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Speaker 1: This is the Fits In with Her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: I've got a story for you, guys, I want you

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Speaker 2: to weigh into. I think it was maybe it was.

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Speaker 2: Last week we were talking about a woman who had

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Speaker 2: been fooled by the boyfriend because he'd made out as

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Speaker 2: though he was a doctor, and she goes into Taco

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Speaker 2: Bell and he's standing behind the counter. It turns out

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Speaker 2: it was a big lie, and now she doesn't know

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Speaker 2: whether to trust him and whether in fact she's in

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Speaker 2: love with the guy that works at Taco Bell or

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Speaker 2: whether she was in love with the doctors talking about it?

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Speaker 1: Did they No?

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Speaker 2: And I don't have a follow up to that.

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Speaker 1: I did not want don't tell me any more on it.

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Speaker 2: But in relation to finding love is the is it

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Speaker 2: truly the person? Do their choices define them? Do how much?

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Speaker 2: Does how much money they earn make them like a

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Speaker 2: better catch or not? And that's what this is about.

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Speaker 2: She's twenty nine, this woman, she's in a relationship with

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Speaker 2: this really sweet third thirty eight year old guy. There

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Speaker 2: are so many boxes that are ticked, but he just doesn't.

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Speaker 2: He works one day a week, he doesn't have this.

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Speaker 1: Up and go very simply I can answer this. Money

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Speaker 1: equals power. Women are attracted to power, men are attracted

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Speaker 1: to looks. Oh gosh, it's as simple as that cave.

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Speaker 1: It has been for the history. He's a private school

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Speaker 1: boy from an old boy. It's got nothing to do.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm giving you a little bit of credit.

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Speaker 1: It's very shallow that.

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Speaker 2: But even if it starts out like that, maybe if

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Speaker 2: you look across the room and a man might be

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Speaker 2: attracted to a woman's looks okay, and a woman might

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Speaker 2: be attracted to the guy with the you know, the

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Speaker 2: briefcase and the flashy car, that stuff doesn't That stuff

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Speaker 2: initially might get, you know, something happening inside, but it

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Speaker 2: doesn't last.

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Speaker 1: The example of that is Bernie Eckleston. Is he the

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Speaker 1: guy that owned the F one?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's about four foot talk it never was

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Speaker 1: a good looking rooster, absolutely stunning women with me.

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Speaker 3: But I don't look at him and stunning women who

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Speaker 3: have no idea. I actually look at the women and go,

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Speaker 3: how sad for you that you've had to make that

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Speaker 3: decision because you're only going out with him because of money.

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Speaker 2: But that might be quite happy.

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Speaker 1: It's not love. They might be.

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Speaker 2: Happy it might be their version of love. But I just,

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Speaker 2: I mean, this woman she's discounting this guy because he's

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Speaker 2: pushing forty. He just it's like she's a really independent,

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Speaker 2: self sufficient, financially probably secure woman and she just doesn't

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Speaker 2: know whether this should be weighing in on her.

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Speaker 1: Making who is seen in the notebook, there's that amazing

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Speaker 1: moment where really the mom, like the girl's mum married

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Speaker 1: who she thought she should have married, the right person

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Speaker 1: from the right family, that ticked all those boxes. And

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Speaker 1: then there's the guy that she really loved and she thought,

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Speaker 1: if I went with my heart, that's the guy that's

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Speaker 1: shoveling coal down at the train.

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Speaker 2: See is that my Gosling's car.

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Speaker 1: So but it's it's it's a tough one of head

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Speaker 1: versus heart. That's the equation we're looking at here, Kate,

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Speaker 1: and you need to make that. She needs to make

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Speaker 1: that decision do I follow my head or my heart?

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Speaker 3: Well, the only thing you have to question is does

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Speaker 3: he have a work ethic?

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Speaker 1: That's the thing.

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Speaker 3: If he's only working one day a week, refuses to

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Speaker 3: work anymore like a slob, he could be a love well,

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Speaker 3: it could be a lovely guy. But is he prepared

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Speaker 3: obviously if he's not working and doesn't have that ethic

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Speaker 3: to do that, Kate, do you question sort of that

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Speaker 3: side of whether it's.

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Speaker 2: Much more broad So it's not. It's less about how

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Speaker 2: much money you've got and whether, given the opportunity, got

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Speaker 2: up and go.

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Speaker 1: I mean, look at us. We worked till nine o'clock

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Speaker 1: every day, Like we're done at nine.

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Speaker 2: You're not working. You're complaining for three hours.

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Speaker 1: I'm not entertaining the entire city for three hours every

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Speaker 1: day free of charge.

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Speaker 3: It's a shallow move.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like you're a bit shallow coat in your Gucci sandals.

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Speaker 1: I don't have Gucci. I actually don't.

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Speaker 2: What are you even talking about with? Kate?

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