Speaker 1: I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming.
Speaker 2: She how do I put this? Isn't a fan of
Speaker 2: my kissing style?
Speaker 1: Boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. He's in a
Speaker 1: trash bin. He's non recyclable. Catching them up.
Speaker 2: I love being love, I love love.
Speaker 1: On today's episode of Where's Your Head At, we are
Speaker 1: asking the question should you train with your partner?
Speaker 2: We look at the pros and cons of using your
Speaker 2: partner as a gym buddy, and we decide whether it
Speaker 2: spices up the relationship or whether it's a turn off.
Speaker 1: We also discuss why it could be better to keep
Speaker 1: some things like hobbies and gym sessions to yourself.
Speaker 2: Stay tuned.
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Speaker 1: Good morning, Good morning. We're in the heart of winter.
Speaker 2: It is very cold outside with our warm teas.
Speaker 1: I was actually watching this documentary and it was saying, how.
Speaker 2: You sorry, guys who are listening, it's a hot tea.
Speaker 1: I was watching this documentary and it was saying how
Speaker 1: good for you? Green tea really is peppermint tea and
Speaker 1: all of the tea. So my goal at the moment
Speaker 1: is when I feel like a second or third coffee,
Speaker 1: I have a tea instead.
Speaker 2: Green tea.
Speaker 1: Yeah, green tea still has some caffeine in it, still
Speaker 1: use you a bit of a buzz?
Speaker 2: Did I not say this on a recommendation ages ago?
Speaker 2: The green tea I used to every day bring a
Speaker 2: firmas to work with me. I used to put, I
Speaker 2: reckon four green tea bags in there, four, yes, four
Speaker 2: in there. I used to put some lemon juice in there,
Speaker 2: a bit of apple sided vinegar nice, and I used
Speaker 2: to during the day just pour myself out some there
Speaker 2: you go. Yeah it was really good. I reckon it
Speaker 2: was really healthy for me and keep me going, stop
Speaker 2: me going to the cafe to get more coffees.
Speaker 1: Do they really stay hot all day?
Speaker 2: Thermises are fucking weird and wild.
Speaker 1: They do, so the whole day you had hot order.
Speaker 2: I've probably finished it at like twelve, Yeah eleven.
Speaker 1: You weren't like holding it off.
Speaker 2: Every as soon as I could? Yeah, they do, and
Speaker 2: they keep stuff cold as well. Yeah, they're a nifty invention.
Speaker 1: Yeah, quite good appreciation.
Speaker 2: Appreciation posts made that, Yeah, well there's your recommendation by
Speaker 2: a thermos.
Speaker 1: This is not a hot line. We're not giving over
Speaker 1: the I love the recommendation. Well, look, I woke up
Speaker 1: this morning and Michael and I had a plan, and
Speaker 1: the plan was that this morning we were going to
Speaker 1: get up together and go to the gym and work
Speaker 1: out together. And the plan has fallen to its knees.
Speaker 1: Didn't work out, and Michael's a little bit pissed.
Speaker 2: I was going to say, did he end up coming
Speaker 2: by himself.
Speaker 1: Or yeah, he went he went alone.
Speaker 2: One ASIX next to his name on the whiteboard. I know.
Speaker 1: So Michael and I we always do these like little
Speaker 1: four week challenges and we put like m on the
Speaker 1: board in a and we like try and get every
Speaker 1: time we work out, we get like a little stroke.
Speaker 2: Every time I'm at Anna's, I just take the piss
Speaker 2: out of it.
Speaker 1: It's mine always has.
Speaker 2: It has empty and Michaels is full, so I always
Speaker 2: have a laugh at it.
Speaker 1: Well, look, this the reason why I didn't go. I
Speaker 1: feel like it's a legitimate reason. So you tell me
Speaker 1: what you would do if you were in the same scenario.
Speaker 1: So you've made a pact with your partner to train
Speaker 1: in the morning at six am. Huh I train, you
Speaker 1: would train, yeah, but I wake up in the middle
Speaker 1: of the night. My neck is killing me. Right, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: what's that? Like, that's not feeling good. And then when
Speaker 1: the alarm goes off at five point thirty in the morning,
Speaker 1: I realize that my neck has completely seized up. Now
Speaker 1: when I get stressed out, my neck does seize up.
Speaker 1: I'm a little stress at the moment and equals my
Speaker 1: neck is seased up. So Michael was like, Okay, let's
Speaker 1: get to the gym, and I was like, babe, I
Speaker 1: can't go. My neck is thought And I think he
Speaker 1: thought I was like making an excuse because it was
Speaker 1: five thirty in the morning, but it was a genuine
Speaker 1: like it was genuine and my neck is still like
Speaker 1: I'm not moving well this morning.
Speaker 2: You okay, So you probably could have still gone to
Speaker 2: the gym and done like the exercise bike or stretchers
Speaker 2: on it or something like.
Speaker 1: You know, I can barely even look at me. I'm
Speaker 1: like turning my head like barely.
Speaker 2: Like ow.
Speaker 1: It's like all I was praying for, Like I moved
Speaker 1: my neck to the lager.
Speaker 2: Know when someone does something and they delay and then
Speaker 2: they like give you a side to see if you
Speaker 2: saw how far it is your that.
Speaker 1: Was literally, don't make me laugh, like I honestly like
Speaker 1: if I could have a neck brace on right now,
Speaker 1: I would because that's how sore my neck is. Do
Speaker 1: you know how painful it is to have like pain
Speaker 1: in your neck and back. It's not good.
Speaker 2: I used to wrestle twice a week and then three
Speaker 2: times during the week train. My neck has been stiff
Speaker 2: and saw I've had very sore, bad But you're fit.
Speaker 1: The thing is, and I know it's my own fault,
Speaker 1: but I'm not fit at the moment. Like I've had
Speaker 1: a lot going on. I've been stressed out, my mind
Speaker 1: has been elsewhere. So is it potentially my fault that
Speaker 1: I haven't been working out and therefore I'm even more
Speaker 1: stiff than you would ever potentially imagine? Yeah? I think
Speaker 1: a yeah. Literally I moved my head to the left then,
Speaker 1: and I felt like a pulling in my middle back.
Speaker 2: Do you reckon because you're stressed and haven't worked out
Speaker 2: that your back is more stiff big than me who's
Speaker 2: been getting dropped on my neck and back.
Speaker 1: You're not getting dropped on your neck my back. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think I'm worse because at least would it is wood.
Speaker 1: Yeah but what Okay, but little debate here for you
Speaker 1: guys this morning. Your muscles around the pain area that
Speaker 1: you're feeling are strong.
Speaker 2: Mine's weak also, Okay, on that, I agree. I'm match fit.
Speaker 2: We say so like you are used to it, like
Speaker 2: if I was to go now, I haven't wrestled in
Speaker 2: over a year.
Speaker 1: The only thing I am I'm walking fit. That's walking
Speaker 1: with me, stranger. No, but I actually say, look, I'm
Speaker 1: going to take some accountability, but me not going to
Speaker 1: the gym with Michael this morning. Can I say it's
Speaker 1: not my fault. It's not my fault with the side
Speaker 1: of accountability.
Speaker 2: That is the biggest oxymoor? What ever makes sense?
Speaker 1: Okay, honey, I'm sorry. As soon as my neck is better,
Speaker 1: I promise you we will be Jim buddy.
Speaker 2: She'll get some more asterisks on the board. She'll do
Speaker 2: it for us, all all our listeners, twice a day,
Speaker 2: two asterisks.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, look on that note. Let's talk about training
Speaker 1: with your partner.
Speaker 2: And do you believe the old saying that partners who
Speaker 2: train together stay together.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's just different for every single couple.
Speaker 2: Do you. Yeah, Look, I've been in relationships where one
Speaker 2: person doesn't like to train, one person wants to like
Speaker 2: to train alone, and it just have I ever really trained.
Speaker 2: I don't think I've ever really trained with a partner.
Speaker 2: You seem to do it with Michael or when you can.
Speaker 1: I'm just it's so hard for me to even like
Speaker 1: laugh at the moment because my next I saw, So
Speaker 1: that's the level that I'm experiencing.
Speaker 2: Just FYI everyone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Look, I really enjoy training with Michael when I
Speaker 1: do train with him, and I know he loves it,
Speaker 1: Like he always says like he feels really connected to
Speaker 1: me once we've trained together. So it's definitely a thing
Speaker 1: I've definitely. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I remember when I was living with Nicky and Murphy
Speaker 2: came up in conversation that they don't train together, yeah,
Speaker 2: and that like they have like it was the words
Speaker 2: were thrown around, nothing in common.
Speaker 1: But I think and this is Jen's twins partner, Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, fiance, and I just don't I don't think, like
Speaker 2: sometimes I don't mind going to gym putting my noise,
Speaker 2: canceling airpop maxes on and just training and just throwing weights,
Speaker 2: definding gravity and physics at the same time.
Speaker 1: Well, it's like alone time, right, It's kind of like
Speaker 1: you're putting time into yourself.
Speaker 2: I've never enjoyed group fitness either. I remember I went
Speaker 2: to group fitness with my sister forty five, and the
Speaker 2: girl was like yelling at me as I was on
Speaker 2: the cross trainer, and I was just like she was
Speaker 2: like go, go, and I like stopped, looked dead in
Speaker 2: the eyes, and I was like, this is a game
Speaker 2: of chest not checkers. Still, like the rest of the
Speaker 2: circuit left conservative. So I don't really like training with someone.
Speaker 2: But I remember Jen. We would go to the gym
Speaker 2: and she would the treadmills, would face the weight room,
Speaker 2: and I remember she would after the gym be like
Speaker 2: really turned on by watching me, like work out, She'd
Speaker 2: enjoy that sweat on. Yeah, she loved the sweat. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I remember in the sauna one time and loved me
Speaker 2: when I was sweating as well. Do you find that attractive? No?
Speaker 1: Like the other day, Michael and I were training together
Speaker 1: pre neck injury, and he was like, so sweaty because
Speaker 1: Michael pushes himself to like an extreme limit, Like you know,
Speaker 1: I'm going thirteen on the treadmill, He's going twenty. Like
Speaker 1: here's nut.
Speaker 2: Imagine those legs going.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like crazy, crazy pushes himself to a crazy level.
Speaker 1: And we were like going home, and I remember we
Speaker 1: were like close beside each other and literally the sweat
Speaker 1: fell from his nose onto my face and I was like, hey,
Speaker 1: you fucking kidding. That's disgusting. It was so gross. Like
Speaker 1: if you're like sweating profusely, if you're like a person
Speaker 1: who goes to the gym and fucking does kectic amounts
Speaker 1: of cardio, then yeah, that's not like a turn on
Speaker 1: for me.
Speaker 2: Is this the time that I say that I really
Speaker 2: don't sweat, no matter how hard I pushed myself. I
Speaker 2: remember being made an elite level of football when I
Speaker 2: was on the cross. I was on the bike at
Speaker 2: Tack Footy if anyone's familiar with that, and I was
Speaker 2: riding on the bike and the fitness guy came up
Speaker 2: to me. He went like this on me anyway, She said,
Speaker 2: do you know what that means? And I was like,
Speaker 2: you have a crush on me? And he was like,
Speaker 2: you're not sweating, go harder, and I'm like, I'm fucking
Speaker 2: going for it.
Speaker 1: Have you had like botox and all of your paws
Speaker 1: or something.
Speaker 2: I mean, I sweat I'm in the sauna or like
Speaker 2: in a hot environment, but I can never sweat off
Speaker 2: like running and training really a life. I'm running in
Speaker 2: the sun.
Speaker 1: I will That's so random. So it's just like not
Speaker 1: really in you genetically to sweat, or.
Speaker 2: Maybe I just don't push myself as hard.
Speaker 1: That just goes for a leisurely run and he's like.
Speaker 2: I'm not a hundred Imagine if that story I just
Speaker 2: told about the black there's like a row of us
Speaker 2: and everyone else is just spinning and I'm just like, yeah,
Speaker 2: just a lot of casual exercise bike.
Speaker 1: Well, it's interesting that you say that you don't like
Speaker 1: group fitness, because I personally love group fitness and it's
Speaker 1: the only way. I'm not going to say that, but like,
Speaker 1: I really push myself in group fitness because then I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm doing it with other people.
Speaker 2: I'm too accountable.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and like I'm not the only one experiencing the
Speaker 1: pain and suffering. They're all experiencing it. So I feel
Speaker 1: like better about it, but like things like apps and
Speaker 1: stuff do help me as well. Michael and I have
Speaker 1: a running app actually on my phone and we both
Speaker 1: will do the whole circuit together.
Speaker 2: There's there's apps. I know that when I was living
Speaker 2: with my roomies, they would have one and you can
Speaker 2: like see your everyone's run. It's almost like an Instagram.
Speaker 2: Oh really, you upload your runs and like from your
Speaker 2: watch and just people scrolling through it.
Speaker 1: That's so interesting.
Speaker 2: I don't imagine if you had a shitty off day
Speaker 2: then you posted it and yeah, so that hold you
Speaker 2: accountable in that respect.
Speaker 1: Okay, well look, why is it good to train with
Speaker 1: your partner matp.
Speaker 2: I think that you got to spend more time together
Speaker 2: so you and Michael would get like a one on
Speaker 2: one together.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's some quality time as well. I guess would
Speaker 1: you call it quality time? Michael definitely like perceives it
Speaker 1: as quality time.
Speaker 2: Did you put headphones in?
Speaker 1: Well, we would like do the same training work out together,
Speaker 1: so we'd both have one in and do it together.
Speaker 1: But like, I don't know, I feel like.
Speaker 2: Are you like having conversations?
Speaker 1: I have a little kiss here and there that's cut
Speaker 1: but not really quality.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I mean if someone's really into training.
Speaker 1: And it's their happy place and then you and then
Speaker 1: your partners with them, it.
Speaker 2: Is that is quality time to them. Yeah.
Speaker 1: You can also I guess like as a couple become healthier,
Speaker 1: you have a healthy routine. You know, you're training together.
Speaker 1: You're kind of like maybe living a more healthy lifestyle together.
Speaker 1: So as a whole it can be quite good for
Speaker 1: your relationship.
Speaker 2: You can also there's another kind of gym buddy, so
Speaker 2: they can help motivate you and keep you on track.
Speaker 2: You're accountable, keep you accountable. To just get toxic when
Speaker 2: your partner's keeping you accountable. I know in previous relationships
Speaker 2: your partner keeps you accountable, you get annoyed.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like Michael will be like I'm going to the
Speaker 1: gym and I'm like, ugh, do we have to because
Speaker 1: you're like working out together. Then you kind of almost
Speaker 1: It's not that Michael would make me feel guilty, but
Speaker 1: like I then feel bad because I'm like, well, he's
Speaker 1: doing it.
Speaker 2: You don't have to go every day, do you? No?
Speaker 1: I do like three times a week. Maybe I would
Speaker 1: say I have.
Speaker 2: To go even if it's to the gym, to just
Speaker 2: literally like be there and do like a like a
Speaker 2: lase a workout, like I have to.
Speaker 1: Go these workouts. I don't know. I feel like every
Speaker 1: day is accepted. But that's just personally. Maybe it's not.
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm under myself.
Speaker 3: I think the happy medium six for the rest day,
Speaker 3: that's a lot. Yeah, I think that's what Like, I
Speaker 3: think I having mediums for I will from what I
Speaker 3: want to achieve. All the people I would read.
Speaker 2: Up on and talk to, you'd have like six days
Speaker 2: and one would be low intensity in the middle and
Speaker 2: then yeah, my low intensity kind of creeps into a
Speaker 2: couple of pakes.
Speaker 1: But I think something we're learning from this episode is
Speaker 1: that Matt likes to go to the gym but doesn't
Speaker 1: put in all effort.
Speaker 2: Is it reflecting my body?
Speaker 1: No, absolutely not. I think you know, as annoying as
Speaker 1: it is, sometimes it is kind of good to be
Speaker 1: held accountable by your partner. And when you do have
Speaker 1: a gym workout, whether that be a partner or a friend,
Speaker 1: you know, holding each other accountable, you end up meeting
Speaker 1: your goals. So it's kind of like almost something that
Speaker 1: you can implement so that you do stay on track.
Speaker 2: It could make the word out more enjoyable as well,
Speaker 2: and you're spending time with your loved one. And I mean,
Speaker 2: if you're with someone, like you said, hold him accountable,
Speaker 2: they would know like the last time you'd want to.
Speaker 2: I don't know about you, but if I was watching
Speaker 2: my partner run at twenty and I was on thirteen,
Speaker 2: I would sort of want to get competitive and turn
Speaker 2: up mine.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we look they're positive, but is there negatives? Like
Speaker 1: is there a potential for trading with your partner to
Speaker 1: be a turn off? Because that's a concern for a
Speaker 1: lot of people.
Speaker 2: It could be like you could feel like, oh, actually,
Speaker 2: I remember so one of my exes years ago, we
Speaker 2: had been dating for a while, but we'd never gone
Speaker 2: to gym together or training together. Yeah, so she would
Speaker 2: get up and go to a class every morning. I'd
Speaker 2: go in the like in the afternoon. I can only
Speaker 2: train in the afternoon.
Speaker 1: I can't really, I'm a morning person through and through.
Speaker 2: No, I can't leave weights in the morning. I'm always
Speaker 2: lighter on my runnings as like, like, I don't know,
Speaker 2: there's something about it in the mornings. I try to
Speaker 2: run in the mornings, but it's not as if I
Speaker 2: run in the afternoon be a lot better. I don't know,
Speaker 2: because maybe the day I'm woken up from the day
Speaker 2: in that.
Speaker 1: But don't you get like, aren't you exhausted from your
Speaker 1: day by like five o'clock. That's what I personally feel.
Speaker 2: I think it's maybe instilled from me from when I
Speaker 2: first started training, going to gym and that and footy training,
Speaker 2: like at a young age, it was always in the
Speaker 2: afternoon time. Yeah yeah, yeah, well so she would do that,
Speaker 2: I'd do that, so we'd never cross paths at a
Speaker 2: gym or at gym. She then went we went to
Speaker 2: Early Beach who were staying away, and we were like
Speaker 2: there for maybe ten days, two weeks, and I'm like, well,
Speaker 2: I was resting at the time, and I was wanting
Speaker 2: to keep my workout resume up, so I'm like, let's
Speaker 2: let's go sign up to the gym and go get
Speaker 2: casual entries there. And I remember she like we were
Speaker 2: working out. I had my headphones in and she was
Speaker 2: in the cardio room and I was in the weight room,
Speaker 2: and she came in and she's like, there was I
Speaker 2: think there's only like three of us in there in
Speaker 2: the weight room. And she came in and She's like, map, like,
Speaker 2: I think I have the ick. And I was like,
Speaker 2: what of me? And she's like yeah, and I'm like
Speaker 2: what do you mean? And she goes, you keep grunting
Speaker 2: every time you lift, and I'm like, what, that's not me.
Speaker 2: And then we figured out that there was some other
Speaker 2: guy who was doing something out and she thought it
Speaker 2: was me because there's only a couple of us in
Speaker 2: the room and he did, I guess, sound like me.
Speaker 2: And she was in the other room and could hear
Speaker 2: him full grunting, so she thought she got the E
Speaker 2: is a bit icky.
Speaker 1: Yeah, your partner, I mean, unless they're like holding extremely heavyweights, Like.
Speaker 2: I can't remember what he was doing. But I was like, no, no,
Speaker 2: I don't grunt while I work out.
Speaker 1: You're like, it's okay, it's okay, you don't have to
Speaker 1: call back. It does potentially cause some level of like
Speaker 1: insecurity if you are training with your partner and potentially
Speaker 1: you're at different fitness levels, which I think could be
Speaker 1: a reason not to train with your partner.
Speaker 2: Also on that, like you might be getting different results
Speaker 2: to your partner. So you know, if a guy and
Speaker 2: girl are training, I don't want to be like sexist
Speaker 2: or anything. But like a guy, if you're doing the
Speaker 2: same workout, he might be getting lifting heavier, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean, and it might just make it all
Speaker 2: a bit confusing.
Speaker 1: Do you know what I've always thought this? I reckon,
Speaker 1: guys get six packs way easier than girls.
Speaker 2: Where's that thought come?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just feel like it's easier for
Speaker 1: a guy to get a six pack than a girl.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I mean, trust me right now, it's hard
Speaker 2: for me to get it back right, It's very hard.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's just always something I've thought of, Like when guys
Speaker 1: go to the gym, they just lift heavy weights and
Speaker 1: they're just like shredded, whereas like for girls, we kind
Speaker 1: of need to like do lots of cardio to get
Speaker 1: that shredded.
Speaker 2: Look, I do agree, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: I need to do cardio to get the shredded. Look, Yeah,
Speaker 2: cardio is important to do that. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Where it's like, if you you know x's of mine
Speaker 1: who have like you know, been shredded up, they were
Speaker 1: just weightlifting NonStop, like they weren't doing an ounce of cardio.
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, I'm out here like slogging it
Speaker 1: on the treadmill, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: Do you find it attractive if a guy's really ripped?
Speaker 1: Now, No, I've always said this, when a guy has
Speaker 1: like a six pack or an eight pack, And if
Speaker 1: you're listening to this and have a six pack or
Speaker 1: an eight pack, or your partner has one or whatever,
Speaker 1: it's amazing, Like they obviously are working really hard. Good
Speaker 1: for them, you know, it shows a lot of what's
Speaker 1: the word commitment, commitment determination. You know, they're regularly attending
Speaker 1: the gym. But for me personally, what I've found is
Speaker 1: the more packs on the stomach, whether it be a
Speaker 1: six haacker, an eight pack, or a ten pack, the
Speaker 1: more self obsessed these people are because they're so focused
Speaker 1: on their body and shredding. And there's when you're spending
Speaker 1: that much time thinking about your body, that's less time
Speaker 1: on me.
Speaker 2: And less time on the relationship. And then, like I know,
Speaker 2: if you get to that, you have to put in
Speaker 2: and you have to make sacrifices.
Speaker 1: Sacrifices a lot of the time, if it's like events,
Speaker 1: or if it's like going out for dinner, if it's
Speaker 1: going out and drinking, you have to make sacrifice.
Speaker 2: Yes, and that can affect a relationship and the time
Speaker 2: you spend.
Speaker 1: With your partners totally. Like sometimes you just want to
Speaker 1: go out and have a couple of cocktails with your partner.
Speaker 1: When they're on the shred, they're like on the vodkasotas,
Speaker 1: and that's just a turn off, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I'm like, come on, like have an old fashioned at.
Speaker 2: Least, or then we go to the opposite end of
Speaker 2: the spectrum. Yeah, somebody doesn't train. Well.
Speaker 1: I've been guilty of this in relationships. I'm not going
Speaker 1: to judge to people that don't train, But in saying that,
Speaker 1: do you.
Speaker 2: Think people get comfortable in a relationship and stop training something.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, But that's about like not prioritizing yourself, And I
Speaker 1: think that's kind of what I've learned, Like whether you're
Speaker 1: in a relationship or not, you need to put you first.
Speaker 1: And like the amount of studies that have come out
Speaker 1: saying like people who work out like regularly they live
Speaker 1: like ten twenty years longer. Like the statistics are crazy,
Speaker 1: And the reason why you should be training is not
Speaker 1: for how your body looks, but how your body feels
Speaker 1: and how your brain feels, like your mind, you know,
Speaker 1: I've not trained for long periods of time, and the
Speaker 1: effects that it has, to my mind are not good.
Speaker 1: And coming from two people who do suffer from anxiety,
Speaker 1: Like we drive.
Speaker 2: During COVID, not lockdown. It's not training.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like the moment that you take your foot off
Speaker 1: the pulse, it shows like a lack of self love.
Speaker 1: So it's just you know, if you have taken your
Speaker 1: foot off the pulse, which I can put my hands
Speaker 1: up and say I have, you know, it's you don't
Speaker 1: beat yourself up about it. It's just like, Okay, I
Speaker 1: need to prioritize me, and this is how I'm gonna
Speaker 1: do it. I'm going to go for a run three
Speaker 1: times a week, or if that's too strenuous, I'm going
Speaker 1: to go for like I'm going to try and get
Speaker 1: ten thousand steps every day. I'm going to go for
Speaker 1: three long walks during the week. It can be so simple,
Speaker 1: but it's so valuable to you.
Speaker 2: Do you reckon. There's a happy medium then, as a
Speaker 2: partner in the middle where you're not a gym junkie
Speaker 2: freak who's sacrificing stuff on the relationship going there every day,
Speaker 2: not going out for dinners, having to eat religiously strictly,
Speaker 2: and then there's someone who's a sloth and not doing anything,
Speaker 2: because that's a bit of a turn off. I'm not
Speaker 2: going to lie if your partner is not going to
Speaker 2: the gym, not.
Speaker 1: Taking care of thelth and out. Yeah, like we look,
Speaker 1: but also we've all been there, so you don't want
Speaker 1: to be like judgmental. If and as you know, as
Speaker 1: soon as you get into a bad frame of mind
Speaker 1: or you're feeling anxious, rested, the last thing you want
Speaker 1: to do is take yourself to a gym where there's
Speaker 1: other people there, or take yourself to like a work
Speaker 1: like to do a workout like it's so mentally hard,
Speaker 1: but then once you actually get yourself to that point,
Speaker 1: you reap the rewards. Like my mental health gets so
Speaker 1: much better the moment I start working out.
Speaker 2: I've got a recommendation. If you're in that spot and
Speaker 2: you can't, you can't get up and go to the gym,
Speaker 2: put on Britney spears. Work bitch. It's when you want
Speaker 2: to look as good in bikini, you want a Lamborghini,
Speaker 2: you better work, bitch.
Speaker 1: Actually is a good workout.
Speaker 2: If somebody went up to be a gym and took
Speaker 2: my headphone out. You would hear that song fo.
Speaker 1: That's so funny. Before Love Island, I remember, obviously we
Speaker 1: have to be in bikinis on TV screens around Australia.
Speaker 2: Bestal ever look is on Love Island.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think it is unrealistic pressures that are
Speaker 1: put on you. But I never did anything that was unhealthy.
Speaker 1: I just started to go for a run every single
Speaker 1: day for the three weeks leading up to Love Island.
Speaker 1: But obviously that's like outside of my comfort zone, Like
Speaker 1: I'm not the type of person who's going to run
Speaker 1: seven days a week. I did it specifically because I
Speaker 1: knew I was going to be on TV right and
Speaker 1: three weeks leading up to it is not a lot
Speaker 1: of time. I left it a little bit late.
Speaker 2: Fascinate for that in the too hard basket.
Speaker 1: But like running is so good for you, so good
Speaker 1: for your mental health. And then on top of that,
Speaker 1: having a really good playlist, and the playlist I listened
Speaker 1: to was the official Love Island playlist of the years cool,
Speaker 1: so I would like listen to it and like imagine
Speaker 1: myself like on the show. So then it helped me
Speaker 1: to kind of find some motivation. But finding motivation is
Speaker 1: so crucial, right, and it shouldn't come from your partner.
Speaker 1: It needs to come from within.
Speaker 2: I believe in that. Do you know Emma my sister,
Speaker 2: Emma's first day with her boyfriend Jake, they wanted to run?
Speaker 2: What that was their first They're still together and they're
Speaker 2: going strong, Like that's.
Speaker 1: Such a brandom first day because you'd be like out
Speaker 1: of breath, like, so what do you like to do for?
Speaker 2: They work together and they've been talking, but that was
Speaker 2: their official first day for a run. Jen and I
Speaker 2: were just ripping and we'll saying the same thing.
Speaker 1: That's wild.
Speaker 2: How are you going to do this?
Speaker 1: How do you get to know each other?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I don't know.
Speaker 1: That's interesting. Have you asked her like who wanted to
Speaker 1: do that?
Speaker 2: I think they both did. They both agreed on it
Speaker 2: because they knew each other work in an aquatic center gym,
Speaker 2: and I think that was like mutually how they knew
Speaker 2: each other. Do you I know a couple of people though,
Speaker 2: who go used to go train with their partner and
Speaker 2: they reckon. They were the horniest after Jim.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Michael says that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're hornis definitely do you.
Speaker 1: Reckon Michael says that I.
Speaker 2: Don't I know that I had this time with I
Speaker 2: was training at where I was living with my mates
Speaker 2: and we had the the iron Shed we used to
Speaker 2: call it, and it was the where we had all
Speaker 2: the gym equipment, and Jen was just out there with me.
Speaker 2: This was this was a couple of years ago and
Speaker 2: all training and she was getting like really turned on
Speaker 2: watching me, and I was getting turned on working out
Speaker 2: really So we ended up shagging out there in the
Speaker 2: Iron Paradise.
Speaker 1: Shagging, Yes, in the gym.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was. It wasn't like it's at my house.
Speaker 2: Just on the bench.
Speaker 1: Press of your house mates came out.
Speaker 2: I'll tell you what did happen? Actually that was when
Speaker 2: that was when we were like when we first got in,
Speaker 2: they were like, what's that smell? That was just to
Speaker 2: smell in there?
Speaker 1: You're giving me the egg? What was the smell?
Speaker 2: It was a dead rat this big that one of
Speaker 2: the dogs.
Speaker 1: And then you had sex and we found that after
Speaker 1: so what the whole during the whole sex there.
Speaker 2: Was We've been in there for forty five minutes working out.
Speaker 2: We found that the dog had caught it.
Speaker 1: That's fair.
Speaker 2: Yeah, disgusting, not good but yeah, a lot of people
Speaker 2: do get horny from working out.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I think that's definitely a thing for Michael,
Speaker 1: Like he's like very but I mean it kind of
Speaker 1: makes sense. Right, you go to the gym, all of
Speaker 1: your hormones or what's the door phinnphs. Yeah, start running,
Speaker 1: you feel really happy. What do you want to do
Speaker 1: when you're happy?
Speaker 2: Have sex?
Speaker 1: Fuck?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well I find a gym, I go up, and
Speaker 2: then I crash. Yeah, I crash straight away when I
Speaker 2: really Yeah, so I'll be peaking at gym and by
Speaker 2: the time I get home, I'm crash.
Speaker 1: But that's because you work out at like seven pm
Speaker 1: at night after a full day of work.
Speaker 2: It's true.
Speaker 1: Probably coming to the podcast, you're probably mentally spent by
Speaker 1: the time you're done.
Speaker 2: And sometimes I go to the Sauner afterwards and I
Speaker 2: have to hear everyone solve world problems and then make
Speaker 2: them again.
Speaker 1: It's so annoying. It probably helps you sleep, right, Yes,
Speaker 1: so it kind of would help resolve some sort of
Speaker 1: like sleeping issues if someone's struggling to sleep at night.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So I probably get really like crash out and
Speaker 2: then I'll go watch whatever I want to feel like
Speaker 2: watching and then go to sleep. This is my routine
Speaker 2: when I get home.
Speaker 1: Well, interestingly, studies have found that working out with your
Speaker 1: partner versus a friend or gym buddy is associated with
Speaker 1: a more positive mood during exercise. So, I mean studies
Speaker 1: have been done and it does really like help those
Speaker 1: happy hormones.
Speaker 2: I remember I saw a study in Men's Health magazine
Speaker 2: back in the day and it was that if you're
Speaker 2: lifting weights and you get a girl to sit on
Speaker 2: your lap, you can lift heavier.
Speaker 1: So that's called ego, Matt, that's called ego.
Speaker 2: I mean, you want to lift heavier. There's testosterone pumping
Speaker 2: around you.
Speaker 1: So that's so funny.
Speaker 2: Let me know, try it out.
Speaker 1: What about guys who are gym junkies and go to
Speaker 1: the gym all the time, but maybe or even girls,
Speaker 1: and maybe they don't want you to train with them,
Speaker 1: So you don't want your partner to train with you.
Speaker 1: Is that suspicious?
Speaker 2: No, because I would say that I don't want someone
Speaker 2: to go training with me. I don't mind training with someone,
Speaker 2: but like sometimes I find it like my alone time. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I get the thing that I think that came into
Speaker 2: an issue with my relationship with Jane was, I don't
Speaker 2: see Jim as.
Speaker 1: A how do you put this on leisure leisure?
Speaker 2: Yes, that's the right way.
Speaker 1: It's kind of like on your to do it's.
Speaker 2: On my to do list. It's not a chore, but
Speaker 2: it's got to have to happen. I have to go there.
Speaker 1: So and what are a great mindset to be in.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like I have to go gym. I have
Speaker 2: to go there. I have to get it done.
Speaker 1: Or maybe it's a little bit too obsessive.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm still I said that, You're like, yeah, bit, I mean,
Speaker 1: think about it. If you do have someone who's very
Speaker 1: into the gym, they're going there often for an hour
Speaker 1: every day, but they refuse to have their partner come
Speaker 1: with them, that could be a bit of a red flag.
Speaker 1: I mean, there's lots of hot people walking around at
Speaker 1: the gym. We've all heard the cheating stories at the gym.
Speaker 1: I know that on their Real Housewives, there's lots of
Speaker 1: allegations of the husband cheating at the gym.
Speaker 2: And it's always the PT for the girls. I feel
Speaker 2: they always like hook up with their PT. Really Yeah,
Speaker 2: on TV shows and movies and all that sort of stuff.
Speaker 1: I mean, it makes sense if you're in close quarters
Speaker 1: slowly start to form an emotional connection next minute.
Speaker 2: What's best for that is go to the gym ten
Speaker 2: minutes after your partner and sussy out what they're doing.
Speaker 2: Who's well, speaking of that Jim crushes, I realized the
Speaker 2: other day that I'm someone's Jim crush.
Speaker 1: Go on, tell us a story. I don't even banging
Speaker 1: to tell.
Speaker 2: Well, not that I actually asked anyone, but like everyone,
Speaker 2: you know, go to the gym and they have a
Speaker 2: gym crush. I feel, you know, there's that one person gym.
Speaker 2: You're like, oh, they're here again. Yay, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean?
Speaker 1: Like, you know, I've never had a gym crush.
Speaker 2: I've never had a gym crush.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think I've been at the gym
Speaker 1: long enough to crush.
Speaker 2: I reckon, I don't have one at the moment, but
Speaker 2: I've had one in the past, and I reckon at
Speaker 2: the moment, I might be someone's Jim crush.
Speaker 1: And what makes you think that.
Speaker 2: A lot of eye darting in my way, Well, you're
Speaker 2: obviously looking at her.
Speaker 1: If your eyes are connecting that he looks.
Speaker 2: Gus I'm just lifting weights. I'm throwing weights around.
Speaker 1: To just look at it like you're doing well.
Speaker 2: That's a good point. If you have a gym crush
Speaker 2: there and they're there, you're going to work out harder and.
Speaker 1: Trying to show off off in front of them. See
Speaker 1: that gives me anxiety. Michael's not going to the gym anymore,
Speaker 1: staying home.
Speaker 2: He could be someone's Jim crush. You never know.
Speaker 1: Well, if you're listening to go to the same gym
Speaker 1: as Michael, I'm watching, I've got eyes you're going to do?
Speaker 2: I think I said rock up ten minutes later and
Speaker 2: just suss it out.
Speaker 1: I mean, if that's not a good excuse for me
Speaker 1: to go to the gym with him, I don't know
Speaker 1: what it is.
Speaker 2: See that's your motivation to get to the gym.
Speaker 1: Well, look, I mean I think it is beneficial. As
Speaker 1: much as it is great to go with your partner
Speaker 1: to the gym, sometimes it is beneficial to have different hobbies.
Speaker 1: Do you agree with that?
Speaker 2: I do agree. I mean, I'm I'm a very big
Speaker 2: advocate of alone time. Yeah, I live and die by
Speaker 2: alone time. I actually forgot in previous relationships what alone
Speaker 2: time was and I couldn't put my finger on what
Speaker 2: I was missing, like, I do you feel like my
Speaker 2: glass was full? And I was like, what am I missing?
Speaker 2: I'm with my partner, I'm sending all this time or
Speaker 2: doing fun stuff. And I was looking at other parts
Speaker 2: of aspects of my life. But I realized that I
Speaker 2: am very big on alone time.
Speaker 1: I love alone time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so good, very important.
Speaker 1: It's also good to kind of like mentally organize your
Speaker 1: brain just by not talking to anyone and just doing nothing.
Speaker 2: I will never organize this frame, but it is Yeah,
Speaker 2: it is quite you know, good to do that. And
Speaker 2: then it depends what the hobby is. If it's working out,
Speaker 2: it might be like I've got are other hobbies I don't.
Speaker 1: Know, painting, chickens, swimming, swimming. Yeah, well, I was thinking.
Speaker 2: I was just yeah, kayak, I was thinking about you
Speaker 2: know when people make model aeroplanes, no, and just like
Speaker 2: train sets and that for some reason.
Speaker 1: I mean, whenever you tickles, your fancy hobbies are vast
Speaker 1: and wide. I think it is healthier like you obviously
Speaker 1: as fun as it is to hang out with your partner,
Speaker 1: and it's great to go to the gym with them.
Speaker 1: Maybe once twice a week. But in saying that, you
Speaker 1: don't want to do everything with them, like you want
Speaker 1: to have time with your partner, but then you also
Speaker 1: want to have time where you are you and you
Speaker 1: have separate things to do. So if God forbid and touch,
Speaker 1: would the relationship does break up? Or everything that you've
Speaker 1: been doing isn't just like swaped from underneath it. You
Speaker 1: want to still have things that you do alone or
Speaker 1: with your friends.
Speaker 2: Or I'm very sentimental, so I wouldn't. I wouldn't be
Speaker 2: able to go do that thing. Well if I was
Speaker 2: broken up with them, whatever it is, like whatever the
Speaker 2: hobby was.
Speaker 1: If it was like give but Matt, you're not going
Speaker 1: to stop going to the gym if you went to
Speaker 1: the gym with your partner, I.
Speaker 2: Know, not gym, but like if it was another hobby,
Speaker 2: you know, and I enjoyed it, I'd really like sitting there.
Speaker 1: So just for context in case anyone's not following. For instance,
Speaker 1: Matt and his ex girlfriend used to watch Stranger Things
Speaker 1: together and then he could no longer watch Stranger Things
Speaker 1: because it made him upset because him and his ex
Speaker 1: used to watch it together. But I think that that's
Speaker 1: a mental hurdle that you could definitely get over.
Speaker 2: I have in the respect of now. I used to
Speaker 2: be like like actual franchise of movies, I couldn't watch
Speaker 2: if we watched it together. I've now gotten past that.
Speaker 2: I did end up watching strange things in the end.
Speaker 2: There you go, I did end up what I have
Speaker 2: to I see what's going on with the Gang. I
Speaker 2: want to see what the gang was up to. They're
Speaker 2: always up to something.
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