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Speaker 1: you Melody, And we get lots of things like that

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Speaker 1: then that's a gift. Can you walk to a tap

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Speaker 1: that makes you rich. In some countries and some environments.

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Speaker 1: Can you open a fridge and there's food, or a

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Speaker 1: most of us listening to this anyway, Maybe not everyone,

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Speaker 1: but most of us Compared to many people in the world.

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Speaker 1: Most of us live in relative luxury and privilege. And

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Speaker 1: every day you and I get the opportunity. You and

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Speaker 1: I have the gift of doing better, making decisions, changing

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Speaker 1: the direction of our life, being grateful, choosing our attitude,

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Speaker 1: other people awareness door, choosing to operate in love, choosing

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Speaker 1: day we get the opportunity to be grateful for the

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