1 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:12,880 Speaker 1: Hi everyone, It's Carli Taylor for this week's Mojo Monday. 2 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:16,080 Speaker 1: So before a start, I just wanted to mention the 3 00:00:16,120 --> 00:00:22,120 Speaker 1: weather in Melbourne. It has been incredible lately. It is May, 4 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 1: we are in mid May and we're still walking around 5 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 1: in tank tops and t shirts. We are still soaking 6 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,279 Speaker 1: up the sunshine. I was just yesterday I had the 7 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 1: warmth of the sun on my back and it was 8 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:41,159 Speaker 1: just it was just beautiful. It's almost like we've borrowed 9 00:00:41,200 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 1: a week from summer. But I just also with that, 10 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:51,239 Speaker 1: like so many things in life, this there's this tension. 11 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 1: So this sunshine holds this kind of tension because while 12 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:59,160 Speaker 1: we're enjoying the warmth and the beautiful days and the 13 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 1: blue skies, we also have to think about our farmers, 14 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: particularly in Victoria, and what this lack of rain means 15 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: for them. So they're having the same experience of these 16 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:13,600 Speaker 1: beautiful days, but it has a very different impact on them. 17 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:18,720 Speaker 1: So it's really a reminder that life is rarely one thing. Okay, 18 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 1: we have our perspective of our experience and it's full 19 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: of contrast. It's full of mixed feelings and competing truths, 20 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:32,600 Speaker 1: and so that kind of maybe in a roundabout way 21 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:35,680 Speaker 1: brings me to the topic of this week's Mojo Monday. 22 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 1: It's not about the weather. I actually want to talk 23 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:44,040 Speaker 1: about willpower. So willpower can be our fuel for being disciplined. 24 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:48,639 Speaker 1: So it provides us energy and motivation to resist short 25 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 1: term comfort, short term temptations and distractions, and it allows 26 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 1: us to focus on more on long term goals and 27 00:01:58,440 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 1: maintain a consistent approach. But so many of us struggle 28 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 1: with willpower because most of us already know what we 29 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:11,959 Speaker 1: should be doing. So we should be getting up earlier, 30 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:14,520 Speaker 1: we should be exercising more, we should be eating better, 31 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 1: we should stop scrolling, we should start the project, we 32 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:20,239 Speaker 1: should pay that bill, we should clean up the house. 33 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:24,919 Speaker 1: We know what we should be doing that knowing isn't doing. 34 00:02:25,880 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: And this is where there's this tension inside of us. 35 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 1: There's a kind of tug of war going on. There's 36 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:38,679 Speaker 1: a part that's clear and focus and even wise might 37 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:41,640 Speaker 1: not feel like it, but we do have this wise 38 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:44,520 Speaker 1: part of us that knows what we should be doing. 39 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: And that's the one that sees the big picture and 40 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 1: knows exactly what we need to do or what we 41 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: need to do to move forward. And then there's this 42 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:59,000 Speaker 1: other part. This one is a master at coming up 43 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:03,760 Speaker 1: with reasons why today isn't the day. And I'm sure 44 00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:08,519 Speaker 1: that sounds familiar for many people out there. It's not now, 45 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 1: not yet, maybe later, I'll do it tomorrow. So we 46 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:17,320 Speaker 1: tell ourselves we're waiting for something. So maybe we're waiting 47 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: for more time or more motivation, we're waiting to feel 48 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 1: like doing it, or we need a clearer path, or 49 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: we're waiting for the perfect conditions. But the reality of 50 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: this is that life doesn't deal in perfect conditions. Life 51 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 1: deals in messiness and it deals intentions. Life is really messy. 52 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 1: And I've got really clear on this recently. We will 53 00:03:45,720 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 1: never have a we will never have the perfect conditions, 54 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: we will never be completely safe. We will always be 55 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 1: confronted with various levels of pain and discomfort. And the 56 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 1: reality is there will always be a tension between what 57 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:07,760 Speaker 1: we want and what we actually do. So the tension 58 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: between comfort and growth, the tension between the safety of 59 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 1: the known and the uncertainty around putting ourselves out there 60 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:20,160 Speaker 1: and taking the risks we need to take in order 61 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:24,839 Speaker 1: to grow. And it's within that tension that we have 62 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:29,880 Speaker 1: a choice. And I think this is where awareness. Self 63 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:32,719 Speaker 1: awareness comes in because often we feel like we don't 64 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 1: have a choice. But that choice is not going to 65 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:38,320 Speaker 1: be a perfect one and it's not going to be 66 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 1: pain free, but it's a real choice. So you can start, 67 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 1: even if it's messy, even if it's tiny. You can 68 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:51,320 Speaker 1: edge your way forward, one uncomfortable inch at a time. 69 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 1: So here's the reflection for this week. Ask yourself, what 70 00:04:57,520 --> 00:05:02,200 Speaker 1: is the payoff of not staf what's the hidden cost 71 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 1: of that? And then what is the payoff of starting 72 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:08,359 Speaker 1: even if it's just small, even if it's just five 73 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 1: minutes a day, And if things stay exactly as they are, 74 00:05:13,320 --> 00:05:16,680 Speaker 1: what are the consequences in say six months time or 75 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:20,240 Speaker 1: a year or six years. So that leads to your 76 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:23,720 Speaker 1: future self. What does your future self need you to 77 00:05:23,760 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: do right now? Not to feel better, but to be better? 78 00:05:29,240 --> 00:05:32,280 Speaker 1: And I use this all the time now I consider 79 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:35,839 Speaker 1: the needs of my future self and I find this 80 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 1: so motivating. It motivates me and it's like filling me 81 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:44,840 Speaker 1: up with the willpower because my future self, whether that's 82 00:05:44,920 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 1: the near future like tomorrow or next week, or whether 83 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 1: it's six months or six years, will be the result 84 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:56,279 Speaker 1: of what I do now. So Donald Robertson, who pull's 85 00:05:56,320 --> 00:05:58,280 Speaker 1: hat on the podcast a couple of times. He's a 86 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 1: psychotherapist and here for expert in stoic philosophy. But he 87 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 1: said something years ago which I love. He says, get 88 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 1: out of the library, something like this. I don't have 89 00:06:07,560 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 1: the exact quote, but it's get out of the library 90 00:06:09,839 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 1: and become a warrior of action. And I just love 91 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 1: that because you think about it, we are consuming knowledge 92 00:06:18,480 --> 00:06:21,640 Speaker 1: all the time. We're coming up with ideas, we have 93 00:06:21,839 --> 00:06:25,880 Speaker 1: these fantasies about what the future looks like. We actually 94 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:29,039 Speaker 1: need to embody those. We need to close that gap 95 00:06:29,120 --> 00:06:33,720 Speaker 1: between the knowing and the doing. And yes, there is 96 00:06:33,760 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 1: no denying that that can be super uncomfortable, but so 97 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 1: will staying stuck. So will stay in your comfort zone. 98 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:46,680 Speaker 1: So there is that cliched saying which I've heard many 99 00:06:46,680 --> 00:06:48,880 Speaker 1: times before, but I'm going to say, You've got to 100 00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 1: choose your discomfort. So I hope that has been valuable 101 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 1: for you. If there is something that you know, you 102 00:06:57,760 --> 00:07:02,360 Speaker 1: need to get started on a small step, a small 103 00:07:02,400 --> 00:07:06,040 Speaker 1: step towards whatever it is that needs doing, and take 104 00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 1: that today. Because as soon as you take that first step, 105 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 1: just notice you're going to get this little dose of 106 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:17,200 Speaker 1: motivation and then all of a sudden, all of a sudden, 107 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:20,800 Speaker 1: the wheel power is going to kick in. So thanks 108 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 1: everybody for joining me this week. Have a great week everyone, 109 00:07:24,600 --> 00:07:27,080 Speaker 1: and I will catch you next Monday.