1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:07,281 Speaker 1: Apologie Production. 2 00:00:10,641 --> 00:00:18,480 Speaker 2: Welcome to She Rises, Pretty Friday, Secrets, Horror Scandal, Mysterios Wild. 3 00:00:19,201 --> 00:00:22,640 Speaker 1: Thanks for joining us today. We've got a big episode, well, 4 00:00:22,721 --> 00:00:25,561 Speaker 1: a long story this one. When I read this one, 5 00:00:25,681 --> 00:00:29,200 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, dear girl is intrrouble Girl is 6 00:00:29,201 --> 00:00:31,801 Speaker 1: in trouble. Girl is a look at a lot of things. 7 00:00:33,521 --> 00:00:36,361 Speaker 1: Stephanie and Tatiana I hear hosting today's episode. This is 8 00:00:36,361 --> 00:00:38,841 Speaker 1: an anonymous submission, so we have no idea who's written 9 00:00:38,881 --> 00:00:41,520 Speaker 1: this in. But let's get into it and we'll give 10 00:00:41,561 --> 00:00:45,681 Speaker 1: our two cents. I'm asked for two cents, Okay, well 11 00:00:45,760 --> 00:00:48,040 Speaker 1: it was asked for. Yeah, technically it is. You're going 12 00:00:48,120 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: to get the spice, all right. I have a partner 13 00:00:50,801 --> 00:00:53,721 Speaker 1: and two children. My relationship with my partner has been 14 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:57,001 Speaker 1: very rocky and we have discussed breaking up. However, he 15 00:00:57,041 --> 00:00:58,961 Speaker 1: doesn't want to end the relationship and said it would 16 00:00:59,001 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 1: be up to me to decide. I've been offered a 17 00:01:01,601 --> 00:01:04,121 Speaker 1: fly in fly out job and when I was flying 18 00:01:04,161 --> 00:01:06,521 Speaker 1: to the interview, my ex of three years was on 19 00:01:06,601 --> 00:01:08,921 Speaker 1: the plane and happened to work on the same site 20 00:01:08,921 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: that I was interviewing at. We had broken up simply 21 00:01:11,761 --> 00:01:13,681 Speaker 1: for the fact that I wanted to move close to 22 00:01:13,721 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 1: my family and he didn't. We thought it was best 23 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: to end it. I noticed him when I was walking 24 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:20,121 Speaker 1: to the toilet when we got off the plane. We 25 00:01:20,121 --> 00:01:22,121 Speaker 1: got chatting and he asked me on a date. I 26 00:01:22,161 --> 00:01:24,721 Speaker 1: told him I have a new partner and children. To him, now, 27 00:01:24,721 --> 00:01:28,440 Speaker 1: this next past seems almost unbelievable. I went to the site, 28 00:01:28,601 --> 00:01:30,560 Speaker 1: I did the interview, and when I was finished, I 29 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:32,681 Speaker 1: had a tour of the site, including the kitchen area, 30 00:01:32,920 --> 00:01:36,681 Speaker 1: Jim Cabins office areas and pool. As we were walking 31 00:01:36,681 --> 00:01:39,201 Speaker 1: past the pool, a man was walking towards us with 32 00:01:39,241 --> 00:01:41,081 Speaker 1: only a towel on and he had just got an 33 00:01:41,081 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 1: out of the pool. As he walked closer, he said 34 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:46,161 Speaker 1: my name. I turned around and there was one of 35 00:01:46,161 --> 00:01:49,721 Speaker 1: my exes of ten years walking towards me. Another one 36 00:01:49,921 --> 00:01:54,281 Speaker 1: another one the second X stop it. We had a 37 00:01:54,321 --> 00:01:56,481 Speaker 1: quick chat and he asked if I was seeing anyone 38 00:01:56,641 --> 00:01:58,561 Speaker 1: and that we should go on a date. And when 39 00:01:58,561 --> 00:02:00,481 Speaker 1: we were both back in the city where we were from, 40 00:02:00,961 --> 00:02:03,281 Speaker 1: I quickly told him I had a partner and children 41 00:02:03,321 --> 00:02:07,001 Speaker 1: and that would not be possible. Commodity good girl. The 42 00:02:07,041 --> 00:02:09,281 Speaker 1: following day, I was made an offer to work on 43 00:02:09,321 --> 00:02:12,081 Speaker 1: the site, and the salary is three times what I 44 00:02:12,121 --> 00:02:15,201 Speaker 1: currently earn. I want to take the job as we 45 00:02:15,401 --> 00:02:18,441 Speaker 1: desperately are in need of more money to survive. However, 46 00:02:18,601 --> 00:02:20,961 Speaker 1: I am scared. I'll give two temptation to one of 47 00:02:21,001 --> 00:02:23,041 Speaker 1: the two ex's of mine that are on the site, 48 00:02:23,401 --> 00:02:26,121 Speaker 1: or I will be doing a two week on and 49 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:29,481 Speaker 1: one week off roster. Yeap, what would you do? You're 50 00:02:29,481 --> 00:02:32,161 Speaker 1: in travel gal. If you think you're going to be tempted, 51 00:02:32,201 --> 00:02:33,921 Speaker 1: you're one hundred percent going to be tempted, and I 52 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:34,800 Speaker 1: think you're going to go there. 53 00:02:35,001 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 2: Oh well, the fact that you're saying that you think 54 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 2: that you're going to be tempted and you haven't even 55 00:02:38,161 --> 00:02:40,601 Speaker 2: gone yet, like you already know where your head is at. 56 00:02:40,641 --> 00:02:43,400 Speaker 2: And also you said in the beginning that the foundation 57 00:02:43,441 --> 00:02:44,481 Speaker 2: of your current relationship is. 58 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:46,561 Speaker 1: Rocky and he doesn't want to split up, but it 59 00:02:46,641 --> 00:02:49,041 Speaker 1: sounds like you do. He even said, I'll leave it 60 00:02:49,161 --> 00:02:49,681 Speaker 1: up to you. 61 00:02:49,800 --> 00:02:53,161 Speaker 2: There's cracks in your relationship, yeah, Like for him to 62 00:02:53,201 --> 00:02:56,161 Speaker 2: be so blase about like leaving and breaking up, like 63 00:02:56,201 --> 00:02:58,161 Speaker 2: there's something not right, And the fact that. 64 00:02:58,361 --> 00:03:00,321 Speaker 1: She's already said that though, like he doesn't want to 65 00:03:00,361 --> 00:03:02,721 Speaker 1: end the relationship, but they've discussed breaking up, so they 66 00:03:02,761 --> 00:03:04,881 Speaker 1: know there's big cracks. Yeah, I think you need to 67 00:03:05,161 --> 00:03:07,841 Speaker 1: you big girl pants on and the relationship. Yeah, agree, 68 00:03:08,001 --> 00:03:10,041 Speaker 1: all in. We spoke with this a little while ago. 69 00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:12,201 Speaker 1: I just feel so ton of visual with Steve. Yeah, 70 00:03:12,321 --> 00:03:14,800 Speaker 1: I don't have the wandering eye. If you have got 71 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:16,761 Speaker 1: a wondering eye and looking at your ex's like that 72 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:19,041 Speaker 1: and you're worried about temptation, yeah, I feel like you're 73 00:03:19,081 --> 00:03:21,921 Speaker 1: tapped out already or you're emotionally not all in and 74 00:03:22,041 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 1: he deserves and you deserve to be with someone that's 75 00:03:24,281 --> 00:03:27,761 Speaker 1: all in. Agreed. Your poor husband, I just think you 76 00:03:27,761 --> 00:03:28,641 Speaker 1: need to set him free. 77 00:03:28,881 --> 00:03:30,721 Speaker 2: Yeah, and also yourself as well. 78 00:03:30,841 --> 00:03:33,041 Speaker 1: Yeah, you've got a decision and a choice. 79 00:03:33,081 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 2: Now. 80 00:03:33,481 --> 00:03:35,441 Speaker 1: It will hurt to break up the relationship because he 81 00:03:35,441 --> 00:03:37,121 Speaker 1: doesn't want it to, but it will hurt ten times 82 00:03:37,161 --> 00:03:39,321 Speaker 1: more if you betray him and cheat on him with 83 00:03:39,361 --> 00:03:40,361 Speaker 1: an X. Yeah. 84 00:03:41,001 --> 00:03:42,801 Speaker 2: And also as well, that shows as well, like if 85 00:03:42,801 --> 00:03:44,681 Speaker 2: you're tempted by your ex, if I saw my ex now, 86 00:03:44,681 --> 00:03:45,481 Speaker 2: I would not be tempted. 87 00:03:45,481 --> 00:03:46,801 Speaker 1: Oh my god, you know what I mean. So it's 88 00:03:46,801 --> 00:03:51,081 Speaker 1: like it's paying attention awkward. Yeah, okay, you haven't seen 89 00:03:51,121 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 1: your nabors. 90 00:03:51,761 --> 00:03:53,961 Speaker 2: You know, have you doing well, like you know, because 91 00:03:53,961 --> 00:03:55,681 Speaker 2: you have love, like the love never goes away. You 92 00:03:55,721 --> 00:03:57,121 Speaker 2: still have that for them, and you still have the 93 00:03:57,201 --> 00:03:59,001 Speaker 2: respect and all the things. But not to the point 94 00:03:59,041 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 2: where you're like, I'm going to go back there. 95 00:04:01,881 --> 00:04:03,481 Speaker 1: You know, it's a very different feelings. 96 00:04:03,601 --> 00:04:06,641 Speaker 2: So yeah, I mean, definitely have something to look at 97 00:04:06,641 --> 00:04:09,121 Speaker 2: in terms of before you make the decision to take 98 00:04:09,161 --> 00:04:11,361 Speaker 2: the job, look at your relationship first. 99 00:04:11,521 --> 00:04:12,521 Speaker 1: Make the decision there. 100 00:04:12,681 --> 00:04:14,761 Speaker 2: Decide you're either in or you're out, like there's no 101 00:04:14,921 --> 00:04:15,441 Speaker 2: in between. 102 00:04:15,761 --> 00:04:18,121 Speaker 1: No, And if you take this job and you would 103 00:04:18,121 --> 00:04:20,241 Speaker 1: to cheat on him, just put yourself in that situation 104 00:04:20,281 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 1: of how shit you're gonna feel if you feel so 105 00:04:22,001 --> 00:04:24,241 Speaker 1: guilty there's children involving you and your kids looking on 106 00:04:24,361 --> 00:04:26,521 Speaker 1: mum cheated on dad. Yeah, Like it's not the wrong 107 00:04:26,561 --> 00:04:28,241 Speaker 1: model you want to be. I know you wouldn't feel 108 00:04:28,241 --> 00:04:30,521 Speaker 1: good doing that. I almost guarantee it asn't align with 109 00:04:30,601 --> 00:04:32,601 Speaker 1: your values as to who the person you are, the 110 00:04:32,601 --> 00:04:35,281 Speaker 1: woman you are, and you don't do that to your 111 00:04:35,281 --> 00:04:35,761 Speaker 1: partner now. 112 00:04:36,041 --> 00:04:37,760 Speaker 2: And you know what as well, if you want to 113 00:04:37,801 --> 00:04:40,121 Speaker 2: go and be with other people, there's nothing wrong with that, 114 00:04:40,601 --> 00:04:43,601 Speaker 2: but make the decision to disconnect from this person first 115 00:04:43,641 --> 00:04:45,641 Speaker 2: on your partner, because at least that way you can 116 00:04:45,721 --> 00:04:48,321 Speaker 2: keep your integrity intact. You won't have to go through 117 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,361 Speaker 2: the motions of feeling the guilt and shame of being 118 00:04:50,361 --> 00:04:53,401 Speaker 2: someone who is unfaithful, disloyal, deceitful in all of those things, 119 00:04:53,761 --> 00:04:55,481 Speaker 2: and you'll actually be able to go with a clean 120 00:04:55,521 --> 00:04:57,881 Speaker 2: slate and a clean break. This is what I am 121 00:04:57,921 --> 00:05:00,841 Speaker 2: now choosing. You have to make the hard decision first 122 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:01,961 Speaker 2: before you get to have that. 123 00:05:02,201 --> 00:05:04,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, we are totally in all support of making sure 124 00:05:04,681 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: that all if your emotional, physical desires and needs are 125 00:05:07,521 --> 00:05:09,601 Speaker 1: getting men If they're not getting met in this relationship, 126 00:05:10,161 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 1: you have all rights to honor yourself and what you 127 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:14,961 Speaker 1: want in this relationship one hundred percent. You just don't 128 00:05:15,001 --> 00:05:17,441 Speaker 1: have to hurt your husband in the process by being 129 00:05:17,801 --> 00:05:21,601 Speaker 1: deceitful and betraying his trust, breaking his heart. Yeah, through 130 00:05:21,681 --> 00:05:24,721 Speaker 1: having a one night cheating, yelling, or more. 131 00:05:24,561 --> 00:05:26,401 Speaker 2: Honestly, though, what are the odds if you're having to 132 00:05:26,481 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 2: oh same your workplace. 133 00:05:28,641 --> 00:05:31,321 Speaker 1: I can't believe that it's crazy. That's like unheard of. 134 00:05:31,641 --> 00:05:33,801 Speaker 1: And for the job and for the job to be 135 00:05:34,041 --> 00:05:36,321 Speaker 1: three times the amount that you're making now, like you're 136 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:39,401 Speaker 1: going to take the job, and then how does that work? 137 00:05:39,401 --> 00:05:41,761 Speaker 1: I'm so curious. I mean, this is so generalized, but 138 00:05:41,801 --> 00:05:43,361 Speaker 1: I suppose I've only known men to do the fly 139 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:46,401 Speaker 1: and fly out. So just two weeks away one week home, 140 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:49,041 Speaker 1: that'd be really hard for a mom, I feel, And yeah, 141 00:05:49,041 --> 00:05:51,161 Speaker 1: you have children, Yeah, I wonder what that would look like. 142 00:05:51,241 --> 00:05:53,601 Speaker 1: And then I'm guessing, yeah, dud just has them while 143 00:05:53,601 --> 00:05:55,521 Speaker 1: you're away and then you come back, soppos, when they 144 00:05:55,521 --> 00:05:57,160 Speaker 1: come back, they get a full week to be fully 145 00:05:57,201 --> 00:06:00,401 Speaker 1: fully present. We would love love, love love if you're 146 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:03,041 Speaker 1: open to it. And update are you staying? Are you 147 00:06:03,041 --> 00:06:04,641 Speaker 1: taking the job? Are you going to work things out 148 00:06:04,641 --> 00:06:06,321 Speaker 1: with the part? Because that's the thing too, Like, yeah, 149 00:06:06,561 --> 00:06:08,921 Speaker 1: he wants to say in the relationship, is there any 150 00:06:08,961 --> 00:06:10,281 Speaker 1: part of you that wants to work it out? Have 151 00:06:10,361 --> 00:06:12,441 Speaker 1: you guys got counseling? Have you discussed what that may 152 00:06:12,481 --> 00:06:14,681 Speaker 1: look like? Is it any part of you that wants 153 00:06:14,721 --> 00:06:16,401 Speaker 1: to stay? And you tapped out? 154 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:18,241 Speaker 2: And then also with the exes, like is there still 155 00:06:18,241 --> 00:06:18,841 Speaker 2: feelings there? 156 00:06:18,921 --> 00:06:20,001 Speaker 1: Do you want to be there? 157 00:06:20,001 --> 00:06:22,881 Speaker 2: Because like for you to be intimately tempted by them, 158 00:06:23,201 --> 00:06:24,761 Speaker 2: there's got to be something there is just. 159 00:06:24,721 --> 00:06:27,161 Speaker 1: Good sex or is this feelings there? But after what 160 00:06:27,241 --> 00:06:30,281 Speaker 1: was it, ten years, surely there's not still feelings there. 161 00:06:30,281 --> 00:06:32,041 Speaker 2: And I'm telling you right now, I'm definitely not tempted 162 00:06:32,041 --> 00:06:33,361 Speaker 2: by my exes of ten years. 163 00:06:33,401 --> 00:06:36,361 Speaker 1: No way, it's a hard no. So it must have 164 00:06:36,481 --> 00:06:40,361 Speaker 1: been maybe a sexual attractions described him walking out of 165 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:43,641 Speaker 1: the pool. I'm guessing this hot guy fixed pack. He's 166 00:06:43,761 --> 00:06:46,161 Speaker 1: dripping wet in aw. 167 00:06:46,801 --> 00:06:49,481 Speaker 2: Wow, you know what that Maybe there's a lack of 168 00:06:49,481 --> 00:06:51,241 Speaker 2: intimacy there in the original one. 169 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:55,081 Speaker 1: I think definitely there is very rocky. If you're very rocky, 170 00:06:55,081 --> 00:07:00,801 Speaker 1: you're not normally are beautiful intimate few times together? Yeahs nay. 171 00:07:01,001 --> 00:07:02,841 Speaker 1: You'd love to hear from you, Yes, thank you for 172 00:07:02,841 --> 00:07:04,761 Speaker 1: writing this in good luck and we'd love to hearing 173 00:07:04,841 --> 00:07:06,161 Speaker 1: up to Yeah, bring it in. 174 00:07:06,121 --> 00:07:08,760 Speaker 2: And anyone who has any stories. Honestly, it doesn't have 175 00:07:08,801 --> 00:07:10,521 Speaker 2: to be in just one category. It doesn't have to 176 00:07:10,521 --> 00:07:13,001 Speaker 2: do sexual. It doesn't have to be scary, spooky. It 177 00:07:13,001 --> 00:07:14,681 Speaker 2: can be anything that you want. It could be a 178 00:07:14,721 --> 00:07:16,721 Speaker 2: struggle that you're dealing with in a workplace. It could 179 00:07:16,721 --> 00:07:18,161 Speaker 2: be a relationship that you had with a. 180 00:07:18,121 --> 00:07:20,401 Speaker 1: Boss, or crazy story to parties. 181 00:07:20,121 --> 00:07:22,601 Speaker 2: Something that you think is like so like out of 182 00:07:22,641 --> 00:07:23,601 Speaker 2: this world, and. 183 00:07:23,481 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 1: It just feels you're only seen in movies. 184 00:07:26,321 --> 00:07:28,241 Speaker 2: Yeah, bring it in. We want to hear them and 185 00:07:28,241 --> 00:07:30,401 Speaker 2: we want to give you our most unfiltered advice on it. 186 00:07:30,641 --> 00:07:32,681 Speaker 1: Yes, thanks for joining us and we will see you 187 00:07:32,721 --> 00:07:34,841 Speaker 1: on Monday. Bye bye