WEBVTT - Are you sitting down DLs? 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.360 We would like to acknowledge the traditional custards of the 0:00:03.440 --> 0:00:05.360 land that this podcast is recorded on. 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:08.440 It's that time, DLS. This is not an ad. This 0:00:08.600 --> 0:00:13.800 is your bestie to bestie reminder. Worm your feral, disgusting, 0:00:14.160 --> 0:00:18.079 disease ridden children, worm them. Okay, worm every term, DLS. 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:20.200 That's what we say around here. Let's do nits and 0:00:20.239 --> 0:00:22.400 worm every term. Okay, DLS. Do you know what's a 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:24.800 weird conversation that we had right before we hit record 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:27.960 is we're trying to pre plan our sickness. 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:29.520 Before we go on tour. 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:31.800 Like I was starting to feel a little like I've 0:00:31.840 --> 0:00:34.680 had a warm, persisting headache, and then I ask Katie 0:00:34.760 --> 0:00:37.000 and Revs to check do I feel warm? Because I 0:00:37.000 --> 0:00:39.320 feel really hot in here. I'm just in a level 0:00:39.360 --> 0:00:42.400 of discomfort physically. And then the girl suggested, all, maybe 0:00:42.440 --> 0:00:45.040 you're going down, and then we actually go well, if 0:00:45.040 --> 0:00:47.360 there's ever a time to go down, it's now, because 0:00:47.400 --> 0:00:49.640 it can't be during rehearsals and ex sture as hell. 0:00:49.520 --> 0:00:50.520 Cannot be during tour. 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:52.600 Don't you think that though? Sometimes you're like, you know what, 0:00:52.640 --> 0:00:54.120 this would be a great week to get sick. 0:00:54.240 --> 0:00:56.120 Let's do it now. Yeah, come on, bring it on. 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:58.160 Let's do it now because I don't have time next 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:00.200 week or the week after. So if we could get sick, 0:01:00.280 --> 0:01:01.480 let's just get it out of the way. 0:01:01.520 --> 0:01:03.880 Which doesn't even work that way though it really does. 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:05.720 You can get sick and then still get sick in 0:01:05.720 --> 0:01:08.120 two weeks time. You're like, whatever, that's what's going to happen, is. 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:08.520 Going to happen. 0:01:08.520 --> 0:01:10.840 But do you know what I'm stoked about is the 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:12.280 flu nasal spray? 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:15.840 Yes, very excited for vaccine. Ah, is it landed? Is 0:01:15.880 --> 0:01:17.520 it happening? Can you get it? It's happening. 0:01:17.600 --> 0:01:19.920 It's four kids though, so I'm trying to figure out 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:21.480 is it weird as an adult? 0:01:21.880 --> 0:01:24.240 Is it the right going? And oh I didn't think 0:01:24.240 --> 0:01:26.880 of it. It won't be the right dose. Sorry, honey, 0:01:26.880 --> 0:01:29.399 it is weird. The nasal spray is for the kid. 0:01:29.680 --> 0:01:31.840 You're like, double triple the size of a child? Can 0:01:31.840 --> 0:01:33.240 they not just triple the spray? 0:01:33.560 --> 0:01:34.200 Not take it? 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:35.960 Why don't you go ask? I might? It just feels 0:01:35.959 --> 0:01:37.840 like something that people aren't going to roll with. Dice on. 0:01:38.200 --> 0:01:41.800 I might chatjoobyt it before I embarrass myself walking into 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:42.520 a pharmacy. 0:01:42.760 --> 0:01:45.280 I endorsed that Okay, should we start the episode. 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:49.640 Yes, let's We have a thousand things to do, but 0:01:49.680 --> 0:01:53.000 we'd rather chat, do you with. 0:01:53.280 --> 0:01:57.240 Emails and meetings and husbands and kids. We don't have 0:01:57.400 --> 0:02:02.600 time for this. Just what you need to basic bitches 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:05.160 with the podcast. 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:08.040 Hello, and welcome to We don't have time for this. 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:11.320 I'm your host, Jemmy Prinita aka Jemma Peanut on the 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:15.640 Gram along with my co host Kate Reeves. Guys, ReBs 0:02:15.680 --> 0:02:17.880 has been on a germ, on a journey, Okay, she 0:02:17.919 --> 0:02:19.800 needs to talk about it. To talk about it, I 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:21.919 don't know where I'm going to land. And permission to 0:02:22.120 --> 0:02:24.560 completely backflip and change my mind. 0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:25.480 Permission denied. 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:28.200 We expect you to stand by your word and every 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:31.799 last thing you say from now until forevermore go on. 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:35.359 Yeah, can you not evolve? No? I can evolve. And 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:38.639 I'm just I find this journey interesting. I'm trying something 0:02:38.680 --> 0:02:41.280 on now, I'm not trying something on. Is the truth? 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:43.320 I am seeing how long I can go without fake 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:46.800 tanning and talk us through the discomfort that you're feeling. 0:02:46.880 --> 0:02:48.200 It's a journey, Okay. 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:50.320 Can you take us back to the beginning of this 0:02:50.400 --> 0:02:53.160 journey and why you made this decision. 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:55.360 How you arrived? Well, I have been thinking about it 0:02:55.400 --> 0:02:56.520 for years, ever since. 0:02:56.639 --> 0:02:59.400 A friend of mine and she's generation below us, she's 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:02.440 gen zis Lucy Neville, friend of the pod. She gave 0:03:02.520 --> 0:03:04.560 up Fake Town a couple of years ago on her 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:07.920 like self acceptance Body positivity journey. She was like, it's 0:03:08.000 --> 0:03:09.880 just for me. It's in the same category, and I'm 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:12.600 gonna let it go. And I was like, I don't know, 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:15.440 you know, because millennial, like how many times are we 0:03:15.639 --> 0:03:17.919 trying things on growing up? And we're like, this will 0:03:17.919 --> 0:03:19.919 look great with a tan, It'll be fine when I'm tan, 0:03:20.480 --> 0:03:22.640 you know. It was like this whole thing of like, 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:25.760 you're not fully acceptable until you've got your skin color on, 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:28.640 and it's just like, I don't know. For me, it's outdating. 0:03:28.720 --> 0:03:31.000 I'm growing out of it. Also, I really resent the 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:34.639 admin oh so much. I'd really resent it, but I've 0:03:34.680 --> 0:03:38.240 started to realize, oh, I'm factoring in hours of my 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:42.000 time to like marinate and prep for these like fortioth. 0:03:42.080 --> 0:03:44.160 I think it's all peaked because of fortieth right, that 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:46.520 makes sense now obviously as well. I don't get a 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:49.320 natural town anymore because I'm some safe and I'm responsible, 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:50.480 so I'm not doing that anyway. 0:03:50.520 --> 0:03:52.200 Whatever. And also, like you've. 0:03:52.040 --> 0:03:55.240 Shared before that you have your dad's skin. Yeah, he's 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:56.880 had a lot of skin cancer. I've had out of 0:03:56.920 --> 0:04:00.400 his skins ery preservation. Now I've had a bunch of Yeah, 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:03.400 And I think it's actually, frankly, very smart and sun 0:04:03.440 --> 0:04:04.280 safe and sensible. 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:04.600 Yeah. 0:04:04.720 --> 0:04:07.280 Or I could just accept this is my skin color, 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:09.680 own the skin. You're gonna own the skin I'm in, 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:13.000 And it feels very allegorical for all my body stuff 0:04:13.000 --> 0:04:15.800 I've journeyed with for years, and I'm just trying it on. 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:19.080 But I just don't know if I'm ready. Well, the 0:04:19.120 --> 0:04:22.839 conversations have been really interesting, Dale's because there's chat around 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:26.360 like an express tan because Rev talks about the absolute 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:27.560 admin and I agree. 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:31.119 When we are on tour, we do tan before every show. 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:32.359 It makes us feel better. 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:35.839 And you are up on stage parading yourself in front 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:38.680 of hundreds of people. Stage lights suck the color out 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:41.560 of everything. So I'm already a pale bitch. Fine, happy 0:04:41.600 --> 0:04:44.320 to be that's my skin color. But I go quite 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:48.039 pale under stage lights again, which is probably fine. Like, 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:50.359 I don't know, I just suddenly have a lens on 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:52.360 where I'm like, I don't know, it's starting to look 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:54.640 funny to me, like people who like put on a 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:56.160 lot of fake tan. I'm starting to be like, I 0:04:56.200 --> 0:04:58.560 don't know if I'm into that anymore. Yeah, I mean, 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:01.000 I fuck you, do you boom whatever? But for me, 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:03.720 I'm like, I'm not sure it's for me anymore. Anyway, 0:05:03.839 --> 0:05:06.080 I don't know, but I'm just earmarking it here, putting 0:05:06.080 --> 0:05:06.599 it in the pod. 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:08.279 This is where I'm out. I'm going to see how 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:11.479 we go just being the freckly, pale little gal I am. 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:15.039 What I find really fascinating is that obviously this is 0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:16.200 consuming your thoughts. 0:05:16.279 --> 0:05:21.240 Yea, I hate it. And this is a really weird segue. 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:24.840 But with me, you know how I talked about being 0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:27.560 shit at tennis at all of this negative self job, 0:05:27.880 --> 0:05:28.640 just stay with me. 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:32.480 I was explaining this to my mum about how I've suck. 0:05:32.279 --> 0:05:34.280 At tennis and I feel really self conscious and I 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:36.840 feel like I'm letting everyone down. And my mom said 0:05:36.839 --> 0:05:40.360 to me, jem, when people are playing tennis, they're only 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:43.440 worried about their game. Yes, they're worried about how they 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:45.800 hit the ball over the net or whether they hit 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:47.640 the ball out or in, or messed up a stroke 0:05:47.720 --> 0:05:48.120 or whatever. 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:49.760 They are not paying attention to you. 0:05:49.839 --> 0:05:52.280 They're certainly not keeping tabs on how many times you've 0:05:52.320 --> 0:05:55.320 hit a ball into the net or out, particularly in 0:05:55.360 --> 0:05:58.599 a tennis clinic lesson situation. And it's so funny to 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:01.800 hear you talk about all this tanning stuff and hand 0:06:01.839 --> 0:06:03.800 on heart, me and producer. 0:06:03.480 --> 0:06:05.040 Kate have never noticed. 0:06:05.080 --> 0:06:08.880 It is like the day that you had your stennies 0:06:08.960 --> 0:06:10.880 taken out and your one day and you were going 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:14.120 to raw dog ernatural hair and you came into the 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:17.920 office and your natural hair had had enormous growth under 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:20.359 those steennies and you came in and we didn't notice. 0:06:20.560 --> 0:06:24.360 Producer Kate and I were like, oh, yeah, stennies are out, 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:26.479 and you're like, and my hair's all right right, And 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:26.920 we were. 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:30.479 Like yeah, like yeah, all these things we do really 0:06:30.480 --> 0:06:31.320 it's only for us. 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:31.640 Yeah. 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:34.800 And it's the same with when we were swimmers at 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:38.120 the beach in summer and we're so like, no one 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:41.520 is caring. In fact, everyone's just self conscious about themselves. 0:06:41.680 --> 0:06:42.920 And I don't we want to be in a world 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:44.720 where actually just no one even thinks about it. Wouldn't 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:46.040 that be the dream. That's the world I want to 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:47.920 live in, where I just get up and do my day. Yes. 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:51.400 So I'm looking at you wearing this red hole to 0:06:51.480 --> 0:06:54.719 neck top. You've got your chest and your arms bare. 0:06:55.200 --> 0:06:57.480 And this morning, the first thing I said to you 0:06:57.680 --> 0:06:59.760 was your makeup looks so pretty today. 0:07:00.040 --> 0:07:04.599 And I didn't for a second go atle bit, she's 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:05.320 got to turn on. 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:07.880 It didn't even register. In fact, I thought your outfit 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:11.040 was cute. Your lipstick kind of compliments it. Even like 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:14.200 over the last three years working with Sally, my hairdresser, 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:17.320 like I've gone less blonde, Like I'm more broonde now 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:18.480 for the same reasons. 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:19.960 I'm like, that's my natural color. 0:07:20.000 --> 0:07:21.920 I want to get a bit closer to that because 0:07:21.920 --> 0:07:23.760 it suits me because it's what I was born with, 0:07:24.200 --> 0:07:26.320 and I feel like I'm just trying this out with 0:07:26.360 --> 0:07:28.680 my skin. Well, what I find really interesting about your 0:07:28.720 --> 0:07:33.760 outfit of choice today is I actually think it really compliments. 0:07:33.200 --> 0:07:36.600 The blue bass of my bail skin. Correct the blue bay. 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:39.160 I'm not going to say blue bass, but that's fine 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:43.160 or yellow bas great, but it compliments the skin you're in. Yes, 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:46.119 so you're actually learning to dress for your skin tone 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:49.440 rather than this tanned version of you. Anyway, it's a journey. 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:51.960 I'm not judging anyone else who turns. My god, we 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:57.920 all do our shit. Yeah, like everyone I know tans. 0:07:57.960 --> 0:08:00.200 You know, I'm just trying it out, and I'm going 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:01.960 to bring you guys with me. Okay, let's hold hands 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:03.960 and see how this goes. So I went to Becky, 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:06.840 our good friend's fortieth in like a little dress, and 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:08.400 normally I'd be like, well, you got to have a 0:08:08.400 --> 0:08:10.080 turn on for this dress, but I was like, you 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:11.680 know what, I'm going to see how I go. 0:08:12.080 --> 0:08:14.800 I was confronted by the amount of thoughts that consume 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:16.680 me and how I thought about it, and. 0:08:16.560 --> 0:08:18.120 That annoyed me, and I'm like, you know what, it's 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:20.400 worth pushing through this because this is silly. I should 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:22.480 not be having real estate in my brain taken up with. 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:25.360 This with my actual skin color. 0:08:25.440 --> 0:08:28.120 I'm sorry, I'm the mind blown emoji face right now 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:29.239 because I didn't even. 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:30.760 Cross my radar. 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:35.640 They didn't weren't tanned, I know, but you were uncharacteristically 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:37.120 untanned for a. 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:40.559 Fortieth I just thought that dress was so damn cute. Yeah, 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:42.600 so whatever, Okay, we can evolve. 0:08:42.640 --> 0:08:45.320 It turns out we can. Would you go on tour 0:08:45.400 --> 0:08:46.080 without tanning? 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:46.840 Yeah, I wonder. 0:08:47.840 --> 0:08:50.720 I feel like stage is a different world, different life. 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:52.800 But I wonder maybe I should challenge myself. 0:08:52.840 --> 0:08:55.480 I mean, I might need to remind you that when 0:08:55.520 --> 0:08:58.480 you got married, I know, I was alabaster, you were 0:08:58.559 --> 0:09:03.080 alabaster white. Yeah, it was with orange hair, and you 0:09:03.200 --> 0:09:06.920 looked stunning. Oh thanks, I mean stunning tan not. But 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:09.480 my point is, yeah, I just need to remove a 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:14.800 few things from the roster of beauty, Like application. 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:15.040 It's too much. 0:09:15.120 --> 0:09:16.480 I don't want to spend my time and money on 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:18.320 it anymore. I'm getting a bit over it. I just 0:09:18.360 --> 0:09:19.920 want to love the skin i'm in. I think it's 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:23.199 fair that tanning goes because that's knowing you, because we're 0:09:23.280 --> 0:09:26.680 quite similar like this that admin even your ten minute 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:29.360 tan which REVS shared is a bit respond and it 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:32.000 is amazing and probably the thing that I'll be taking 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:34.720 on tour because I'm like, fuck, yeah, ten minutes, sign 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:35.160 me up. 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:37.040 But it's still the application. 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:40.319 It's still the scrubbing what do you call it, it's 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:42.400 foliation before like it's. 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:44.880 A whole thing, just like when I get the paws, 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:48.160 you know, like fucked up your hands. It's just embarrassing. 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:50.560 I'm forty year old woman. What am I doing with 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:53.679 a pretend orange skin color? A little white paws? Come on, 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:57.560 reps enough, you said it here first. I can't wait 0:09:57.600 --> 0:10:00.360 for you backflip like this. Yeah. 0:10:00.480 --> 0:10:02.559 I reserve the right to backflip if I just want 0:10:02.559 --> 0:10:04.000 to feel sun kissed and fab. 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:05.320 Okay, I think that's fat anyway. 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:07.720 I think if you've been with us as a OGDL, 0:10:07.880 --> 0:10:11.280 you know we contradict ourselves endlessly, and that's okay because 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:12.080 can we not evolve? 0:10:12.120 --> 0:10:13.959 Can we not evolve? Anyway? Do you know what I 0:10:14.000 --> 0:10:16.960 don't have time for? Take a deep breath, deals with me? 0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:20.440 Sit down, Everyone sitting down. 0:10:21.200 --> 0:10:24.000 Rev has got news. What don't you have time for? 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:27.120 But apparently you have so much time for bestie guys 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:32.920 in breaking, we don't have time for this news. Basically, guys. 0:10:33.040 --> 0:10:36.480 As you know, I was dating very casually, and I 0:10:36.600 --> 0:10:40.679 was on the apps and things and accidentally met someone 0:10:40.880 --> 0:10:43.959 we're calling him the plot twist. Yeah, we accidentally met 0:10:44.000 --> 0:10:46.760 each other. He was definitely not really looking to meet 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:50.080 someone because he was about to move overseas and I 0:10:50.200 --> 0:10:52.439 was not really looking for someone. I was just answering 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:56.319 my matches and my DMS, and we got chatting. I'm 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:58.080 not going to give you the full weeds and old 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:01.080 story yet because it is fresh, Okay, this is a 0:11:01.120 --> 0:11:06.040 new thing. And also considering you've shared previous relationships before, 0:11:06.520 --> 0:11:11.160 and I think it's okay to keep a little for yourself, yeah, 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:13.400 or be a little bit guarded, especially in these early 0:11:13.480 --> 0:11:15.959 fresh stages. That's your relationship. 0:11:16.120 --> 0:11:20.160 Yeah, But the headline is we started chatting. We had 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:20.880 a FaceTime. 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:23.920 That FaceTime went for two hours, then another two hour 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:26.400 face time the next night, then another two hour FaceTime 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:28.720 the next night, and then he's like, can I please 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:30.480 take you on a date? And I was like, what's 0:11:30.480 --> 0:11:33.360 the point. You're leaving the country and I'm not in 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:36.160 this space anyway, he convinced me, he was quite persistent, 0:11:36.200 --> 0:11:37.960 and he convinced me to go on a first date. 0:11:38.160 --> 0:11:41.360 Our first date lasted twenty four hours. Twenty four hours, dear, 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:48.560 I was just a long date, and then we really Yeah. 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:51.040 She's rendered speechless. She can't even find the word. The 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:51.920 crib notes are. 0:11:51.960 --> 0:11:54.960 We've fallen really hard for each other, and even though 0:11:54.960 --> 0:11:59.480 it's wildly inconvenient, he has left the country York, He's 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:01.520 moved to New York, which was his plan for a 0:12:01.600 --> 0:12:03.679 very long time, and it took a lot, and he's 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:07.680 moved to New York and essentially week one we were like, well, 0:12:07.720 --> 0:12:09.760 this is just going to be for fun because obviously 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:12.640 it'll never work because you're moving countries. Week two we 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:16.000 were like, oh god, oh no, this is oh fuck. 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:16.959 What are we going to do? 0:12:17.400 --> 0:12:19.600 Week three of dating, we were like, we can do 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:20.800 a long distance right. 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:24.720 Week four it's like, here we are, We're doing it now. 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:28.800 I like a parent when I met this man, new 0:12:28.880 --> 0:12:30.079 man in Revs's life. 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:32.199 His name's Doron. We can say his name? Can we. 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:36.320 Like? He doesn't want an alias. He's like, come on, 0:12:36.440 --> 0:12:37.880 just be real about it. If you're going to share it, 0:12:37.920 --> 0:12:40.960 just fucking share it. Okay, great? Yes, So like a 0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:44.240 parent when I met Doron, an overly protective parent, I 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:44.680 was like. 0:12:44.679 --> 0:12:47.520 So, what's the plan here, guys? What are your intentions 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:51.280 with my bestie? Was the vibe? Literally, what is the plan? 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:54.600 The world's most awkward dinner which will go down and 0:12:55.280 --> 0:12:59.679 crime of our relationship as one of the weirdest, most 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:03.800 good nights of our lives? Can I just say the 0:13:04.040 --> 0:13:07.400 night made more awkward by you? I know I was 0:13:07.440 --> 0:13:08.240 the most awkward. 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:10.680 Yes, you guys were fine. I was awkward. No, I 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:14.920 wasn't fine internally, Okay, that was clear. I was gonna say. 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:17.000 I mean you were fine, as in you acted fine. 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:20.839 I did, but internally I was like over protective dad. 0:13:21.520 --> 0:13:24.200 It was weird. I was anyway. 0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:26.719 So I was like, what's the plan here, guys, and 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:29.640 you guys said, quote after looking at. 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:32.719 Each other gitterly like school children, We're just going to 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:36.200 kick the can along the road, see what happens. And 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:39.800 I was like, good plan, Yeahlan, good plan, guys. Well, 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:40.400 here's the thing. 0:13:40.600 --> 0:13:42.800 He's moving to New York with a real reason, and 0:13:42.800 --> 0:13:44.240 it's taken a lot of time, a lot of effort 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:46.520 to get that going, and like I don't want him 0:13:46.520 --> 0:13:47.800 not to do that, and he's not. 0:13:47.880 --> 0:13:49.520 There was no world in which he wasn't going. 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:51.680 Okay, But like the long and short of it is, 0:13:51.760 --> 0:13:54.040 deal's they can't quit each other. They don't have a 0:13:54.080 --> 0:13:57.240 good enough reason to quit each other. And so instead 0:13:57.240 --> 0:13:59.240 they're going to kick the can down the road and 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:01.240 then see what weapons and cross any. 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:03.320 Potential hurdles as they come along. 0:14:03.400 --> 0:14:06.360 As they come along, there's no way I could say 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:08.640 goodbye to this person, and there's no way I could 0:14:08.720 --> 0:14:11.520 date anybody else. I'm a bit like, oh my heart 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:17.440 is fucking captured. Jem's freaking out. She's so scared for me. 0:14:17.720 --> 0:14:22.360 I am trying really hard to be supportive and get 0:14:22.400 --> 0:14:24.880 on board. And you are you've gotten on board? No, 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:27.480 I have. I'm in chapter two, reds is in chapter 0:14:27.520 --> 0:14:28.040 thirty two. 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:31.640 It's fine in her emotional relationship with this person, and 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:33.560 I feel like I've cracked chapter two. 0:14:33.640 --> 0:14:34.680 Chapter one was hard. 0:14:34.880 --> 0:14:37.800 Yeah, I was like, wow, well, guys, there's one more 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:40.680 part to this, which is that he's thirty two. Yeah, 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:43.360 and I just want to paint a picture for DLS, like, 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:47.320 just imagine your bestie has gone on a journey this year. Okay, 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:50.760 DL's you've been on the journey with me. We went 0:14:50.880 --> 0:14:53.560 from being single, which is great. I was like, fuck, yeah, 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:56.600 REVS needs to get back in her hoe glow era. 0:14:56.480 --> 0:14:59.800 And boy did she as we know, but we went 0:15:00.400 --> 0:15:03.440 I think I'm attracted to a woman. Oh yeah, that's right. Yes, 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:04.880 you've forgotten about that. 0:15:05.360 --> 0:15:08.800 And hey, any couples want to open up to a 0:15:08.960 --> 0:15:10.760 throup over two. 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:13.960 I'm dating three guys. I've got three boyfriends. 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:15.400 Do you remember last week we talked on the pot 0:15:15.400 --> 0:15:18.160 about having a vulnerability hangover. No, I'm just do you 0:15:18.200 --> 0:15:21.680 know what, I've got a vulnerability and I'm bringing the 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:23.720 deals on the whiplash journey. 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:25.680 That is the life of Kate ReBs and it's your 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:27.920 life and we hold space. Yes, thank you, and we 0:15:28.000 --> 0:15:30.440 love you for it. We just got to catch up. 0:15:30.440 --> 0:15:31.280 We just got to catch up. 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:32.920 This is what we're doing. We're just catching up. And 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:35.440 so I was like, okay, yes, she's in her Hoglow era. 0:15:35.560 --> 0:15:37.640 She's high fiving herself in the window. You know, I'm 0:15:37.680 --> 0:15:41.800 fucking proud of her. She's in her feminine energy and 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:45.360 in her power as a woman of forty. 0:15:45.680 --> 0:15:47.840 And of course that's when I meet someone. And then 0:15:47.920 --> 0:15:49.960 all of a sudden, it's age m. 0:15:50.080 --> 0:15:52.520 We just celebrated our one week anniversary and I'm like 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:55.640 huh And ten days in we're dropping l bombs and 0:15:55.680 --> 0:15:58.560 I'm like, say what. And he's moving to New York 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:02.160 come again. Like there's just so much to take on. 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:06.600 And of course all that matters is he makes you happy. Yeah, 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:09.680 and that's all I fucking want for you. Ultimately, So 0:16:09.800 --> 0:16:13.040 I've had to strip away my judgment and my opinions. 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:13.760 I'm not going to lie. 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:15.040 They were there for a bit while I was like, 0:16:15.040 --> 0:16:17.520 this is a terrible idea. I still have moments where 0:16:17.520 --> 0:16:20.720 I'm like, is this a terrible idea? Same girl, She's. 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:23.560 Doing it anyway, and that's okay. Yeah, I get it, 0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:25.960 and a few things. One, I get it. I move 0:16:26.080 --> 0:16:28.560 very fast. It is she always have, I always have. 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:30.720 It's just who I am, and I just want to 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:33.360 show up here as I am. Guys, you'll take me, 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:35.600 I know you will. And hey, if I get back 0:16:35.600 --> 0:16:37.960 on this mic and go, hey, guys, remember that. Have 0:16:38.080 --> 0:16:40.280 I got a story for you. We'll all hold hands 0:16:40.280 --> 0:16:42.000 and we'll go through that together. Right. 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:45.800 Look, you keep life spicy and interesting, and as a 0:16:45.880 --> 0:16:49.640 very vanilla, very married person, my life feels so boring. 0:16:49.720 --> 0:16:52.160 And so I can just live vicariously through the adventures 0:16:52.160 --> 0:16:52.600 of Red. 0:16:52.680 --> 0:16:53.360 Let's take that. 0:16:53.440 --> 0:16:56.840 It's just hard to park my protective best friend moment. 0:16:57.440 --> 0:16:59.920 I know where you went through a breakup and you 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:01.280 were so deeply. 0:17:01.000 --> 0:17:04.240 Sad for such a long time, and I'm just you know. 0:17:04.160 --> 0:17:07.920 When the pieces don't look like they fit on paper. 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:10.359 This is a little bit of that totally, and so 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:12.520 I'm getting on board I'm getting on board. 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:15.360 No, I really am Deals. Maybe I'm in chapter three now. 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:17.560 The funny thing is his friends are exactly the same, 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:19.359 but just a completely different life stage. 0:17:19.400 --> 0:17:21.120 So like they're all like, what are you doing? 0:17:21.400 --> 0:17:24.359 What a forty year old mom back in Sydney when 0:17:24.400 --> 0:17:28.080