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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Carly Taylor here for this week's Mojo Monday.

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Speaker 1: So lately I've been reflecting on the power of language.

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Speaker 1: I've been thinking about certain words that we use in

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Speaker 1: the English language and how these words that we choose

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Speaker 1: can really shape our reality. And there's something really fascinating

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Speaker 1: about how some languages have expressions or words that we

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Speaker 1: don't even have in English. So, for example, in Japanese,

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Speaker 1: there's a word agi ottori hope I've pronounced that right,

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Speaker 1: which describes the feeling you get after a bad haircut.

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Speaker 1: So imagine that having a word for such a specific experience,

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Speaker 1: and it makes me wonder what feelings or concepts that

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Speaker 1: we're missing out on simply because we don't have the

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Speaker 1: language to describe them. And this morning I went to

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Speaker 1: yoga and my yoga instructor talked about this balance between

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Speaker 1: intentional growth and embracing the present moment, and that got

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Speaker 1: me thinking about a phrase that I hear a lot,

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Speaker 1: and that is I am enough. It's a mantra that's

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Speaker 1: always made me kind of stop and reflect what that

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Speaker 1: actually means. So let's break it down. The word enough

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Speaker 1: I looked up and it means as much or as

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Speaker 1: many as required. So when I ask my kids if

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Speaker 1: they've had enough dinner, what I'm really asking is are

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Speaker 1: you full? Do you need more? So it's a question

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Speaker 1: that implies a limit, like you've reached a point where

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Speaker 1: no more is needed. But when we say the mantra

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Speaker 1: I am enough, we're usually aiming for some deeper than that.

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Speaker 1: It's about recognizing our worth and accepting that in this moment,

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Speaker 1: we are valuable and we are deserving of love just

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Speaker 1: as we are. And I get that, and it's very comforting,

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Speaker 1: But I still wonder if you don't know the deeper

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Speaker 1: meaning of I am enough? Is enough really the right

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Speaker 1: word to use for this? And what troubles me about

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Speaker 1: this phrase is that it can be interpreted as a

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Speaker 1: reason to stop trying. So if I tell myself I

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Speaker 1: am enough, does that mean I don't need to change,

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Speaker 1: I don't need to grow or push myself anymore? And

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Speaker 1: for some people, this phrase might give them permission to

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Speaker 1: resist the discomfort of personal growth, to stop them moving

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Speaker 1: forward because they believe they've already arrived. And on the

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Speaker 1: flip side of this, many of us, myself included, are

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Speaker 1: constantly striving, so we're always chasing improvement, working towards goals,

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Speaker 1: pursuing a future that feels, you know, like it's just

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Speaker 1: out of reach. But we're working towards the future. So

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Speaker 1: when all our energy is focus on what's next, what's next,

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Speaker 1: what's next, we can lose sight of the present moment.

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Speaker 1: So if you're always focused on the future, you can

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Speaker 1: miss out on what's happening right now. So take this example.

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Speaker 1: If you're unhappy with your weight and filled with self loathing,

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Speaker 1: it's really hard to be content with your life in

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Speaker 1: the present moment. So you might try and tell yourself

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Speaker 1: I am enough. But if that doesn't feel true, or

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Speaker 1: if it becomes an excuse not to make changes, it

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Speaker 1: might leave you stuck in the same discomfort. So looking

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Speaker 1: at those two perspectives, there's a balance we need to find.

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Speaker 1: On one side, we need to stop resisting. What is

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Speaker 1: this means acknowledging the reality of who we are right now,

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Speaker 1: even if it's not where you want to be. It's

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Speaker 1: not about liking everything or being complacent, but about releasing

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Speaker 1: the struggle against the present. So when you stop resisting,

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Speaker 1: then you can make space to breathe, to see things

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Speaker 1: as they are. But that doesn't mean you don't keep

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Speaker 1: moving forward. On the other side, there's intentional growth, the

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Speaker 1: small steady steps you take each day to grow, evolve

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Speaker 1: and shape your life even if there's no final destination.

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Speaker 1: And now that I've delved into this, it really circles

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Speaker 1: back to that Japanese phrase that I mentioned so often,

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Speaker 1: and that is augamama with things as they are, what

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Speaker 1: needs to be done, and this Japanese concept, which is

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Speaker 1: really an experience rather than a word, but it is

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Speaker 1: something that I keep in my back pocket for every

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Speaker 1: single day in how I live my life because I

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Speaker 1: find it more helpful to think about letting go of

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Speaker 1: resistance rather than telling myself I am enough. So when

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Speaker 1: you stop fighting reality, you can see it clearly and

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Speaker 1: from there you can decide what to do next. And

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Speaker 1: there's no full stop, no static endpoint. Instead, it's about

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Speaker 1: continuing to grow while also being okay with where you

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Speaker 1: are right now, so you can accept this in your

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Speaker 1: current situation but still commit to progress. And as I

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Speaker 1: said earlier, there's no end goal here. We're never exonerated

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Speaker 1: from this work of living a rich and meaningful life.

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Speaker 1: So if we can stop resisting what is be present

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Speaker 1: with where you are, live with intention and keep moving

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Speaker 1: forward step by step. Thank you so much for joining

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Speaker 1: me on this week's My Joy Monday. I hope you

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Speaker 1: will have a great week and I will catch you

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Speaker 1: next week