WEBVTT - #2017 Is Your Fear Hijacking Your Potential? - Andrea Leigh Rogers 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:03.080 I'll good. Are your bloody champions. Welcome to another installment 0:00:03.080 --> 0:00:06.400 of the project. Craig Anthony Harper. I've got a new friend. 0:00:07.320 --> 0:00:09.680 I'm going to say she's smarter than me, better to 0:00:09.680 --> 0:00:11.080 look at than me. I don't know if you can 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:13.560 say that in twenty twenty five, but fuck it, I 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:17.000 said it. And we were just chatting, and now we're 0:00:17.000 --> 0:00:20.600 going to chat with you as part of our group. Hi, Andrea, 0:00:20.720 --> 0:00:21.320 how are you? 0:00:21.960 --> 0:00:23.800 I don't know. I think you're a pretty good looking Craig. 0:00:23.840 --> 0:00:24.400 I think we are. 0:00:25.480 --> 0:00:28.040 I think we're competing for that title at the moment. 0:00:28.120 --> 0:00:29.680 I'm doing great. I'm thrilled to be here. 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:32.280 Yeah, I've seen good looking. It doesn't look like this, 0:00:32.440 --> 0:00:35.040 But thank you. That's very nice of you. And it's 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:38.159 good when you treat old people nicely. It's like good karma, 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:38.479 you know. 0:00:39.000 --> 0:00:40.760 Oh is that what that is? I like it. 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:45.200 Hey, So we were just chatting. One of your many, 0:00:45.360 --> 0:00:51.920 many things that you've done is extend bar. We'll jump, 0:00:52.240 --> 0:00:54.240 we'll go back and forth. But I was just saying 0:00:54.240 --> 0:00:58.760 to you, there's literally a studio three hundred meters from 0:00:58.840 --> 0:01:03.080 my house, and I've always of kind of you know. 0:01:03.200 --> 0:01:06.440 Full disclosure I'm being honest, I've looked it up. Gone 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:08.919 is that like? What is that? Is that like pilates? 0:01:09.080 --> 0:01:12.760 Is that yoga? Or is that is that sala? That 0:01:13.280 --> 0:01:15.640 is a ballet? Is it some kind of hybrid or 0:01:15.720 --> 0:01:20.000 ten things before we Firstly, I don't know how many. 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:22.800 I think a fair few people in Australia know of 0:01:22.840 --> 0:01:25.400 it and a lot would know what it is. But 0:01:25.880 --> 0:01:27.040 what is extend bar? 0:01:28.080 --> 0:01:32.400 Yes, so extend bar is a combination of dance and pilates, 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:36.080 and I essentially I took my foundation of the two 0:01:36.160 --> 0:01:38.360 things that I love the most. I was a professional 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:41.280 dancer for many years. I segued my love for movement 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:45.280 into a career in pilates. As a professional dancer, I 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:49.000 used pilates as therapy to keep my body healthy doing 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:51.680 many shows at night and many shows a week performing. 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:53.840 I really wanted to make sure that my body stayed 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:56.760 as healthy as possible, strong as possible, and pilates is what. 0:01:56.760 --> 0:01:57.320 Got me there. 0:01:58.000 --> 0:02:01.040 And after dancing professionally, going to call EDE get my degree, 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:04.320 I was like, I got to get a real job, right, 0:02:05.000 --> 0:02:06.560 I got to get a real desk job. 0:02:06.800 --> 0:02:08.600 I gotta sit be on a desk. I have done it. 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:10.160 I have to have an adult job. 0:02:10.520 --> 0:02:12.800 And so I was like, okay, let's go into uh, 0:02:12.919 --> 0:02:15.160 let's go into advertising, because that's creative and I'm a 0:02:15.240 --> 0:02:16.040 very creative person. 0:02:16.560 --> 0:02:16.840 Craig. 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:22.520 I lasted six weeks at that job, and I decided, Okay, 0:02:22.639 --> 0:02:25.720 I really need to listen to my soul and my body. 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:27.079 And I'm a mover. I'm a shaker. 0:02:27.120 --> 0:02:28.480 I like to get in there and I like to 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:30.640 move my body and that's what stimulates me. And so 0:02:31.080 --> 0:02:34.000 I segued my love for movement into plotis. So once 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:37.200 I graduated and from college, and then I went right 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:40.400 into the Ploates practice and took a year to get certified. 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:42.839 Through that, I just fell in love with I fell 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:45.200 in love with Ploates, but I was missing my dance. 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:47.800 So I decided to kind of blend the two. I said, 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:50.200 what if I can take all the principles and core 0:02:50.280 --> 0:02:54.640 principles of the Plates regimen, and I can combine that 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:57.240 with the freedom of dance movement and what I know 0:02:57.360 --> 0:03:01.600 to be strengthening for a dance and the the dance body. 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:03.680 And so I combined the two and I launched something 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:05.960 called extend Bar and it started in a small studio 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:08.360 in South Florida. It was just the class that I 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:10.960 put on the schedule, and within a couple of weeks 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:13.200 it took off, and so I had a wait list 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:15.919 within two weeks of launching the class. And then that's 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:18.720 what I said, Okay, I'm onto something here. I need 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:21.560 to develop a true repertoire. And then I developed a 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:25.400 certification program and then that turned into licensing model, so 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:28.880 I essentially licensed the intellectual property to various studios in 0:03:28.880 --> 0:03:32.120 the US. Then that turned into franchising, that turned into 0:03:32.160 --> 0:03:35.920 international franchising, and that is how we found our way 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:40.280 to Australia. So extend Bar is a great workout, I mean, 0:03:40.360 --> 0:03:42.400 and it's not just for women, it's for everybody. I 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:44.360 asked Craig in the beginning if he tried the workout. 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:48.000 He said, hell no, I said, don't judge until you 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:50.120 try it. Craig, I used to train like a lot 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:53.119 of professional athletes, like I have linebackers that were doing 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:56.040 this workout because you know, it's a lot of balance 0:03:56.080 --> 0:04:00.560 and coordination and flexibility mobility training. So it's actually a wonderful, 0:04:00.760 --> 0:04:02.960 wonderful supportive tool for a lot of athletes. 0:04:03.720 --> 0:04:06.040 I would look like a newborn fall up the back 0:04:06.080 --> 0:04:09.960 of the group. That's that is, that is what you 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:12.480 don't want to see me trying to do it. 0:04:11.480 --> 0:04:13.680 I might have agree with that. 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:17.520 I like lifting heavy shit. That's the end of my 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:22.080 skill range when it comes to athleticism. So what year 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:24.720 was that first class? That like, when you just had 0:04:24.760 --> 0:04:27.200 the idea and you did wherever you were in Florida 0:04:27.279 --> 0:04:29.080 and you did a class and it got booked out? 0:04:29.120 --> 0:04:30.400 What year was that? 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:34.640 That was two thousand and six. Wow, that's amazing that 0:04:35.160 --> 0:04:36.279 almost twenty years ago. 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:40.640 Wow. But you know what I love is you and I. 0:04:42.080 --> 0:04:45.360 Something's quite different, but a lot of things similar in 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:49.560 that I was like you when I was a kid. 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:51.839 I started working in gyms when I was eighteen, just 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:55.440 as a gym instructor before I went to university and 0:04:55.480 --> 0:05:00.719 all of that. But I realized not too while I 0:05:00.760 --> 0:05:06.479 loved working in that kind of environment in gyms with people, 0:05:06.920 --> 0:05:10.640 but I realized I didn't love having a boss. And 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:14.080 not that sounds bad, not because. 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:15.560 No, I get it. 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:17.560 It's like I just wanted to do my own shit 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:19.920 and they're like, no, you can't, No, you stay in 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:22.559 this box. That's not your box. I'm like, fuck this box. 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:24.000 I want to look in that box and I want 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:26.760 to create new boxes, and by the way, why don't 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:29.760 we try it? And they're like no, and which I 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:33.120 understand because it wasn't my business. Totally understand it. But 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:37.400 from when I was about twenty years old, I was 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:40.000 trying to think how do I how do I make dough, 0:05:40.160 --> 0:05:45.080 how do I make some bank and and not feel 0:05:45.480 --> 0:05:48.600 like I'm going to work every day, you know. And 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:52.040 so that for me, that's that intersection of what you 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.320 were talking about, which is what what do I love? 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:56.760 What am I passionate about, what makes me feel like 0:05:56.839 --> 0:06:00.320 I have a purpose? What's fun? Where am I growing 0:06:00.480 --> 0:06:03.880 and going? And what's going to make some dough? What 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:07.360 might be commercially viable? And then in the middle of 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:15.440 that creative, commercial self growth experience that there's no sense 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:16.800 of work, you know what I mean? 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:18.480 Absolutely? 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:21.160 Yeah, And what you just described is actually the pillars 0:06:21.200 --> 0:06:24.240 of something called ekey Guy, which is a Japanese philosophy 0:06:24.279 --> 0:06:26.479 of living your purpose. Right, you just describe that, and 0:06:26.520 --> 0:06:28.719 I talk about that in my book. You know, that 0:06:28.760 --> 0:06:32.040 book resonated with me simply because of what you just said. 0:06:32.080 --> 0:06:33.680 You know, It's like, that's exactly what I did. I 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:35.560 was like, I don't want to stay in your lane. 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:38.159 I want to create my own lane, and I want 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:39.360 to be able to do this in a way that 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:42.560 feeds my soul but also gives back to the community 0:06:42.560 --> 0:06:44.680 and does something good and worthy and I can also 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:47.039 make money at So yeah, that was the same the 0:06:47.120 --> 0:06:51.440 same drive that you know pushed me to get outside 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:53.760 of the box. I was like, well, I don't want 0:06:53.800 --> 0:06:55.799 to do pilates in this order. What if I don't 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:58.000 do exercises A B and C. What if I did 0:06:58.080 --> 0:07:01.280 A CMNB. You know, I was always thinking, how can 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:03.200 we how can we shift this and change things up 0:07:03.240 --> 0:07:05.840 a little bit, but also, you know, stay respectful to 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:09.000 the to the principles of the method, And that's how 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:11.760 Sendbar kind of started. And then it was just working 0:07:11.800 --> 0:07:15.000 with really like minded individuals, people who were hungry and 0:07:15.000 --> 0:07:17.280 passionate for the program, for the method, who wanted to 0:07:17.320 --> 0:07:20.920 bring us to their communities. Very like minded individuals are 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:23.800 the reason that the brand grew was because you know, 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:25.680 it teamed up with people that were smarter than me, 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:28.960 better than me, just as hungry as me, and helped 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:31.360 to get the brand out of out of the gate. 0:07:32.640 --> 0:07:36.800 Isn't it amazing when you either? And by the way, everyone, 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:40.600 I'm not I'm not suggesting for a minute that to 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:42.760 have a job is a bad thing. But for me 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:45.800 to go into basically the same environment, do the same 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:48.119 thing day in day out, for me, that's not great. 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:50.680 So I kind of need a little bit more whatever 0:07:51.360 --> 0:07:54.360 freedom and risk and vulnerability and all of that stuff. 0:07:54.400 --> 0:07:58.200 But to be able to go to a place every 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:00.760 day that you want to go to, and you're like, 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:03.640 I like, I actually like being here as much as 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:06.160 I like being at home, or maybe more sometimes, and 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:10.280 where you hang out with people who drag you up. 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:13.600 You know, when you know that old saying, you know 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:15.680 that saying, if you're the smartest in the room, get 0:08:15.680 --> 0:08:17.640 the fuck out of the room, go to the next 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:20.440 room where you're the dumbest, or the least skilled or 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:25.360 the least capable, hang out with those people. And you know, 0:08:25.440 --> 0:08:29.560 as I said to you before we started, I grow up. 0:08:29.640 --> 0:08:32.800 Growing up, I was not gifted at anything, you know, 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:36.080 I wasn't terrible at everything. But it's not like, oh, yeah, 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:39.600 he was standout athlete or a brilliant musician or an 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:42.960 amazing writer, or he's just brilliant academic, none of that. 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:48.120 But I also I got very excited about stuff. I 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:51.400 got passionate about stuff, and I loved. 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:52.480 Yeah. 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:56.040 I didn't even know what this was, and but I was. 0:08:56.160 --> 0:09:00.640 I was fascinated with human potential and possibilities because also, 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:03.000 which I didn't tell you, I'll shut up after this, 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:04.199 because it's really your show. 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:06.600 No, I love hearing this stuff. 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:08.600 I was a morbidly obese kid, right. I was the 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:11.160 fattest kid in my school, back in the days when 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:15.120 you could say fattest kid in my school. And that 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:16.760 for me, and then I lost a whole lot of 0:09:16.800 --> 0:09:21.040 weight and had this whole psychological, emotional, sociological, physiological kind 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:25.000 of transformative experience. But out of that, I went, ah, 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:27.840 if I can go from the fattest, slowest kid to 0:09:28.400 --> 0:09:32.360 a reasonably good athlete just through application and effort and 0:09:32.559 --> 0:09:36.760 bit of self control, what else can I do? So 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:39.720 I got in shape, which was good, but it more 0:09:39.760 --> 0:09:42.079 than anything, it like opened a door in my brain 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:44.959 of possibilities where I went, fuckety fuck, what else can 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:45.280 I do? 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:48.760 I love that? That is the pillar. You know. 0:09:50.000 --> 0:09:52.240 Part of what I preach on regular race is exactly 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:53.840 what you just said. If you can do that one 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:58.559 hard thing, and movement exercise is a very strong foundational 0:09:58.559 --> 0:10:01.319 tool for that because you don't want to do it right. 0:10:01.360 --> 0:10:03.680 Nobody wants to. I mean, I teach fitness for a living. 0:10:03.760 --> 0:10:05.640 I have for twenty years. I don't wake up every 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:07.760 day and I'm like, grab the leggings, put on the 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:08.320 sports bra. 0:10:08.600 --> 0:10:08.880 Yay. 0:10:09.280 --> 0:10:12.360 You know, No, motivation doesn't wake me up every day, right, 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:15.080 it doesn't. It's the consistency, it's the determination, it's the 0:10:15.160 --> 0:10:17.600 after effect. It's the feeling I get after I work 0:10:17.600 --> 0:10:20.920 out that I chase. Right, it's not the actual high 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:24.080 of it, of the excitement of putting on my legs 0:10:24.080 --> 0:10:27.719 and doing the workout, but what that is when you 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:30.240 do that hard thing, especially in the morning, when you 0:10:30.280 --> 0:10:33.120 start out your day doing something you really don't feel 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:36.280 like doing, but you do it anyway. There's that dopamine hit, 0:10:36.440 --> 0:10:39.040 there's those endorphins that go, there's that little moment where 0:10:39.080 --> 0:10:41.240 I go at a girl, at a girl, you got this? 0:10:41.679 --> 0:10:44.760 What else are you capable of today? What else can 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:48.280 you do today? And it's those small moves that add 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:51.360 up to a big life. It's by taking those little 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:53.920 things that you do that you think, well, how will 0:10:54.000 --> 0:10:56.880 you know exercise in every day change my bank account, 0:10:56.960 --> 0:10:59.959 or how will you know intentional breathing every single morning 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:03.760 actually meet my relationship stronger? And you think that these 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:07.240 things are very minimal, and they're not, because what you're 0:11:07.240 --> 0:11:09.839 doing is you're taking control over your life. You're being 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:13.480 intentional with your moves, and you're actually making a difference, 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:14.559 and you're moving the needle. 0:11:15.000 --> 0:11:16.679 And that's what it really is all about. 0:11:17.440 --> 0:11:21.600 Yeah, I love it. I love it. Did you did 0:11:21.600 --> 0:11:24.200 you get to a point where you realized as a 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:27.760 fitness professional, coach, teacher, mentor blah blah blah, all that 0:11:27.800 --> 0:11:30.360 stuff that you and I both did. Did you get 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:34.040 to a point where you realized, oh, getting in shape 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:37.720 whatever that means, or changing a body or is as much, 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:41.200 if not more, a psychological and an emotional journey as 0:11:41.200 --> 0:11:44.160 it is a physical one. Like I've written seven books. 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:47.320 My first book was about the psychology of getting in shape, 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:50.920 because I realized I could talk to people about anatomy 0:11:50.960 --> 0:11:53.920 and physiology and nutrition and progressive overload and all of 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:58.040 these science y fucking things, right, but they'd give up 0:11:58.160 --> 0:12:01.080 after four days. I'm like, well, what's you know? It's 0:12:01.120 --> 0:12:03.680 like if we've got the best resource, the best program, 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:07.120 the best support crew, but you're not doing it. You know. 0:12:07.240 --> 0:12:09.520 Did you have that kind of awakening? 0:12:10.120 --> 0:12:10.440 I did. 0:12:10.480 --> 0:12:12.760 I remember when I first started teaching, Within the first year, 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:14.600 I said to a friend of mine who was in 0:12:14.640 --> 0:12:16.040 the industry, I was like, I think I'm more of 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:20.120 a therapist than I am anything else at this point. 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:21.200 And it really was. 0:12:21.240 --> 0:12:24.520 And I discovered that and over the years have just 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:27.440 as you mentioned. I mean it really the mindset is everything. 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:31.120 I just you made me think of one of my clients. 0:12:31.120 --> 0:12:33.480 She's actually somebody I feature in the book. 0:12:33.480 --> 0:12:34.320 Her name is Sarah. 0:12:34.320 --> 0:12:37.160 She's become a good friend of mine over the last 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:40.000 year and a half and she's lost over one hundred 0:12:40.040 --> 0:12:40.720 pounds with me. 0:12:40.880 --> 0:12:42.440 I think she's at one hundred and six right now. 0:12:43.040 --> 0:12:46.080 And one of the things that she said which really 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:48.839 resonated with me. And let me frame this first by saying, 0:12:49.000 --> 0:12:52.080 she had every obstacle against her. Okay, she had a 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:55.160 very severe medical condition with her eye. She had to 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:57.720 have a surgery that required her to lay face down 0:12:57.880 --> 0:13:00.720 for six months and only get up to. 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:01.360 Use the bathroom. 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:05.839 Okay, So the level of talk about mindset and overcoming 0:13:05.920 --> 0:13:07.839 and you know, she had every excuse in the book 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:10.960 to go, Now, this look what happened to me. I 0:13:11.160 --> 0:13:13.040 no wonder, I gave all the weight, No wonder, I 0:13:13.080 --> 0:13:16.080 gave up like and everybody would have said, I get it, Sarah, right, 0:13:16.200 --> 0:13:19.600 but she didn't. She actually she took one little factor 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:21.800 of motivation. I sent an email out to everybody, and 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:23.800 she happened to be on that email database talking about 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:24.559 a test group that I. 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:26.880 Was doing, and she was like, this is my sign, 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:27.920 I'm going to do it. 0:13:28.160 --> 0:13:30.480 And her intention, Craig, was not to go in there 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:33.000 and go I'm going to lose one hundred and ten pounds. 0:13:33.000 --> 0:13:36.280 Her intention was, I'm just going to do that thing tomorrow. 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:38.040 I'm just going to show up for that class. I'm 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:39.920 going to press play on that workout and I'm going 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:41.880 to do it. And it's going to suck because I 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:43.439 haven't move my body in half a year, but I'm 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:43.880 going to do it. 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:44.719 And she did it. 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:48.400 And every day she just showed up, small, tiny little thing, 0:13:48.440 --> 0:13:49.480 fifteen minute workouts. 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:51.440 Okay, like every single day she showed up. 0:13:51.559 --> 0:13:53.680 And then she lost five pounds and then she said, 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:56.560 can I lose the ten pounds? Can I lose fifteen 0:13:56.600 --> 0:13:59.000 and from there on it kind of snowballed. And one 0:13:59.040 --> 0:14:02.480 thing that she told me, which this is the story 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:05.120 I love the most about her, is she said, I 0:14:05.280 --> 0:14:07.280 you know, people always ask her, how did you do it? 0:14:07.320 --> 0:14:09.080 How did you do it? How did you stay motivated? 0:14:09.120 --> 0:14:10.679 Like you said after four days when you want to 0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:13.640 give up, how did you not give up? And she said, listen, 0:14:13.880 --> 0:14:17.360 when I fall off the wagon, I don't set up camp. 0:14:17.880 --> 0:14:20.320 She said, I get right back on and keep going. 0:14:20.680 --> 0:14:22.200 And I was like, that is so true, because so 0:14:22.240 --> 0:14:24.120 often life we like, we fall off the wagon, and 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:26.480 then we're like, let's set up a fire, let's make 0:14:26.520 --> 0:14:29.840 some s'mores, let's sing some songs, like let's hang out 0:14:29.840 --> 0:14:31.720 over here, because this is easier. 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:33.480 This feels like we like the failure. 0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:35.760 It feels good over here, instead of just going, well, 0:14:35.760 --> 0:14:38.000 that was shitty, and I didn't do the workout today. 0:14:38.120 --> 0:14:40.600 I ate crappy today, and that's okay tomorrow. Get back 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:42.640 on the horse and keep going. And so she developed 0:14:42.640 --> 0:14:44.880 the mindset of like, get you don't set up camp. 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:47.680 Then I love that because so many times we set 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:49.160 up camp, right, we just. 0:14:49.120 --> 0:14:49.880 Stay in that. 0:14:51.400 --> 0:14:54.960 Fearful excuse zone and we don't let ourselves push forward 0:14:55.000 --> 0:14:57.040 and press play on the workouts and move our body 0:14:57.080 --> 0:14:58.840 and do the things that we need to do. And 0:14:59.120 --> 0:15:00.880 so that's a great mind inside. It's helped a lot 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:03.040 of women that I've shared that with. Don't set up pamp, 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:05.880 give yourself the freedom and greace to srew up a 0:15:05.880 --> 0:15:07.720 little bit, but then get back on. 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:09.200 The trail and keep moving forward. 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:13.840 Yeah it's a mindset. No, yeah, yeah, one hundred percent. 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:17.440 It's I'm more brutal than you. When people say to me, 0:15:17.520 --> 0:15:19.920 I fell off the wagon. I go, there's no wagon. 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:22.920 It's just you and your choices. I go, there's no 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:25.720 fucking wagon. There's just you and your choices. I go, 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:28.360 tell me what you did? They go, oh, I, you 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:30.640 know whatever. I ate my own body weight in chocolate. 0:15:30.680 --> 0:15:32.240 I go, how did that happen? They're like, what? 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:34.680 How did I make a choice? 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:38.480 Did somebody hold you down? Was there like? Did people 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:41.760 break into your house so at night and tie you 0:15:41.800 --> 0:15:42.080 to a. 0:15:42.080 --> 0:15:43.160 Chair, sit down your throat? 0:15:43.440 --> 0:15:46.640 Yeah, let's be honest, and this is not self loathing. 0:15:46.720 --> 0:15:48.160 This is just self awareness. 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:49.440 I'm like, self awareness. 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:52.520 Okay, you made some choices, you did some things. Now 0:15:52.680 --> 0:15:55.680 I'm not hating on you. I'm trying to get you 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:58.600 to the point where you're taking where you're taking total 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:04.320 responsibility in a positive way and a practical, real world 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:08.320 way for what you do. So there's no wagon and 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:12.480 you're not falling off it. Nice fucking story, But there's you. 0:16:12.560 --> 0:16:15.960 There's you and your choices, your behaviors and your outcomes. 0:16:16.240 --> 0:16:18.960 Right, and you have to own your effort. 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:21.360 One hundred percent. Like when I was a morbidly obese kid, 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:24.280 I was one hundred nearly one hundred kilos, which is 0:16:24.840 --> 0:16:28.200 well over two hundred pounds at fourteen. Right now, imagine that, Andrew, 0:16:28.320 --> 0:16:32.440 And I'm right now I am eighty kilos, which is 0:16:32.560 --> 0:16:35.880 one seventy six pounds, and I'm about five inches taller 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:37.960 than I was then. Right, And again there's no self 0:16:38.000 --> 0:16:42.200 loathing in this, just self awareness. But when and it's 0:16:42.280 --> 0:16:45.240 pretty tricky, this conversation in twenty twenty five, because we 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:47.400 want to be empathic, we want to love people, we 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:51.120 want to but also, hey, Craig, if you're eating a 0:16:51.160 --> 0:16:54.600 thousand calories a day more than you need, this is 0:16:54.680 --> 0:16:57.800 just science, bro, that's probably not going to end up great. 0:16:58.000 --> 0:17:00.000 You know, now, that doesn't mean you're not an awesome 0:17:00.120 --> 0:17:02.880 human or we don't love you, doesn't mean you're not 0:17:02.920 --> 0:17:05.840 a kind guy, doesn't mean you're you know, it's just 0:17:05.960 --> 0:17:10.200 that there are consequences of actions, and you know, so. 0:17:10.160 --> 0:17:12.520 That just because we teach our children. 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:17.720 Trying to keep that kind of balance andria of how 0:17:17.760 --> 0:17:21.520 do I be real world practical, honest, straight with people, 0:17:21.720 --> 0:17:26.880 but also supporting and loving and knowing that the world 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:30.480 doesn't give a fuck about your feelings, and knowing that 0:17:31.000 --> 0:17:34.280 bad choices have real consequences, you know, trying to keep 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:37.720 that I care about you, but also, let's be fucking real, 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:39.040 how do you navigate that? 0:17:40.000 --> 0:17:41.480 Yeah, I mean that's just what I said. 0:17:41.520 --> 0:17:44.639 I typically will say, can we get honest with your 0:17:44.680 --> 0:17:47.800 effort or on your effort? And that in that same 0:17:47.840 --> 0:17:51.320 context that you're referring to, which is and listen, life happens, 0:17:51.359 --> 0:17:54.120 should happens. You're not going to be perfect. There are 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:55.919 going to be times that you know, you make a 0:17:55.960 --> 0:17:59.000 choice that you're not exactly proud of or you don't 0:17:59.000 --> 0:17:59.879 feel great about. 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:01.240 I mean, we've all been there. 0:18:02.200 --> 0:18:05.760 I think it's unrealistic to think that perfection exists every day, right, 0:18:05.800 --> 0:18:08.360 it doesn't. We don't do that, whether it's in our nutrition, 0:18:08.480 --> 0:18:10.679 whether it's in our daily choices, whether it's in our 0:18:10.720 --> 0:18:15.080 parenting or professionalism, whatever it is, we make mistakes, right, 0:18:15.119 --> 0:18:18.159 And so I think this, especially for women, it's a 0:18:18.280 --> 0:18:21.200 self loathing. It's this like falling into this as I said, 0:18:21.280 --> 0:18:24.040 camp where we just sit down and we're like, you know, 0:18:24.240 --> 0:18:26.400 coming up with all the self loathing, and we sit 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:28.719 there and we let that sorrow sink in on us, 0:18:28.760 --> 0:18:31.920 and it is it's handcuffing us, you know, it's it's 0:18:31.960 --> 0:18:34.760 putting you into a position and into a mindset of 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:37.880 you aren't capable, you aren't going to do that. You're 0:18:37.960 --> 0:18:40.560 not bred that way. You're you're not born that way. 0:18:40.640 --> 0:18:42.760 You're not that person that you see on Instagram that 0:18:42.840 --> 0:18:45.000 does those things like And I kind of think that's 0:18:45.040 --> 0:18:47.399 a little bit of bullshit because I think we let 0:18:47.480 --> 0:18:53.120 ourselves sometimes overcome our own you know, capabilities. And I think, 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:55.840 you know, if you can just adopt the just you know, 0:18:55.880 --> 0:18:57.600