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Speaker 1: Appoche production.

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Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of Am I.

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Speaker 1: A Bad MoMA Podcast? My goodness, it's September.

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Speaker 3: We did have a moment just then that you were

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Speaker 3: like what is and I was like, yep, it's September,

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Speaker 3: which means officially winter is over. I mean it's not

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Speaker 3: like we can't complain. We're in Brisbane, right, Yeah, we

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Speaker 3: cannot complain in comparison to other places in Australia, but

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Speaker 3: across the world it gets mighty fine cold in other places.

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Speaker 2: I mean winter is put a jumper on. It's not

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Speaker 2: like I've never worn gloves or a scarf in Brisbane.

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Speaker 1: No me neither.

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Speaker 3: I'm not getting around adding a beanie to my kit. No,

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Speaker 3: So technically winter is over.

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Speaker 1: Spring is here and so are the magpies, so are

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Speaker 1: the birds. It's sweeping season. Yeah, the other places have

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Speaker 1: swooping manner.

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Speaker 2: Everything to do with wildlife is either going to kill

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Speaker 2: you or really fucking annoy you.

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Speaker 3: In Queensland, there's nothing better than those people that wear

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Speaker 3: their helmets, but they put like the fucking zip ties

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Speaker 3: on them, Like yeah, with little cable tire zip tires everywhere,

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Speaker 3: So they like stick up because they say that if

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Speaker 3: you've got them on, the birds aren't going to swoop

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Speaker 3: you as much or like maybe not as close.

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Speaker 2: September is very amusing to watch someone else gets sweep. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Like I remember seeing this guy and he was like

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Speaker 2: very business like. He was wearing a suit with a tie,

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Speaker 2: like very smart, polish shoes. He was carrying a briefcase

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Speaker 2: and he got swooped by a magpie And you should

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Speaker 2: have seen.

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Speaker 4: Flapping a briefcases off the cases trying to fight the birds. Actually,

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Speaker 4: speaking of birds, I think it was earlier last week

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Speaker 4: and I went for a walk with my children somewhere,

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Speaker 4: and speaking of swooping birds, plovers.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what their formal name is. I'm not

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Speaker 3: taking away the seriousness of magpies. They can be dangerous. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: they draw blood. Yeah, they can be dangerous. But like

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Speaker 3: plovers have like these hook things on their claws, like

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Speaker 3: they really mean business. If they're going to swoop you

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Speaker 3: and you get hit by them, danger like, it's gonna hurt.

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Speaker 3: But I literally was walking ahead and my kids were

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Speaker 3: being a bit slow, and I.

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Speaker 1: Was like, come on, hurry up, hurry up, hurry up.

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Speaker 3: And then at the same time I sort of look

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Speaker 3: ahead and there's this plover coming at.

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Speaker 1: Me, and I was like, oh shit. So then I

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Speaker 1: slow down so that my kids can catch up somewhat

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Speaker 1: go ahead of me. Those plover's gotta swoop and I

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Speaker 1: was like standing behind. It's like laughing, going oh, that

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Speaker 1: was really cruel.

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Speaker 2: I did the same. I was going through a park

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Speaker 2: one year. I remember vividly this magpie could see it.

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Speaker 2: It was like looking at me and I could see

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Speaker 2: it was about to go, and the girls were on

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Speaker 2: their bikes and I was going, off, you go go

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Speaker 2: in front. Am I about mum for being out of control?

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's me most days.

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Speaker 2: Actually, this is a weird situation that I find myself

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Speaker 2: in in that as a parent, my kids haven't got

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Speaker 1: Left at school.

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Speaker 2: It's so weird. Yeah, when I think about it, like

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Speaker 2: I'm going to absolutely love not paying.

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Speaker 1: For paying for school fees that's one plus.

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Speaker 2: And lunchbox stuff and.

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Speaker 3: No pickups, no drop offs, like I just said to you,

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Speaker 3: then I'm like, guys, look at the time, I've got

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Speaker 3: to get saw my school pick up again.

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Speaker 1: Because there's not many hours in the day between.

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Speaker 2: Rach I've only gott until November of needing to do that,

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Speaker 2: then they'll be driving.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I mean, elves to school so crazy.

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Speaker 2: So I've got to a point where we've talked about

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Speaker 2: this before. This is a kind of a couple of

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Speaker 2: parts to this. First of all, there is the being

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Speaker 2: still being a parent, still having rules and boundaries and stuff,

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Speaker 2: but then also realizing the sixteen Yeah, and you have

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Speaker 2: I was at sixteen, my parents weren't telling me what

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Speaker 3: You had a little slogan that went with it. What

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Speaker 3: was it, something like respond privilege, Yeah, equals responsibility. So

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Speaker 3: you are privilege, Yeah, you have to show the responsibility. Yeah, okay, yep,

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Speaker 3: that was a good one. Yeah, so we're doing this

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Speaker 3: kind of that. Yeah, so you're implementing that already. Now

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Speaker 3: you're at the point where you're like sitting in it

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Speaker 1: Like going, oh my gosh, I'm really in it now.

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Speaker 1: And then that's why you're feeling like you're out of control.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I told you didn't. I I've gone super strict

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Speaker 2: with phones again. Yeah, phones are coming down at eight o'clock.

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Speaker 2: So when we talk about kids and how they kind

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Speaker 2: of do the full three sixty or whatever, it is

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Speaker 2: because kids get.

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Speaker 1: Up early, right, normally, normally.

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Speaker 2: From day one, your kids are up in the night,

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Speaker 2: they're up super early. They're up when the birds get up,

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Speaker 2: like really early, and you can't wait until your kids

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Speaker 2: sleep in, and then they sleep in and it's like

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Speaker 2: next level. You're like waking them up on the weekend

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Speaker 2: at lunchtime, going get out of bed, get out of bed,

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Speaker 2: get out of bed. And you've got all of that

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Speaker 2: going on my house, rate, And I know because I

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Speaker 2: see when I text you that you've got your notification

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Speaker 2: silence from like seven pm or something.

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Speaker 1: I think it's eight pm, but yeah, I'm early.

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Speaker 2: Your house starts quietening down and people were going to bed,

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Speaker 2: and you're shutting up shop around eight pm. Yeah eight bet,

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Speaker 2: yeah my house at eight pm. Rate comes alive. My

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Speaker 2: house is so noisy at that time. This is not me,

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Speaker 2: this is music playing.

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Speaker 1: Teenagers come alive.

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Speaker 2: In that night time and then it gets louder and

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Speaker 1: They're nocturnal animals.

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Speaker 3: I can't deal with it, Like, well, not for you

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Speaker 3: on a Monday. Monday nights means shut down early. You

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Speaker 3: So that's not going to work great.

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Speaker 2: Do they do an acting class on a Wednesday? Right

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Speaker 2: finishes at nine point thirty? Yeah, I'm asleep before they

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Speaker 2: get home.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, who's peaking them up? Oh so you do drop off, Jada,

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Speaker 1: I figu up. Yeah, I did drop off. He does

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Speaker 2: They don't get home until after ten. I feel like

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Speaker 2: I'm drowning in that. I'm like, one minute, I'm going, yes,

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Speaker 2: you can do that, you can stop later.

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Speaker 1: You know you're sixteen, you're going to be an adult

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Speaker 1: next year. Yeah. Yeah, all of the things.

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Speaker 2: And then there's a situation like on the weekend where

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Speaker 2: they didn't get their assignment done. Amelia says to me

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Speaker 2: last night because I'm like bed off to bed go,

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Speaker 2: she says to me, I've set my alarm for three am.

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Speaker 2: I was like, what, I'm going to get up three

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Speaker 2: am and I'm going to finish up my assignment. I

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Speaker 2: was like, whatever you need to do, just don't wake

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Speaker 2: anyone else up, did she didn't?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: Heer alum went off, yeah, and then she went back

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Speaker 2: to sleep. I sent a message, a text message today

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Speaker 2: to them both. I said, there were forty eight hours.

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Speaker 1: Over the weekend.

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Speaker 2: We sleep for sixteen over two nights, eight hours a night.

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Speaker 2: Amelia worked for three hours on Sunday. What did you

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Speaker 2: do with the other twenty nine hours that you couldn't.

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Speaker 1: Get your home done?

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Speaker 3: Shit?

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Speaker 1: And then you just bring out more punishments. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: you're not doing acting on Wednesday?

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Speaker 3: Was not done?

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Speaker 1: Blah blah blah blah blah.

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Speaker 2: The phones are still coming down at a If they

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Speaker 2: don't come down at eight, you get a fine.

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Speaker 1: If they're not on their phones, are they just on

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Speaker 1: their laptops?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And then their laptops has the same messaging system.

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Speaker 2: I have never known procrastination, procrested procrastination.

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Speaker 1: I have not known.

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Speaker 2: Procrastination like it.

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Speaker 1: It blows my mind.

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Speaker 2: And then the arguing that comes with it about not

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Speaker 3: Honestly, I can't be bothered with yeah until lunchtime, I

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Speaker 3: didn't have enough time.

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Speaker 2: So then the second part to this rate is the

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Speaker 2: fact that they are going to finish school next year.

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Speaker 2: And I don't know what the fuck they're going to do.

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Speaker 1: Who cares.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, they'll get there, they'll work it out. They will

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Speaker 3: work it out. All I wanted to do when I

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Speaker 3: imagine your girls want to do the same. So tie

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Speaker 3: your purse up at the end of next year. Sorry,

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Speaker 3: I can't pay.

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Speaker 1: For a thing.

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Speaker 2: I've already said phone bill because I'm done phone bill,

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Speaker 2: you're Spotify.

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Speaker 3: I'm broke because your school fees have like emptied my account.

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Speaker 1: So now it's on you. They have to do it.

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Speaker 3: We can help navigate them, and we can help like

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Speaker 3: give ideas, but you can't plan for them. Like you

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Speaker 3: can't worry about that stuff yet. You gotta worry about tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: Think about how fast a year, well, September, how fast

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Speaker 2: is this year gone?

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Speaker 1: I know this time next year.

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Speaker 3: Think about your bank balance, Think about your bank balance. Yes,

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Speaker 3: so you should be fucking excited. I would be so excited.

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Speaker 1: And more importantly, it's a pretty pretty big.

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Speaker 3: Achievement finish school for me. We've both finished it, thank god,

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Speaker 3: the girls. It's a very cool achievement. I swear there

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Speaker 3: was more formals though last weekend, because we seem to

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Speaker 3: be in an area like a real hot spot where

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Speaker 3: they have all the post formal parties dead set. The

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Speaker 3: DJ that was playing at one of these post formal

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Speaker 3: parties was wicked. I could hear it clear as day

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Speaker 3: from my house because it's coming off someone's property. I

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Speaker 3: was just outside hanging out with my dogs, thinking, whoever

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Speaker 3: is djaying?

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Speaker 1: This is wild? I want to party. I'm going to

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Speaker 1: go and find the party.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to be one of those what are they called,

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Speaker 3: like the people that joined schoolies. I'm going to go

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Speaker 3: hang out with all these I'm going to go out

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Speaker 3: with all the schoolies at the post formal party, just

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Speaker 3: so I can listen to this DJ.

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Speaker 2: Imagine if you have rocked up excuse me?

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Speaker 1: Oh so I know you're all like twenty years younger.

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Speaker 1: I would love it, love Calmon Joy. Can I join it?

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Speaker 1: Just live around the corner. We're neighbors. What were you wearing?

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Speaker 1: Probably my pajamas? Funny, I know I'd had.

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Speaker 3: A few wines, which gives you a little bit of courage.

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Speaker 3: Probably wouldn't last long there because I'd feel so old.

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Speaker 1: But it was wicked DJ. How many wines?

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Speaker 2: Would you have needed to be able to have the

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Speaker 2: courage to turn off on you armers, Probably

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Speaker 3: A few bottles, or just give me a few tikitlos

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Speaker 3: one or the other