Speaker 1: I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming.
Speaker 2: She how do I put this? Isn't a fan of
Speaker 2: my kissing style?
Speaker 1: Boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. He's in a
Speaker 1: trash bin. He's non recyclable catching her.
Speaker 2: I love being love. I love love.
Speaker 1: On today's episode of Where's Your Head Out, we are
Speaker 1: talking about our very first loves.
Speaker 2: We will be discussing how we knew we had found
Speaker 2: love or felt love, and how it felt to break up.
Speaker 1: Stay tuned to hear who we consider to be our
Speaker 1: very first loves. Where's Your Head At is a podcast
Speaker 1: that talks all things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows,
Speaker 1: and everything in between.
Speaker 2: This is your new go to destination for laughs, gossip,
Speaker 2: intimate details, advice, and much more. Hello, Math, Yesana, how
Speaker 2: are you today? What's going on?
Speaker 1: I'm really excited because Matt and I have the most
Speaker 1: scandalous story that we can finally tell you. We've been
Speaker 1: sitting on this literally since the start of our podcast launch.
Speaker 2: I'm quite nervous. I've got my I'm looking around. I
Speaker 2: don't know if we could be telling this story, but
Speaker 2: let's do it anyway. How were that? Fuck?
Speaker 1: It? This is a lot of tea all in one.
Speaker 1: So pre meeting Michael, I hooked up with this guy
Speaker 1: one night. He was a lawyer, and I told Matt's
Speaker 1: ex girlfriend at the time that I had hooked up
Speaker 1: with him. That's it, that's all I'm giving you. Now
Speaker 1: over to no All.
Speaker 2: I'll set the scene. I'm picking Anna up. We're coming
Speaker 2: into the studio to record another episode of Where's Your
Speaker 2: Head At? And I go, you know what, I need
Speaker 2: a caffeine here. The three coffees I've already had today
Speaker 2: are not hitting the spot. I need another one. So
Speaker 2: Anna lives close or on the same street as that
Speaker 2: ex that she just spoke about my most recent X
Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh, that offee shop. I know it's
Speaker 2: a good one that made me good coffees for like
Speaker 2: the whole of a year for me. I'm going to
Speaker 2: go there. And I was like, but there's a chance
Speaker 2: that she might be there, And I'm like, you know what,
Speaker 2: fifty to fifty chance. If she's walking the ten she
Speaker 2: goes to another one. If she's walking Olbert Parks, she
Speaker 2: goes to this one. And what are the chances that
Speaker 2: our schedules and the timing is going to a line.
Speaker 1: So Matt decided to roll the dice and I walk in.
Speaker 2: Everything's fine, and then I heard that infamous laugh and
Speaker 2: I swear to God, the fucking hairs on the back
Speaker 2: of my neck stood up. I'm like, you've done this
Speaker 2: to yourself, Maddie boy. You may as well just pay
Speaker 2: the piper. You've done it to yourself. So I say, hey,
Speaker 2: how you being. We get chatting, nothing on towards, just
Speaker 2: little chats here and there, and then saying how we are,
Speaker 2: what's been going on? Just you know, civil, which I
Speaker 2: was surprised about. That's good, yeah, always good, I'm a
Speaker 2: civil person. Yeah. She'd gone on to tell me that
Speaker 2: she'd seen someone and he was a lawyer. My ears
Speaker 2: perked up and I was like, a lawyer, you say,
Speaker 2: knowing that Anna had hooked up with a lawyer like
Speaker 2: over a year ago. So I was like, is it
Speaker 2: the same guy that Anna hooked up with? And she
Speaker 2: said yes, and I was like, oh, fair enough, Okay,
Speaker 2: I guess that's, you know, something out of my business.
Speaker 2: And I don't give a fuck who you're kissing, you
Speaker 2: know what I mean, It's not my problem. And then
Speaker 2: she said interestingly I actually asked him to write Cease
Speaker 2: and Desist against your podcast, and I was like, what, what,
Speaker 2: why would you do that? And then she was like, oh,
Speaker 2: you just mentioned me by name a couple of times.
Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, but it was nothing bad,
Speaker 2: Like I was just telling my side of what happened
Speaker 2: and all this sort of stuff, and she said, yeah,
Speaker 2: it was actually the infertility episode that pissed her off
Speaker 2: the most. And I was like, that had nothing to
Speaker 2: do with you. That was about my infertility, and all
Speaker 2: we laughed about it. We went our own ways, and
Speaker 2: then I went back to the car and I told
Speaker 2: you all about it, and we just had a laugh
Speaker 2: and we're like, yah, oh, you know, it is what
Speaker 2: it is. What it is unpredictable. Who knows them.
Speaker 1: I that same week went out to bar Bambi with
Speaker 1: my girlfriends and this guy, this lawyer, just happened to
Speaker 1: be there, which was very weird timing because I haven't
Speaker 1: seen him probably since the night I hooked up with him.
Speaker 2: So over a year ago.
Speaker 1: And then I had just found out that information that
Speaker 1: Matt's ex had been dating him for six months officially yeah,
Speaker 1: and that he had written our podcast to season desist,
Speaker 1: So of course, me being me, I was like, I
Speaker 1: want to ask this guy about this, like I'm shocked
Speaker 1: that he would do this because we got along really well.
Speaker 1: So anyway, he actually sent a round of drinks over
Speaker 1: to our table.
Speaker 2: What were they?
Speaker 1: Just some cocktails to the girls and me, which I
Speaker 1: immediately messaged Michael and was like, there's a boy sending
Speaker 1: me cocktails and I did kiss him one night.
Speaker 2: Nice honest, did you take his cocktail? Well?
Speaker 1: I mean I didn't want to like stop the other
Speaker 1: girls from getting free drinks. I just obliged. But anyway,
Speaker 1: he actually and came and sat down at our table
Speaker 1: and was like do you want.
Speaker 2: To come and join You don't take the drink, so.
Speaker 1: He was like do you want to come join us
Speaker 1: at like a bigger booth that he had, and I
Speaker 1: was like, no, we'll be okay. But interestingly, I did
Speaker 1: hear that you dated Matt's X And he was like, oh,
Speaker 1: very short period of time, like not very long. And
Speaker 1: I was like, I also heard that you wrote my
Speaker 1: podcast to cease and desist and he was like how
Speaker 1: do you know that? And I was like because Matt's
Speaker 1: X told him? And then Matt told me, and he like,
Speaker 1: I'm not even kidding. I wish I could have made
Speaker 1: this up, Like you couldn't even write this shit. He
Speaker 1: then said to me, well, you didn't reply back to
Speaker 1: my text message, so when she asked me to write
Speaker 1: it up, of course I was going to write it up.
Speaker 1: And I was like, so basically I ghosted you. So
Speaker 1: now I'm being punished with a seasoned assist. I mean yeah,
Speaker 1: I was just kind of wondering, like, what is the
Speaker 1: ethics of that? Like, is that ethical? I don't know,
Speaker 1: where's your head out? Fam? Let me know.
Speaker 2: Look, is this a warning for everyone? Be careful who
Speaker 2: you ghost.
Speaker 1: Be careful who you date. Definitely don't ghost a lawyers.
Speaker 1: You could have some legal documents coming your way. And
Speaker 1: on that note, let's jump into today's episode.
Speaker 2: Okay, I know we're talking today about first love.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Could be a sad or could be a happy topic. Really,
Speaker 2: it depends what way people are coming from. Tell me
Speaker 2: a little bit about your first love.
Speaker 1: Okay, So I was fresh eighteen, he was fresh eighteen.
Speaker 1: I was a host at the nightclub. He was a DJ.
Speaker 1: He was very charming, very good looking. I fell very hard,
Speaker 1: very quickly, and I think we dated on and off
Speaker 1: for about a year. It was very all over the place,
Speaker 1: very filled with lots of highs and lows and emotions
Speaker 1: and yeah.
Speaker 2: How did you know that this was the first time
Speaker 2: you're feeling love?
Speaker 1: So I did have a boyfriend before that who I
Speaker 1: had lost my virginity to. I had seen a couple
Speaker 1: of guys in between, but I think this was the
Speaker 1: guy who I just felt this overwhelming feeling of connectedness with.
Speaker 1: I guess he just kind of consumed all of my thoughts.
Speaker 1: I think it was also the first time I had
Speaker 1: sex and just had this overwhelming feeling of love. He
Speaker 1: also felt the same. He told me he loved me first.
Speaker 1: I said it back. It just felt really right right away.
Speaker 1: I think after about two months. Yeah, so you know,
Speaker 1: pretty average, pretty normal time frame. But yeah, he was
Speaker 1: just like, in my eyes the bee's knees.
Speaker 2: So what was the main sign that you'd fallen in
Speaker 2: love with him? Then?
Speaker 1: I think it was that I would have just done
Speaker 1: anything for him. I just absolutely adored him. I just
Speaker 1: was totally consumed and just.
Speaker 2: Yess with him. How'd you break up with him? Then?
Speaker 1: Yes, I've actually told this story on our cheating episode,
Speaker 1: but I'm going to tell it again because it's very
Speaker 1: relevant because this guy was my first love. So basically,
Speaker 1: he used to run parties at schoolies. Being DJ, I
Speaker 1: dropped him off at the airport to go to Byron
Speaker 1: Bay for schoolies. He was away for seven days. I
Speaker 1: then picked him up from the airport. I remember he
Speaker 1: got in the car after being away at schoolies and
Speaker 1: he just like kept looking at me, and I was like,
Speaker 1: what is it? Like what yeah and so, and then
Speaker 1: he started getting really teary and being like I just
Speaker 1: love you so much, Like I don't think I even
Speaker 1: like have felt this before. I've never experienced this level
Speaker 1: of love, Like I'm just so obsessed with you. And
Speaker 1: then two months later I actually found out that he
Speaker 1: cheated on me at schoolies. What a dickhead, Yeah, and
Speaker 1: he fully broke my heart, Like that was my first
Speaker 1: ever proper heartbreak. I was eighteen, and he ended up
Speaker 1: like admitting that he had sex with six girls in
Speaker 1: seven days. I remember he had a hickey on his
Speaker 1: neck that actually I didn't see it at the time.
Speaker 1: I think this happened on like day one, and the
Speaker 1: person who told me that he had cheated on me
Speaker 1: had a photo of the hickey and his response was,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, did I forget to tell you? I
Speaker 1: got into a fight and I fell on my neck,
Speaker 1: and I was like, do I look stupid to you?
Speaker 2: Like I come on, you say your mate gave it
Speaker 2: to you.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but anyway, it's funny because like now,
Speaker 1: like obviously, as your reaction was, it sounded really cute
Speaker 1: like him doing that, and I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I love him so much. That's so sweet. But I
Speaker 1: think his reaction was the deep feeling of guilt and
Speaker 1: regret that I had dropped him at the airport picked
Speaker 1: him up, and like he's obviously feeling really guilty about it.
Speaker 1: So it didn't end well for me. It was very heartbreaking.
Speaker 2: How did this impact you going forward with other future people?
Speaker 2: When your first love has cheated on you must have hurt.
Speaker 1: I mean, it definitely left me with a whole load
Speaker 1: of trust issues from a very early age, Like I
Speaker 1: was so trusting of him. I remember dropping him at
Speaker 1: the airport and people saying to me, aren't you worried
Speaker 1: he's gonna cheat on me? And I was like, no,
Speaker 1: why would I be worried about that? Like He's not
Speaker 1: gonna cheat on me, Like I just had no concept
Speaker 1: that people could be so callous and mean.
Speaker 2: He's not that stupid, he knows better.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I remember, like I have this very strong memory.
Speaker 1: I was driving to work. I think I had only
Speaker 1: known for probably about I think it was a week,
Speaker 1: and we stopped talking for that whole week, and I
Speaker 1: was just like totally heartbroken, and I remember like driving
Speaker 1: to work crying, listening to this really sad song Ham's
Speaker 1: on the steering wheel, like balling my eyes out, and
Speaker 1: I remember saying out loud to myself in the car,
Speaker 1: I will never get over this. I will never get
Speaker 1: over this, Like I just remember saying it, and truly,
Speaker 1: to my core, I believed it. Like I was, like,
Speaker 1: this has rocked me and I will never move on
Speaker 1: from this.
Speaker 2: And naturally you have, and you've fallen in love many
Speaker 2: times since then. But I think, though, God, yeah, but
Speaker 2: I think that first love breakup, especially in that circumstance,
Speaker 2: is very hard.
Speaker 1: Very hard to get over it. And I think, like,
Speaker 1: if you're listening to this and you know you might
Speaker 1: be trying to get over a first love, and you
Speaker 1: might be like, it's impossible. It doesn't happen. I think
Speaker 1: the great thing about experience and life, experience and dating
Speaker 1: is that you realize that you do get over that
Speaker 1: first love. It's a huge hurdle to get over, and
Speaker 1: it's such a growth and learning experience. But once you
Speaker 1: do get over it, everything becomes a lot easier from
Speaker 1: that point moving.
Speaker 2: It's almost like a stage you need in your life
Speaker 2: to grow, Yeah, to develop.
Speaker 1: But Matt, tell me about your first love.
Speaker 2: My first love was with a girl and we dated
Speaker 2: from sixteen to my actual eighteenth birthday. Wow, so a
Speaker 2: bit like yours. We broke up on my eighteenth birthday.
Speaker 2: I mentioned this on a previous episode. I cheated on her. Right,
Speaker 2: So I went out and on my eighteenth went to
Speaker 2: a nightclub and just kissed a bunch of random girls,
Speaker 2: which meant nothing to me. It was like one of
Speaker 2: your young relationships. So we were in that like were
Speaker 2: we together, were we're not together? Stages like I don't know,
Speaker 2: so long ago now.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what do you think it was that made you
Speaker 1: cheat on her?
Speaker 2: I think it was because growing up I was never
Speaker 2: the like the best looking kid. I had like acne,
Speaker 2: buck teeth, all this sort of stuff. And then around
Speaker 2: like nearly coming to my eighteenth birthday, seventeen, probably in
Speaker 2: like nine months, I started to like lose my acne.
Speaker 2: My face started to like form into this structured thing
Speaker 2: you see before you now, and like I started to
Speaker 2: get and I started to get like an overwhelming like
Speaker 2: I leaned up. I started to get this overwhelming tenh
Speaker 2: from girls, and I just was like, whoa, well, like
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? And I was young, eighteen.
Speaker 2: I don't know what to do with that, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean, Like you've just got my license. I'm
Speaker 2: in a nightclub. I'm pissed as all these girls that
Speaker 2: are older than mere showing me attention. I just, yeah, cave.
Speaker 2: I do regret it. But like I said before, it's
Speaker 2: a part you need of your life that growing up
Speaker 2: and makes you mature.
Speaker 1: It's interesting because like you're the cheater and I was
Speaker 1: the cheaty, so we're both different sides of the spectrum.
Speaker 1: But I think a lot of young loves kind of
Speaker 1: end in this deceit, which is really sad.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a lot of people thinking, well, it's the
Speaker 2: grass greener out there. What am I missing out on?
Speaker 2: I love this person, but like I'm young is this
Speaker 2: what I want to do for the rest of my life? Yeah, Like,
Speaker 2: and I think they just realize that once they've cheated
Speaker 2: and that that it's it's not like you do love
Speaker 2: the person you're with, and the glass is not greener
Speaker 2: on the other side.
Speaker 1: How did you know it was love between you guys,
Speaker 1: because obviously you were young, it was your first kind
Speaker 1: of serious girlfriend. When did you know that you loved
Speaker 1: her for years?
Speaker 2: Like I wasn't really interested in any other girl, Like
Speaker 2: I've never been like that growing up, and like I've
Speaker 2: put all my energy into her and like was just
Speaker 2: obsessed with her.
Speaker 1: How does that love, like your first love, differ from
Speaker 1: other loves that you've had since.
Speaker 2: I think the main difference is that when you're that young,
Speaker 2: the only thing you have to worry about is like
Speaker 2: each other. Like now you know, like there's like bills, work, hobbies,
Speaker 2: everything that you've got going on. But back then it
Speaker 2: was just you're at school. What do you have to
Speaker 2: worry about, like an exam? Yeah, it's just the two
Speaker 2: of you. So a lot of people define first love
Speaker 2: in different ways. They say, it's like your puppy love,
Speaker 2: it's your my strongest love. How would you define first love? Anna?
Speaker 1: Okay, So this love, I guess for me is kind
Speaker 1: of like that fairy tale love. It's that all consuming
Speaker 1: puppy love. At the time, I think, you think it's
Speaker 1: gonna last forever. You hope it's gonna last forever, but
Speaker 1: it rarely does. Often we experience our first love in
Speaker 1: high school whomen were pretty young, and usually it ends
Speaker 1: just because two people I either grow apart or they
Speaker 1: have some sort of trivial argument and the relationship just
Speaker 1: isn't strong enough to withstand those kind of like milestones
Speaker 1: that you go through in relationships just because you have
Speaker 1: so much growth to do.
Speaker 2: Right, Well, yeah, I mean like when mine ended, I
Speaker 2: was eighteen, and I was like upset and sad about it,
Speaker 2: But at the same time, I was like, one door's
Speaker 2: close and literally another one is opened, So I was like,
Speaker 2: all right, time to go through this door. And why
Speaker 2: is your first love so important? Then?
Speaker 1: Look, it definitely affects the way you approach your future relationships.
Speaker 1: As I said before, it's definitely a learning curve. Once
Speaker 1: you've experienced something so amazing and beautiful like falling in
Speaker 1: love for the first time, then you're likely to continue
Speaker 1: to chase that feeling. And I guess as you go
Speaker 1: through more and more relationships, you start to realize what
Speaker 1: you like, what you don't like, what is a non
Speaker 1: negotiable for you, and what you're willing to compromise on.
Speaker 2: Is that the major reason why people are hung up
Speaker 2: on their first love long after the relationship is ended.
Speaker 1: I mean potentially, like if you've not found someone who
Speaker 1: you think is as compatible with you as your first love,
Speaker 1: then yeah, like of course you're going to hold onto that.
Speaker 1: And I mean my first love, I feel like I
Speaker 1: held onto him for a long time after that relationship ended. Yeah,
Speaker 1: one hundred percent.
Speaker 2: Do you think that's because you're so heartbroken from what
Speaker 2: he did or just because.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it was because I was so burned.
Speaker 1: I actually ended up having like a beautiful six year
Speaker 1: relationship with my first serious boyfriend. And after that relationship finished,
Speaker 1: I remember I saw my first love out at the club.
Speaker 1: He wasn't djaying that he was out, and then we
Speaker 1: ended up going home together. But like we just talked
Speaker 1: all night, Like we didn't have sex or anything. It
Speaker 1: was just like we made out. Oh yeah, like we kissed,
Speaker 1: but that was it and we just like stayed in
Speaker 1: bed together and just like spoke all night, and I
Speaker 1: remember it was so funny because like, because he hurt
Speaker 1: me so much, I think I put him. Although I
Speaker 1: hated him and had so much anger and resentment towards him,
Speaker 1: I think I also accidentally put him on this pedestal
Speaker 1: where I was like, was anything ever as good as him?
Speaker 1: And like I guess maybe throughout, like my relationships after that,
Speaker 1: I had this what if kind of feeling or I
Speaker 1: was like, what if it did work out with him?
Speaker 1: So anyway, when I had that opportunity after a long
Speaker 1: term relationship, obviously I took it, and I you know,
Speaker 1: we spoke all night, and even when I kissed him,
Speaker 1: that spark in like chemistry was definitely still there. But
Speaker 1: I just I don't know, Like I woke up the
Speaker 1: next day and I remember thinking, if I was to
Speaker 1: never speak to you again, I'm gonna be okay with it.
Speaker 1: And now I guess, like hanging out with him, even
Speaker 1: although it was so good, we just like we still
Speaker 1: you know, fell back into that like me and him
Speaker 1: kind of vibe and we could just like easily talk
Speaker 1: and everything like that, like nothing was wrong because it's yeah,
Speaker 1: it was just but I kind of I feel like
Speaker 1: because I was able to have that experience, I took
Speaker 1: him off that pedestal that I had put him on
Speaker 1: for so many years, and I was able to get
Speaker 1: rid of that what if.
Speaker 2: So that was almost like closure.
Speaker 1: It was closure for sure, And so that's I guess
Speaker 1: why the reason I didn't feel like the need to
Speaker 1: have sex with him, or like I didn't really want
Speaker 1: to like kind of open account of work to go
Speaker 1: back to describe it, but like, yeah, and I think
Speaker 1: like leaving his house, I was just like okay, like
Speaker 1: i can move on with my life and I'm never
Speaker 1: going to be like what if, Like what if he
Speaker 1: didn't cheat on me at school? Is could we have
Speaker 1: been together forever?
Speaker 2: M Well, that's good that you got that closure from
Speaker 2: that first love. I'd say I didn't really need it
Speaker 2: from mine. She's now recently got engaged, like in the
Speaker 2: last year, and to see her doing well, I think
Speaker 2: if we'd stay together, she wouldn't be as happy as
Speaker 2: she is now and I wouldn't be the person I
Speaker 2: am now either, So so you know it was meant
Speaker 2: it was meant to be. Yeah, I've done so much
Speaker 2: experiences in my life that like make me who I
Speaker 2: am and fine who I am, and I love who
Speaker 2: I am. So I'm happy that we broke up when
Speaker 2: we did.
Speaker 1: I'm actually like, it's so nice that we're both over
Speaker 1: our first loves. But so many people do hold on
Speaker 1: to them and maybe haven't had that opportunity to kind
Speaker 1: of explore and like they might still have that what
Speaker 1: if kind of question mark over that person's head. So
Speaker 1: let's talk about signs that you should have stayed with
Speaker 1: your first love or maybe that you want to get
Speaker 1: back together with them.
Speaker 2: Okay, so the first one is pretty obvious, but you
Speaker 2: both still have feelings for each other.
Speaker 1: Yeah. When we say that, we mean both, like, not one,
Speaker 1: not one, definitely both.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So if you both do, I think that you
Speaker 2: should communicate to each other and express that because that's
Speaker 2: pretty important.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you still communicate openly, so you've never really lost contact.
Speaker 1: You always kind of see yourself being magnetized back to
Speaker 1: one another.
Speaker 2: Falling back into each other's life. You think about them
Speaker 2: when you're with someone else, so you compare your new
Speaker 2: partner to them.
Speaker 1: Is that a thing? Though? Do guys when they're having
Speaker 1: sex with someone think about someone else. Have you ever
Speaker 1: done that?
Speaker 2: No, I think that's a whole other episode. Yeah, guys,
Speaker 2: do that.
Speaker 1: Have you done that?
Speaker 2: Not in recent times, but like I haven't the passed
Speaker 2: Yeah wow. But I mean like you're comparing the relationship
Speaker 2: style to the previous ones, so you're like, oh, well
Speaker 2: you do this, but my they did that, So like
Speaker 2: it's different and it's not good, but you shouldn't do that.
Speaker 2: Each relationship is different.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think along the way your connection has continued
Speaker 1: to grow even though you're not together necessarily. I think
Speaker 1: if things still feel like they're progressing and evolving, you.
Speaker 2: Feel extremely comfortable when you're around them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a big one. It's hard to feel really
Speaker 1: comfortable around someone, and I think when you find those people,
Speaker 1: you do tend to want to hold onto them because
Speaker 1: it's just that level of comfortability safety as well. Safety. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's right. Another one is you have a gut feeling
Speaker 1: you should be together. We always say this, always listen
Speaker 1: to your gut. It's such a big one, and we
Speaker 1: forget sometimes we get confused with the head and the heart.
Speaker 1: But I feel like the gut feeling is always leading
Speaker 1: you to the right path.
Speaker 2: The reason you broke up was due to situational circumstances
Speaker 2: rather than not being compatible.
Speaker 1: So what would that be like if someone had to
Speaker 1: move away, go away to a different country.
Speaker 2: Yes, had like their work was too much? Sure, stuff
Speaker 2: like that, you.
Speaker 1: Had incredible sex. I'm sure right now everyone's thinking of
Speaker 1: that one person who they had amazing sex with, who
Speaker 1: they'd want to go back for around two.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's definitely something that you want to hold on to.
Speaker 2: Incredible sex. You call each other for support even though
Speaker 2: you guys aren't together, they're still who you go to
Speaker 2: for emotional support.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a big one. And finally, you've kept a
Speaker 1: hold of the sentimental things from the relationship. So whether
Speaker 1: that be car gifts, whatever it might be.
Speaker 2: Pj's like personal jokes, stuff that like, yeah, stuff you
Speaker 2: shared together.
Speaker 1: Yep. Okay, guys, it's that time of the show that
Speaker 1: you've all been waiting for. It's time for where's our
Speaker 1: head at? All? Right?
Speaker 2: This is my favorite bit of the show Anna where
Speaker 2: we get to hear from you guys. You get to
Speaker 2: ask us where our heads are at. So we start
Speaker 2: off today with.
Speaker 1: I am still stuck on my first love. Everyone I
Speaker 1: date never measures up. To the feeling I had with
Speaker 1: my first love. What do I do now? I want
Speaker 1: to have another go, but he has moved on with
Speaker 1: someone new.
Speaker 2: Well, you're not a home wrecker, so I think the
Speaker 2: best thing is you do the right steps to move on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think move on. I think when someone's in
Speaker 1: a new relationship, I just think it's wrong to disrupt that,
Speaker 1: and I think it's quite selfish.
Speaker 2: What you should do is you should literally try everything
Speaker 2: you can book yourself holiday now, go to some life therapy,
Speaker 2: just to move on from that person, because you don't
Speaker 2: want to wreck that relationship he's in. He'll hate you
Speaker 2: even more.
Speaker 1: Maybe, Yeah, hook up with other people distract yourself, and.
Speaker 2: I'm not a believer in that. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I No, you're not bad.
Speaker 2: I don't think you can get under to get over.
Speaker 1: I think get under to get over. And I think
Speaker 1: every time you catch yourself thinking about that guy, slowly
Speaker 1: move your thoughts to someone else, because it's just not
Speaker 1: healthy to obsess over someone.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Okay, So our next listener says, I still don't
Speaker 2: think I had the first love moment. It's hard because
Speaker 2: I can only compare to a few relationships I've had.
Speaker 2: I'm now twenty five and I don't think I've even
Speaker 2: had my first love, let alone twin flame or soulmate. Help.
Speaker 2: Don't force it, dude, just like go with it and
Speaker 2: eventually they'll come into your life.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you know what. Just be open if
Speaker 1: you are putting yourself into situations where you can be
Speaker 1: meeting new people. Make sure you're on dating apps and
Speaker 1: you're doing everything you can to put yourself out there.
Speaker 2: Love comes in the craziest times, in the craziest places.
Speaker 2: Both Anna and myself we're not looking for our most
Speaker 2: recent relationships, and yet here we are. So Mac. Yeah,
Speaker 2: more of the story is put yourself in situations where
Speaker 2: you can find someone, and you will. I believe in you.
Speaker 2: Just don't force it. Okay, that's all we've got time
Speaker 2: for today. Do you feel like though you wouldn't be
Speaker 2: the girlfriend you are to Michael if you'd never had
Speaker 2: that heartbreak from your first love.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, I would probably be a lot more sane and
Speaker 1: have a lot less trust issues.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's true. Sorry, Michael, That fucking mister DJ's
Speaker 2: may've done this for you.
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Speaker 2: Bye.