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Speaker 1: This is the Fits In with Kate Richie podcast. Expensive

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Speaker 1: gifts early on in a relationship discuss when someone tries

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Speaker 1: to win you over by flashing their cash and maybe

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Speaker 1: buying something really significant to say, hey, the good times

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Speaker 1: are over here.

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Speaker 2: I think all you should be expecting on a first

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Speaker 2: date is I mean, what more You couldn't have a

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Speaker 2: more beautiful gift than just great conversation.

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Speaker 1: And that's free of charge.

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Speaker 3: And it's also a level of desperation. Give me a break.

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Speaker 3: And if you if you do have a bit of cash,

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Speaker 3: if you're flashing it that early in a relationship, he's

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Speaker 3: not for me.

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Speaker 2: That's not maybe not for you, But there are people

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Speaker 2: that know I can buy my own things. I don't

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Speaker 2: need a gift by all my things that no one

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Speaker 2: can ever take them away from me.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, if you're knocking back a bracelet on the

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Speaker 3: first date, though, I would worry.

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Speaker 2: I would think if somebody gave me an expensive gift

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Speaker 2: on the date, I would at first maybe think he

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Speaker 2: was thinking he'd found me on the wrong website, right,

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Speaker 2: or I think he was a serial killer.

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Speaker 1: That's why I gave me the candleback. I thought it

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Speaker 1: was far too forward. How old.

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Speaker 2: My mum's upset about that, by the way, and the

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Speaker 2: lady from there's a lady from the Southern Highlands who said.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, Heather, how our old news reader Maddie Degree remember

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Speaker 3: he paid four hundred dollars for a bouquet of flowers

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Speaker 3: on a first date. Four hundred, four hundred dollars.

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Speaker 2: I don't understand that's all like like like two hundred

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Speaker 2: roses or something.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I haven't been on the dating scene for

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Speaker 1: a long long time. He's a jellelujah.

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Speaker 2: The ladies of Sydney.

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Speaker 1: Rejoicing missed that point.

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Speaker 3: I would, I like, it's not good.

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Speaker 2: For they'd be saying, excuse me, mister Wiley, We're going

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Speaker 2: to have to let you go.

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Speaker 1: But it's just a me with a thumb up, like

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Speaker 1: how's going having to be here? On the other hand,

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Speaker 1: or something.

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Speaker 3: You say that you're the gift man, like I like

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Speaker 3: buying gifts.

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Speaker 1: I love giving.

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Speaker 2: Do you know why why? Because I've thought about this.

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Speaker 2: You buy gifts because somewhere deep down you don't think

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Speaker 2: that you're lovable and you need talk about buy gifts.

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Speaker 2: It's a level of codependency.

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Speaker 1: I bought my wife flowers yesterday.

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Speaker 2: What did you do to her before that? Not due

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Speaker 2: to it, like, what did you did you upset her?

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Speaker 1: No, she because we're not there in the mornings, because

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Speaker 1: we get up at four am. She'd done so much

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Speaker 1: work to get the three kids back to school and

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Speaker 1: ready and out the door. And I left a card

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Speaker 1: and I just wrote, I think you're amazing.

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Speaker 3: You know what a cat. You know what the other

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Speaker 3: thing is? You know the reason why he does gifts?

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Speaker 3: And I've worked this out.

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Speaker 2: Okay, oh god, we've all been thinking about why.

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Speaker 1: Occupied your time.

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Speaker 3: I've got one up my slove.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 3: It's always it's a promise or it's a gift that

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Speaker 3: I will whip his eyes. He will go, well, that

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Speaker 3: is a favor that I need in return at some stage.

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Speaker 1: Boy's weekend. I was talking about honey the other day. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and that's what it is.

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Speaker 2: That is, so I teached you this somehow in return,

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Speaker 2: it's conditioned pro condition.

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Speaker 1: You'd probably speak on behalf of him. That's not true.

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Speaker 1: Let's listen to Kyle's story. This guy, Kyle Hunt, went

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Speaker 1: on a date last week.

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Speaker 4: I was on a date with a girl and I

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Speaker 4: didn't realize that the dating scenems so bad. Now went

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Speaker 4: to dinner. Things are all good. I didn't actually mind.

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Speaker 4: It was pretty funny. But when the date came to

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Speaker 4: the ends whipped out her phone and she was showing

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Speaker 4: me this car, and I was a forward wrapped up.

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Speaker 4: These cars are like ninety grand yeah, and she turns

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Speaker 4: to me and she's like, what if you bought it

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Speaker 4: for me? No, like, actually, if you actually bought me

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Speaker 4: this car, mind you, this is the first date. And

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Speaker 4: then she tried to bribe me, saying that she'll do

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Speaker 4: whatever it takes to get the car because it is

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Speaker 4: a ninety thousand dollars car. That is definitely not happening,

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Speaker 4: mind you. I was paying for the dinner, so mine.

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Speaker 4: You want to dine me before you extort me.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, go. Firstly, he made that whole thing.

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Speaker 1: Upon the Raptor. Yeah, I love a Raptor.

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Speaker 3: She's a lot of confidence about girl asking for a

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Speaker 3: Ford Raptor on the first day.

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Speaker 1: Emily, you've been in a situation like this, expensive gifts

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Speaker 1: on a first date. What do you think?

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Speaker 3: No, I'm not about it.

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Speaker 1: Oh you're not right, Okay, thanks for your Collen.

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Speaker 2: It's whip with.

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