1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:14,441 Speaker 1: Appochie, production, goal setting, yay signing. 2 00:00:14,481 --> 00:00:15,921 Speaker 2: A lot of people have been asking. 3 00:00:15,601 --> 00:00:19,001 Speaker 1: About all right, let's get straight into it. First step 4 00:00:19,081 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: that I recommend doing, and I did speak about this 5 00:00:20,721 --> 00:00:22,521 Speaker 1: on another episode, but obviously I'm going to give you 6 00:00:22,561 --> 00:00:24,881 Speaker 1: all the steps is to clean everything out. I just 7 00:00:24,921 --> 00:00:27,081 Speaker 1: think when you clean everything out in your external space, 8 00:00:27,121 --> 00:00:29,121 Speaker 1: your internal mind is nice and clear, then you can 9 00:00:29,121 --> 00:00:30,521 Speaker 1: get clarity or where you want to go, what you 10 00:00:30,561 --> 00:00:32,440 Speaker 1: want to do, what you want to achieve. So I'm 11 00:00:32,481 --> 00:00:36,761 Speaker 1: talking clean out your inbox, unsubscribed to all the brands 12 00:00:36,801 --> 00:00:38,920 Speaker 1: and SALSI and all the stuff that you get, like 13 00:00:38,961 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 1: the jump that you get in your inbox, Clean out 14 00:00:41,321 --> 00:00:44,161 Speaker 1: your emails. Clean out your bedroom, your side draws, your 15 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:47,041 Speaker 1: free your freezer, your pantry, your back sheds, your car, 16 00:00:47,480 --> 00:00:51,001 Speaker 1: literally anything where there is a cartrol. Yeah, your clothes, 17 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:52,441 Speaker 1: things that you're not using. If you have not worn 18 00:00:52,480 --> 00:00:54,121 Speaker 1: that dress in the year, I guarantee you're not going 19 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:56,641 Speaker 1: to wear it, donate it, sell it, get rid of it. 20 00:00:56,681 --> 00:01:00,081 Speaker 1: Same with your makeup, everything like kids, toys. Clean it out. 21 00:01:00,081 --> 00:01:01,920 Speaker 1: It's such a good place to start, and I really 22 00:01:01,961 --> 00:01:04,161 Speaker 1: feel like it gives you that momentum and that motivation 23 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:06,681 Speaker 1: to be like, Okay, what's my next step? So then 24 00:01:06,881 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 1: my next step is to do a reflection on the 25 00:01:08,961 --> 00:01:11,521 Speaker 1: previous year. So I really do a lot of journaling 26 00:01:11,601 --> 00:01:12,840 Speaker 1: right down a lot. I just spent a lot of 27 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:14,721 Speaker 1: time by myself, actually, And when I sat by the 28 00:01:14,761 --> 00:01:17,121 Speaker 1: beach for three hours the other day, Steve had been 29 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:18,840 Speaker 1: out all day working. I was with kids and it 30 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:20,121 Speaker 1: got to like four o'clock and I got home and 31 00:01:20,121 --> 00:01:21,801 Speaker 1: I said, I'm just gonna go out for the afternoon 32 00:01:21,801 --> 00:01:24,441 Speaker 1: and just have some time on myself. And I used 33 00:01:24,481 --> 00:01:27,321 Speaker 1: our Grow and Glow Healing journal. I reflected a lot 34 00:01:27,321 --> 00:01:29,161 Speaker 1: in that, and then I also did chapter nine, which 35 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:32,761 Speaker 1: is manifestation and goal setting, and I just really reflected 36 00:01:32,840 --> 00:01:34,241 Speaker 1: on and I'm going to give you guys some journal 37 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:36,681 Speaker 1: prompts at the end, but like what's working, what's not? 38 00:01:37,041 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 1: What did I hate from last year? What annoyed me? 39 00:01:39,081 --> 00:01:41,721 Speaker 1: What was flowing? What wasn't? What do I want more of? 40 00:01:41,761 --> 00:01:44,000 Speaker 1: How can I incorporate more? Like what are my steps? 41 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:46,801 Speaker 1: And just prompted after prompt and just wrote down so 42 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:49,361 Speaker 1: much and I got really really clear. So that's my 43 00:01:49,401 --> 00:01:49,921 Speaker 1: next step. 44 00:01:49,961 --> 00:01:51,561 Speaker 2: And I feel like this is something we need to 45 00:01:51,561 --> 00:01:53,841 Speaker 2: do more regularly than once a year because the direction 46 00:01:53,961 --> 00:01:55,641 Speaker 2: I want to move in what comes up, what we 47 00:01:55,681 --> 00:01:58,081 Speaker 2: want to change, what we once might have like absolutely 48 00:01:58,121 --> 00:02:00,441 Speaker 2: loved to what right now might be like, no, that's 49 00:02:00,441 --> 00:02:04,241 Speaker 2: not serving me anymore? Is changing so often? Definitely, I 50 00:02:04,241 --> 00:02:07,081 Speaker 2: feel like this is something like every few months. 51 00:02:06,881 --> 00:02:08,881 Speaker 1: It's just like a monthly ordered even just to check 52 00:02:08,881 --> 00:02:09,321 Speaker 1: in to make. 53 00:02:09,201 --> 00:02:10,761 Speaker 2: Sure everything's learning. 54 00:02:11,001 --> 00:02:14,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, I love those check ins, Oh so good. Definitely. 55 00:02:15,121 --> 00:02:16,961 Speaker 1: The next thing that I do is I break it 56 00:02:17,041 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: up into categories, so all of the things that I 57 00:02:19,561 --> 00:02:22,000 Speaker 1: really value or break them up. So for me, it's 58 00:02:22,041 --> 00:02:27,881 Speaker 1: like my health and fitness, my family connection with like friends, work, finances, 59 00:02:28,081 --> 00:02:31,161 Speaker 1: travel and variety, and I'd break them up, write them 60 00:02:31,161 --> 00:02:33,161 Speaker 1: all down. I have Steve got this massive sheet of 61 00:02:33,161 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 1: paper and would write them out and then would do 62 00:02:35,561 --> 00:02:38,361 Speaker 1: little dot points off from that. Soh in health and fitness, 63 00:02:38,361 --> 00:02:40,041 Speaker 1: I want to do this, this and this, How am 64 00:02:40,041 --> 00:02:41,521 Speaker 1: I going to do that? Once a week I book 65 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:42,721 Speaker 1: them for this da da da, and then I make 66 00:02:42,721 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 1: my action plan for every single step because it's nice 67 00:02:45,921 --> 00:02:48,481 Speaker 1: and fluffy to set some goals. If you don't have 68 00:02:48,800 --> 00:02:51,721 Speaker 1: an action plan in place, and you're setting up a 69 00:02:51,761 --> 00:02:54,240 Speaker 1: system to how to get there, you're probably gonna forget 70 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:56,641 Speaker 1: about them. You probably won't achieve them. So break it 71 00:02:56,761 --> 00:02:59,641 Speaker 1: up and then break it down even more every single 72 00:03:00,001 --> 00:03:01,041 Speaker 1: thing that you've broken up. 73 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:02,921 Speaker 2: Do you guys do your whole goal setting together? 74 00:03:03,081 --> 00:03:03,321 Speaker 1: Yes? 75 00:03:03,481 --> 00:03:06,121 Speaker 2: See, we did parts separately and then parts together. 76 00:03:06,281 --> 00:03:08,201 Speaker 1: I had the session by myself the other day, right, 77 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:09,041 Speaker 1: I don't a. 78 00:03:09,041 --> 00:03:11,240 Speaker 2: Reflection on my own too. But then with say like 79 00:03:11,321 --> 00:03:13,561 Speaker 2: Loveless Rose, obviously it's both our business. We got into 80 00:03:13,641 --> 00:03:16,681 Speaker 2: that together relationship. We sat down and like did together 81 00:03:16,721 --> 00:03:19,161 Speaker 2: family together. But then like goal setting for like business 82 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:21,121 Speaker 2: like grow and glowing this like all different things that 83 00:03:21,161 --> 00:03:22,921 Speaker 2: I had and different things he had and like what 84 00:03:23,041 --> 00:03:24,761 Speaker 2: he wants more in his life. We did like went 85 00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:27,641 Speaker 2: off separately for an hour each my own as well. 86 00:03:27,921 --> 00:03:30,560 Speaker 2: We just did it all together and on a time 87 00:03:30,601 --> 00:03:31,681 Speaker 2: limit too. Yeah. 88 00:03:32,001 --> 00:03:33,761 Speaker 1: Yeah, so we just had a big bits of paper 89 00:03:33,761 --> 00:03:35,681 Speaker 1: and we were talking the whole time. But we were 90 00:03:35,721 --> 00:03:38,041 Speaker 1: discussing it together, and he'd be like, oh, hi, do 91 00:03:38,161 --> 00:03:39,401 Speaker 1: I want to do this? I'm like, oh my gosh, 92 00:03:39,481 --> 00:03:42,241 Speaker 1: what about this? So we just bounced off each other. Yeah, 93 00:03:42,281 --> 00:03:44,281 Speaker 1: So definitely break it up, get really really clear on 94 00:03:44,321 --> 00:03:46,281 Speaker 1: what's important to you, and then what do you want 95 00:03:46,281 --> 00:03:48,881 Speaker 1: to achieve. And also like, don't be scared put something 96 00:03:48,921 --> 00:03:53,041 Speaker 1: down even if it seems unachievable. You aren't putting things 97 00:03:53,081 --> 00:03:54,881 Speaker 1: down that like scare you a little bit and take 98 00:03:54,881 --> 00:03:56,561 Speaker 1: you outside your comment zone. You're probably gonna be in 99 00:03:56,561 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 1: the same position this time. 100 00:03:57,921 --> 00:04:00,121 Speaker 2: Just be brave, challenge yourself. 101 00:04:00,321 --> 00:04:03,081 Speaker 1: No dreams too big, na, Like, who's to say that 102 00:04:03,121 --> 00:04:05,521 Speaker 1: you can't make that much money or achieve that goal 103 00:04:05,641 --> 00:04:06,321 Speaker 1: or do this and that. 104 00:04:06,361 --> 00:04:08,201 Speaker 2: And the thing is when you set a huge goal 105 00:04:08,241 --> 00:04:10,801 Speaker 2: like that, anyway, even if you meet it halfway, you 106 00:04:10,881 --> 00:04:13,161 Speaker 2: probably done way better than you would if you were 107 00:04:13,201 --> 00:04:14,121 Speaker 2: low balling yourself. 108 00:04:14,561 --> 00:04:17,841 Speaker 1: So it's like go for it, definitely, and like progress 109 00:04:17,961 --> 00:04:21,001 Speaker 1: is progress, yeah right, And sometimes your goals won't plan 110 00:04:21,081 --> 00:04:23,481 Speaker 1: out to be exactly how you planned it out to be. 111 00:04:23,521 --> 00:04:25,281 Speaker 1: But like you said, if you have made a step 112 00:04:25,561 --> 00:04:27,561 Speaker 1: or four steps or ten steps, that's better than where 113 00:04:27,561 --> 00:04:30,721 Speaker 1: you were a year ago and should be proud of that. Yeah, 114 00:04:30,801 --> 00:04:32,801 Speaker 1: I think it's really important. This is a new thing, 115 00:04:32,841 --> 00:04:35,321 Speaker 1: which I talk about at the end too, but breaking 116 00:04:35,361 --> 00:04:39,521 Speaker 1: it up into realistic time frames. So when it comes 117 00:04:39,601 --> 00:04:42,521 Speaker 1: to especially financial goals and like products that want to 118 00:04:42,521 --> 00:04:44,801 Speaker 1: bring out for grow and glow, it's like last night 119 00:04:44,801 --> 00:04:47,121 Speaker 1: we were actually mapping out when we're going to release 120 00:04:47,201 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 1: these products and having realistic goals around that. Okay, realistically, 121 00:04:51,281 --> 00:04:52,721 Speaker 1: like we probably need a couple of months to be 122 00:04:52,761 --> 00:04:55,161 Speaker 1: able to do that, develop it, get the samples, do 123 00:04:55,241 --> 00:04:57,441 Speaker 1: all the content for it, the website. Like, there's actually 124 00:04:57,521 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: quite a big process. So make sure your goals are 125 00:04:59,121 --> 00:05:00,080 Speaker 1: still like realistic. 126 00:05:00,201 --> 00:05:00,761 Speaker 2: Yeah, you can. 127 00:05:00,721 --> 00:05:02,281 Speaker 1: Dream big, but I think you need to be what 128 00:05:02,281 --> 00:05:05,401 Speaker 1: do they call it realist? A realist? Yes? Yeah. 129 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:07,041 Speaker 2: And another thing too that I'd like to pop in 130 00:05:07,081 --> 00:05:09,041 Speaker 2: there is when you sit down and you get really 131 00:05:09,081 --> 00:05:11,201 Speaker 2: clear on what you're wanting to do, what you're wanting 132 00:05:11,241 --> 00:05:13,681 Speaker 2: to achieve, you may look at that and go ooh, 133 00:05:14,001 --> 00:05:15,041 Speaker 2: do I have the space to that? 134 00:05:15,161 --> 00:05:15,401 Speaker 1: Yes. 135 00:05:15,601 --> 00:05:17,481 Speaker 2: It's also a time to reflect and be like, I'm 136 00:05:17,481 --> 00:05:19,281 Speaker 2: going to have to let golf something. Yeah, if I 137 00:05:19,481 --> 00:05:21,681 Speaker 2: want to go all ham in on this, I can't 138 00:05:21,761 --> 00:05:23,961 Speaker 2: keep doing this. So it's a great time to look 139 00:05:24,001 --> 00:05:25,481 Speaker 2: out your life and be like, Okay, if I want 140 00:05:25,481 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 2: to do that, where can I make this room? Where 141 00:05:27,641 --> 00:05:30,321 Speaker 2: can I sacrifice time elsewhere? Because it's all a sacrifice 142 00:05:30,361 --> 00:05:33,081 Speaker 2: if you want to reach these amazing big goals and dreams, 143 00:05:33,401 --> 00:05:35,080 Speaker 2: it is a sacrifice. That's what it comes down to. 144 00:05:35,361 --> 00:05:38,161 Speaker 1: It'll really highlight what is actually important to you. Yeah, 145 00:05:38,361 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 1: what's important to you're put in front of the other thing. 146 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 2: You will Yeah, Parnies, I love that. 147 00:05:43,281 --> 00:05:44,921 Speaker 1: And the last thing that I haven't quite done, but 148 00:05:44,961 --> 00:05:47,481 Speaker 1: I've printed it all out is I created a vision 149 00:05:47,481 --> 00:05:49,841 Speaker 1: board on Pinterest and then transported the photos over to 150 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:51,481 Speaker 1: Camber and then printed them out. And now I've got 151 00:05:51,481 --> 00:05:53,400 Speaker 1: a big canvas that I actually want to, like a 152 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:55,161 Speaker 1: real life one. I don't like a vision board it's 153 00:05:55,161 --> 00:05:55,681 Speaker 1: on my phone. 154 00:05:55,841 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 2: No, I agree. 155 00:05:56,561 --> 00:05:58,121 Speaker 1: I feel like cutting it out and making it look 156 00:05:58,121 --> 00:05:59,961 Speaker 1: pretty and then having it in your bedroom. When you 157 00:06:00,001 --> 00:06:02,721 Speaker 1: see it every day, you're getting into that energy and 158 00:06:02,761 --> 00:06:04,801 Speaker 1: it's reminding you of what you want and you're constantly 159 00:06:04,801 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 1: working towards you, like, yes, yes, that's what I want. Like, 160 00:06:07,641 --> 00:06:09,921 Speaker 1: I don't know, it's just I love a good vision board. 161 00:06:10,161 --> 00:06:11,761 Speaker 2: Something really cool that I want to do that I 162 00:06:11,801 --> 00:06:14,721 Speaker 2: haven't actually done yet, but I did do this probably honestly, 163 00:06:14,801 --> 00:06:17,561 Speaker 2: is probably five years ago now. I was listening to 164 00:06:17,601 --> 00:06:19,561 Speaker 2: somebody talk about it and they said that they'd never 165 00:06:19,601 --> 00:06:21,681 Speaker 2: manifested as much in their entire life as when they 166 00:06:21,721 --> 00:06:24,641 Speaker 2: did this, So they wrote out a list of three 167 00:06:24,721 --> 00:06:26,681 Speaker 2: hundred things. And you know the cool thing about writing 168 00:06:26,681 --> 00:06:29,401 Speaker 2: out three hundred things is you include all the small things, 169 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:30,801 Speaker 2: all the big things. You think about things you're like, 170 00:06:30,841 --> 00:06:32,321 Speaker 2: you know, I would like that. You write out a 171 00:06:32,361 --> 00:06:34,161 Speaker 2: list of three hundred things, and then every day you 172 00:06:34,161 --> 00:06:35,841 Speaker 2: don't need to read every single one, but you just 173 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 2: flick through it. You flick through it. And that year 174 00:06:38,241 --> 00:06:40,601 Speaker 2: when I did that, I cannot believe how many things 175 00:06:40,601 --> 00:06:42,361 Speaker 2: that I ticked off that list, and how many things 176 00:06:42,361 --> 00:06:45,881 Speaker 2: felt so out of reach that I'd actually ended up achieving. 177 00:06:45,561 --> 00:06:47,481 Speaker 1: Because it's just in the forefront of your mind, right. 178 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:49,121 Speaker 2: And you're reminding yourself. So every day when you flick 179 00:06:49,121 --> 00:06:50,561 Speaker 2: through the book, you're like, oh shit, I did say 180 00:06:50,561 --> 00:06:52,161 Speaker 2: I want to do that, and you kind of holding 181 00:06:52,161 --> 00:06:52,481 Speaker 2: yourself a. 182 00:06:52,481 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 1: Bound in might take a step there. 183 00:06:54,561 --> 00:06:56,961 Speaker 2: Yeah, so I haven't done that yet, but I do 184 00:06:57,001 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 2: want to do that because I feel like, wow, it worked. 185 00:06:59,401 --> 00:07:00,841 Speaker 1: Do you know what when you told me about that? 186 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:02,641 Speaker 1: It must have been about a year ago, ages ago. 187 00:07:02,921 --> 00:07:04,441 Speaker 1: I wrote out a list, but I think I could 188 00:07:04,481 --> 00:07:06,881 Speaker 1: only get to like seventy or eighty or something. How 189 00:07:06,921 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 1: do care I get three hundred? In a lot of 190 00:07:08,921 --> 00:07:11,041 Speaker 1: times yeah, but it was so cool to even just 191 00:07:11,081 --> 00:07:13,281 Speaker 1: list out that many things. I was like, oh, and 192 00:07:13,281 --> 00:07:15,281 Speaker 1: that seems big to want that or to get that, 193 00:07:15,401 --> 00:07:17,001 Speaker 1: but I was like, fuck, yeah, why can't I not 194 00:07:17,121 --> 00:07:17,441 Speaker 1: get that? 195 00:07:17,681 --> 00:07:19,721 Speaker 2: But it can be little things too, looking like I 196 00:07:19,721 --> 00:07:21,401 Speaker 2: want those new pair of shoes. Yeah, I've been eyeing 197 00:07:21,401 --> 00:07:23,001 Speaker 2: those off. I want to save up and be able 198 00:07:23,081 --> 00:07:25,361 Speaker 2: to get those or hard yeah. 199 00:07:25,441 --> 00:07:27,841 Speaker 1: Yeah, putting it out there, manifesting it and getting really 200 00:07:27,841 --> 00:07:29,721 Speaker 1: clear on what you do want, because if you're not clear, 201 00:07:29,721 --> 00:07:32,601 Speaker 1: the universe can't deliver no way. So I love that 202 00:07:32,721 --> 00:07:34,881 Speaker 1: make a big list. See. That was my last main 203 00:07:34,921 --> 00:07:36,841 Speaker 1: point was just to creat a vision board. So that's 204 00:07:36,881 --> 00:07:38,361 Speaker 1: kind of my step by step process. 205 00:07:38,561 --> 00:07:40,281 Speaker 2: The main other thing that I've written here is let 206 00:07:40,281 --> 00:07:42,521 Speaker 2: go of old habits and old stories as well. I 207 00:07:42,521 --> 00:07:44,761 Speaker 2: feel like when you go down and you're writing a 208 00:07:44,761 --> 00:07:46,121 Speaker 2: big list of all these things that you wanted to 209 00:07:46,161 --> 00:07:48,321 Speaker 2: achieve or goals you want to do, it is a 210 00:07:48,361 --> 00:07:51,761 Speaker 2: bit scary. It is a bit vulnerable, and you're fucking worthy. 211 00:07:51,881 --> 00:07:54,121 Speaker 2: You deserve it. Go for it. Don't tell yourself or 212 00:07:54,161 --> 00:07:56,081 Speaker 2: maybe I shouldn't write this, or maybe I shouldn't do that. 213 00:07:56,281 --> 00:07:57,161 Speaker 2: Write it down there. 214 00:07:57,041 --> 00:07:59,121 Speaker 1: There will be that little mean girl voice that pops 215 00:07:59,161 --> 00:08:00,921 Speaker 1: up and says like you don't deserve that, or like 216 00:08:00,921 --> 00:08:02,721 Speaker 1: you've tried that before and I do that you've failed that, 217 00:08:02,961 --> 00:08:04,761 Speaker 1: or ye, like Mum and Dad said, I could never 218 00:08:04,761 --> 00:08:07,641 Speaker 1: achieve that. Like those stories and little voices will pop up, 219 00:08:07,721 --> 00:08:09,801 Speaker 1: but it doesn't mean it's the truth. 220 00:08:09,921 --> 00:08:11,881 Speaker 2: No, And even like you said, set the big goal, 221 00:08:11,921 --> 00:08:13,601 Speaker 2: even if you reach it halfway, if you set a 222 00:08:13,601 --> 00:08:15,041 Speaker 2: goal that was only a tenth of that, at leash 223 00:08:15,081 --> 00:08:16,081 Speaker 2: have gone that far. 224 00:08:16,441 --> 00:08:19,121 Speaker 1: Yeah, and just be aware when those stories come up 225 00:08:19,121 --> 00:08:22,241 Speaker 1: and those old beliefs catch them, like hang on. You 226 00:08:22,241 --> 00:08:25,801 Speaker 1: can rewire your brain by changing the language and creating 227 00:08:25,801 --> 00:08:28,721 Speaker 1: a new story. But it takes repetition after repetition after repetition, 228 00:08:28,961 --> 00:08:30,601 Speaker 1: just like going to the gym so you get stronger. 229 00:08:30,601 --> 00:08:32,041 Speaker 1: That's how you grow that muscle. It's the same with 230 00:08:32,081 --> 00:08:32,521 Speaker 1: your mind. 231 00:08:32,721 --> 00:08:33,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. 232 00:08:33,361 --> 00:08:35,281 Speaker 1: There's a clip that Steve and I watch on YouTube 233 00:08:35,281 --> 00:08:39,641 Speaker 1: and his name is Jesse It'zer. His partner owns spanks 234 00:08:39,921 --> 00:08:42,641 Speaker 1: and he owns I'll have to look it up anyways, 235 00:08:42,641 --> 00:08:44,281 Speaker 1: so you can look it up on YouTube. Jesse It's 236 00:08:44,281 --> 00:08:47,721 Speaker 1: a it z Er and it's how he does his 237 00:08:47,761 --> 00:08:49,841 Speaker 1: goal setting every single year. And I just took a 238 00:08:49,881 --> 00:08:51,761 Speaker 1: couple of points away from it. I really really like. 239 00:08:52,641 --> 00:08:55,001 Speaker 1: He said, you want to have one big goal that 240 00:08:55,041 --> 00:08:56,641 Speaker 1: at the end of the year, and he does this 241 00:08:56,721 --> 00:08:58,841 Speaker 1: the reflection on New Year's Day as well, one big 242 00:08:58,841 --> 00:09:01,041 Speaker 1: thing that you did each year. So set yourself one 243 00:09:01,281 --> 00:09:03,081 Speaker 1: big goal and at the end of you can have 244 00:09:03,121 --> 00:09:04,601 Speaker 1: that one big thing you're like, Wow, that was a 245 00:09:04,681 --> 00:09:07,521 Speaker 1: huge moment for me. But make sure there's one yeah 246 00:09:07,761 --> 00:09:10,041 Speaker 1: that's like that's really really cool. That helps you really 247 00:09:10,121 --> 00:09:13,921 Speaker 1: think big and dream big. Yep. And then he said, 248 00:09:14,041 --> 00:09:16,401 Speaker 1: every eight weeks or so, do something that you wouldn't 249 00:09:16,401 --> 00:09:18,521 Speaker 1: normally do. So this creates a lot of variety, a 250 00:09:18,561 --> 00:09:20,801 Speaker 1: lot of adventure, cool new memory steps, you outside your 251 00:09:20,801 --> 00:09:22,841 Speaker 1: comfort zone, have new things to look forward to, and 252 00:09:22,881 --> 00:09:25,201 Speaker 1: it expands your creativity of like what can we do? 253 00:09:25,241 --> 00:09:26,961 Speaker 1: What adventures can we get up to? And I was like, 254 00:09:27,001 --> 00:09:30,961 Speaker 1: that's so yeah. But try new things and he does 255 00:09:31,001 --> 00:09:33,561 Speaker 1: every single eight weeks he'll book something in it's rock climbing, 256 00:09:33,561 --> 00:09:35,401 Speaker 1: you're going on a different high called booking a different 257 00:09:35,401 --> 00:09:39,241 Speaker 1: stay ca or trying a new restaurant, or doing some 258 00:09:39,321 --> 00:09:41,241 Speaker 1: new cool thing with their kids. He's got four kids 259 00:09:41,281 --> 00:09:43,041 Speaker 1: and he's like I'm always looking for something that every 260 00:09:43,041 --> 00:09:45,161 Speaker 1: eight weeks I do it. And sorry, I will say 261 00:09:45,161 --> 00:09:47,641 Speaker 1: at the start. He sells these big three hundred and 262 00:09:47,681 --> 00:09:51,281 Speaker 1: sixty five day calendars, so he actually maps out his 263 00:09:51,441 --> 00:09:54,641 Speaker 1: whole year, so he books in every stay care that 264 00:09:54,681 --> 00:09:57,241 Speaker 1: he wants to have every eight weeks, the new adventurest 265 00:09:57,241 --> 00:09:58,521 Speaker 1: thing is going to try with him and his kids 266 00:09:58,601 --> 00:10:01,961 Speaker 1: or whatever. He books in a solo trip, a friend trip, 267 00:10:02,441 --> 00:10:06,081 Speaker 1: a coubles trip, and a family trip, so you go 268 00:10:06,161 --> 00:10:08,001 Speaker 1: on a trip with his wife, a trip with his family, 269 00:10:08,001 --> 00:10:10,161 Speaker 1: a trip with his friends, and a solo trip. So 270 00:10:10,201 --> 00:10:11,641 Speaker 1: he maps out, and so Steve and I are going 271 00:10:11,641 --> 00:10:13,721 Speaker 1: to do as well. Solo one scares me a bit, 272 00:10:13,921 --> 00:10:15,841 Speaker 1: but every year he'll map out when he's going to 273 00:10:15,921 --> 00:10:18,001 Speaker 1: do those. And then another one he said was every 274 00:10:18,081 --> 00:10:19,841 Speaker 1: quarter he goes on a stay care with his wife 275 00:10:19,881 --> 00:10:22,201 Speaker 1: because they've got four children, so every quarter they're going 276 00:10:22,201 --> 00:10:24,401 Speaker 1: to book something in that's just them too. It's just 277 00:10:24,441 --> 00:10:25,921 Speaker 1: like a couple of nights away. Steve and I are 278 00:10:25,921 --> 00:10:27,801 Speaker 1: gonna do that. We're gonna implement that. So we went 279 00:10:27,841 --> 00:10:29,681 Speaker 1: to office works and bought these big calendars. That's what 280 00:10:29,681 --> 00:10:30,641 Speaker 1: we haven't done yet. 281 00:10:30,761 --> 00:10:32,361 Speaker 2: You're going to map out a whole year and then 282 00:10:32,361 --> 00:10:34,881 Speaker 2: you can book it in. It's there, it's exactly scheduled in, 283 00:10:35,361 --> 00:10:35,681 Speaker 2: so I'm. 284 00:10:35,601 --> 00:10:38,721 Speaker 1: Going to be in. It's not going to happen. Don't 285 00:10:38,841 --> 00:10:40,201 Speaker 1: you do this with your work as well. So like 286 00:10:40,241 --> 00:10:41,881 Speaker 1: I've got you know, three experts I'm going to run. 287 00:10:41,881 --> 00:10:43,201 Speaker 1: We're going to run, and one in Melbourne, one in 288 00:10:43,201 --> 00:10:45,481 Speaker 1: Brisbane and one in Sydney. We're marking those out. We've 289 00:10:45,481 --> 00:10:47,481 Speaker 1: got those days booked in. It is happening. I put 290 00:10:47,521 --> 00:10:49,161 Speaker 1: it down there, I've spoken to my team about it. 291 00:10:49,161 --> 00:10:51,921 Speaker 1: I'm announcing it on here. It's happening. I'm held accountable. 292 00:10:51,961 --> 00:10:54,081 Speaker 1: It was if I didn't put that on there, Yeah, 293 00:10:54,361 --> 00:10:56,001 Speaker 1: my fear might get in the way, or time might 294 00:10:56,041 --> 00:10:57,721 Speaker 1: get away, or like oh I'm too busy, I don't 295 00:10:57,761 --> 00:10:59,961 Speaker 1: have the money. It's too scary. But now I've booked 296 00:11:00,001 --> 00:11:02,321 Speaker 1: it and it's there. And then he's also got like 297 00:11:02,401 --> 00:11:04,721 Speaker 1: his weekly appointments, like for me, my acupunch once a month. 298 00:11:04,721 --> 00:11:07,841 Speaker 1: I've that in now, Yeah, your PT session, whatever it is, 299 00:11:07,881 --> 00:11:09,801 Speaker 1: it's all marched on your calendar and it's somewhere like 300 00:11:09,841 --> 00:11:11,601 Speaker 1: in your office or in your home where you see 301 00:11:11,601 --> 00:11:13,841 Speaker 1: it and it's like cool, what a fucking cool year 302 00:11:13,841 --> 00:11:15,721 Speaker 1: I've got. And if you use looking a bit boring, 303 00:11:15,841 --> 00:11:18,081 Speaker 1: change it. That's these things in there. 304 00:11:18,041 --> 00:11:19,841 Speaker 2: Egency's five day calendar. 305 00:11:20,001 --> 00:11:21,641 Speaker 1: It's a huge. You get it from office Works. He 306 00:11:21,721 --> 00:11:23,601 Speaker 1: sells them online, but it's very similar to when I 307 00:11:23,601 --> 00:11:25,921 Speaker 1: go from Office works and it's a whole year. It's huge. 308 00:11:25,961 --> 00:11:28,121 Speaker 1: So Steve and I got one each, and it's just 309 00:11:28,121 --> 00:11:29,761 Speaker 1: so cool, Like when I do it, I can't wait 310 00:11:29,761 --> 00:11:31,441 Speaker 1: to look at my year and be like fuck yeah, 311 00:11:31,681 --> 00:11:33,081 Speaker 1: Like I've got to go to a wedding. I've got 312 00:11:33,081 --> 00:11:34,801 Speaker 1: to go. I get to go to a wedding in 313 00:11:34,841 --> 00:11:37,921 Speaker 1: Italy this year, and that's in September. I'm locked in 314 00:11:37,961 --> 00:11:39,801 Speaker 1: and I'm going to book a staka in the staycase. 315 00:11:39,841 --> 00:11:42,001 Speaker 1: Steve's gonna do two where he surprises me where we're 316 00:11:42,001 --> 00:11:43,361 Speaker 1: going and I don't know where I'm going and I'll 317 00:11:43,361 --> 00:11:46,641 Speaker 1: surprise him like bring that like romance and surprise back again. 318 00:11:47,321 --> 00:11:50,281 Speaker 1: So I just loved his way of doing it, incorporating 319 00:11:50,361 --> 00:11:51,721 Speaker 1: that into what I was already doing. 320 00:11:51,881 --> 00:11:52,841 Speaker 2: That's really cool. 321 00:11:53,001 --> 00:11:55,361 Speaker 1: And he also said one other thing was to incorporate 322 00:11:55,481 --> 00:11:59,321 Speaker 1: one new habit every quarter, a new habit that you 323 00:11:59,401 --> 00:12:02,321 Speaker 1: want to get better at. That's your focus to that quarter. 324 00:12:02,401 --> 00:12:04,281 Speaker 1: If you have too many habits at once feel a 325 00:12:04,321 --> 00:12:07,441 Speaker 1: bit overwhelming. Yeah, if you have one every quarter, it's 326 00:12:07,441 --> 00:12:09,401 Speaker 1: helped every area of his life because there's always new 327 00:12:09,441 --> 00:12:10,401 Speaker 1: things that he wants to get better. 328 00:12:10,481 --> 00:12:12,641 Speaker 2: To get it, new habits a stick, it needs time 329 00:12:12,681 --> 00:12:14,881 Speaker 2: as well, So that's perfect a quarter to focus on 330 00:12:14,881 --> 00:12:17,201 Speaker 2: one thing and doing it repeatedly. 331 00:12:16,881 --> 00:12:19,801 Speaker 1: Because sometimes it's week or two weeks. Three weeks isn't enough, No, 332 00:12:19,921 --> 00:12:21,201 Speaker 1: but a quarter is like a good it's a lot 333 00:12:21,201 --> 00:12:23,281 Speaker 1: amount to really put energy and focus onto it. Yeah, 334 00:12:23,321 --> 00:12:26,561 Speaker 1: that's so cool. Yeah, so go check it out. It's 335 00:12:26,561 --> 00:12:27,561 Speaker 1: really cool video to watch. 336 00:12:27,641 --> 00:12:30,041 Speaker 2: Something I'd like to like throw in there too, is 337 00:12:30,321 --> 00:12:33,721 Speaker 2: if you set goals as well, and halfway through the 338 00:12:33,801 --> 00:12:36,841 Speaker 2: year things need to pivot or shuffle or change. Be 339 00:12:36,921 --> 00:12:37,481 Speaker 2: okay with that? 340 00:12:37,641 --> 00:12:37,921 Speaker 1: Yeah? 341 00:12:38,001 --> 00:12:39,561 Speaker 2: You know I feel like sometimes too, like setting goals 342 00:12:39,681 --> 00:12:42,121 Speaker 2: so fun and so good, but don't hold it to 343 00:12:42,201 --> 00:12:44,721 Speaker 2: be like this really like heavy thing. It's meant to 344 00:12:44,721 --> 00:12:47,161 Speaker 2: be exciting and fun and uplifting. And if something's not 345 00:12:47,201 --> 00:12:49,801 Speaker 2: feeling like that, then maybe it's not truly what you're 346 00:12:49,841 --> 00:12:52,641 Speaker 2: wanting to do or what you're wanting. 347 00:12:52,401 --> 00:12:52,721 Speaker 1: To aim for. 348 00:12:52,761 --> 00:12:54,761 Speaker 2: It should feel scary, it should feel a littleit uncomfortable. 349 00:12:54,761 --> 00:12:56,401 Speaker 1: I think just when you're in tune with yourself and 350 00:12:56,441 --> 00:12:59,321 Speaker 1: what's aligning with you, yes, it'll speak to you. If 351 00:12:59,361 --> 00:13:01,481 Speaker 1: it's not feeling good, yes, because then there's the other 352 00:13:01,521 --> 00:13:03,361 Speaker 1: side of sometimes I'm like, oh do I really want 353 00:13:03,361 --> 00:13:06,761 Speaker 1: I'm like, yes, I'm just being lazy. Different. 354 00:13:07,121 --> 00:13:09,761 Speaker 2: Yeah, even if it's scared, Like being scared is fine. 355 00:13:09,761 --> 00:13:12,161 Speaker 2: But if you're just like, oh fuck, this feels like 356 00:13:12,201 --> 00:13:14,161 Speaker 2: a lot like this, it feels like too much, then 357 00:13:14,161 --> 00:13:14,601 Speaker 2: it's like. 358 00:13:14,561 --> 00:13:17,041 Speaker 1: Sweet, Yeah, the alignment thing I think will make it 359 00:13:17,081 --> 00:13:19,041 Speaker 1: clear few whether you it's the right thing for you 360 00:13:19,161 --> 00:13:21,121 Speaker 1: right now or if you've got the capacity and the 361 00:13:21,161 --> 00:13:24,321 Speaker 1: same breath too. Like something could happen kids getting sick, 362 00:13:24,601 --> 00:13:26,961 Speaker 1: I mean something really like big. Maybe you lose a 363 00:13:26,961 --> 00:13:30,241 Speaker 1: family member, maybe you go through a divorce, maybe you're 364 00:13:30,281 --> 00:13:32,641 Speaker 1: not coping with something. You know, someone has a car, 365 00:13:32,681 --> 00:13:34,721 Speaker 1: I don't know. Something big happens and it really throws 366 00:13:34,721 --> 00:13:36,401 Speaker 1: everything off and you just need that time to heal. 367 00:13:36,481 --> 00:13:39,001 Speaker 1: That's also okay as well. So it's like, yeah, make 368 00:13:39,041 --> 00:13:42,321 Speaker 1: the plans, but be adaptable and flexible definitely sure. Yeah, 369 00:13:42,401 --> 00:13:44,121 Speaker 1: and also yeah, pick yourself up on your own bullshit 370 00:13:44,121 --> 00:13:47,041 Speaker 1: when you are being lazy, because there's definitely times I'm like, 371 00:13:48,641 --> 00:13:51,401 Speaker 1: come on, girl, get up, you can do this, and 372 00:13:51,521 --> 00:13:54,681 Speaker 1: forgive myself that pep talk