WEBVTT - "My BF Won't Have Period Sex with Me" || HOTLINE 0:00:05.800 --> 0:00:08.200 Welcome back to the Where's Your Head At? Hotline, our 0:00:08.240 --> 0:00:10.840 weekly show where we catch up with each other and 0:00:10.880 --> 0:00:13.520 connect with you all on our hotline voicemail. 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:15.560 We want to hear from you, guys, so please send 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:18.840 your stories, questions, advice or tea to Where's Your Head 0:00:18.840 --> 0:00:21.520 at pod at gmail dot com to be featured on 0:00:21.520 --> 0:00:23.799 one of our episodes. I'm Anna and I'm Matt. 0:00:24.200 --> 0:00:25.000 Let's jump in. 0:00:30.080 --> 0:00:32.000 Good morning Anna, Hello. 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:34.080 It's in a shaky morning in Melbourne. 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:37.720 Hello, great Khan, Great the honeyway to start this off? 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:42.120 It as there was a four point five magnitude earthquake 0:00:42.240 --> 0:00:44.440 in Melbourne and I missed it. 0:00:44.600 --> 0:00:47.320 As always, we were talking before we got in here. 0:00:47.360 --> 0:00:51.040 We both slept through both the most recent earthquakes. 0:00:51.440 --> 0:00:54.280 Yeah, I don't know how. I mean, I do know how. 0:00:54.840 --> 0:00:56.440 Well, why did you sleep through the first one? Because 0:00:56.440 --> 0:00:58.760 that one was obviously at ten am. A lot of 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:00.800 people would say we should have been away. 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:04.800 And I agree, Well, so you slept through it too, 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:05.840 a fucking. 0:01:05.560 --> 0:01:07.880 Log I had no idea. Me and my roommates spoke 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:10.920 off and we're like, everyone's posting about an earthquake. But 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:12.920 to be fair, it was during the middle of lockdown 0:01:13.000 --> 0:01:13.640 wasn't it. 0:01:13.640 --> 0:01:16.600 It was like we were allowed out. 0:01:17.280 --> 0:01:18.399 Maybe it was a weird time. 0:01:18.520 --> 0:01:19.680 It was a lockdown ish time. 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:23.000 Yeah, and we were all partying the night before you were. Yeah, 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:25.200 so we like slept right through our well, we didn't 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:26.319 have work. We did enough to get up. 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:27.319 It was alarmed. 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:31.440 We're from home, just signing and that's it. 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:34.920 So the last earthquake that happens in Melbourne, I was 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:37.560 up at six am on the dot and I was 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:40.880 like living life. And then Michael and I decided to 0:01:40.920 --> 0:01:44.480 have a bit of sexy time. And then after that 0:01:44.520 --> 0:01:47.880 we were exhausted, so we went for a nap and 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:51.280 during the nap is when the earthquake happened. 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:54.520 Nothing beats a midday nap, though, was your partner. I 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:56.200 can agree with that after sex as well. 0:01:56.400 --> 0:01:58.800 No sex nap like you need at least like thirty minutes. 0:01:58.880 --> 0:02:01.640 But we felt so left out because this happened at 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:04.760 ten o'clock in the morning. Then we woke up like 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:08.400 thirty minutes later. Everyone's talking about it, you know, the 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:10.880 family group chats are going off, Oh my god, we've 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:13.519 lived through an earthquake and we just like had no contribution. 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:15.839 I'm almost sort of jealous that people who have heard 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:18.160 it and felt it go off and I haven't, you know, 0:02:18.840 --> 0:02:20.520 I want to feel in it. Oh, I shouldn't say that, 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:23.880 but you know, of them mild not a serious one. 0:02:24.000 --> 0:02:28.760 Yeah, well there is after shocks apparently supposed to be happening. 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:30.880 So I'm kind of like half expecting us to be 0:02:31.040 --> 0:02:32.480 doing this podcast and like. 0:02:32.520 --> 0:02:36.440 Fingers cross room, fingers shaked, fingers crossed. So they did 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:37.839 wake me up though, in the middle of the night. 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:41.040 What a fucking possum was like kissing at my window. 0:02:41.120 --> 0:02:43.520 It felt like it was literally on my window kissing 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:44.639 at me while I slept. 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:46.040 I hate possums. 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:48.760 It was fucking weird. I like threw my pillow out 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:49.919 the window, but it didn't go away. 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:52.360 You know those people who like feed possums and just 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:54.680 like get around them, like I just I see them 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:56.960 as a rodent, Like I can't even get around them 0:02:57.000 --> 0:02:57.320 at all. 0:02:57.480 --> 0:02:58.959 My mum the other day was looking at it was like, 0:02:59.000 --> 0:03:01.000 come we at it. It's so and I'm like, it's 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:01.960 a fucking possum. 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:07.440 They look like oversized rats to me. I hate rats, 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:09.639 and when you compare them, you're just like I can't 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:10.079 look at them. 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:12.760 The same I am there. Used to be like I 0:03:12.760 --> 0:03:14.040 was talking about this the other day with Mum when 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:16.120 we saw that possum. Remember how like growing up used 0:03:16.120 --> 0:03:18.000 to think where's the possum? Everyone would mention that there 0:03:18.080 --> 0:03:20.639 was possums. Now you just see them all the time. 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:22.960 Do you. Yeah, I don't see possums all the time. 0:03:23.000 --> 0:03:27.320 Probably where you're living where I am now, there's always possums. 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:28.880 Am I still driving you home? 0:03:29.280 --> 0:03:30.119 Yes? Please? 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:33.880 Well, I'll just warn you about something on the waykend 0:03:34.200 --> 0:03:37.680 Oh god. So I was going through Maca's drive through 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:39.800 for probably my third coffee of the day. 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:42.760 You loved Maca's drive through, and you know what, I'm 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:45.000 always on the phone to Matt and he's like, I'll 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:47.520 just give you my MacDonald's code. I'm like, why do 0:03:47.600 --> 0:03:50.760 you have a mac Donald's code. It's so strange. 0:03:50.320 --> 0:03:51.880 Because if you get what is it, if you get 0:03:51.920 --> 0:03:54.320 like three coffees, you get a free one with the 0:03:54.360 --> 0:03:58.120 points they accumulate. So I'm just really as fuck. Yeah, 0:03:58.280 --> 0:03:59.920 that's why I always use my Maca's code. 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:02.200 You're living a better life than me. I don't even know. 0:04:03.320 --> 0:04:05.920 There you go, yeah, that's a recommendation. Then you go 0:04:06.040 --> 0:04:07.440 use your Maca's code. 0:04:07.480 --> 0:04:08.400 How do you get them? 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:10.320 You just download the app and you just tell them 0:04:10.320 --> 0:04:13.120 your code, and then it like accumulates the points and 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:15.800 then the points that you get for a coffee, it's 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:17.919 like three, and then you get a free one and 0:04:17.960 --> 0:04:20.920 I always get mediums and then the free one is large. 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:23.400 To be fair, though, on the weekend I had the 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:26.839 worst MacDonald's coffee known to man. It was like burnt. 0:04:27.279 --> 0:04:30.400 It was like gross, and I normally love a Maca's coffee. 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:33.120 I wouldn't blame Macis. I'd blame the barista. 0:04:34.360 --> 0:04:36.760 She was under like a lot of stress, to be honest. 0:04:36.960 --> 0:04:39.560 It was like you know when like you're going to Macis. 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:41.960 Sorry to like divet from your story, but like you 0:04:41.960 --> 0:04:43.599 know when you go to Macas and the cue is 0:04:43.640 --> 0:04:46.440 like phenomenally long, and you're like, I'm gonna have to 0:04:46.480 --> 0:04:48.960 walk in, So you walk in and then you see 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:54.240 the deep amount of stress that they're under. It was 0:04:54.240 --> 0:04:57.640 a Sunday at nine am, and like the chick I 0:04:57.880 --> 0:05:01.160 was like, you know, her for head was like sweating. 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:02.640 I was like, let's make sure that doesn't get in 0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:03.080 the coffee. 0:05:05.000 --> 0:05:07.080 Well that was the that was the time I went 0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:09.479 so I was getting like my third coffee. Then the 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:11.680 line of the drive through and then they say that 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:18.120 the coffee machine's broken. Imagine my imagine my thoughts. So 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:19.600 I go, all right, well I would just grab three 0:05:19.640 --> 0:05:22.240 hash Browns. I'll go home, give some to my give 0:05:22.279 --> 0:05:24.320 some to my mum. So I was like, all right, 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:28.680 So go through, pay, get to the next window, and 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:30.600 they hand in my bag and I go to drive off. 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:33.000 So I take a little bit drive forward and then 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:35.120 I gouck, this bag is a bit heavy. So I 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:37.320 look in it and it's a sausage and McMuffin or 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:39.680 whatever it was. I don't know. It was like a muffin. Yeah, yum. 0:05:39.680 --> 0:05:41.760 But I want my hash Browns because I didn't even 0:05:41.760 --> 0:05:43.360 want to get them for me there for my mum. 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:45.039 And I was like, you know what, fuck this, So 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:48.360 I chuck it in reverse. As I'm reversing, there's no cars. 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:51.640 I just hear c crunch and I was like, no, 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:55.320 what is that? Turn around? And I've hit like the 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:58.960 dry through sort of like you know, ledge as they 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:02.080 like give you yes, and then I've literally come to 0:06:02.120 --> 0:06:04.320 the window and as I've gotten to the window, the 0:06:04.400 --> 0:06:06.920 whole mac of staff He's like looking out the window 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:09.640 at me, and I'm just like, yeah, you gave me 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:16.080 the wrong order, and then it actually makes me so embarrassed. 0:06:16.240 --> 0:06:18.440 And then the girls like what is your order? And 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:20.760 I'm like, oh, three hash Brewers, and then we just 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:22.400 swapped him and I was like, do you need my 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:25.920 insurance details? And she's like it's fine, and I just 0:06:26.000 --> 0:06:26.560 drove off. 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:28.480 So what was the damage. 0:06:28.920 --> 0:06:31.200 Well, I'm in the old work cute, so it was 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:33.440 like a metal tray, so nothing happened to me. And 0:06:33.520 --> 0:06:36.440 I think I just put it like a lot. I'm 0:06:36.440 --> 0:06:39.000 going to go past. I'll take a photo. Even this morning, 0:06:39.040 --> 0:06:40.640 I didn't go to Maccas. I went to like Crispy 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:42.680 Cremes because I was like, I can't go back there 0:06:42.680 --> 0:06:43.400 for at least a. 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:46.440 Week, at least three working business. 0:06:46.080 --> 0:06:49.320 Day just to lay low. But I think I just 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:50.680 like scraped and light left. 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:54.880 Oh my god, that's so embarrassing. And the fact that 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:56.160 they all came to the window. 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:58.200 It was literally like probably six or seven of them, 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:00.360 just seven of them just looking at me and was like, 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:00.800 so you. 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:05.320 Just doubled down. You weren't like true to I would 0:07:05.360 --> 0:07:07.400 have like gone bright red like you know, when really 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:10.040 embarrassing things happen, my face will just like burn up 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:10.800 like a beat road. 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:13.240 I'd be like, nah, I was flying with it. I 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:17.200 was just like, I was like, get you the wrong order? Well, 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:20.320 one would argue I've been in a lot of prayings 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:22.080 or accidents, but oh. 0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:23.040 God have you. 0:07:23.120 --> 0:07:26.000 But it would be if you divide the amount of 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:28.000 hours I've driven with how many. 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:30.880 I don't know if that's the thing hours. 0:07:30.920 --> 0:07:33.840 It's probably the normal person amount of prayings by my age. 0:07:34.120 --> 0:07:37.640 No, no, no, no, you just cannot get away with that. 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:39.520 It's a solid I reckon. 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:42.880 It's a solid argument as as you have more driving 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:45.600 hours and work than up, you should be becoming a 0:07:45.600 --> 0:07:49.320 better driver and you shouldn't be making the same careless. 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:51.360 Not all accidents are my fault, though, I mean other 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:52.560 people to the. 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:55.240 Macas drive where I'm going to go with is your fault. 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:57.520 I love the fact I get home and I went 0:07:57.560 --> 0:07:59.720 to my mum. Yeah, I crashed into Maccas. 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:03.520 Into Macca's actual building, like the. 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:05.640 Actual building, And she was like, what, You're right, and 0:08:05.640 --> 0:08:07.880 I'm like, and I explained it. We're just laughing, do 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:08.440 you know what? 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:14.720 Funnily enough, my first in car collision was had a 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:18.160 mac Donald's. So I don't think it's as rare as 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:18.600 you think. 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:22.720 You went up so on they what happened? That sounds 0:08:22.760 --> 0:08:26.760 so dad in context, in context. 0:08:26.400 --> 0:08:29.560 To a car car accident. Yeah, so I think I 0:08:29.640 --> 0:08:32.920 was like fresh eighteen. I think it was probably like 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:36.320 my third MACS drive through very exciting times. I think 0:08:36.320 --> 0:08:39.040 I had like looked on my phone very bad. 0:08:39.320 --> 0:08:40.160 You don't do it. 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:43.160 No, No, this is before the time of maccas codes. 0:08:43.200 --> 0:08:46.080 This is in twenty ten, but I'm still very much 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:49.200 in school, and I think I just like took my 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:52.480 foot off the accelerator, just like because I was looking 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:55.480 at my phone, and I just like slowly, at probably 0:08:55.520 --> 0:08:58.440 like two kilometers an hour, I just rolled into the 0:08:58.440 --> 0:09:00.560 person in front, and they were so mad at me, 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:02.880 and I like burst out crying, and I was like, 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:03.880 I'm so sorry. 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:05.840 I've never been mad at someone in an accident when 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:06.320 they've hit me. 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:13.079 I'm like, yeah, I get so emotional. Wells so emotional. 0:09:13.320 --> 0:09:15.480 That's a good point. I didn't realize until I got 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:16.959 into a car. Remember my first time in a car, 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:18.840 that it rolls if you don't have your foot in 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:19.880 the bobble. Yeah. 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:21.160 It was a good lesson for me. 0:09:21.400 --> 0:09:25.319 Yeah, my family friends on the main road in Chadstone. 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:27.000 I just was hopped in and I thought i'd be 0:09:27.040 --> 0:09:29.200 smart ass and started and it started rolling and I 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:30.079 was like, what the fuck? 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:33.040 Yeah, old cars, Yeah. 0:09:33.000 --> 0:09:35.840 Lesson for everyone. Yeahut there, how's your weekend? 0:09:36.280 --> 0:09:39.120 It was good. We went on a little staycation to 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:44.200 the Massiveden Rangers. Very fun. Have never been there. Yeah, 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:50.240 I don't know. Maybe, yeah, I think you're you're the GPS, you. 0:09:50.200 --> 0:09:51.520 Know, Okay, it's right. 0:09:51.960 --> 0:09:53.959 I love about how you asked me the questions if I. 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:56.440 Would ever know, well around that area, I should know 0:09:57.240 --> 0:09:57.960 it's around there. 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:02.000 We did a hike which Michael and I haven't done 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:04.000 a hike in two years because the last hike we 0:10:04.040 --> 0:10:06.760 did it was in Thailand when Michael tried to like 0:10:06.800 --> 0:10:10.800 force me on this hike and it ended in like tears, literalities, 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:13.200 like I was literally crying and I was like, I 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:15.360 can't believe you put me through this trauma. 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:16.880 Who walks for fun? 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:21.200 Michael? Michael, people do like to hike for fun. And 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:23.679 you know what, I couldn't understand it. 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:25.720 But I was about to say I wouldn't mind doing 0:10:25.760 --> 0:10:26.320 more of it. 0:10:26.720 --> 0:10:30.320 Yeah, I had the funnest time ever. So like, if 0:10:30.320 --> 0:10:33.440 you're not a hiker, I'm gonna recommend that you do 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:36.240 the hanging rock. Michael was calling it the hanging cock 0:10:36.240 --> 0:10:38.079 and I almost said hanging cock, but it's not. It's 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:42.000 hanging rock in the Mount Massiden Ranges. It was beautiful. 0:10:42.160 --> 0:10:42.960 How long is the hike? 0:10:43.200 --> 0:10:45.840 It's like thirty minutes up, thirty minutes down, which is bad. 0:10:45.960 --> 0:10:47.480 Which is the optimum time? 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:48.199 Really good? 0:10:48.240 --> 0:10:51.520 Yeah, because then it's like like if halfway through the 0:10:51.600 --> 0:10:54.079 hike you change your mind, you're only fifteen minutes up. 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:56.960 It's too hard to turn back around to be like na, 0:10:57.040 --> 0:10:57.480 this is it. 0:10:57.640 --> 0:10:59.720 No, But like when we got to the top, it 0:10:59.800 --> 0:11:01.960 was like very rocky and it kind of felt like 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:04.880 we got to like explore and like find our way 0:11:04.960 --> 0:11:07.480 and it's cool. It was adventurous, it was fun. 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:10.079 Was it a waterfall or was it more just rock hanging? 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:13.439 It was it was a rock hanging hanging rock. 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:14.960 It's a pretty self explaining. 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:18.280 Very self exclita. True. Yeah, but when before we actually 0:11:18.360 --> 0:11:21.640 went on the hike, this lady was like, oh, there 0:11:21.679 --> 0:11:25.040 was like this group of like private school girls who 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:28.040 went up there and got lost, and it was like 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:32.080 this spooky myth and apparently it's a movie, has been 0:11:32.120 --> 0:11:33.280 a movie, is a movie. 0:11:33.480 --> 0:11:34.560 It was like a horror movie. 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:37.560 I'm not sure because I haven't seen it, but it's 0:11:37.600 --> 0:11:40.320 a movie of some I to watch it. Yeah, I'm 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:42.720 gonna watch it actually since I've just done it. But 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:44.760 I was like, why would you tell me that right 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:46.440 before I climb it? 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:48.760 I think that sounds like an urban legend. 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:50.840 People love a spooky ghost story, don't they. 0:11:50.920 --> 0:11:52.199 Yeah, it was one of the horrors I watched on 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:54.920 the weekend was actually urban legend and it's about like 0:11:55.320 --> 0:11:58.079 all the urban legends from in the past that people told. 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:00.840 What do you mean urban legend? So and like, yeah, 0:12:00.840 --> 0:12:01.319 what is that. 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:05.320 It's when people tell through generations a story to scare 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:08.440 people interacting in a certain way in a certain way, 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:10.199 or do something in a certain way. 0:12:10.480 --> 0:12:13.160 Interesting. Yeah, I love that, very interesting. 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:15.960 So I feel like that's an urban legend. Yeah, to 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:16.680 not get lost. 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:19.839 Yeah, But overall, great weekend. It was nice having a 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:22.240 little staycation. By the end of it, we did kind 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:24.080 of miss home though, like sometimes you know, you just 0:12:24.120 --> 0:12:26.440 missed your own bed, so you had two nights we 0:12:26.520 --> 0:12:29.640 had two nights there at Cleveland Winery. It was beautiful. 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:32.520 There was like a fire, There's like lots of like 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:35.240 nice property to explore. It was just so cold, like 0:12:35.480 --> 0:12:37.320 when you get out of the city you forget that 0:12:37.400 --> 0:12:39.320 it drops down like a few degrees. 0:12:39.400 --> 0:12:41.760 I like that though, the staycation that would be made. 0:12:41.880 --> 0:12:45.720 I like it when you're prepared to. I mean I 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:48.360 did pack for it, but I feel like if I 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:52.600 was to do it again, i'd go buy some thermals. Anyway, 0:12:52.640 --> 0:12:53.480 how was your weekend? 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:59.080 Good? Just had another chilled weekend. I went for Walks 0:12:59.480 --> 0:13:03.760 coffee past our. Horror movies are usual. I know I 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:05.400 was in but I was in the sauna the other day, 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:06.719 so I just want to I don't want to get 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:09.600 like this little ranch going, but just let me say 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:12.360 it because I almost feel bad that insay something at 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:14.960 the time. But under the circumstances you're in the sauna, 0:13:15.080 --> 0:13:17.080 I'm not gonna, like, you know, have a go in 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:17.880 front of people. 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:20.640 So I'm interested. Yeah. 0:13:20.760 --> 0:13:23.120 So I was in the sauna, and at my sauna 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:25.360 you can see the gym, so if you sit there, 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:27.480 you can see like the big windows of the gym 0:13:27.640 --> 0:13:30.200 in the sauna. Yeah. From the sauna windows. You can 0:13:30.200 --> 0:13:32.240 see the windows of the gym with a view. 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:33.400 Yeah, it sounds nice. 0:13:33.480 --> 0:13:36.319 Well, you can overlook the whole like the whole aquatic center, 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:38.160 so all the pools you can see after the gym. 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:42.440 So there were these two blokes sitting there and I 0:13:42.520 --> 0:13:44.360 later found out when they were kept talking that they're 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:46.880 actually fathers and had wives and they were talking about that. 0:13:46.920 --> 0:13:49.880 But they were sitting there and they were looking up 0:13:49.880 --> 0:13:51.960 at the gym and there was like this this lady 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:56.320 training and they were making like misogynistic derogatory terms at 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:58.400 this girl. I'm not going to repeat them like on 0:13:58.520 --> 0:14:00.240 here because I don't want to give that like you know, 0:14:00.280 --> 0:14:02.400 the time of air. But they were saying just shit 0:14:02.480 --> 0:14:04.400 about her training. And I was sort of sitting there 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:08.720 and I was like, like, that's a woman out there training, 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:10.360 like trying to give it a go, and you're just 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:12.080 making fun of her. And I just was like, like, 0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:16.280 that's somebody's mum, someone's daughter, someone's sister, Like, and you 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:18.320 guys have kids yourself, how would you feel if someone 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:19.640 was saying that shit? You know what I mean. 0:14:19.680 --> 0:14:21.680 It's gusty and it makes me so mad. 0:14:21.880 --> 0:14:23.680 I feel bad for not like saying something, but you're 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:25.640 in a sauna and like you're trying to relax, you're 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:27.040 not going to speak up to these guys. Like what 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:29.560 happens then, like you say something and it makes awkward 0:14:29.960 --> 0:14:31.400 like I've got you know, like you might want to 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:33.240 get in a fight. I might get into a fight, yeah, 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:35.760 and like I don't have time for that. So I'm 0:14:35.760 --> 0:14:37.640 going to use like this platform to say to men, 0:14:37.800 --> 0:14:40.520 like it's twenty twenty three, like be better, like do 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:44.000 fucking better, like don't don't like have a like a 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:45.680 laugh of your mate something past that. 0:14:46.040 --> 0:14:49.440 Yeah, it's so foul. It honestly makes my blood at 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:53.240 boil hearing you say this. The fact, like you know, 0:14:53.440 --> 0:14:56.400 people go to the gym to like you know, work 0:14:56.440 --> 0:14:59.320 their bodies and like help their mental health, and it's 0:14:59.360 --> 0:15:03.080 just sad that it's not a safe place. Yeah, creepy 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:05.320 guys like that talking about someone. 0:15:05.120 --> 0:15:08.600 And they're not fucking like they shouldn't be throwing rocks 0:15:08.600 --> 0:15:11.280 in their glass house like they know, oil paintings themselves 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:13.440 and then to put someone else down for you know, 0:15:13.480 --> 0:15:15.400 going out there and training, like fuck you. 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:18.400 The fact that these guys have like wives and kids, 0:15:18.440 --> 0:15:19.840 that's so wild. Yeah. 0:15:19.880 --> 0:15:21.320 Well, the rest of the way they were talking was 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:23.440 sort of like derogatory as well about other things. 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:25.320 I was just like about their wives just. 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:26.800 About like, yeah, he was one of them had gone 0:15:26.800 --> 0:15:28.080 away and it was I could to get away from 0:15:28.120 --> 0:15:30.120 you know, the missus and the kids or something, and 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:32.880 I was just like, you guys are fuck with It's like, yeah, 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:35.080 gross behavior, and it's just like I thought were better 0:15:35.120 --> 0:15:37.120 than that, Like, come on, it's twenty twenty three. 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:39.920 Do you wish now in hindsight that you had said 0:15:39.920 --> 0:15:41.680 something or are you kind of just like what can 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:41.920 I do? 0:15:42.000 --> 0:15:43.960 What can you say? Like could you say something to him? 0:15:44.000 --> 0:15:46.200 And then like what they get angried? Like you don't know, 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:47.440 like if they get angry and the next you in 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:48.440 a fist fight and the sauna. 0:15:48.560 --> 0:15:51.240 Yeah, I have things like that as well, where like 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:55.640 I feel like my personality is very like I try 0:15:55.640 --> 0:15:57.600 to be a people pleaser. Like when I meet people, 0:15:57.760 --> 0:15:59.760 I like, you know, try to make them like me, 0:16:00.200 --> 0:16:02.280 like you know, not try to make them like me, 0:16:02.400 --> 0:16:04.560 but like I want to give a good first impression 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:07.520 and like make people feel comfortable and all of those things. 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:10.240 But if someone says something that they don't agree with, 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:14.240 and it happened to me actually at the hairdressers probably 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:17.160 last year, someone said something that was very below the 0:16:17.160 --> 0:16:20.120 bell and it made me feel extremely uncomfortable. It was 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:22.600 the hairdresser who was doing my hair, and instead of 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:25.280 saying something, I was just like I just asked a 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:27.560 receptionist like I was like, oh, I'd prefer not to 0:16:27.640 --> 0:16:29.880 be booked in with her again, because it was my 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:33.880 way of just like bowing out. But like, in hindsight, 0:16:33.960 --> 0:16:36.160 I get this like feeling of like, fuck, I should 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:37.560 have said something, and like. 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:40.760 Saying something, she's just going to make like an argument 0:16:40.800 --> 0:16:43.040 and bring like I don't. 0:16:42.880 --> 0:16:45.720 Know, would you say something in a way that's like educating, 0:16:45.800 --> 0:16:47.080 but then it makes it awkward. 0:16:47.120 --> 0:16:49.240 But then it's like, well, the culture of the sauna 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:51.920 is there's regulars and they come in a lot, like 0:16:51.960 --> 0:16:53.880 I haven't seen them since, but I could probably say 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:56.480 something in the future and it just make like I 0:16:56.520 --> 0:16:58.000 don't know, It's like a lot of people say a 0:16:58.000 --> 0:16:59.400