WEBVTT - “We Owned a House Together and He Ghosted Me!” || HOTLINE 0:00:05.960 --> 0:00:08.440 Hey, Matt, Hello Anna, how are. 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:09.480 We I'm excited. 0:00:09.520 --> 0:00:12.239 This is a new segment, a new episode that we're 0:00:12.280 --> 0:00:15.080 trialing out, So we want all the feedback on this one. 0:00:15.080 --> 0:00:16.760 This is our Hotline episode. 0:00:16.800 --> 0:00:18.680 I'm very excited to get into this. We've been talking 0:00:18.720 --> 0:00:21.080 about this for ages. Obviously, we have heaps of people 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:24.520 message the show, thank you, our Instagram at Facebook page. 0:00:24.640 --> 0:00:28.360 They send us how do we put it? Stories, questions 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:30.400 and obviously we can't answer them all because we have 0:00:30.480 --> 0:00:32.960 to do topical ones every Wednesday. 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How's your life going? 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:13.200 Good? 0:01:13.400 --> 0:01:13.680 Good? 0:01:13.880 --> 0:01:17.520 So I just had a night away with my girlfriend Jen. 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:18.440 Nice. 0:01:18.560 --> 0:01:21.160 How was that? It was good? Actually really relaxing. We've 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:25.640 stayed at Crown Lovely, had to swim this morning, so 0:01:25.680 --> 0:01:27.360 I'm still smelling a bit like chlorine. 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:30.600 I did smell a bit of chlorine whifting over. That's 0:01:30.600 --> 0:01:31.119 what that is. 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:32.679 That was nice and relaxing. You know, it was good 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:35.080 to get away with Jen, Like it's been a year 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:38.280 we've been together for now. Ye just like you know, 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:41.520 like it'd be lying to say everything runs smoothly, you know, 0:01:41.640 --> 0:01:42.840 life doesn't run smooth. 0:01:43.120 --> 0:01:44.360 No, absolutely not. 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:47.520 So like we've caught ourselves in a bit where like, 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:50.240 obviously life right now is picking up. It's busy work, 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:52.440 This is busy, life gets in the way. 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:54.040 Christmas is incoming. 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:57.640 Yeah, events are coming up every weekend, literally dinners every 0:01:57.720 --> 0:01:59.920 random night with another friend. And we just got to 0:01:59.920 --> 0:02:02.640 the point where we're like, you know what, let's have 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:05.440 some time for ourselves and let's let's go work on 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:07.760 this and work on each other. And we had a 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:08.400 very good night. 0:02:08.800 --> 0:02:10.880 Do you feel like it's kind of helped you guys 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:11.720 to reconnect. 0:02:12.240 --> 0:02:15.760 Yeah, So we both agreed let's just let's like, let's 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:17.720 start taking it a day at a time, like, let's 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:20.120 just do each day and we just you know, have 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:22.880 a good day each day and focus on one thing 0:02:22.880 --> 0:02:25.639 that's positive about that day and continue to grow. So, yeah, 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:27.800 I think last night we had a really good time. 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:30.280 I know I did, and I know one hundredercent she did. 0:02:30.320 --> 0:02:31.760 So we'll just see where we go from here. 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:33.480 So have you guys been on the rocks a little bit? 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:37.840 Would you say? Wouldn't say rocks? It's just like more. 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:39.560 Like little bits of arguments. 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:42.000 Yeah, arguments and just I don't yeah, I don't want to. Like, look, 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:44.040 I feel like we have this podcast and we have 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:46.720 a duty to, like, you know, tell the truth about 0:02:46.760 --> 0:02:48.639 how we are and all that sort of stuff. We're 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:52.680 not like, so we've just not it's just been how 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:55.520 do I put it, Like I've been saying, Aye, yeah, 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:58.040 Like it's just some stuff like this is what I 0:02:58.120 --> 0:03:01.560 say to her. We're two different people, we were raised different, 0:03:01.960 --> 0:03:05.679 we've had different life experiences, and we see things differently. 0:03:05.919 --> 0:03:09.200 We're not going to agree. But I get two people 0:03:09.200 --> 0:03:12.080 that are too stubborn in their opinions that they just 0:03:12.160 --> 0:03:14.880 don't you know what I mean. And it's hard and 0:03:14.960 --> 0:03:17.400 like living on top of each other as well, and 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:20.400 we're just yeah, so we wouldn't say rocks, but yeah, 0:03:20.440 --> 0:03:22.840 definitely in and out of just you know, trying to 0:03:22.840 --> 0:03:23.720 find that happy place. 0:03:23.760 --> 0:03:25.320 Now, how has been living together? 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:25.440 So? 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:27.000 How long have you guys been living together? 0:03:27.040 --> 0:03:27.239 For? 0:03:27.280 --> 0:03:27.600 Now? 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:28.519 Six months? 0:03:28.560 --> 0:03:30.520 Probably six months? And how is that going? 0:03:30.800 --> 0:03:32.640 For the better part? Good? Like, I love nothing more 0:03:32.639 --> 0:03:35.360 than going to heaven and cuddling her. Yeah, I love that, 0:03:35.440 --> 0:03:37.040 going to bed with her every night. It's the best 0:03:37.080 --> 0:03:40.800 thing ever. But it's like sort of like I love 0:03:40.880 --> 0:03:42.800 my own space as well, And I don't think you 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:45.400 realize that till you're actually moved in with someone and 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:47.200 you're living with them. I don't know, how do you go? 0:03:47.560 --> 0:03:49.400 Well, it's interesting that you're saying this. 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:51.720 I don't know if it's like this time of year, 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:55.880 but you know, me and Michael obviously recently got engaged. 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:58.600 We were on like the biggest high ever, and then 0:03:58.720 --> 0:04:02.320 obviously realities keep in. We both like, I was away 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:04.400 for eight days, so I'm kind of like backlogged. I'm 0:04:04.400 --> 0:04:07.720 trying to catch up on work and like obviously doing 0:04:07.760 --> 0:04:09.720 a lot more hours and I guess I would normally 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:12.480 be doing. And last week we both found it really 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:16.080 challenging because we both had massive weeks at work. We 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:18.479 both had like big things happening in work as well, 0:04:18.560 --> 0:04:21.279 so we're both like a little bit stressed. And it 0:04:21.320 --> 0:04:23.599 got to Friday and I said to Michael, I was like, 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:27.240 I feel disconnected from you, and that to Michael, like 0:04:27.320 --> 0:04:29.919 he takes that to heart. But I'm so open and 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:32.880 honest with like if I even feel like a slight change, 0:04:32.880 --> 0:04:34.880 I'm like the first person to tell him. I'm like, 0:04:34.920 --> 0:04:36.160 I need to like let you know. 0:04:36.120 --> 0:04:36.919 How I'm feeling. 0:04:37.480 --> 0:04:39.160 So yeah, So I kind of said that to him, 0:04:39.160 --> 0:04:41.280 and he's like, what do you mean we're disconnected? Like 0:04:41.640 --> 0:04:44.839 we've been so busy, Like life happens, and I was like, 0:04:44.880 --> 0:04:47.599 you know what, I know, life happens, but like we 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:50.960 also need to make each other a priority, and like, 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:53.599 you know, whether that's like making a night where we 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:55.320 have a date night, because we don't really have a 0:04:55.400 --> 0:04:58.039 date night. I know in other relationships, I would have 0:04:58.080 --> 0:04:59.960 like a Friday night date night, and like my friend 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:01.920 wouldn't even ask me to do anything on a Friday 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:03.920 night because they'd be like Amazon date night. 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:04.560 Yeah. 0:05:04.600 --> 0:05:07.080 So yeah, I think we just after the weekend, we 0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:09.760 spent a lot more quality time together and everything's like, 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:12.640 you know, back to normal and being obsessed with each other. 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:16.160 But yeah, I think we do need to prioritize like 0:05:16.200 --> 0:05:19.760 spending like putting a time aside each quality time to 0:05:19.800 --> 0:05:23.279 spend quality time, because you know, sometimes after work, you know, 0:05:23.320 --> 0:05:25.719 you might sit on the couch together for an hour, 0:05:25.800 --> 0:05:28.040 but it's not really quality time because you're not like 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:30.560 talking and connecting, and you. 0:05:30.520 --> 0:05:33.240 Know, well that's it. Like so I was talking to 0:05:33.320 --> 0:05:35.599 Jen about it, and I was like, look, when we 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:37.560 were so busy with work and all that sort of 0:05:37.640 --> 0:05:40.280 stuff during the week that like when we get home, 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:42.760 it's not like we're so like we'll go on a 0:05:42.800 --> 0:05:45.479 walk sometimes together all hang out, but like who do 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:48.080 you vent to, like your partner, So we're just venting 0:05:48.120 --> 0:05:50.840 to each other about work, and it's not really like 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:54.120 a good quality time. So like we'll vent, we'll have dinner, 0:05:54.320 --> 0:05:56.440 I'll go gym, whatever we'll do. Then we'll just lay 0:05:56.440 --> 0:05:57.800 in bed and watch a movie. And there was no 0:05:57.960 --> 0:05:59.960 real intimate like do you know what I mean, like 0:06:00.520 --> 0:06:01.720 actual good time. 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:03.000 Together, intimate moments. 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:05.680 And then you get to the weekend and then there's 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:07.960 event like at the Corefield carp there's everything, so there's 0:06:08.000 --> 0:06:10.640 not really a time where you're just in each other's 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:12.960 like space and you holding space for each other and 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:14.760 having a good time. So that's why we went away 0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:17.440 on the weekend. And it doesn't help Quliday time. Yeah, 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:20.279 and it doesn't help that I leave the UK next 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:24.960 week for three weeks, so that saga continues. The ticket 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:27.080 finally figured out, so I'm going to the UK. 0:06:27.000 --> 0:06:29.800 Next week, So very exciting, but also sad that you'll 0:06:29.839 --> 0:06:31.480 be not seeing Jen for three weeks. 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:33.360 But it could it could work in our favor though 0:06:33.360 --> 0:06:35.640 we could. You know, distance makes the heart grow fond us, 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:37.839 so hope that should hopefully work in that way. 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:41.560 We've been seeing a lot on social media, actually, Hayley 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:45.280 and Sam who have been guests on our podcast. Yeah, 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:49.799 they like and I know Instagram is not always reality, 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:53.600 but fuck me, they're like Instagram. They seem to just 0:06:53.800 --> 0:06:58.039 have the most connected relationship ever. They're just having hot, 0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:01.839 steamy sex, like she literally on her Instagram stories runs 0:07:01.880 --> 0:07:05.520 you through like everything they've been getting up to play. Yeah, 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:08.640 so so me and that we're like discussing this and 0:07:08.720 --> 0:07:12.560 what are they They're like sexual coaches, confidence coaches. 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:14.240 I don't know regardless. 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:17.760 So they actually posted on Instagram saying that they had 0:07:17.800 --> 0:07:20.600 like twenty four hours of four play throughout the weekend, 0:07:21.000 --> 0:07:23.400 and I was telling Michael this and I was like, 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:27.200 they have having better sex than us, babe, and he's like, fuck, 0:07:27.240 --> 0:07:27.920 who has. 0:07:27.720 --> 0:07:30.480 Twenty four hours? Who has time to do twenty four 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:32.120 hours four play? Well? 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:34.160 When I read twenty four hours of four play, I 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:35.040 was like, well, what's that? 0:07:35.040 --> 0:07:38.480 That's like, that's a I think she just means like 0:07:38.520 --> 0:07:40.680 twenty four hours of like really connect Well. 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:42.760 Yeah, she went on and said what they did, and 0:07:42.800 --> 0:07:44.720 I was like, that makes more sense than what I 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:47.040 think four play is. I know that I'm not the 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:48.120 best at four play. 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:50.120 What do you mean You're not the best at all? 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:52.800 I'm not the best at Like yeah, going through those 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:55.680 motions of four play, it's straight to you know. 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:59.120 You're just down for the ded straight away. Well you 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:01.400 know what, like it is something that. 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:03.679 Can really connect you. And like their fore play wasn't 0:08:03.720 --> 0:08:05.600 just like going down on each other. Their full play 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:08.760 was like, you know, going in the bath together and 0:08:08.880 --> 0:08:12.080 drinking champagne. Apparently he kissed her body for two hours 0:08:12.120 --> 0:08:14.800 straight like all of this stuff. I'm like oh my god, 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:17.680 like they sound like they're having a fucking great time. 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:18.880 One was reading poems. 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:21.320 I was like, that is really you know I have 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:23.400 a poem book? Did I tell you that that Michael 0:08:23.440 --> 0:08:26.080 has for me? It's really sweet, So like any like 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:28.800 milestone we have in our relationship, he'll like, because he's 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:32.120 an amazing writer, yeah, he'll like write a poem about it, 0:08:32.440 --> 0:08:35.040 and it's actually really beautiful. Literally, every time he reads 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:37.200 me a new poem that he's written, I will literally cry, 0:08:37.320 --> 0:08:38.760 like I well laugh, it's so nicely. 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:40.440 I've never heard that that you got a poem book. 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:41.400 I wouldn't mind reading that. 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:46.720 Yeah, yeah, like it's like any like he's actually like 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:49.520 writing one at the moment about our engagement because that's 0:08:49.559 --> 0:08:51.719 like kind of like the next milestone in our relationship 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:53.920 that I don't have a poem for yet. Maybe I'll 0:08:53.920 --> 0:08:56.760 bring it in and. 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:57.480 And read it when I think if poems are I 0:08:57.559 --> 0:08:59.920 can't have to laugh, like if roses are red violence. 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:03.400 But then you're like a really emotional guy, So I 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:05.280 feel like I don't know how good you are with 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:07.280 your words, but like it could be a real like 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:08.280 outlet for you. 0:09:08.480 --> 0:09:10.840 I'm actually really good. Jen loves my letters that I 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:14.160 write for on special occasions, like I'm really good at 0:09:14.160 --> 0:09:16.000 writing my cards. 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:18.360 Maybe that's something that you can do to try and 0:09:18.559 --> 0:09:20.960 bring up the intimacy. Maybe you should write Jenna poem. 0:09:21.400 --> 0:09:24.400 Maybe that's something you can agree to do for the 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:26.440 pod and maybe you can come and share it with 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:27.000 us later. 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:29.280 I just don't know how I go with an actual poem, 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:31.359 like I can't. I think a poem is like Shakespeare 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:32.679 and they're like just a bit bit. 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:34.280 Of a couple of writing words here and there. 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:39.559 Okay, so what is your weekly recommendation for our audience center? 0:09:39.679 --> 0:09:43.000 Okay, So obviously I said to you. I was telling 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:45.000 Michael that I was feeling a little bit disconnected. But 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:48.040 something we have been reconnecting on a show that we've 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:52.240 been loving at the moment is Married at First Sight UK. 0:09:52.640 --> 0:09:55.520 It's on nine now. Michael and I have become obsessed 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:58.200 with it. And the reason why I even got onto 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:03.240 this is because for some reason, my TikTok algorithm has 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:06.840 like been on Maths UK and some of the scenes 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:11.640 I've seen on TikTok are wild. I'm not gonna say anymore, 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:14.640 but after seeing some of those clips, I was like, 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:17.360 I need to get myself onto this season because this 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:18.480 is crazy. 0:10:18.600 --> 0:10:20.199 So we started watching it. 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:23.480 I think there's like twelve or thirteen or fourteen episodes 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:24.000 out now. 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:25.240 Oh, they're coming out weekly. 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:28.360 They're coming out still, so you know, it's very much 0:10:28.360 --> 0:10:29.200 a now show. 0:10:29.600 --> 0:10:30.720 It's happening in the present. 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:33.360 And also like you can have a bit of a 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:35.840 binge as well if you start it on like a 0:10:35.840 --> 0:10:38.120 weeknight or weekend and it's a really good one and 0:10:38.160 --> 0:10:39.120 you won't be disappointed. 0:10:39.200 --> 0:10:40.719 There's lots going on. 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:42.800 It's funny you say that the other night. Jane and 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:45.640 myself we love Naked and Afraid, right, Yeah, you guys 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:48.120 do have love it, so we like always we always 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:49.920 watch it. We're always like, oh, do you reckon these 0:10:49.920 --> 0:10:51.959 people hooking up? Like do you reckon? They're you know, 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:55.800 because they're cuddling together at night, like surely surely they are. Yeah, 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:58.000 we're like laying in bed, we're trying to find something new. 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:00.200 We're on the foxtail app. You'll never get that's what 0:11:00.200 --> 0:11:03.679 I found Naked and Afraid and in love. So they 0:11:03.679 --> 0:11:06.839 put two naked people, is what I And then they 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:09.160 put two naked people and the same sort of thing 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:10.200 and they're trying to date. 0:11:10.400 --> 0:11:13.560 How do you date someone when you're fucking naked, Like 0:11:13.600 --> 0:11:15.520 you just be like looking at their bits. 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:18.200 Well, the first guy walks over and then the girl's 0:11:18.280 --> 0:11:19.400 like he was rock hard. 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:20.959 Stop it. 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:24.520 There's no way to hide, is there, Like I mean 0:11:24.559 --> 0:11:26.160 unless you're like putting a branch. 0:11:26.120 --> 0:11:29.000 Well what they put their hesham sack over it, so 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:31.120 they cover it like that, but the girl obviously will 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:36.160 have like one hit out right. Yeah. Well my recommendation is, 0:11:36.200 --> 0:11:38.080 like obviously I said before, it's a busy time of 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:41.000 the year. There's heaps going on and you need to 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:43.719 schedule it all. So I've actually got you onto this, 0:11:43.800 --> 0:11:45.840 and I tell I'm gonna tell a funny story about it. 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:47.280 Is the app TimeTree. 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:49.160 Oh I love a time tree. 0:11:49.520 --> 0:11:51.360 You know what I have to say before you, like 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:55.360 tell this story. I was very reluctant to try this, Matt. Yeah, 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:56.520 and I'm so glad I did. 0:11:56.679 --> 0:12:00.320 You're welcome. It's actually life changing. It's literally life change. 0:12:00.400 --> 0:12:04.640 So Jenn and I found maybe probably under a year ago, 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:07.280 ten months ago, like there's so much going on, right, 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:09.840 so like I'll say, oh, let's do this on this stage. 0:12:09.840 --> 0:12:11.440 She's like, no, I'm doing this, and I'll be like, well, 0:12:11.480 --> 0:12:12.880 have you told me this? And she's like, yeah, I've 0:12:12.880 --> 0:12:15.440 told you multiple times, and I'm like you forgot yeah. Yeah. 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:18.120 So then we heard about this app called time Tree. 0:12:18.160 --> 0:12:21.040 So I put my stuff in blue, she puts her 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:23.240 stuff in in red, and then in green is stuff 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:25.520 we're both doing. Yeah, so it's all in there. It's 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:29.080 literally in there for months ahead. It's a lifesaver relationship change. 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:30.040 It's the best. 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:32.199 It's the best because you can see each other's calendars. 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:35.240 And then Matt got me onto it, so. 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:38.160 This is what I'm going to say. You're on it, right, 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:40.320 So we made a joint one where we were going 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:41.680 to do stuff so we knew what we were doing 0:12:41.679 --> 0:12:44.880 for the podcast, right. Yeah, I never put anything in 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:48.559 that one. You've taken that one over. So it's in 0:12:48.640 --> 0:12:51.800 my own way as it's your full calendar. So I 0:12:51.840 --> 0:12:55.840 get updated every day with Anna's what she's doing. I 0:12:55.880 --> 0:12:57.880 can't remember the other day I was having someone asked 0:12:57.880 --> 0:12:59.560 me something about you, and I was like, oh, actually, 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:01.280 see what she's doing then, and I looked at I 0:13:01.280 --> 0:13:04.439 looked at Time Tree and I'm like, oh, she's here. Literally, 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:05.960 someone was like where's Anna? And I was like, I 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:08.120 actually know because I have her fucking calendar. 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:10.440 That's so funny. I didn't know that. 0:13:10.520 --> 0:13:12.200 And you know when it notifies you in the morning, 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:14.480 so I get mine and Jen's calendar and then I 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:18.040 get your, so you've got on for the day every day. 0:13:18.200 --> 0:13:19.360 This is so funny. 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:21.719 You know the thing about time tree, So obviously you're 0:13:21.760 --> 0:13:24.280 like sharing calendars with people who you're close to, but 0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:27.440 sometimes Matt will like update my calendar and like add 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:29.960 things in and I'm like, in a second, I don't 0:13:30.000 --> 0:13:32.720 remember adding this, but Matt's added it in for me. 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:34.960 That's right. The other day I added all our podcast 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:36.400 things for you. So I'll just do it, put it 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:36.920 straight in there. 0:13:37.000 --> 0:13:38.480 It was really helpful though, so thank you. 0:13:38.559 --> 0:13:39.000 That's all right. 0:13:39.120 --> 0:13:40.959 Yeah, time Tree is great, and it's great like when 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:43.199 you do want to be sharing calendars with people, everyone's 0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:46.200 color coded so you don't get mixed up, and you know, 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:47.079 it's a great way. 0:13:47.200 --> 0:13:48.880 Yeah. So that's my recommendation. 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:51.720 I'm going to try and get Michael onto it. That's 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:52.280 my gu. 0:13:52.600 --> 0:13:53.840 In the same one. So I'm going to say, what 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:54.920 you and Michael are doing? 0:13:55.040 --> 0:13:56.880 No, can I add him in his own one and 0:13:56.880 --> 0:13:58.000 then we'll share. 0:13:58.880 --> 0:14:00.839 Yeah, yeah, definitely do that, but then you'll have to 0:14:00.840 --> 0:14:02.840 add them to two unless you take over that one. 0:14:04.120 --> 0:14:10.160 Look, it's an ever growing process. Hello, you've reached Anna 0:14:10.160 --> 0:14:10.560 and Matt. 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:12.640 We can't get to the phone right now, but. 0:14:12.640 --> 0:14:15.800 Please leave us a message on our hotline after the beep. 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:17.800 Okay Matt. 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:21.040 Earlier this week on our Instagram and Facebook page, we 0:14:21.160 --> 0:14:25.280 asked our audience to send us their crazy ex stories. 0:14:25.360 --> 0:14:27.640 Thank you so much to everyone who wrote in. We 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:30.120 got some insane stories right. 0:14:30.240 --> 0:14:32.400 Mm hmm, I haven't heard any of them. Buddy, our 0:14:32.400 --> 0:14:34.720 producer Alex, who goes through and told us there's some 0:14:34.800 --> 0:14:38.360 fucking wild ones in there and to get ready buckle up. Okay, 0:14:38.400 --> 0:14:41.640 so this first one we've got comes from Steph. 0:14:41.760 --> 0:14:43.800 Okay, this is the first time we're hearing this guy. 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:45.520 This is our honest reaction. 0:14:46.640 --> 0:14:48.200 So I was saying this guy for about a year, 0:14:48.760 --> 0:14:52.120 and within three months he moved in with me. Fast 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:55.600 forward eight months. He was talking about marriage, kids, making 0:14:55.600 --> 0:14:58.280 a life together. So we decided to buy the house 0:14:58.280 --> 0:15:00.520 that we're living in. We went to the account and 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:03.600 got all the people work, sorted all the finances in order, 0:15:04.400 --> 0:15:06.880 and I was just really unhappy and I put it 0:15:06.920 --> 0:15:09.080 down to work. So he was like, why didn't you 0:15:09.120 --> 0:15:11.920 quit your job? I will support you. You go study, 0:15:11.960 --> 0:15:15.560 make a career. So I ended up quitting my job 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:19.520 of eight years and enrolled in a nursing course that 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:22.160 I had wanted to do for a long time. On 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:25.800 my first week of studying, he went to work one 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:29.680 day as if everything was normal and just never returned. 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:33.360 So he left me financially screwed. I had just started 0:15:33.360 --> 0:15:36.280 a new course. If it wasn't for my family, I 0:15:36.320 --> 0:15:39.400 don't know where i'd be today. Still two years on 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:42.760 and I haven't heard a single word from him, No closure, 0:15:43.400 --> 0:15:47.280 no explanation of what happened. Nothing Like took ghosting to 0:15:47.400 --> 0:15:48.440 a whole new level. 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:55.840 Oh my god, did did he die? 0:15:56.280 --> 0:15:57.040 That's wild? 0:15:57.200 --> 0:15:59.120 I mean when I first started hearing that story, I 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:00.880 was thinking, this is like me and that to a t, 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:02.320 Like things are moving quick. 0:16:02.400 --> 0:16:03.280 He's moving into. 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:06.680 Three months, like they're looking at finances eight months in 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:09.920 to buy the house. But why go to that much 0:16:10.000 --> 0:16:11.880 effort and then ghost like that? 0:16:12.160 --> 0:16:14.160 I was, Yeah, I was like, this guy's moving quickly. 0:16:14.280 --> 0:16:16.880 He sounds like he's caene Like this scene isn't being Yeah, 0:16:16.880 --> 0:16:18.640 this is cute, Like this sounds This doesn't sound like 0:16:18.680 --> 0:16:20.760 a horror story. This sounds like a really nice story. 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:23.360 I just where is he? What's he doing? How is 0:16:23.400 --> 0:16:24.520 she not heard from him? For two? 0:16:24.680 --> 0:16:26.840 We need to get a private detective on this guy, 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:29.000 Like you know what, Like this sounds crazy, but I 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:32.640 actually looked out how much private detective costs recently for 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:34.720 a friend's boyfriend, and. 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:38.720 Look, they're not that expensive. It's about sixteen hundred dollars 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:39.720 for a little search out. 0:16:39.760 --> 0:16:42.440