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Speaker 2: Hello, welcome back.

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Speaker 1: So just for Girls podcast, Tuesday's episode.

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Speaker 2: A big episode. I need sorry, that's all right, do

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Speaker 2: it on so as you all know, I actually can't

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Speaker 1: You said this, Oh no, you're speaking about this on

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's about like that. There's a flat I don't

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Speaker 2: Okay, thank you. Number one. I have told my two

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Speaker 2: That changed a little bit. It's just like you're being

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Speaker 2: But that notification is that is you've actually probably added

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if I've learned anything, you actually can't control other

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Speaker 2: What she chooses to do beyond that is completely up

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Speaker 1: Story number two all started in January of twenty twenty four,

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Speaker 2: I'd always be like, see, this is just my competitive nature.

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Speaker 1: Kayla was the most loyal and supportive friend you'll ever have.

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Speaker 1: Like, you don't get involved.

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Speaker 2: You do not get because sisters will bicker and then

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Speaker 1: You let them handle it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it fucked everything up, but don't ever do that.

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Speaker 1: Ideally, we were at the beach, me and my sister

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Speaker 1: Now I've taken Kayla's side because there was also so

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Speaker 1: It's January twenty twenty five, and me and my sister

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Speaker 2: My Kayla's done in this situation except be upset about

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Speaker 2: Honestly, they really like I think once they break up,

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Speaker 2: everything change. Yeah, you need to wait till that guy

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Speaker 1: The boot one hundred I'm standing on business until she

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Speaker 1: It's like she's got a bit of the rose colored

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Speaker 1: Because I know what's best for you and this man

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Speaker 1: sad to see and just be like, I feel really

438
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Speaker 1: sad that I've lost my sisters were all of these

439
00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:39,120
Speaker 1: relationshipes and look, it's we just give her.

440
00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:42,119
Speaker 2: That is hard, but it's like, I think, almost at

441
00:18:42,119 --> 00:18:44,400
Speaker 2: this point, because it's been dragged on for so long,

442
00:18:44,560 --> 00:18:47,160
Speaker 2: it might need to be a let bygones be bygones

443
00:18:47,160 --> 00:18:49,240
Speaker 2: sitch And if there can be a conversation that's hard

444
00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:51,960
Speaker 2: where you kind of both attempt to maybe let that

445
00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:55,479
Speaker 2: situation go and try and move forward, that would be ideal.

446
00:18:55,560 --> 00:18:59,280
Speaker 1: But I think just be like you, let's call your

447
00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:02,800
Speaker 1: sister Sally. Sally, you're mad at me that I'm still

448
00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:05,439
Speaker 1: friends with Kayla, but I don't approve of your relationship,

449
00:19:05,480 --> 00:19:08,000
Speaker 1: and I like, let that be. So you need to

450
00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:11,040
Speaker 1: let my relationship with Kayler be. If you're still going

451
00:19:11,119 --> 00:19:12,960
Speaker 1: to date this guy, we're never going to see either

452
00:19:13,040 --> 00:19:16,040
Speaker 1: eye on this situation, so like, let it, let's.

453
00:19:15,880 --> 00:19:18,520
Speaker 2: Let's try and have a relationship regardless, you know.

454
00:19:18,560 --> 00:19:20,800
Speaker 1: Let go control of it with twin sisters at the

455
00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:21,960
Speaker 1: end of the day, and the fact that this is

456
00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:24,159
Speaker 1: getting in between us is really really sad.

457
00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:26,280
Speaker 2: But no, girl, we don't think you're being the alshole.

458
00:19:26,320 --> 00:19:29,159
Speaker 2: I'm gonna hope it sorts itself out, no, hopefully in

459
00:19:29,200 --> 00:19:31,720
Speaker 2: the next year. So January twenty twenty six isn't looking

460
00:19:31,720 --> 00:19:36,920
Speaker 2: the same all right, Number three. So I recently moved

461
00:19:36,920 --> 00:19:39,359
Speaker 2: to the UK, all excited to embrace the new culture,

462
00:19:39,480 --> 00:19:43,520
Speaker 2: the accents, sligh love, an English accent, and my new

463
00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:45,840
Speaker 2: life and job. In a weird turn of events, a

464
00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:48,280
Speaker 2: girl I trained got offered the same job, so she

465
00:19:48,359 --> 00:19:51,199
Speaker 2: moved over with me. We were never close friends, but

466
00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:53,560
Speaker 2: I knew of her and she was always lovely. I

467
00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:56,200
Speaker 2: was excited to move over with someone I knew. Fast

468
00:19:56,200 --> 00:19:59,040
Speaker 2: forward to us living together, and here's when things get interesting.

469
00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:02,639
Speaker 2: I flat my is well, she's very open about her

470
00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:05,800
Speaker 2: bodily functions. That's not where I thought that was gonna go.

471
00:20:07,200 --> 00:20:09,959
Speaker 2: I'm talking details. One night, I had to see it

472
00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:12,879
Speaker 2: shortly after eating dinner and listen to her describe the

473
00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:15,000
Speaker 2: poop she took that morning, right down to the nitty

474
00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:16,120
Speaker 2: gritty details.

475
00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:17,760
Speaker 1: Some people are just like that.

476
00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:20,520
Speaker 2: I agree. It depends.

477
00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:24,200
Speaker 1: Look, it really depends on the family situation that you grew.

478
00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:26,280
Speaker 2: Up in and how comfortable you are with the people are.

479
00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:29,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like some families just always talked about that growing up.

480
00:20:29,480 --> 00:20:32,320
Speaker 1: And like one of my friends, like is so happy

481
00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:35,280
Speaker 1: walking around anyone naked because like she had it, Like

482
00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:37,760
Speaker 1: I always call them naked families, Like you would always

483
00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:38,840
Speaker 1: walk around your house naked and.

484
00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:39,960
Speaker 2: A naked fan.

485
00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:42,000
Speaker 1: I didn't have a naked family. Yeah, I grew up

486
00:20:42,040 --> 00:20:42,639
Speaker 1: around borders.

487
00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:44,879
Speaker 2: Act I I did have a naked family.

488
00:20:44,920 --> 00:20:48,040
Speaker 1: I just weirdly, which is weird that you're not like that?

489
00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:49,240
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah.

490
00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:51,639
Speaker 1: But I am now weirdly a naked person when I

491
00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:54,000
Speaker 1: didn't grow up in a naked family. But I still

492
00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:56,760
Speaker 1: get really weird at out talking about things like that.

493
00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:59,119
Speaker 1: Like I was never open about like sex growing up.

494
00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:02,160
Speaker 1: I was never open up, but bodily functions and bodily fluids,

495
00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:06,880
Speaker 1: Like it wasn't a very open conversationally having those conversations now,

496
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:09,600
Speaker 1: Like I don't really talk about sex like it makes me.

497
00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:12,800
Speaker 2: I'm not open about sex, but I think I'm more

498
00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:17,000
Speaker 2: open about bodily functions. Like we talk about shit quite often. Yeah,

499
00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:19,480
Speaker 2: Like if we're on a holiday together, we will regularly

500
00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:20,320
Speaker 2: talk about that.

501
00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:22,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, but we like to know.

502
00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:26,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think it depends on a closeness factor.

503
00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:30,080
Speaker 2: And I get where you're going. Well, I get that

504
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:32,080
Speaker 2: sometimes I think you need to read a room and

505
00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:36,919
Speaker 2: if the person isn't clearly enjoying not enjoying.

506
00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:38,119
Speaker 1: It, because you never really you can get. You can

507
00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:41,120
Speaker 1: get if the person's uncomfortable. You change the body language, you.

508
00:21:41,119 --> 00:21:43,000
Speaker 2: Change it, and you don't talk about it anymore. I

509
00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:45,200
Speaker 2: think you just need to be aware because these topic

510
00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,840
Speaker 2: kind of topics are not things that all people are

511
00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:51,919
Speaker 2: comfortable comfortable. After telling her to stop, she continued to

512
00:21:51,960 --> 00:21:55,200
Speaker 2: go on and completely misread my disgust as amusement. That's fair,

513
00:21:55,359 --> 00:21:57,520
Speaker 2: you tell her to stop. She should stop, like if

514
00:21:57,520 --> 00:21:59,480
Speaker 2: someone said easy, I don't care to stop talking about it.

515
00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:02,120
Speaker 2: It's gross. Immediately, I will never talk about it again.

516
00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,720
Speaker 2: After exhausting all my options, I had to get up

517
00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:07,880
Speaker 2: and leave the room for her to stop the story.

518
00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:10,439
Speaker 2: It got worse. I kid you not. She'll walk into

519
00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:12,520
Speaker 2: her room burp at the volume of a foghorn and

520
00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:13,760
Speaker 2: acts like it's a comedy show.

521
00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:14,919
Speaker 1: Oh see, that's just crass.

522
00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:18,280
Speaker 2: See burps to me are not funny. No, and don't

523
00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:20,440
Speaker 2: even get me started on the farting. She'll sit down

524
00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:22,879
Speaker 2: next to me on the couch, casually angle her body

525
00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:25,200
Speaker 2: towards me and bam right in the direction. She'll fart

526
00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:28,240
Speaker 2: loud and proud, then laugh while everyone's cringing in disbelief.

527
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:29,200
Speaker 1: So it's just rude.

528
00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:32,000
Speaker 2: It's gross, and it's rude. I don't want your fucking

529
00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:35,119
Speaker 2: fat particles in my face. It's like she's trying to

530
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:38,880
Speaker 2: share the experience with me, whether I like it or not. Yeah, yuh.

531
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:40,879
Speaker 2: At first, like talk about it, but don't fart with.

532
00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:43,160
Speaker 1: It, like that's what you do with your boyfriend, even

533
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:45,159
Speaker 1: though I'm like, I don't want your fucking burp or

534
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:47,880
Speaker 1: fart in my face ever. Will You can talk about

535
00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:49,960
Speaker 1: stuff to all you want, but like, don't get it

536
00:22:50,000 --> 00:22:51,920
Speaker 1: anywherey Yeah.

537
00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:53,919
Speaker 2: At first I laughed it off. I mean, sure it

538
00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:55,879
Speaker 2: was gross, but what can you do. We all have

539
00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:58,600
Speaker 2: our quirks, right, But as time went on, it got worse.

540
00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:02,400
Speaker 2: There wasn't just farts and burps anymore. There was groans

541
00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:07,480
Speaker 2: of satisfaction after every release that followed. It felt like

542
00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 2: I was living in a constant stain of fight or

543
00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:11,800
Speaker 2: flight and tried to keep a five minute radius at

544
00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:14,280
Speaker 2: all times. Let me tell you, I was losing my

545
00:23:14,359 --> 00:23:17,879
Speaker 2: patients and appetite slowly. But then one day I overheard

546
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 2: her talking to another flatmate about her digestive issues IBS

547
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 2: and some other bowel problems. So I feel like this

548
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 2: she is just like fuck this at this point. Yeah,

549
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:29,000
Speaker 2: Suddenly it all clicked I felt a wave of guilt

550
00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:31,639
Speaker 2: wash over me. Maybe this was her way of coping

551
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:37,359
Speaker 2: with something she couldn't control. God, you're so sweet. Angle

552
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 2: your ass towards me when you do it, you have ibs, you.

553
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:44,600
Speaker 1: Know, like I am prone ibs issues. But if you

554
00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:47,520
Speaker 1: don't ever angle your fucking I'm not gonna go or easy.

555
00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:51,280
Speaker 1: Yeah you know, you know, like the fuck.

556
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:52,119
Speaker 2: Get away from me.

557
00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:55,440
Speaker 1: Maybe like go to the bathroom. Yeah, yeah, like it

558
00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 1: would be like, look at these and then.

559
00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:01,359
Speaker 2: No, I've got a thing with burps. I almost think

560
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:03,200
Speaker 2: they're worse than farts. I don't know why. It's because

561
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:06,960
Speaker 2: I think I can't all right, So now I'm torn.

562
00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:08,920
Speaker 2: I feel bad for being so judgmental. But at the

563
00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:11,439
Speaker 2: same time, surely there's a middle ground here. It's one

564
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 2: thing to let a few slip ups go, but I

565
00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:15,760
Speaker 2: feel like I'm living in a human biology experiment at

566
00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,679
Speaker 2: this point. I like, no way this chick talks. I

567
00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:20,399
Speaker 2: know she can't help it, but maybe she could have

568
00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:22,639
Speaker 2: rained it in a bit, especially when we're getting to

569
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:26,159
Speaker 2: know each other. I just I'm just asking you for

570
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:28,800
Speaker 2: a little consideration. Am I the asshole here for not

571
00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:31,159
Speaker 2: wanting to live in a constant cloud of gas.

572
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:33,520
Speaker 1: No, I don't think you're the asshole.

573
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:34,159
Speaker 2: Like it.

574
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 1: You see, you see sides of your people when you

575
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:41,440
Speaker 1: live with them a lot quicker to what you were

576
00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:44,560
Speaker 1: if you were just friends. But like with a boyfriend,

577
00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:46,760
Speaker 1: for example, you're not farting on the first date. It

578
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:48,399
Speaker 1: takes a couple months for you to like go to

579
00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:49,359
Speaker 1: the toilet in front of them.

580
00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:51,920
Speaker 2: Like, yeah, it's like you still don't shit in front

581
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 2: of their partners. Yeah, like not in front of it,

582
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 2: I mean in the house.

583
00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like it's a slow burn and she's kind of

584
00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 1: ripped that band aid off with you without you getting

585
00:24:59,840 --> 00:25:01,240
Speaker 1: to a level of comfortability.

586
00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's just giving to say that you ever will

587
00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:06,919
Speaker 2: get to a level of comfortability where that's okay is

588
00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:10,680
Speaker 2: also maybe not. I just think you're not being the asshole.

589
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 2: I think it should be something where you're like, hey, girl,

590
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:16,280
Speaker 2: i'd appreciate if you didn't fart in bird made Yeah,

591
00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:18,679
Speaker 2: and that should be okay, no worries, I will do

592
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 2: that in the privacy of my bathroom, thank you.

593
00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:23,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, or just like don't even say that. It would

594
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 1: just be like I'm a dermo, like breaking me out

595
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 1: body Fluid's like just like throating to those like a

596
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:30,680
Speaker 1: pass in common, I've been like, oh yeah, it makes

597
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:33,360
Speaker 1: him feel so uncomfortable. So it was like in her head.

598
00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:35,520
Speaker 2: And if she doesn't can like, if she doesn't change

599
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 2: after that, then she's actually definitely been the asshole because

600
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:41,639
Speaker 2: some people just don't Yeah, sh she's been in some

601
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:45,400
Speaker 2: enjoys people fighting in their fucking houses. I might try

602
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:47,639
Speaker 2: to update, she said. I might try talking to her

603
00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:49,879
Speaker 2: about it gently of course, or maybe I'll invest in

604
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 2: those nose plugs and a gas mask. Either way, my

605
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:57,760
Speaker 2: UK adventure is definitely taking an unexpected turn. I would

606
00:25:57,760 --> 00:25:59,440
Speaker 2: love your advice and how to deal with the situation,

607
00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:02,080
Speaker 2: how to approach the situation if it gets to that point.

608
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 2: Lots of love, your biggest UK fan.

609
00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:06,399
Speaker 1: I feel like now is the situation where it's like

610
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 1: this has been raised to the forefront of your mind

611
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:11,800
Speaker 1: and that's all you're thinking about, and you're letting it

612
00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 1: like weigh on you so heavily, and it's like really

613
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:17,320
Speaker 1: impacting you over something that could be so small in

614
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 1: your life. Just be like whatever I think dotting in

615
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:22,760
Speaker 1: those like passing comments of like oh I hate when

616
00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 1: people are burp. I think it's really rude. I don't

617
00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:28,120
Speaker 1: like it when people fart, Like I just think it's

618
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:29,160
Speaker 1: like a gross thing, like.

619
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:32,120
Speaker 2: You might always do it, so I'm like yuck, like ill.

620
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:36,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh, but like okay, for example.

621
00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:39,440
Speaker 2: I'm gross like fucking don't do that.

622
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 1: But we also speak to each other like sisters.

623
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:45,240
Speaker 2: I just think it is absolutely worth mentioning, and it

624
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:46,560
Speaker 2: can be done in the way that's not right.

625
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:50,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I'm not a gross like I don't really

626
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:53,200
Speaker 1: get grossed out by that, but like if my house

627
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:56,679
Speaker 1: they farted, I'm like, yo, come on, don't aim it

628
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:57,000
Speaker 1: at me.

629
00:26:58,840 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 2: I feel or like more.

630
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:02,119
Speaker 1: He started in the kitchen the other day and i

631
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 1: was like, wait till I'm out.

632
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:05,960
Speaker 2: I'm like, I feel like you're getting your burple fight

633
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 2: on my.

634
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:10,639
Speaker 1: Food confined apartment, like just like make it into like

635
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 1: a jokey thing, be like, yo, don't contaminate my food.

636
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 2: Like then she finds it funny and comedic. I think

637
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 2: you need to steer away from the comedy. And we'll

638
00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 2: be like, oh, my German phobe, it's freaking me out, girl.

639
00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:24,119
Speaker 1: Yeah true, yeah, yeah, I'd just be like, yeah, I

640
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 1: hate it when people think or like my family like

641
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:27,320
Speaker 1: growing up.

642
00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:29,240
Speaker 2: Just thought it was a really really that's how I

643
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 2: missed that guy started and it was so charged.

644
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:34,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, just be like, sorry, I get really weird with

645
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 1: fart words. Guy that I was seeing just like always

646
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:41,120
Speaker 1: used to fart and the story, Yeah.

647
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:44,120
Speaker 2: Uni and some chick farted on you and disgusting.

648
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:46,199
Speaker 1: Or like that. Yeah, your ex boyfriend farted on your

649
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 1: face and you've got pink eye and now you're scar

650
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:51,639
Speaker 1: and you hate you hate farts, and burping is just

651
00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:53,439
Speaker 1: like and you go and yeah, like burping's kind of

652
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 1: like tied into that because it's like up the other end.

653
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,240
Speaker 1: Just like, yeah, blame me that you've got pink eye now,

654
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:01,960
Speaker 1: like you're really blame it.

655
00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:03,000
Speaker 2: On the traumatic experience.

656
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 1: You need it.

657
00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:05,080
Speaker 2: You need to fix it, babe, because that.

658
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:07,719
Speaker 1: Is not it's not or just like spit out some facts,

659
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:11,280
Speaker 1: you know, like you know, farts, like poop particles, you're

660
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:13,240
Speaker 1: getting them on me and yeah, and just be like

661
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 1: we're not like like we're friends, but like politely, I

662
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 1: don't want to show you particles.

663
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:20,399
Speaker 2: Keep it light, but don't say it's funny, because if

664
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 2: it's funny, she's clearly doing it as a comedy thing.

665
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:23,719
Speaker 2: And it's not funny.

666
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, agreed, Best of luck with your farts.

667
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:26,640
Speaker 2: By the way.

668
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:32,199
Speaker 1: So, basically, my boyfriend, let's call him Blake, hates that

669
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:34,680
Speaker 1: I'm friends with one of his friends from work, let's

670
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:37,200
Speaker 1: call him Jack. So the Jack and so.

671
00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 2: Blake and Jack work together, and she's getting with Jack.

672
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, Blake, Jack and I all work at the

673
00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 1: same place together. Right there we go. Blake and Jack

674
00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 1: have been friends for about three years. However, I only

675
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 1: became friends with him after the work Christmas party, which

676
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:53,760
Speaker 1: was about five months ago. Now, Blake found out that

677
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 1: me and Jack would talk keeps at work, and he

678
00:28:56,040 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 1: wouldn't really leave me alone. Every time Jack knew I

679
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 1: was working, he would come up and hang around with me,

680
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:03,600
Speaker 1: not do his job, just to talk to me.

681
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 2: So Jack probably has a little bit of a crush

682
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 2: on you. Yeah, okay, I understand Blake being slightly uncomfortable

683
00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 2: with that.

684
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 1: Me too. However, I strictly thought of him as a friend.

685
00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: I would never go further with him even if I

686
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 1: didn't have a boyfriend. It was honestly just entertaining talking

687
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 1: to him and kind of a joke between my work girls.

688
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 1: Blake didn't really like this and expressed that it was

689
00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 1: obvious that Jack liked me more than a friend, but

690
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 1: I told him he was overthinking it. This caused heaps

691
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:32,719
Speaker 1: of arguments. By the way, I get this, Blake has

692
00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:35,880
Speaker 1: come to you and expressed that, and I do. I

693
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,280
Speaker 1: saw this thing that was really really interesting. I think

694
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 1: I said it on the podcast once. Guys find it

695
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:46,240
Speaker 1: weird when girls are friends with guys or like friendly

696
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 1: with guys, because guys are only really friendly with girls

697
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 1: that they find attracted to. Like guys that find it

698
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 1: hard to then see other guys be nice to their

699
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 1: girlfriends because it's like, well, you don't like you're attracted

700
00:29:59,200 --> 00:29:59,400
Speaker 1: to her.

701
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, mind, I'm not sure how this would unfold, but

702
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:05,000
Speaker 2: he's mentioned it to you. Great. I also don't think

703
00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:07,920
Speaker 2: you can go fucking around ignoring Jack. I think it

704
00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:10,120
Speaker 2: needs to be more of a conversation between the two mates.

705
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 2: Has that's my girlfriend. I'm not sure if you're interested

706
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:15,479
Speaker 2: in her. But I'm kind of uncomfortable with how much

707
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 2: you guys are hang out. So Jack stops because you're

708
00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 2: just you don't view him as anything else. Therefore, you're

709
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 2: not going to be rude to this guy because you're

710
00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 2: friends with him. Yeah, so I think it's a conversation

711
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 2: between Blake and Jack. In my opinion, that's a good one.

712
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 1: I really like that. Actually I didn't think of that

713
00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:34,720
Speaker 1: appreciate it. Soon enough, Jack started messaging me on Instagram, crye.

714
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:37,280
Speaker 2: Work, Yeah, you need to not reply to this.

715
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:39,960
Speaker 1: I thought I should tell Blake about it, but part

716
00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 1: of me also wanted to reply and talk to him

717
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:44,240
Speaker 1: because it was nothing bad like it. It was also

718
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:46,959
Speaker 1: completely friendly and no bad intentions. I think that's why

719
00:30:47,040 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 1: you're in the wrong. Yes, it's friendly on your behalf,

720
00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 1: but Jack is messaging you and he's still continuing to

721
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:55,400
Speaker 1: step a line, and he thinks it's fine because like

722
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:59,320
Speaker 1: he works with Blake. But you were also kind of

723
00:30:59,360 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 1: liking the inton.

724
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:03,840
Speaker 2: I think I think you need to don't ignore him

725
00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 2: a person, but I think context the text should go.

726
00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, especially seeing that you do see each other at work.

727
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 2: Round has a problem with that.

728
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I replied and pretty much hit it from Blake.

729
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 1: You're hiding it for a reason.

730
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 2: I love your girl, and I love that you listen.

731
00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 2: You love You're sent it in.

732
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:23,200
Speaker 1: You're being the arsehole, right, Yeah, if you're hiding it,

733
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:26,480
Speaker 1: then you'd like you know what's a problem. Yeah, instead

734
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 1: of being open and honest, I deleted the Instagram messages

735
00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:32,640
Speaker 1: after the conversation, thinking he'd never find out and we'd

736
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:36,040
Speaker 1: be all good. Honey, honey, honey, I'm so sorry to

737
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 1: tell you right now, but you're doing wrong. I just

738
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:41,440
Speaker 1: couldn't be bothered arguing about it again, and when I

739
00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:44,000
Speaker 1: knew nothing was wrong, it really happened just talking to

740
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 1: a friend. If nothing was wrong, you shouldn't have deleted it,

741
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 1: I think. Yeah, one night, while I was sleeping, Blake

742
00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 1: went through my phone and saw the screenshots I took

743
00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 1: of the chats between me and Jack and I had

744
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 1: sent to my best friend that I had forgot to delete. See,

745
00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 1: now you're in the wrong cause you deleted a message,

746
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:02,960
Speaker 1: which makes you seem like you're hiding something.

747
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 2: He also shouldn't have looked through your phone, But in

748
00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 2: the scheme of things, he probably feels validated because he's

749
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:09,240
Speaker 2: found what he's been looking for.

750
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:13,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, huge mistake by me, as Blake absolutely lost it

751
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 1: at me and got so mad for both messaging him

752
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 1: and deleting the messages and didn't talk to me for

753
00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 1: days and almost broke up with me. He didn't start

754
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 1: talking to me again until I blocked Jack on Instagram

755
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 1: and promised i'd never talked to him again. Our relationship

756
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 1: is normal now, apart from him getting very upset every

757
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 1: few days because of it and he won't talk to

758
00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 1: me for a few hours.

759
00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:33,400
Speaker 2: Not sure what to do.

760
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 1: But am I the asshole or is he controlling? No?

761
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:38,880
Speaker 1: I think you're the asshole.

762
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:42,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think he is being slight, maybe slightly, But

763
00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:45,240
Speaker 2: if you're uncomfortable with someone, you're uncomfortable with someone. And

764
00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:47,240
Speaker 2: I feel like he's been given reasons to feel that

765
00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 2: way based on Jack's clear interest in you.

766
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think his insecurities were then validated, Like

767
00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 1: he went to you and expressed that he didn't like it,

768
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:59,120
Speaker 1: and then he then went looking for something, found something

769
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 1: that he didn't like it, and that validated his insecurity.

770
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 1: So now he's just feeling its cure.

771
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 2: My opinion is, if Blake is more important than Jack,

772
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:08,960
Speaker 2: you need to stop the relationship with Jack. That's as

773
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 2: simple as that. But you know, if you're feeling like

774
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:13,960
Speaker 2: he is being controlling, and maybe you do have a

775
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:16,840
Speaker 2: little feeling for Jack, which maybe you don't want to admit,

776
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 2: but usually if you're not willing to let someone go

777
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 2: for a partner, there is a reason why. Yes, So

778
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 2: I think you just need to assess the situation.

779
00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 1: And if you're really that upset about losing Jack.

780
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 2: You might like Jack a little bit more than you'd

781
00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 2: like to.

782
00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, then you want to admit Yeah, one hundred.

783
00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:34,920
Speaker 2: Someone always says, like, you know, if you're in love

784
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:36,880
Speaker 2: with two people, like which one do you pick? It's like, well,

785
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 2: you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second if

786
00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 2: you love the first enough, so you always go with

787
00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 2: the second one. Wow.

788
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's really insightingly insightful.

789
00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 2: I know, frontal lobe, you know that.

790
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 1: Old chestnut years Yeah, Wow, that's a really good one

791
00:33:57,640 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 1: thing here.

792
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 2: All right, So last one, guys, let's get into it.

793
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:09,920
Speaker 2: My boyfriend plays rugby at a mediocre level. I rate

794
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:10,719
Speaker 2: that from you. Girl.

795
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,359
Speaker 1: At least you're sulf aware. Yeah, she goes love seeing

796
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:15,560
Speaker 1: this TikTok to. It's like born to be an afil

797
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:17,880
Speaker 1: wag forced to watch my brother my boyfriend in the

798
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 1: second Yeah.

799
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:20,640
Speaker 2: Or it's like when boyfriends always say they injured their

800
00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:22,759
Speaker 2: hip in like six and that's why they're not playing

801
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:26,400
Speaker 2: afl Yeah, yeah, she goes nothing natural, literally just a

802
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 2: club level. Can you please tell me why this man

803
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 2: takes his sport so seriously. I love this energy, like

804
00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 2: we're eating at certain times so he doesn't get sick

805
00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 2: for his game, which I admit is fair. But everything

806
00:34:38,120 --> 00:34:40,759
Speaker 2: seems to revolve around him in his sport, you know,

807
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:44,120
Speaker 2: whether it's like I sometimes think, maybe VFL or whatever,

808
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:47,279
Speaker 2: which is like the level below AFL. Sometimes they take

809
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:49,839
Speaker 2: it so heavily seriously in the hopes that they can

810
00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 2: get drafted into AFL.

811
00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:52,400
Speaker 1: This doesn't sound like.

812
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 2: This doesn't sound like.

813
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:56,439
Speaker 1: It sounds like boys playing for a country club.

814
00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:58,840
Speaker 2: Yeah. Anytime we have an event with our friends, we

815
00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:00,839
Speaker 2: have to say no or how to go alone because

816
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 2: he can't compromise anything for his game. If I wanted

817
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:05,480
Speaker 2: to be alone at these things, I would be single.

818
00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:07,719
Speaker 2: I don't understand why he can't just take a game off.

819
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,920
Speaker 2: Mind you, we only see each other on weekends because

820
00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 2: we live apart of work full time.

821
00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:12,560
Speaker 1: Right.

822
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:15,799
Speaker 2: His excuse for not coming over on weekends is because

823
00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:18,879
Speaker 2: he's tired or has training. It's like wondering, at this point,

824
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:20,280
Speaker 2: do you even have a fucking boyfriend?

825
00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 1: Yeah? The same like he's married.

826
00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:25,360
Speaker 2: To the game. Yeah, the same excuses he uses to

827
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:27,920
Speaker 2: not have sexy times. It's giving Ryan from math, So

828
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 2: you're not having sex. He's never coming over and he

829
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:30,920
Speaker 2: doesn't come to events with you.

830
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:32,880
Speaker 1: Okay, So that's why you feel you'd like, I'd rather

831
00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 1: be single.

832
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:37,759
Speaker 2: If I'm being honest, maybe not ideal to hear he's

833
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:41,479
Speaker 2: clearly prioritizing the game over you. I feel like maybe

834
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:44,879
Speaker 2: it's not It sounds a bit of it's a cop out. Yeah,

835
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:46,840
Speaker 2: do you know what I mean? I found like my

836
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:49,799
Speaker 2: first fucking relationship, the guy would be like, oh, Colin,

837
00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:51,879
Speaker 2: I've got to go to the gym. If he wanted

838
00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:53,840
Speaker 2: to do he would, he could do both. He doesn't

839
00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:55,799
Speaker 2: want to see me, he wants to go to the gym,

840
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 2: you know.

841
00:35:57,320 --> 00:35:59,359
Speaker 1: He just sounds like, Hey, he's at that period of time,

842
00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 1: like I'm assuming that you're kind of my age.

843
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:02,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, I reckon.

844
00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:05,879
Speaker 1: They're out of school, and it just sounds like you're

845
00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:07,800
Speaker 1: both at that time where you both he wants to

846
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:09,920
Speaker 1: be really selfish with his time, which is okay, but

847
00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 1: then it's unfair to be for you to be a

848
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:12,840
Speaker 1: part of that, Like you.

849
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:15,320
Speaker 2: Want to just wait around until he maybe says, have

850
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:18,920
Speaker 2: sport's too important to me, I can't focus on you. Yeah, well,

851
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:23,280
Speaker 2: club rugby, honey. I got so sick of being dragged

852
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:25,120
Speaker 2: around to all of his sport and went off at

853
00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:27,880
Speaker 2: him for putting me at such a low priority to sport.

854
00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 2: Like what, brother, Am I the asshole for wanting him

855
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:31,839
Speaker 2: to chill on the rugby and give me a bit

856
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:32,360
Speaker 2: more attention?

857
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:32,759
Speaker 1: Or what?

858
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:35,120
Speaker 2: Please help? I've never been a wag before. I used

859
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:36,320
Speaker 2: to love it, but now it's killing me.

860
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:37,120
Speaker 1: Oh.

861
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 2: Also, he tells his parents all of our problems. What

862
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:42,239
Speaker 2: the fuck? I just needed to get that off my chest.

863
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:44,920
Speaker 2: May or may not be with him. When if this

864
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:48,360
Speaker 2: airs would love your advice, girl, based on that, you

865
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 2: know the answer. This boy is not giving you what

866
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:52,360
Speaker 2: you need to give him. If he wants to be

867
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:54,320
Speaker 2: married to rugby, let him be married to rugby. I

868
00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:56,240
Speaker 2: think you need to cut it loose unless he pays.

869
00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:57,319
Speaker 1: More attention to you. I don't know if you think

870
00:36:57,360 --> 00:36:59,239
Speaker 1: it's just the rugby thing. It's just the fact that

871
00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:01,479
Speaker 1: you're not a prior in his life and he's willing

872
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Speaker 1: to put so many other things before you instead of

873
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Speaker 1: like compromising and doing that.

874
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Speaker 2: And maybe if he loses you, it'll give him a

875
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Speaker 2: reality check and things will change. But I think they're

876
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Speaker 2: going to continue going the way they're going because because.

877
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Speaker 1: Right now he's comfortable and you're like you're going and

878
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Speaker 1: getting away with.

879
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Speaker 2: It, getting his cake and eating it too. Girl.

880
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Speaker 1: Yeah, fucking well, fucking get fucked all right.

881
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Speaker 2: Guys, that was am I the asshole. Thank you for

882
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Speaker 2: all your submissions. We love them.

883
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Speaker 1: I love them.

884
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Speaker 2: One of my favorites. We've provided some real solid advice.

885
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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think you did really well with your advice.

886
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Speaker 1: I really like that thing you said.

887
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Speaker 2: Would you say that if you fall in love with

888
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Speaker 2: the two people you love the first one enough?

889
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Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, thank you, Yeah, I really like that.

890
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Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah. See frontal lobe advice is coming through you

891
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Speaker 2: were you can really.

892
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Speaker 1: See your for head getting bigger. Personal I was just like,

893
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Speaker 1: like a metaphor, like, really, no, your foreheads like you

894
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Speaker 1: have the best forehead ever. You do not have a

895
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Speaker 1: big forehead, but because you're obviously your brain is like

896
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Speaker 1: you're in front of all texts at the front of

897
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Speaker 1: your brain.

898
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Speaker 2: I was like, metaphorically, oh my god, your head's getting bigger. Yes, physically,

899
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Speaker 2: being like you go your hairlines are no.

900
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Speaker 1: I was doing it because like metaphorically like your brain

901
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Speaker 1: is getting bigger. But then I was like, that's not well.

902
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Speaker 2: I appreciate it all the same. All Right, guys, we

903
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Speaker 2: love you and we will chat to you next week.

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Speaker 1: By