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Speaker 1: This is the fits in with Her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: What Don't You Do with your Partner? Now? I'm talking

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Speaker 2: traditional things as well.

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Speaker 3: There's a really interesting article that was in the Sydney

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Speaker 3: Morning Herald of a lady who wrote about I don't

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Speaker 3: know if you've got come fly with me there, Jess,

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Speaker 3: but let's talk about flying because I found this really

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Speaker 3: really interesting. She said, no fly when I fly with

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Speaker 3: my partner. We love to travel all around the world,

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Speaker 3: she said. We travel separately on the plane with good reasons.

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Speaker 1: On the same plane.

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Speaker 3: Okay, the lone wolf ritual starts with seat selection. My

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Speaker 3: husband and I both want aisles and we also want

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Speaker 3: to increase our chances of having an empty seat beside us.

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Speaker 3: So what she does once flight, it's a ticket and

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Speaker 3: I scan the online seat map.

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Speaker 2: What is it?

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Speaker 3: Tommy's seat guru is amazing. It's good so you can

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Speaker 3: find out what's the best seat to sit in an

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Speaker 3: economy when you're flying overseas. She goes on, there, I

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Speaker 3: do it like a bingo champion, she said, with one

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Speaker 3: square to go, I look for the most savvy, savvy seat.

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Speaker 2: That I can find on the plane. Now, usually she goes.

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Speaker 3: Up the back, she says, because then you have more

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Speaker 3: chance of getting spare seats next to you.

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Speaker 2: Interesting, and then.

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Speaker 3: She also says, look, she goes the ultimate for my

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Speaker 3: husband and I would be if I could have an

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Speaker 3: aisle and he has the aisle across from me, so

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Speaker 3: we can still speak to each other, but then we

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Speaker 3: have spare seats.

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Speaker 2: But she said, we do it all on our own.

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Speaker 2: And when you think.

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Speaker 1: About it, I'd love to do that.

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Speaker 3: What's one of the longest flights fourteen hours to lay?

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Speaker 2: Yep?

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Speaker 1: Popular?

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Speaker 2: Do you know what? Do you need your partner next year?

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Speaker 2: In you're flying?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I like to have a chat.

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Speaker 4: I'm a bit of a chatter when it comes to aeroplanes.

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Speaker 4: And you know what I'll do Chris this one too.

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Speaker 4: If my wife's not interested, I'll tap someone else on

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Speaker 4: the shoulder and say.

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Speaker 1: How are you finding the flight? You having a good time?

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Speaker 1: What do you do with se you from Canberra? Are

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Speaker 1: you now?

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Speaker 5: Recently there was a passenger that got up and just

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Speaker 5: decided to open the escape door mid air?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, were you on that flight? Was that person trying

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Speaker 6: to get away.

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Speaker 3: That wasn't sat next to whip a R on a

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Speaker 3: flight before. I have tried numerous times to open the

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Speaker 3: emergency exit because it is excruciating. Tom, You've been there before,

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Speaker 3: terrifying a lot. Also, even to the point where I

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Speaker 3: move seats and sat next to Nat Barr on a

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Speaker 3: flight just to get away.

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Speaker 1: From whether it was an extraordinary move, very rude.

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Speaker 4: I've got plenty of stories to tell, and on occasion

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Speaker 4: I'll break into a song after too many reds.

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Speaker 2: What don't you do with your partner? Andrew? Straight away

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Speaker 2: onto the blower from botany. What don't you do with

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Speaker 2: your partner?

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Speaker 3: Drew?

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Speaker 7: We don't eat the same food, right, Okay?

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Speaker 1: Do you eat together though, Andrew?

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Speaker 7: No, we don't because we have different finnishs through goal

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Speaker 7: in mindset. We also have a kid by way, Yeah,

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Speaker 7: she cooked our own food. I'll cook my own food

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Speaker 7: and we just have different goals and it is expensive.

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Speaker 7: It is very expensive buying different food rather than having

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Speaker 7: one particular meal. We're happy with that.

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Speaker 6: How did you come to this compromise?

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Speaker 5: Did you were you sort of cranky for a little

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Speaker 5: while and then you brought it up or like it

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Speaker 5: was it a difficult conversation to have because you felt

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Speaker 5: you may have felt like she would get offended.

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Speaker 7: No, No, I think it's an agreements because we realized

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Speaker 7: that we started eating the same food and I would

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Speaker 7: eat more than her. Yeah, we'd run out of that

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Speaker 7: particular food, but by just like you know, I'll cook

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Speaker 7: my own, you cook your own at least, and we

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Speaker 7: all have different like flavor for to day, so we

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Speaker 7: don't want to miss flavors.

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Speaker 3: Very committed that I've got a mate who does the

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Speaker 3: same because he he's fit. He likes to eat early

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Speaker 3: and go to bed with an empty stomach.

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Speaker 2: She likes to eat later.

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Speaker 3: And I said, is it quite sad that you're not

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Speaker 3: sitting at the table together and catching up on each

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Speaker 3: other's days, and then we get Yah, know, we would

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Speaker 3: do that anyway, We just don't need to do it

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Speaker 3: over the dinner table.

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Speaker 1: Do you know what the other one my wife thought

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Speaker 1: up with me.

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Speaker 4: The other days we went to an event and it

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Speaker 4: was a charity event and everything, and we kind of.

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Speaker 1: We arrived together.

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Speaker 4: We get out of the car high everybody and naturally

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Speaker 4: you go your own way when you walk into the party.

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Speaker 1: At the end of it, she said, we never really

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Speaker 1: hang out when we go out. She doesn't want to mate,

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Speaker 1: we never really talk.

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Speaker 6: And I said, we'll divide and conquer.

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Speaker 4: It's a little bit like that. You take the left

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Speaker 4: of the room, I'll take the right. We'll bring it

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Speaker 4: back in the end and we'll get out of here.

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Speaker 6: Like a pair of grifts.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. And I don't know whether that's a good thing

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Speaker 1: or a bad thing, or.

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Speaker 5: It comes down to you know, I mean, I don't

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Speaker 5: know anything about relationships, but I think it comes down

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Speaker 5: to communication.

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Speaker 6: And I think more often than not, what we do in.

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Speaker 5: Relationships women in particular, we just don't say anything, and

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Speaker 5: we just, you know, we eat the food that we

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Speaker 5: don't want to eat, and at a time that we

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Speaker 5: don't want to eat it, We do the laundry don't

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Speaker 5: want to do And for so many years and for

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Speaker 5: so many women, we just doesn't even occur to us

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Speaker 5: to say I.

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Speaker 6: Don't want to do this.

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Speaker 5: There is a simpler way, or there anything we can do. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: we just don't do it. We just take it on

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Speaker 5: and on and on and on. Yeah, Rebecca, being.

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Speaker 6: Doing stuff on your own is ma chef's kiss.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, Well if you can get through that,

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Speaker 3: Rebecca and Norelan, what about you and your partner what.

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Speaker 2: Do they do? Hi, how are you going?

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Speaker 7: We don't hold hands when we're out anymore because we've

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Speaker 7: got two kids.

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Speaker 2: Too hard, too hard?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, beca, I wouldn't worry about that. Well, I was

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Speaker 4: never high in holder anyway.

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Speaker 1: But you're right, your attention needs to be with the kids,

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Speaker 1: not with the hubby. Now does he.

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Speaker 2: Notice that too?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because the four person across the sidewalk is too

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Speaker 4: hard on the footpath.

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Speaker 1: Well, when you've got two kids hanging off you, it's hard.

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Speaker 2: How's this one?

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Speaker 3: In the comments of this article, this is not bad.

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Speaker 3: We don't deal with each other's families. We've both decided

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Speaker 3: we each are ten family functions solo a lot of time.

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Speaker 6: That great plan it is.

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Speaker 3: This means we spend holidays apart, which is fine by

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Speaker 3: us since we're not religious. Big families equal big drama.

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Speaker 3: This rule takes a ton of stress out of the relationship.

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Speaker 2: It's not a bit.

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Speaker 1: It's a pretty good idea.

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Speaker 5: That's a great idea because the person whose family it

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Speaker 5: is has like a master's degree in dealing with it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Completely, anything that happens, the throwaway lines, the weird habits,

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Speaker 5: all of that. It's like water off a ducks back

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Speaker 5: for that person who is related the person coming in.

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Speaker 5: It's hell, it's fresh.

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Speaker 6: Hell. Don't do it to somebody that you love.

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Speaker 2: See that.

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Speaker 3: The worst thing is, though, in a relationship, if you're

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Speaker 3: the first one to bring it up and the other

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Speaker 3: ones not into it.

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Speaker 2: So if I said to PJ, Hey, why don't we

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Speaker 2: just hate let's just do the family stuff.

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Speaker 1: Don't you care about my family? Don't you care about them?

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Speaker 2: A shoe, the danger should go, what's what was wrong

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Speaker 2: with my family?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: You hang out with my I think you say it

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Speaker 2: first read off the shoe.

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Speaker 6: Of paper and this guy taken.

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Speaker 2: It was a laugh. It was a test.

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Speaker 1: That was for radio and sits.

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