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Speaker 1: This is the Fits In with Her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: Do you know who one of our golden girls are

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Speaker 2: on this show? And that is Maggie Dent. We love

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Speaker 2: getting Maggie on the show. And actually she's just done

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Speaker 2: a thirty six months podcast, actually great podcast, and Maggie

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Speaker 2: was on there talking about parenting. I think every time

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Speaker 2: Maggie comes on our show, you walk away feeling a

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Speaker 2: little bit better about your parenting.

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Speaker 3: Right, you do fits And I mean I've listened to

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Speaker 3: that podcast of course, and everything Maggie has to say.

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Speaker 3: For one, she makes you feel okay about what you're doing,

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Speaker 3: and she also makes you understand clearly why your kids

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Speaker 3: are behaving the way they are.

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Speaker 4: I saw a grab yesterday from her made me feel

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Speaker 4: better because apparently, even though you know when your kids

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Speaker 4: come home and they're mad with you and cranky and

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Speaker 4: gross and you just want to go, oh, I'll get

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Speaker 4: a better housemate than this, that is a good thing.

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Speaker 4: That is a good thing because what it means is,

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Speaker 4: according to Maggie, is that you are their safe space

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Speaker 4: and they can be.

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Speaker 1: Little rats around you.

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Speaker 4: So even that's a good thing.

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Speaker 2: M h that was the grab. I'm just about to

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Speaker 2: play for you actually, because because no, no, don't be silly,

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Speaker 2: because my wife is going through this at the moment,

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Speaker 2: and she's really really upset with the way the boys

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Speaker 2: come home from school and they're grumpy and they have

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Speaker 2: a go at her about this. And if you're feeling

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Speaker 2: like this at the moment as a parent and the

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Speaker 2: kids coming home from school, have a listen to what

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Speaker 2: Maggie says about that.

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Speaker 5: Here they come home and give you a double triple

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Speaker 5: surf of yuck that's come from school.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there wears mother amy, you wear nag and slammed

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Speaker 1: doors and roll eyes. And you could take that deeply

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Speaker 1: personally as a sign that you your child is a

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Speaker 1: disrespects or human.

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Speaker 2: You're doing it.

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Speaker 1: What do I do? Do I discipline that? And I'm

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Speaker 1: going to say, no.

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Speaker 5: That's a beautiful sign that you're the safest person in

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Speaker 5: their world, that they love you the best, and that

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Speaker 5: they can project what they're holding in, because the more

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Speaker 5: they release that, the less like it gets to a

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Speaker 5: really critical point where they drown in us.

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Speaker 3: I love that.

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Speaker 2: I love that, isn't it? And you know what? My

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Speaker 2: I showed my wife that video and yesterday Hue came

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Speaker 2: home and had to go aut mom about what was

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Speaker 2: in the lunch box and you didn't cook this properly.

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Speaker 2: And there was a moment where she looked at me

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Speaker 2: and she smiled, And I call that it's a great

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Speaker 2: you know what. She just feels safe now she knows

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Speaker 2: it's out of love. And Hue's had a go at

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Speaker 2: her and he's come home from school and he's all grumpy,

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Speaker 2: and now she's turned that into a positive. I thought

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Speaker 2: was weird.

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Speaker 3: You've got to go and have a listen to this

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Speaker 3: podcast Excuse Me thirty six months. But Maggie also goes

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Speaker 3: on fits to talk about it. My boys are a

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Speaker 3: little bit younger than yours, but the thing that they

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Speaker 3: do is all they want to do when they get

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Speaker 3: home is fight and play with their doodles. Right, That's

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Speaker 3: what boys want to do. And why that is is

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Speaker 3: because it's what they can't do at school. So when

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Speaker 3: they get home all they want to do, Like Maggie's

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Speaker 3: talking about the attitude they give their parents because at school,

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Speaker 3: they're not allowed to carry that attitude and they're not

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Speaker 3: allowed to fight at school, and they're not allowed to

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Speaker 3: play with their doodle at.

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Speaker 4: School, and also they've seen, they've seen what their dad

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Speaker 4: does when he's at home and monkey.

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Speaker 3: See monkey do so when they arrive home and I'm

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Speaker 3: just on the couch, I mean just having a little

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Speaker 3: you're mad if you don't fiddle.

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Speaker 2: Anything around school. I mean it's just they treat us

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Speaker 2: very badly. I need to play this young girl. She's

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Speaker 2: around about eight years of age. This is over in

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Speaker 2: the UK. See, so she's got the thick accent here.

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Speaker 2: So as she starts by saying that she's she's on

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Speaker 2: the way to school with mum, right, and it's a

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Speaker 2: disaster because Mum's making her go to school. She's breathing

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Speaker 2: very heavily. It's a long way to walk to school.

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Speaker 2: So mom starts filming. Have a listen to this. I

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Speaker 2: am making this privent. Why because you made me.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna go on because Cord, Yeah, you made me

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Speaker 4: come over.

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Speaker 2: But it's got a water bottle.

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Speaker 1: It's got an apple.

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Speaker 5: Do you understand.

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Speaker 2: What kilos away?

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Speaker 4: Really?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like a backpack in a butt buck.

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Speaker 4: Hey look, I'm no Maggie did, but I've got a

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Speaker 4: parenting hack there. The water bottles are very heavy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah they are.

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Speaker 4: What do you do so very early on, because I've

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Speaker 4: got three kids that you know, go to school and

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Speaker 4: have that you have to take water, you send them

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Speaker 4: with it. You teach them very early on where the

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Speaker 4: water is at school, and you send them with an

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Speaker 4: empty one, and then they fill it at school and

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Speaker 4: and drink it. And then at the end of the

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Speaker 4: day they empty it out and they take the empty water,

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Speaker 4: and then they're not carrying many kilos.

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Speaker 2: Oh, Chrissy, that is a great bea love that.

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Speaker 3: The other one that happened to me the other day,

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Speaker 3: Swanny was ted. He's walking home from school. But it

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Speaker 3: was also the day when you got to school and

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Speaker 3: you worked out what instrument you were going to be

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Speaker 3: a sign that you had to learn, and he wanted

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Speaker 3: to do the drums. I think anyway, it didn't go

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Speaker 3: It didn't go to plan. So when he got home,

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Speaker 3: knocked on the door and said, hurry up, I can't

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Speaker 3: hold this much longer. I opened the door and he said,

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Speaker 3: this glockenspiel is really heavy.

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