1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:01,720 Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables. 2 00:00:02,040 --> 00:00:04,360 Speaker 2: So I messaged her on Snapchat and I apologize, sent 3 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 2: her a really long message and she never responded. Wait, 4 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 2: she changed her Instagram bio to part of my apology Relatable. 5 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 3: The Relatables podcast by Myself. Jake Craig AKAA Daddy. 6 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:28,840 Speaker 2: I am a partner in crime audit like Okaya mummy 7 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:33,040 Speaker 2: and what he is Mummy because he's the one you 8 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:35,319 Speaker 2: go to when you don't know whether or not you've 9 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 2: been the asshole? 10 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:41,080 Speaker 1: Ooh the asshole. Mummies always tell you the truth? Do 11 00:00:41,159 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 1: they do you reckon? 12 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:43,400 Speaker 3: No? 13 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: And Jake is Daddy because he's the one you go 14 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:50,159 Speaker 1: to when I don't know, just a little bit of mullah, 15 00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:51,839 Speaker 1: maybe a nice hug. 16 00:00:52,440 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 3: I'm fucking I'm telling you. 17 00:00:53,479 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 2: I'm just gonna I feel like my kids they're gonna 18 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:57,600 Speaker 2: come up to me when they're older and they're gonna 19 00:00:57,640 --> 00:00:59,160 Speaker 2: be like, Dad, can I have this? And I'm just 20 00:00:59,160 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 2: gonna tell myself, I'm not going to spoil them, but 21 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:02,480 Speaker 2: I'm going to spoil them. 22 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 1: I want to be that dad. How like kids always 23 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 1: go like can I have twenty bucks? And then you're 24 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 1: like you're meant to say no, But I'm just be 25 00:01:08,360 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 1: like sure. 26 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:11,120 Speaker 2: See, that's the thing is I think I'm also just 27 00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 2: going to be like I remember my parents, she isn't 28 00:01:13,880 --> 00:01:15,560 Speaker 2: a thing. But now like my parents always had cash 29 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:18,039 Speaker 2: on them my name, they don't now and I never will. 30 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 1: I remember thinking back about it though, Like I used 31 00:01:20,480 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 1: to ask my parents for like two dollars for a lollibag, 32 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: even a dollar maybe fifty cents, and they'd be like 33 00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:27,480 Speaker 1: nobody were saving or something. Yeah, like they I'm in 34 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 1: af fuck off I'm and they now I'm an adult, 35 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:32,600 Speaker 1: and I realized how much two dollars is. 36 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:35,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, mate, that's nothing like. 37 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:37,960 Speaker 1: They try to teach you. 38 00:01:38,480 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, like a silver spoon. They make it seem like 39 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 2: that gold coin is a lot. 40 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, they do. 41 00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 3: They're trying to teach you the principal parenting. Yeah, it's parenting, 42 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 3: not for me. What am I? 43 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 2: But here's the thing is, like they didn't so they 44 00:01:56,720 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 2: did it for They didn't do it like heavily for me, 45 00:02:02,880 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 2: but they did do it for me, like not much, 46 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:07,000 Speaker 2: but I remember them doing it. 47 00:02:07,040 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 3: And then my younger brother and. 48 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:14,400 Speaker 2: Sister they wouldn't know, Yeah, they wouldn't know a thing. 49 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 1: Completely different position your parents are in. I guess they're 50 00:02:18,680 --> 00:02:21,040 Speaker 1: probably like they probably made the conscious choice to be like, look, 51 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:24,359 Speaker 1: we did two this way, let's try two this way. 52 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:27,639 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you might be right. I think you 53 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 3: might be right. 54 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:30,160 Speaker 1: And then when we were like on our deathbed, we'll 55 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:31,160 Speaker 1: see which way was better. 56 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:34,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, we'll see like when we're 57 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:36,960 Speaker 2: older and we're watching them all move out and stuff, 58 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 2: we'll see like who's done the best. 59 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:41,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, we write a book about it. 60 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:42,440 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah yeah yeah. 61 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:45,480 Speaker 1: And today, guys is a dilemmas episode, which is a 62 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 1: little bit kind of like parenting. Jake and I Mommy 63 00:02:47,880 --> 00:02:50,800 Speaker 1: and Daddy being the parents, will give some unfiltered advice 64 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:55,959 Speaker 1: and try and help. The prompt for today is archives. 65 00:02:56,919 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 2: We have a big document with like over three thousand dilemmas, 66 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 2: so we thought we better go back, like we missed 67 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 2: they Obviously we can't do it one at a time, like, yeah, 68 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 2: well we don't. We can't pick random. We just like 69 00:03:11,560 --> 00:03:15,160 Speaker 2: picked new ones every week, so a lot get missed. Unfortunately, 70 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:17,399 Speaker 2: our system is probably a bit flawed. Let's be real, 71 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:19,440 Speaker 2: but a lot get missed. But if you like this, 72 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 2: we can do it more often. 73 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll go back. There's so many to help you, guys, 74 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: more like on limited episodes of dilemmas. So if you 75 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: do have a dilemma, there'll be a link in the 76 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:29,600 Speaker 1: description to submit them, and we will do our bests. 77 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:31,519 Speaker 1: Me to go first, emphasis on best to help. 78 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 3: I know, you go first, you go first. 79 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 1: You okay, okay, okay, all right. My dilemma comes down 80 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:42,600 Speaker 1: to one very important question. Is he actually a green flag? 81 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:45,240 Speaker 1: Or am I just straight up color blind? 82 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:46,240 Speaker 3: Okay? 83 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 1: So I met this guy on Tinder, because of course 84 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 1: I did. We had a cute little conversation before he 85 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:54,880 Speaker 1: slid into my Instagram dms like a man with confidence 86 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 1: and zero hesitation. We talked all week, like real conversations, 87 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:01,840 Speaker 1: not the painful what you do in every six hours kind. 88 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 1: It's giving potential. But this man's instagram is basically a 89 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 1: museum exhibit titled ex girlfriends I have loved before. He's 90 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:17,920 Speaker 1: got picks, with his most recent ex posted in June, 91 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 1: as in the June that's just happened five months ago, 92 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: and then obviously was submitted then, and then a whole 93 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:26,320 Speaker 1: bonus X from a couple of years ago. But I 94 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:28,680 Speaker 1: don't really care about that one because they were both 95 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:33,280 Speaker 1: practically fetuses yep. But the reason one she's sitting there 96 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 1: on his profile like a ghost that never left. I 97 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:38,920 Speaker 1: asked him about it and he said doesn't post often, 98 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:41,520 Speaker 1: which is fair but also sounds like something a man 99 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 1: who still cries to a sad playlist every night would say. 100 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:48,360 Speaker 1: He honestly seems like so sweet and genuine, but I'm 101 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 1: stuck between a protecting my piece and dipping before my 102 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:55,360 Speaker 1: feelings start to cut wheel or be carrying on and 103 00:04:55,440 --> 00:05:00,440 Speaker 1: seeing where this situation ship goes. Please help per staking 104 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:02,800 Speaker 1: on of you guys are absolute legends. Cassie and Beth 105 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 1: are too very lucky Gales keep killing it. Yes they are, 106 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you. 107 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 2: Okay, what are your thoughts on keeping so he's kept 108 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:22,000 Speaker 2: photos posted to Instagram? 109 00:05:22,240 --> 00:05:22,800 Speaker 1: Delete them? 110 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:26,279 Speaker 3: I'm I'm a delete out. 111 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:27,799 Speaker 1: Of respect for yourself. 112 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:35,279 Speaker 2: Firstly, I I you know, like the shittiest thing about 113 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 2: this is the fact that people will say things like, 114 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:46,480 Speaker 2: you know, like they make you feel crazy for saying 115 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:52,800 Speaker 2: like bringing it up and let me think about this, 116 00:05:53,080 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 2: I think photos with X posted to Instagram. 117 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 3: God, I would probably look past it for a while, but. 118 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:11,479 Speaker 2: Once we started to get to a point where we 119 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 2: were exclusive, if the photos weren't taken down, I think 120 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 2: it would play on my mind a lot. 121 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:23,279 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a bit of a tricky one, I think 122 00:06:24,160 --> 00:06:26,280 Speaker 1: the feittest one. Like you said, we can wipe that out, 123 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:28,680 Speaker 1: especially if it's a long way down and he was 124 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:32,040 Speaker 1: like eighteen or sixteen or something like who cares. But like, 125 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:35,200 Speaker 1: also like his mindset, I think it does tell a lot, 126 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: Like if he doesn't post much, he obviously doesn't have 127 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 1: an Instagram game in a sense of like he's trying to, 128 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 1: I don't know, grow his page, So just delete the 129 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 1: fucking thing. 130 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:45,080 Speaker 3: I see, so sad, I think as well. 131 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:47,119 Speaker 1: And also I don't know, I don't like the whole 132 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 1: I don't post very often. I hate that. I hate 133 00:06:51,360 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 1: that as well, Like that's just a shitty little excuse, 134 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:56,559 Speaker 1: like if he was caught out and be like, oh, sorry, 135 00:06:56,760 --> 00:06:58,960 Speaker 1: completely forgot that was there. I don't really go on Instagram. 136 00:06:59,040 --> 00:07:01,240 Speaker 1: I'll go delete it because I actually want to talk 137 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:02,479 Speaker 1: to you or some shit like that. 138 00:07:02,720 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 2: Also, like if a guy has a photo of his 139 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:09,800 Speaker 2: girlfriend on his Instagram and you ask a question about it, 140 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 2: like I can guarantee no guy, so him giving you 141 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 2: an excuse like oh, I don't post often or something 142 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:21,560 Speaker 2: is obviously just an excuse just because he wants to 143 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:24,960 Speaker 2: keep the photo up. No guy's ever just going to 144 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 2: say I want it to stay there because that is weird. 145 00:07:28,480 --> 00:07:30,720 Speaker 1: That's a good point, a like, just tell me you 146 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:33,320 Speaker 1: want it to stay there. It's kind of giving. Like 147 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:35,720 Speaker 1: if he had the chance to be back with his 148 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 1: ex and she sees it, he's still got that photo there, 149 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:40,000 Speaker 1: he would take that chance in a heartbeat. 150 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:40,960 Speaker 3: It's an interesting one. 151 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like the same thing with when when guys 152 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:48,800 Speaker 2: don't post, or could go vice versa, like people don't 153 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:50,960 Speaker 2: want to post their couple. Like I remember at the 154 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:53,280 Speaker 2: start of bethanized relationship, I spoke to her about it 155 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:56,800 Speaker 2: and I and I was like, I think there was 156 00:07:56,840 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 2: a time where I was a bit against it. But 157 00:07:58,480 --> 00:07:59,920 Speaker 2: I spoke to best at the start and I was like, 158 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:02,280 Speaker 2: I think she was a little bit. She was also 159 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:05,240 Speaker 2: happy to like not for initially, but my main thing 160 00:08:05,440 --> 00:08:09,520 Speaker 2: was we had just started getting a following, and I was. 161 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:10,680 Speaker 3: Like, I don't know. 162 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 2: I was talking to her, I was like, I don't know, 163 00:08:11,960 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 2: what are your thoughts on like posting, you know, like 164 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 2: I don't know what it's like to have followers like 165 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:20,480 Speaker 2: this is very new, Like do I just like post 166 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:21,120 Speaker 2: you straight away? 167 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:23,560 Speaker 3: Do we post each other straight away? Like you know? 168 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 2: And initially she was like yeah, like fuck, it's like wait, 169 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:29,440 Speaker 2: you know, let's just like see how it goes or whatever. 170 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:34,920 Speaker 2: And then I just thought, like, you know, if you 171 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:38,480 Speaker 2: to me, it's it actually is like quite. 172 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:39,200 Speaker 3: A small thing. 173 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:45,880 Speaker 2: So you're with someone, let's say they say I see 174 00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:49,280 Speaker 2: a future with you, but then they're like, oh, I 175 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:53,720 Speaker 2: don't want to post on Instagram, Like that's so I 176 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 2: find that so weird, And like I also see the 177 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:58,600 Speaker 2: argument of like it's on the Instagram, Like why is 178 00:08:58,640 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 2: that like the fucking define defining terms of our relationship? 179 00:09:02,880 --> 00:09:05,840 Speaker 2: And shit, I see that. But then I'm also like, 180 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:09,400 Speaker 2: why are you arguing this so much? Why is it 181 00:09:09,480 --> 00:09:13,240 Speaker 2: such a big thing to you to not post your 182 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:14,079 Speaker 2: fucking partner? 183 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:19,760 Speaker 1: Yeah? And also if you or your followers value you 184 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:23,320 Speaker 1: being so single, sorry, value you being single is the 185 00:09:23,360 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 1: pure reason they're following you. I wouldn't want that, like 186 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:29,199 Speaker 1: they just think they have a chance or just the 187 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:31,760 Speaker 1: check me out. Yeah, like I want a bit of substance, 188 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:33,400 Speaker 1: follow me because I'm cool or funny. 189 00:09:33,559 --> 00:09:34,920 Speaker 3: It's interesting yeah, I don't know. 190 00:09:34,960 --> 00:09:37,000 Speaker 1: I find like my vibe or fashion or some shit. 191 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:38,920 Speaker 1: Not because you think I don't know, you want a 192 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:39,400 Speaker 1: piece of me. 193 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:40,120 Speaker 3: Yeah. 194 00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:45,760 Speaker 2: My thoughts with this particular situation are like, I just 195 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:48,800 Speaker 2: can't see any valid reason as to why you would 196 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:51,839 Speaker 2: keep a photo of an X on your Instagram. 197 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:52,120 Speaker 3: Right. 198 00:09:52,559 --> 00:09:55,960 Speaker 2: I understand you can have the argument of it's just Instagram, 199 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:58,280 Speaker 2: it's not a big deal, but that's my question right 200 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:00,720 Speaker 2: back at you, is like, if it's not a big deal, 201 00:10:00,920 --> 00:10:01,800 Speaker 2: why is it there? 202 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 1: So, circling back to A or B, I think Mummy 203 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:11,600 Speaker 1: and Daddy are locking in B, which is oh no, sorry, 204 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:14,720 Speaker 1: we're looking in a A, protecting my piece and dipping 205 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:16,960 Speaker 1: before my feelings start to cut wheel. 206 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:19,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, so I'm with you on that. I agree. 207 00:10:19,960 --> 00:10:21,880 Speaker 1: I reckon he's not ready and he's not over his ex. 208 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:26,920 Speaker 2: Yep, okay, I've got an m I the asshole. Okay, okay, okay, 209 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:30,400 Speaker 2: am I the asshole? Sorry in advance for the long message, 210 00:10:30,400 --> 00:10:32,520 Speaker 2: but this has been on my mind basically daily for 211 00:10:32,559 --> 00:10:36,000 Speaker 2: two years and I haven't got closure. Oh. I'm two 212 00:10:36,040 --> 00:10:38,800 Speaker 2: years out of high school and in year twelve, one 213 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:40,800 Speaker 2: of my good friends was talking to this guy on 214 00:10:40,920 --> 00:10:44,160 Speaker 2: and off or throughout year twelve. They never actually dated. 215 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:47,560 Speaker 2: During one of the times they were off in quotes, 216 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:50,760 Speaker 2: I hooked up with him at his house. I always 217 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:53,000 Speaker 2: found him kind of attractive, but it was quite out 218 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:55,120 Speaker 2: of the blue and meaningless. He told me that she 219 00:10:55,160 --> 00:10:56,960 Speaker 2: would never find out and it would just be kept 220 00:10:57,000 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 2: between us. Looking back, I shouldn't have done it, but 221 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:02,480 Speaker 2: no regrets, right question mark, I don't know why you're 222 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 2: asking us anyway. Fast forward five ish months, once we 223 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 2: had finished school and my friend and him started talking again. 224 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:13,360 Speaker 2: One day, I randomly see her private story saying when 225 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:17,360 Speaker 2: she chooses guys over her friends. I was like, holy shit, 226 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:21,559 Speaker 2: she found out. So I messaged the guy and I'm 227 00:11:21,679 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 2: like yeah, And I'm like, did she find out? How 228 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:27,920 Speaker 2: did she find out? And he said that he told 229 00:11:27,920 --> 00:11:31,640 Speaker 2: her because she deserved to know. After she after he 230 00:11:31,720 --> 00:11:34,280 Speaker 2: said she would never find out. At this point, it's 231 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:36,880 Speaker 2: five months later and we haven't spoken about the hookup. 232 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:39,719 Speaker 2: So I messaged her on Snapchat and I apologize, sent 233 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 2: her a really long message and she never responded. Wait, 234 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:46,640 Speaker 2: she changed her Instagram bio to part of my apology. 235 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:48,520 Speaker 1: Kind of funny without. 236 00:11:49,760 --> 00:11:53,240 Speaker 2: Ever talking to me. She has since changed her bio 237 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:56,880 Speaker 2: four different times, two different scenarios about me. 238 00:11:57,720 --> 00:11:58,480 Speaker 1: That is petty. 239 00:11:58,800 --> 00:12:01,600 Speaker 2: We haven't talked since, I haven't tried reaching out again. 240 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:04,400 Speaker 2: I've removed her off social media. It's been two years, 241 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 2: and her bio is still something about me. 242 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:08,400 Speaker 3: I don't know. 243 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:11,520 Speaker 2: At first, I felt so bad because I broke girl code. 244 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:13,440 Speaker 2: But now I think I'm better off without her as 245 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:16,640 Speaker 2: a friend because she handled it very immaturely. Should I 246 00:12:16,679 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 2: have worked harder for her forgiveness? So am I the asshole? 247 00:12:19,960 --> 00:12:22,360 Speaker 2: Is she the asshole? Or is the guy the asshole? 248 00:12:24,080 --> 00:12:29,720 Speaker 1: I think all three of you are asshole? Yeah, I 249 00:12:29,760 --> 00:12:30,480 Speaker 1: was just gonna say. 250 00:12:30,520 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 2: I was like, I hope he doesn't just choose one. 251 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:36,640 Speaker 1: Uh sorry, girl. I think it showed that you don't 252 00:12:36,679 --> 00:12:38,920 Speaker 1: want to be friends with this girl. She was very petty, 253 00:12:38,960 --> 00:12:42,720 Speaker 1: Like Jake said, yeah, carried on like honestly, you did 254 00:12:42,840 --> 00:12:45,360 Speaker 1: very bad by her, and you said, like the spirit 255 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:46,840 Speaker 1: of the moment, but like you went to his house 256 00:12:46,880 --> 00:12:48,600 Speaker 1: like you obviously were tuning him or talking to him, 257 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:50,840 Speaker 1: So it wasn't like a one night like you were 258 00:12:50,880 --> 00:12:52,240 Speaker 1: drunk or something hooked up with him. 259 00:12:52,400 --> 00:12:54,880 Speaker 2: I hooked up with him at his house, his house, 260 00:12:54,880 --> 00:12:57,559 Speaker 2: that's weird. It was out of the blue and meaningless, 261 00:12:57,600 --> 00:12:59,200 Speaker 2: like decisions go into this. 262 00:12:59,320 --> 00:13:01,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, like you went to a house like it wasn't 263 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:03,200 Speaker 1: like you were drunk on a nine out and hooked 264 00:13:03,240 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 1: up for thirty seconds. I'm not saying that's justified, but 265 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:07,160 Speaker 1: it's a little bit different to go into his house 266 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:10,040 Speaker 1: and like hooked up, kissed, or fucked. 267 00:13:10,040 --> 00:13:12,520 Speaker 3: I assume hooked up means fucked. Yeah, if it does. 268 00:13:12,559 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 1: And then also like you can't rely on the dude 269 00:13:16,360 --> 00:13:19,800 Speaker 1: saying like I'll never tell her, Well. 270 00:13:19,760 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 2: What should have happened is like, Firstly, it shouldn't have happened. Secondly, 271 00:13:23,679 --> 00:13:25,679 Speaker 2: when he said she's never gonna find out, you should 272 00:13:25,679 --> 00:13:30,320 Speaker 2: have said, well, I'm gonna tell her. Thirdly, like once 273 00:13:30,360 --> 00:13:33,720 Speaker 2: the first two were ignored, then thirdly there's no thirdly, 274 00:13:33,760 --> 00:13:37,360 Speaker 2: like what's gonna happen is gonna happen. I think, like, Okay, 275 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:40,560 Speaker 2: I feel bad for you kind of. I don't know 276 00:13:40,640 --> 00:13:42,480 Speaker 2: you did it. Let's be real, like you did it. Yeah, 277 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:44,880 Speaker 2: you know you gotta fucking sleep in the bed you made. 278 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:49,680 Speaker 2: So I think it's so funny that this girl made 279 00:13:49,720 --> 00:13:51,840 Speaker 2: her Instagram fire a part of the apology. 280 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:52,880 Speaker 1: I'm going to take notes for that. 281 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:57,240 Speaker 2: Eh, so like I and like she puts on a 282 00:13:57,240 --> 00:13:59,959 Speaker 2: private story, like when she chooses guys over your friendship, 283 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:04,360 Speaker 2: and shit, I don't know, Like I just think you're 284 00:14:04,400 --> 00:14:08,040 Speaker 2: better off without her, let's be real. Sounds like a 285 00:14:08,040 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 2: pretty petty person. But also she just like straight ups like, 286 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 2: fuck it, I'm not friends with her. I'm just gonna 287 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:13,480 Speaker 2: fuck around. 288 00:14:13,679 --> 00:14:16,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, so sorry to the batter you sent this. 289 00:14:16,559 --> 00:14:20,600 Speaker 2: For sure, you leave rent free in her head. True, 290 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:23,440 Speaker 2: she is hella jealous of you. 291 00:14:23,840 --> 00:14:24,080 Speaker 1: Yeah. 292 00:14:24,440 --> 00:14:27,760 Speaker 2: And also the fact that and and what proves that 293 00:14:27,960 --> 00:14:31,280 Speaker 2: is the fact that her bio is still something about you. 294 00:14:31,680 --> 00:14:31,880 Speaker 3: Yeah. 295 00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:35,160 Speaker 1: So you're all assholes, but in the end, you actually win. 296 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:39,440 Speaker 1: You've got to hook up, and you've moved on, like 297 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:42,120 Speaker 1: you found him kind of oh then you hooked up. 298 00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 3: It is what it is, is what it is. 299 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:48,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like fuck, and you kind of realize that she 300 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:50,560 Speaker 1: wasn't a girl you want to be friends with in 301 00:14:50,600 --> 00:14:52,760 Speaker 1: a harsh way, but that's the reality of it. 302 00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:53,760 Speaker 3: Yeah. 303 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 2: And him, here's the thing, Like, look, I think he's 304 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:02,720 Speaker 2: an asshole, right, but I am torn about whether or 305 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:08,680 Speaker 2: not he's an asshole for telling the girl because like, 306 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:15,600 Speaker 2: isn't technically even though he lied to this baddie. Technically 307 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:17,640 Speaker 2: he ended up doing the right thing. 308 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:22,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, but he also hooked up with a girl he 309 00:15:22,480 --> 00:15:26,560 Speaker 1: was seeing's friend friend, knowing that it was her friend. 310 00:15:26,840 --> 00:15:29,320 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, No, like he's fucked, Like he's a bad dude, 311 00:15:29,320 --> 00:15:31,920 Speaker 2: he's an asshole. Yeah, but like I don't think he's 312 00:15:31,920 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 2: an asshole for telling the girl. 313 00:15:34,080 --> 00:15:36,000 Speaker 1: No, I don't think so. I think that's probably better 314 00:15:36,040 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 1: than not teller. Yeah, but also in his head, he's 315 00:15:38,760 --> 00:15:40,840 Speaker 1: probably like I'm winning. I just hooked off two girls. 316 00:15:41,840 --> 00:15:42,240 Speaker 3: Yeah. 317 00:15:42,400 --> 00:15:45,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, look, honestly, kind of like a funny situation. I 318 00:15:45,840 --> 00:15:47,200 Speaker 2: feel bad that it's been in your head day of 319 00:15:47,240 --> 00:15:49,720 Speaker 2: two years, like two years. Yeah, I think that it's 320 00:15:49,760 --> 00:15:52,280 Speaker 2: just like the easiest thing to accept is like you're 321 00:15:52,280 --> 00:15:55,560 Speaker 2: all assholes if you even though it's like maybe you're 322 00:15:55,560 --> 00:15:57,360 Speaker 2: looking for closure in the sense of like fuck them 323 00:15:57,400 --> 00:16:00,680 Speaker 2: their assholes, you're not type of thing. I think all 324 00:16:00,680 --> 00:16:02,880 Speaker 2: closure is good closure if you can just accept her 325 00:16:02,880 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 2: an asshole and like just don't do it again. 326 00:16:06,080 --> 00:16:09,120 Speaker 1: And also we all do dumb shit when we're young age. Yeah, 327 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:12,720 Speaker 1: like honestly, like it happens, like you wish it didn't, 328 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:14,560 Speaker 1: but you don't have a frontal lobe. You do dumb 329 00:16:14,560 --> 00:16:15,560 Speaker 1: shit like this all the time. 330 00:16:15,800 --> 00:16:17,400 Speaker 3: I mean, well, you have a frontal lobe which is 331 00:16:17,560 --> 00:16:18,280 Speaker 3: fully developed. 332 00:16:18,360 --> 00:16:20,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, wait, you know, because you know how they say 333 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:22,040 Speaker 2: it twenty five, your frontal lobes fully developed? 334 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:24,160 Speaker 1: Like eighteen, it's not there. 335 00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:24,840 Speaker 3: I was gonna say that. 336 00:16:24,920 --> 00:16:26,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, what is there an age where it just it 337 00:16:26,560 --> 00:16:28,560 Speaker 2: doesn't exist yet and it grows out of nothing? 338 00:16:29,200 --> 00:16:30,640 Speaker 3: Or do you always have a frontal lobe? 339 00:16:30,720 --> 00:16:32,960 Speaker 1: I think you always have one. Yeah, I think it's 340 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:33,400 Speaker 1: just the same. 341 00:16:33,560 --> 00:16:37,720 Speaker 2: And like, whoever said the frontal lobe is fully developed 342 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:41,040 Speaker 2: at twenty five has just like given everyone under the 343 00:16:41,080 --> 00:16:43,520 Speaker 2: age of twenty five just a great reason. 344 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:44,040 Speaker 3: To be immature. 345 00:16:46,200 --> 00:16:48,840 Speaker 2: Legit, like a great reason to pretend that they don't 346 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 2: know right from wrong. 347 00:16:49,680 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 1: Like, okay, next dilemma. This one is tough, is it 348 00:16:56,640 --> 00:16:56,960 Speaker 1: for real? 349 00:16:57,200 --> 00:16:57,400 Speaker 3: Yeah? 350 00:16:57,440 --> 00:17:00,840 Speaker 1: It's actually really hard. It's got a title cut family off. 351 00:17:01,920 --> 00:17:02,480 Speaker 3: That's hard. 352 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:06,919 Speaker 1: My family is kind of complicated and can be very draining. Backstory. 353 00:17:07,000 --> 00:17:10,159 Speaker 1: I have five sisters, one older, too younger and to 354 00:17:10,359 --> 00:17:12,000 Speaker 1: the same age. Were triplets. 355 00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:12,840 Speaker 3: Fuck. 356 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:15,800 Speaker 1: One of my sisters is engaged and has started planning 357 00:17:15,880 --> 00:17:18,840 Speaker 1: the wedding, and that has caused a lot of tension 358 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:22,119 Speaker 1: and drama. We got into a disagreement about how she 359 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:24,920 Speaker 1: told me and one of our other sisters that we 360 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 1: weren't in the wedding. 361 00:17:26,119 --> 00:17:27,440 Speaker 3: Can I ask you to do something quickly? 362 00:17:27,480 --> 00:17:30,119 Speaker 2: Can you please reread the siblings in order? Okay, So 363 00:17:30,160 --> 00:17:31,800 Speaker 2: it's one older something. 364 00:17:31,920 --> 00:17:35,200 Speaker 1: I have five sisters, one older, too younger and to 365 00:17:35,240 --> 00:17:37,000 Speaker 1: the same age wear triplets. 366 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:41,080 Speaker 2: So your parents had triplets and then had two more children. 367 00:17:42,520 --> 00:17:45,639 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's fucking insane, dude. 368 00:17:46,200 --> 00:17:47,800 Speaker 1: It sounds like they really wanted a son. 369 00:17:48,240 --> 00:17:54,199 Speaker 2: Clearly that's some strong, strong woman like female gene. 370 00:17:54,280 --> 00:17:58,960 Speaker 1: Yeah. Okay, So we got into a disagreement about how 371 00:17:59,000 --> 00:18:01,520 Speaker 1: she told me one of our other sisters that we 372 00:18:01,520 --> 00:18:04,199 Speaker 1: weren't in the wedding. When I asked her why, she 373 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:06,919 Speaker 1: said it was because we aren't close. I asked her 374 00:18:06,960 --> 00:18:09,120 Speaker 1: again why she felt we weren't close, and she brought 375 00:18:09,160 --> 00:18:11,840 Speaker 1: up something that happened between us three to four years ago, 376 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:14,439 Speaker 1: and she said she could never forgive me for it. 377 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:18,560 Speaker 1: More backstory. About four years ago, my mental health went downhill, 378 00:18:18,600 --> 00:18:20,639 Speaker 1: and I started using drugs to cope with my life 379 00:18:20,680 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 1: and ended up hurting people because I was hurting. Since then, 380 00:18:23,920 --> 00:18:26,080 Speaker 1: I've done a lot to work on myself. I got clean, 381 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:28,840 Speaker 1: went to therapy, and rebuilt my life. I'm even starting 382 00:18:28,880 --> 00:18:31,840 Speaker 1: an apprenticeship next year. I'm completely different to who I 383 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:34,960 Speaker 1: used to be. My sister said she doesn't see that 384 00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:38,720 Speaker 1: I've changed, and she said, are heaps of really hurtful things. 385 00:18:39,280 --> 00:18:41,480 Speaker 1: We stopped talking a few months ago. Then she messaged 386 00:18:41,480 --> 00:18:44,320 Speaker 1: me last week and started gaslighting me, saying she doesn't 387 00:18:44,359 --> 00:18:47,200 Speaker 1: remember saying any of that, and basically that the conversation 388 00:18:47,480 --> 00:18:49,600 Speaker 1: is that she never hurt me and that never happened. 389 00:18:51,440 --> 00:18:53,600 Speaker 1: How do I stop caring about people who hurt me? 390 00:18:53,720 --> 00:18:55,639 Speaker 1: And how do I move on from this when it's family? 391 00:18:55,840 --> 00:18:58,000 Speaker 1: It's hard because family events are going to happen, But 392 00:18:58,080 --> 00:19:00,159 Speaker 1: I don't know if I can move on from the 393 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:02,720 Speaker 1: hurt she's caused, especially when I put my heart and 394 00:19:02,760 --> 00:19:05,840 Speaker 1: soul into changing my life, getting therapy and overcoming everything 395 00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:07,720 Speaker 1: I have and she threw it back in my face. 396 00:19:08,240 --> 00:19:08,960 Speaker 3: Yeah. 397 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 2: Shit, Family stuffs hard because it's difficult to just be 398 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:15,280 Speaker 2: like fuck that I won't have them in my life anymore. 399 00:19:16,560 --> 00:19:20,879 Speaker 2: But also it's like, you know, what is it about 400 00:19:20,960 --> 00:19:24,880 Speaker 2: family that makes us give them more chances? 401 00:19:25,400 --> 00:19:25,639 Speaker 3: You know? 402 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:28,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, why do we give them more leniency? 403 00:19:28,560 --> 00:19:33,880 Speaker 2: Like that, why is it? Yeah, a lot easier, It's 404 00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:39,000 Speaker 2: that's the question we should be asking yourselves, Like, look 405 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:43,240 Speaker 2: at your sister. Obviously you have like unconditional love for her. 406 00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:48,160 Speaker 2: That might be what makes it harder. And that unconditional 407 00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:51,720 Speaker 2: love doesn't have to go anywhere. You can still have that. 408 00:19:52,480 --> 00:19:59,560 Speaker 2: But why would you want to be close friends or 409 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:02,480 Speaker 2: even just close to someone that makes you feel like 410 00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:08,080 Speaker 2: shit for your past which you are have recovered from 411 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:09,720 Speaker 2: and are currently still recovering from. 412 00:20:10,080 --> 00:20:12,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, and as a family member throwing that type of 413 00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:16,640 Speaker 1: shit into your face after she should know how much 414 00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:19,280 Speaker 1: effort you've put in and how much you've grown and 415 00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:22,359 Speaker 1: then be there to support you. But she's done the 416 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:26,560 Speaker 1: opposite in a sense, Yeah, why would you give her 417 00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:28,600 Speaker 1: the time of day? And I know it's just a 418 00:20:28,640 --> 00:20:30,719 Speaker 1: little thing, it's not that little, but like you're not 419 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:33,600 Speaker 1: a part of the wedding, just a bit hurtful, like 420 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:37,400 Speaker 1: the cherry on top, Like, yeah, am I your sister? 421 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:38,000 Speaker 3: Like you? 422 00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 1: What are you saying here? 423 00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:42,000 Speaker 2: But the thing it's a bit hard though, because I 424 00:20:42,040 --> 00:20:44,520 Speaker 2: would understand being upset not being part of the wedding 425 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:47,840 Speaker 2: if you were, if you had a good relationship, right, 426 00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:49,840 Speaker 2: But like. 427 00:20:51,760 --> 00:20:53,200 Speaker 3: Fucking being part of. 428 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:57,159 Speaker 2: The wedding is like being one of the bridesmaids or 429 00:20:57,160 --> 00:20:58,399 Speaker 2: groomsmen or something like that. 430 00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:00,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're like part of the wedding. 431 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:05,720 Speaker 2: I'm thinking about it, Like, I can't speak for Beth, 432 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:08,280 Speaker 2: but I know for a fact there's she has two sisters. 433 00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:09,679 Speaker 2: One of them isn't going to be part of the wedding. 434 00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 2: She also probably doesn't expect to be part of the wedding. 435 00:21:13,119 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 2: It may hurt her at the time, but like death 436 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:17,960 Speaker 2: also has does not expect to be part of her wedding. 437 00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:20,640 Speaker 2: And so what I'm trying to say is like if 438 00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:27,760 Speaker 2: it was pretty obvious, then maybe what is actually hurting 439 00:21:27,760 --> 00:21:30,240 Speaker 2: about situation? Are you hurt that she didn't make you 440 00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:33,320 Speaker 2: part of the wedding or are you hurt that neither 441 00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:35,440 Speaker 2: one of you has put much effort into the relationship 442 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:36,120 Speaker 2: so therefore you. 443 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:40,480 Speaker 3: Aren't part of the wedding. Great questions, you know, don't know? 444 00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:43,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's almost like she said at the end, 445 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:46,760 Speaker 1: like do I cut tires with my family member? Like 446 00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:50,640 Speaker 1: is the relationship there at all? Or is it now 447 00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:53,040 Speaker 1: that there's this situation where there's a wedding and you 448 00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:55,800 Speaker 1: haven't been invited to be a part of it. You've 449 00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:57,560 Speaker 1: realized that it's not there, and it's a bit confronting. 450 00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:02,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, my older sister, I mean to be fair, I'm 451 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:03,760 Speaker 2: not really probably gonna be part of her wedding because 452 00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:05,560 Speaker 2: that would mean that I have to be like her 453 00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:09,439 Speaker 2: fucking Beyonce's groomsman or some shit. But say, like my 454 00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:12,960 Speaker 2: younger brother are two younger brothers. I have a good 455 00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:15,200 Speaker 2: relationship with both of them. I actually don't expect to 456 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:17,760 Speaker 2: be part of either one of their weddings because honestly, 457 00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:21,480 Speaker 2: they both one of them lives in Canada. We're similar 458 00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:23,639 Speaker 2: enough age to be good friends, but I don't fucking 459 00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:28,840 Speaker 2: see him, so our relationship is like when I see 460 00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:33,440 Speaker 2: him once every two years, my younger brother here, which 461 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:38,040 Speaker 2: is so different in age and personality, Like, I love him, 462 00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:40,359 Speaker 2: but he's not going to be part of my wedding 463 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:43,520 Speaker 2: and I'm not gonna be part of his. Sorry, I'm like, 464 00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:45,600 Speaker 2: I think I might look at it a bit more 465 00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:47,720 Speaker 2: logically without an emotional like view. 466 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:51,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I reckon. My piece of advice would be 467 00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:56,000 Speaker 1: like everything we just went through the wedding in a sense, 468 00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,359 Speaker 1: isn't the problem. I think you should talk to her 469 00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:02,879 Speaker 1: and talk about the hurtful things she said. And see, 470 00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:05,480 Speaker 1: I really I was going to say, yeah, and then 471 00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:07,520 Speaker 1: that will give you an because I think what's happened 472 00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:10,400 Speaker 1: here is the person who's getting married has been caught 473 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:13,239 Speaker 1: off guard why she hasn't invited hers to be part 474 00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:14,760 Speaker 1: of a wedding, and she said all these things off 475 00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:16,840 Speaker 1: the cusp, And I want to see if she doubles 476 00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:19,520 Speaker 1: down or if she apologizes because she didn't have an 477 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:21,280 Speaker 1: excuse to not have you in the wedding. 478 00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:23,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, Like it's not a bad way to go about it, 479 00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:25,000 Speaker 2: I suppose, like if you want to, if you want to, 480 00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:26,600 Speaker 2: just say to her like that really hurt me. 481 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:29,159 Speaker 1: And see what she says. Yeah, Because also I'm not 482 00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:34,440 Speaker 1: giving her justification for her actions. Weddings are very stressful. Sure, 483 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:36,520 Speaker 1: just when if my sister just came to me and 484 00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:38,679 Speaker 1: I'm thinking about a hundred other things and like why 485 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:40,280 Speaker 1: not in the wedding? And so well you know that 486 00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:41,960 Speaker 1: time you did all this shit like it. 487 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:43,440 Speaker 3: Just like why you ask me this now? 488 00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:43,800 Speaker 1: Yeah? 489 00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:45,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and I'm organizing a wedding. 490 00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:47,159 Speaker 1: I don't want to justify her actions by any mean, 491 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:49,800 Speaker 1: but I guess I'm saying get clarification that that's how 492 00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:51,760 Speaker 1: she feels, and if that is how she feels, fuck 493 00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:54,640 Speaker 1: her off. If she apologizes and bees like, look, I'm 494 00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:58,200 Speaker 1: super stressed. Everything's going on. I can see you've changed. 495 00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:00,680 Speaker 1: We're just not that close and that's it. 496 00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:01,680 Speaker 3: Shit. 497 00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:04,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm glad, I like this been to therapy and 498 00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:07,639 Speaker 2: stuff like that. Now that I've like done a couple aessions, 499 00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:09,359 Speaker 2: I feel like I can relate to it, like talk 500 00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:11,399 Speaker 2: about therapy and be like, yes, one for the therapist, 501 00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:11,840 Speaker 2: do you reckon? 502 00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:13,399 Speaker 1: We used to not be able to say, or we 503 00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:15,239 Speaker 1: didn't like saying, like we didn't want to say, like 504 00:24:15,400 --> 00:24:17,200 Speaker 1: as a scapegoat to all things, you know, you should 505 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:18,320 Speaker 1: talk to a therapist about this. 506 00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:23,080 Speaker 2: I wanted to actually just give our advice after having well, 507 00:24:23,119 --> 00:24:25,359 Speaker 2: you did a couple of therapy sessions. Yeah, after having 508 00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:27,720 Speaker 2: I've only done two of another one on Friday morning. 509 00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:31,040 Speaker 2: After the ones I've done, Oh my god, I think 510 00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:34,320 Speaker 2: everyone should fucking go. I'm not even kidding, Like, I 511 00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:36,480 Speaker 2: think you should go for the most minuscule problems ever. 512 00:24:36,720 --> 00:24:40,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I did like five maybe in total. Yeah, 513 00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:44,119 Speaker 1: I liked them, it was I just couldn't justify the money. 514 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:46,879 Speaker 3: Yeah, I will say this, that. 515 00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:50,359 Speaker 1: Was what I'm struggling to justify the money. My conclusion was, 516 00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:54,440 Speaker 1: it's expedive if I can. I'm going I literally third session. 517 00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:56,560 Speaker 1: They'll only be third session there, right, I'm literally going 518 00:24:56,600 --> 00:24:57,600 Speaker 1: to say to her at the start, like I don't 519 00:24:57,640 --> 00:24:59,480 Speaker 1: know if it's against any rules with better help or not, 520 00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:02,240 Speaker 1: but like I want to keep doing therapy, but I 521 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:03,880 Speaker 1: want to do it once a month. 522 00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:06,320 Speaker 3: Do you do that privately? 523 00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:08,480 Speaker 2: Because I can't keep spending one hundred bucks a week 524 00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:11,879 Speaker 2: and pay rent and fuel and fucking electricity. 525 00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:12,760 Speaker 3: I can't do all that. 526 00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:15,119 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, which is fair. Yeah, I reckon that's what 527 00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:15,760 Speaker 1: she's there for. 528 00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:18,119 Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, this is my question. 529 00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:21,359 Speaker 2: Like it's either you go months and month with me 530 00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:24,720 Speaker 2: for now until I don't know, forever, or I'll be 531 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,320 Speaker 2: back in a few months. Yea, all right, let Christmas 532 00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:31,480 Speaker 2: go by, let's just yeah, but I'd be happy with it. 533 00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:31,760 Speaker 1: Yeah. 534 00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:34,080 Speaker 2: But so it's hard as well, Like I feel like 535 00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:36,680 Speaker 2: we're being like I think I'm being slightly pessimistic about 536 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:42,439 Speaker 2: it in saying like what's hurt you her doing that 537 00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:46,440 Speaker 2: and saying those things, or the fact that it's gotten 538 00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:49,520 Speaker 2: to a point where it's like someone's going through a 539 00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:54,280 Speaker 2: time a wedding where it's like relationships that are strong 540 00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:56,320 Speaker 2: will show and yours isn't. 541 00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:57,680 Speaker 3: So is it like that's what you're upset about. 542 00:25:57,720 --> 00:25:58,800 Speaker 2: I think it's more of like you need to start 543 00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:01,720 Speaker 2: asking yourselves these questions and also don't be afraid to 544 00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:03,240 Speaker 2: cut a family member off for a while. I think 545 00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:03,879 Speaker 2: that it's healthy. 546 00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:04,240 Speaker 3: Yeah. 547 00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:07,120 Speaker 1: I think it's just brought to the surface. The wedding 548 00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:09,760 Speaker 1: is brought to the surface all these problems. Yeah, yeah, 549 00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:10,479 Speaker 1: that's what's happened. 550 00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:14,359 Speaker 2: I'm maybe wait till the wedding's over, yeah, and then 551 00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:17,520 Speaker 2: do it like you still wouldn't go as surely. 552 00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:19,440 Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't have to. I haven't blamed you, 553 00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:26,479 Speaker 3: all right. 554 00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:29,320 Speaker 1: My got a dilemma. Hey, boys, love the pod. My 555 00:26:29,359 --> 00:26:32,560 Speaker 1: dilemma is who should I take to the formal who. 556 00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:35,760 Speaker 1: I'm a seventeen year old in year twelve. Currently I 557 00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:36,640 Speaker 1: have three options. 558 00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:37,200 Speaker 3: Three. 559 00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:39,760 Speaker 2: We have Nick, he doesn't go to my school, and 560 00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:41,480 Speaker 2: I met him at a party two weeks ago. We 561 00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:43,639 Speaker 2: had good vibes and to kiss at the party and 562 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:47,080 Speaker 2: have snapchatted since. But it's been two weeks and he 563 00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:50,679 Speaker 2: hasn't asked me out, which which shits me. And he 564 00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:52,760 Speaker 2: doesn't really know him at my school, so I don't 565 00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:56,159 Speaker 2: want a babysit. Number two we have Leo met him 566 00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:58,440 Speaker 2: at a club. You're seventeen, How are you going to 567 00:26:58,480 --> 00:26:58,840 Speaker 2: a club? 568 00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:01,000 Speaker 3: Fake idea? Let's a girl about it. 569 00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:07,359 Speaker 1: We do not condone no school disco. Yeah. 570 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:10,640 Speaker 2: I met him at a club and honestly spent no 571 00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:13,200 Speaker 2: time with him that night. Only added him on Snap 572 00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:15,760 Speaker 2: because I feel I was feeling lonely in the uber home. 573 00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:18,879 Speaker 1: He's not He's twenty seven. 574 00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:21,800 Speaker 2: He's hot, but sleazy as fuck, and I'm pretty sure 575 00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:22,840 Speaker 2: he only wants to fuck me. 576 00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:24,280 Speaker 3: Also doesn't go to my. 577 00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:27,919 Speaker 2: School, so I would have to babysit Option number three 578 00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,000 Speaker 2: one of my male friends at school. I have a 579 00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:33,440 Speaker 2: few male friends who I could go with. It would 580 00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:35,679 Speaker 2: make the night fun and easier, but I kind of 581 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:39,320 Speaker 2: want to go with someone that has romantic interest formerly 582 00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:41,520 Speaker 2: than two months. To help me out, thank you so much, 583 00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:44,240 Speaker 2: and again, love the pob. My favorite listen for my hotgirl. 584 00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:46,879 Speaker 1: Runs, Oh oh runs? Oh wait wait wait? So she 585 00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:49,600 Speaker 1: could take one of these friends from school, but she 586 00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:50,400 Speaker 1: doesn't want to get with. 587 00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:52,880 Speaker 2: Them, so she could take her from from school. Where 588 00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:54,320 Speaker 2: it was like she'd probably have a better time because 589 00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:55,520 Speaker 2: there's going to be no babysitting. 590 00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:59,160 Speaker 3: There's just botonic. But it's like fully platonic like that. Yeah. Yeah, 591 00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:00,520 Speaker 3: so she said, like, I can't want to go with 592 00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:01,360 Speaker 3: like a romantic. 593 00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:04,359 Speaker 1: My advice is if she's eighteen now all right, yeah, 594 00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:09,200 Speaker 1: because she's seventeen. I didn't give that advice first one, Nick, Yeah, 595 00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:11,960 Speaker 1: two weeks of rapport seems like a nice dude. 596 00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:14,959 Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that, But he hasn't asked you out yet, 597 00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:16,040 Speaker 2: which shud say, I kind of like. 598 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,280 Speaker 3: That is a bit shy. 599 00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:20,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, I reckon you should to be fair, like, I 600 00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:22,080 Speaker 2: don't think he should ask you to your formal. 601 00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:22,920 Speaker 1: It's a bit weird. 602 00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:24,479 Speaker 3: I don't think so much. 603 00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:28,480 Speaker 1: She said, just ask her out, which he hasn't done. 604 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:31,119 Speaker 1: But I'm saying just I don't know, take a bit 605 00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:33,399 Speaker 1: of initiative and be like, look forms coming up. I 606 00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:36,040 Speaker 1: reckon you and me would make a great couple. Let's 607 00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:36,560 Speaker 1: go together. 608 00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:39,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, Or you could fucking actually you could get him 609 00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:41,920 Speaker 2: to ask you to your own formal by being like, ah, 610 00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:44,280 Speaker 2: you know, I got this formal in two months. 611 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:45,520 Speaker 3: No one's asked me. 612 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,320 Speaker 2: You know, it's supposed to be fine after party. 613 00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:52,000 Speaker 3: My parents aren't home that week. 614 00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:55,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, just kidding, as long as you're eighteen. 615 00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:59,240 Speaker 3: But I don't know. I think Nick too. If I'm 616 00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:03,920 Speaker 3: being honest with you, I think Nick as well. You could. Yeah, 617 00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:06,600 Speaker 3: unless can't be choosing. 618 00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:08,680 Speaker 1: Unless there's we don't like to conturn this advice. But 619 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:12,080 Speaker 1: if it's purely for sex and then no longer friends. 620 00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:14,520 Speaker 1: If there's a romantic interest in school, who you think 621 00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:16,560 Speaker 1: is hot, and there's potential that you could do that, 622 00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:18,680 Speaker 1: But if you just think it's patonic, nap boring. 623 00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:21,120 Speaker 3: It's a good point. Yeah, it's like that. 624 00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:24,000 Speaker 1: I will actually also say, she said. 625 00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:26,160 Speaker 3: Formally, yeah, so she's in Australia. 626 00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:30,600 Speaker 1: What what ends up happening is you probably won't get 627 00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:33,080 Speaker 1: with anyone romantically because there's so much shit going on. 628 00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:35,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's more I think maybe the friend is the 629 00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:37,440 Speaker 2: best bet. Then yeah, you said you have the best 630 00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:38,520 Speaker 2: time maybe. 631 00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:43,720 Speaker 1: Yeah. Also about my formal and there's a lot of distractions, 632 00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:47,120 Speaker 1: like not sexually, there like a lot of school bullshit 633 00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:49,200 Speaker 1: going on. Teachers like it's not. 634 00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:51,720 Speaker 3: A very sexy place. No, no, no, no, you don't 635 00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:52,400 Speaker 3: feel like you. 636 00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:56,640 Speaker 1: Can Yeah yeah, yeah, maybe, Yeah, we've come to the conclusion. 637 00:29:57,000 --> 00:29:59,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, thinking about it, more like I didn't go to 638 00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:00,880 Speaker 2: the year twelve one because I wasn't at school. 639 00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:07,240 Speaker 1: I actually I have a story a year twelve. Yeah, 640 00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:10,600 Speaker 1: I was aideen. I was aden. Everyone was adeen. 641 00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:12,320 Speaker 3: I think probably not everyone, but. 642 00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:14,280 Speaker 1: All most people was in like November and twenty eighteen, 643 00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:16,400 Speaker 1: so I was eighteen in August. I was allowed to drink. 644 00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,800 Speaker 1: But we went down to like the it's called the Haven, 645 00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:22,000 Speaker 1: which is like a nice little place near where you 646 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:24,520 Speaker 1: go to the formal, yep, to take photos, and everyone 647 00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:27,840 Speaker 1: was getting drunk and we all had flasks and stuff, 648 00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:30,840 Speaker 1: and then we had to go and a lot of 649 00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,200 Speaker 1: us walk, but some people got lifts to where the 650 00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:35,480 Speaker 1: formal was being held in like this big ball or 651 00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:40,640 Speaker 1: whatever Interrogole, And prior to going in, they started patting 652 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:43,400 Speaker 1: everyone down because everyone had flasks and it was a 653 00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:46,520 Speaker 1: school event. As a school event, you're not allowed to drink. 654 00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:51,280 Speaker 1: And I was like the third last one to go 655 00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:54,080 Speaker 1: into the the whole ball, and I'm like, what the 656 00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:55,680 Speaker 1: fuck do I do? Ade a flask on me and 657 00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:57,160 Speaker 1: I'm like what the fuck do I do? And I'm 658 00:30:57,160 --> 00:31:00,280 Speaker 1: like I'm about to get padded down by one of 659 00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:04,320 Speaker 1: the teachers, and I'm like, mom, Mom, are you all right? 660 00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:06,240 Speaker 1: Are you right? And I just started and I walked 661 00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:08,480 Speaker 1: downstairs like oh mom, no, no, it's all right, like 662 00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:12,400 Speaker 1: and I was like pretending I was drunk. And then 663 00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:14,720 Speaker 1: I walked all the way downstairs dished my flask because 664 00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,760 Speaker 1: like otherwise would look completely sus Yeah, it probably looked 665 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:19,959 Speaker 1: sus anyway. And then it came back up and I 666 00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:22,200 Speaker 1: got in and there's like ten fifteen boys who didn't 667 00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:24,120 Speaker 1: get in weren't allowed into the formal, and I got 668 00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:26,760 Speaker 1: to sit next to my girlfriend at the time. Tee 669 00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:29,480 Speaker 1: teacher comes up to me and he goes, mate, I 670 00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:31,200 Speaker 1: know you had a flask on you all right, but 671 00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:35,920 Speaker 1: I'm gonna let slide. But also you're eighteen, yeah, And 672 00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:37,920 Speaker 1: I was just like, I was like, thanks mate. 673 00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:40,200 Speaker 2: And wait, so if you tried to sneak alcoholing, were 674 00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:41,240 Speaker 2: you're allowed to come in at all? 675 00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:41,800 Speaker 3: Now? 676 00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:43,960 Speaker 1: They like heaps of people ended up going to the 677 00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:46,440 Speaker 1: after party at like five o'clock where the after party 678 00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:48,120 Speaker 1: was because they went't allowed into the formal and I 679 00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:49,720 Speaker 1: was meant to finish like eight seven just went to 680 00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:50,440 Speaker 1: the other party and did't. 681 00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:52,080 Speaker 2: They just like confiscate the alcohol and what I mean, 682 00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:54,160 Speaker 2: I don't know, so I don't understand why they don't. 683 00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:56,120 Speaker 3: Maybe there's like strict rules or some shit. 684 00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:58,520 Speaker 1: Maybe it's you're not allowed to be intoxicated and that 685 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:01,680 Speaker 1: meant that they were. I don't know, but that was 686 00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:02,120 Speaker 1: my foremo. 687 00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:04,080 Speaker 2: I'll tell you what. I was a teacher and I 688 00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:07,160 Speaker 2: was working at school. I assume it wasn't the teacher's 689 00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:08,040 Speaker 2: padding down, was it? 690 00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:11,040 Speaker 1: Now? I think those people who worked at the venue. 691 00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:12,480 Speaker 2: I'd still fucking be like, oh, can I do the 692 00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:16,040 Speaker 2: padding down and just let everyone get the fucking there. 693 00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:17,840 Speaker 1: I have one. 694 00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:21,080 Speaker 3: Everyone's drunk, didn you've had any one? I can try 695 00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:24,560 Speaker 3: and we're going to do touch their dick. 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