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Speaker 1: Apogee Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am I

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Speaker 1: A Bad Mom? Podcast? We're in December. I feel like

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Speaker 1: I'm shaking as I say it.

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Speaker 2: We're in de Zera, December, and the old fella he's

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Speaker 2: not far off coming to visit.

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Speaker 1: And my kids are on school holidays already. They're working

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Speaker 1: a lot.

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Speaker 3: That's great.

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Speaker 1: It's interesting anyone with kids that are getting close to

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Speaker 1: like teenage years, so you are starting to think about working.

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Speaker 1: What's really interesting because I was like, you have to

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Speaker 1: get a job. It was like hammering them to get

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Speaker 1: a job. And they did both get jobs and machas

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Speaker 1: you know. Honestly, I can say to you, I think

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Speaker 1: Amelia's work there for a year, and maybe even now

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Speaker 1: colleagues work there for a year. They still get both

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Speaker 1: of them a little bit. Holly massively really anxious about

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Speaker 1: every shift. What I've realized because I thought for ages

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Speaker 1: she just doesn't want to work, just lazy. I'm like, mate,

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Speaker 1: three hours doing fries, it's gonna be a stressful job

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Speaker 1: you are ever going to have in your whole life.

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Speaker 1: And she would tell me how chaotic it was and

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Speaker 1: how stressful. I'm like, it's not stressful. They can't possibly

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Speaker 3: Well, people like fries, so you mess that up.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Actually, what I've learned is now there's these jobs

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Speaker 1: at City Beach and Woolworths, and they are so much happier.

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Speaker 1: They're enjoying the work. I would say fast food someone

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Speaker 1: like macas. Yeah, not for all the kids, because there

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Speaker 1: is definitely a pressure on being hectic and super fast.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't be able to do it, no way.

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Speaker 1: Jose Holly complained so much about going to a maca Is.

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Speaker 1: I said, okay, Holly, I've only got one other option

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Speaker 1: for you. You have to earn money to survive. We

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Speaker 1: all have to. So my option and advice to you,

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Speaker 1: mother to daughter, giving you some worldly advice is find

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Speaker 1: a rich husband. Oh there you go to find an

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Speaker 1: old rich husband. Oh god, at that age?

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Speaker 3: Would I be giving them that advice?

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Speaker 2: At our age? Would I be giving it to our friends' advice? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I do on the daily.

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Speaker 1: Am I bad Mum for clamping down? I've had enough

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Speaker 1: of being Mom's bank But you can't be now? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Well that so rich after thirty hours of work, nothing

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Speaker 2: to spend their money? I mean when I say nothing

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Speaker 2: to spend the money, on no end, no car.

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Speaker 3: No like the car.

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Speaker 2: They just probably paid for their fuel, but they're probably

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Speaker 2: on the same tank that you filled up.

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Speaker 1: They should be rich. Well, Holly said to me the

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Speaker 1: other day. She went, I should have this much money

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Speaker 1: in my account, but I had to get a full

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Speaker 1: tanker pedual blah blah. I was like, yeah, welcome to

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Speaker 1: the world.

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Speaker 3: I don't care to the world.

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Speaker 1: And so I'm still getting regularly rache paidback.

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Speaker 3: Can you pay me that?

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Speaker 1: And you pay me back now? They check with me

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Speaker 1: like is it okay if I get But usually Rach,

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Speaker 1: I'm in a situation where I'm at work, or I'm

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Speaker 1: rushing around, or I'm needing a phone call, jump on

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Speaker 1: a court or something, and I end up just going yeah, yeah, sure,

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Speaker 1: because I'm not thinking about it properly. And then I

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Speaker 1: think about it afterwards. I'm like, really, I bought enough

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Speaker 1: food for you to be taking stuff with you. What

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Speaker 1: you get bottles of water out because you didn't fill

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Speaker 1: up your water bottle.

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Speaker 3: Your problem, not my problem.

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Speaker 1: And so Holly was at work. She was doing some

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Speaker 1: quite late shifts after school and till like nine, so

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Speaker 1: she wasn't getting dinner. So if she wanted to grab

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Speaker 1: no worries. She said to me one day, okay, mom,

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Speaker 1: I spent this on this. And then they go through

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Speaker 1: like oh, you owe me this. I hate the way

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Speaker 3: The other the ner.

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Speaker 2: But the other part is they could be taking their

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Speaker 3: Stumps on that, they would be.

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Speaker 2: And I can tell you they would be making whatever

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because they don't want to spend their money.

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Speaker 1: I think I've got it in my head right that

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Speaker 1: This particular day, Holly goes, oh, you owe me this

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Speaker 1: amount of money. It wasn't very much. It was a

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Speaker 1: went on, because I got a pickle on my break

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Speaker 1: and what so, yeah, I got a pickle. I don't

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Speaker 1: know what they must have been on TikTok or something,

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Speaker 1: but you can buy these like big pickles.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they're disgusting.

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Speaker 1: I thought about it and I went, I'm not paying

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Speaker 1: for the pickle. And what do you mean? I said,

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Speaker 1: that's not food. That like, you've chosen to get a pickle.

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Speaker 1: Why should I be paying for the pickle? Like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: this is a no pickle zone. Yeah, you're not paying

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Speaker 1: I'm not paying for the pickle. You can pay for

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Speaker 1: the pickle, I said. And actually, I'm going to clamp

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Speaker 1: down on some of this stuff because when I look

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Speaker 1: at what I'm paying you back for water, when you

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Speaker 1: catch me off guard and say can I get a

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Speaker 1: bottle of water, I'm like, of course you can get

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Speaker 1: a bottle of water. I'm a parent. I want my

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Speaker 1: kids to be drinking water. And then I'm like, no,

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Speaker 1: you've got so many water water me.

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Speaker 2: I was like, Katie, every time I see you, that

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Speaker 2: beat up old water bottle is always with you. So

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Speaker 2: what's the difference between you and your children? You are

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Speaker 2: not so many any money on water? You've always got

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Speaker 2: that filled to the brim.

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Speaker 1: They've got a Stanley. I bought them a Stanley stead.

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Speaker 2: And then they will actually become self sufficient around taking water.

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Speaker 3: When they have to buy water, they'll take water.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Rachel. As we know, I got my water bottle

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Speaker 1: that I use overnight from Kmar and it was nine dollars.

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Speaker 1: It was on special.

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Speaker 3: It might be not working now, but it does work.

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Speaker 1: It worked you leave the.

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Speaker 2: House because I only see that one, that one has

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Speaker 2: been belted around, that is actually going on. It's had

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Speaker 2: some age about it and it is belted around. And

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Speaker 2: I don't ever see you with a plastic bottle of water.

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Speaker 3: So I reckon put the hole on that one as well.

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Speaker 1: Now I feel self conscious about this water bottle because

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't love it. This water bottle really saves a purpose.

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Speaker 2: That is a mum water bottle if I've ever seen one, like,

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Speaker 2: that's how you feel like as a mum some days.

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Speaker 2: See how beat up that bottle is. That is how

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Speaker 3: As a parent.

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Speaker 1: Okay, it's nine hundred mills so it's almost a leader.

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Speaker 1: It's insulated. It's got like fits in the side of

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Speaker 1: my car. Yeah, they're like, oh yeah in the arm

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Speaker 1: Yeah perfectly.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Like I've spent a fortune on water bottles. Take your

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Speaker 1: water bottle, Look at the one I'm carding around.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I've seen you pull it out of your handbag

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Speaker 3: Just keeps on giving. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Imagine if you add up all the water that you're

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Speaker 2: buying for your children, you could have bought like another

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Speaker 2: three bottles of those and then given that to.

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Speaker 1: Maybe that's what they need for Christmas. Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: I've just thought because now you've got me thinking about

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Speaker 1: taking around that beatn number water bottle. I like it.

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Speaker 1: It definitely is like vibes. So I've just realized because

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Speaker 1: I was like, where did I get this water bottle?

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Speaker 3: I think for as long as this podcast has been going,

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Speaker 3: that bottle has been going.

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Speaker 1: I've had this water water for ten years.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know that's why I know it.

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Speaker 1: I got it in two thousand.

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Speaker 2: I'd probably i'd probably be able to identify you with

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Speaker 2: that water bottle before you pop through the or if

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Speaker 2: I saw a water bottle Katie's here.

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Speaker 1: I'm not even joking.

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Speaker 2: I am. You know, like some things you see of people,

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Speaker 2: and that's like one of the things that I always

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Speaker 2: will know that you're here or you're around because I

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Speaker 2: know that water bottle.

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Speaker 3: Okay, well, don't change it now.

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Speaker 1: No, I have to now, No, you can't.

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Speaker 2: This is iconic to the podcast. People need to know

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Speaker 2: that Katie's here.

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Speaker 3: Water bottle.

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Speaker 2: They love it.

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Speaker 3: I hope you buddy clean it.

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Speaker 1: If you ask me what water bottle you use, I

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Speaker 1: would say I don't know, but mine. Seeing you with

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Speaker 3: I'm really like weird with water bottles.

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Speaker 2: I won't like tend to share them unless somebody's choking,

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Speaker 2: and then I'll allow them to have a mouthful, but

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Speaker 1: Through the straw.

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Speaker 3: Please don't get the top and drink from there.

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Speaker 2: And so yeah, I don't share if my kids have

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Speaker 2: had the you know, like the night bottles with the

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Speaker 2: squeezy ones, I don't need any of that, no, because

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Speaker 3: But yeah, so yes, I.

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Speaker 2: Do tend to rotate them a lot. But when I

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Speaker 2: say rotate them a lot, it's just in the big drawer.

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Speaker 2: Everyone that's got kids has got a large drawer of

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Speaker 3: Surely. Yeah, yeah, how often do you wash that?

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Speaker 1: I rinsed it and put it on the draining board

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Speaker 1: at the end of every day. Oh yeah, that's right,

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Speaker 1: is it?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I mean as long as you're washing the mouthpart.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever like got this is disgusting? I just

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Speaker 1: said it.

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Speaker 2: Oh, now I'm gonna have to commit to it. Have

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Speaker 2: you ever used a water bottle for like a week

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Speaker 2: and then you go to put it in the light

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Speaker 2: to wash it properly? Wash it by Do you ever

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Speaker 2: smell the bottle?

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Speaker 3: Oh, it's disgusting. But see minor all got like the

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Speaker 3: straws on it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Well I've been using them have ten.

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Speaker 3: Years and she's still going strong's going strong.

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Speaker 1: Well, we could sit and talk about water bottles all

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Speaker 1: day long, smelly water bottles. We won't. I've got at

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Speaker 1: least another ten years left in this water.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we keep going. I reckon there's been a few

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Speaker 3: occasions where you've had wine in.

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Speaker 1: That maybe, And what I might do is i might

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Speaker 1: get a new water bottle just so that I'm not

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Speaker 1: so predictable to you. I was like, there comes a

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Speaker 1: water bottle, and oh my god, I'm so predictable, same

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Speaker 1: water bottle, same hairstyle, same shop wear by my clothes.

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Speaker 2: the style is like comics always.

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