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Speaker 1: Good morning, Melbourne. Let's chat with an expert.

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Speaker 2: The experts with Jason Lauren your vessel specialists who specialize

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Speaker 2: in very special things.

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Speaker 3: Hi, I'm Michaelmayer and I am an etiquette expert.

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Speaker 4: Let's see from the expert special people that specialize in

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Speaker 4: really special things. Micah is a expert when it comes

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Speaker 4: to etiquette.

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Speaker 1: Oh, we all need these every month.

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Speaker 5: Sit up, straight, shoulders.

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Speaker 6: Back to me.

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Speaker 4: I will point out we're three minutes late for this chat,

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Speaker 4: so that is a bad start, isn't it a good morning?

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Speaker 6: Good morning?

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Speaker 5: So when it comes to etiquette, what is it that

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Speaker 5: is most important? I suppose etiquette is about manners, but

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Speaker 5: also about impressing other people. When is it most important

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Speaker 5: that we have our best manners?

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Speaker 3: I think, you know, it's whenever you want to show

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Speaker 3: respect to someone else, that is when manners really matter.

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Speaker 3: So I think people come, you know, people come to

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Speaker 3: me at the Plaza Hotel and they're they're terrified, and

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Speaker 3: they think it's about forks and knives and looking proper

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Speaker 3: and being.

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Speaker 6: Proper, but actually it's about.

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Speaker 3: Showing respect and kindness to other people and doing things

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Speaker 3: in a way that is respectful to the person sitting

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Speaker 3: next to you at a dining table or at a

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Speaker 3: business desk.

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Speaker 1: What about a grading?

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Speaker 4: Because he is the awkward situation I always find myself

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Speaker 4: in when we have guests come into the studio and

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Speaker 4: then you'll say, like the rep that's traveling with them,

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Speaker 4: and I'm like, good to see.

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Speaker 1: We only say that person, what once a month? Is that?

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Speaker 1: A kiss on the cheek is.

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Speaker 6: Okay? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: So I actually I always follow the lead of the

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Speaker 3: VIP in the room. So by the client coming in,

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Speaker 3: say it's a celebrity, then.

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Speaker 6: I will follow their lead.

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Speaker 3: So I won't necessarily stick out my hand to say hello.

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Speaker 3: I will wait and if they stick out their nan,

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Speaker 3: I'll follow suit. If they lean in to kiss me,

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Speaker 3: I'll kiss back. And remember if they kiss you, it's

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Speaker 3: right cheek to write cheeks, so you don't kiss their nose, right, oh,

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Speaker 3: right cheek.

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Speaker 2: Upon a time I kissed Serena we e that's and

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Speaker 2: that was not very you.

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Speaker 1: Know, I was just going to say.

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Speaker 4: One that's close to Lauren's heart is the end of

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Speaker 4: a meal at a restaurant, you know, when it's time

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Speaker 4: to pay. Oh yeah, how do you navigate the awkward?

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Speaker 4: Are we splitting the.

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Speaker 5: Bill because guilty, I just pay so that I don't

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Speaker 5: have to do the conversation. I'd rather just pay.

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Speaker 6: But like a by Lauren, I'm with you.

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Speaker 3: I think it's a power play. It's a power move too.

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Speaker 3: It's almost like I like it, you know.

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Speaker 6: I think I always offer to pay.

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Speaker 3: I think even if I think they're going to pay

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Speaker 3: for me, I always offer.

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Speaker 6: I think that's the nice thing to do. It. It comes

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Speaker 6: off as not being expectant in terms of dating, though.

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Speaker 3: I think whoever invites the person chooses a restaurant, it's

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Speaker 3: their budget.

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Speaker 6: They pay. It's like the hosthood.

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Speaker 5: That's a good idea. Whoever whoever plans it pays.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So what about eating? I think eating is where

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Speaker 2: it's at when it comes to etiquette.

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Speaker 5: Well, it's probably the most basic thing that we all do.

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Speaker 2: It is Mum always told me to eat with my

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Speaker 2: mouth closed, which is pretty.

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Speaker 5: Obvious unless you've got to sign this problem exactly really hard.

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Speaker 1: What else? What else do we need to know about eating?

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Speaker 6: So?

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Speaker 3: I think I think your mom had wonderful advice. I

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Speaker 3: think that a couple of things you might not know.

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Speaker 3: So think about when you're dining with people, the most

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Speaker 3: VIP person at the table.

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Speaker 6: When they are done, you are done too. I do

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Speaker 6: that with the Queen and the king.

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Speaker 5: I've seen this. Can you not start eating until they

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Speaker 5: start the most important person?

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Speaker 3: You can't, No, So you wait until the most important

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Speaker 3: person starts, and then you start, and then when they're finished,

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Speaker 3: you are finished.

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Speaker 6: And that's.

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Speaker 5: By your safe jay, because you always think you're the

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Speaker 5: most important person.

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Speaker 1: And I quick, I've doubled down.

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Speaker 5: Everyone else is doomed. But what about like knives and forks.

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Speaker 5: You know, we have a lot of kids and families

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Speaker 5: that might listen to this dinner parties when there's lots

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Speaker 5: of knives and forks and glasses lights.

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Speaker 6: Again, just remember that.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So if you're setting a table, the fork goes

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Speaker 3: on the left f O R K L E f T.

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Speaker 3: Knife has five letters k N I F E r

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Speaker 3: I g h T.

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Speaker 6: The knife goes in the right.

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Speaker 3: If you add a soup spoon, spoon has five letters,

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Speaker 3: so does the word right.

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Speaker 6: The soup spoon goes in the right.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, I love that.

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Speaker 4: So you know gets us? Yeah that functions straight. Always

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Speaker 4: sit down and then we go for the bread roll.

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Speaker 1: My life is this.

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Speaker 5: And the day and your fingers isn't there.

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Speaker 3: Yes, if you're a car person, think about B M

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Speaker 3: W bread meal, water, wine.

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Speaker 6: Coffee, tea. So left, that's good, Yeah, you want it's good? Right.

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Speaker 3: And then the other one is exactly as Lauren just said.

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Speaker 3: You put your index to your thumb and you make

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Speaker 3: a lower kiss B on the left and the lower

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Speaker 3: kids D on the right, So B for bread, dper drinks.

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Speaker 1: This was function.

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Speaker 5: I was like, I think you then have to cross

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Speaker 5: as to.

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Speaker 6: Be honest exactly. And now I teach that to children

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Speaker 6: and CEOs.

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Speaker 3: It's kind of in my mind, it's whatever works to

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Speaker 3: help it stay in your brain.

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Speaker 6: Perfect be in W.

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Speaker 5: That's amazing.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we are chatting with an expert in etiquette this morning. Micro,

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Speaker 4: I got one for you. We're sitting down in the restaurant.

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Speaker 4: It's an Italian restaurant. Pizza comes out. Is that a

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Speaker 4: cutlery or a hand job? Well, actually it's not a

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Speaker 4: hand job, as dads.

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Speaker 5: Don't do that in the restaurant, not on the pizza.

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Speaker 3: Yes, Well, if it comes and it's a full pizza

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Speaker 3: and it's served to you without you know, any kind

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Speaker 3: of slicing, then you would pick up a fork and

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Speaker 3: a knife. If it's pre slice, you may pick up

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Speaker 3: your the piece and eat it with your hands.

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Speaker 5: Slash pizza and can you hand Sometimes it is okay

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Speaker 5: to use your hands now, Micah, what about if you

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Speaker 5: are invited to somebody's home for lunch or for dinner

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Speaker 5: taking a gift. It's not a birthday, it's just a

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Speaker 5: dinner party.

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Speaker 1: Do you take a gift?

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Speaker 6: You take a gift?

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Speaker 5: Do you take a bottle of wine? Do you do

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Speaker 5: the value depending on how much their house is worth.

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Speaker 3: I would say my whole rulers, I never show up

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Speaker 3: empty handed. I think even if it's a really casual

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Speaker 3: informal barbecue, you still show up with something and it

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Speaker 3: just give you a smile.

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Speaker 6: I could just something to say thank you for being hosted. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: I agree.

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Speaker 4: I like that final thing. How do you get them

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Speaker 4: to open your nice bottle of wine? You know there's

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Speaker 4: nothing worse, and you give them the bottle of the

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Speaker 4: wine and then they're like, well, I've already opened this one, but.

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Speaker 6: It's a gift.

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Speaker 5: It's not for you to enjoy. If you take a

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Speaker 5: nice bottle of wine, that's a gift.

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Speaker 1: I'm asking the experts take two.

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Speaker 5: Bottles, one for them, one for you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say if you gift a bottle, it

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Speaker 3: is a gift. So the if really you could say

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Speaker 3: you could kind of position and say I brought this.

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Speaker 3: I know you were making fish tonight. It goes beautifully

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Speaker 3: with what you're preparing. I cannot wait to share this

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Speaker 3: with you. You could see something like that, and I think

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Speaker 3: it'd be very hard for them to hide that one away.

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Speaker 1: Well, you pop it on the doorstep.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I've taken from this is BMW spread meal drinks.

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Speaker 1: Michael. We really appreciate you talking this morning. Thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for your time. We appreciate it. We'll get there.

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Speaker 3: Vin, thank you so much for having me, Lauren wake

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Speaker 3: up feeling good.

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Speaker 6: Bully them on the socials