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Speaker 1: Apogae Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am I

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Speaker 1: A Bad Mom Podcast. We've been talking a lot this

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Speaker 1: week about school holidays. Technically this term my girls are

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Speaker 1: first term of year.

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Speaker 2: Twelve Verde twelve.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because really it's last term of year eleven.

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Speaker 3: But no, but they start, don't they pre start this

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Speaker 3: because then they have because we talked about this. Then

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Speaker 3: they don't have the technically this time next year, they

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Speaker 3: they're not really there any done, they're done.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. And also rach because they've been doing a tape course,

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Speaker 1: two tape courses, actually courses. Yeah, that finishes at the

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Speaker 1: end of this year, and then they'll have their qualification

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Speaker 1: by November this year.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Wow, that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it seems like it's nothing that they

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Speaker 1: want to do in the future. But you know, eight

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Speaker 1: thousand dollars later expensive.

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Speaker 3: I was just about to say, I'm going to encourage

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Speaker 3: our girls to do it.

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Speaker 2: I forgot that it was eight thousand dollars. That's crazy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, but it's still two qualifications under the belt. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and you never know if they'll ever like go in

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Speaker 3: ten years time.

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Speaker 2: Hey got that quol use it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, Holly said to me the other day, Oh mom,

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Speaker 1: great news, I've got all my assignments done. Blah blah

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Speaker 1: blah blah blah. I went, oh, holy, great news. I've

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Speaker 1: paid a five thousand of the eight thousand we're on track.

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Speaker 1: Am I a bad mum for wanting the simple life?

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Speaker 1: Just not too simple? I said. During the holidays, we

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Speaker 1: went to Bali. It was quite a last minute booking.

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Speaker 1: Amelia had said to me, I'm really not looking forward

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Speaker 1: to the school holidays, Like I just feel sad about it.

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Speaker 1: We're just gonna be at home, You're gonna be at work,

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Speaker 1: We've got nothing planned. We just kind of had one

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Speaker 1: of those moments where it was like whether this is

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Speaker 1: sensible thing to do or not. We need a holiday,

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Speaker 1: Like I felt like I knew a holiday, So anyway,

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Speaker 1: booked it went. Now, when I talk about wanting this

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Speaker 1: simple life, what I realized is like out there, you're

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Speaker 1: in a third world country. It's all very different to

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Speaker 1: how it is here. Everything's a lot cheaper, it was

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Speaker 1: kind of just easy. I was like, Wow, it's so

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Speaker 1: nice to just be like jumping on the back of

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Speaker 1: a scooter like it was easy. So they've got an

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Speaker 1: equivalent over there of uber, which is called grab. You

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Speaker 1: are literally never more than five minutes away from getting

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Speaker 1: a grab. You can do a car or a bike.

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Speaker 2: Rade, Yeah right, I'm not holding on to somebody else

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Speaker 2: on the back.

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Speaker 1: Of a five minutes it would take for us to

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Speaker 1: get into like from the accommodation to like the main

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Speaker 1: parts of the area that we were in. A car

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Speaker 1: rate was four dollars on the back of a bike

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Speaker 1: was a dollar seventy dollars.

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Speaker 3: Seventy dollars seventy on the back of how like what

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Speaker 3: was the time difference, like as in twenty five minutes

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Speaker 3: in a same amount of time on a bike.

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Speaker 1: Or quicker on a bike. Yeah, they drive like they

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Speaker 1: are insane. They must be amazing drivers, because we could

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Speaker 1: not drive like that in that situation. Honestly. There's situations

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Speaker 1: where they go to turn right and there's like heaps

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Speaker 1: of bikes coming and they just keep going and I'm like, ah, just.

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Speaker 3: And you're on the back of that bike with a

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Speaker 3: complete stranger.

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Speaker 1: We drive so carefully in this country rate.

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Speaker 2: You didn't get a chance to do anything else. That's why.

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Speaker 1: No, Yeah, not so careful.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then when you're on the back with local

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Speaker 3: and they know exactly where they're going and what they're

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Speaker 3: doing and all the rest. Like, it's completely different over there,

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Speaker 3: isn't it where they Yeah, And I.

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Speaker 1: Just found the ease of life was just so simple.

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Speaker 1: You want to get Uber Eats, for example, and it's

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Speaker 1: grab obviously over there. It literally comes within about ten minutes,

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Speaker 1: prove because half the population's driving those bikes. Yeah, it

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Speaker 1: comes in like ten minutes. No delivery fee, you know

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Speaker 1: how here they just drop stuff off outside of your

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Speaker 1: don't really care. They've gone. You know, they've done their delivery.

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Speaker 1: You've been charged. They don't charge you until you physically

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Speaker 1: take it, so you have to be physically handed whatever

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Speaker 1: whatever it is that you've born, Yeah, for them to

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Speaker 1: be able to then charge. I just found the way

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Speaker 1: of life just felt so simple. And I was like,

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Speaker 1: appointments and shit's happening. And I just found it was

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Speaker 1: just so easy. But there was an experience that we

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Speaker 1: had which is gonna sound very privileged, but it was

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Speaker 1: literally because of the cost. It's so cheap. We had

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Speaker 1: a chef come to the villa age. The chef comes

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Speaker 1: to the villa, brings all the ingredients, cooks, the dinner,

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Speaker 1: serves you, The dinner leaves, and then you text them

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Speaker 1: or WhatsApp them. Everything's done by WhatsApp when you finish,

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Speaker 1: and they come and clear it all up. Oh rah,

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Speaker 1: forty dollars. Forty dollars for this privilege.

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Speaker 2: You should just ask him to move back home with you.

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Speaker 1: But what happened, and this is where I'm like, wow,

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Speaker 1: we need to take some tips from this. Because the

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Speaker 1: guy came Rach, and he had lost his voice, and

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Speaker 1: I got super paranoid that he was sick and he

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Speaker 1: was cooking our food.

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Speaker 2: He was coughing.

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Speaker 1: Whatsapped the villa manager. Yeah, catoot, and I've gone. Is

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Speaker 1: the chef sick? I'm a little worried, Rach, talk about efficient.

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Speaker 1: Next thing I know, chef's leaving. Another chef has come,

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Speaker 1: chucked away all the food that the guy had prepared,

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Speaker 1: cleaned the kitchen, brought more ingredients and cooked it all

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Speaker 1: from scratch. Oh my goodness, and even asked for that.

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, this is simple life.

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Speaker 1: Yet look at how efficient they are.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's a lot to do, that, isn't it.

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Speaker 1: I did a lot of comparing. This particular episode is

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Speaker 1: not really much about kids, but I did a lot

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Speaker 1: of comparing of the stress and what we do in

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Speaker 1: life here, and the expense of everything too, yeah yeah,

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Speaker 1: and then the simple life over there. But how efficiently

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Speaker 1: they're doing it, yeah, and how cheap they're doing it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Well we'll never get the cheap part. No, that's

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Speaker 3: never going to change the efficiency. I don't know if

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Speaker 3: I mean when you come down to, like you say,

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Speaker 3: the simple things in life, I think if we're stretching

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Speaker 3: I don't know what they do for parenting over there.

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Speaker 3: They've probably got plenty of help. But I look at

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Speaker 3: like you've got this so much on. And I do

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Speaker 3: believe that the simplicity of life can be adapted, but

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Speaker 3: it has to come at a cost of other things.

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Speaker 3: So you have to be willing to let go of

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Speaker 3: other things that you've created, which is sometimes the messy stuff,

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Speaker 3: in order to get to the simplicity of it. But

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Speaker 3: with simplicity comes bear it all and then know what

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Speaker 1: Yeah, when we talk about resilience, when I look at

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Speaker 1: the kids out there, I'm rich. Don't even get me

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Speaker 1: started on the dogs. The dogs don't see.

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Speaker 2: I'm no good with that stuff.

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Speaker 1: You don't just wander around. I know the dogs, right.

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Speaker 1: The dogs are allowed free rain, so they can leave

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Speaker 1: just wander around. They're not straight dogs rage. They're owned,

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Speaker 1: they've got collars on, they are fed, they're perfectly good.

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Speaker 1: But you watch these dogs, it's like they're on little adventures.

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Speaker 1: They don't go near those busy roads. No, dogs couldn't

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Speaker 1: She got hit by a car. Like we do too

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Speaker 1: much for them, These dogs rage. Honestly, it astounded me

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Speaker 1: how smart these dogs were when I watched them, and

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Speaker 1: they just would be wandering around doing their own thing,

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Speaker 1: living their best life. They go nowhere near the road.

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Speaker 1: They're not stupid. Kids are the same. You watch those

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Speaker 1: two year olds hanging on for Koala to the back

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Speaker 1: of mum or dad. They're not letting go. They don't

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Speaker 2: Rage.

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Speaker 3: No, I know, because that was well they're back in Australia. Now,

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Speaker 3: that is where my cousin's daughter, my cousin they that's

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Speaker 3: where she raised them, was in Bali and so that

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Speaker 3: cub in the middle between middle.

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Speaker 2: Of like obviously mum and dad.

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Speaker 3: And then by the time Miss Laura was big enough,

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Speaker 3: then she'd slat on the back and all the photos

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, but these kids aren't falling off.

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Speaker 3: I know. No, No, I think it's because they've also

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Speaker 3: got that different smarts about them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, our kids would street smart.

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Speaker 2: They're street smart.

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Speaker 3: They're almost like cultured smart because in their culture that's

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Speaker 3: what they do. They don't see us as you know,

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Speaker 3: there wouldn't be anything. I can't imagine that they see

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Speaker 3: finances and all of it.

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Speaker 2: I can't imagine that's what they look at and think.

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Speaker 1: No, even things like the service over h When I

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Speaker 1: think about you go to a restaurant here and it's expensive.

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Speaker 1: It's expensive to eat our. It was expensive to at.

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Speaker 2: Home at the moment. I mean it's expensive to go

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Speaker 2: to wool.

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Speaker 1: But their service like they literally can't do enough for

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Speaker 1: as you would in a restaurant here. Now, rach I

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Speaker 1: got on that Virgin Australia flight home, okay, I was

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Speaker 1: offered three cat piss wines, a red, a white and

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Speaker 1: a bubbles, three of the worst Australian brands. Don't even

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Speaker 1: get me started on why why is the red on

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Speaker 1: Virgin Hardies?

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Speaker 2: Why? Ah, is that only a Bali thing?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. It was Virgin Australia. Three cat piss wines,

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Speaker 1: that's all they were serving. I said, I'll just try

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Speaker 1: the white and hope for the best. And the guy

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Speaker 1: a cup of ice because it's not very cold, I

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Speaker 1: was like, that's it. I'm moving to Bali.

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Speaker 2: I'm chasing the simple life and buy myself a motorbike

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Speaker 2: and I'm gonna live with katut