1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:03,880 Speaker 1: This is the fits in with Kate Richie podcast Carriage. 2 00:00:03,920 --> 00:00:04,400 Speaker 2: Have you got this? 3 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:05,920 Speaker 3: Have you got this next story? 4 00:00:06,040 --> 00:00:08,160 Speaker 1: Or yeah, I absolutely excited about that. 5 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:09,920 Speaker 2: It's just you're looking through the run sheet like what 6 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:10,640 Speaker 2: happens now? 7 00:00:11,039 --> 00:00:13,760 Speaker 4: No, I just wanted to check that it was Wednesday 8 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:16,120 Speaker 4: because I was just sitting here during that brand new 9 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 4: song from dash Out Yeah Austin, thinking I feel like 10 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:21,920 Speaker 4: I'm winning it. 11 00:00:21,920 --> 00:00:22,599 Speaker 1: It must be went. 12 00:00:25,200 --> 00:00:26,440 Speaker 2: Just that you picked up the wrong sheet. 13 00:00:26,520 --> 00:00:27,159 Speaker 1: Are you with me? 14 00:00:27,280 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 4: Sydney, be quiet, whipper just for a second, subtle in 15 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:35,560 Speaker 4: and listen to this dilemma. 16 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:36,599 Speaker 1: I want your thoughts on it. 17 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:40,159 Speaker 4: When you go on holidays, and I didn't tell you 18 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,640 Speaker 4: the whole story before, but when you go on holidays 19 00:00:42,920 --> 00:00:46,600 Speaker 4: with your partner, even if there are a few troubles 20 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 4: within the relationship, do you get an extra room for 21 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 4: space or is that an excessive kind of cost, like 22 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 4: if you're if you're going on a holiday, just a 23 00:00:57,240 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 4: tu no, no, no, okay, So this is the scenario 24 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:02,760 Speaker 4: husband and wife. 25 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:06,679 Speaker 1: Okay, Anna and Bob. I'm just called okay, Anna and Bob. 26 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:07,680 Speaker 1: They sound tight? 27 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, Bobby, Anna and Bobby. Anyway, Anna and Bobby have 28 00:01:11,640 --> 00:01:15,240 Speaker 4: been having a few difficulties. After I read the article, 29 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:17,840 Speaker 4: I get the feeling he's not really that into. 30 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 1: It because he actually has moved out of. 31 00:01:19,880 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 4: The marital sweep the marital home, oh, which makes it 32 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 4: a little bit more serious. She wants to engage in 33 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:31,479 Speaker 4: a lot of discussion around the marriage. He doesn't seem 34 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 4: that into it. But they've been invited to this wedding overseas. 35 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 4: It's a destination wedding. So selfish and trying to keep 36 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:39,759 Speaker 4: the numbers down. 37 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:42,759 Speaker 5: It's so cheap to fly overseas at the moment as well, 38 00:01:42,920 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 5: it's just the perfect time to go. 39 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 4: Peo will say, Oh, I've got two weddings next to you, 40 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 4: ones in Bali and ones in Italy. I'm thinking what 41 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 4: happened to it being at the local Anglican shirts and 42 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 4: just choose a part. 43 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 2: I can only go one? Which one will I go 44 00:01:58,240 --> 00:01:59,919 Speaker 2: to it? Well? Definitely BARLEI. 45 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:02,400 Speaker 4: Well it depends who's paying. I suppose anyway, they're going 46 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:04,160 Speaker 4: to this wedding. She doesn't want to miss out on 47 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 4: the wedding because she knows the bride and groom as well, 48 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:09,400 Speaker 4: her brother's going. People want her there, but they also 49 00:02:09,440 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 4: want him there, and he's saying, well, okay, we can 50 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:13,680 Speaker 4: go as a couple. That's the way we're invited when 51 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:15,920 Speaker 4: we were still together. But I'm not staying in a 52 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:16,639 Speaker 4: room with you. 53 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:17,400 Speaker 1: Now. 54 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 4: She's devastated about it because not only I don't know 55 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 4: if she's that upset about the fact that she doesn't 56 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:27,360 Speaker 4: get to sleep with him in the same room, but 57 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:29,560 Speaker 4: it's going to cost another ten thousand dollars. 58 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:31,040 Speaker 1: I don't know where to want. 59 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 5: To get another room, that's fair enough. We have this 60 00:02:33,120 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 5: dilemma with the kids sometimes. Do you get an extra 61 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 5: room for the kids right next door to you, or 62 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 5: do you just get two twin beds and that you 63 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:41,239 Speaker 5: all sleep together. 64 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:43,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, you save a lot of money into connecting. That's 65 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 2: what we have to go for. 66 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 4: Well, I've done the I've gone to the effort of 67 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 4: getting the extra roll away bed and all of that 68 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 4: stuff before. And my daughter, I mean, it's just it's me. 69 00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:57,640 Speaker 4: She likes to sleep with me anyway. So all I 70 00:02:57,680 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 4: do is stare at a very expensive bed in the 71 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 4: corner of the room and think, can you go and 72 00:03:02,480 --> 00:03:03,519 Speaker 4: just lie on it? 73 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 1: Can we just lie on it? So I feel like 74 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:06,959 Speaker 1: we have our we've got ours money. 75 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:08,919 Speaker 2: Can we talk about what's really going on here? 76 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, can we because there are a lot of labs. 77 00:03:11,639 --> 00:03:14,000 Speaker 2: I think we understand what's going on. Bobby's hoping to 78 00:03:14,000 --> 00:03:17,120 Speaker 2: snag one of the bride's maths. Come on, Bobby is 79 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:19,720 Speaker 2: he wants a roode to himself because he has one 80 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:21,800 Speaker 2: idea for what this wedding could mean for him, and 81 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:24,119 Speaker 2: he does want to end up in her room. 82 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:25,960 Speaker 5: Well, the other thing that I was thinking is that 83 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 5: a holiday away can actually save marriages. 84 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:31,040 Speaker 1: Oh, you are such a good god. 85 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 5: Do you know what? It's your last chance. I always 86 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 5: see a couple who. 87 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 1: Are struggle out of the house say to. 88 00:03:36,880 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 5: Each other, and I remember BJ's sister split up with 89 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 5: her husband and they said, let's do one last Barley 90 00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 5: trip together. But you know that's where we've been away. 91 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 5: We fell in love, we were romantic, didn't work unfortunately, 92 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 5: went the other way. 93 00:03:51,720 --> 00:03:55,200 Speaker 4: But it's your last I agree, and especially if this 94 00:03:55,280 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 4: trip that they're taking is to a wedding, Because a wedding, 95 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 4: whether you like it or not, whatever stage of your 96 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 4: relationship you're in, or even if you're not in one, 97 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:10,560 Speaker 4: weddings get your thinking. They well, yeah, all the other ways, 98 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 4: you sit there and you think you eat. 99 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:16,520 Speaker 2: Do you know what I remember going on a holiday. 100 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:22,640 Speaker 2: Here's another bloody expensive one coming up. I went on 101 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:25,680 Speaker 2: a holiday at the beginning to the Yeah, and I 102 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 2: ended up I spent most of the holiday dragging a 103 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:32,800 Speaker 2: mattress onto the balcony of the of the room and 104 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 2: sleeping out there. 105 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:35,159 Speaker 1: What was this? 106 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:37,040 Speaker 2: This was on a holiday with a girlfriend because of 107 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 2: a snoring situation. French doesn't matter, we don't need to 108 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:48,080 Speaker 2: mention names, and so I would just. 109 00:04:48,920 --> 00:04:52,920 Speaker 5: Come on matey said she kicked him out. 110 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: You're snoring, not her snoring. 111 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:57,640 Speaker 2: So at the end I wouldn't even go to bed 112 00:04:57,640 --> 00:04:59,679 Speaker 2: with her. I'd just drag a mattress out onto the balcony, 113 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 2: just single mattress and lie out there in the fresh air. 114 00:05:02,880 --> 00:05:04,839 Speaker 5: You paid for her as well, all the way over 115 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 5: to the French trim. It would have cost you a 116 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:09,440 Speaker 5: fortune and you you're sleeping out in the back in London. 117 00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 3: That was never going to work out, Like Harris, did 118 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:14,719 Speaker 3: you say this was completely different? But what city was it? Well, 119 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:18,120 Speaker 3: we were in Central It is so romantic and lovely. 120 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:20,919 Speaker 3: I can't believe it was a very It was a 121 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 3: very loving tour. Didn't last well, it could have lasted. 122 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 1: It could have if you didn't. 123 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:27,520 Speaker 5: Look up with Lisa while you're with her. 124 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:30,839 Speaker 4: Oh my god, what, I don't know what's going on? 125 00:05:30,920 --> 00:05:34,040 Speaker 4: Give us Oh, we do have. 126 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:38,040 Speaker 1: Someone on the line. Are Ria from be Hi? 127 00:05:38,200 --> 00:05:40,239 Speaker 6: Good morning morning. 128 00:05:40,279 --> 00:05:42,279 Speaker 4: What have you got to offer to this conversation? Have 129 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 4: you been in this situation? 130 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 6: I haven't been directly in that situation, but I'd say 131 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:52,880 Speaker 6: give it a go. Spark fly, go underneath a little 132 00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:53,800 Speaker 6: bit of a waterfall. 133 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:55,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, oh your luck. 134 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 5: So you think a holiday can re spark a romance, Ria. 135 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:03,360 Speaker 6: Absolutely, especially like you said, if it's a wedding and 136 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 6: you've got, you know, all those positive and orphins flying around, 137 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:09,479 Speaker 6: with everybody being lobbed up around you, it could just 138 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:11,599 Speaker 6: respark it again. Or like you said, he could go 139 00:06:11,600 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 6: completely the other way. It might realize all the things 140 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:16,840 Speaker 6: you don't have in your relationship. 141 00:06:17,480 --> 00:06:19,760 Speaker 1: It might it might just give you the answers. 142 00:06:19,920 --> 00:06:23,640 Speaker 4: I think either way, either you'll think, look, we've been ridiculous, 143 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 4: let's go back to those initial moments of a relationship. 144 00:06:26,960 --> 00:06:28,039 Speaker 4: Or you think, no, we need to. 145 00:06:29,360 --> 00:06:32,680 Speaker 5: We can go Remember that we've told that story. Did 146 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:34,760 Speaker 5: we tell you, Kate about the couple who went to 147 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 5: Tyler Alice. That was Alice. Remember it was at the 148 00:06:41,160 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 5: end of a relationship. They said one last holiday together. 149 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:44,880 Speaker 5: Let's make this. 150 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:46,360 Speaker 1: Work, you and you and Alice. 151 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 5: It was with and Alice. Anyway, they went away to Thailand, 152 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 5: went out, had a lovely night and at the end 153 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:58,039 Speaker 5: of the night she he said, can I I'm not 154 00:06:58,240 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 5: tired yet. She said, I'm going to go to bed, 155 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 5: and he said, well, I might just have a couple 156 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 5: more drinks down at the hotel. 157 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:06,520 Speaker 1: She went to bed at two in the morning. 158 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 5: He comes in and she's like, oh, he's finally here. 159 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:14,040 Speaker 5: She nudges him, nudges her and goes, is it all 160 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:16,360 Speaker 5: right if you can go and sleep somebody else. I've 161 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 5: brought someone home. 162 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, And he's told the girl that he'd brought home, 163 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 2: that she was his sister, and she's left the room and. 164 00:07:25,040 --> 00:07:28,240 Speaker 1: He's so boring. 165 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 2: You should have gone a holiday with Alice. 166 00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:37,680 Speaker 5: Whipper with Kate Ritchie is a Nova podcast walk great 167 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:38,480 Speaker 5: shows like this. 168 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:42,240 Speaker 3: Download the Nova player, fire, the app Store, or Google Playing.