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Speaker 1: This is the Fits In with Kate Richie podcast. This

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Speaker 1: is interesting, guys. There are six types of people pleases

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Speaker 1: in this world psychologists, not just people. No, there's more

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Speaker 1: than just six types. I would think people pleasers come

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Speaker 1: under six categories. I want to know which ones you,

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Speaker 1: guys are well?

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Speaker 2: That that well? The first question is are you a

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Speaker 2: people pleaser?

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Speaker 1: I think everybody tries to please in some way, don't they.

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Speaker 1: Not everybody is bad to the bone.

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Speaker 3: There are a lot of mad people people pleases. Can

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Speaker 3: you can you give us the category?

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Speaker 1: Sure, there's the conflict avoid that's a people pleaser. That's

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Speaker 1: a way of being a people pleaser. Don't it be me?

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Speaker 1: Nobody likes conflict, do they?

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Speaker 2: Let us decide which variety.

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Speaker 3: I've got a mate who owns a business and he's

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Speaker 3: a convict conflict. He's a convict relations ancestry. But no,

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Speaker 3: he's avoids conflict at all costs. And unfortunately that's why

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Speaker 3: he struggles to find employees because he doesn't know how

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Speaker 3: to sack.

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Speaker 1: You can't talk to them. The over accommodator. That's you again,

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Speaker 1: care Richie, because you're very generous, aren't you? As a person.

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Speaker 1: You're very very generous.

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Speaker 2: I am generous, but there's a difference between being generous

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Speaker 2: and not wanting a medal for it. So it's so

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Speaker 2: like you you're the guy that would never ever make

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Speaker 2: a donation without your name on it.

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Speaker 1: No anonymous. An anonymous donation is the worst type, you know.

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Speaker 1: And you're going to tick the box at the bottom.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and they don't even want your name. So you

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Speaker 2: make a call and say, can you make sure it's

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Speaker 2: on there?

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Speaker 1: If you if they had a box you could tick

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Speaker 1: and pay an extra ten percent because they put your

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Speaker 1: name in bold.

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Speaker 3: I would do that, and then you always have to

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Speaker 3: leave a comment. Great course, mate.

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Speaker 1: Really awesome work. The overachiever, You've got me again. There.

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Speaker 1: That's another type of people pleaser, the care taker, so

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Speaker 1: playing that mothering role and sort of making sure that

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Speaker 1: everybody's like, that's you again, Kate, Richie, keep going. Oh,

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Speaker 1: the approval seeker. We've got approval seecers.

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Speaker 3: And that's a tough one, isn't it, because you're always asking. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I think it comes from something like I, yeah, I

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Speaker 2: have to please everyone, and I need everyone's approval because

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Speaker 2: otherwise I'm not lovable if I don't do good things.

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Speaker 1: People won't love me.

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Speaker 2: People won't love me because I can't validate from within.

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Speaker 3: Cain, you're doing okay?

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Speaker 1: Or the other one is the last one is the

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Speaker 1: chameleon who doesn't really stand for much but just tries

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Speaker 1: to fit in to make sure everybody's happy.

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Speaker 2: Well, I don't have a sense of their own idea.

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Speaker 3: They don't.

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Speaker 1: They lost Kate the six levels of people in the office.

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Speaker 3: You can say that you're a stand up chameleon.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't really work at all.

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Speaker 2: Such an old one, isn't it?

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Speaker 3: Is there a funny guy in there?

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