1 00:00:02,840 --> 00:00:05,320 Speaker 1: Well, well, well, wow, wow were you? 2 00:00:05,360 --> 00:00:05,560 Speaker 2: Wow? 3 00:00:05,960 --> 00:00:07,400 Speaker 1: What the fuck have you done to me? 4 00:00:08,320 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 2: I'm just a glad. 5 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:14,880 Speaker 1: Welcome back to Tuesday's episode. 6 00:00:14,880 --> 00:00:15,200 Speaker 2: Guys. 7 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 1: We have really Barker joining us today because I felt 8 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: it was only right. First week roomies exactly, I'm back 9 00:00:22,720 --> 00:00:23,480 Speaker 1: on the pod. 10 00:00:23,360 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 2: Twenty twenty six. First party back, is it? 11 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: Yeah? No, not for me, babe. I've been running all 12 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: year round. Well, I don't have seasons. I just keep going. 13 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 2: She's a marathon runner. Yeah, I'm a sprint it. Oh 14 00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 2: my god, it's so good to be here. 15 00:00:40,240 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: Yeah. I just thought you needed a little bit more training, 16 00:00:43,040 --> 00:00:45,360 Speaker 1: so I just thought i'd bring you in. I'm a veteran. 17 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 1: It's your third time on the pod, and we do 18 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:50,480 Speaker 1: a little Q and A for the girlies, tell people 19 00:00:50,479 --> 00:00:53,199 Speaker 1: what we're doing, how we're going for the year, and 20 00:00:53,240 --> 00:00:55,000 Speaker 1: then some dating advice because you love to give me 21 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:55,640 Speaker 1: dating advice. 22 00:00:55,760 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 2: I do. 23 00:00:56,280 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: Yeah. 24 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:58,319 Speaker 2: I feel like I'm really fucking good at it too. 25 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, but you're also not that good at taking it. 26 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 2: No. 27 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 1: No, Bill's like he's hard and fast again, he's a sprinter. 28 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:12,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, I'm a sprinter. Like everything finishing bed hard 29 00:01:12,319 --> 00:01:16,839 Speaker 2: and fast. Everything's always quick, done easy. I'm all about efficiency. 30 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:18,840 Speaker 2: If it's not efficient, it's not worth it. 31 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:21,120 Speaker 1: So that's probably why I haven't been in a long 32 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 1: term relationship. 33 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 3: Whoa, whoa, Okay, this is getting personal. That was a 34 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 3: big coconut to crackh. Just there, I'm wrong. 35 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:42,040 Speaker 1: And my mom's fucking wrong. Okay, Like, oh I broke 36 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:44,760 Speaker 1: up with him, broyeh because I didn't wonder to. But 37 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 1: I've been in a three year relationship and you broh. 38 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:48,200 Speaker 2: And how did that end? 39 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 1: I hindered it too? 40 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 2: Then lands did it? 41 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 1: He was cheated on New bro. Honestly, I'm gonna get 42 00:01:57,280 --> 00:02:00,680 Speaker 1: myself into that much shit with you on this podcast. Yes, today, 43 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:03,280 Speaker 1: but I just feel like it's fine. 44 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:05,720 Speaker 2: But I am good at dating advice. I feel like 45 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 2: I do you give really good advice. Yes, I'm a 46 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:09,680 Speaker 2: very different person that comes to dating. Not a lot 47 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 2: of people I think things like me, So when I give. 48 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 1: It, I would say I'm quite good at advice too. 49 00:02:15,240 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, but we're very similar. We had this chat yesterday. 50 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:20,959 Speaker 1: Yes, but I tend to I'm a bit more of 51 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:24,200 Speaker 1: a slow burn and I'm not one to express. You 52 00:02:24,320 --> 00:02:26,240 Speaker 1: want to express, like if you have something on your 53 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 1: mind when it comes to dating, you're going to tell 54 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:31,560 Speaker 1: and you also four really fast. It takes me a 55 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:32,760 Speaker 1: couple of weeks. Weeks. 56 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 2: I get really confused though, like are fore fast and pullback? 57 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:39,920 Speaker 1: Mike Bill thought he met his husband last week. Yeah 58 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 1: last night, didn't even know who was trouble. We're going 59 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:47,080 Speaker 1: to start off, you're high and low. Do you know 60 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:50,160 Speaker 1: what that is? So you're going to say you're high 61 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 1: and you're low high it's like a positive lows, like 62 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:54,919 Speaker 1: something that's on your mind. 63 00:02:55,400 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 2: What explanation? So high your loads are low for those 64 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 2: that don't know. Narget hit me my high right now 65 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:06,760 Speaker 2: in life? 66 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:09,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, I would just like this week, this week. 67 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:13,400 Speaker 2: Fuck, honestly, just getting back into routine of things has 68 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 2: been really good. Yeah this week, Yeah, like she has 69 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 2: hit the ground running. I sided to work today at 70 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:21,799 Speaker 2: six point thirty. Yeah fuck, probably not gonna finish until 71 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:25,640 Speaker 2: nine pm tonight. And I love that shit like that 72 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:26,680 Speaker 2: makes me so excited. 73 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:29,760 Speaker 1: That's crazy, but my low stress. 74 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 2: It is the most stressful time of my life ever. 75 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 2: Lots of transitions, all the things happening. Yeap only fans 76 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:41,560 Speaker 2: is done, Yeah tea tea or finish, Like everything's just 77 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:43,680 Speaker 2: like coming to an end to something else. But you 78 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:46,120 Speaker 2: know what they say, like when you stop a life 79 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 2: or like an error in your life, it costs you 80 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 2: your old life for your new one. So I just 81 00:03:51,480 --> 00:03:54,760 Speaker 2: keep telling myself that, yep, am I okay, this money 82 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:56,680 Speaker 2: is going to come back. 83 00:03:56,880 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 1: I'm investing a lot for it to come back in those. 84 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 2: Hopefully no Willy, we'll. 85 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:07,640 Speaker 1: Speaking of my high is I'm in Sydney. I love 86 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 1: it living with you. Yeah, just like being here and 87 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:17,640 Speaker 1: excited to like see where it takes me. I've already 88 00:04:17,680 --> 00:04:19,840 Speaker 1: had like really cool opportunities up here, and it's like 89 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:22,320 Speaker 1: this is the whole reason I came for, like work 90 00:04:22,400 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 1: and being in a new environment, and you can't sit 91 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:28,159 Speaker 1: in the same old environment and expect a different outcome. 92 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:30,839 Speaker 1: So that's why I'm kind of taking this leap and 93 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 1: giving it a new trial, and I'm excited to, like 94 00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 1: I go back to Melbourne today. So I think the 95 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:40,480 Speaker 1: last couple of days, the last couple of days were 96 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 1: like kind of like a wiggle room. But like, once 97 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:45,839 Speaker 1: I get back, I'm not traveling for like two weeks, 98 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:49,119 Speaker 1: which is rare for me. Who Yeah, so they're getting 99 00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 1: into routine and just like really knuckling down. I'm really 100 00:04:51,920 --> 00:04:54,039 Speaker 1: excited for and my low is that I have to 101 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 1: go back to Melbourne today. Yeah. 102 00:04:57,440 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 2: Now you're back here, you're gonna have your time. 103 00:04:59,680 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm so excited. 104 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:02,760 Speaker 2: I think it's what you need. 105 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:06,039 Speaker 1: Yeah, Phil and I had a really big DNM last 106 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 1: night against my will to be honest. 107 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:09,719 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think it was a DNM. It was 108 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 2: like a more of a like a what's it called 109 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:14,600 Speaker 2: when like family members sit down someone that they're like 110 00:05:15,640 --> 00:05:16,360 Speaker 2: to have a chat. 111 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, what is that called? 112 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:19,360 Speaker 2: Another interference? 113 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:20,160 Speaker 1: Intervention? 114 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:22,400 Speaker 2: Intervention? Yeah, it was an intervention. 115 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:25,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, but we grow from you feel better after no, 116 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:27,440 Speaker 1: I felt like shit after. 117 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 2: We can only feel better after you feel shit. I guess. 118 00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: Anyway, we're gonna go to swer some questions. 119 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 2: Oh, you're gonna give them some more? What open up? Express? 120 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:41,799 Speaker 1: No, because that makes me vulnerable. 121 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:43,159 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't do that. 122 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:46,640 Speaker 1: Bill pretty much just said I looked like I'm lost. 123 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 2: Well, I just think you went through so much last year, 124 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 2: both personally and professionally, and I think the whole tumutuous 125 00:05:55,520 --> 00:05:57,800 Speaker 2: journey of that is like led you to where you 126 00:05:57,839 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 2: are now and now you're kind of just read within 127 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:02,840 Speaker 2: who Sam Gougenheimer is and where she wants to go. 128 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:06,359 Speaker 2: And I'm so like excited for that journey for you, 129 00:06:06,400 --> 00:06:08,600 Speaker 2: but I think like you just need some guidance and 130 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:11,680 Speaker 2: support the people that are going to support you and 131 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:15,920 Speaker 2: be there for you along that ride. And I'm just 132 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:16,440 Speaker 2: that person. 133 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: Yes, you are that person and that's why I continue 134 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:22,279 Speaker 1: to have you in my life. But last year was 135 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:24,480 Speaker 1: like a super transformative year that it kind of like 136 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:26,960 Speaker 1: made me, yeah, like you, as Bill like to say, 137 00:06:26,960 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 1: a bit lost because like everything you had I had 138 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:33,039 Speaker 1: worked for in my social media career all changed last year. 139 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:35,920 Speaker 1: It's like kind of like a weird one to figure out. 140 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:38,000 Speaker 1: But I know it's going to be good. 141 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, You're gonna go through change and the hard 142 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 2: shit to get where you want. 143 00:06:42,760 --> 00:06:45,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, And that's what it's going on with the journey. 144 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:45,719 Speaker 2: Yeah. 145 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:47,360 Speaker 1: But we're gonna get into some Q and as I'm 146 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: going to ask you some cues because. 147 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:50,920 Speaker 2: You it's about you, it's about me. 148 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 1: Wow, have we fucked before? 149 00:06:54,760 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 2: I mean only that one time, not bil bil No, 150 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 2: I couldn't think of not anything worse with you, But 151 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:07,040 Speaker 2: like every one of my friends are the girls, even 152 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:08,839 Speaker 2: guys I cannot see sexually. 153 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, like what did you? You asked me the other night, 154 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:12,440 Speaker 1: like have you ever thought about it? 155 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:15,200 Speaker 2: Yeah? We went through them last night and I was like, wait, 156 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 2: have you actually ever thought about it? 157 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 1: I've never thought about it, like I think Bill. 158 00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:20,800 Speaker 2: We did think about it last night. 159 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:24,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, well over the can of worms and we're 160 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:27,480 Speaker 1: talking about it, like I've never I'm not sexually attracted 161 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:30,080 Speaker 1: to Bill, like in your in my mind, you're just 162 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:32,680 Speaker 1: a twink, like you're just like you're like, there's no 163 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:34,120 Speaker 1: way I find. 164 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 2: You so beautiful, beautiful a bottom. 165 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 1: I find you so beautiful and you're like so hot 166 00:07:40,520 --> 00:07:43,160 Speaker 1: and like everything like that, but I'm not attracted to you, 167 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 1: Like I don't find you sexually attractive. So I have 168 00:07:46,280 --> 00:07:48,240 Speaker 1: never thought about it, Like he was like, have you 169 00:07:48,240 --> 00:07:49,600 Speaker 1: ever thought about it? Just like grabbing my face and 170 00:07:49,640 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 1: kiss him. 171 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 2: No, no, no, But you know I did find interesting 172 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 2: from that conversation. Here we go, How did girls think 173 00:07:57,040 --> 00:07:59,360 Speaker 2: about having threesomes with that, like you have guys? 174 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 1: Okay, no, that needs context. 175 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:04,120 Speaker 2: I'm going to get it into the context. But like 176 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 2: how guys have like threesomes with their best mates? Like 177 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:10,840 Speaker 2: how would a girl best friend and a gay best 178 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:13,640 Speaker 2: friend have a threesome and we like we're discussing this 179 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:14,440 Speaker 2: last night. 180 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 1: Because I said, like, if anyone out of all my 181 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 1: friends I were to partake in a threesome, it would 182 00:08:20,200 --> 00:08:23,360 Speaker 1: probably be Bill. Do not take that out of context, 183 00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 1: because I'm never going to have a threesome and I'm 184 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 1: not having a threesome with Bill or any of my 185 00:08:27,560 --> 00:08:31,880 Speaker 1: friends for that matter. Not anything wrong with that, but 186 00:08:32,520 --> 00:08:34,880 Speaker 1: I was like, if I were, it would be with 187 00:08:34,920 --> 00:08:36,679 Speaker 1: Bill because we could probably laugh at that. 188 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:39,080 Speaker 2: You said you would prefer like someone else in the 189 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:40,319 Speaker 2: middle between us, so like. 190 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:42,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want to do anything with you, just 191 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:42,679 Speaker 1: be in the room. 192 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 2: But like that's what I mean, Like that is so 193 00:08:44,720 --> 00:08:47,800 Speaker 2: interesting to me, Like how like someone could be like 194 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:50,480 Speaker 2: doing something to you then I'm like fucking them with 195 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:53,480 Speaker 2: something and they're like high fiving, Like it would. 196 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:57,000 Speaker 1: Just be funny. We would just be laughing. But I'm like, like, 197 00:08:57,080 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 1: if its gonna be like an intimate experience, that. 198 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:02,240 Speaker 2: Is such a new social construct, Like like I feel 199 00:09:02,240 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 2: like that would be Like I think too, has anyone 200 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:04,880 Speaker 2: done that. 201 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 1: You're straight men having better like best mates having a 202 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:09,680 Speaker 1: threesome with another woman. I think that's weird. 203 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:12,839 Speaker 2: I need any girls out here listening, have you had 204 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:15,200 Speaker 2: any threesomes with your gay best friend? I want to 205 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:18,400 Speaker 2: hear the story. I need to hear it. Details, how 206 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 2: it happens, what positions did you do, did they touch you? 207 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 2: Did you like it? Did you finish? 208 00:09:25,240 --> 00:09:27,040 Speaker 1: Did you finish? 209 00:09:27,840 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 2: I need to know. Yeah, that's a cool construction. 210 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 1: The answer to the question is no, We've never fucked. 211 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:34,760 Speaker 1: We've pecked. 212 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:40,800 Speaker 2: We've pecks we're kissed all the time. Not like that though, 213 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:42,520 Speaker 2: I come home. 214 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, But apart from that, no yet. Next question, Bill 215 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:52,520 Speaker 1: advised on how to separate yourself from the crowd and 216 00:09:52,559 --> 00:09:54,400 Speaker 1: toxic people? What would you say? 217 00:09:54,679 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 2: Fuck? It just comes down to who you are as 218 00:09:57,040 --> 00:10:00,640 Speaker 2: a person, Like I'm always like the biggest advocate for 219 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 2: being your true authentic self, and that might be a journey. 220 00:10:04,440 --> 00:10:07,080 Speaker 2: But giving into other people and doing what other people 221 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:11,400 Speaker 2: want and doing things that aren't morally aligned with you, 222 00:10:12,679 --> 00:10:14,880 Speaker 2: that's the only way you can What was the question? 223 00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, how would you separate yourself from like a toxic 224 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:23,079 Speaker 1: crowd of people or like toxic people around you? How 225 00:10:23,080 --> 00:10:23,720 Speaker 1: would you do that? 226 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:25,920 Speaker 2: Yeah? I guess yeah, just like staying true to your morals, 227 00:10:26,120 --> 00:10:27,959 Speaker 2: staying true to who you are, and if someone isn't 228 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:30,839 Speaker 2: aligning with your morals, then don't change yourself to be 229 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 2: I just say. 230 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:35,200 Speaker 1: Move in silence. Yeah, Like, I just don't think you 231 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:37,920 Speaker 1: need to explain yourself and over explain as to why 232 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:40,959 Speaker 1: something didn't, like, yeah, morally align with you or anything 233 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 1: like that. Like I always say, like at my age, 234 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:46,120 Speaker 1: I'm like, if you haven't learned at twenty three, twenty 235 00:10:46,120 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 1: four that that that's wrong action, I shouldn't explain to you. 236 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:52,400 Speaker 1: Why do you know what I mean? So I just 237 00:10:52,400 --> 00:10:53,400 Speaker 1: like walk away in peace. 238 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:57,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. But you like to say I'm awful, like telling 239 00:10:57,160 --> 00:11:01,280 Speaker 2: people to kill Yeah. But also if something doesn't align 240 00:11:01,320 --> 00:11:03,840 Speaker 2: with who you are as a person and you're doing 241 00:11:03,840 --> 00:11:06,960 Speaker 2: it to either fit in or to be comfortable in 242 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:09,680 Speaker 2: the long run, it's it's not worth it, and it's 243 00:11:10,040 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 2: just gonna change you as a person and change your 244 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 2: moral alignment. And that's just had to be honest. Go 245 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:18,720 Speaker 2: find your people. There's people that you were aligned with 246 00:11:18,880 --> 00:11:21,840 Speaker 2: in life everywhere. You just have to be open to 247 00:11:22,440 --> 00:11:23,240 Speaker 2: figuring that out. 248 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 1: Tea tea, what's your favorite sash, funniest rumor that's been 249 00:11:28,520 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 1: made up about you? 250 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:30,640 Speaker 2: Oh my fucking god. 251 00:11:32,800 --> 00:11:34,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, fuck where do I start. 252 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:37,040 Speaker 2: I haven't known. There's like there's so many. 253 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:38,079 Speaker 1: One that I'm a town bike. 254 00:11:38,440 --> 00:11:39,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a really good one. 255 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:40,679 Speaker 1: That's just like the funniest one. 256 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:41,679 Speaker 2: Not really fucked. 257 00:11:41,720 --> 00:11:44,240 Speaker 1: Oh that I fucked someone in the Mson bathroom. That's 258 00:11:44,480 --> 00:11:45,440 Speaker 1: crazy behavior. 259 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 2: There's nothing too crazy or I actually no, to be honest, 260 00:11:50,040 --> 00:11:51,960 Speaker 2: I just don't even I didn't even read it. Oh, 261 00:11:52,280 --> 00:11:54,280 Speaker 2: probably that I'm not that original. 262 00:11:54,800 --> 00:11:57,720 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, there's this ship that just hates us and 263 00:11:57,760 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 1: she just absolutely goes ham. And then when a build 264 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:02,880 Speaker 1: the other day, being like you're not even indigenous, like 265 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 1: take it out of your bio. It's like, do you 266 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:07,280 Speaker 1: know my ancestry donating? 267 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:12,439 Speaker 2: So many people think that I'm living off my mum's inheritance. 268 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:14,000 Speaker 2: I get that comment all. 269 00:12:13,880 --> 00:12:16,120 Speaker 1: The time that I'd be so offended by that because 270 00:12:16,120 --> 00:12:18,200 Speaker 1: you literally like paid for her treatment. 271 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:20,959 Speaker 2: Yeah, or paid for and everything. I fucking wish I 272 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:23,040 Speaker 2: could live off she had. 273 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: One. Listen, someone says, do you guys think you guys 274 00:12:29,720 --> 00:12:31,199 Speaker 1: were together in another life? 275 00:12:31,640 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 2: Yeah? 276 00:12:32,679 --> 00:12:36,840 Speaker 1: I think we were like related or there was something 277 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:41,360 Speaker 1: together in another life. Like some people think we look 278 00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:42,160 Speaker 1: like siblings. 279 00:12:42,320 --> 00:12:45,400 Speaker 2: I see it sometimes too, same like. 280 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:48,360 Speaker 1: Like my mom like will call us and she'll be like, oh, 281 00:12:48,400 --> 00:12:49,360 Speaker 1: there's my kids. 282 00:12:50,200 --> 00:12:52,720 Speaker 2: She's so cute. But I'll list see it. 283 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:53,440 Speaker 1: Yeah. 284 00:12:53,640 --> 00:12:55,679 Speaker 2: Even when I posted that VideA the other day, just 285 00:12:55,679 --> 00:12:57,120 Speaker 2: like a lip sinking one, I was. 286 00:12:57,160 --> 00:13:00,320 Speaker 1: Like, she kind of look if I had my like, 287 00:13:00,559 --> 00:13:01,959 Speaker 1: if I didn't have any blonde in my hair, I 288 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:03,000 Speaker 1: think it would look yeah. 289 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:05,959 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's their hair. Yeah, And like, we can't both 290 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:09,559 Speaker 2: have pretty eyes, not to be like self absorbed talk 291 00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:12,760 Speaker 2: about how pretty my eyes are. We have pretty eyes. 292 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:14,240 Speaker 2: I love looking into yours. 293 00:13:14,679 --> 00:13:16,880 Speaker 1: Real he wants to fuck me, but I'm the only 294 00:13:16,920 --> 00:13:23,400 Speaker 1: one who says no. All right, So we're gonna get 295 00:13:23,400 --> 00:13:27,240 Speaker 1: into some dating advice because some girls messaged us they 296 00:13:27,280 --> 00:13:30,640 Speaker 1: want to hear some dating advice, and Bill loves to 297 00:13:30,679 --> 00:13:32,480 Speaker 1: give me dating advice. 298 00:13:32,960 --> 00:13:35,280 Speaker 2: Wait, before we get into the advice, let's talk about 299 00:13:35,320 --> 00:13:38,280 Speaker 2: us for a second. Okay, how's your dating life? Oh, 300 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:45,839 Speaker 2: I'm just asking, don't shoot the message up. Hold up, 301 00:13:47,240 --> 00:13:50,160 Speaker 2: why are you going to shy what's happened? What's happened? 302 00:13:52,720 --> 00:13:54,760 Speaker 1: Because I've kept it so private. 303 00:13:55,480 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 2: Oh, I'm not asking you to exploit it. I'm just 304 00:13:57,520 --> 00:13:59,320 Speaker 2: asking you to tell me how your dating life is. 305 00:14:01,080 --> 00:14:03,560 Speaker 1: That's exploiting it. 306 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:05,280 Speaker 2: Say it's good. Is it good? Yes, it's really shit, 307 00:14:05,360 --> 00:14:05,720 Speaker 2: isn't it. 308 00:14:09,040 --> 00:14:11,480 Speaker 1: My dating life is really good at the moment. 309 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:14,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, Well it's like your consensus, like going from a 310 00:14:14,480 --> 00:14:18,160 Speaker 2: public relationship to then trying to have a man that 311 00:14:18,160 --> 00:14:19,040 Speaker 2: could be hidden. 312 00:14:19,560 --> 00:14:22,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, this one I haven't even like put in the 313 00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:25,480 Speaker 1: background of a photo. Yeah, dating life is really good. 314 00:14:26,080 --> 00:14:28,800 Speaker 1: I don't have a boyfriend, but I guess you could 315 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:30,400 Speaker 1: say I'm seeing someone, but. 316 00:14:30,400 --> 00:14:32,760 Speaker 2: Like just seeing the general consensus, like the way you're 317 00:14:32,760 --> 00:14:35,680 Speaker 2: going about dating, I'm just going with the flow different 318 00:14:35,720 --> 00:14:39,240 Speaker 2: to how you were. Would you say you're not posting 319 00:14:39,280 --> 00:14:40,360 Speaker 2: tiktoks these days? 320 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:44,200 Speaker 1: So yeah, I'm not really in the phase of like 321 00:14:44,280 --> 00:14:47,360 Speaker 1: I'm like overtly looking for a boyfriend and everything like that. 322 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:49,520 Speaker 1: Like this situation has kind of fell into my lap 323 00:14:49,560 --> 00:14:52,240 Speaker 1: and I'm just like riding the wave. But it is 324 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:55,720 Speaker 1: very important to me to have privacy and to like 325 00:14:55,800 --> 00:14:58,760 Speaker 1: not even spark things that make people then even go 326 00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:03,040 Speaker 1: looking anymore, because I think I used to like since 327 00:15:03,040 --> 00:15:06,640 Speaker 1: my last relationship, I didn't date Australians, and now this 328 00:15:06,680 --> 00:15:10,120 Speaker 1: person is in Australia that I'm like connected, you know, 329 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:12,920 Speaker 1: So I'm like, I'm not even gonna talk about it, 330 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:16,880 Speaker 1: and everyone loves to have opinions, and I don't want 331 00:15:17,040 --> 00:15:22,040 Speaker 1: an opinion for my own, thank you. So I'm just 332 00:15:22,040 --> 00:15:25,280 Speaker 1: like riding the wave and just doing that's good. 333 00:15:25,640 --> 00:15:28,080 Speaker 2: I think that's what that journey in that growth does 334 00:15:28,120 --> 00:15:31,400 Speaker 2: to you. It's how important is to keep that stuff private. 335 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:35,880 Speaker 1: Yes, and never say never like I never will have 336 00:15:35,920 --> 00:15:38,600 Speaker 1: been like I'll never share my relationship ever again, but 337 00:15:38,840 --> 00:15:41,520 Speaker 1: like it will never be like a center of my yea, 338 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:43,200 Speaker 1: they might like be in a dump. 339 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:47,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm on the high road of I'm not posting 340 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:49,960 Speaker 2: my next relationship until there's a ring on my finger. 341 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:52,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, but you also talk about dates. 342 00:15:52,560 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, and how crazy I haven't spoken. 343 00:15:54,120 --> 00:15:56,560 Speaker 1: About Yeah, I know I told you not to once. 344 00:15:56,680 --> 00:15:58,800 Speaker 2: And you know what, guys, I'm going to post my 345 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:01,560 Speaker 2: next relationship. Give me be big fat love heart over 346 00:16:01,600 --> 00:16:03,480 Speaker 2: the face like a baby like this can be. 347 00:16:03,920 --> 00:16:06,720 Speaker 1: But I think that creates more like everyone then goes 348 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:09,280 Speaker 1: really searching for it because then they like go through 349 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:12,320 Speaker 1: your fucking followers and then they see like, oh, they 350 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:13,040 Speaker 1: were there, they're there. 351 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:14,600 Speaker 2: At the same time, I fear there's too many that 352 00:16:14,600 --> 00:16:18,160 Speaker 2: could be your potentials on there. I find the shit, 353 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:20,920 Speaker 2: but also I don't care people find out. 354 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 1: I don't care if people find out, like people know, 355 00:16:23,040 --> 00:16:25,720 Speaker 1: people message me about it, like people or like people 356 00:16:25,720 --> 00:16:28,000 Speaker 1: have seen us out in public. But it's not like 357 00:16:28,040 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 1: I'm going to go posting up. 358 00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:32,720 Speaker 2: But I think it's so cringe these days to yeah hard. 359 00:16:32,640 --> 00:16:35,080 Speaker 1: Launch, No soft launch is so good. 360 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:37,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, soft launch would a hand on the leg. 361 00:16:38,680 --> 00:16:40,760 Speaker 1: But I wouldn't soft launch until like six months into 362 00:16:40,760 --> 00:16:45,080 Speaker 1: a relationship because I'm like, at this stage, there's always 363 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:47,000 Speaker 1: they're always three months crazy. 364 00:16:47,080 --> 00:16:48,840 Speaker 2: I don't think I've ever lasted three months. 365 00:16:49,080 --> 00:16:52,280 Speaker 1: How's your dating life? You're booked and fucking busy, bro, 366 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:54,320 Speaker 1: Do tell them that you are? 367 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:58,880 Speaker 2: Really? Yes, I just think I'm open to experiences. 368 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:01,560 Speaker 1: I'm open to Well, you said you met your husband 369 00:17:01,680 --> 00:17:02,360 Speaker 1: last week, so. 370 00:17:02,920 --> 00:17:05,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, I did meet somebody that I think is potential candidate, 371 00:17:06,280 --> 00:17:09,040 Speaker 2: has a lot of values and attributes I really appreciate. 372 00:17:09,840 --> 00:17:12,520 Speaker 2: But if it's meant to be, it'll be. That's why 373 00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:15,000 Speaker 2: I'm really gonna going with. And I've always had this 374 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:17,479 Speaker 2: thing where as soon as I'm interested in one person, 375 00:17:17,800 --> 00:17:18,760 Speaker 2: they all just flock. 376 00:17:19,320 --> 00:17:22,000 Speaker 1: And this is always how it goes, always I will. 377 00:17:22,160 --> 00:17:25,680 Speaker 2: I literally went seven months celibate, not a single. 378 00:17:25,400 --> 00:17:31,440 Speaker 1: Man till Sunday you got that big. 379 00:17:33,359 --> 00:17:38,280 Speaker 2: It was like, I'll big my chicks and I was 380 00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:41,560 Speaker 2: locked away. No one showed any interest. 381 00:17:41,680 --> 00:17:45,080 Speaker 1: And then he goes comes home see him that night. 382 00:17:48,680 --> 00:17:52,720 Speaker 2: That girl, I'm posting it. 383 00:17:56,680 --> 00:17:59,320 Speaker 1: I'm doing this is why you're not allowed to come 384 00:17:59,359 --> 00:18:10,520 Speaker 1: away my book. Anyway, we're getting into some taking advice. 385 00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 1: That's why we were such so energetic. 386 00:18:15,359 --> 00:18:20,000 Speaker 2: We were overdo for a service. We've got that oil change. 387 00:18:19,800 --> 00:18:20,800 Speaker 1: If we're glowing, you know what. 388 00:18:22,119 --> 00:18:23,960 Speaker 2: Okay, I love it that we're kind of in the 389 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:25,160 Speaker 2: same era though we are. 390 00:18:25,520 --> 00:18:27,639 Speaker 1: Yeah, oh you're seeing multiple people. 391 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:31,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, wom only's sleeping with one. But I'm just really 392 00:18:32,160 --> 00:18:35,160 Speaker 2: pulling out the options. My biggest thing is I'm never 393 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:37,760 Speaker 2: going to be ready for a relationship. No, I'm always ready. 394 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:39,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, you said that about me last night. 395 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:42,240 Speaker 2: Someone's could be ready for me. Yeah, because I'm a lot. 396 00:18:42,560 --> 00:18:46,000 Speaker 1: I liked when you said that to me. Okay, I 397 00:18:46,040 --> 00:18:48,440 Speaker 1: want to see my boyfriend more often, but he likes 398 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:51,240 Speaker 1: to see me twice weekly at Max. Am I needy? 399 00:18:51,680 --> 00:18:57,159 Speaker 2: No, But it's all about balance. Sam Needy, I'm not needy, 400 00:18:57,280 --> 00:19:00,879 Speaker 2: Sam Needy, really needy Needy. 401 00:19:01,400 --> 00:19:03,639 Speaker 1: I could happily not see you for a couple of days. 402 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:06,040 Speaker 1: It's him, well, her. 403 00:19:05,920 --> 00:19:09,639 Speaker 2: Other half is needy. Having that routine where you still 404 00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 2: do everything that you want to do in prioritize yourself 405 00:19:12,600 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 2: and you still see them is a healthy balance. 406 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:19,600 Speaker 1: I think I'm doing that though, Yeah, he doesn't agree. 407 00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:22,920 Speaker 1: I think in the early stages, when you're obviously really 408 00:19:22,920 --> 00:19:25,240 Speaker 1: excited to be around them and everything like that, you're 409 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:27,360 Speaker 1: like you see them a lot more often. But once 410 00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:29,560 Speaker 1: that kind of novelty wears off, like getting into a 411 00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:33,120 Speaker 1: routine and like doing things is like for yourself, is. 412 00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:36,760 Speaker 2: It's all individual, like some people need more attention than others. 413 00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:38,760 Speaker 1: And I also think, like if you have a full 414 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:42,119 Speaker 1: time job, twice a week is fine. Yeah, like staying 415 00:19:42,160 --> 00:19:44,240 Speaker 1: into a routine, going to the gym after work, like 416 00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:46,960 Speaker 1: doing all that shit, like that's normal. See them on 417 00:19:46,960 --> 00:19:49,679 Speaker 1: the weekend, like see them Friday and Sunday night, Like 418 00:19:49,800 --> 00:19:51,240 Speaker 1: I think that's completely normal. 419 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:54,440 Speaker 2: But like twice a week could literally be like a 420 00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:57,159 Speaker 2: Wednesday night during the week, you see them Thursday morning, 421 00:19:57,320 --> 00:19:59,360 Speaker 2: you go, guys both go to work, and might see 422 00:19:59,359 --> 00:20:01,320 Speaker 2: them on Saturday, yeah into Sunday. 423 00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:04,920 Speaker 1: I think that's quite fine. Yeah, But like I think 424 00:20:04,960 --> 00:20:07,200 Speaker 1: it was. If it's like no more than three times 425 00:20:07,240 --> 00:20:09,520 Speaker 1: a week, I'm like, okay, we're not putting in rules here. 426 00:20:09,560 --> 00:20:12,800 Speaker 1: If it happens, it happens. But like, I also don't 427 00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:15,760 Speaker 1: think like when you see someone at night that's like 428 00:20:15,880 --> 00:20:18,640 Speaker 1: exclude like actually making effort to hang out with us, 429 00:20:19,280 --> 00:20:22,600 Speaker 1: Like I like don't think view that as like we're 430 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:25,320 Speaker 1: hanging out, like you're just going to sleep. So like 431 00:20:25,359 --> 00:20:27,200 Speaker 1: if you come over to my house at like ten 432 00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:28,880 Speaker 1: pm just so we can sleep, like, I don't think 433 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:32,720 Speaker 1: that's hanging out. I just like to sleep. I will 434 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:35,840 Speaker 1: admit I'm needy when it comes to sleep. I'm needy 435 00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 1: when it comes to sleep because I've got insomnia. And 436 00:20:37,560 --> 00:20:39,879 Speaker 1: I fall asleep easier when someone else is in my 437 00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:41,200 Speaker 1: bed because it helps me not overthink. 438 00:20:41,840 --> 00:20:43,320 Speaker 2: Do you fall asleep easy when you're next to me? 439 00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:46,440 Speaker 1: Yes? I fall asleep when somebody else is there because 440 00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:49,480 Speaker 1: it stops me from overthinking. It's like actually like it 441 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:52,359 Speaker 1: needs to be studied. Really, it's when I'm in company 442 00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:54,159 Speaker 1: when someone's better don't let myself spiral. 443 00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:56,119 Speaker 2: Should take that offer up more then. 444 00:20:56,320 --> 00:21:00,639 Speaker 1: Sleeping with you. Oh, if like if I day at 445 00:21:01,480 --> 00:21:04,760 Speaker 1: your if I was staying alone last night. I'm really 446 00:21:04,760 --> 00:21:07,360 Speaker 1: exposing myself here. I would have probably slept in your bed. 447 00:21:07,520 --> 00:21:10,560 Speaker 1: Oh perfect, Yeah, or if I had, like if I had, 448 00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:12,960 Speaker 1: I'm having really bad insomnia because of my ADHD medication, 449 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:15,359 Speaker 1: which I'm actually feeling really good right now, like I'm 450 00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:16,119 Speaker 1: not feeling scart. 451 00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:18,159 Speaker 2: I took it this morning, perfect. What time do you 452 00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:18,479 Speaker 2: take it? 453 00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 1: Seven am? I would have probably if I woke up 454 00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:22,119 Speaker 1: in the middle of a night, I would have come 455 00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:23,800 Speaker 1: into your room just because it would have helped me 456 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:24,440 Speaker 1: fall back a sleep. 457 00:21:24,760 --> 00:21:27,000 Speaker 2: God bless that makes me happy. 458 00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:29,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, but how do you say, like, do you think 459 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:30,440 Speaker 1: that's needy by wanting. 460 00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:32,280 Speaker 2: To see I think it's so circumstantial. Some people need 461 00:21:32,359 --> 00:21:34,680 Speaker 2: more time. It depends on your schedule, It depends on 462 00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:36,800 Speaker 2: your If you're doing nothing during. 463 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:38,280 Speaker 1: The wig, you're both doing nothing. 464 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:41,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, then twice week you're like okay, Like that's a 465 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:47,120 Speaker 2: little bit weird. But also relationships about someone else's needs 466 00:21:47,160 --> 00:21:51,080 Speaker 2: as well. Someone's someone else's needs is okay, that they 467 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:57,520 Speaker 2: really love quality time, then it's quality time. Then sorry, 468 00:21:58,080 --> 00:22:00,239 Speaker 2: you're gonna break up. It's not gonna work. It's going 469 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:01,399 Speaker 2: to be too much of an issue. 470 00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:03,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, but the relationships go through phases, like you see 471 00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:05,439 Speaker 1: each other more often, you see each other, not like 472 00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:08,920 Speaker 1: I don't think you're needy. I wouldn't label yourself as 473 00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:12,080 Speaker 1: needy with like negative connotation. If you have needs and 474 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:14,919 Speaker 1: they're not being met, yeah, that's indicate that. 475 00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:19,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, and express that and come up with a resolution 476 00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:21,760 Speaker 2: that might be just you know, if his two days 477 00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:25,080 Speaker 2: are only like consecutive and maybe they're not consecutive days, 478 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:28,400 Speaker 2: or split it up. Yeah, maybe one more day or 479 00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:30,560 Speaker 2: meet up for coffee or whatever it might. 480 00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:34,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, like sometimes it doesn't need to have a sleepover. Yeah, 481 00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:37,600 Speaker 1: what to do with your boyfriend's ex is clearly obsessed 482 00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:38,240 Speaker 1: with him? 483 00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:41,840 Speaker 2: If your boyfriend's X is he obsessed with a new guy? 484 00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:43,960 Speaker 1: No, is like still obsessed with him? 485 00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:46,760 Speaker 2: The ex is still obsessed. 486 00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:47,600 Speaker 1: Yes, with your boyfriend. 487 00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:50,040 Speaker 2: Right, that's a hard one. 488 00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:53,520 Speaker 1: I would say, block them. Yeah, I block them. I 489 00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:56,920 Speaker 1: block all my like not because like it's like oh 490 00:22:57,000 --> 00:23:00,439 Speaker 1: fuck you and everything like that, but it's like I 491 00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:05,520 Speaker 1: have experienced in my ex'es X was obsessed with me 492 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:10,320 Speaker 1: and him, right, Oh yes, yes, And I just blocked 493 00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:13,320 Speaker 1: her so she couldn't see it all the time. Because 494 00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:15,600 Speaker 1: it's like you just stalk and you get obsessed with 495 00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:17,959 Speaker 1: it and everything like that, like out of side, out 496 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:18,359 Speaker 1: of mind. 497 00:23:18,800 --> 00:23:22,000 Speaker 2: I also think you never know what that past relationship was, 498 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:25,480 Speaker 2: and it could be so so mutuous and so hurtful, 499 00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:28,600 Speaker 2: and for some people that grieving and going through that 500 00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:32,840 Speaker 2: process is really really hard, and like even I've been 501 00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:36,480 Speaker 2: through it. Sometimes you know there's you might get signs 502 00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 2: or they might do little things that their new relationship 503 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:43,760 Speaker 2: might not see, but it triggers the other person and 504 00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:48,640 Speaker 2: gives them hope or gives them some sort of inkling. 505 00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:52,240 Speaker 1: And you also don't know what you're like, and I'm 506 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,159 Speaker 1: sorry to maybe get into your head. You don't know 507 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:57,400 Speaker 1: what your boyfriend has said to them, Like for example, 508 00:23:57,440 --> 00:23:59,320 Speaker 1: they would be like I always want to get back 509 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:02,040 Speaker 1: with you. I always love you. Like they might have 510 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:06,680 Speaker 1: emotionally manipulated them so much that it's like they're obsessed 511 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:08,440 Speaker 1: with it because it's like you said all that shit 512 00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:10,720 Speaker 1: to me, like how dare you fucking just go get 513 00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:14,160 Speaker 1: a new girlfriend? And then your new boyfriend now goes like, oh, 514 00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,359 Speaker 1: she's crazy, she's obsessed with me, YadA, YadA, YadA. But 515 00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:18,480 Speaker 1: it's like what did you do to make her like this? 516 00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,879 Speaker 1: So I'm like let's not victimize. 517 00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 2: And like crazy my exit so long, I just thinking 518 00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:28,000 Speaker 2: that that's the exact thing that I went through. Yes, 519 00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:30,040 Speaker 2: my ex told me that we're going to get back 520 00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:33,080 Speaker 2: to it. I'm moving to Australia in September. We're like 521 00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:35,639 Speaker 2: we're gonna work this out, like we're going to be together. 522 00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,640 Speaker 1: So then it makes you crazy when they fucking launch 523 00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:39,320 Speaker 1: a new boyfriend. 524 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:43,400 Speaker 2: It launches a whole new relationship. Of course that affected 525 00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:46,520 Speaker 2: me and that made me fucked up for so long. Yeah, 526 00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:49,960 Speaker 2: but I mean, yeah, I did last them on the internet. 527 00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:54,280 Speaker 2: But my mind behind it would have been like, Okay, 528 00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:56,680 Speaker 2: how can you feel so strongly one way and then 529 00:24:56,760 --> 00:25:01,280 Speaker 2: now so opposite the next, Like something doesn't does not 530 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:05,680 Speaker 2: make sense. And I think if I wasn't strong enough 531 00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:10,160 Speaker 2: to go through that, I would have appreciated a message 532 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 2: maybe from the new new relationship, just to be like hey, 533 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:17,720 Speaker 2: like we've moved on, or like we've done this, like 534 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,080 Speaker 2: we're really happy, Like I'm so sorry it's the way 535 00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:22,399 Speaker 2: it is. Would put me so much more at ease 536 00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:26,119 Speaker 2: than fighting in my own mind and healing myself and 537 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:28,800 Speaker 2: having to go through therapy and yeah, all of that 538 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:32,920 Speaker 2: would have been so much easier if it was just communicated. 539 00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:35,119 Speaker 1: I think as well. Yeah, like it don't victimize your 540 00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,439 Speaker 1: boyfriend and think that he's not done anything wrong in that, 541 00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:41,120 Speaker 1: because obviously this girl's hurt and she's like affected by 542 00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:45,000 Speaker 1: this kid. Like if she's doing stuff that's like openly 543 00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:48,119 Speaker 1: like impacting your relationship, or she's like filtering in on 544 00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:50,919 Speaker 1: your relationship, if she's just like stalking you here and 545 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,280 Speaker 1: there all like stuff like that, then ignore her, like 546 00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:56,520 Speaker 1: let her heal, Like that's process. Yeah, we've all been there. 547 00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:57,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. 548 00:25:57,640 --> 00:26:02,200 Speaker 1: Play the game, but if she's actually like imposing on you, 549 00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:04,920 Speaker 1: I think just send her a nice message and don't 550 00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:07,359 Speaker 1: pin girls against girls. Like at the end of the day, 551 00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:10,080 Speaker 1: you're now in his life and he was in hers, 552 00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:13,399 Speaker 1: Like it's the man like just be like, hey, I 553 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:15,600 Speaker 1: just want to let you know, like this is the 554 00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:18,080 Speaker 1: new relationship. I'm so sorry if something was said or 555 00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:20,040 Speaker 1: something was done, but like I would really respect if 556 00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:22,480 Speaker 1: you respect our new relationship, and like I'm so sorry 557 00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 1: that you're hurting at the moment, but like I think. 558 00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:28,600 Speaker 2: We should normalize that. Yeah, it's like a hay girly message. 559 00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:29,400 Speaker 1: Like I'm scared of them. 560 00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:33,199 Speaker 2: But like they should be so normalized. Yeah, just like 561 00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:36,359 Speaker 2: if a crazy ex or if someone's so hurt from 562 00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:40,080 Speaker 2: past relationship and they're affecting you on your relationship the communicy, 563 00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:43,640 Speaker 2: can community communicate that and have a conversation with that person, 564 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 2: because one that's gonna help you in your relationship and 565 00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:47,960 Speaker 2: that's going to help their healing so much more. 566 00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:50,399 Speaker 1: Yeah, And if your boyfriend is like, no, you're doing 567 00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:52,200 Speaker 1: message and don't message them, and it's like, Okay, you've 568 00:26:52,200 --> 00:27:00,639 Speaker 1: done something wrong yet red flag redla You're when we 569 00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:02,879 Speaker 1: hang out, he just goes on his phone or finds 570 00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:04,760 Speaker 1: something else to do, like hello. 571 00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:09,760 Speaker 2: I think again, that's so circumstantial. If somebody is when 572 00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:13,480 Speaker 2: I'm hungover and like I don't feel like communicating, but 573 00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:16,080 Speaker 2: I want someone in my presence and I just want 574 00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:19,640 Speaker 2: that quality time. That's also such in the point part 575 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:21,159 Speaker 2: of a relationship where you don't feel like you need 576 00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:22,720 Speaker 2: to entertain someone all the time. 577 00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:25,439 Speaker 1: Yes, but then there's also like there has to be 578 00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:28,800 Speaker 1: a balance, Yeah, Like if it's all the time, like 579 00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:32,160 Speaker 1: if you're hanging out during the day and like you're 580 00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:34,760 Speaker 1: at the beach and there's like no conversations going on 581 00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:36,760 Speaker 1: and there's like he's just sitting on his phone and 582 00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:39,480 Speaker 1: it's like watch the footing fact, Like what am I 583 00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:42,399 Speaker 1: doing here? I can't understand how that's training. But like 584 00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,439 Speaker 1: if it's at nighttime and you're just chilling, it's like 585 00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:47,040 Speaker 1: we don't really want to speak to you. 586 00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:49,800 Speaker 2: Actually. I mean, I think my biggest thing, even with friendships, 587 00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:54,480 Speaker 2: I know how much the relationship means to. 588 00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 1: Me when you can see in time, when I can see. 589 00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:58,240 Speaker 2: In silence with them and does not feel awkward, do 590 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,399 Speaker 2: not feel like I have to entertain. That's like the 591 00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:06,000 Speaker 2: epitome of friendship relationship feeling natural. 592 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:09,600 Speaker 1: I think it's sometimes though, like I'll like if they're 593 00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:11,840 Speaker 1: on their phone or something too much, I'll like hit 594 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:13,680 Speaker 1: their phone out of the hand, like make it aware 595 00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:16,320 Speaker 1: that you're like you're observing that they're on on it 596 00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:18,480 Speaker 1: too much. Or I'll just be like oh good, I'll 597 00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:21,120 Speaker 1: just go fuck myself. Yeah, like oh yeah, good chat 598 00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:23,639 Speaker 1: or something like that. Like I like have like subtle 599 00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:28,200 Speaker 1: digs and it's like I'm aware that, like you're wasting 600 00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:30,640 Speaker 1: my time here, like if it's at nighttime or something 601 00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:32,200 Speaker 1: like that. But like if you're eating dinner or something 602 00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:33,760 Speaker 1: and they're on their phone. I'll be like, yeah, oh good, 603 00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:36,560 Speaker 1: I'll just fuck myself. Yeah, or like sometimes I pick 604 00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:38,960 Speaker 1: up the phone, like pick up my own phone and 605 00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:41,000 Speaker 1: just like speak to myself and be like, oh, just 606 00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:43,440 Speaker 1: having a conversation with myself because you're busy, Like you 607 00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:45,960 Speaker 1: just like take the piss, because then it becomes is 608 00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:48,440 Speaker 1: in their subconscious that they're like doing that, and then 609 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:50,400 Speaker 1: they'll probably put their phone down. You just got to 610 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:52,440 Speaker 1: bring it to their I just can't. 611 00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:57,239 Speaker 2: Stand unaware of people. Like if you're so unaware of 612 00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:02,680 Speaker 2: own doing and your actions, you're just a fucking idiot. 613 00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:04,680 Speaker 1: I can't s Yeah, but some people are just not 614 00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:05,200 Speaker 1: like that. 615 00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:08,520 Speaker 2: But like it's not that hard. Like even if I'm 616 00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:10,760 Speaker 2: on my phone and I'm with somebody, I'm I'm sorry, 617 00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:12,360 Speaker 2: like I just have to post this. I'm just working 618 00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:14,840 Speaker 2: right now, Like, yes, I need to do this. 619 00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:17,760 Speaker 1: But that's because our phones are on our our work 620 00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:19,960 Speaker 1: is on our phone, so we're so aware of being 621 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:20,560 Speaker 1: on our phone. 622 00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,400 Speaker 2: I think a lot of body I'm just like replied 623 00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:25,160 Speaker 2: to this person, I'm so sorry. I'll be one second. 624 00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:27,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I think it's a really hard 625 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:31,400 Speaker 1: one because everyone's addicted to their phones these days. Yeah, 626 00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:33,600 Speaker 1: how do I get over that one person? I never 627 00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:37,320 Speaker 1: dated it? Oh, fell in love with the potential. 628 00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:40,239 Speaker 2: It is the most hurtful thing. Like I think it 629 00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:41,520 Speaker 2: hurts more than a relationship. 630 00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:44,800 Speaker 1: It does. Situationship. They always say like situationships are harder 631 00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:47,160 Speaker 1: to get over with because you never got to ride 632 00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:49,920 Speaker 1: out the relationship and see, like what if when a 633 00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,360 Speaker 1: relationships and you're like, this is the whole reason why 634 00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:53,400 Speaker 1: I didn't end yeap. 635 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:58,200 Speaker 2: Honestly, I'm always an avid like if it's meant to be, 636 00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:02,040 Speaker 2: it'll be, And that's helped me in so many circumstances. 637 00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,880 Speaker 2: And I always think, like, you know what, they're kind 638 00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:10,720 Speaker 2: of ugly, Like why why did I actually even like them? 639 00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:13,920 Speaker 1: I just write out like all the red flags, yeah, 640 00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:15,640 Speaker 1: and remind yourself of like every time they made you 641 00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:16,480 Speaker 1: feel like shit. 642 00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:19,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, and just imagine them just being like a slot 643 00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:23,680 Speaker 2: and being really bad with the choice of people that 644 00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:26,360 Speaker 2: put their energy into and just make that makes you 645 00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:28,760 Speaker 2: kind of feel better, like imagine what you could have 646 00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:32,280 Speaker 2: given them, and then imagine all the like two other 647 00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:34,000 Speaker 2: tens that they're sleeping with a night on the night 648 00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:35,040 Speaker 2: out early. 649 00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:37,080 Speaker 1: I always say, like we just like gas light ourselves 650 00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:38,600 Speaker 1: and be like we will always be the one. 651 00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:41,320 Speaker 2: That got away. Yeah, Like you have to be delusions. 652 00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:42,680 Speaker 1: We're the one that got away. 653 00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:47,320 Speaker 2: Everything in life. Delusion is the solution. 654 00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:52,480 Speaker 1: Nobody really is. Just like, feed yourself yourself, fully, gaslight yourself, 655 00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:55,440 Speaker 1: give yourself those morning affirmations and look at yourself in 656 00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:57,400 Speaker 1: the mirror, and you will start to believe it. 657 00:30:57,520 --> 00:30:59,880 Speaker 2: Yeahs fucking everything. 658 00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:02,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, but like this person, I know. 659 00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:05,360 Speaker 2: It only hurts because you like you never got there. 660 00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,480 Speaker 2: When you got there, you'd be like, oh like yeah, 661 00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:11,000 Speaker 2: because I can promise you anyone that's meant for you 662 00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:14,560 Speaker 2: will never never miss you. It didn't happen for a reason. 663 00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:18,360 Speaker 2: And there's somebody else out there that is everything you've 664 00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:20,160 Speaker 2: ever wanted that's gonna find you. 665 00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:23,120 Speaker 1: And I always say, I think you'll disagree with me, 666 00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:26,560 Speaker 1: keep on going back until you're ready to walk away. 667 00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:29,640 Speaker 2: Oh no, I'm ever going back. I sent the message 668 00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,600 Speaker 2: last week being like, if if you want to see 669 00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:34,520 Speaker 2: me one last time, then this is your chance. Otherwise 670 00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:36,440 Speaker 2: I'm blocking you. And I mean I'll be back like 671 00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:37,440 Speaker 2: ten times on this. 672 00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:42,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I if someone disrespects me, like I will 673 00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:44,800 Speaker 1: never and it's like not that deep, like you'll never 674 00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:46,600 Speaker 1: hear from me ever again, like you won't talk to you. 675 00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:49,560 Speaker 1: But like if I'm not over you, like no matter 676 00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:51,360 Speaker 1: how many times my friends tell me, like, don't go 677 00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:52,920 Speaker 1: back there, don't go back there, you make the decision, 678 00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:54,800 Speaker 1: I'm like, I need to learn not to go back there. 679 00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:58,160 Speaker 1: It's when I walk away. Like I always say, someone 680 00:31:58,160 --> 00:32:01,280 Speaker 1: who's addicted to drugs, unless they themselves into rehab, they're 681 00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:03,440 Speaker 1: never going to get clean, Like, don't put them into 682 00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:05,600 Speaker 1: rehab because they don't want to get clean. If you're 683 00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:08,280 Speaker 1: like all of that stuff, like keep on going back 684 00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:10,600 Speaker 1: until one day you wake up and you're like, what 685 00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:11,480 Speaker 1: the fuck am I doing? 686 00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:13,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, find out who they truly are, because I can 687 00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:16,520 Speaker 2: promise you I will never allow myself to be treated 688 00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:19,760 Speaker 2: the way I wouldn't want my children to be treated, 689 00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:21,920 Speaker 2: Like if my children came to me and was like 690 00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:25,800 Speaker 2: this person's doing their even my friends, like I look 691 00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,920 Speaker 2: at I mean, I'm just I feel like I'm neuro divergent, 692 00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:30,480 Speaker 2: so I just look at things a little bit differently. 693 00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:33,440 Speaker 2: But looking at it on like from a third perspective, 694 00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:37,680 Speaker 2: when you truly like dissect it and understand it, it's 695 00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:39,240 Speaker 2: just never worth it, and maybe it's like more of 696 00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:43,920 Speaker 2: like a self esteem issue and like loving who you are, 697 00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:46,200 Speaker 2: Like you should love who you are so much that 698 00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:50,200 Speaker 2: anybody who gets access to that is so fucking lucky 699 00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:50,920 Speaker 2: to have that. 700 00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:52,680 Speaker 1: And that's what you're trying to teach me. 701 00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,760 Speaker 2: Yes, exactly, because I don't have a lot of self love. 702 00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:58,040 Speaker 2: You have a lot of self love. This just makes me. 703 00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:02,000 Speaker 1: Really upset that I don't love myself. Yeah, it's coming. 704 00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:06,000 Speaker 2: But like I mean, no, last time, no say it, 705 00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:09,480 Speaker 2: say it said, Okay, Well I will, Okay, I will. 706 00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:13,120 Speaker 2: I think a lot of people, not just including you, 707 00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:16,320 Speaker 2: a lot of people who struggle to see their own 708 00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:20,080 Speaker 2: beauty seek the validation to see the beauty through other 709 00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:20,840 Speaker 2: people's eyes. 710 00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:24,400 Speaker 1: I don't think I see validation externally because I hate 711 00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:25,360 Speaker 1: when people compliment me. 712 00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:30,120 Speaker 2: No, but it's like a subconscious like trauma response from 713 00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:33,120 Speaker 2: someone who, like from a young age, has either self 714 00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:37,520 Speaker 2: esteem yeah issues, or just has low self esteem. Yeah, 715 00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:40,560 Speaker 2: the validation to hear it is a normalized thing. I 716 00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:43,000 Speaker 2: don't think it's a bad thing at all, by the way, Yeah, 717 00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:47,200 Speaker 2: but the way you process validation isn't from that internal 718 00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:49,920 Speaker 2: validation and telling yourself that is from hearing it from 719 00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:53,360 Speaker 2: other people. Yeah, probably, whether if that's comments or whatever 720 00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:53,719 Speaker 2: it is. 721 00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:56,960 Speaker 1: But like I always say, like when someone says they 722 00:33:57,280 --> 00:33:58,960 Speaker 1: hate me and they find me so ugly and then 723 00:33:58,960 --> 00:34:01,120 Speaker 1: someone will also call me before, it means the same. 724 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:03,920 Speaker 2: But like the damage jud's the same, whether that's called 725 00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:07,640 Speaker 2: or bad. Right. You can't accept your own internal validation. 726 00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:10,920 Speaker 2: You've only learned to ever accept other people's validation and 727 00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:15,040 Speaker 2: other people's opinions on you. That's where all of that 728 00:34:15,239 --> 00:34:18,439 Speaker 2: internal Yeah. Fuck, I keep saying issues, but it's not issues, 729 00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:22,279 Speaker 2: like just the insecurity internal trauma comes from. Yeah, and 730 00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:25,720 Speaker 2: you're gonna get to I can guarantee you Sam. Guys, Sam, 731 00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:30,879 Speaker 2: after this month in Sydney, she's gonna have that internal validation. Yeah, 732 00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:31,919 Speaker 2: will you will. 733 00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:33,799 Speaker 1: You've got to surround yourself with people who do that 734 00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:34,080 Speaker 1: for you. 735 00:34:34,120 --> 00:34:35,600 Speaker 2: And you do that and you might think that I'm 736 00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:38,799 Speaker 2: like I push you into feeling certain ways where I'm like, Okay, 737 00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:40,640 Speaker 2: we're going for a driver singing songs and you're like 738 00:34:40,680 --> 00:34:42,200 Speaker 2: I don't want you, and I'm like no, I'm pulling 739 00:34:42,239 --> 00:34:43,560 Speaker 2: you by your fucking hair and you're getting in the 740 00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:45,040 Speaker 2: car because I just know that. 741 00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:46,960 Speaker 1: Okay, I'll listen to you, then. 742 00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:47,520 Speaker 2: Listen to me. 743 00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:48,920 Speaker 1: Okay, guess that. 744 00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:49,759 Speaker 2: Yes? 745 00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:52,000 Speaker 1: Well, thank you guys so much for joining us for 746 00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:54,920 Speaker 1: hotter than yesterday and Tuesday. Thanks Bill for coming on. 747 00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:57,600 Speaker 2: I hope you guys feel hotter than yesterday and that 748 00:34:57,719 --> 00:35:00,680 Speaker 2: you and your dating life is experienced a lot more 749 00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:02,000 Speaker 2: better things after our advice. 750 00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:04,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, because ours is pretty good. 751 00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:08,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you should be hotter than yesterday every single day, 752 00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:11,319 Speaker 2: one percent better, and you two would be the person 753 00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:12,320 Speaker 2: you ever dream of. 754 00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:15,839 Speaker 1: Ellell get that tattooed on you, all right, Bye, guys, 755 00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:20,000 Speaker 1: love y'all, Bye bye bye, Yeah Bride