Speaker 1: Appogie Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am I
Speaker 1: A Bad Mum? Podcast? And we're on Socialist too. Am
Speaker 1: I a Bad Mum? On Instagram?
Speaker 2: We are. There are some really funny memes getting round
Speaker 2: at the moment. I found myself like in the deep
Speaker 2: dive of obviously that Kendrick Lamar song after the NFL.
Speaker 2: I don't know if you've the super Bowl. It seems
Speaker 2: to be on every meme at the moment. But it's
Speaker 2: that they not like us, you know, like they're not
Speaker 2: like us. They're not like us, They're not like it
Speaker 2: just repeats itself, but it's the dance that he does.
Speaker 2: But the one on the weekend was all about sport
Speaker 2: coming back and being that type of parent.
Speaker 1: So I owned it and.
Speaker 2: Just said, yes, yes, this is me. I am going
Speaker 2: to be that parent, super competitive.
Speaker 1: As one knows. Something funny happened the other day actually
Speaker 1: talking about memes. This is like a real life meme.
Speaker 1: So I was on the phone to Holly standard end
Speaker 1: of the school day. Sorry, I'm late my way, I'll
Speaker 1: be there soon. Just wait outside, and she starts going,
Speaker 1: oh my god, and I was like, what's up. She
Speaker 1: was like, this girl was like half getting in the car,
Speaker 1: a mom starts driving off, she's not fully in, she
Speaker 1: still got a leg out, and I went, see, look
Speaker 1: how busy and preoccupied moms are. Hollywent so quick, didn't
Speaker 1: even think about what she was going to say, and
Speaker 1: she went, yeah, the mum was probably on her phone,
Speaker 1: not even thinking about her kid.
Speaker 2: Whoa pot calling kettle? Just here for somebody that loves
Speaker 2: the screen?
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Ps I did that the other day and Gracie got
Speaker 2: so angry at me because I definitely wasn't on a screen.
Speaker 2: Just fyi, Holly, But I was absolutely just not paying attention,
Speaker 2: you know, when your mind is like forty five other places.
Speaker 1: And I just assumed she had.
Speaker 2: Closed the door and I started to like move obviously
Speaker 2: very slowly because we were coming out of the garage.
Speaker 1: But she got really flustered and was like, Mum. It
Speaker 1: was like, oh, calm down.
Speaker 2: Might have just half run over your leg, but calm down.
Speaker 1: But Mike Cairl say that to me all the time.
Speaker 1: They're like, you're not listening to me, And I'm like,
Speaker 1: you don't understand how many things moms are thinking about
Speaker 1: at every given moment. We've got so many things going on.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I got this morning across the bench now, Katie.
Speaker 2: This is after I'd asked in a calm, contained voice
Speaker 2: at three separate occasions in the hour long I've got
Speaker 2: everything else ready, you just need a water bottle.
Speaker 1: You just need a water bottle.
Speaker 2: How did you go with the water bottle situation? And
Speaker 2: then just as like everyone's about to leave, Sam's trying
Speaker 2: to ship them out the door, or them just Gracie
Speaker 2: and himself, and I turned to Gracy and I.
Speaker 1: Was like, just get your fucking water bottle. You still
Speaker 1: don't have one.
Speaker 2: She's oh, stop yelling at me.
Speaker 1: You're always yelling. I didn't yell the first seven times
Speaker 1: I asked, I can't.
Speaker 2: And then Sam looks at me and was like, well, oh,
Speaker 2: don't even start, bro, if you want me to go there,
Speaker 2: I actually don't even have all day?
Speaker 1: Am I a bad mum for being tight?
Speaker 2: I think there comes a time where we all sort
Speaker 2: of like pull on the strings of the purse a
Speaker 2: little bit. Like obviously every situation is so different, but
Speaker 2: like sometimes I just get to that point where I'm like, no,
Speaker 2: I don't care if you're hungry, you won't starve.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we've got food at home.
Speaker 2: I'm not buying you anything from the servo.
Speaker 1: Mike always I am always asked to buy foot. We
Speaker 1: could be two minutes from home, can you stop at
Speaker 1: the petrol station and get No, we've got food at home.
Speaker 1: Just wait two minutes. We've got nothing at home. We
Speaker 1: absolutely have got food at home. There's just nothing that's
Speaker 1: going to jump out at you and open itself. And
Speaker 1: that's the same thing.
Speaker 2: With like those little moments as apparent where you go, no, No,
Speaker 2: I'm not spending my money on you.
Speaker 1: Oh, you never spent Oh. I had a moment and
Speaker 1: I was talking to a couple of mums who have
Speaker 1: got much younger kids, and they were talking about schools
Speaker 1: and their kids are at school yet, and then we
Speaker 1: got onto the conversation of you know, how much certain
Speaker 1: schools cost and all the rest of it, state school
Speaker 1: versus private school, all the rest of it. And I
Speaker 1: was like, I am in a situation. I felt quite
Speaker 1: happy with myself. I felt, you know, almost like I
Speaker 1: was gloating a little bit, because I was like, You've
Speaker 1: got this whole journey to go on. Now, I've got
Speaker 1: one more year. Yeah, and I don't have to pay
Speaker 1: for school anymore. Yeah, I was so excited.
Speaker 2: Does it move on to UNI though?
Speaker 1: For you? No, I've already had that conversation. You want
Speaker 1: to go to UNI? There's hex deep Yeah good, okay, yeah, great,
Speaker 1: hat to go. Good on you. But there's a couple
Speaker 1: of reasons why I'm tired.
Speaker 2: I mean, I mean, I could give you a few
Speaker 2: more reasons why.
Speaker 1: But there's two reasons for this topic today. The first
Speaker 1: one is that my girls are going to semi formal
Speaker 1: in a couple of weeks. Now. Not only have we
Speaker 1: had to hire dresses. Just on that hiring dresses, I'm
Speaker 1: sure hiring dresses used to be like really quite reasonable.
Speaker 1: You're wearing it for a night, You're taking it back,
Speaker 1: They're getting use out of it. People were hiring the
Speaker 1: same dress every single week, like one hundred and was it?
Speaker 1: I feel like it was one hundred and sixty dollars each, Yeah,
Speaker 1: just to hire the dress for one evening. Then the
Speaker 1: girls are telling me they need their hair and makeup done, okay,
Speaker 1: specially occasion, yep. Then they're telling me they want their
Speaker 1: nails done. I'm like, okay. In my head, I'm like
Speaker 1: working out how much money this is. I'm like adding
Speaker 1: it up. I'm like, this is more money, more money,
Speaker 1: more money, Okay, And then they're telling me they need
Speaker 1: a different outfit for post semi so wherever they go afterwards,
Speaker 1: I don't even know. Ye a different outfit. This is
Speaker 1: not your fucking wedding. Yeah, like we're not having a
Speaker 1: wedding dress and then a reception dress, change of outfait. Yeah,
Speaker 1: why can't you wear the same dress? Well, just why
Speaker 1: can't you just wear what you've got any cupboard?
Speaker 2: Yes, you're going to get trashed in it anyway, let's
Speaker 2: be honest.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they act like they've got all the money in
Speaker 1: the world. Where you got expectation is that they're rich.
Speaker 1: Remember Holly said to me that day where she got
Speaker 1: a bus and then a train and then another bus
Speaker 1: and then they walked to get to the beach. She went, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: like I was on the buses and like it was
Speaker 1: all a bit sketchy and I felt like a poor person.
Speaker 1: I went, you are a poor person, yeah, wow, yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't earn any money. So then they throw on
Speaker 1: me literally the other day on the weekend, and they go,
Speaker 1: we need to buy the tickets. We have to buy
Speaker 1: it today. The deadline is today. If we don't buy
Speaker 1: the tickets today, we don't get to go. And not
Speaker 1: only do we have to buy tickets for ourselves, we
Speaker 1: have to buy the tickets. And when she says we,
Speaker 1: it's me.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I have to buy a ticket for the guys that
Speaker 1: are going with them, who I don't even know, who
Speaker 1: they have never even met, And I had to buy
Speaker 1: their ticket five hundred dollars on tickets, on four tickets.
Speaker 1: Two kids I've never met, who my girls have just
Speaker 1: spoken to on Snapchat. Oh, they don't even like them.
Speaker 1: These guys are just props. They need to turn up
Speaker 1: to the semi apparently someone.
Speaker 2: And this is like a junior version of maths. It's
Speaker 2: like I'm married at first light. You're just not getting married.
Speaker 2: It's like semi formal at first sight. Yeah, Like because
Speaker 2: they've never met snap is not including meeting No I.
Speaker 1: Know, you've not met them. No, you don't know them.
Speaker 2: Like, what if they turn up and he's never heard
Speaker 2: of like a bo spray or after shape, You're with
Speaker 2: that for the rest of the night.
Speaker 1: What if they don't turn up and then I've bought
Speaker 1: two tickets, You're.
Speaker 2: You're going to semi formal you and I are going
Speaker 2: to semi Moore.
Speaker 1: That is what the backup is.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I hadn't thought of that. What if
Speaker 2: they don't turn up?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. Surely they would not not turn up.
Speaker 1: Well I hope not not for you girls sake. Horrible.
Speaker 2: That is horrible, but it's possible in this day and age.
Speaker 2: Because sorry ghosted them on their semi formal.
Speaker 1: That's pretty harsh.
Speaker 2: Holy shit, I don't know that'd been so nervous for
Speaker 2: me as you're I'd be so nervous.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they are nervous, and I'm nervous, just.
Speaker 2: Like want to catch up maybe for like a milkshake
Speaker 2: or something beforehand.
Speaker 1: Like you'd think.
Speaker 2: But well, okay, let's go role reverse or Katie, and
Speaker 2: we'll go back to being tight.
Speaker 1: The role reversal of this is.
Speaker 2: I'm the mom of the young boy that is taking
Speaker 2: your daughter to semi formal. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well, when you say taking, if he was taking them,
Speaker 1: wouldn't he the ticket.
Speaker 2: I know it's a bit weird, but your daughters go
Speaker 2: to an all girls school, so maybe this is just
Speaker 2: like the difference between like all girls and then you
Speaker 2: know that requirement whereas like so for me, I'm dropping
Speaker 2: my son off to a complete stranger's house to go
Speaker 2: with their daughter who is a complete stranger to my son.
Speaker 1: Or does he come to the house first, wouldn't you?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Where do they get photos?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Everyone gets photos and goes together in a car. I
Speaker 2: was waiting for you to say that asked for like
Speaker 2: a fancy car. I was like, oh shit, yeah, so
Speaker 2: even as that, I'd be like going, like, I feel
Speaker 2: really awkward about this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel all good about the whole thing. Look,
Speaker 1: it's so weird weird to me. It's so weird to me.
Speaker 2: Anyway, we must be old.
Speaker 1: I went to a co ed state school. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: I remember my what was called prom in the UK.
Speaker 1: I went with Brad. He wore a South Tark tie,
Speaker 1: of course he did. He were a South type Brad.
Speaker 1: And we hopped in a car with my friend and
Speaker 1: her date. But that was because we were all friends.
Speaker 1: Like the four of us, the two guys and two girls,
Speaker 1: were really good friends, so it wasn't weird.
Speaker 2: This is like, yeah, I'm exactly a blind date. This
Speaker 2: is like a blind dates. What I'm saying, it's like.
Speaker 1: A blind date that I'm paying for.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that they were all dressed up. You're paying for
Speaker 2: and you've just got to hope that they turn up.
Speaker 2: Mine was exactly the same as yours. We didn't even
Speaker 2: do a semi so we were like we went to
Speaker 2: just our formal in grade twelve, but I went to
Speaker 2: a co ed public school, so it was just like
Speaker 2: pick a random out of your grade and go with
Speaker 2: them if you.
Speaker 1: Wanted to, or you just go as a group of girls, or.
Speaker 2: Just go as a group of girls.
Speaker 1: Yes, you didn't even need a partner. I said that
Speaker 1: to the girls. Social suicide, social suicide. I'll tell you
Speaker 1: what's going to be a social suicide, my friend, is
Speaker 1: when your dates don't turn up. We've got two spare tickets,
Speaker 1: and me and dad are there at your semi four more. Dang,
Speaker 1: I need dress, hut white.
Speaker 2: Can you have a dress out just to be like,
Speaker 2: just to really fuck with them.
Speaker 1: Put a dress out.
Speaker 2: Hang it up, put your shoes underneath it. The earrings
Speaker 2: are just close by, like it's
Speaker 1: Just and then when the makeup artist comes over, I'll
Speaker 1: get mine, dumb, Yes, Yes,