Speaker 1: Hey, on Sunday, I'm actually gonna have a girl's day.
Speaker 2: What do you mean we had we were going to
Speaker 2: go surfing together.
Speaker 1: Where's Your Head At? Is a podcast that talks all
Speaker 1: things right. Hold on a sec, let's give this a refresh.
Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Anna and I'm Matt, and we are now
Speaker 2: too newlywed not to each other. Just a female and
Speaker 2: male best friend here for the good, the bad, and
Speaker 2: the ugly times.
Speaker 1: And exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas.
Speaker 2: And whatever else we have the mental capacity to deal with.
Speaker 1: Come get the lowdown.
Speaker 2: This is your male and female perspective.
Speaker 1: So, Matt, where's your head at? Good morning?
Speaker 2: Good morning Anna, Good morning everyone. Where's your head at? Hannah?
Speaker 1: Well, I'm a maternity leave and we are recording a
Speaker 1: hotline episode currently in the studio. Right now, we're both
Speaker 1: standing up, and we've never done a podcast standing.
Speaker 2: I've seen a couple of people stand in like the
Speaker 2: radio presenters stand and I was like, you know what,
Speaker 2: let's try standing up. Let's see how far through this
Speaker 2: episode we can get standing, because I think I'm going
Speaker 2: to get a little bit over it.
Speaker 1: I would never have agreed to standing, but honestly, at
Speaker 1: this point in my pregnancy, I'm heavily pregnant. My hips
Speaker 1: who saw, I'm just aching all.
Speaker 2: Over standing make it worse.
Speaker 1: No, because i feel like I'm kind of moving side
Speaker 1: to side, so I'm stretching out my hair.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you are swaying to side, just.
Speaker 1: Like treating this as a bit of a workout.
Speaker 2: Well, if you stand, I'm pretty sure we'll find a
Speaker 2: start on that. You will burn more calories than sitting
Speaker 2: down at your desk. So if you're listening to this
Speaker 2: at work, stand up.
Speaker 1: Do you know what a friend of mine actually she
Speaker 1: got one of those little slow treadmills that you walk on.
Speaker 1: Why Yeah, and she loves it. She's like all four
Speaker 1: I The thing is one of my worst moments in
Speaker 1: life was when I was I used to do PT
Speaker 1: training and I was like going ham on the treadmill
Speaker 1: with my PT and fell off fully fell off frontwards
Speaker 1: or backwards backwards like I was running. Obviously I don't
Speaker 1: know how it happened, and just went flying off the
Speaker 1: back like absolutely flying badly, like badly. And then my
Speaker 1: PT was like really like awkward about it.
Speaker 2: He was like are you He was like, you're Okay,
Speaker 2: the speed was only at four point five. You're worse
Speaker 2: shape than I thought.
Speaker 1: No, I was really fit then, But the problem was
Speaker 1: is I think I got two cocky. So I was
Speaker 1: going at like fifteen or something fast. And then imagine
Speaker 1: flying off a treadmill like that. That would hurt. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And that's the reason why I feel like, because I
Speaker 1: work at home a lot on my phone or laptop,
Speaker 1: and it would be nice to just be like slowly
Speaker 1: walking whilst doing it. It's almost like subconscious, like you
Speaker 1: wouldn't even know, but imagine. I mean, if you go
Speaker 1: flying off that, it's probably not.
Speaker 2: Really red flag. I mean at my old office in
Speaker 2: the Gold Coast, they have desks that would stand up
Speaker 2: and a lot of people would stand while working. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so that would burn calories doing that.
Speaker 1: You're all about I.
Speaker 2: Have what was the other thing I said today? Something?
Speaker 1: But you said something else.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm in my fitness era. You know what
Speaker 2: they say, though, don't count calories, make calories count?
Speaker 1: Why you someone bought with this who hurt you? Like, well,
Speaker 1: you don't need to count calories.
Speaker 2: All right? And so we've brought some stories to today's episode. Yes,
Speaker 2: I saw an article and it said study say that
Speaker 2: couples who fart together tend to have a healthier and
Speaker 2: happier relationship. So it's actually come up a couple of
Speaker 2: times on my Instagram this week.
Speaker 1: And do you agree with this?
Speaker 2: Do you fight in front of Michael?
Speaker 1: Do you agree with this?
Speaker 2: I I'll start by saying, I have never had a
Speaker 2: girlfriend or partner of fart in front of me.
Speaker 1: Ever, I had what about like by accident.
Speaker 2: They're like, oops, yeah, years ago. I'm talking years like
Speaker 2: sixteen year old. My girlfriend she was asleep on okay,
Speaker 2: actually I was watching continue watching the movie and she farted,
Speaker 2: broke herself up and she was like and I was like,
Speaker 2: did you fart? She was like no, And I was like,
Speaker 2: I kept watching the movie and I realized you hard.
Speaker 2: I wasn't going to play on it.
Speaker 1: You know what about you? Are?
Speaker 2: You just like let him?
Speaker 1: He's letting them riff.
Speaker 2: I mean with my wife, I won't far as much
Speaker 2: in previous relationship.
Speaker 1: That's nice of you. Yeah, I said that, Michael, don't
Speaker 1: part for me. It does not stop.
Speaker 2: Yeah, previous relationship. So I would just let it rip
Speaker 2: and on stop like you know, and I do this
Speaker 2: thing where I go to to like cover it up
Speaker 2: as if it was like, you know, so it's pretty funny.
Speaker 2: But then it's funny when they're silent and no one knows. No,
Speaker 2: but I go, no, my ship doesn't stink.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, sorry, guys. Isn't this an annoying thing that
Speaker 1: Matt says that his ship doesn't stink, His farts didn't stink.
Speaker 1: He just has no regrance to his bo Apparently.
Speaker 2: I don't do I have. Have you ever smelled bo
Speaker 2: on me? No?
Speaker 1: I have it, but I can't really like pinpoint anyone
Speaker 1: who have smelled bo on unless it's like really pungent, true,
Speaker 1: I think, yeah, like you can't help it. There is
Speaker 1: a thing where you can get both ups under your
Speaker 1: arms and it stops sweating, which I think.
Speaker 2: Is that sweating is good for you.
Speaker 1: Though sweating, I guess is good for you. Yeah.
Speaker 2: The study suggests that couples who are open enough to
Speaker 2: far in front of each other may have stronger bonds
Speaker 2: and better emotional health. It's a marker of intimacy, honesty,
Speaker 2: and relaxation within the relationship, which can lead to more
Speaker 2: trust in the partnership.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, look, I well.
Speaker 2: You're pregnancy, you probably can you have you lost any
Speaker 2: control of it yet?
Speaker 1: Or he took the words right out of oh really
Speaker 1: tell what you were about to say. So, like I
Speaker 1: like never farted in front of mye unless it was
Speaker 1: like an accident, yeah, or like if I was in
Speaker 1: my sleep and I'm like oh, but like like if
Speaker 1: I needed to like do that, I would go to
Speaker 1: the bathroom and then I'm like, you know, I'm on
Speaker 1: the toilet's free reign whatever. But like never before really,
Speaker 1: and then since getting pregnant, they've slipped out a little
Speaker 1: bit because I think there's a lot.
Speaker 2: Of pressure and Michael's cool with that.
Speaker 1: I mean Michael doesn't like he doesn't I care more
Speaker 1: about it than he does.
Speaker 2: If your wife is pregnant at that point, you wouldn't care.
Speaker 1: I don't think do guys even care if if a
Speaker 1: woman farts.
Speaker 2: I've never been in that situation really.
Speaker 1: Like when is when is too soon? Like it's like
Speaker 1: date number one or two make me feel like WHOA, well,
Speaker 1: let's not get too comfortable.
Speaker 2: What would you do with you? Like a guy you
Speaker 2: want on a date? We fared on like date one
Speaker 2: or two.
Speaker 1: I think it might turn me off. Like as from
Speaker 1: a woman's perspective, I think i'd be like, restrain yourself,
Speaker 1: cleanch harder.
Speaker 2: Be a bit too us when we're touching on it,
Speaker 2: we'll leave on this. Do you strategically fart when you
Speaker 2: need to? Or like, do you so like when you
Speaker 2: plan it, like you go, okay, I need a fart
Speaker 2: do in front of Michael and wander off.
Speaker 1: No, it's not like a planned thing that I've like
Speaker 1: written like my schedule for off like that.
Speaker 2: But you're feeling and I can't do it here, so
Speaker 2: I'll just wander off.
Speaker 1: No, I think just if I go to the bathroom,
Speaker 1: that's when it happens for me, Like that's like my
Speaker 1: designated time. He's not in the bathroom with you.
Speaker 2: Is going to the bathroom. That's too much. I'm seeing
Speaker 2: too much on this.
Speaker 1: Just the last question what I asked you before As
Speaker 1: a guy, when is too soon to fart in front
Speaker 1: of a girl? No for the girl, because you're saying
Speaker 1: that guys don't care if a girl farts, But when
Speaker 1: is too soon?
Speaker 2: Let me I don't for personally. Yeah, I mean the
Speaker 2: first or second date would be too soon. I think
Speaker 2: that would be a bit of.
Speaker 1: Like, whoa, you're like, I think for me, like we
Speaker 1: have to be exclusive before you're even looking like farting.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, let's say exclusive. Then it's such a goo
Speaker 2: question because I do like it's like.
Speaker 1: Well, it's just because you were so like guys don't care.
Speaker 1: So then I was like, well, when would you care?
Speaker 2: I don't know if I actually ever would care, I could.
Speaker 2: You could probably laugh it off if it was by acts,
Speaker 2: like if she lifted a leg on the couch and
Speaker 2: let one rip on the first day, a leg on
Speaker 2: the first day, that would be sort of like, whooh,
Speaker 2: you're comfortable a leg?
Speaker 1: Okay. I think it's time for rusting into this hotline
Speaker 1: because man, I'm just having way too much fun talking.
Speaker 2: About everyone's like what the fuck am I listening to?
Speaker 2: They have lowered themselves to toilet humor.
Speaker 1: I'm about to go into like labor, like I'm about
Speaker 1: to lose all dignity toilets low. It's just funny.
Speaker 2: This hotline is anonymous. Let's hear what they have to say.
Speaker 2: Huge fan of podcast for a while now, person, I'm
Speaker 2: calling in. I've just got into a new relationship with
Speaker 2: my girlfriend. It's been going pretty well, doing absolutely everything together,
Speaker 2: go on my parks, markets, I go out surf and
Speaker 2: she comes with me, spend a lot of time with
Speaker 2: each other's houses and whatnot.
Speaker 1: That was really good and all for like the first
Speaker 1: few months the relationship, and I loved it. But now
Speaker 1: before the relationship was very much like a personal sort
Speaker 1: of guy.
Speaker 2: I enjoyed my personal space and my time.
Speaker 1: Alone and for the first three months so it was
Speaker 1: good and I love being with her, but it just
Speaker 1: got to start to get a bit much now, not
Speaker 1: even personal space. But I don't know how to tell
Speaker 1: her that I need a bit of time without sounding rude.
Speaker 2: So I just wondering if you'd hang me out with that
Speaker 2: would be great.
Speaker 1: Thanks again, love his mote. Thanks for the voicemail. That's
Speaker 1: a really good one.
Speaker 2: How do you tackle that situation, because what do you say?
Speaker 2: For the first three months he loved it and enjoyed it.
Speaker 2: In the honeymoon stage, you know, fireworks going off. But
Speaker 2: I'm a big advocate for personal time. Yes, absolutely, I
Speaker 2: love my time to myself.
Speaker 1: I think everyone does need to have time alone to
Speaker 1: really recharge. Yeah, And I think my advice to him
Speaker 1: would just be be really honest and just say, look,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I love when this is going. Are they together? Yeah,
Speaker 1: verificially together? I think you said yeah, yeah, I like,
Speaker 1: I'm I really enjoy hanging out with you. I just
Speaker 1: need to prioritize some alone time and like getting some
Speaker 1: work stuff done and.
Speaker 2: Honestly is the best policy. So I agree, I think
Speaker 2: he should express that to her. What happens if say
Speaker 2: he expresses that to her and she gets upset? How
Speaker 2: do you tackle that situation? She goes, well, you don't
Speaker 2: love me, you don't want to hang out with me?
Speaker 2: Am I too much?
Speaker 1: I would say, just validate her feelings, because how she's
Speaker 1: feeling would be correct, and just say like, look, you
Speaker 1: have every right to feel this way. We've hung out
Speaker 1: twenty four to seven, but it's just not maintainable, and
Speaker 1: I want to, like, you know, make the most of
Speaker 1: the moments we have together, but also have some me
Speaker 1: time and some personal time where I can recharge. I'm
Speaker 1: the best verson me for you.
Speaker 2: Well, it could be he could be a single for what,
Speaker 2: you know, maybe like twenty five years. I'm just saying
Speaker 2: he could be single for most of his life. He
Speaker 2: could have grown into habits of like having alone time
Speaker 2: and then what to just date someone that you love
Speaker 2: and they're just taking up all you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: you're with them all the time.
Speaker 1: It gets a lot.
Speaker 2: It could be a lot, you know.
Speaker 1: It's a lot for everyone. It's also transition, you know,
Speaker 1: like it's a it's a life transition, going from being
Speaker 1: single only thinking about you, your needs, What am I
Speaker 1: going to do this weekend? What's my plans to actually
Speaker 1: having someone else in the mix and also thinking about them,
Speaker 1: how that's going to make them feel.
Speaker 2: I've got one for you. Then if you don't mesh
Speaker 2: into twine properly, are you? Are you right for each other?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: So I think so you're not. Like if it doesn't
Speaker 2: because he said that she went surfing with him or
Speaker 2: something like, he's she's obviously taking up the hobbies as well.
Speaker 2: So I think that's a good sign.
Speaker 1: I don't think you could just go surfing like I
Speaker 1: think she probably knows how. It's like pretty, it's a skill,
Speaker 1: a niche thing. She's on the boogie board like.
Speaker 2: Side of catching the waves. Well, that's what I mean. Like,
Speaker 2: I mean I think that he's I think it's cute.
Speaker 2: They're doing a lot of stuff together, and I would
Speaker 2: encourage partners to do that, but I would also encourage
Speaker 2: them to find their own time, in their own space.
Speaker 1: And a happy medium, Like relationships evolve, Like how things
Speaker 1: are at the start of a relationship is never how
Speaker 1: they're gonna continue on, you know, full blown one hundred
Speaker 1: percent honeymoon phase is very like they might have.
Speaker 2: Each other in a month and not want to hang
Speaker 2: out together at all. Psimistic might be like, I'm not
Speaker 2: coming safing with you, no.
Speaker 1: But I think I think, you know, every relationship after
Speaker 1: the honeymoon phase kind of gets into like a bit
Speaker 1: of a groove and maybe he's thinking about it, maybe
Speaker 1: she's thinking about it, and she's just not really voiced it,
Speaker 1: like he hasn't voiced it to her.
Speaker 2: Well, other things come in there as well, like work
Speaker 2: might come up. She might get busier at work, or
Speaker 2: he might get busier, and they might not spend time
Speaker 2: as much together, and you know, looking back in a
Speaker 2: couple of months, you might be like, oh, I miss
Speaker 2: her hanging out with her all the time. Yeah, So,
Speaker 2: I mean, what would the advice is, Honestly, it's the
Speaker 2: best policy.
Speaker 1: Validate her feelings, Validate.
Speaker 2: Her feelings very strong man. That's an important thing I've realized,
Speaker 2: and just understand each other, hold space and listen. You
Speaker 2: can't get angry if someone wants alone time.
Speaker 1: If you take it personally, you can, like if it's
Speaker 1: said in the wrong way, you could be like, oh,
Speaker 1: they don't like me anymore. Like you could take it personally.
Speaker 2: Okay, you're telling me that you want a loone time.
Speaker 2: Tell me are we doing? Like?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Tell me. Here's an example of telling how you.
Speaker 1: So it's a weekend, it's Friday night, I would just say.
Speaker 2: We're sitting down eating a pizza, or you're Michael Sprience
Speaker 2: a time. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I'll just say, Hey, on Sunday, I'm actually
Speaker 1: going to have a girl's day.
Speaker 2: What do you mean we had we were going to
Speaker 2: go surfing together. So we're not going surfing together. You
Speaker 2: don't love me, I've nothing to you.
Speaker 1: No one is going to react like that. Literally, no
Speaker 1: one is going to say that, just like I really
Speaker 1: need to like reach I would say, I just really
Speaker 1: haven't seen my friends in a while, and I really
Speaker 1: want to reach oute my calf friends.
Speaker 2: Am I not your friend? Do I not feel your
Speaker 2: calf got me? Oh?
Speaker 1: My God, it's a lot coming right now.
Speaker 2: So that's how that's why you would tackle it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just be open on it.
Speaker 2: By the way, I was doing like the worst case scenario,
Speaker 2: Like that's not real.
Speaker 1: No hope. No one acts, especially in a new relationship,
Speaker 1: like people are like tiptoeing around each other like yeah,
Speaker 1: no problem, like have fun. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I was just joking. Yeah no, Look, if that's I reckon,
Speaker 2: that's the best way to say it.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well that was we.
Speaker 2: Stood up the whole time. Maybe I feel goofy that
Speaker 2: we're standing up.
Speaker 1: I actually love standing up. I feel like my hits
Speaker 1: are loosening by the second for this baby to come out.
Speaker 2: If water could break it any stage, you can pop
Speaker 2: out any time, and we'll be back when maternitally finishes.
Speaker 2: Have you put in your leaf form for that? We
Speaker 2: have a date.
Speaker 1: We said six weeks. That's all I'm getting, apparently the.
Speaker 2: Extra time.
Speaker 1: Okay, guys, until next time. Bye,