1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:01,240 Speaker 1: What did you manifest? 2 00:00:01,800 --> 00:00:03,640 Speaker 2: It was more, I said, I'd say about. I was 3 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:06,359 Speaker 2: like going in there, like, let me manifest myself. 4 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:14,400 Speaker 3: A boyfriend right now. Hello, welcome back to just for 5 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 3: a girls. 6 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 1: Is he back? 7 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:19,400 Speaker 3: I'm back. I'm better. Life's good, guys. 8 00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 2: I did a manifestation meditation last night with David the 9 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 2: medium or he was like running one for one day 10 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:29,720 Speaker 2: dreamil management. 11 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:31,960 Speaker 1: I didn't make it. I was stuck in the car well. 12 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:33,879 Speaker 3: There was like thirty people doing it. 13 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:36,920 Speaker 2: But it was just it made you feel good because 14 00:00:37,040 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 2: he even said, like, sometimes I worry am I doing 15 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 2: this right? I can't seem to visualize these things, And 16 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:45,879 Speaker 2: he said, don't worry about that, because your mind's doing. 17 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:47,760 Speaker 3: It for you anyways. So I'm like good. 18 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 2: So I woke up saying I'm in a great mood. 19 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:52,400 Speaker 2: The right did you manifest? It was more, I said, 20 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:54,360 Speaker 2: I'd say about. I was like going in there, like, 21 00:00:54,600 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 2: let me manifest myself a boyfriend right now. I joke 22 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 2: about this stuff, guys, but like I do want to 23 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 2: find love, you know, and I love being in love. 24 00:01:03,600 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 2: So it's funny. It's all funny games. But I'm not 25 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 2: fucking around here. 26 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:08,840 Speaker 1: It's just crazy because like, no one really online has 27 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:09,759 Speaker 1: ever seen you in love. 28 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:11,080 Speaker 3: No one has. 29 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 2: It's so weird because I started imagining you in love. 30 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 2: I started doing all of this stuff right after I 31 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 2: broke up with my most recent boyfriend, which was years ago. 32 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:22,520 Speaker 3: You've never seen me in love, no. 33 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:24,520 Speaker 1: But you have seen me in love it like now 34 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 1: for people on social media have seen the boat, seen 35 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:29,760 Speaker 1: me being in love and not. Yeah, so I feel 36 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 1: like you're not prefer I feel like me not in 37 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:31,920 Speaker 1: love is so much. 38 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:35,240 Speaker 2: What do you think I would be like with a boyfriend. 39 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 1: I think you'd be impossible to contact. I think you'd 40 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 1: like you just like live in La La Land a 41 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:45,880 Speaker 1: little bit. Yeah, not a bad thing, but I feel 42 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: like you'd be a lot more calmer. Yeah, and you'd 43 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:52,560 Speaker 1: be a lot more like less stress head anxious kind 44 00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:56,120 Speaker 1: of vibe because like you've got someone there putting your hand, 45 00:01:56,200 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 1: walking you through it, yeah, which I think sometimes you 46 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 1: can lean on your friends for that. Yeah, but you 47 00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 1: would have a boyfriend, so I feel like it would 48 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: it couldn't even. 49 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:05,640 Speaker 2: Get to my friends. It would be sorted before I'd 50 00:02:05,640 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 2: have to talk. 51 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 3: To you about it. 52 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:10,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I feel like though in La 53 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:12,840 Speaker 2: La land. Yeah maybe, but it's like my last two 54 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 2: relationships weren't a walk in the park, so I feel 55 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:17,560 Speaker 2: like they weren't good life. I'm excited to experience. I 56 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:19,960 Speaker 2: don't actually know if I've ever been in love. Now 57 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:22,640 Speaker 2: that I look back on everything that happened, I don't 58 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 2: think either of my last relationships will love, right, So 59 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 2: the fact that I've never experienced love, I'm really excited. 60 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:31,680 Speaker 2: I think my one thing that I'm concerned about that 61 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:33,799 Speaker 2: I need I would definitely need to prioritize and focus 62 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:37,280 Speaker 2: on is my work life. Because last time I was 63 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:39,920 Speaker 2: dating my ex, I worked at Lululemon, like and I 64 00:02:39,960 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 2: worked like once a week, and I just like didn't 65 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:44,360 Speaker 2: give a fuck about any of it. Now I have 66 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:46,800 Speaker 2: this career that's my own, and it would be like 67 00:02:46,840 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 2: I can't put that in the background and for another person. 68 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, So I think that's. 69 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 1: Which I think is definitely a hard thing. And I've 70 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: now noticed since I became single, I've said yes to 71 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:58,120 Speaker 1: a lot more things than what I did when I 72 00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:00,519 Speaker 1: was in a relationship, because a relationship ship kind of 73 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:02,920 Speaker 1: provides you a sense of security and like stability that 74 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: you like you're just happy sitting in. 75 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:07,640 Speaker 2: You almost don't chase those experiences through events and like 76 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 2: all these other things because it's like. 77 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:10,800 Speaker 1: Oh well, like I'd just rather stay at home and 78 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 1: have dinner and like, yeah, there's things. And I was 79 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 1: very like WIFEI when I was in a relationship, which 80 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:16,639 Speaker 1: is not a bad thing. 81 00:03:16,760 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 3: It's not a bad thing, but you need to have 82 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:18,920 Speaker 3: a balance. 83 00:03:19,160 --> 00:03:21,760 Speaker 1: I was only twenty one totally. 84 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 2: But I mean, like people in relationships, you need to 85 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:25,800 Speaker 2: have a balance. There's nothing worse than a friend that 86 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 2: disappears off the face of the earth when they get 87 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:28,320 Speaker 2: a boyfriend. 88 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I know that I won't do. 89 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:31,320 Speaker 3: That again, do that. 90 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 1: I didn't really did that. I didn't really do that. 91 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 1: I think I had a really good balance and that 92 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 1: was why it was easy to like, once I went 93 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:40,080 Speaker 1: through the breakup, I could kind of do my own 94 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 1: thing and I wasn't like drowning in that. But I 95 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: think I would struggle if I got into a relationship 96 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 1: making time for them, right, yeah, because last thing that 97 00:03:50,040 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 1: I would realize now I'm like, oh, well, I'm not 98 00:03:52,480 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 1: going to stop anything because of love. I'd be like 99 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 1: they would kind of be on the backboney, which is 100 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 1: now I realize why I shouldn't be in a relationship now. 101 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:01,520 Speaker 2: I feel like it's like you'd be like, all right, 102 00:04:01,520 --> 00:04:03,080 Speaker 2: well nights and for them. Then once all the work 103 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:05,360 Speaker 2: is done, it's like past five. But then it's like 104 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 2: I really love being alone too, Yes, So how do 105 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 2: I find time for someone for my work and for 106 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 2: me to be alone? 107 00:04:13,160 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 3: Yeah? 108 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 1: And then because I live with girls, I'm like, well, 109 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:17,640 Speaker 1: I love to have my night with my girls. Like, 110 00:04:17,680 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 1: I don't really want you intruding on that. 111 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 3: How do I have all the time? 112 00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:20,919 Speaker 1: I don't. 113 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 3: I'll figure it out. Yeah, you'll figure it out. Everyone does. 114 00:04:23,839 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 1: But you might find love this year. 115 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 2: I will manifest. I will there, I will. All right, 116 00:04:31,200 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 2: let's get into a cool question. All right, I want 117 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 2: to hear your answer if you would have switched lives 118 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:47,159 Speaker 2: with any celebrity, who would it be and why? 119 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:51,480 Speaker 1: Easy? Kylie or Kendall Jenner. Yeah, I want to experience 120 00:04:51,520 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 1: a day in the Kardashian family. I think that would 121 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 1: be fucking insane. Yeah, Like, just like they're dynamic, all 122 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:59,039 Speaker 1: the ins and outs, all the secrets of their relationships, 123 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 1: Like there are so much in that family that you 124 00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:04,440 Speaker 1: could just experience for one day. I think Kylie or 125 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:07,120 Speaker 1: Kendall Jenna because they're probably younger, they don't have kids. 126 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:10,160 Speaker 1: Kylie does like she's still a cool mom, do you 127 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:11,919 Speaker 1: know what I mean? I feel like being a Kardashian 128 00:05:11,960 --> 00:05:13,080 Speaker 1: for a day would be. 129 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:14,159 Speaker 3: Some mind blowing fun. 130 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:16,240 Speaker 2: Mine was going to be Kylie too, but I'll try 131 00:05:16,279 --> 00:05:19,719 Speaker 2: and think of because just like Kylie Jenner is my 132 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:22,480 Speaker 2: favorite Kardashian by a country mile, I'm not a kendle gal. 133 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:23,120 Speaker 3: I'm not a fan. 134 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:25,200 Speaker 1: I just think it would be cool because like walking runways. 135 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:28,039 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I just think. And she also has him 136 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:29,240 Speaker 2: with his sallow mane. 137 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:30,640 Speaker 1: And I love him all. 138 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:33,120 Speaker 3: I love him. I think they make a lot of sense. Though. 139 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:36,800 Speaker 1: I love how he's been so well media trained that 140 00:05:36,839 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 1: he doesn't speak about her at all, Like someone will 141 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 1: ask him a question, have you seen these? We will 142 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 1: ask her a question about the relationship, and he toys 143 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:46,880 Speaker 1: it back to how he works so hard I think 144 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:48,919 Speaker 1: of getting this role. It's really interesting he does not 145 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 1: speak about her like people ask to get things out 146 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:54,640 Speaker 1: of it. But I think as well for him, he's like, 147 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 1: I don't want to be known as Kendall Jenner's Kylie 148 00:05:57,000 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 1: Jenner's girl. 149 00:05:57,720 --> 00:06:00,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, Well he's just as successful in his own right. 150 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 1: Completely so, and I think he wants to keep that totally. 151 00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:04,920 Speaker 3: I get that he's so cute. I love him. 152 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:06,159 Speaker 1: I don't think he's cute at all. 153 00:06:06,960 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 3: I'll think of another one. 154 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 1: Just he's like a little gremlin, a little goblet. 155 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 2: I think I would want to swap lives with whoever 156 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:16,719 Speaker 2: is Harry Style's girlfriend at the time. 157 00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:19,839 Speaker 1: So fair, I'm not even surprised by that. 158 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:24,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's my answer, and I think we know why. 159 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:29,720 Speaker 1: Well, today we are answering your dilemmas. We haven't done 160 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: our dilemma. Yeah, it's so easy. We get to help 161 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: you guys out and it's just fun. 162 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, to be honest, I know you guys are going 163 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 2: through like some dilemmas, but like so are we. And 164 00:06:40,120 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 2: it's fun to hear other people and give our advice 165 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 2: unsolicited advice. 166 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:44,800 Speaker 3: But we'll try. 167 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,599 Speaker 1: Yeah, what are professionals. We're just doing it through life 168 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:50,120 Speaker 1: experience and then just putting it onto you so. 169 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:52,000 Speaker 3: We'll see how we go. Don't to take it away. 170 00:06:52,120 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: I would love to take it away. 171 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:55,159 Speaker 3: Thank you, you're so well girl. 172 00:06:56,080 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 1: Dilemma Number one. When I was fresh eighteen, I dated 173 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 1: a guide just after we finished high school and was 174 00:07:02,400 --> 00:07:04,520 Speaker 1: very much head over heels for him, to the point 175 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: where I pushed a lot of my friends away because 176 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:08,839 Speaker 1: I was in the honeymoon phase and because this was 177 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 1: my first relationship. We dated just shy of three years, 178 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:14,800 Speaker 1: and whilst I was with him, all of my girlfriends 179 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 1: at the time were in their partying phase with no partners. 180 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 1: At this time, him and I were just so happy 181 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 1: in each other's company. We never went out with anyone's 182 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:24,880 Speaker 1: friend group and stayed home most of the time. Mind you, 183 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 1: this is also in twenty twenty one, and COVID was 184 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:32,840 Speaker 1: very much a thing dis play about me. Literally fast 185 00:07:32,880 --> 00:07:35,600 Speaker 1: forward to now everything's flipped. I've now been single for 186 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:38,520 Speaker 1: almost two years and all my girlfriends are in a relationship. 187 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:40,760 Speaker 1: I could not be happier for them. But as our 188 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:43,040 Speaker 1: lives have kind of happened in reverse, I feel like 189 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:46,000 Speaker 1: I have no friends. The girls are always with their 190 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:48,600 Speaker 1: boyfriends every weekend. Although I still catch up with these 191 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:51,280 Speaker 1: girls for dinner here and there, it's just not the same. 192 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:53,720 Speaker 1: I want a friendship group where I can go out 193 00:07:53,760 --> 00:07:56,080 Speaker 1: and have fun all the time. I'm twenty two and 194 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:57,880 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm wanting to go out more. But 195 00:07:58,040 --> 00:08:02,560 Speaker 1: right now Saturday and Sundays are with my dad and that, 196 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:04,560 Speaker 1: and that's where it's at. What should I do? 197 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:07,640 Speaker 2: I will say I've been I feel like I've been 198 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:09,720 Speaker 2: in and out of that phase, like I've been single 199 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 2: for a while, and like sometimes I'll turn around and 200 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 2: be like, hang on a second, all of you have 201 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 2: boyfriends right now. I can just say it changes so quickly, 202 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 2: Oh it does, it really does. And also like, yes, 203 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 2: you have that one friendship group and that's I guess 204 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 2: what I had for a while there. But then once 205 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 2: I came into the industry, I met so many other 206 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:28,520 Speaker 2: people and now I almost have two. So it's like 207 00:08:28,560 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 2: you can kind of hang out with whoever depending on 208 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:33,280 Speaker 2: the day. I'd say, just maybe hang out with your 209 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 2: work friends, text an old friend, like there's always someone 210 00:08:36,640 --> 00:08:38,400 Speaker 2: I feel like that's out and a mountain keen to 211 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:41,120 Speaker 2: hang out, And you can even message your friends. 212 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:43,560 Speaker 3: And I think also I organize something. 213 00:08:43,720 --> 00:08:46,640 Speaker 1: If it's like say Wednesday, try to plan something for 214 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:49,439 Speaker 1: the following Saturday, so they all have time, Like they've 215 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:51,440 Speaker 1: got a week and a half to organize themselves. No 216 00:08:51,440 --> 00:08:53,360 Speaker 1: one really should pull out by then if you wanted to. 217 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:55,160 Speaker 2: Hang like Hey, guys, I really miss you. I feel 218 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:56,680 Speaker 2: like we haven't gone out in a while. Can we 219 00:08:56,720 --> 00:09:00,080 Speaker 2: do drinks here dinner and plan it with them? Say like, 220 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:01,880 Speaker 2: you know, I haven't seen you guys in ages. It'd 221 00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 2: be so nice to catch up. And then if they all, like, 222 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:06,319 Speaker 2: you know, put it in their calendars. Sure you can 223 00:09:06,400 --> 00:09:07,640 Speaker 2: wrangle a couple of them. 224 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:10,600 Speaker 1: I think, especially at this age as well, Like I 225 00:09:10,640 --> 00:09:13,120 Speaker 1: have really noticed it in myself it's okay not to 226 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 1: have one big friendship group. I feel like people really 227 00:09:16,040 --> 00:09:17,839 Speaker 1: cling onto the fact of like, oh my god, I 228 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 1: don't have a big friendship group or oh my god, 229 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:21,680 Speaker 1: I don't have a friend group. I have multiple friends 230 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:25,000 Speaker 1: in different groups, so it's okay to message your friend 231 00:09:25,400 --> 00:09:27,240 Speaker 1: like I do it with my Me and my housemate 232 00:09:27,320 --> 00:09:29,400 Speaker 1: do it quite a bit, like we have different friend 233 00:09:29,679 --> 00:09:32,840 Speaker 1: groups and different friends outside of like our house and 234 00:09:32,960 --> 00:09:35,600 Speaker 1: like sometimes I'll go out with her friends on the 235 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:37,720 Speaker 1: Saturday night, and then sometimes you come out with my friends, 236 00:09:37,760 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 1: and it's kind of mixing the groups. I think it's like, 237 00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:43,480 Speaker 1: don't be afraid or don't feel embarrassed to like invite 238 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:44,319 Speaker 1: yourself places. 239 00:09:44,320 --> 00:09:46,200 Speaker 2: In a way, Yeah, sometimes I won't be doing anything 240 00:09:46,240 --> 00:09:48,079 Speaker 2: on Saturday, but like my best friend Leg will be 241 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:49,720 Speaker 2: doing something with their school friends and I'll be like, hey, 242 00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:50,600 Speaker 2: do you mind to come? 243 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:53,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, like gonna come? Yeah, And it's girls. At this age, 244 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 1: you always want friends, and the more the merry. 245 00:09:55,760 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 3: Sometimes they're more fun when you kind of. 246 00:09:57,520 --> 00:09:59,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, when you don't know those people. So I just think, 247 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 1: don't be afraid to put yourself out there and like 248 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:06,400 Speaker 1: invite yourself to things, because that's okay and that's normal. 249 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 1: Everyone wants to meet friends, everyone wants to have a 250 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:09,320 Speaker 1: good time. 251 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 3: It's not embarrassing. 252 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:13,880 Speaker 2: Not once have I ever gone, oh she asked to 253 00:10:13,960 --> 00:10:17,079 Speaker 2: Clam's friends, she's asked to come. Weird, Like no, great, 254 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 2: more than marrier, let's go. It's an issue. 255 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:21,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, if someone wants to come, and they'll be like, oh, 256 00:10:21,640 --> 00:10:23,679 Speaker 1: what are you doing Saturday night? And I already have planned. 257 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 1: I'll be like, oh, I'm going out for dinner. Did 258 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:27,040 Speaker 1: you want to come? Like an added and like get 259 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:30,000 Speaker 1: chair to the table. Like those things are so normal, 260 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:32,839 Speaker 1: And I think, get rid of that thought, and then 261 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 1: that's how you will make more friends and build more things. 262 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:37,160 Speaker 1: And it's also normal not to have a plan every 263 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 1: Saturday night. 264 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:41,080 Speaker 2: It really is and also know that nothing's forever. Yes, 265 00:10:41,200 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 2: I'm so glad all of the girls your friends are 266 00:10:43,240 --> 00:10:47,280 Speaker 2: happy in relationships, but things change so quickly, So yes, 267 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:48,560 Speaker 2: this might be a shitty. 268 00:10:48,240 --> 00:10:49,640 Speaker 3: Period, you know what I mean. 269 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 1: But you never know. 270 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:52,559 Speaker 2: You might meet someone one of your friends might be like, 271 00:10:52,679 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 2: you know what, I actually need a girl's night this weekend. 272 00:10:54,920 --> 00:10:57,840 Speaker 1: It's a phase of life, and I think everyone puts 273 00:10:57,840 --> 00:11:00,679 Speaker 1: pressure on themselves to always have something big and always 274 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:02,839 Speaker 1: have a friendship group and always have plans. But like, 275 00:11:03,200 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 1: it's also okay not to. Yeah, even if my friends 276 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:06,319 Speaker 1: are doing something. 277 00:11:06,480 --> 00:11:09,559 Speaker 2: Sometimes I'll be like, hey, Riley, are you doing anything tonight? 278 00:11:09,600 --> 00:11:11,000 Speaker 2: Can I hang out with you and your friends? To 279 00:11:11,080 --> 00:11:12,839 Speaker 2: my sister like who cares? 280 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:16,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's like that's normal. Yeah, and that's okay. 281 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:17,480 Speaker 1: So just be sort of comfortable. 282 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 2: I guess hanging out with different groups of people sometimes 283 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:21,800 Speaker 2: they end up being like the most fun nights. But yeah, 284 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:24,520 Speaker 2: it then kind of also branches you out and gives 285 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 2: you more people to hang out with the future weekend 286 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:30,760 Speaker 2: because you've made all these new friends. Okay, so we've 287 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:33,680 Speaker 2: got dilemma and number two, I'm currently at a really 288 00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:35,760 Speaker 2: low point in life. I'm twenty one and I've been 289 00:11:35,760 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 2: with my partner since I was sixteen. We were going 290 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 2: through a rough patch right now, and I want your 291 00:11:39,920 --> 00:11:41,319 Speaker 2: advice for context. 292 00:11:41,720 --> 00:11:42,360 Speaker 3: Number one. 293 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:45,360 Speaker 2: I broke up with him in twenty twenty three for 294 00:11:45,440 --> 00:11:48,040 Speaker 2: two months due to him really hurting me and also 295 00:11:48,120 --> 00:11:50,440 Speaker 2: I was just not really feeling it anymore. Then we 296 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:53,280 Speaker 2: got back together and we're really happy. We both lived 297 00:11:53,280 --> 00:11:55,280 Speaker 2: our single life for a bit, as we never had 298 00:11:55,320 --> 00:11:56,160 Speaker 2: duty getting. 299 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:57,280 Speaker 3: Together at such a young age. 300 00:11:57,960 --> 00:11:58,120 Speaker 1: Two. 301 00:11:58,640 --> 00:12:00,400 Speaker 3: His family drives me crazy. 302 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:04,400 Speaker 2: Oh my god, if I can tell you anything, I 303 00:12:04,440 --> 00:12:07,760 Speaker 2: have experienced that, and it actually really affects the relationship 304 00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:11,920 Speaker 2: to have like family members that cause problemuse like your 305 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:14,480 Speaker 2: It's a weird thing to expect your partner to choose 306 00:12:14,520 --> 00:12:15,840 Speaker 2: you over family members. 307 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? 308 00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 1: Yep, that's so difficult. 309 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:22,680 Speaker 2: It's so hard. He has the biggest gas lighting idiot 310 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:27,000 Speaker 2: of a brother. Oh has made me cry multiple times, 311 00:12:27,000 --> 00:12:28,920 Speaker 2: and it's clearly jealous of my relationships. 312 00:12:28,920 --> 00:12:31,640 Speaker 3: I tries to ruin it. It's kind of fucked. 313 00:12:31,640 --> 00:12:34,199 Speaker 1: I don't think boys are really like that. I just 314 00:12:34,240 --> 00:12:35,959 Speaker 1: think he's like, it's my fucking brother. I want to 315 00:12:36,040 --> 00:12:38,320 Speaker 1: ruin it. I don't think it's a jealousy thing for Ben. 316 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:40,720 Speaker 1: I think it's like I want my fucking brother. 317 00:12:41,200 --> 00:12:44,320 Speaker 2: You never know, we don't know the content he has 318 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 2: a crush on it, We don't. 319 00:12:45,960 --> 00:12:46,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe he likes you. 320 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 3: Maybe we'll see. 321 00:12:48,440 --> 00:12:50,400 Speaker 2: His mother has turned on me all of a sudden 322 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:53,520 Speaker 2: this year and is really nasty. She's a massive gossiper 323 00:12:53,640 --> 00:12:55,520 Speaker 2: and all of her is that she talks about me 324 00:12:55,600 --> 00:12:58,040 Speaker 2: and the brother's girlfriend. Okay, so it's one of those 325 00:12:58,080 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 2: mums that want to date their own sons and just 326 00:12:59,679 --> 00:13:02,319 Speaker 2: doesn't like any girl that gets involved in the family. Yeah, 327 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:05,040 Speaker 2: that is a fucking really hard thing to overcome. It's 328 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:07,600 Speaker 2: pushing me away a lot recently and has caused many 329 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:11,400 Speaker 2: fights with my partner. I'm also struggling with attraction to 330 00:13:11,480 --> 00:13:12,000 Speaker 2: my partner. 331 00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:12,560 Speaker 1: Leave. 332 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:15,200 Speaker 3: Sorry, I'm sorry, I was thinking the same thing. 333 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:18,400 Speaker 1: It's just going you have the answers to yourself, babe. 334 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:20,880 Speaker 1: I feel like writing it out as she was. Probably 335 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:22,200 Speaker 1: you were probably writing this out. 336 00:13:22,600 --> 00:13:26,240 Speaker 2: You were probably going, these are all these cons, Like, 337 00:13:26,320 --> 00:13:28,240 Speaker 2: maybe go write a pro con list, but like this 338 00:13:28,440 --> 00:13:30,160 Speaker 2: is really stacking up on the cons side. 339 00:13:30,240 --> 00:13:33,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, let's finish it, but still leave what is good 340 00:13:33,720 --> 00:13:34,800 Speaker 1: about this man? Honestly? 341 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:37,199 Speaker 2: Which was one of the reasons they broke up in 342 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:40,480 Speaker 2: twenty twenty three, was due to lacking attraction for her partner. 343 00:13:41,040 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 2: My sister only recently has moved to the Gold Coast, 344 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:45,880 Speaker 2: and I'm envying her living her life. But I'm also 345 00:13:45,920 --> 00:13:47,959 Speaker 2: scared if I am my relationship, I'll have no one. 346 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:52,560 Speaker 2: It never happens. You always have people. Yes, my friends 347 00:13:52,600 --> 00:13:54,920 Speaker 2: are busy with their relationships and I sucker keeping in 348 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:57,120 Speaker 2: contacts and getting back with my partner. I live with 349 00:13:57,120 --> 00:13:59,400 Speaker 2: my parents and I'm close with my mum, but I 350 00:13:59,480 --> 00:13:59,840 Speaker 2: just can't. 351 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:01,199 Speaker 3: I can't just rely on her. 352 00:14:01,880 --> 00:14:04,560 Speaker 2: I want your advice because I've watched you both leave relationships, 353 00:14:04,679 --> 00:14:08,280 Speaker 2: especially you Sam, and you're thriving. I'm so so scared 354 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:10,920 Speaker 2: to be alone and lose him. We are the same 355 00:14:10,920 --> 00:14:12,840 Speaker 2: person and he's my best friend, and I'd be so 356 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:15,199 Speaker 2: upset to see him move on. And I don't think 357 00:14:15,200 --> 00:14:18,000 Speaker 2: the family dramas will go away because they are uneasy family. 358 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:20,120 Speaker 2: And I don't want to settle down, have kids and 359 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:22,160 Speaker 2: have a mother in law who dislikes me. 360 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:23,240 Speaker 3: What do I do? 361 00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:25,920 Speaker 1: Strap it in, Babe. I'm going to tell you, maybe 362 00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 1: not what you want to hear, but I'm going to 363 00:14:29,160 --> 00:14:30,440 Speaker 1: tell you what you need to hear. You need to 364 00:14:30,480 --> 00:14:32,200 Speaker 1: pack your shit up. You need to join your sister 365 00:14:32,240 --> 00:14:34,160 Speaker 1: in the Gold Coast, and you need to fucking leave him. 366 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:36,240 Speaker 1: You need to get far away from him because you 367 00:14:36,360 --> 00:14:39,600 Speaker 1: have gotten back with him before. I don't know. Yes, 368 00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:41,800 Speaker 1: maybe you got back together and it was really good, 369 00:14:42,160 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 1: but you're getting back with him because you've been with 370 00:14:44,880 --> 00:14:47,800 Speaker 1: him since you were sixteen, you're now twenty one. You 371 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:50,040 Speaker 1: don't know life as an adult without him, which I 372 00:14:50,080 --> 00:14:52,480 Speaker 1: can completely and utterly relate to. I got with my 373 00:14:52,520 --> 00:14:54,520 Speaker 1: ex boyfriend when I was eighteen, and I broke up 374 00:14:54,560 --> 00:14:55,840 Speaker 1: with him when I was twenty one, and it was 375 00:14:55,880 --> 00:14:57,680 Speaker 1: the fear of being alone, because you don't know that 376 00:14:57,720 --> 00:15:00,000 Speaker 1: as an adult. Join your sister in the Gold Coast. 377 00:15:00,200 --> 00:15:02,000 Speaker 1: Fucking stay there for six months, or you can stay 378 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 1: there for six years. You need to move away from 379 00:15:04,440 --> 00:15:07,520 Speaker 1: him and experience life without even having him in reach 380 00:15:07,840 --> 00:15:09,800 Speaker 1: to prove to yourself that you don't need him in 381 00:15:09,840 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 1: your life. The mother is never going to change, You're 382 00:15:12,720 --> 00:15:15,960 Speaker 1: going to hate the family if you have kids with them. 383 00:15:16,240 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 1: You have no ties with him right now. You don't 384 00:15:18,080 --> 00:15:19,920 Speaker 1: have a home loan to pay off, you don't own 385 00:15:19,960 --> 00:15:22,480 Speaker 1: a dog, You don't do anything like, you don't have 386 00:15:22,600 --> 00:15:26,600 Speaker 1: anything keeping you there. So leave. I know it's so blunt, 387 00:15:26,640 --> 00:15:28,920 Speaker 1: and I know it's so easier said than done, but leave. 388 00:15:29,240 --> 00:15:32,240 Speaker 1: Prove to yourself that you can be without him, because 389 00:15:32,240 --> 00:15:35,000 Speaker 1: I'm I can guarantee you right now you can't. You're 390 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:38,080 Speaker 1: only staying with him because you're worried about the what if. 391 00:15:38,560 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 2: I would say, even in a year, you're going to 392 00:15:41,280 --> 00:15:43,000 Speaker 2: look back and know it's the best thing you've ever done, 393 00:15:43,080 --> 00:15:45,480 Speaker 2: Like even just books and flights, even if it's for. 394 00:15:45,400 --> 00:15:48,440 Speaker 3: A couple of weeks. Yeah, stay with. 395 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:51,560 Speaker 2: In person and then just block him and go to 396 00:15:51,800 --> 00:15:53,400 Speaker 2: go to Gold Coast for a little bit and let 397 00:15:53,440 --> 00:15:57,120 Speaker 2: it calm down. I'm sure he'll understand in some aspects 398 00:15:57,200 --> 00:15:59,520 Speaker 2: he sees if you say the reason is the family everything, 399 00:15:59,560 --> 00:16:02,640 Speaker 2: it's like with the lack of attraction to I think 400 00:16:02,640 --> 00:16:05,920 Speaker 2: that's something that you really struggle to get back. And 401 00:16:06,000 --> 00:16:08,440 Speaker 2: I feel like you've just given us all these cons 402 00:16:08,480 --> 00:16:10,520 Speaker 2: and I'm sure, yes, he's a similar person to you, 403 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:13,520 Speaker 2: all these things, but you're twenty one. This guy isn't 404 00:16:13,520 --> 00:16:15,600 Speaker 2: probably going to be the guy, and he's clearly not 405 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:17,240 Speaker 2: the guy that you should be with, right now either, 406 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:17,920 Speaker 2: so you may as. 407 00:16:17,800 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 1: Well unfair on him because you have those thoughts that 408 00:16:21,600 --> 00:16:24,480 Speaker 1: you're almost holding him back as well. And you did 409 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:27,920 Speaker 1: mention that like the thought of him moving on like 410 00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:30,560 Speaker 1: makes you really sad. Obviously you've been with him since 411 00:16:30,560 --> 00:16:32,080 Speaker 1: you was sixteen. That is so fair. 412 00:16:32,080 --> 00:16:33,920 Speaker 3: He's not gonna want to see you move on either. 413 00:16:34,000 --> 00:16:36,600 Speaker 2: But usually by the time that issue comes around, you're 414 00:16:36,680 --> 00:16:37,880 Speaker 2: over it enough that you can. 415 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:38,520 Speaker 3: Handle it well. 416 00:16:38,760 --> 00:16:41,920 Speaker 1: And like, I know that feeling. I know it's not 417 00:16:41,960 --> 00:16:42,680 Speaker 1: a great feeling. 418 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:45,440 Speaker 3: It's a light sure, it's a shocking feeling, yeah. 419 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:48,760 Speaker 1: But like you, you will get over it because and 420 00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 1: I think a big mentality that I always tell myself 421 00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:54,480 Speaker 1: in my mind because I think it's so easy to 422 00:16:54,520 --> 00:16:57,040 Speaker 1: get caught up in it, is like, oh, what's he 423 00:16:57,080 --> 00:17:00,800 Speaker 1: doing through the breakup? Who's he hooking up with? And YadA, yah, YadA, YadA. 424 00:17:00,800 --> 00:17:02,920 Speaker 1: He's also thinking that same thing about you. So if 425 00:17:02,920 --> 00:17:05,120 Speaker 1: you just focus that back in yourself, with like, I'm 426 00:17:05,119 --> 00:17:08,159 Speaker 1: talking to guys, I'm seeing guys, i can be sleeping 427 00:17:08,160 --> 00:17:10,040 Speaker 1: with guys, I can be going on dates with guys. 428 00:17:10,119 --> 00:17:12,240 Speaker 1: You're doing those things for yourself that he's obviously not 429 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:14,240 Speaker 1: going to like as well, like, if you focus on 430 00:17:14,359 --> 00:17:16,480 Speaker 1: everything that he's doing, it's going to make you miserable. 431 00:17:16,520 --> 00:17:18,879 Speaker 1: But if you just put all that energy into yourself, 432 00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:19,800 Speaker 1: it's not gonna matter. 433 00:17:20,359 --> 00:17:23,000 Speaker 3: That's say one thing, you need to block him. 434 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:27,760 Speaker 2: I know that blocking sounds very it's very like final, 435 00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:30,520 Speaker 2: and it seems mean, but it's the best thing and 436 00:17:30,560 --> 00:17:32,720 Speaker 2: the easiest thing I've ever done to help get over someone. 437 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:35,399 Speaker 2: Because I'm not seeing their face, i can't contact them 438 00:17:35,440 --> 00:17:37,640 Speaker 2: when I have a drink or two. It's so much easier. 439 00:17:38,040 --> 00:17:40,199 Speaker 2: And I'll also say, on the flip side of a 440 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:44,720 Speaker 2: partner getting another relationship, it was the best thing that 441 00:17:44,760 --> 00:17:46,679 Speaker 2: ever happened to me my ex boyfriend getting a girlfriend 442 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:48,679 Speaker 2: as quickly as he did, because it just shuts that 443 00:17:48,840 --> 00:17:51,480 Speaker 2: down immediately. I'm no longer going to message him, I'm 444 00:17:51,480 --> 00:17:53,920 Speaker 2: no longer going to pine after him. He's got another girlfriend. 445 00:17:53,960 --> 00:17:56,639 Speaker 2: I have to respect that it's done. It's done just 446 00:17:56,720 --> 00:17:58,320 Speaker 2: like that, do you know what I mean? Whereas if 447 00:17:58,359 --> 00:18:01,680 Speaker 2: you're both single for a year or two years coming, 448 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:04,200 Speaker 2: it's like you'll always be that weird little limo where 449 00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:05,920 Speaker 2: one of you will be trying to message the other, 450 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:07,000 Speaker 2: and it just makes it so. 451 00:18:07,480 --> 00:18:08,480 Speaker 3: Confuming and hard. 452 00:18:08,560 --> 00:18:11,760 Speaker 2: I wonder my ex getting a partner, Like, yeah, it 453 00:18:11,880 --> 00:18:15,159 Speaker 2: was brutal for I don't even know, like it sucks 454 00:18:15,200 --> 00:18:17,560 Speaker 2: a little bit, but like in a couple of weeks, 455 00:18:17,600 --> 00:18:19,840 Speaker 2: I'm like, well, this is my life now, time to 456 00:18:19,880 --> 00:18:21,639 Speaker 2: move on. He's moved on, why wouldn't I. 457 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:22,160 Speaker 1: Yeah. 458 00:18:22,160 --> 00:18:25,680 Speaker 2: So, actually, as sad as it seems to you right now, 459 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:27,600 Speaker 2: was the best thing that ever happened. 460 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:30,119 Speaker 1: And I can see that on my perspective of like 461 00:18:30,520 --> 00:18:31,440 Speaker 1: my ex. 462 00:18:32,400 --> 00:18:34,200 Speaker 3: You're both still single, and I feel like. 463 00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:36,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, and that doesn't date and anything. And he loves 464 00:18:36,359 --> 00:18:39,199 Speaker 1: to let me know that. So it's like, okay, like 465 00:18:39,240 --> 00:18:42,520 Speaker 1: if he got another girlfriend, he'd be so easy, and like, yeah, 466 00:18:42,600 --> 00:18:45,280 Speaker 1: I'm so good out of my relationship. But like we're 467 00:18:45,320 --> 00:18:47,560 Speaker 1: also on really good terms. Yeah, and we also like 468 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:50,119 Speaker 1: do speak sometimes, like do you like catch up on 469 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:52,800 Speaker 1: each other's lives in that aspect, So it's like I'm 470 00:18:52,920 --> 00:18:56,520 Speaker 1: very much still in the know, and that used to 471 00:18:56,600 --> 00:18:58,720 Speaker 1: really upset me, but now it's at the point where 472 00:18:58,720 --> 00:19:01,439 Speaker 1: it's like we're gonna be in each other's lives. But 473 00:19:01,600 --> 00:19:04,399 Speaker 1: we had to get over that really rough stage of 474 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:07,120 Speaker 1: like hearing those you're going to say making each other 475 00:19:07,200 --> 00:19:09,000 Speaker 1: jealous yeah. Now it's like. 476 00:19:09,320 --> 00:19:11,520 Speaker 2: It was like so much easier for me to get 477 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:13,679 Speaker 2: over my second boyfriend than my first because my first 478 00:19:13,760 --> 00:19:17,320 Speaker 2: didn't date anyone else, and so we were just in 479 00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:20,320 Speaker 2: that limbo, like not in that limbo, but me mentally 480 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:22,120 Speaker 2: I knew he was still single, and like I really 481 00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:24,560 Speaker 2: struggled with that, being like why can't we just be together? 482 00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:29,679 Speaker 2: But now the relationship was a fucking joke. So but 483 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:31,240 Speaker 2: that was just because that was the only person I'd 484 00:19:31,240 --> 00:19:33,880 Speaker 2: ever thought I had like liked, you know what I mean. 485 00:19:33,920 --> 00:19:37,159 Speaker 2: But so it's almost just saying that there is a 486 00:19:37,200 --> 00:19:39,520 Speaker 2: silver lining even in those really shitty things that you 487 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:42,280 Speaker 2: think it actually will make the whole breakup process easier 488 00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:45,480 Speaker 2: if that does happen, If like the worst happens, there 489 00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:46,600 Speaker 2: is a silver lining in it that. 490 00:19:46,640 --> 00:19:48,159 Speaker 3: It'll be a lot easier to move forward. 491 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:50,800 Speaker 1: So and the quote that I always think about and 492 00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:52,960 Speaker 1: easy and I say all the time, if what's meant 493 00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:54,399 Speaker 1: for you won't pass you, if. 494 00:19:54,240 --> 00:19:56,479 Speaker 2: It's mat if you will always find your way back 495 00:19:56,520 --> 00:19:58,040 Speaker 2: to Yeah, regardless. 496 00:19:57,840 --> 00:19:59,840 Speaker 1: Speak together. One day you'll find each other back again. 497 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:02,600 Speaker 1: It sounds like you don't actually want to be. 498 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:04,439 Speaker 3: With him, and I think you're just scared. 499 00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:06,640 Speaker 2: So we're going to tell you, don't be scared, take 500 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:08,640 Speaker 2: the leap, go to Gold Coast and live your best life. 501 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:15,480 Speaker 1: Girl Dilemma number three. I had this one best friend 502 00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:18,600 Speaker 1: i'll call her Chloe, who I was super close with. 503 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:21,560 Speaker 1: I knew she always snapped the boys at school some 504 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:23,600 Speaker 1: suss things, but I never really chatted. 505 00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:26,560 Speaker 2: I assume she means, yeah, like some snapchatted sauces to 506 00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:26,880 Speaker 2: the boys. 507 00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:28,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, naughty. 508 00:20:28,600 --> 00:20:29,920 Speaker 3: You know that's Chloe's prerogative. 509 00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:32,960 Speaker 1: Yeah she didn't. So yeah, this girl didn't really think 510 00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:35,439 Speaker 1: anything of it. A couple months ago, I told her 511 00:20:35,520 --> 00:20:39,520 Speaker 1: I really liked this boy I'll call him Tom. I 512 00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:41,199 Speaker 1: already know where this is going. Let me just I 513 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:43,680 Speaker 1: haven't kept reading it. But what she ends up snapping Tom? 514 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:47,520 Speaker 2: She ends up snapping Tom pictures of her boobs. Sorry, 515 00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:50,679 Speaker 2: she probably does. And that's when it becomes it's not 516 00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:52,639 Speaker 2: your prerogative to send that Chloe, Come on, babe. 517 00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:55,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, she told me she would get us together and 518 00:20:55,840 --> 00:20:57,840 Speaker 1: help us out, but I was pretty reluctant about it, 519 00:20:57,920 --> 00:21:00,000 Speaker 1: just because I didn't want her to ruin anything with Tom. 520 00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:01,880 Speaker 2: There's some of those friends that you just don't trust 521 00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:03,879 Speaker 2: from the jump and I feel like you're almost friends 522 00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:06,159 Speaker 2: with them to avoid them hurting. 523 00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:07,399 Speaker 1: You like keeping them close. 524 00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:10,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, and that I think is very prominent in high schools. 525 00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:14,679 Speaker 1: Yeah. One Tom and I would talk on Snap, but 526 00:21:14,720 --> 00:21:18,840 Speaker 1: nothing he said really led to me thinking he liked me. Anyway, 527 00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:21,200 Speaker 1: fast forward, not long ago, there was a big house 528 00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:24,800 Speaker 1: party and everyone in our grade, including Tom. I told 529 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:26,840 Speaker 1: Collie I wasn't sure on coming because I just had 530 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:29,199 Speaker 1: a lot of homework to you. She didn't listen and 531 00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:31,800 Speaker 1: really hoped on about me going. She also said that 532 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,159 Speaker 1: Tom really wanted me to come and really wanted to 533 00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:37,000 Speaker 1: see me see again, like she's said that, Oh it's 534 00:21:37,040 --> 00:21:38,359 Speaker 1: because I'm snapping Tom and I want it. 535 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:43,200 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, Collie, the people that inserted themselves most 536 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:45,560 Speaker 2: in my relationships with the people that ended up either 537 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:49,640 Speaker 2: sleeping with my ex boyfriend or texting him too much. 538 00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:51,760 Speaker 2: It's always the people that seem to insert themselves in 539 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:55,639 Speaker 2: care so heavily, like so heavily are the people that 540 00:21:55,640 --> 00:21:59,160 Speaker 2: are doing something wrong. I don't know why girls do that, yeah, 541 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,400 Speaker 2: but it's something that some girls do. 542 00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:02,919 Speaker 3: So I feel like you. 543 00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:04,959 Speaker 2: Just need to be like, hang on, girl, I know 544 00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:06,879 Speaker 2: you're trying to help like, just try and do it nicely. 545 00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:08,879 Speaker 1: If I wanted me to come, he's me. 546 00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:10,800 Speaker 2: Can you please just stay out about I want to 547 00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:12,879 Speaker 2: kind of deal with this on my own. Yeah, just 548 00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:15,040 Speaker 2: say it nicely, because otherwise she'll probably go off sex 549 00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:17,200 Speaker 2: with him. 550 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:19,480 Speaker 3: Girls suck sometimes too. 551 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:22,399 Speaker 1: I found out later that this was a lie. About 552 00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:25,200 Speaker 1: half an hour call with Chloe, I finally agreed to come. 553 00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:27,800 Speaker 1: When I get there, Tom was acting weird and we 554 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:30,480 Speaker 1: were both really drunk. I saw Chloe and asked why 555 00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:32,439 Speaker 1: he was acting like this, and she said he was 556 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:35,040 Speaker 1: really nervous and told her just before that he really 557 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:35,840 Speaker 1: wants to kiss me. 558 00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:39,840 Speaker 3: I can't. They're sixteen. They're sixteen. Do you think. 559 00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:43,680 Speaker 1: He really wants to kiss me? Sorry, that's not I'm 560 00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:46,560 Speaker 1: not mocking you, but it's just like, no, it's so cute. 561 00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:50,080 Speaker 1: That was like a big deal and like you would 562 00:22:50,080 --> 00:22:52,800 Speaker 1: speak about it planning and kissing people like you don't 563 00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:56,800 Speaker 1: do that anymore. It's just like, bring the back. I 564 00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:58,760 Speaker 1: can't find him, so I walk into a room in 565 00:22:58,800 --> 00:23:01,480 Speaker 1: the party and where his bew is undone and a 566 00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:07,680 Speaker 1: girl is pulling up her undies as well. Oh Tom, 567 00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:11,800 Speaker 1: I just had or maybe like a little bit of 568 00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:17,680 Speaker 1: like cricket and some huh ball games and some sticks 569 00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:21,879 Speaker 1: I don't know. His belt is undone and a girl 570 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:24,600 Speaker 1: is pulling up her undies as well. I then walk outside, 571 00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:26,800 Speaker 1: where he follows me and tries to talk to me, 572 00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:30,720 Speaker 1: and I pick up a full leader Go, I want 573 00:23:30,760 --> 00:23:33,920 Speaker 1: to pick up a full leader of OJ and pour 574 00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:35,160 Speaker 1: it all over his head. 575 00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:38,280 Speaker 3: Good job, girl, he deserves it. 576 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:42,960 Speaker 1: He then started shouting slurs at me. Okay, well there's there, 577 00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:46,439 Speaker 1: j And we went back to school and his friends 578 00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:50,000 Speaker 1: called me crash out girl, including Chloe. 579 00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:54,200 Speaker 3: Chloe should not be jumping on the call. She's your friend. 580 00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:56,119 Speaker 2: She should be the one making you feel better about 581 00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:57,720 Speaker 2: your decisions and maybe saying. 582 00:23:57,520 --> 00:23:59,000 Speaker 3: Girl, you maybe shouldn't have done that. 583 00:23:59,080 --> 00:23:59,920 Speaker 1: But I get it. 584 00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:00,880 Speaker 3: He was rude. 585 00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:03,879 Speaker 2: She shouldn't be jumping on that train. But Tom's irrelevant. 586 00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:05,560 Speaker 2: And if it's a sixteen year old crush, it's like 587 00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:06,760 Speaker 2: you have so many of those. 588 00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:09,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, Tom is just like Tom is like Tim from 589 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,760 Speaker 1: aps peaked in high school and then says that he 590 00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:14,720 Speaker 1: wants to date a small, petite blonde when he is 591 00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:18,760 Speaker 1: thirty seven. That is, Tom will be like that, just 592 00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:19,560 Speaker 1: and it's. 593 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:22,680 Speaker 2: Like all of the guys I know now that are 594 00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:25,159 Speaker 2: like good friends of mine and are like lovely, lovely boys, 595 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:27,120 Speaker 2: like never acted that sort of way when they were younger, 596 00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:29,960 Speaker 2: but not rude like that. So I just think Tom's 597 00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:30,440 Speaker 2: a bad egg. 598 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:34,000 Speaker 1: So Tom and I since resolved this, but ever since 599 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:35,120 Speaker 1: I'm fine. 600 00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:35,719 Speaker 3: I'm dating now. 601 00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:39,080 Speaker 1: Oh okay, we've actually now been dating for three years, 602 00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:41,680 Speaker 1: but ever since it hasn't been the same between me 603 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:44,600 Speaker 1: and Chloe. I've been outed from the school friendship group. 604 00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:47,440 Speaker 1: Chloe doesn't invite me to stuff anymore, as one of 605 00:24:47,480 --> 00:24:49,840 Speaker 1: the boys told me that she liked Tom and doesn't 606 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:52,239 Speaker 1: like me anymore because I poured juice on him, and 607 00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:55,440 Speaker 1: I'm not popular with the boys anymore. It's our last 608 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:57,200 Speaker 1: year of school and I really want to have fun. 609 00:24:57,200 --> 00:24:59,160 Speaker 1: What way, So she's in year twelve, so this would 610 00:24:59,160 --> 00:24:59,919 Speaker 1: have happened in your love. 611 00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:02,879 Speaker 2: All I'm saying is Chloe won't be You don't have 612 00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:04,560 Speaker 2: to be your own Chloe in like a year, you 613 00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:05,080 Speaker 2: know what I mean? 614 00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, Honestly, like what happens in school doesn't really matter 615 00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,280 Speaker 1: if like Chloe just seems like she wants the validation 616 00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:13,440 Speaker 1: from men and it's just not gonna last long. Politely. 617 00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:15,880 Speaker 2: I just think you're kind of push through head down 618 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:17,160 Speaker 2: for the rest of the year, hang out with people 619 00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:18,720 Speaker 2: that make you feel good, and don't worry too much 620 00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:20,520 Speaker 2: about those two and what they're doing because it will 621 00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:22,360 Speaker 2: only lead you to unhappiness. 622 00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:24,399 Speaker 1: Yeah, and if you sorted out with Tom and you 623 00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:26,440 Speaker 1: sorted out with his friends and it shouldn't really matter. 624 00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, I just think any girl that needs to like 625 00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 2: put you down because you're not in good with the 626 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:33,880 Speaker 2: girl boys group isn't probably. 627 00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:36,320 Speaker 3: Going very far in the long run. I wouldn't worry 628 00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:36,840 Speaker 3: about it too. 629 00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:39,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, Chloe is going to crash out when she finishes school. 630 00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:40,880 Speaker 3: She's going to be the identity. 631 00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:43,679 Speaker 1: It's gonna, yeah her whole that's such. 632 00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:47,160 Speaker 3: A because crash out such like a slang word these days. 633 00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:48,360 Speaker 3: But yeah, not anything then. 634 00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:52,600 Speaker 1: Now, I wouldn't worry about Chloe. Like it's so it could. 635 00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:55,119 Speaker 1: It can feel like the end of the world at 636 00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:59,760 Speaker 1: the moment, obviously, but like it's not that important. Give 637 00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:01,240 Speaker 1: it six months time. You guys are all going to 638 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:03,879 Speaker 1: be heads down, bums up starting for your exams, like 639 00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:06,320 Speaker 1: after the formal seasons kind of over, trust me, Like 640 00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:08,919 Speaker 1: it doesn't really matter. Find girls from other schools and 641 00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:11,119 Speaker 1: just realize that the countdown's on. You're probably never going 642 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,080 Speaker 1: to have to speak to Chloe again. I do not 643 00:26:13,119 --> 00:26:14,920 Speaker 1: speak to any people that I spent every single day 644 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:15,520 Speaker 1: with in high school. 645 00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:17,919 Speaker 2: My friends went to different schools since I was in 646 00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:19,639 Speaker 2: your eight. Like my best friend Lage I met at 647 00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 2: the ku Yong Social. It's our ten year anniversary in 648 00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:23,320 Speaker 2: a couple of weeks. 649 00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:24,720 Speaker 3: Wow, yeah, okay. 650 00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:27,680 Speaker 2: But it's like, so I kind of just focused on 651 00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:29,840 Speaker 2: school while I was in school, and I had friends 652 00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:32,639 Speaker 2: out of it, and you know, I'm really really happy 653 00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:34,359 Speaker 2: with my friends and where my life's at now. So 654 00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:38,800 Speaker 2: I just think everything seems like it's everything always in 655 00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:41,119 Speaker 2: that moment, seem like it's world ending when you're in 656 00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:43,160 Speaker 2: school because you are forced to be around those people 657 00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:45,960 Speaker 2: for you know, nine hours a day, five days a week. 658 00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:49,480 Speaker 2: But yeah, you'll be grateful if you kind of separate 659 00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:51,000 Speaker 2: and just don't feed. 660 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:52,360 Speaker 3: Into it with Chloe. If she wants to talk shit 661 00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:53,359 Speaker 3: about you, fine, but. 662 00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:56,240 Speaker 1: It's almost greatful good, Like look as a positive that 663 00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:58,640 Speaker 1: it's happening now compared to the end of school where 664 00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:01,240 Speaker 1: you don't have something to do single day, Like, be 665 00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:03,680 Speaker 1: grateful that you're happening now, so that you have enough 666 00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:06,320 Speaker 1: time to like, maybe find other friends or maybe find 667 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,560 Speaker 1: what you actually like. So then by the time you 668 00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:10,560 Speaker 1: do finish school, because you do kind of have a 669 00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:13,240 Speaker 1: bit of an identity crisis. Once you finish that, you're 670 00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:16,080 Speaker 1: not fucking stuck around these fake people like Chlllie. 671 00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:17,280 Speaker 2: And you know, you can look forward to having work 672 00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:19,040 Speaker 2: friends and getting a job when you get out, and 673 00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:21,160 Speaker 2: meeting other people that you actually like that you get 674 00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:22,080 Speaker 2: to spend every day with. 675 00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:24,560 Speaker 1: So everything has a silver lining. 676 00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:28,159 Speaker 2: Babe, Yeah, by Chloe, by Tim they won't be in 677 00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:34,159 Speaker 2: a year Tom Tim however, number four, So I'm just 678 00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:36,640 Speaker 2: going to get straight into it. Recently, I've become really 679 00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:42,480 Speaker 2: good friends with my ex and his girl best friend. Yeah, 680 00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:44,160 Speaker 2: I know, really weird combos, she says. 681 00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:45,600 Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm trying to wrap my head around that. 682 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:50,200 Speaker 1: So it's like my ex we're friends now. Yeah, and 683 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:51,680 Speaker 1: he had a girl best friend and. 684 00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:54,199 Speaker 2: You're really good friends with her too. Okay, interesting, but 685 00:27:54,359 --> 00:27:56,040 Speaker 2: hopefully it works out. I bet it won't. 686 00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:56,920 Speaker 1: She loves him. 687 00:27:57,640 --> 00:27:58,680 Speaker 3: They always do. Yeah. 688 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:01,440 Speaker 2: When I say close, I mean like sleepovers at mine 689 00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:03,320 Speaker 2: basically every weekend with your ex and. 690 00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,160 Speaker 1: Then maybe just the girl best friend. 691 00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:08,760 Speaker 3: Maybe this is where it gets pretty fishy. Right, So I. 692 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:11,119 Speaker 2: Kind of had this weird feeling that they were a 693 00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:13,120 Speaker 2: bit more than just friends. But I love to chuck 694 00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 2: it under the rug because I genuinely love them both 695 00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:18,840 Speaker 2: and all that could get messy really quickly. I'd like 696 00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:20,840 Speaker 2: to mention that I still have feelings for my ex. 697 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:27,280 Speaker 1: Ah, girl, this this is just gonna go, and so 698 00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:27,639 Speaker 1: does he. 699 00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:31,480 Speaker 2: Oh, he has feelings fair too, and that there have 700 00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:33,040 Speaker 2: been a few times I've hooked up but it never 701 00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:33,880 Speaker 2: gets brought up. 702 00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:36,240 Speaker 3: And she knows I still like him. Okay. 703 00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:39,200 Speaker 2: Also, hang on, if I was the girl best friend 704 00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:42,560 Speaker 2: and I knew that I was having sleepovers with two ex's, 705 00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:45,320 Speaker 2: I just removed myself from this situation, especially if they 706 00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:45,720 Speaker 2: still like it. 707 00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:47,600 Speaker 1: But they might not be having she they might not 708 00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:50,400 Speaker 1: be having sleepovers them three. It sounds like she's just 709 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:52,960 Speaker 1: having a sleepover with the girl best friend, and then 710 00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:55,600 Speaker 1: she's aware that I don't know they have feelings for 711 00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:56,240 Speaker 1: each other. Still. 712 00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:58,320 Speaker 2: Recently, a lot of my friends are asking me if 713 00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:00,680 Speaker 2: they have slept together or even kissed for because they're 714 00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:02,680 Speaker 2: extremely close, like to the point that she will get 715 00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:07,640 Speaker 2: undressed in front of him. That's not well, like she 716 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:10,120 Speaker 2: liked him, she likes, But I wouldn't get undressed in 717 00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:11,560 Speaker 2: front of my boy I liked anyways. 718 00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:16,600 Speaker 1: Yes you would, if you like someone, you would. 719 00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:18,240 Speaker 2: I was dating them, yes, but not if I had 720 00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:20,160 Speaker 2: a crush on a boy that was my friend. I'm 721 00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:21,720 Speaker 2: not getting undressed in front of him. 722 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:23,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, but she just like wants to sing cool and 723 00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:26,160 Speaker 1: nonchal long like she doesn't give fuck like you mate. 724 00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:28,560 Speaker 3: It's to their own I'm a bit of approb with 725 00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:29,160 Speaker 3: that stuff though. 726 00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:29,680 Speaker 1: Yes. 727 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,479 Speaker 2: Look, there's something fishy going on, and I can feel it. 728 00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:34,400 Speaker 2: The way they look at each other low key makes 729 00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 2: me sick, and you can call me jealous, but there's 730 00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:37,120 Speaker 2: definitely something going on. 731 00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:39,160 Speaker 1: It's going to be jealous. 732 00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:40,920 Speaker 3: I get that she's exact same. 733 00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:43,080 Speaker 2: I decided to take matters into my own hands and 734 00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:44,120 Speaker 2: text her. 735 00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:46,360 Speaker 3: To ask her about it. I was very calm and kind. 736 00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:47,600 Speaker 3: There's no need to be a bitch. 737 00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:48,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, good girl. 738 00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:52,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, but she hasn't replied in a day. 739 00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:56,160 Speaker 1: No, so that's compared for you. If she didn't have 740 00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:57,200 Speaker 1: feelings for me, she would. 741 00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:59,680 Speaker 2: Have read that and be like nah, yeah, but which 742 00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:01,880 Speaker 2: makes it situation even more fishy. I didn't want to 743 00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:04,240 Speaker 2: ask my ex yet because I feel like asking girl 744 00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:06,880 Speaker 2: to girl there's a different level of respect, And honestly, 745 00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:08,560 Speaker 2: she's one of my best friends, So why wouldn't I 746 00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:11,800 Speaker 2: ask totally? What are your thoughts? Am I being psycho? 747 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:13,040 Speaker 2: Have I done the right thing? 748 00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:14,520 Speaker 3: What would you guys do? 749 00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:17,960 Speaker 1: I think you're being psycho because curiosity is a killer. 750 00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:21,240 Speaker 2: I think that they she I think that the girl 751 00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:24,320 Speaker 2: at least does have feelings for your ex boyfriend. Yeah, 752 00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:26,960 Speaker 2: I'm not sure where you'd want to go from here, though, 753 00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:30,280 Speaker 2: I think the dynamic of the three of you hanging 754 00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:31,680 Speaker 2: out is going to have to end soon. 755 00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:34,200 Speaker 1: Well, he's got the best of both worlds. Oh, my 756 00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:36,360 Speaker 1: ex girlfriend. It's still kind of like my ex girlfriend. 757 00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:37,840 Speaker 1: She's around when I want to hook up with her, 758 00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:39,600 Speaker 1: She's got to be there. But I know this girl 759 00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:42,280 Speaker 1: saying no, This girl's my best mate, but I know 760 00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 1: she also has feelings for me. Cit these two girls 761 00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:46,960 Speaker 1: and pining after me, and I can fuck consider at 762 00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:48,040 Speaker 1: the top and just love it. 763 00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:52,160 Speaker 3: I reckon they've kissed. I'm sorry. I reckon has happened? 764 00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:53,560 Speaker 1: Step together one hundred percent? 765 00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:57,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, So I think the hardest but the best answer 766 00:30:57,440 --> 00:30:59,480 Speaker 2: is for you to remove yourself from the situation because 767 00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:01,880 Speaker 2: I think you're gonna be hurt one way or the other. 768 00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,440 Speaker 1: I think you should maybe pull back from having a 769 00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:06,560 Speaker 1: friendship with her as close as you are, Like, as 770 00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:08,560 Speaker 1: you said, I know that you say that she's a 771 00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:11,960 Speaker 1: great girl and everything like that, but I think maybe 772 00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:13,960 Speaker 1: it could be from her perspective of like keep your 773 00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:16,600 Speaker 1: friends close, your enemies closer kind of. 774 00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:19,560 Speaker 2: Thing, like, oh, this girl, I know, yeah, is like 775 00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:22,160 Speaker 2: really like, I just think it's bound to end in tears. 776 00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:23,240 Speaker 1: It's not gonna end well. 777 00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:26,640 Speaker 2: And pulling back from her and maybe just spending time 778 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:29,640 Speaker 2: with other people and not having sleepovers with this girl 779 00:31:29,680 --> 00:31:32,320 Speaker 2: if she's if she is doing what she's doing to you, 780 00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:34,800 Speaker 2: sometimes you think, yeah, but if I'm a really good 781 00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:37,520 Speaker 2: friend to her, maybe she'll stop. No, that's not gonna happen. 782 00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:39,920 Speaker 2: That's not gonna happen, and it's just gonna make you 783 00:31:39,960 --> 00:31:42,040 Speaker 2: more hurt. The closer you get to her, knowing that 784 00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:44,680 Speaker 2: she's probably continuing to do these things, we're gonna inevitably 785 00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:46,760 Speaker 2: end up saying that, yeah, I do like him. The 786 00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:48,520 Speaker 2: fact that she hasn't replied is a real lack of 787 00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:49,520 Speaker 2: respect as well. 788 00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:51,840 Speaker 1: So and the more you suffocate her, the more she's 789 00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:54,880 Speaker 1: gonna end up doing something that you're not gonna like, 790 00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:57,440 Speaker 1: and that is gonna really upset you. So just like 791 00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:01,040 Speaker 1: relinquish all control and be like because at the end 792 00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,560 Speaker 1: of the day, yes, you're you're his ex boyfriend, but 793 00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:07,800 Speaker 1: neither of you are his, Like, he's not exclusive to 794 00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:11,160 Speaker 1: any one of you, so he's technically not doing anything wrong. 795 00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:14,000 Speaker 1: It's you both kind of pining after him. You said 796 00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,160 Speaker 1: that you still have feelings for him, but that's your ex. 797 00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:19,479 Speaker 1: She is the best mate, but she has feelings for him, 798 00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:21,240 Speaker 1: and we all know girls have feelings for the best mates. 799 00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:23,520 Speaker 2: It's like, so my answer to the situation, which is 800 00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:26,400 Speaker 2: it's even somewhat I feel like I've had like similar 801 00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:29,600 Speaker 2: sort of experiences with stuff like this. Don't say anything 802 00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:31,479 Speaker 2: else to her, leave that message. If he's not going 803 00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:34,240 Speaker 2: to reply, fine, but just don't talk to either of them, 804 00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:36,200 Speaker 2: Like they'll have to come to you if they want 805 00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:37,800 Speaker 2: to talk to you. But I wouldn't send her another 806 00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:38,360 Speaker 2: text message. 807 00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:40,400 Speaker 1: Yeah I act un bothered and unfazed, like. 808 00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:43,120 Speaker 3: You're not going to reply, fine, Yeah you got your. 809 00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:46,200 Speaker 1: Answer by not getting an answer. Really, and it's not 810 00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:48,280 Speaker 1: his fault. He's just got the best birth worlds and 811 00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:50,120 Speaker 1: he's just fucking obviously gonna wrap it up because he's 812 00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:50,520 Speaker 1: a boy. 813 00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:54,320 Speaker 3: Yeah. Man, honestly sounds like a boy to me, not 814 00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:54,720 Speaker 3: a man. 815 00:32:57,680 --> 00:33:01,360 Speaker 1: Dilemma Number five, Hey, girls, my current dilemma is that 816 00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:03,960 Speaker 1: my mom and I live together in an apartment. She's 817 00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:07,080 Speaker 1: very secretive towards me, and sometimes she'll say that I 818 00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:08,640 Speaker 1: have to be out of the house. And this night, 819 00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:11,360 Speaker 1: I'd expected to stay at my partner's house, who's thirty 820 00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:14,240 Speaker 1: minutes down south. I don't have a bed at my dad's. 821 00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:16,320 Speaker 1: The reason I need to leave is because she's seeing 822 00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:18,960 Speaker 1: a guy. I'm usually okay with this, but the other 823 00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:20,600 Speaker 1: day she said I needed to be out for the 824 00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:23,040 Speaker 1: whole week as he's staying with her. And I don't 825 00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:25,120 Speaker 1: know how to deal with this. I love living with 826 00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:28,080 Speaker 1: my mom, but it also hurts when the living arrangements 827 00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:30,520 Speaker 1: is on her terms and I don't feel valued enough. 828 00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:32,760 Speaker 1: I don't know how to improve my situation and my 829 00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:34,680 Speaker 1: relationship with my mum. Thanks so much. 830 00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:38,480 Speaker 2: That's really hard, Like I feel we have to have 831 00:33:39,320 --> 00:33:41,880 Speaker 2: I don't want to say something you know wrong, but 832 00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:45,920 Speaker 2: I'm assuming you've probably had a conversation with your mum before, 833 00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:48,280 Speaker 2: and if you haven't, sitting down with her and really 834 00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:50,120 Speaker 2: kind of talking about how it makes you feel, I 835 00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:51,720 Speaker 2: feel like would be a good star. 836 00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:55,920 Speaker 3: Therapy. I know therapy is not the answer. 837 00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:58,520 Speaker 2: Therapy is a good answer to everything, and I'm being 838 00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:01,320 Speaker 2: able to work through how to handle talking to people 839 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:03,840 Speaker 2: and how to handle your emotions. I feel like could 840 00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:06,360 Speaker 2: also be something good that might be helpful to you. 841 00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:09,799 Speaker 1: I think I'm going with the thought that you have 842 00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:12,160 Speaker 1: kind of mentioned that you're like this, but I think 843 00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:16,640 Speaker 1: sometimes maybe speaking to another adult to find out the 844 00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:20,359 Speaker 1: right way to go about a conversation would be really beneficial. 845 00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:22,960 Speaker 1: And just always speak about it in a way of 846 00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:26,400 Speaker 1: I feel as not put the feelings and the blame 847 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:28,800 Speaker 1: on the other person, of you're doing this, you're. 848 00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:29,359 Speaker 3: Kicking me out. 849 00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:32,399 Speaker 2: I have you feel Ye're like my mum always told 850 00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:34,880 Speaker 2: me that too. If you're like I feel really sad, 851 00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:35,839 Speaker 2: they can't be. 852 00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:38,839 Speaker 1: Like no, you don't, yeah, I do. Yeah, Like you 853 00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:41,239 Speaker 1: can't help the way someone's feeling. So if you go 854 00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:43,360 Speaker 1: to your mom and be like, hey, like, I know 855 00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:45,359 Speaker 1: that you're seeing sky and I know that you want 856 00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:47,560 Speaker 1: to have a really nice time. But I feel as 857 00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:50,520 Speaker 1: if it's also it's my apartment too, and I live 858 00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:52,719 Speaker 1: here and all my belongings are here. I feel as 859 00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:55,400 Speaker 1: if I shouldn't be told to leave at certain points 860 00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:59,480 Speaker 1: because it doesn't benefit you at that time. Maybe just 861 00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:01,560 Speaker 1: be like, I'm happy to go out of the house 862 00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:03,680 Speaker 1: for a few hours at the nighttime, grab dinner with 863 00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:05,960 Speaker 1: my friends or something like that, but I need a 864 00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:08,600 Speaker 1: stable place that I can consistently. 865 00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,719 Speaker 3: Stay in because it seems like you do love your mom, Yeah. 866 00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:12,120 Speaker 1: And I want to get to a point, Mum where 867 00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:14,120 Speaker 1: we can have that and I don't feel like I 868 00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:15,480 Speaker 1: need to be out of the house all the time 869 00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:19,200 Speaker 1: because it's making me feel like unstable and unstable. 870 00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:19,480 Speaker 3: Yeah. 871 00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:21,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, you speak about it from my feelings, and you 872 00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:24,440 Speaker 1: speak about it from you because sometimes she could be 873 00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:26,160 Speaker 1: in a little bit of a love bubble and everything 874 00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:28,440 Speaker 1: like that that she's not necessarily thinking about how it 875 00:35:28,480 --> 00:35:29,640 Speaker 1: could feel on you. 876 00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:32,640 Speaker 2: I talked to maybe even a school counselor. They're good 877 00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:34,960 Speaker 2: because you know at that point when you're young, like 878 00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:36,520 Speaker 2: it's not like you can pay for a therapist. But 879 00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:38,279 Speaker 2: I did talk to a school counselor a lot when 880 00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:41,040 Speaker 2: I was at school. But even your partner's mum might 881 00:35:41,120 --> 00:35:43,359 Speaker 2: be a helpful person to talk to to help give 882 00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:47,160 Speaker 2: advice on how best to approach the situation. Yeah, because 883 00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:49,719 Speaker 2: I feel like you need to talk to an adult. 884 00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:52,600 Speaker 1: Or I know, forget obviously you said that your parents 885 00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:56,080 Speaker 1: aren't together, but maybe having a conversation with your dad. 886 00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:58,359 Speaker 1: I don't know if that's right, but. 887 00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:00,359 Speaker 2: Like even if he can possibly give you a bed 888 00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:03,520 Speaker 2: to give your room in where he's living. Yeah, so 889 00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:05,680 Speaker 2: you have that option to go maybe week on, week off, 890 00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:07,000 Speaker 2: and then your mum doesn't have to. 891 00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:09,720 Speaker 3: Kick you out, kick you out essentially. 892 00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:11,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I get that you feel a little bit 893 00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:14,799 Speaker 1: abandoned and you feel like a bit of an inconvenience 894 00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:16,480 Speaker 1: when she's always telling you to get out, and that's 895 00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:17,360 Speaker 1: really a nice feeling. 896 00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:19,360 Speaker 3: And just say that she must just be in a 897 00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:20,440 Speaker 3: bit of a love bubble right now. 898 00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:22,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sure maybe if you kind of pop it 899 00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:25,200 Speaker 2: and tell her how you feel, hopefully she'll be sympathetic 900 00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:30,239 Speaker 2: to it. All right, guys, Well, we love you all 901 00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:32,080 Speaker 2: so much and thank you once again for sending in 902 00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:35,680 Speaker 2: your dilemmas and hopefully we could have given you some help. 903 00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:37,080 Speaker 1: I feel like we were pretty good there. 904 00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:38,120 Speaker 3: It was a good one. 905 00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:39,319 Speaker 1: Today, it was a good one. 906 00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:40,680 Speaker 3: Jovel good at the advice. 907 00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:43,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, well, thank you guys for trusting us with your 908 00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:45,400 Speaker 2: problems and problems. 909 00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:49,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I would trust you with mine, but you 910 00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:52,680 Speaker 1: can see my face and I'm not anonymous, and people 911 00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,600 Speaker 1: tend to leak it. So wish I could do the 912 00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:57,239 Speaker 1: same and you guys could speak back to me. 913 00:36:57,200 --> 00:37:00,040 Speaker 3: But advice from that many people would be so fucking you. 914 00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:04,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, before we will chat to you on Thursday, we 915 00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:07,960 Speaker 2: got Sam and josh Us about that. 916 00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:10,759 Speaker 1: My boxing coach came on to the podcast and he's 917 00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:12,839 Speaker 1: going to talk about like boxing, how to get into it, 918 00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:14,360 Speaker 1: like how how good it is. 919 00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:16,560 Speaker 3: I want to get into so bad, but I really 920 00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:17,840 Speaker 3: need to tru my clause. 921 00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:20,400 Speaker 2: You can, like my mom sare a psychic, and the 922 00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:22,240 Speaker 2: psychic told her that I need to get into boxing 923 00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:25,400 Speaker 2: years ago to work out just whatever anger and aggression. 924 00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:29,160 Speaker 2: I'm like holding but the clause have to go. 925 00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:34,759 Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I've still got nice nails. Yours are astronomically long. 926 00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:36,399 Speaker 1: I don't know how you wipe your ass. 927 00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:38,560 Speaker 2: Anyway, You've got that to look forward to on Thursday, 928 00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:40,280 Speaker 2: and then we will chat to you next week together 929 00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:49,760 Speaker 2: all right, see you later Bye.