing to 163 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 1: do is to block him, because you literally said and 164 00:08:31,120 --> 00:08:35,559 Speaker 1: find peace. Yeah, Like this guy just sounds like a headache. 165 00:08:35,720 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, and I don't think he's grown up. No, you 166 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 3: should block him. I think you should give yourself peace. 167 00:08:43,400 --> 00:08:45,680 Speaker 1: And I promise you that, like you're going to meet someone, 168 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:49,120 Speaker 1: whether it's like in a month or into your time 169 00:08:49,280 --> 00:08:50,480 Speaker 1: or whenever it is, and you're like, oh my. 170 00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:52,840 Speaker 2: God, this is what it's supposed to be, like like 171 00:08:52,880 --> 00:08:54,000 Speaker 2: this was so easy. 172 00:08:54,720 --> 00:08:56,760 Speaker 3: And the other thing to. 173 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:59,800 Speaker 1: Put on top of that is because you haven't blocked 174 00:08:59,840 --> 00:09:04,360 Speaker 1: him him, he's like taking up space in like this 175 00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 1: sounds so fucking lame. 176 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:07,199 Speaker 2: I love this. 177 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 1: He's taking up like space in like your heart and 178 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:13,280 Speaker 1: like your brain, so that you're not opening yourself up 179 00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:16,760 Speaker 1: to actually meeting someone who isn't like a dung beetle, 180 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:20,320 Speaker 1: you know, like because you're drunk and you're messaging him, 181 00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:24,560 Speaker 1: you're not actually like open to meeting new people. Like 182 00:09:24,640 --> 00:09:27,120 Speaker 1: I've been there, I've done that, and it was only 183 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 1: once I actually cut the person off that I was 184 00:09:30,360 --> 00:09:31,640 Speaker 1: actually open to meeting people. 185 00:09:31,720 --> 00:09:34,880 Speaker 3: And then that's when I met Rob. Yeah. So yeah, 186 00:09:35,200 --> 00:09:36,400 Speaker 3: dung beetle blocked. 187 00:09:36,760 --> 00:09:38,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, block him, block. 188 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:39,280 Speaker 3: The dung beetle. 189 00:09:40,960 --> 00:09:43,360 Speaker 1: Okay, I'm gonna ask this to you as a smash 190 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:45,680 Speaker 1: of pass oh okay, okay. 191 00:09:46,400 --> 00:09:49,560 Speaker 3: Red flag, green flag. I need you to tell me 192 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:50,960 Speaker 3: is this a dating red flag? 193 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:54,200 Speaker 1: In the first five minutes of meeting him, he was 194 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:57,079 Speaker 1: telling me how he broke ligaments in his finger from 195 00:09:57,080 --> 00:09:58,559 Speaker 1: fingering a girl too hard. 196 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:02,400 Speaker 3: It was not a recent injury. He was fully healed. 197 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:05,720 Speaker 2: And proceeded to show me using hand gestures in the 198 00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:08,320 Speaker 2: middle of a cafe with his family around. 199 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 3: Oh god, I wish. 200 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:13,960 Speaker 1: We had a video. 201 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:19,679 Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm im no, but can you 202 00:10:19,760 --> 00:10:22,480 Speaker 3: imagine how fucking painful. 203 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:22,920 Speaker 2: That problem was? 204 00:10:22,960 --> 00:10:27,240 Speaker 3: My girl? You should not be fingering that fucking hard. 205 00:10:27,679 --> 00:10:31,079 Speaker 2: I'm just imagining him like phishing a guitar, pick out 206 00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:33,360 Speaker 2: a guitar, you know, like when that when I get 207 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:35,520 Speaker 2: stuck at the bottom. The thing for me was when 208 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:36,640 Speaker 2: in the first five minutes. 209 00:10:36,640 --> 00:10:37,680 Speaker 3: Sorry, I'm not letting. 210 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 2: You speak because I'm still. 211 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:46,640 Speaker 4: Every detail that one sentence, because when you first described 212 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:48,280 Speaker 4: it and you said in the first five minutes, I 213 00:10:48,320 --> 00:10:51,120 Speaker 4: was like, Oh, this must have been at a day party, 214 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 4: or you know, like they've run into each other on 215 00:10:53,559 --> 00:10:55,760 Speaker 4: a night out and so you know, you're drunk and 216 00:10:55,760 --> 00:10:57,560 Speaker 4: you're telling a stupid story where you. 217 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:00,880 Speaker 2: Were, or you know, like his hand is like bandaged up, 218 00:11:01,080 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 2: like his jar and his fingers like that kind of thing. 219 00:11:03,840 --> 00:11:07,520 Speaker 2: But no, it's a healed it's a healed injury. And 220 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:10,520 Speaker 2: you're relaying this story in the first five minutes in 221 00:11:10,679 --> 00:11:14,600 Speaker 2: broad fucking daylight. Why are your parents there as well? 222 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:17,480 Speaker 2: By the way, like, do they own the cafe? I'm 223 00:11:17,559 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 2: good serving you coffee. I'm googling can you break ligaments 224 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 2: from fingering? The only thing that comes up is a 225 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:30,240 Speaker 2: Reddit forum, and it goes, questioned, will this fingering position 226 00:11:30,520 --> 00:11:34,720 Speaker 2: damage my finger? It was probably him moments before he 227 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:36,240 Speaker 2: tore his ligaments. 228 00:11:36,480 --> 00:11:39,560 Speaker 3: He could have gone pro, but he tore his finger limit. 229 00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:44,360 Speaker 3: He was like, I was actually in a band, but 230 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:45,120 Speaker 3: then I fingered too. 231 00:11:45,480 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 2: If I break my fingers, that story should never be 232 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:50,520 Speaker 2: told when the sun is still up. 233 00:11:50,720 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 3: That story should never be told. 234 00:11:52,520 --> 00:11:53,200 Speaker 2: For the star. 235 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:55,600 Speaker 3: Oh there's a link. 236 00:11:55,679 --> 00:11:57,320 Speaker 2: I'm not pressing when I press that. 237 00:11:58,640 --> 00:12:06,480 Speaker 5: Oh no, Oh, he was playing guitar guitar when you're 238 00:12:06,520 --> 00:12:09,200 Speaker 5: at the reddit. 239 00:12:09,760 --> 00:12:13,360 Speaker 2: Oh my god, about fingering a guitar string. 240 00:12:13,520 --> 00:12:15,040 Speaker 3: He's literally playing guitar. 241 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:18,640 Speaker 2: Is that how this guy did? Oh my god, let's 242 00:12:18,640 --> 00:12:20,640 Speaker 2: give him the benefit of the doubt. He goes, I'm 243 00:12:20,640 --> 00:12:23,079 Speaker 2: referring to the middle finger. It feels very weird playing 244 00:12:23,120 --> 00:12:25,960 Speaker 2: this chord. It's very practical though, maybe I just need 245 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:28,440 Speaker 2: to get used to the feeling. Just some thoughts. And 246 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:30,560 Speaker 2: then another guy's like, as long as you don't push 247 00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:32,679 Speaker 2: you hard, No, it shouldn't hurt your finger. 248 00:12:32,920 --> 00:12:38,560 Speaker 3: Like, there's nothing I'm like, was he lying? Okay? Also, 249 00:12:39,080 --> 00:12:41,360 Speaker 3: I swear you can't break a ligament. You can only 250 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 3: tear them. 251 00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 2: I know you can snap them. Yeah, because Chris did that. 252 00:12:45,960 --> 00:12:47,760 Speaker 2: But when he was pulling down his pants because he 253 00:12:47,800 --> 00:12:50,240 Speaker 2: was really excited to get into his pajamas, I was 254 00:12:50,880 --> 00:12:53,079 Speaker 2: it was very important to finish that story with the 255 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 2: sac It wasn't. I wasn't there. He was leon wow, 256 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:04,640 Speaker 2: oh my god. Okay, we're on a theme now. Oh no, 257 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:05,520 Speaker 2: the next one? 258 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:09,760 Speaker 3: Ah yeah yeah ye yah yeah yeah yeah yeah. 259 00:13:09,679 --> 00:13:13,440 Speaker 2: Yeah ye yeah yeah Okay our next dating horror story, 260 00:13:14,120 --> 00:13:17,920 Speaker 2: heyce alan ol horror story. Not sure if it's dating exactly, 261 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:21,120 Speaker 2: but still funny and awful. Apologies if this is TMI. 262 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:25,320 Speaker 1: That's literally the description of all of my dating histories 263 00:13:25,520 --> 00:13:27,000 Speaker 1: is funny and awful. 264 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 2: I invited this guy over that I knew from high school. 265 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:33,080 Speaker 2: We had done things before, but never sex. When he 266 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:36,920 Speaker 2: came over. We did have sex. He was fingering me 267 00:13:37,120 --> 00:13:39,760 Speaker 2: and at some point he switched to his dick. I 268 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:45,760 Speaker 2: hadn't realized and said no, no, I hadn't realized and 269 00:13:45,840 --> 00:13:49,079 Speaker 2: said you can put it in now, and he responded with. 270 00:13:49,520 --> 00:13:50,160 Speaker 6: I have. 271 00:13:52,280 --> 00:13:53,120 Speaker 3: Oh no. 272 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:58,800 Speaker 2: I was so embarrassed and didn't finish, but he did. Afterwards, 273 00:13:58,840 --> 00:14:00,560 Speaker 2: we were laying next to each other and he was 274 00:14:00,600 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 2: telling me which of my friends he thought was hot 275 00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:07,640 Speaker 2: and he would sleep with. I made up some story 276 00:14:07,679 --> 00:14:10,520 Speaker 2: about why he needed to leave. I was so gobsmacked 277 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:15,040 Speaker 2: about the whole thing. I blocked him sometime after. Oh 278 00:14:15,080 --> 00:14:18,120 Speaker 2: my god, I was sorry for God. 279 00:14:18,240 --> 00:14:21,320 Speaker 3: I'm glad. What a douche. 280 00:14:22,440 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 2: Oh my god, because we know it's not all about size. No, 281 00:14:26,280 --> 00:14:29,320 Speaker 2: we're not shaming anybody for anything like that. It's just 282 00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:32,440 Speaker 2: the discomfort that that moment would have had. Yeah, in 283 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:36,760 Speaker 2: such like an intimate moment, but also like what a douche? 284 00:14:37,280 --> 00:14:39,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, what a finger? 285 00:14:40,080 --> 00:14:43,480 Speaker 1: What would you do if someone turned to you like 286 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:49,400 Speaker 1: post coital and it was like, yeah, these are what's like? 287 00:14:50,520 --> 00:14:53,360 Speaker 3: See, this is shit with you because you've you've been 288 00:14:53,360 --> 00:14:55,760 Speaker 3: with the love of your life since you were fifteen 289 00:14:55,840 --> 00:14:56,240 Speaker 3: years old. 290 00:14:56,320 --> 00:14:58,800 Speaker 1: That I can't ask you, what's the weirdest. 291 00:14:58,440 --> 00:15:00,119 Speaker 3: Thing someone said to you after. 292 00:15:01,560 --> 00:15:05,680 Speaker 2: Literally do you want to know? I'll reveal you'll throw yourself. 293 00:15:05,800 --> 00:15:10,560 Speaker 3: I'm the ying to your yang. Yes, will I got 294 00:15:10,600 --> 00:15:11,440 Speaker 3: the content for us. 295 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:16,240 Speaker 2: You know. I had to carry Bradshaw sex in the 296 00:15:16,280 --> 00:15:20,200 Speaker 2: city moment where I just slept with this model and 297 00:15:20,240 --> 00:15:22,640 Speaker 2: he turns to me and he goes, yeah, basically just 298 00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 2: like after I sleep with a chicken, I'm just like 299 00:15:24,360 --> 00:15:32,680 Speaker 2: not really interested in it anymore again. I mean, Alicia, honest, 300 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:35,000 Speaker 2: I know, like what an awful thing to say to 301 00:15:35,280 --> 00:15:35,600 Speaker 2: I was. 302 00:15:35,560 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 3: Like, what a way? 303 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:37,920 Speaker 2: So? 304 00:15:38,080 --> 00:15:40,680 Speaker 1: And I think I was like, so, are you like 305 00:15:40,960 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 1: never going to speak to me again? And he was like, 306 00:15:43,920 --> 00:15:46,440 Speaker 1: oh no, like I'll still talk to you. 307 00:15:46,440 --> 00:15:48,640 Speaker 3: He did, My God, he didn't. 308 00:15:50,360 --> 00:15:53,320 Speaker 2: And then I think like six months later he tried 309 00:15:53,320 --> 00:15:55,360 Speaker 2: to like rematch with me on an app and I 310 00:15:55,400 --> 00:16:01,240 Speaker 2: was like, did you forget that we already? Maybe he 311 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:06,720 Speaker 2: let his intrusive thoughts win that day. I was like, Okay, 312 00:16:07,080 --> 00:16:09,760 Speaker 2: that's probably the weirdest things anyone said to me after sex. 313 00:16:09,960 --> 00:16:13,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I've just saen in capital letters. This was 314 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:15,560 Speaker 1: the most mortifying experience of my life. 315 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:17,840 Speaker 2: I wanted to die. 316 00:16:19,520 --> 00:16:19,880 Speaker 3: Let's go. 317 00:16:20,280 --> 00:16:23,160 Speaker 2: Let's get into it strap in. Hey, Sol, Now, I 318 00:16:23,160 --> 00:16:27,080 Speaker 2: hope you chicks. He well, I hope this femail here 319 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:29,640 Speaker 2: is a first date horror story for you. I hope 320 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:32,320 Speaker 2: she shit her pants. I'm just getting that vibe. I'm 321 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 2: just getting that vibe. A couple of years ago, I 322 00:16:35,080 --> 00:16:36,960 Speaker 2: went on a first date with one of my friend's 323 00:16:37,320 --> 00:16:40,880 Speaker 2: brothers friends friends brother's friends. 324 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:44,120 Speaker 3: Okay, who is a bit older than me. First mistake. Lol, 325 00:16:44,480 --> 00:16:46,760 Speaker 3: let's call him Jake. I love the fake names. 326 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:49,880 Speaker 1: There always a j We were talking back and forth 327 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:52,360 Speaker 1: when I was overseas on holiday and we both decided 328 00:16:52,400 --> 00:16:53,440 Speaker 1: that we will go on a date. 329 00:16:53,320 --> 00:16:54,160 Speaker 3: When I get back. 330 00:16:54,400 --> 00:16:56,880 Speaker 2: First of all, the first date that Jake planned was 331 00:16:56,920 --> 00:16:59,720 Speaker 2: for me to go and watch him play indoor football. 332 00:17:00,760 --> 00:17:01,520 Speaker 6: That suck. 333 00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:05,240 Speaker 2: That so sucks the whoa Jake. 334 00:17:05,400 --> 00:17:07,440 Speaker 3: I went along with it and met him at the game. 335 00:17:07,600 --> 00:17:10,840 Speaker 2: Everything was going well until I was sitting in the grandstand. 336 00:17:11,280 --> 00:17:14,200 Speaker 2: I got hit in the face by the ball. 337 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:17,840 Speaker 6: No, no, do. 338 00:17:17,880 --> 00:17:21,159 Speaker 2: You know what being at Rob's soccer games that is 339 00:17:21,240 --> 00:17:25,879 Speaker 2: a genuine fear of Lifeah, that was the first horror 340 00:17:25,920 --> 00:17:26,680 Speaker 2: of this first day. 341 00:17:26,760 --> 00:17:29,399 Speaker 1: Oh, you would have been so embarrassed, you poor baby. 342 00:17:29,680 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 1: I continued to watch the game, and then Jake walked 343 00:17:31,840 --> 00:17:34,639 Speaker 1: me out back to my car after the game. This 344 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 1: was the date, by the way, just me watching him 345 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:40,560 Speaker 1: play a football game, no dinner, no real conversation, nothing 346 00:17:40,880 --> 00:17:43,960 Speaker 1: red flag. As we were saying goodbye, we went in 347 00:17:44,040 --> 00:17:47,680 Speaker 1: for the most awkward, longest hug I've ever had, and 348 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:50,439 Speaker 1: I'm a hugger, so that says a lot. As the 349 00:17:50,520 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 1: hug ended, we both went in for a kiss, and 350 00:17:52,640 --> 00:17:54,480 Speaker 1: because Jake had such a. 351 00:17:54,359 --> 00:17:58,239 Speaker 2: Bushy long beard, I couldn't find his lips and I 352 00:17:58,359 --> 00:18:04,560 Speaker 2: ended up kissing his bit was the most mortifying experience 353 00:18:04,640 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 2: of my life. 354 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:07,240 Speaker 3: I wanted to die. 355 00:18:07,640 --> 00:18:10,720 Speaker 2: I proceeded to say to Jake, I'm sorry and laughed 356 00:18:10,760 --> 00:18:11,600 Speaker 2: really awkwardly. 357 00:18:12,160 --> 00:18:13,879 Speaker 3: This was the end of the date, and then we 358 00:18:13,920 --> 00:18:15,080 Speaker 3: both got into our cars. 359 00:18:15,200 --> 00:18:17,119 Speaker 2: Jake drove off and I sat in my car for 360 00:18:17,240 --> 00:18:20,800 Speaker 2: what seemed like forever processing what just happened. I then 361 00:18:20,840 --> 00:18:23,199 Speaker 2: made sure that no one was around, and I screamed 362 00:18:23,600 --> 00:18:24,560 Speaker 2: at the top. 363 00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:25,840 Speaker 3: Of my lungs. 364 00:18:25,640 --> 00:18:30,119 Speaker 2: Out of embarrassment, and then I drove home and then 365 00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:32,560 Speaker 2: I tried to sleep off on what was the most 366 00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:33,960 Speaker 2: horrifying first. 367 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:36,080 Speaker 3: Date that I've ever been on. Thank you for. 368 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:38,359 Speaker 2: Reading and listening, and I hope this was entertaining. 369 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:40,080 Speaker 3: Love your Chicks from Sophie. 370 00:18:42,800 --> 00:18:46,000 Speaker 1: Okay, oh, I'm going to rank my top three favorite 371 00:18:46,040 --> 00:18:47,040 Speaker 1: moments of that story. 372 00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:50,600 Speaker 3: I'm gonna start from number three. It was her kissing 373 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:51,800 Speaker 3: his beard. 374 00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:52,600 Speaker 2: That was good. 375 00:18:52,840 --> 00:18:54,040 Speaker 3: How long was it? 376 00:18:54,320 --> 00:18:56,400 Speaker 2: Yeah? How little was his mouth. 377 00:19:00,119 --> 00:19:01,440 Speaker 3: Literally like excavating. 378 00:19:01,760 --> 00:19:05,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, he should have led with his lips to find hers. 379 00:19:05,320 --> 00:19:08,360 Speaker 3: Number two was that he played indoor football. 380 00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:11,040 Speaker 1: Not you're getting hit in the face. I didn't like that, 381 00:19:11,119 --> 00:19:12,960 Speaker 1: but I felt that in myself for you. 382 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:13,600 Speaker 2: Yeah. 383 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:17,680 Speaker 3: And then number one was the scream in the car. 384 00:19:18,520 --> 00:19:22,000 Speaker 2: That is so fucking real that you were so real 385 00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:25,600 Speaker 2: for that. That is just the fact that the first 386 00:19:25,680 --> 00:19:28,120 Speaker 2: date was so bad you have to scream in your 387 00:19:28,160 --> 00:19:31,040 Speaker 2: car on your own. Oh real, I hope. 388 00:19:31,040 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 3: I actually feel like that's the measure of a good 389 00:19:32,640 --> 00:19:33,160 Speaker 3: first date. 390 00:19:34,000 --> 00:19:36,200 Speaker 2: Screaming in the car, screaming in the car on your own. 391 00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:38,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, fuck, that's good. 392 00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:41,680 Speaker 2: I hope you never saw this man again. What a fuck. 393 00:19:42,200 --> 00:19:45,639 Speaker 3: That is why he is single. That is why he 394 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:46,159 Speaker 3: is single. 395 00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:49,159 Speaker 2: Honestly, what would you do if somebody invited you to 396 00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:51,399 Speaker 2: watch some play sport for your first date? Would you 397 00:19:51,400 --> 00:19:51,840 Speaker 2: say no? 398 00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:56,080 Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever gone to watch someone play 399 00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:58,520 Speaker 1: sport except for Rob, and I only went after like 400 00:19:58,560 --> 00:20:00,800 Speaker 1: we were dating. For like here it's a girlfriend, then 401 00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:03,080 Speaker 1: that's a girlfriend thing because that's an obligation. 402 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:05,480 Speaker 2: I think it's the last time I did that was 403 00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:07,680 Speaker 2: maybe in like high school, because you live at home, 404 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:10,840 Speaker 2: so you have to go outside and go to like 405 00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:12,639 Speaker 2: a third party. But it would also be like a 406 00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:14,600 Speaker 2: group thing, like I wasn't just there on my own. 407 00:20:15,320 --> 00:20:22,639 Speaker 2: Get bab you've got? That should have been like try 408 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:29,560 Speaker 2: hardly breathe and seeing how he reacted, and that would 409 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:31,879 Speaker 2: have been the true measure of him as a man. Yuck. 410 00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:34,160 Speaker 3: I hate that. Do you know what? 411 00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:39,440 Speaker 1: Bring back the guy with the broken finger ligaments rather that. Okay, 412 00:20:39,640 --> 00:20:44,840 Speaker 1: so we finally got a voice note because we've been begging. 413 00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:47,399 Speaker 1: So please send more voice notes to us if you 414 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:49,000 Speaker 1: want advice because it's so fun. 415 00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:52,440 Speaker 6: Or I'll or maybe some other admin person that's employed 416 00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:53,280 Speaker 6: by you guys. 417 00:20:54,440 --> 00:20:58,440 Speaker 2: False, it was me. It was. 418 00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:00,520 Speaker 3: Weird. 419 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:03,159 Speaker 2: I we reply to all of our messages, so I 420 00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:05,120 Speaker 2: just want to pop that in it. That's why they're 421 00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:05,720 Speaker 2: so unhinged. 422 00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:10,400 Speaker 6: Yeah, what I'm struggling with is being broken up from 423 00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:12,760 Speaker 6: somebody and absolutely knowing what I need to do. I 424 00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:15,080 Speaker 6: need to focus on myself and I'm fine. I am 425 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:18,240 Speaker 6: actually doing really well, but like I just can't help. 426 00:21:18,280 --> 00:21:21,040 Speaker 6: But my truth is that I don't believe their relationship's over. 427 00:21:21,160 --> 00:21:22,680 Speaker 6: I believe I'm going. 428 00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:23,480 Speaker 2: To marry this boy. 429 00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:26,200 Speaker 6: I believe we're going to have children. Like he feels 430 00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:29,040 Speaker 6: like the one he's my soul met. I'm totally in 431 00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:31,879 Speaker 6: love with him. And the reality is the sacrifices that 432 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:34,880 Speaker 6: I made, some of them I would continue to make. 433 00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:38,200 Speaker 6: He is representing Ireland at boxing, and he also has 434 00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:41,800 Speaker 6: an amazing career in the corporate world that's really unknown. 435 00:21:41,840 --> 00:21:44,520 Speaker 6: It's unheard of. His life and the way he lives 436 00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:46,439 Speaker 6: his life and the way he chases his dreams and 437 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:49,680 Speaker 6: works so hard is amazing and I'm in full support 438 00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:51,800 Speaker 6: of it. The reason I had to walk away is 439 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:56,120 Speaker 6: because after an extended period of time, my needs we're 440 00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:59,280 Speaker 6: not being met in terms of like we can't book 441 00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:02,800 Speaker 6: trips way, we can't go for spa weekends. We can 442 00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:05,159 Speaker 6: sometimes go for dinner, but we just don't do that. 443 00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:07,160 Speaker 6: We don't really have nice day and nights. I don't 444 00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:09,479 Speaker 6: get dressed up and go out. We don't do that 445 00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:11,439 Speaker 6: shit because he's constantly training. 446 00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:12,359 Speaker 2: That's fine. 447 00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:14,320 Speaker 6: I can deal with that. I would prefer to be 448 00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:16,520 Speaker 6: in a relationship where I was spoilt and where we 449 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 6: went for meals and had holidays and flights booked all 450 00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:22,560 Speaker 6: the time. Yeah, that would be stunning. But I love 451 00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:25,480 Speaker 6: him and I support his lifestyle, so I'm okay with 452 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:28,560 Speaker 6: sacrificing that side of the relationship. I can do those 453 00:22:28,560 --> 00:22:30,800 Speaker 6: things with my friends. The reason why I walked away 454 00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:35,719 Speaker 6: is because me communicating that I was feeling like an 455 00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:38,520 Speaker 6: on priority that my needs were not being met, was 456 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:42,040 Speaker 6: met with resistance from his end. He is struggling with 457 00:22:42,040 --> 00:22:44,880 Speaker 6: his own mental health. I feel like he's going through physical, emotional, 458 00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:50,439 Speaker 6: mental burnout and he didn't know how to give me 459 00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:53,080 Speaker 6: any more. His responses would have been like, I don't 460 00:22:53,119 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 6: know what more you want for me. I'm doing everything 461 00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:58,160 Speaker 6: that I can. His schedule is mental, so I can 462 00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:02,280 Speaker 6: completely empathize with that. He's also riddled with undiagnosed ALYHD, 463 00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:05,840 Speaker 6: so he struggles with basic things of like prioritization. 464 00:23:05,119 --> 00:23:06,800 Speaker 1: Blah blah blah. 465 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,480 Speaker 6: I left him. I didn't want to, but I left 466 00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:11,520 Speaker 6: him because I was like, I can't do this. Anymore. 467 00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:14,280 Speaker 6: And I deserve somebody who can show up for me 468 00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:16,520 Speaker 6: in all those nice ways, but also if they can't 469 00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:18,960 Speaker 6: at least be able to communicate and make me feel 470 00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:22,119 Speaker 6: like I'm not the problem. And I suppose my question 471 00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:26,320 Speaker 6: is just is it a really big mistake to continue 472 00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:31,560 Speaker 6: this breakup with oh the hopes that we're going to 473 00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:33,720 Speaker 6: get back together? Like is that my first error? Like 474 00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:35,920 Speaker 6: I basically am trying to figure out how the hell 475 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:38,600 Speaker 6: to continue this breakup when my good feeling tells me 476 00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:40,159 Speaker 6: that he's doing the work and that we'll find our 477 00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:43,119 Speaker 6: way back to each other. Is that stupid? Am I 478 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 6: making a mistake here? All advice would be so appreciated. 479 00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:50,359 Speaker 2: Thank you so much. I want to cry. My god, 480 00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:53,520 Speaker 2: Oh my god, I literally have like a lump in 481 00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 2: my throat in your voice and. 482 00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:03,040 Speaker 1: Oh, I just want to give her a big fucking 483 00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:04,040 Speaker 1: cuddle me too. 484 00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:06,160 Speaker 3: I'll be your Irish bucker. 485 00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:11,119 Speaker 1: I'll spoon you, I'll take you out for dinners and 486 00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:12,720 Speaker 1: you can borrow my clothes too. 487 00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:15,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, like that's a good deal. 488 00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:18,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, you can do each other's makeup and oh, darling, 489 00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:24,000 Speaker 2: I just fuck you were in the thick of it. 490 00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:29,120 Speaker 1: You were in the absolute thick of your feels right now, 491 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:30,320 Speaker 1: what do you think? 492 00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:33,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think she's in a hard place because it's 493 00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:37,479 Speaker 2: so fresh and she still loves him, and it's not 494 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 2: like he has done anything necessarily wrong. It's like you 495 00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:44,440 Speaker 2: cheated on her or something like that, where you can 496 00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:46,800 Speaker 2: sort of make a hard and fast like, Okay, I'll 497 00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:48,840 Speaker 2: just push them away. I know they're wrong for me. 498 00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:51,679 Speaker 2: There's a little bit more gray area, which I almost 499 00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:53,040 Speaker 2: think makes the breakup. 500 00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:55,680 Speaker 3: Harder one hundred percent. It's a lot easier to break 501 00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:57,000 Speaker 3: up with someone when you hate them. 502 00:24:57,320 --> 00:25:01,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think he but the way that he 503 00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:04,840 Speaker 2: responded when you shared that your needs weren't being met 504 00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:07,080 Speaker 2: and he said, oh, well, I'm doing everything I can, 505 00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:11,560 Speaker 2: when he's clearly not or just couldn't even ask you, Okay, 506 00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:13,800 Speaker 2: well what do you want me to do? What can 507 00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:17,160 Speaker 2: I do? The fact that there's not even a five 508 00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:20,959 Speaker 2: percent change in effort. Yeah, And she did say, I 509 00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:25,840 Speaker 2: know that he's now doing the work, but what is that. 510 00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:28,199 Speaker 2: I would love to know what the context is of 511 00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:32,439 Speaker 2: him doing the work, because I just don't want you 512 00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:34,359 Speaker 2: to end up back with him and then you're stuck 513 00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:37,439 Speaker 2: in the same place where you're a second priority in 514 00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:41,320 Speaker 2: somebody's life, and you should be their first priority. That 515 00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:43,280 Speaker 2: doesn't mean that they have to give up their dreams 516 00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:46,040 Speaker 2: and their career, but they should be communicating with you 517 00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:50,159 Speaker 2: and still making sure that you feel satisfied in your 518 00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:51,920 Speaker 2: needs are being met in the relationship. 519 00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, oh, I know. 520 00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:57,480 Speaker 2: And I think one of the hardest things with a 521 00:25:57,520 --> 00:26:01,080 Speaker 2: breakup is that you just you feel everything you feel, 522 00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:06,560 Speaker 2: every positive thing, that you don't really remember the bad stuff, 523 00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:08,640 Speaker 2: and you want it back so much that you kind 524 00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,679 Speaker 2: of justify some of the things that did upset you 525 00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 2: that you're like, do you know what, It's actually not 526 00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:13,840 Speaker 2: that bad that we didn't go out for dinners. 527 00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:15,480 Speaker 3: It's not that bad that we couldn't go away. 528 00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:15,840 Speaker 2: Do you know what? 529 00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:18,680 Speaker 1: I can handle that? I can deal with that because 530 00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:19,879 Speaker 1: I just want them back. 531 00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:20,479 Speaker 2: Yeah. 532 00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:24,159 Speaker 1: And I think my advice to you would be to 533 00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:27,600 Speaker 1: remember why you did walk away when you are because. 534 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:28,080 Speaker 3: Your heart broken. 535 00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:31,400 Speaker 1: And I absolutely promise you that if it is meant 536 00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:34,480 Speaker 1: to be, it will like you will find your way 537 00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:36,600 Speaker 1: back to each other. But I don't think that's right now. 538 00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:39,080 Speaker 1: I think he needs to go and do that work. 539 00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:40,600 Speaker 1: You can't help him with that work. 540 00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:42,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't hold his hand through that. 541 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:44,639 Speaker 1: He needs to go and do that and realize what 542 00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:48,080 Speaker 1: his priorities are in life. And I think you need 543 00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:51,119 Speaker 1: to do the same, as hard as it is. Just 544 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:55,200 Speaker 1: really spend some time with your girlfriends, watch Sex and 545 00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:57,040 Speaker 1: the City, bridget Jones's diary. 546 00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:59,879 Speaker 3: Yeah, and have some space. 547 00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:03,800 Speaker 1: I think absolutely block him for a little bit, because 548 00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:05,880 Speaker 1: if you haven't already, I can't remember if she said 549 00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:09,280 Speaker 1: she did, I don't think she has. But put as 550 00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,200 Speaker 1: much distance between the two of you as you can, 551 00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:14,560 Speaker 1: because I promise you as well if you if you 552 00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:17,320 Speaker 1: don't get back together, you will forget what it was 553 00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:20,440 Speaker 1: like to feel like loving him. You'll remember you did. 554 00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:22,760 Speaker 1: You'll be like, yeah, no, I did love him, and 555 00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:23,760 Speaker 1: that is like. 556 00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:27,560 Speaker 2: The time Hue All it's so true. But at least 557 00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:30,119 Speaker 2: he didn't break his finger off ingering you. No, No, 558 00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:33,920 Speaker 2: there's always an up exactly. That's the lining of the story. 559 00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:35,920 Speaker 2: Oh what a journey. 560 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:41,080 Speaker 1: So that is a wrap for our Dating Horror Stories episode. 561 00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:44,040 Speaker 1: I just want to send you all big kisses and 562 00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:48,520 Speaker 1: cardles to Valentine's Day. Some of those were absolutely fucking 563 00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:51,800 Speaker 1: All of those were ten out of ten. But the 564 00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:53,400 Speaker 1: giggles thank you. 565 00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:57,760 Speaker 2: That was amazing and Happy Valentine's Day, chickies. Yeah, Happy 566 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:02,000 Speaker 2: Valentine's Day, and make sure to listen to our next episode. 567 00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:05,040 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, just dropping on Thursday, because if you are 568 00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:08,840 Speaker 2: having any sort of dating or relationship conundrum, we are 569 00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:12,400 Speaker 2: about to get into it and give you some solid advice. 570 00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:14,840 Speaker 3: We have a dating a relationship coach coming on the show. 571 00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:19,480 Speaker 2: Yeah. So, if our advice in this didn't, our advice 572 00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:23,080 Speaker 2: was incredibly professional. Now, but thanks to every chick who 573 00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:25,440 Speaker 2: wrote in, we really appreciate it, and thanks to you 574 00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:27,160 Speaker 2: chicks for having us in your ear holes. We'd love 575 00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,160 Speaker 2: to be here, and thank you to m ik Mate 576 00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,840 Speaker 2: for making today's episode happened. Love you cheeks, Love your 577 00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 2: cheeky is