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Speaker 1: This is the Fitting in with Her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: Can we talk about positive parenting? We have Maggie Dent

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Speaker 2: on this week. It's tough. I know it's tough to do.

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Speaker 2: It's difficult and you're on the endless search for it.

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Speaker 2: But actually there was an interesting podcast. A young lady

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Speaker 2: went on this podcast and spoke about her mother. Have

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Speaker 2: listened to this.

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Speaker 3: My mom would actually tell me show me leader in

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Speaker 3: life that she did this, but I remember author oout

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Speaker 3: high school. She would be like, Oh, I have such

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Speaker 3: a great teenager.

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Speaker 1: She's a great teenager.

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Speaker 3: She gives me no problems, like she does have an attitude,

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Speaker 3: she doesn't do bad things.

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Speaker 1: I got lucky. She's great.

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Speaker 3: And she told me later in life that she read

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Speaker 3: this book about like, the more you enforce that your

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Speaker 3: teenager like is a good person and they're gonna want things,

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Speaker 3: they're going to be they're going to hold themselves to

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Speaker 3: that standard.

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Speaker 2: Do you know what do you feel like when you

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Speaker 2: catch up with friends sometimes it's your opportunity just to

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Speaker 2: offload with what the kids have been doing at home.

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Speaker 2: But I don't know. I just listened to that and thought, God,

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Speaker 2: if you can actually train yourself just to say, oh,

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Speaker 2: the kids have been great. But I think it's more

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Speaker 2: powerful doing it when the kids are around. So for

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Speaker 2: your kids to hear Mum and dad go, oh, Lenny

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Speaker 2: has just been a breath of fresh air, he must

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Speaker 2: think to himself, oh that's great. Well, I think we

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Speaker 2: need to do that a lot more and let the

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Speaker 2: kids hear it when you are talking to other people,

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Speaker 2: we do a lot of To know love is to

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Speaker 2: see love. So I will say to Lisa, we're going

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Speaker 2: to put some music on after dinner and let's have

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Speaker 2: a slow dance.

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Speaker 1: Because this is how mum and dad act.

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Speaker 3: This is love.

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Speaker 2: They need to understand what it is.

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Speaker 4: I mean she'll run away and maybe vomit in the

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Speaker 4: bathroom sort of two minutes after.

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Speaker 2: You're also showing the kids some great acting as well.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Bridge, Para matter, what do you want to say?

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Speaker 2: Bridge?

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Speaker 1: Did I that you just played about the mum always

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Speaker 1: say that she had a great teenager? Do you know what?

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Speaker 4: I tried it and it worked.

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Speaker 3: The completely turns things around.

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Speaker 2: Really Yeah, And now my daughter like she doesn't hold

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Speaker 2: back in hugging me in public, or.

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Speaker 3: She holds my hand at the shots.

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Speaker 1: She says that I'm her best friend. Wow, and we

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Speaker 1: just it's I lift her up and she goes even.

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Speaker 4: Higher wow, because she's she feels safe with you to

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Speaker 4: be one hundred percent herself.

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Speaker 1: And that's a that's a great win for bable. That's

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Speaker 1: great bridge.

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Speaker 2: I think I think we feel like we you know,

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Speaker 2: there's always you want to hear from other parents how

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Speaker 2: bad their kids are to make yourself feel better. But

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Speaker 2: if you can be the one, and if you can

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Speaker 2: train yourself to be positive about your children the whole time, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think I think it then disarms other parents and

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Speaker 2: they go, oh okay.

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Speaker 4: Often they don't like it though, Like I've got three

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Speaker 4: basically three teenagers at home and you know, a lot

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Speaker 4: of a lot of.

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Speaker 1: Specifically we'll say, oh, how's that going on? Don't nightmare?

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Speaker 1: And I just say, no, not really, Well, right, they're

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Speaker 1: the best. They're the best housemates I've ever had.

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Speaker 4: And they look at me like what, Yeah, I'm going

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Speaker 4: to go home and make a fake profile.

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