1 00:00:05,881 --> 00:00:13,241 Speaker 1: Apogee Production. Welcome to the Sheep Risers Podcast. I'm Ashy 2 00:00:13,281 --> 00:00:16,881 Speaker 1: and I'm Tiana. This podcast is about female empowerment. 3 00:00:16,441 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 2: And encouraging you to be your biggest, boldest, and most 4 00:00:19,201 --> 00:00:20,801 Speaker 2: authentic version of yourself. 5 00:00:20,961 --> 00:00:23,281 Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level. 6 00:00:23,321 --> 00:00:26,241 Speaker 1: We're gonna laugh, cry, and talk about the topics everyone 7 00:00:26,241 --> 00:00:27,801 Speaker 1: else is too afraid to talk about. 8 00:00:28,401 --> 00:00:30,761 Speaker 2: Get ready for your next level of self. 9 00:00:31,081 --> 00:00:33,801 Speaker 1: Welcome to another episode guys todaybe are we talking about 10 00:00:34,361 --> 00:00:37,921 Speaker 1: feeling stuck the thing unfulfilled, Like you're not making progress 11 00:00:38,001 --> 00:00:39,481 Speaker 1: and you're just in a bit of a rut, which 12 00:00:39,521 --> 00:00:42,481 Speaker 1: we have all being through before. So we want to 13 00:00:42,521 --> 00:00:44,441 Speaker 1: talk about what that feels like, the things to look 14 00:00:44,480 --> 00:00:46,561 Speaker 1: out for and how to kind of crawl you away 15 00:00:46,561 --> 00:00:46,841 Speaker 1: out of that. 16 00:00:47,001 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, we want to give you some tools, some mindset tools, 17 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:51,521 Speaker 2: some little things that you can implement to really help 18 00:00:51,561 --> 00:00:53,761 Speaker 2: you come out of that place and to just feel 19 00:00:53,881 --> 00:00:57,201 Speaker 2: like your fine, not playful, light self again. Like sometimes 20 00:00:57,200 --> 00:00:59,201 Speaker 2: life gets a little bit heavy. We want to help 21 00:00:59,241 --> 00:01:01,961 Speaker 2: you bring more lightness, more play back into everyday life. 22 00:01:02,041 --> 00:01:06,081 Speaker 1: Yeah, so let's start from the beginning. If you feel stuck, 23 00:01:06,161 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 1: I know for me it's when I feel dead inside 24 00:01:08,401 --> 00:01:10,640 Speaker 1: and I'm not making progress. When I wake up and 25 00:01:10,681 --> 00:01:12,401 Speaker 1: I'm like, fuck, I don't want to get up, I 26 00:01:12,441 --> 00:01:14,761 Speaker 1: can't bothered, I don't know what I'm doing. I procrastinate, 27 00:01:14,761 --> 00:01:16,961 Speaker 1: I feel like my to do list is massive, I 28 00:01:16,961 --> 00:01:18,840 Speaker 1: feel overwhelmed, I don't know where to start, and I 29 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:22,001 Speaker 1: just feel like I'm in a funk. The first thing 30 00:01:22,121 --> 00:01:24,681 Speaker 1: I need to do is physically move my body. That 31 00:01:24,801 --> 00:01:26,521 Speaker 1: just gets me in such a good state where I 32 00:01:26,521 --> 00:01:29,840 Speaker 1: can actually think about what's important, what steps I'm going 33 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:32,481 Speaker 1: to take, and how I'm going to move through it. 34 00:01:32,920 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 1: That's the first thing I do whenever I start to 35 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:37,481 Speaker 1: feel like I'm in that funky energy, it's movement. And 36 00:01:37,481 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 1: that's why it's so just important for me to move 37 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:41,001 Speaker 1: every single day, even if it's a ten minute walk 38 00:01:41,041 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 1: down the road with taco. Just moving my body helps 39 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:45,481 Speaker 1: me get in that good state. How do you feel 40 00:01:45,521 --> 00:01:46,481 Speaker 1: when you're in a funk. 41 00:01:47,241 --> 00:01:49,880 Speaker 2: When I'm in a funk, I feel when you said 42 00:01:50,121 --> 00:01:51,521 Speaker 2: I don't want to get out of bed in the morning. 43 00:01:51,641 --> 00:01:53,281 Speaker 2: That's how it feels for me. It's almost like you 44 00:01:53,281 --> 00:01:57,001 Speaker 2: wake up in the morning and you feel defeated almost. 45 00:01:57,401 --> 00:02:01,961 Speaker 2: It's like this overwhelming feeling of like defeat. I don't 46 00:02:02,001 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 2: want to get out of bed today. I feel lost. 47 00:02:04,641 --> 00:02:07,121 Speaker 2: I don't which direction to go in. I feel like 48 00:02:07,161 --> 00:02:09,881 Speaker 2: my options are scarce. It feels like actually there are 49 00:02:09,921 --> 00:02:13,561 Speaker 2: no options, and it's just like, oh, today is just 50 00:02:13,641 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 2: another day. 51 00:02:14,281 --> 00:02:15,841 Speaker 1: It feels such a lack of mindset. 52 00:02:15,881 --> 00:02:17,921 Speaker 2: Isn't it a bit like groundhog Day? Oh? 53 00:02:18,081 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 1: I guess how do I get out of this? 54 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:23,081 Speaker 2: And I think, at least in my own experience, when 55 00:02:23,081 --> 00:02:26,880 Speaker 2: I've had moments like this, it's because I've felt unfulfilled 56 00:02:26,921 --> 00:02:28,921 Speaker 2: in my current life. The things that I'm doing day 57 00:02:28,921 --> 00:02:31,801 Speaker 2: to day don't fulfill me. Maybe my work doesn't fulfill me, 58 00:02:32,161 --> 00:02:36,321 Speaker 2: or maybe I'm just feeling lonely and uninspired and I'm 59 00:02:36,361 --> 00:02:39,321 Speaker 2: not truly working towards things that like genuinely light me 60 00:02:39,441 --> 00:02:43,681 Speaker 2: up inside. And I think feeling stuck and feeling stagnant 61 00:02:43,921 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 2: is this energy of like a lack of movement in life, 62 00:02:47,481 --> 00:02:50,121 Speaker 2: you know, a lack of movement forward, a lack of 63 00:02:50,161 --> 00:02:53,881 Speaker 2: movement towards working towards a goal, a desire, a passion project, 64 00:02:54,041 --> 00:02:56,521 Speaker 2: or you know, having things that you can do and 65 00:02:56,641 --> 00:02:59,241 Speaker 2: experience with people that you love. When we lack all 66 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:01,520 Speaker 2: of those things, what is life filled. 67 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:03,401 Speaker 1: With one percent. I think we have to be really 68 00:03:03,441 --> 00:03:05,800 Speaker 1: careful of the stories that we tell us. When you 69 00:03:05,841 --> 00:03:08,240 Speaker 1: were talking then, it just reminded me of last year 70 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:10,520 Speaker 1: when IN felt like ground whole day with Baseline and 71 00:03:10,561 --> 00:03:13,400 Speaker 1: I really wasn't enjoying it anymore. But I would tell 72 00:03:13,441 --> 00:03:15,961 Speaker 1: myself a story. You know, you're just having a rough week, 73 00:03:16,041 --> 00:03:18,641 Speaker 1: or this is what owning a business is like, You've 74 00:03:18,641 --> 00:03:20,281 Speaker 1: got to do this, You've got a team to support, 75 00:03:20,321 --> 00:03:22,721 Speaker 1: this is how you make money. You'd be an idiot 76 00:03:22,761 --> 00:03:24,281 Speaker 1: to give up the financial gains that you get for 77 00:03:24,361 --> 00:03:27,041 Speaker 1: having a business. I had all these stories, but I 78 00:03:27,081 --> 00:03:28,801 Speaker 1: was waking up each day just not wanting to go 79 00:03:28,841 --> 00:03:31,361 Speaker 1: to work. And I would try and get their energy 80 00:03:31,401 --> 00:03:33,081 Speaker 1: and like move my body and do all the things 81 00:03:33,121 --> 00:03:35,081 Speaker 1: I knew how to do, but it just at the 82 00:03:35,161 --> 00:03:36,961 Speaker 1: end of the day it wasn't aligned anymore. And it 83 00:03:37,001 --> 00:03:40,281 Speaker 1: took me having a brain aneurism and the universe being 84 00:03:40,321 --> 00:03:42,681 Speaker 1: able to make me fully stop, to actually take your breath, 85 00:03:42,681 --> 00:03:45,641 Speaker 1: to go, fuck, what are you doing? But I remember 86 00:03:45,681 --> 00:03:49,441 Speaker 1: that feeling so heavy, and once I had the space 87 00:03:49,481 --> 00:03:51,241 Speaker 1: at the hospital to think of everything, I was like, Wow, 88 00:03:51,241 --> 00:03:53,881 Speaker 1: you've really been telling yourself a ton of bullshit stories 89 00:03:53,881 --> 00:03:56,121 Speaker 1: and you have to just continue doing this because that's 90 00:03:56,161 --> 00:03:57,801 Speaker 1: just what you're meant to do. And other people would 91 00:03:57,841 --> 00:03:59,801 Speaker 1: dream of this opportunity. Other people would love to have 92 00:03:59,841 --> 00:04:03,081 Speaker 1: the job you have. You're so lucky. But it didn't 93 00:04:03,121 --> 00:04:06,041 Speaker 1: feel good, so I had to make change. But the 94 00:04:06,081 --> 00:04:09,041 Speaker 1: stories we tell ourselves can really be like a big, 95 00:04:09,081 --> 00:04:10,401 Speaker 1: heavy chain holding us back. 96 00:04:10,721 --> 00:04:13,401 Speaker 2: That was such a pivotal moment for you, that transition 97 00:04:13,521 --> 00:04:16,001 Speaker 2: from baseline to where you are now, Like I just 98 00:04:16,041 --> 00:04:18,641 Speaker 2: remember it being such a pivotal thing. After brain aneurysm, 99 00:04:18,841 --> 00:04:22,801 Speaker 2: you just immediately having this like epiphany, like holy shit, 100 00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:24,481 Speaker 2: I'm not doing what I need to be doing, Like 101 00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:26,881 Speaker 2: this isn't what I want to be doing in life. 102 00:04:27,401 --> 00:04:28,401 Speaker 2: I want to live my life. 103 00:04:28,521 --> 00:04:30,201 Speaker 1: I think you're one of the first people I told 104 00:04:30,241 --> 00:04:32,880 Speaker 1: that I wasn't enjoying baseline. I wanted to close it down. 105 00:04:32,921 --> 00:04:35,561 Speaker 1: And this is before my brain aneurysm. We hadn't been 106 00:04:35,561 --> 00:04:38,241 Speaker 1: friends for that long, but a friendship from the moment 107 00:04:38,241 --> 00:04:41,080 Speaker 1: we met, it was just open everything up. It almost 108 00:04:41,081 --> 00:04:44,921 Speaker 1: felt safer and just nicer because we weren't in each 109 00:04:44,961 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 1: other's circles. Yeah, I remember telling you, and I remember 110 00:04:47,880 --> 00:04:49,721 Speaker 1: afterwards getting in the car and I was like, what 111 00:04:49,801 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 1: did I just tell her? I did, and I just 112 00:04:53,121 --> 00:04:55,841 Speaker 1: said something out loud that's obviously been sitting true for me, 113 00:04:55,880 --> 00:04:58,401 Speaker 1: but that made it so much more real, and I panicked. 114 00:04:58,721 --> 00:05:00,521 Speaker 1: I remember saying to you, Oh, everything we spoke about 115 00:05:00,521 --> 00:05:03,481 Speaker 1: this morning, can you not tell anyone? I love actively? 116 00:05:03,641 --> 00:05:05,561 Speaker 1: I love my business. And I started to tell the 117 00:05:05,601 --> 00:05:07,121 Speaker 1: stories of like you're so lucky, and I was like, 118 00:05:07,161 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: didn't want to face that. It wasn't feeling good. Having 119 00:05:10,361 --> 00:05:12,960 Speaker 1: clarity and being in alignment is so important and I 120 00:05:13,001 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 1: didn't realize that until I went through that whole process. 121 00:05:16,201 --> 00:05:20,001 Speaker 1: And I remember an opportunity came up within the podcasting space, 122 00:05:20,081 --> 00:05:21,481 Speaker 1: not for the podcast I was doing. It was an 123 00:05:21,481 --> 00:05:24,841 Speaker 1: oportunity to travel to Tasmania with Jay and be a 124 00:05:24,921 --> 00:05:27,841 Speaker 1: host for this big podcast. And I remember just going 125 00:05:27,841 --> 00:05:29,721 Speaker 1: home to Steve and I was like, I just fucking 126 00:05:29,761 --> 00:05:32,561 Speaker 1: love podcasting so much. If I could just do that 127 00:05:32,601 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 1: as a job, I'd be the happiest person ever. He 128 00:05:34,841 --> 00:05:36,921 Speaker 1: was like, really, that's interesting, Like you wouldn't do actively 129 00:05:37,001 --> 00:05:39,121 Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, I would. I think. I 130 00:05:39,161 --> 00:05:42,441 Speaker 1: remember just feeling so confused because I thought I had 131 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:44,801 Speaker 1: to keep doing what I was doing because of those 132 00:05:44,801 --> 00:05:48,041 Speaker 1: stories I was telling, But these little moments kept happening 133 00:05:48,041 --> 00:05:50,841 Speaker 1: that made me realize, oh, this just isn't in alignment. 134 00:05:51,521 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 1: So then when I had the brain diagnosis and I 135 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:56,001 Speaker 1: had that forty eight hours in hospital, and I realized 136 00:05:56,001 --> 00:05:58,561 Speaker 1: how stressed I was and how much this disalignment was 137 00:05:58,601 --> 00:06:01,481 Speaker 1: causing me stress and make me not enjoy my day 138 00:06:01,521 --> 00:06:04,201 Speaker 1: to day. It was a very easy decision. Yeah, okay, 139 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:07,041 Speaker 1: and then once I free from that, I was like, oh, 140 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:08,841 Speaker 1: I've got space to think about what I want to do. 141 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 1: And it was just podcast, podcup podcast. All I wanted 142 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:12,760 Speaker 1: to do was sit in the podcast for even just 143 00:06:12,801 --> 00:06:14,961 Speaker 1: talk and yeah, all day I just knew this is 144 00:06:14,961 --> 00:06:16,520 Speaker 1: what I wanted to do, and I missed events and 145 00:06:16,521 --> 00:06:18,481 Speaker 1: I thought there were so many different avenues I could 146 00:06:18,481 --> 00:06:21,481 Speaker 1: go down with podcasting. It excited me so much and 147 00:06:21,521 --> 00:06:23,281 Speaker 1: I finally felt free that I could be like, Oh, 148 00:06:23,601 --> 00:06:25,401 Speaker 1: I don't just have to be the fitness girl. I 149 00:06:25,440 --> 00:06:28,121 Speaker 1: was put into this box for so long and people 150 00:06:28,161 --> 00:06:30,281 Speaker 1: loved me for that, and that's how grow my followings. 151 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:32,121 Speaker 1: There was a lot of fear that came up, Yeah, 152 00:06:32,361 --> 00:06:35,041 Speaker 1: if I change and go down this direction and give 153 00:06:35,121 --> 00:06:37,761 Speaker 1: up this Am I still going to be loved? Am 154 00:06:37,761 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 1: I still going to be accepted? What are they going 155 00:06:39,401 --> 00:06:41,760 Speaker 1: to think of me? That was a whole thing to 156 00:06:41,801 --> 00:06:45,561 Speaker 1: work through. But once I decided that, I all of 157 00:06:45,601 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: a sudden felt unstuck and I felt free and I 158 00:06:48,761 --> 00:06:51,441 Speaker 1: had clarity, and I started to make progress, moving forward 159 00:06:51,841 --> 00:06:55,081 Speaker 1: doing something that really lit something up inside me. And 160 00:06:55,121 --> 00:06:57,761 Speaker 1: I could still make impacts a huge high value of mine. 161 00:06:57,801 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 1: I could still make impact, I could still contribute, I 162 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:03,161 Speaker 1: could still have so much connection with my audience. It 163 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:06,521 Speaker 1: just looks really different. But I had to get unstuck 164 00:07:06,521 --> 00:07:10,401 Speaker 1: and make massive, massive change to be able to move forward. 165 00:07:10,761 --> 00:07:12,721 Speaker 2: And do you think there was like a huge contrast 166 00:07:12,721 --> 00:07:15,121 Speaker 2: between like getting up in the morning to get ready 167 00:07:15,161 --> 00:07:17,761 Speaker 2: to go to baseline and then getting ready now, And. 168 00:07:17,681 --> 00:07:19,801 Speaker 1: It's so different. It feels like I sometimes I have 169 00:07:19,801 --> 00:07:21,801 Speaker 1: to pinch myself. I'm like, I feel like I'm a 170 00:07:21,921 --> 00:07:25,441 Speaker 1: kid playing because it doesn't feel like work. And I've 171 00:07:25,481 --> 00:07:29,201 Speaker 1: always thought work had to feel hard, blood, sweat and tears, 172 00:07:29,481 --> 00:07:33,681 Speaker 1: really long hours, a lot of like brain power to 173 00:07:33,721 --> 00:07:36,241 Speaker 1: be a successful business owner. That's what I've always thought. 174 00:07:36,401 --> 00:07:38,561 Speaker 1: And they're always smart people, and that's just not me. 175 00:07:39,441 --> 00:07:43,160 Speaker 1: This is still a business, but it feels so different different, 176 00:07:43,161 --> 00:07:45,721 Speaker 1: and yeah, we're still in the early stages of making this, 177 00:07:45,841 --> 00:07:48,961 Speaker 1: you know, a big income or whatever, but we're making progress. Ye, 178 00:07:49,121 --> 00:07:51,641 Speaker 1: every month the numbers are higher. There's more money, there's 179 00:07:51,681 --> 00:07:55,041 Speaker 1: more opportunity, there's more freedom, there's more debt, there's more connection, 180 00:07:55,081 --> 00:07:57,801 Speaker 1: there's more impact, there's more people were meeting, like, there's 181 00:07:57,841 --> 00:07:59,961 Speaker 1: so much growth in it. Yeah, it just looks really 182 00:08:00,041 --> 00:08:03,521 Speaker 1: different to owning an active web business. It's cool. Yeah, 183 00:08:03,521 --> 00:08:04,281 Speaker 1: it's really cool. 184 00:08:04,401 --> 00:08:06,441 Speaker 2: It's like not mad either of the stages of your 185 00:08:06,441 --> 00:08:09,641 Speaker 2: life wrong th recognizing like how heavy that feeling of 186 00:08:09,681 --> 00:08:12,841 Speaker 2: feeling stuck and feel and how much also fear it 187 00:08:13,041 --> 00:08:15,521 Speaker 2: comes around that feeling of feeling much stuff. It's like 188 00:08:15,601 --> 00:08:18,201 Speaker 2: fear of making a decision that might completely change the 189 00:08:18,241 --> 00:08:20,921 Speaker 2: trajectory of your life, which is often why we feel stuck, 190 00:08:20,921 --> 00:08:23,641 Speaker 2: because it's the fear surrounding those experiences that we go, 191 00:08:23,961 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 2: holy shit, if I change, things are going to change, 192 00:08:27,201 --> 00:08:29,121 Speaker 2: and sometimes whether the change is good for us are 193 00:08:29,121 --> 00:08:31,321 Speaker 2: bad for us. It is terrifying. 194 00:08:31,441 --> 00:08:33,361 Speaker 1: It was really terrifying. And you know what I learned 195 00:08:33,361 --> 00:08:35,721 Speaker 1: being in hospital too, and being obviously forced to stay 196 00:08:35,721 --> 00:08:37,561 Speaker 1: there for forty eight hours with all my testing is. 197 00:08:38,281 --> 00:08:40,921 Speaker 1: I didn't give myself any time to actually sit with 198 00:08:40,961 --> 00:08:43,481 Speaker 1: how I was feeling. As soon as that uncomfortable feeling 199 00:08:43,521 --> 00:08:45,041 Speaker 1: came up, since I told you, I was like, I 200 00:08:45,081 --> 00:08:46,721 Speaker 1: don't know if I want to do this anymore. Shut 201 00:08:46,721 --> 00:08:49,081 Speaker 1: it down, get back to work, shut it down, go home, 202 00:08:49,121 --> 00:08:51,441 Speaker 1: beer mum. I just kept myself busy because it was 203 00:08:51,481 --> 00:08:55,681 Speaker 1: so uncomfortable sitting in hospital. I'm like, there's only so 204 00:08:55,761 --> 00:08:58,681 Speaker 1: much scrolling you can do before you you know, I 205 00:08:58,721 --> 00:09:01,401 Speaker 1: had to really face myself and ask all those really 206 00:09:01,441 --> 00:09:04,441 Speaker 1: uncomfortable questions and I just allowed it. I was like, ooh, 207 00:09:04,441 --> 00:09:06,281 Speaker 1: this is the time. You don't get to do this 208 00:09:06,321 --> 00:09:07,881 Speaker 1: at home because it is kids running around. You do 209 00:09:07,921 --> 00:09:10,841 Speaker 1: have a business to run, You got your mum had on. Yes, 210 00:09:11,001 --> 00:09:12,961 Speaker 1: That'd be the biggest piece of advice I would give 211 00:09:12,961 --> 00:09:15,801 Speaker 1: for anyone feeling really stuck right now, is just to 212 00:09:15,841 --> 00:09:18,841 Speaker 1: actually carve out some time where you can sit with yourself, 213 00:09:18,881 --> 00:09:22,441 Speaker 1: whether it's in the sunshine at the beach, sitting in nature, journaling, 214 00:09:22,561 --> 00:09:25,921 Speaker 1: and just sit with and be really fucking honest with 215 00:09:26,121 --> 00:09:28,641 Speaker 1: where you're at and how you're feeling. Are you happy 216 00:09:28,641 --> 00:09:30,241 Speaker 1: being a stay at home mum or would you like 217 00:09:30,281 --> 00:09:32,681 Speaker 1: to go back to work? Are you happy running this 218 00:09:32,761 --> 00:09:35,441 Speaker 1: corporate job with no freedom but you're in big money, 219 00:09:35,481 --> 00:09:37,361 Speaker 1: or would you like something a little bit more free flowing. 220 00:09:37,921 --> 00:09:39,881 Speaker 1: Are you really happy in your relationship? Would you feel 221 00:09:39,921 --> 00:09:42,641 Speaker 1: like it's at point where there's no more growth than that? 222 00:09:42,961 --> 00:09:45,601 Speaker 1: Do you feel yeah? Do you feel like you're stagnant 223 00:09:45,641 --> 00:09:48,681 Speaker 1: in that? Really be honest with yourself and let those 224 00:09:48,721 --> 00:09:51,441 Speaker 1: feelings come up, and then you can have clarity around 225 00:09:51,521 --> 00:09:53,401 Speaker 1: what you do with that. It's always a choice. 226 00:09:53,721 --> 00:09:56,441 Speaker 2: It's like being okay with what you might find. 227 00:09:56,681 --> 00:09:58,641 Speaker 1: Yeah, don't just scary, I get it. 228 00:09:58,881 --> 00:10:01,521 Speaker 2: No, but don't fear what comes up. It's like, use it, 229 00:10:01,601 --> 00:10:05,001 Speaker 2: leverage curiosity, just get curious and like it doesn't match 230 00:10:05,241 --> 00:10:07,721 Speaker 2: what you explore or you know what option you might 231 00:10:07,761 --> 00:10:10,281 Speaker 2: want to go in, whether it's your career or your relationship. 232 00:10:10,721 --> 00:10:13,641 Speaker 2: Be okay to explore both options, whether you want to stay, 233 00:10:13,641 --> 00:10:15,841 Speaker 2: whether you want to go. Pros and cons, Like what 234 00:10:15,841 --> 00:10:18,041 Speaker 2: would it look like for both sides? What do you 235 00:10:18,161 --> 00:10:21,121 Speaker 2: really want? Like, that's how you get to know what 236 00:10:21,201 --> 00:10:23,641 Speaker 2: you really want out of life. And it's really important 237 00:10:23,641 --> 00:10:25,921 Speaker 2: that we allow ourselves to get clarity but also not 238 00:10:25,961 --> 00:10:27,681 Speaker 2: put pressure on yourself for clarity. 239 00:10:27,921 --> 00:10:30,601 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, explore it, have fun with your time. 240 00:10:30,761 --> 00:10:31,921 Speaker 2: Yeah, give yourself time. 241 00:10:32,081 --> 00:10:34,401 Speaker 1: And you know what too, Staying where I was was 242 00:10:34,561 --> 00:10:37,881 Speaker 1: going to be hard, taking a risk and changing my 243 00:10:37,921 --> 00:10:41,641 Speaker 1: whole life hard. Yeah, it's in that moment, it's like, Okay, well, 244 00:10:41,641 --> 00:10:43,681 Speaker 1: which heart am I going to choose? What's going to 245 00:10:43,721 --> 00:10:47,521 Speaker 1: benefit my future the most? Both are uncomfortable, Both are 246 00:10:47,561 --> 00:10:49,321 Speaker 1: going to rattle me. But I'm going to choose the 247 00:10:49,361 --> 00:10:51,801 Speaker 1: hard that feels more aligned and then I know that 248 00:10:51,841 --> 00:10:54,001 Speaker 1: will benefit And it's meeting me where I'm at right now, 249 00:10:54,081 --> 00:10:55,401 Speaker 1: not where I was two years ago. 250 00:10:55,761 --> 00:10:58,401 Speaker 2: Permission to grow, Permission to evolve. You're a new person 251 00:10:58,481 --> 00:11:01,001 Speaker 2: every single time that you change and grow, and like 252 00:11:01,081 --> 00:11:04,601 Speaker 2: being willing to choose yourself over what other people might 253 00:11:04,641 --> 00:11:06,361 Speaker 2: have to say around that change in growth. 254 00:11:06,521 --> 00:11:08,081 Speaker 1: Yeah, as you're congruent. 255 00:11:08,241 --> 00:11:10,521 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's congruent with what you want or your heart 256 00:11:10,561 --> 00:11:14,001 Speaker 2: desires and needs. And it's okay that that changes. If 257 00:11:14,041 --> 00:11:16,801 Speaker 2: we hate the discomfort that we're feeling right now, Okay, 258 00:11:16,801 --> 00:11:18,521 Speaker 2: what's going to be the action that I can take 259 00:11:18,561 --> 00:11:21,001 Speaker 2: to get me out of this place of discomfort? Well, 260 00:11:21,041 --> 00:11:23,881 Speaker 2: it's doing the hard thing so that I can create ease, 261 00:11:24,321 --> 00:11:25,801 Speaker 2: so it's instead of it being the problem. 262 00:11:25,881 --> 00:11:28,041 Speaker 1: What if that was the solution. Oh my god, Mike, 263 00:11:28,161 --> 00:11:29,081 Speaker 1: drop game changer. 264 00:11:29,161 --> 00:11:31,641 Speaker 2: Right, And then, like what we were talking about earlier, 265 00:11:32,121 --> 00:11:36,121 Speaker 2: you can change, like give yourself permission to change. Just 266 00:11:36,161 --> 00:11:39,441 Speaker 2: because you advocated for one thing ten years ago, five 267 00:11:39,521 --> 00:11:42,601 Speaker 2: years ago, two years ago, fucking three days ago, it 268 00:11:42,641 --> 00:11:45,841 Speaker 2: doesn't matter. You can choose to change in this very 269 00:11:45,841 --> 00:11:48,801 Speaker 2: moment simply because in your brain you decided you were 270 00:11:48,841 --> 00:11:51,801 Speaker 2: different now exactly, simply because in your mind you decided, 271 00:11:51,961 --> 00:11:55,361 Speaker 2: I actually don't resonate with that anymore. I actually I 272 00:11:55,481 --> 00:11:57,761 Speaker 2: changed my mind. I actually don't believe in that. Wow, 273 00:11:57,801 --> 00:12:01,881 Speaker 2: I changed my mind. Everything that happened from here in 274 00:12:01,921 --> 00:12:04,961 Speaker 2: the past actually is irrelevant. Yeah, none of it matters. 275 00:12:05,121 --> 00:12:07,521 Speaker 2: But we hold onto it, don't we We hold on 276 00:12:07,561 --> 00:12:09,401 Speaker 2: to it because we think I've been this way for 277 00:12:09,481 --> 00:12:11,721 Speaker 2: so long that now that's right. Now I need to 278 00:12:11,761 --> 00:12:14,921 Speaker 2: continue being this way. But that's what keeps us stagnant 279 00:12:15,081 --> 00:12:17,841 Speaker 2: a lot of the times. Fearing what other people think 280 00:12:17,881 --> 00:12:20,761 Speaker 2: about us will keep us more stagnant than actually us 281 00:12:20,841 --> 00:12:21,361 Speaker 2: not changing. 282 00:12:21,481 --> 00:12:23,601 Speaker 1: Isn't that fucked up too? We're so worried about what 283 00:12:23,601 --> 00:12:26,361 Speaker 1: other people think of us. We will continue to choose 284 00:12:26,521 --> 00:12:30,081 Speaker 1: pain and suffering and discomfort because of what old made 285 00:12:30,121 --> 00:12:32,361 Speaker 1: at work might say, or Sally Underscore eighty eight says 286 00:12:32,361 --> 00:12:35,001 Speaker 1: on the line, or what fucking mum or Grandma things 287 00:12:35,041 --> 00:12:37,201 Speaker 1: of us, or choose to stay in that pain. 288 00:12:37,121 --> 00:12:38,721 Speaker 2: Or our friend that we drink with on the weekend 289 00:12:38,761 --> 00:12:40,681 Speaker 2: and we're scared of their judgment because we're changing and 290 00:12:40,721 --> 00:12:43,321 Speaker 2: becoming a different version that they don't resonate with. Like, 291 00:12:43,481 --> 00:12:46,081 Speaker 2: all that matters is what you choose from right in 292 00:12:46,121 --> 00:12:49,561 Speaker 2: this moment, actually not even in the future. The only 293 00:12:49,561 --> 00:12:51,001 Speaker 2: thing that matters is what you choose in the next 294 00:12:51,041 --> 00:12:53,881 Speaker 2: twenty four hours. Definitely imagine how much less pressure you 295 00:12:53,881 --> 00:12:55,921 Speaker 2: would feel to just show up and do the things 296 00:12:55,921 --> 00:12:58,441 Speaker 2: that you want to do that make you fucking happy 297 00:12:59,041 --> 00:13:00,201 Speaker 2: in the next twenty four hours. 298 00:13:00,241 --> 00:13:02,841 Speaker 1: And who are you living for? Like us having this conversation, 299 00:13:02,881 --> 00:13:04,721 Speaker 1: it's just like, I hope this lands for everyone listening. 300 00:13:04,761 --> 00:13:08,561 Speaker 1: Who actually living for? Are you choosing your life decisions 301 00:13:08,561 --> 00:13:11,241 Speaker 1: based on what everyone else thinks of you? If I 302 00:13:11,321 --> 00:13:12,681 Speaker 1: was to do that, I wouldn't be here today. If 303 00:13:12,681 --> 00:13:14,441 Speaker 1: I was to listen to everyone online that told me 304 00:13:15,121 --> 00:13:17,161 Speaker 1: not to do this, not to do that, that shit 305 00:13:17,281 --> 00:13:20,441 Speaker 1: that's wrong, whatever. Oh my god, I would live in 306 00:13:20,601 --> 00:13:24,161 Speaker 1: so much regret, so much regret. Even this is like, 307 00:13:24,241 --> 00:13:26,121 Speaker 1: I've done a couple of different podcasts and the amount 308 00:13:26,161 --> 00:13:28,321 Speaker 1: of shit I copped when we started this new podcast. 309 00:13:28,441 --> 00:13:30,881 Speaker 1: Here she goes again. Oh man, I'm not listening to 310 00:13:30,921 --> 00:13:34,081 Speaker 1: you look at my past as a failure. All of 311 00:13:34,081 --> 00:13:36,361 Speaker 1: that has led me to be able to Bean's position 312 00:13:36,401 --> 00:13:38,281 Speaker 1: to do a fucking good job of this podcast because 313 00:13:38,281 --> 00:13:40,681 Speaker 1: I had the practice runs, you know, and you can 314 00:13:40,721 --> 00:13:42,921 Speaker 1: apply that to all areas of your life. 315 00:13:43,441 --> 00:13:45,761 Speaker 2: So cool, but irrelevant people are just haten being for 316 00:13:45,801 --> 00:13:49,241 Speaker 2: the sake of it's irrelevant. People's words don't matter. They 317 00:13:49,241 --> 00:13:50,801 Speaker 2: really don't, not unless you give them weight. 318 00:13:51,001 --> 00:13:53,241 Speaker 1: But you stop living your life for other people? What 319 00:13:53,281 --> 00:13:56,281 Speaker 1: do you actually want? If you're feeling stuck, probably is 320 00:13:56,281 --> 00:13:58,401 Speaker 1: because you're so concerned what everyone else is thinking, or 321 00:13:58,441 --> 00:14:00,561 Speaker 1: because you think you have to stay or remain the 322 00:14:00,561 --> 00:14:02,201 Speaker 1: same that who you were a year ago or five 323 00:14:02,281 --> 00:14:04,041 Speaker 1: years ago. Because you said you're gonna do something or 324 00:14:04,041 --> 00:14:05,441 Speaker 1: commit to something, go to you. You need to do 325 00:14:05,481 --> 00:14:08,721 Speaker 1: this job, fulfill this jobs, commit to the marriage because 326 00:14:08,761 --> 00:14:10,801 Speaker 1: you said your vows. Yeah, if you fucking change your mind, 327 00:14:10,841 --> 00:14:11,561 Speaker 1: you've changed your mind. 328 00:14:11,641 --> 00:14:13,961 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, or even what is it called I can't 329 00:14:13,961 --> 00:14:17,241 Speaker 2: remember this saying it's where you invest time, and then 330 00:14:17,281 --> 00:14:19,161 Speaker 2: you're like, because I've invested all this time, I have 331 00:14:19,241 --> 00:14:22,041 Speaker 2: to see it through. But oftentimes that's not always the case. 332 00:14:22,241 --> 00:14:24,961 Speaker 2: It really is dependent on the situation, you know, like say, 333 00:14:24,961 --> 00:14:26,881 Speaker 2: for example, something, oh share, I want to share two 334 00:14:26,921 --> 00:14:29,401 Speaker 2: things with you guys, actually and one the second one 335 00:14:29,441 --> 00:14:31,401 Speaker 2: I haven't actually voiced out loud other than to Ashy 336 00:14:31,521 --> 00:14:35,281 Speaker 2: so super vulnerable. But when I was in my relationship, 337 00:14:35,321 --> 00:14:36,961 Speaker 2: like over a year ago, and I was getting to 338 00:14:37,001 --> 00:14:38,961 Speaker 2: the point of wanting to leave, I felt really stuck 339 00:14:38,961 --> 00:14:41,201 Speaker 2: in that relationship, like I was like a shell of 340 00:14:41,241 --> 00:14:44,441 Speaker 2: a version of myself. Hey, Ashi, like I had lost myself. 341 00:14:44,441 --> 00:14:46,401 Speaker 2: You even said to me many times, like you've lost 342 00:14:46,401 --> 00:14:49,441 Speaker 2: your spark, Tiana, Like that's sparking you, that lights up 343 00:14:49,441 --> 00:14:51,481 Speaker 2: in your eye when you're excited for life. Like I 344 00:14:51,481 --> 00:14:54,281 Speaker 2: don't feel like that's there anymore. I felt really stuck 345 00:14:54,281 --> 00:14:57,961 Speaker 2: in that relationship. And then afterwards, I remember going through 346 00:14:58,001 --> 00:15:00,801 Speaker 2: the breakup and feeling really stuck on the outside of 347 00:15:00,801 --> 00:15:03,201 Speaker 2: that breakup as well, because it was like that groundhog 348 00:15:03,321 --> 00:15:05,521 Speaker 2: day that we were talking about in the beginning of 349 00:15:05,681 --> 00:15:08,041 Speaker 2: feeling like every day feels the same. I'm struggling to 350 00:15:08,041 --> 00:15:09,641 Speaker 2: get out of bed, like I don't want to do 351 00:15:09,761 --> 00:15:12,761 Speaker 2: life like this. It was just so heavy, and I 352 00:15:12,881 --> 00:15:15,921 Speaker 2: just remember thinking, even in those moments, I've got to 353 00:15:15,961 --> 00:15:18,601 Speaker 2: show up for myself, regardless of how hard it feels. 354 00:15:18,881 --> 00:15:21,161 Speaker 2: And I just remember being like forcing myself out of bed. 355 00:15:21,241 --> 00:15:23,201 Speaker 2: And I don't even think I was honest with you 356 00:15:23,241 --> 00:15:25,521 Speaker 2: guys around how much I was struggling at the time, 357 00:15:26,041 --> 00:15:29,041 Speaker 2: until after when you said to me HEITJ, like, are 358 00:15:29,121 --> 00:15:32,201 Speaker 2: you okay, Like you haven't really grieved this relationship, you 359 00:15:32,241 --> 00:15:35,161 Speaker 2: haven't really come to me crying, and you seem too strong, 360 00:15:35,281 --> 00:15:37,721 Speaker 2: you seem too good, You seem too good, And I 361 00:15:37,761 --> 00:15:40,761 Speaker 2: was not. I was crumbling, But I just knew that 362 00:15:40,801 --> 00:15:43,681 Speaker 2: if I had let myself go in that moment, I 363 00:15:43,721 --> 00:15:44,561 Speaker 2: would have crumbled. 364 00:15:44,601 --> 00:15:46,401 Speaker 1: You scared you were going to melt, and just yeah, 365 00:15:46,481 --> 00:15:47,001 Speaker 1: I wasn't going to. 366 00:15:47,001 --> 00:15:48,601 Speaker 2: Be able to get back up, yes, because I was 367 00:15:48,681 --> 00:15:50,681 Speaker 2: so in love that I was like, I don't think 368 00:15:50,681 --> 00:15:52,281 Speaker 2: I'm going to be able to get back up. But 369 00:15:52,361 --> 00:15:54,361 Speaker 2: I just kept that movement going that you were talking 370 00:15:54,401 --> 00:15:56,681 Speaker 2: about in the beginning. Keep the movement going, keep the 371 00:15:56,721 --> 00:15:59,681 Speaker 2: movement going, and like you eventually see the light at 372 00:15:59,681 --> 00:16:02,281 Speaker 2: the end of the tunnel when you feel stuck. So 373 00:16:02,521 --> 00:16:04,481 Speaker 2: I just wanted to say that because it doesn't matter 374 00:16:04,521 --> 00:16:08,121 Speaker 2: what you're experiencing, where it's relationships, work, whatever stress that 375 00:16:08,121 --> 00:16:10,121 Speaker 2: you might have in your life, as long as you 376 00:16:10,241 --> 00:16:14,041 Speaker 2: keep that ball rolling and continue to take action, it 377 00:16:14,121 --> 00:16:15,961 Speaker 2: will be the very thing that helps you get out 378 00:16:16,001 --> 00:16:17,321 Speaker 2: of that feeling of being stuck. 379 00:16:17,681 --> 00:16:21,201 Speaker 1: Yeah, and action can also mean slow, Like we said before, 380 00:16:21,321 --> 00:16:24,121 Speaker 1: that's taking action, taking time to actually get clear of 381 00:16:24,201 --> 00:16:25,361 Speaker 1: where you want to go and what you want to 382 00:16:25,441 --> 00:16:28,361 Speaker 1: change where you're at. That is still action. It's just 383 00:16:28,441 --> 00:16:30,401 Speaker 1: looks a bit different. We think action is like fast 384 00:16:30,441 --> 00:16:32,521 Speaker 1: paced and goals and da da da dad. Yeah, but 385 00:16:32,601 --> 00:16:37,321 Speaker 1: actually action for me was stopping fuck, not feeling good. 386 00:16:37,801 --> 00:16:41,201 Speaker 1: I'm I gonna do with this, been sitting with myself. Yes, yeah, yeah. 387 00:16:41,241 --> 00:16:43,761 Speaker 2: And you know it's funny when you said, Steve, oh 388 00:16:43,761 --> 00:16:45,401 Speaker 2: my god, I would love to do podcasting as a 389 00:16:45,401 --> 00:16:47,921 Speaker 2: full time gig. I've actually had a similar experience. I 390 00:16:47,961 --> 00:16:49,521 Speaker 2: would love to be able to do this as a 391 00:16:49,521 --> 00:16:51,801 Speaker 2: full time gig. I'm like, that would be an actual 392 00:16:51,921 --> 00:16:54,521 Speaker 2: fucking dream to be able to be like, let's come 393 00:16:54,561 --> 00:16:55,641 Speaker 2: in here every single day and. 394 00:16:55,721 --> 00:16:58,001 Speaker 1: Like do what we do, uploading seven days a week. 395 00:16:58,561 --> 00:17:00,681 Speaker 2: And you know what also I resonate with which I 396 00:17:00,721 --> 00:17:03,521 Speaker 2: haven't shared with really anyone other than you, is that 397 00:17:03,881 --> 00:17:05,961 Speaker 2: a part of me feels that every now and again, 398 00:17:06,001 --> 00:17:08,680 Speaker 2: I get this little niggle where I feel how you 399 00:17:08,721 --> 00:17:12,161 Speaker 2: felt with Baseline with my coaching. Yeah, and I love 400 00:17:12,241 --> 00:17:12,680 Speaker 2: my coaching. 401 00:17:12,721 --> 00:17:14,881 Speaker 1: I know you do, and I love that I get it. 402 00:17:15,041 --> 00:17:17,760 Speaker 2: I thrive when I'm coaching. I've been doing this for 403 00:17:17,801 --> 00:17:19,481 Speaker 2: like three and a half gone on four years now, 404 00:17:19,600 --> 00:17:22,160 Speaker 2: and I love being able to see the way that 405 00:17:22,201 --> 00:17:25,281 Speaker 2: it impacts women and seeing women, you know, get their 406 00:17:25,321 --> 00:17:29,121 Speaker 2: sparkle back, you know, love themselves again, get their sparkle back. 407 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:31,041 Speaker 2: And you know, there's this part of me and niggle. 408 00:17:31,080 --> 00:17:32,761 Speaker 2: Every couple of months it pops up, like, but I 409 00:17:32,840 --> 00:17:35,600 Speaker 2: want to do podcasting, but what if that was my 410 00:17:35,600 --> 00:17:38,121 Speaker 2: full time gig. Yeah, you know, And it's just I've 411 00:17:38,120 --> 00:17:40,041 Speaker 2: been able to see the contrast and not that there's 412 00:17:40,041 --> 00:17:41,120 Speaker 2: anything wrong with my business. 413 00:17:41,160 --> 00:17:42,440 Speaker 1: I love my business. 414 00:17:42,041 --> 00:17:46,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, I've noticed again the contrast of me doing coaching 415 00:17:46,640 --> 00:17:49,680 Speaker 2: versus me doing podcasting, and it's like that thing that 416 00:17:49,761 --> 00:17:52,081 Speaker 2: like fucking lights you up, that like gets you excited 417 00:17:52,080 --> 00:17:53,641 Speaker 2: to get up in the morning. I'm like, I get 418 00:17:53,681 --> 00:17:54,041 Speaker 2: that here. 419 00:17:54,281 --> 00:17:56,321 Speaker 1: Yeah, we do hate We always talk about it literally 420 00:17:56,400 --> 00:17:58,521 Speaker 1: ticks every single box, it does, and so much can 421 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:01,561 Speaker 1: change in a year too, Like literally so much can 422 00:18:01,640 --> 00:18:04,041 Speaker 1: change what we're doing now and even our little events 423 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:06,360 Speaker 1: and the thing we've got plans for the year. I 424 00:18:06,400 --> 00:18:08,801 Speaker 1: see in five years time that probably will be a 425 00:18:08,801 --> 00:18:10,801 Speaker 1: full time thing that we're doing. Yeah, you know, and 426 00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:13,041 Speaker 1: it will be so much easier and flowy, and it 427 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:16,161 Speaker 1: just is. But there's a building phase and some go through. 428 00:18:16,281 --> 00:18:18,600 Speaker 1: But it's cool that you have those niggles. You listen 429 00:18:18,640 --> 00:18:20,801 Speaker 1: to it, and as I observe you go through that, 430 00:18:21,041 --> 00:18:23,801 Speaker 1: you were just to where you're feeling, and you pull 431 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:25,960 Speaker 1: back a little bit and you reassess. You're like, oh right, 432 00:18:25,961 --> 00:18:28,281 Speaker 1: if I just change this and you trial the different 433 00:18:28,281 --> 00:18:30,201 Speaker 1: things and you figure it out along the way. Yeah, 434 00:18:30,281 --> 00:18:30,480 Speaker 1: you know. 435 00:18:30,840 --> 00:18:33,120 Speaker 2: Well, it's also knowing that, like I can feel those niggles, 436 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:35,640 Speaker 2: but then also know that, like right now in this season, 437 00:18:35,640 --> 00:18:37,680 Speaker 2: I'm like, but I love my coaching. Yes, it's not 438 00:18:37,721 --> 00:18:39,041 Speaker 2: something that I'm like, oh I want to get rid 439 00:18:39,080 --> 00:18:41,281 Speaker 2: of because I don't. I love my coaching. So it's 440 00:18:41,360 --> 00:18:43,640 Speaker 2: knowing that, like I can have those niggles too, but 441 00:18:43,721 --> 00:18:45,680 Speaker 2: then know, Okay, this is the direction I need to 442 00:18:45,681 --> 00:18:47,521 Speaker 2: go in right now, because when I love it, I 443 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:49,721 Speaker 2: want to continue doing I want to continue growing it. 444 00:18:50,001 --> 00:18:53,001 Speaker 2: And then also wherever the podcast evolves into which we 445 00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:56,521 Speaker 2: have big plans and visions for the podcast, and we 446 00:18:56,561 --> 00:18:58,521 Speaker 2: are seeing that vision like come to life at the 447 00:18:58,521 --> 00:19:00,200 Speaker 2: moment now, and it's only going to get bigger in 448 00:19:00,201 --> 00:19:01,281 Speaker 2: the next five ten years. 449 00:19:01,880 --> 00:19:03,041 Speaker 1: You know, it's really cool. 450 00:19:03,120 --> 00:19:04,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, So I just want to be really vulnerable and 451 00:19:04,681 --> 00:19:05,001 Speaker 2: share that. 452 00:19:05,321 --> 00:19:07,041 Speaker 1: One of the other things which we say in a 453 00:19:07,080 --> 00:19:09,281 Speaker 1: lot of episodes, but if you are feeling stuck, like 454 00:19:09,321 --> 00:19:11,521 Speaker 1: reach out for help. You don't have to do this alone, 455 00:19:11,681 --> 00:19:14,720 Speaker 1: whether it's a coach, a family, a friend, the internet, whatever, 456 00:19:15,160 --> 00:19:18,161 Speaker 1: ask for help because sometimes feeling stuck, you don't even 457 00:19:18,201 --> 00:19:20,120 Speaker 1: know all the options to explore. Like we've gone to 458 00:19:20,160 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 1: each other many times and to Steve forever and it's like, well, 459 00:19:22,761 --> 00:19:25,080 Speaker 1: why don't you do this him know that was an option? Yeah, 460 00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:28,561 Speaker 1: oh thanks. Reaching out for help is just it's one 461 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:32,201 Speaker 1: of my most powerful tools to help me grow and expand. Yea, 462 00:19:32,321 --> 00:19:35,000 Speaker 1: And I just will never stop talking about it because 463 00:19:35,080 --> 00:19:36,160 Speaker 1: it is just so important. 464 00:19:36,281 --> 00:19:37,801 Speaker 2: It's not weak. Hey, you know how people think like 465 00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:40,041 Speaker 2: it's weak to ask for help, But actually it's the 466 00:19:40,041 --> 00:19:41,920 Speaker 2: most courageous thing that you can do. It really is, 467 00:19:42,001 --> 00:19:46,200 Speaker 2: because also, imagine having help from somebody who has knowledge 468 00:19:46,241 --> 00:19:49,241 Speaker 2: and awareness that you maybe don't have just yet. They're 469 00:19:49,241 --> 00:19:50,481 Speaker 2: going to give you the leg up. 470 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:51,241 Speaker 1: That's going to help you. 471 00:19:51,281 --> 00:19:53,561 Speaker 2: What would have taken you six months, yeh, take you 472 00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:56,561 Speaker 2: six weeks literally because you choose to be courageous. You 473 00:19:56,681 --> 00:19:58,961 Speaker 2: chose to ask for help. And anyone who says that 474 00:19:59,001 --> 00:20:01,400 Speaker 2: they do this journey alone is like lying. 475 00:20:01,521 --> 00:20:02,841 Speaker 1: It's about ourselves, right. 476 00:20:03,120 --> 00:20:06,361 Speaker 2: We lean on so many of our people, friends, family, 477 00:20:06,600 --> 00:20:09,681 Speaker 2: that one coworker or whatever it is to ask for support. 478 00:20:10,001 --> 00:20:12,241 Speaker 2: Why not be able to like condense that time even 479 00:20:12,321 --> 00:20:14,641 Speaker 2: quicker and be able to like ask for support. 480 00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:16,360 Speaker 1: If they've been through what you've been through. Obviously it's 481 00:20:16,360 --> 00:20:18,480 Speaker 1: going to look different. But if someone's been through closing 482 00:20:18,481 --> 00:20:21,441 Speaker 1: a business or changing careers, or going through a divorce 483 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:24,400 Speaker 1: or whatever it is, they've got all that experience and 484 00:20:24,481 --> 00:20:27,200 Speaker 1: knowledge and wisdom that you can get from them. You 485 00:20:27,321 --> 00:20:30,041 Speaker 1: literally fast track your growth. It can get you out 486 00:20:30,041 --> 00:20:33,201 Speaker 1: of feeling so stuck for so long movement. Honestly, you're 487 00:20:33,201 --> 00:20:36,281 Speaker 1: feeling stuck right now, physically, energetically, all of it. 488 00:20:36,481 --> 00:20:38,801 Speaker 2: Yeah, just take action. You don't need to know where 489 00:20:38,801 --> 00:20:41,801 Speaker 2: you're going. Just take action. Take a step because clarity 490 00:20:41,840 --> 00:20:43,841 Speaker 2: comes after action does. 491 00:20:44,321 --> 00:20:46,121 Speaker 1: Don't look at the whole staircase too, Just take one 492 00:20:46,120 --> 00:20:49,000 Speaker 1: step when usually reach stage, Just one step, one step closer. 493 00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:50,840 Speaker 2: I read this chorde the other day and it went, 494 00:20:51,321 --> 00:20:54,600 Speaker 2: when you walk the path, the path appears. Oh wow, 495 00:20:54,721 --> 00:20:56,961 Speaker 2: that's cool, and I thought that was really cool. It's 496 00:20:56,961 --> 00:20:59,161 Speaker 2: just a beautiful way to show you that. Also when 497 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:03,281 Speaker 2: you take action, you become more aware of what's coming next. 498 00:21:04,241 --> 00:21:05,761 Speaker 2: You only need to know that next one step. You 499 00:21:05,761 --> 00:21:07,840 Speaker 2: don't need to know the next one hundred because it 500 00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:08,920 Speaker 2: will come as you go. 501 00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:12,681 Speaker 1: That's really cool. I love that. I hope you guys 502 00:21:12,761 --> 00:21:14,441 Speaker 1: enjoyed this episode. I hope it gave you a little 503 00:21:14,481 --> 00:21:17,001 Speaker 1: spring a step, and just some little tools in things 504 00:21:17,041 --> 00:21:19,400 Speaker 1: that you can do to get unstuck because it's not 505 00:21:19,441 --> 00:21:22,681 Speaker 1: a nice feeling. But also just know through breakdowns, there 506 00:21:22,721 --> 00:21:25,801 Speaker 1: is breakthroughs. And every time I feel when you're about 507 00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:29,080 Speaker 1: to level up and go into a new season or 508 00:21:29,120 --> 00:21:33,241 Speaker 1: a new version of yourself, there is this icky, uncomfortable, 509 00:21:33,321 --> 00:21:36,080 Speaker 1: turbulent phase because you have to shed the layers. You 510 00:21:36,120 --> 00:21:38,721 Speaker 1: have to go that little bit deeper to get through 511 00:21:38,721 --> 00:21:40,521 Speaker 1: to the other side and to grow and to step 512 00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:41,561 Speaker 1: up into the new version. 513 00:21:41,681 --> 00:21:44,241 Speaker 2: So true, it does feel like when you're working towards 514 00:21:44,281 --> 00:21:47,480 Speaker 2: something new and you're trying to evolve, everything feels like 515 00:21:47,481 --> 00:21:48,041 Speaker 2: it crumbles. 516 00:21:48,120 --> 00:21:49,120 Speaker 1: It does. It has to. 517 00:21:49,321 --> 00:21:51,281 Speaker 2: It crumbles, it has to fall apart because you need 518 00:21:51,321 --> 00:21:53,961 Speaker 2: to have that slingshot moment. It key's coming back every 519 00:21:54,001 --> 00:21:55,841 Speaker 2: single time, and I'll say it till the cows come 520 00:21:55,840 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 2: home every single time that something is not working in 521 00:21:58,761 --> 00:22:01,600 Speaker 2: your life, you are having an absolute slingshot moment where 522 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:04,761 Speaker 2: your life is about to completely change. Yes, you've just 523 00:22:04,761 --> 00:22:06,561 Speaker 2: got to be able to weather the storm in the meantime. 524 00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:08,521 Speaker 1: You have to. And when you have that way of 525 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:12,521 Speaker 1: living and trusting, it stops you falling into victims. Yeah, 526 00:22:12,521 --> 00:22:14,400 Speaker 1: and it stops you getting as stuck as what you 527 00:22:14,441 --> 00:22:16,960 Speaker 1: might have previously because I'm not stuck. Yeah, this is 528 00:22:17,001 --> 00:22:19,160 Speaker 1: just a little turbulent moment because I'm about to level up. 529 00:22:19,281 --> 00:22:22,080 Speaker 1: Things are about to change all the better. I've manifested this, 530 00:22:22,120 --> 00:22:24,321 Speaker 1: I've created this, and I want this. If you trust that, 531 00:22:24,441 --> 00:22:26,840 Speaker 1: have that believe in yourself, life Will we sum much easier? 532 00:22:26,921 --> 00:22:29,641 Speaker 1: Oh so good. Thanks for joining us guys. We'll see 533 00:22:29,681 --> 00:22:32,481 Speaker 1: you on Friday. From Friggi Friday, Bye bye,