Speaker 1: This is the Chrissy's One show. Do you know what
Speaker 1: a push present is?
Speaker 2: Yes? I do.
Speaker 1: Why do you know?
Speaker 2: Because I see people posting about them.
Speaker 1: It's a little bit like ghosh, I agree, and I
Speaker 1: feel like it's quite a new thing, right Like I
Speaker 1: had my first baby nearly sixteen years ago. Can you
Speaker 1: believe it?
Speaker 2: That's nuts?
Speaker 1: I mean again, I want to remind you I'm somebody's mother. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I had Leo nearly sixteen years ago, and I feel
Speaker 1: like they were just I just started hearing the words
Speaker 1: push present.
Speaker 3: Got it because if I brought up that term around
Speaker 3: my parents, they would laugh at me. We're how ridiculous.
Speaker 1: There's a lot about it I don't like, and it
Speaker 1: starts with the words push present. Ye I I just
Speaker 1: don't like it. And also what do you need a
Speaker 1: present for?
Speaker 2: Also, aren't you pushing out your present?
Speaker 1: Well, children have their own gift, that is true. But
Speaker 1: also I just I think it's bizarre because you know
Speaker 1: what I'm like with motherhood. Billions of people do it
Speaker 1: every day. Yes, yes, it's hard and it's challenging, and
Speaker 1: you know, everyone's journey is different, but it happens every
Speaker 1: day to women all over the world. I don't know,
Speaker 1: it's like getting a present for learning to walk, or
Speaker 1: it's like a human thing.
Speaker 2: We all do it, or a lot of us do
Speaker 2: do it. Yeah, yeah, it feels a little bit to Yeah.
Speaker 1: And I didn't get a push present, and it was
Speaker 1: never even a topic of conversation. The closest I got
Speaker 1: to a push present was when I'd finished having kids,
Speaker 1: so I have my three. I went to a jewelry
Speaker 1: designer called Caspartington, who I really love, and I've never
Speaker 1: had a fancy piece of jewelry in my whole life,
Speaker 1: and I bought myself a ring that signifies each of
Speaker 1: the kids got it, and I wear them in a
Speaker 1: stack bit big now.
Speaker 3: But I love that idea though, because that has some
Speaker 3: sentiment to it as well. It's not just like I
Speaker 3: want a cart yeah, I love bracelet. It's like, no, no,
Speaker 3: there's something there that like signifies what you just did,
Speaker 3: yeah three times.
Speaker 1: And you know I'm their mother. I congratulated myself for
Speaker 1: being that person.
Speaker 3: I will say, though, like I've got mates that I
Speaker 3: know like trying to get them and push for them,
Speaker 3: and I'm like, I'm all for it. If you can
Speaker 3: get one out of your husband or boyfriend or girlfriend
Speaker 3: or wife.
Speaker 2: Please.
Speaker 1: So it just feels weird people even cars. And anyway,
Speaker 1: the reason we're talking about it is because we have
Speaker 1: found a Reddit thread. This guy wants to know. Am
Speaker 1: I a monster for telling my wife she's not worthy
Speaker 1: of what she's asking for for her push present. The
Speaker 1: whole not worthy thing is a bizarre way to say it,
Speaker 1: because everybody's worthy of everything. This guy says, my wife
Speaker 1: and I've been together for five years, she's pregnant with
Speaker 1: our first baby. She is asking for a push present.
Speaker 1: And at first this guy didn't even know what that meant,
Speaker 1: which is fair because it feels like a bit of
Speaker 1: a money grabe, like a wishing well wedding, oh ye,
Speaker 1: getting the bin. Anyway, it's basically a thank you gift
Speaker 1: to the woman who brought the child into the world.
Speaker 1: He said to her, the baby is your gift, and
Speaker 1: she said, but what about a nice new car? That
Speaker 1: seems extraordinary.
Speaker 3: Also, like, unless your husband is a CEO earning five
Speaker 3: MILLI a year, asking him for a car is a lot.
Speaker 1: It is a lot. And also that's a family gift.
Speaker 3: That's something that I think is often as well discussed
Speaker 3: at the start of the pregnancy or before, like do
Speaker 3: we have a car that can fit the baby or
Speaker 3: the two kids?
Speaker 1: Like yeah, And then you get that that's not a gift.
Speaker 2: No, that's a lifestyle thing you need. That's almost a necessity.
Speaker 1: Anyway, if I was buying somebody a push present, I
Speaker 1: would be very creative. I think what would you get?
Speaker 1: Like I would like to get we know, one of
Speaker 1: those clowns. What I'd like to buy someone for no
Speaker 1: reason and just see their face when they open it.
Speaker 1: Those clowns that you get at the carnival that you
Speaker 1: got to put their mouth, but like to put a
Speaker 1: ball in their mouth. Imagine that if you're a sweetheart,
Speaker 1: you're an amazing present and they open it, and then
Speaker 1: the present for you is their stunned reaction.
Speaker 2: You know, I'd be angry.
Speaker 1: Did you get a push present? How creative was yours?
Speaker 1: Did you have input into it?
Speaker 3: Or did you not get one? And you're really furious
Speaker 3: and angry about it. I'd love to hear that as well.
Speaker 1: The Christiest One show, we're talking push presents. If you
Speaker 1: don't know what they are, it's the gift you get
Speaker 1: for pushing out the baby. And I've never had a
Speaker 1: push present. But equally, I've never pushed out a baby
Speaker 1: because I had too.
Speaker 2: Much to push Sunroof baby?
Speaker 1: This would mine be caught? Would my gift be called?
Speaker 1: If I ever got one?
Speaker 2: They are a Sunroof Surprise.
Speaker 1: I love it. I love it very twenty four ten?
Speaker 1: What was your push present?
Speaker 4: Hi?
Speaker 1: Michelle?
Speaker 5: Hi? Guys?
Speaker 6: Hi?
Speaker 1: Would you get?
Speaker 5: I got an eternity ring because we had our first
Speaker 5: baby and our first wedding anniversary within like a week
Speaker 5: of each other.
Speaker 1: Wow. And what is an eternity ring? I've never been
Speaker 1: given any jewelry. I don't even what that is.
Speaker 5: It's the third band with like an engagement ring wedding band,
Speaker 5: And I guess it just means, like on top of
Speaker 5: getting married, that you'll be together for eternity. But I
Speaker 5: think most people get it, like for a first child
Speaker 5: or after ten years, but having two anniversaries and a
Speaker 5: birth like a birth together. We I just got it.
Speaker 1: And how long were you engaged for Michelle before.
Speaker 5: We got married? We were engaged. I think it was
Speaker 5: about three years.
Speaker 1: Wow, So you've had your husband has had three very
Speaker 1: expensive trips to Bevil's the jewelers in a very short
Speaker 1: period of time.
Speaker 3: Michelle, did you ask for the push president, Like, did
Speaker 3: you kind of angle that you wanted something or did
Speaker 3: he do it off his own win?
Speaker 5: He brought it up. I think just because of the
Speaker 5: way social media is, he knew about it as well.
Speaker 5: And I was never going to say no totally.
Speaker 1: Did you get input? Like did you go into the
Speaker 1: jewelry store and say I'll have this?
Speaker 5: I gave options and let him choose.
Speaker 2: Pharmacy voucher for you, Michelle, let's go to mail.
Speaker 6: Oh guys, well she's lucky because I got nothing. My
Speaker 6: husband said that the baby was the present.
Speaker 1: Well I was going to say, you did get a living, breathing, crying,
Speaker 1: sleep depriving baby.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 1: How did he break the news to you that that
Speaker 1: was your gift?
Speaker 8: Well?
Speaker 6: I was binging on. Well, my daughter was born in
Speaker 6: November twenty seventeen, and that was the year that I
Speaker 6: don't know if you remember or watched it, but young
Speaker 6: yummy mummy, this was one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's when the mummies.
Speaker 6: Yeah, and that's when you know they're getting their range rovers,
Speaker 6: they're getting their jewelry, and I'm just going, yeah, cool,
Speaker 6: you know I'm going to get something dropping the hint
Speaker 6: to him, but no, he just said no, the baby
Speaker 6: was the present. And I'm like, cool, dude, Now I'm
Speaker 6: next year it's our ten year wedding anniversary, so I
Speaker 6: want that eternity ring.
Speaker 1: Oh nice, I'm just thinking about yummy mummies. Was there
Speaker 1: one on there from Brisbane who had like a doppelganger daughter, Margarita.
Speaker 6: Margerita, Yeah, yeah, from Adelaide.
Speaker 1: Adelaide was it and the daughter was dressed up in
Speaker 1: like Kuchu Dior and everything.
Speaker 6: She still is because I follow her. She has her
Speaker 6: own instag account and she has like all these Burberry
Speaker 6: outfits and I'm.
Speaker 1: Like, yes, wow, oh my god, that little kid gets
Speaker 1: more than you get for being torn in two. All right,
Speaker 1: good look for the eternity ring. Mel Let's finish with
Speaker 1: Hi Katie, Hello.
Speaker 4: There, gorgeous people. How are you good?
Speaker 1: How long ago did you have your last child?
Speaker 4: Last child was seventeen years ago?
Speaker 1: Wow, And we're push presents even around then.
Speaker 4: They were just sort of starting and mind you, this
Speaker 4: was my fourth.
Speaker 2: Child, and what did you get?
Speaker 4: I got a plasma TV.
Speaker 1: I feel like maybe that was a push present for
Speaker 1: your husband.
Speaker 4: Definitely, definitely, And that was sort of when they were
Speaker 4: all coming out big tea. Yes, we went from having
Speaker 4: a little TV to a big one. Now I would
Speaker 4: have preferred a nice ring or something.
Speaker 1: It would have been a very exciting delivery though, And
Speaker 1: in fantasy to your husband, maybe he got the whole
Speaker 1: sort of relevance of push wrong. Maybe you just meant
Speaker 1: oh so, oh, hang on, I thought I was supposed
Speaker 1: to push the remote.
Speaker 3: That's one pharmacy voucher for you, Kke.
Speaker 1: The Christy Swan Shows, The Christy Swan Show. We welcome
Speaker 1: the other team member on The Christy Swan Show to
Speaker 1: the microphone. Hello Tom, good afternoon. I mean, if I
Speaker 1: had my way, you've been here all the time, and
Speaker 1: I know you've got work to do. I know, right,
Speaker 1: it's boring. Can you please, can you please tell the
Speaker 1: story again about you daring to leave the family home.
Speaker 9: I know it was a big decision.
Speaker 2: It was a big one.
Speaker 1: How many children are there? I am the second of
Speaker 1: four as four, they're all at home.
Speaker 2: They're all at home.
Speaker 9: I was the first to move out, so I had
Speaker 9: to pave the way.
Speaker 1: Loves a full nest, and you were the first I was.
Speaker 9: I was so there was a lot of pressure. But
Speaker 9: I moved out. I was you know, I was like,
Speaker 9: dare I say, happy to be out of home?
Speaker 1: But were you scared to break the news being the
Speaker 1: first and having the family.
Speaker 2: That you do? Oh yeah yeah. I was like I had.
Speaker 9: I sat, we were having dinner, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 9: I'm just have something to say, so.
Speaker 1: We know you gay, No, it was it was first.
Speaker 9: It was first I'm looking at places, and then I
Speaker 9: had to do it again when I had actually found it. Okay,
Speaker 9: so you broke it gently, Yeah, I did it softly,
Speaker 9: crumbed them a bit.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 9: And then you know, i'd been out of home, I
Speaker 9: reckon for a couple of months, and I came home
Speaker 9: and Mum goes, I've got to show you something, and
Speaker 9: I went, oh, okay, great. She opens my door and
Speaker 9: she's turned to your old bedroom.
Speaker 1: Yes.
Speaker 9: Well, actually, to be fair, there was a bit of
Speaker 9: shuffling around, but the spare bedroom in the house she
Speaker 9: turned into like a dressing room.
Speaker 2: But in the dressing room it's like.
Speaker 9: A mismatch of all sorts of things, so like she's
Speaker 9: got a clothes rack in there. She made my brother
Speaker 9: build a rack that she can hang her bags on. Oh,
Speaker 9: she's building stuff. But there in the other part of
Speaker 9: the room, it's just a single bed.
Speaker 1: There was a bed.
Speaker 2: Correct.
Speaker 1: The message was clear though that you've left and you're
Speaker 1: not welcome back.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yes, And there's no personal touch to your room or
Speaker 3: that room anymore. It is simply a bed where anyone
Speaker 3: can sleep. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, it's you know, how
Speaker 3: did that make you feel? Because like I like to
Speaker 3: still know if things go wrong when not like after
Speaker 3: when I'm sick or after a big night, that I
Speaker 3: can go back to mum and Dad's house and have
Speaker 3: my bed.
Speaker 1: Is your childhood room still there?
Speaker 3: Obviously I have like kind of re remixed it, but
Speaker 3: yes it is, it's still there.
Speaker 9: Okay, this is what this is crazy because I was
Speaker 9: talking about it with people in the office and they're like, oh,
Speaker 9: my mom left my room as it is, Yes, still
Speaker 9: there most people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's two there's two ways to go about it.
Speaker 1: The mother that clings on to the memory of that
Speaker 1: time and it's like a mausoleum, a museum to her
Speaker 1: child and it's not touched. And then there's your mum.
Speaker 3: Four to ten, what did your parents replace your room
Speaker 3: with when you moved out?
Speaker 2: I feel like it must happen a lot more than
Speaker 2: we think. Oh.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, And there's going to be a lot of craft.
Speaker 1: I think there's a craft from a sewing.
Speaker 3: Room screams midlife Crisis.
Speaker 1: The Christy Swan Show, and we're talking about how quickly
Speaker 1: your parents moved on when you moved out of home
Speaker 1: and turned your bedroom into something that you were not
Speaker 1: welcome in any more. High stacy.
Speaker 2: Hello, guys.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I was the last child to leave, and I
Speaker 6: think my mum had a bid life crisis and turned
Speaker 6: my bedroom into an art studio.
Speaker 8: Oh ye has never painted before?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, now that is a well worn path because
Speaker 1: what shit? Well, can I give you an insight into
Speaker 1: a was going through her mind as probably a woman
Speaker 1: that was about my age at the time. She has
Speaker 1: spent so long parenting and identifying as a mother, and
Speaker 1: she's been waiting counting down the seconds for her last
Speaker 1: baby to leave the nest so that then she could
Speaker 1: be her true self. And weirdly, our true selves are
Speaker 1: often an artist, a soa you know, a gym junkie.
Speaker 1: That's what we co opted the room to become.
Speaker 3: I just would be so hurt, though, would you, Yes,
Speaker 3: Because that's my safe place, price and pharmacy voucher for
Speaker 3: you stay.
Speaker 1: Maybe would never do that.
Speaker 2: Let's go to Gabby.
Speaker 1: Hi, Gabby, what happened when you moved out of home?
Speaker 7: OHI guys. I my dad turned my bedroom into a
Speaker 7: bonzo a nursery as Bonzo nursery, and my mother turned
Speaker 7: the spare room into a gym that she didn't use
Speaker 7: for fourteen years. Yes, and they told me really directly,
Speaker 7: once you moved out, you did not walk back through
Speaker 7: those doors. You can have a meal, you can come
Speaker 7: and visit. And I was sixteen. I'm fifty three now. Yes,
Speaker 7: it was a long time ago.
Speaker 1: You moved that when you were sixteen, Gabby, and they
Speaker 1: still turned it into a gym and a bond sign nursery.
Speaker 7: They thought that I had it together. Yeah, that was
Speaker 7: I was hurt.
Speaker 1: I must say I've never heard of a bond sign nursery.
Speaker 7: That is no, nor had I and I haven't think and.
Speaker 1: You haven't seen No. I love that so much. You've
Speaker 1: got a father's about your coming to you, Gabby. Let's
Speaker 1: finish with Jilly.
Speaker 8: Hello, Jill, hellogos, how are we good?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 1: What did your mum fill your old bedroom with when
Speaker 1: you moved.
Speaker 8: Out, Well, what didn't she It was her tupperware room.
Speaker 2: That is so great.
Speaker 1: How much tupperware did she have?
Speaker 8: Oh, my good nurse, she had heap. She went to
Speaker 8: so many parts, and it.
Speaker 7: Was if you buy this, you get this, and you
Speaker 7: get that.
Speaker 8: And she just kept buying it and didn't actually sit
Speaker 8: in the kitchen. So then she started piling it up.
Speaker 8: And then I moved out in the late eighties when
Speaker 8: I was seventeen, and she was still going to parties.
Speaker 8: And then she worked out, if I became a consultant,
Speaker 8: I can get all this stuff. So even though she
Speaker 8: didn't need it, she brought it. She got it.
Speaker 3: How they displayed Jill, was it like on shelves or
Speaker 3: like tables or just on the floor.
Speaker 8: She had shells, she had table, she had them on
Speaker 8: the floor, she had them color coordinated, she had the
Speaker 8: soft sizers. It was insane. It was it was.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it was.
Speaker 8: Back when you're seventeen, you think, oh, that's crazy. But
Speaker 8: now as a young fifty ish I think, oh, how amazing.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I'm thinking that. Now I'm thinking what I
Speaker 1: wouldn't give to get into that room. And collected as well.
Speaker 2: I can give it another three years. You'll have a
Speaker 2: Taylor Swift.
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