WEBVTT - We WILL have fun!

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<v Speaker 1>Appod Shape Production.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back to another episode of Am I a Bad mom? Podka?

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<v Speaker 3>It's the question that we continue to ask over and over,

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<v Speaker 3>day in, day out.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a great reflective moment. Am I a bad parent?

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<v Speaker 1>Could have done it differently?

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<v Speaker 2>You know? It's two weeks till school holidays again, yes, you.

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<v Speaker 3>Did remind me before two weeks.

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<v Speaker 2>Halfway through, you know, six months till Christmas.

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<v Speaker 3>No, we don't need to talk about that. That's way

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<v Speaker 3>too far off. We do need to talk about though,

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<v Speaker 3>just a little laugh out loud moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Elsie plays netball.

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<v Speaker 3>We have like a WhatsApp group chat for netball team,

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<v Speaker 3>you know you do for every group that you're in.

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<v Speaker 3>And the manager team manager pops it up and says,

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<v Speaker 3>there's a fun raising.

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<v Speaker 1>Day baked sale.

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<v Speaker 3>It's on the fifteenth of June, please bacon donate.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, oh, shoot, we're going away that weekends.

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<v Speaker 1>So sad not to be able to help.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not going away, are you? No?

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<v Speaker 1>I am?

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<v Speaker 3>But then the team coach, who is my sister in

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<v Speaker 3>law just writes your message and goes, haha, are you though?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you really sad to be missing out on the

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<v Speaker 3>bake day?

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, shut up.

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<v Speaker 4>Is this a day where you have to actually bake something?

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<v Speaker 4>Like you can't just take because when there's been bake

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<v Speaker 4>days in the past, like I'm the one that goes

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<v Speaker 4>to Woolies and gets the.

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<v Speaker 2>Pre made okakes.

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<v Speaker 1>You could do that.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you feel like there's a bit of shame around

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<v Speaker 4>that though?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, for sure I probably would have done that option

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<v Speaker 3>of going and pretending like I'd made the caramel size

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<v Speaker 3>but just got it from Like, well, do you.

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<v Speaker 2>Know what I reckon? There's a good option.

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<v Speaker 4>And this is off the back of the fact that

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<v Speaker 4>I went to that health retreat recently and my kids

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<v Speaker 4>are hating the fact that they're getting all healthy, organic food,

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<v Speaker 4>which is gonna stop. Like then my husband's on the

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<v Speaker 4>weekend brought them bonbons. I was like, how about that

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<v Speaker 4>no sugar rule, Like that's got out of the window.

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<v Speaker 4>Two weeks after us go to one of the bake seals, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>and make something like super healthy like you know where

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<v Speaker 4>they substitute like sugar for honey cacaw was you know,

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<v Speaker 4>it's not nice, Like the desserts aren't nice. To do

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<v Speaker 4>it again, they're the ones that don't sell at those

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<v Speaker 4>bake days and then you're the person that has to

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<v Speaker 4>pick up your tup away container.

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<v Speaker 2>That's still full of bake goods.

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<v Speaker 3>Look, I don't participate in much of those, but just

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<v Speaker 3>got called out by my sister in law on the

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<v Speaker 3>group chat for the netball group.

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<v Speaker 2>They're listening. She's not really going away anywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I am going away, but I'm just not really

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<v Speaker 1>sad about it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, sure, am I a bad mum for forcing them

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<v Speaker 4>out of the house.

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<v Speaker 3>Your girls at their age group that they are in,

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<v Speaker 3>they tend to like to hibernate until at least lunchtime.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep.

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<v Speaker 4>What I've realized about having teenagers and this is like

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<v Speaker 4>you go from one battle to the other. And we

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<v Speaker 4>talk about this often, like it's ages and stages, and

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<v Speaker 4>then there's always battles around each age, and then you

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<v Speaker 4>get some stuff gets better and then some stuff gets worse. Right,

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<v Speaker 4>So you would be in the stage where you have

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<v Speaker 4>school holidays and your girls.

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<v Speaker 2>Will probably go, what are we doing today?

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<v Speaker 1>Every day?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Every day?

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<v Speaker 4>So they're wanting a plan, They're wanting you to spend money,

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<v Speaker 4>They're wanting something to go and do to entertain them

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<v Speaker 4>for that day. Find it very hard just to sit

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<v Speaker 4>at home and entertain themselves.

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<v Speaker 3>And I thank you Katie for recognizing that it would

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<v Speaker 3>only be in the school holidays.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's like every weekend, Like Elsie, on the way

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<v Speaker 1>home from Netbil the other day, can.

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<v Speaker 2>We just stop and do something fun? Our lives are

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<v Speaker 2>so boring.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I've just stat at Netbull for two hours for you. Ye,

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<v Speaker 3>but yeah, let's go and drop a thousand at time zone.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you want from me? Kid?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>So your girls are not there anymore.

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<v Speaker 4>No, It's like so it goes from one extreme to

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<v Speaker 4>the other because now they're teenagers. They don't want to

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<v Speaker 4>go anywhere, they don't want to do anything for you,

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<v Speaker 4>And so I will say, Okay, we're gonna go out

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<v Speaker 4>and we're gonna do this today, and they're like, like,

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<v Speaker 4>I get the eye rolls. So I booked and I'm

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<v Speaker 4>going to be talking about something that we talked about

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<v Speaker 4>recently because you also went there. And I'm like, these

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<v Speaker 4>guys should really sponsor the podcast. They don't, but god,

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<v Speaker 4>I wish I did the tree top challenge.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's this is fantastic. You're up high, you're doing

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<v Speaker 2>the like walking along.

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<v Speaker 4>The tightrope and through the nets and stuff like that,

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<v Speaker 4>and then you got zip lines.

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<v Speaker 2>I like to.

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<v Speaker 4>Suggest things to do that I know I'm good at,

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<v Speaker 4>and that also my husband isn't very good at because

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<v Speaker 4>I'm quite competitive, and so I quite enjoy when I'm like,

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<v Speaker 4>oh look at me, you go and I'm like racing

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<v Speaker 4>ahead and I'm like four courses through.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and he's still all stuck because.

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<v Speaker 2>He's a big man, and these things are not men

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<v Speaker 2>for big men. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>No, the ziplining for me, i'd be going because even

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<v Speaker 3>just getting on it for us, I go.

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<v Speaker 4>And this is not like, am I bad wife episode?

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<v Speaker 4>But I did enjoy watching he's coming down the zip line.

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<v Speaker 4>And again, you know, like if you're a big guy

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<v Speaker 4>on a zip line, like it's a very different experience

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<v Speaker 4>to a small you know, seven year old who's like

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<v Speaker 4>flying and just landing at the end, like there's a

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<v Speaker 4>crash landing at the end, like you've got so much

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<v Speaker 4>more gravity in your force and yeah, and so he's

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<v Speaker 4>coming down and you can see his legs going and

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<v Speaker 4>my first thought was, Oh, he's doing that to be

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<v Speaker 4>funny like it because it looks funny like he's moving

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<v Speaker 4>his legs all around. He's later told me that he

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<v Speaker 4>needs to come in front on like he's come in

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<v Speaker 4>facing forward like the minute, the other way around, like

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<v Speaker 4>it's a problem. So these little funny things he's doing

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<v Speaker 4>with his Legacies Act. And then what's happened is he's

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<v Speaker 4>not quite got to the end, like it stopped before

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<v Speaker 4>the end, so he's had to grab hold of the wire.

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<v Speaker 4>And then what you have to do in that situation

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<v Speaker 4>is you have to turn around, so going backwards, but

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<v Speaker 4>it's a lot because you're going uphill.

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<v Speaker 1>You monkey climb.

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<v Speaker 4>Back to get up there, but it's really hard on

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<v Speaker 4>your arms. So anyway he's doing this, I'm finding it

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<v Speaker 4>really funny because it's not me. I have to start laughing,

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<v Speaker 4>and the girl's laughing, and he's gone, stop laughing.

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<v Speaker 2>And then there's this little kid. There's nothing to do

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<v Speaker 2>with us. He's this other little boy.

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<v Speaker 1>Stop laughing.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, mate, you can't tell someone else's kids

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<v Speaker 4>to stop laughing. I was looking at this kid'ry around it.

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<v Speaker 2>He's just joking. I'm not joking.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I love it.

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<v Speaker 4>Anyway, that wasn't even part of the story. I just

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<v Speaker 4>that in as to why I like going to the

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<v Speaker 4>tree Top Challenge because I'm pretty good at it, so

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<v Speaker 4>I quite like it.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you girls go okay? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>So the whole point in me bringing this up is

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<v Speaker 4>that they did not want to go. So I have

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<v Speaker 4>said the day before tomorrow, guess what we're doing, because

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<v Speaker 4>I know now, don't ask beforehand just to because once

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<v Speaker 4>it's booked, we have to go.

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<v Speaker 2>Guess what we're doing tomorrow. Both of them are like

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<v Speaker 2>looking at.

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<v Speaker 4>Me, like, what the fuck are we doing? So we're

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<v Speaker 4>going to the Streetop Challenge. There was a kind of

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<v Speaker 4>a halfer don't want her to feel bad because she

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<v Speaker 4>thinks she's excited and she thinks we're excited and we're not.

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<v Speaker 4>But then there was also like a slight eye roll

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<v Speaker 4>from Holly and Amelia's like yay, okay. I said, guys,

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<v Speaker 4>I know right now that you don't want to go

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<v Speaker 4>to this, but you have to trust me in that

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<v Speaker 4>I've booked it and it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Gonna be fun.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, you're not gonna want to get up and go

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<v Speaker 4>and get ready, but you're gonna have fun. Yeah, And

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<v Speaker 4>so got them up in the morning. All the pushback,

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<v Speaker 4>I was.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, what's it always have to be like this?

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<v Speaker 3>Like?

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<v Speaker 4>Why does my day have to start with bribing you

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<v Speaker 4>to get yourself dressed and out a house on time

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<v Speaker 4>so that we can make the time that we've booked

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<v Speaker 4>for this and have fun as a family.

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<v Speaker 2>Why does it have to be such hard work for me?

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<v Speaker 1>Where did they say nothing? Nothing fronted?

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<v Speaker 4>Then I'm like, I've got myself ready, pets are fair,

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<v Speaker 4>dishwashers emptied, I've put the washing away vacuum to the house,

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<v Speaker 4>and I'm like, okay, guys, let's go okay, off we go, okay,

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<v Speaker 4>guys through that whole process of you going all right,

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<v Speaker 4>we've got an hour, all right, we've got forty five minutes.

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<v Speaker 4>All right, we've got thirty nine minutes. Just have to

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<v Speaker 4>Why can't I just say we're leaving the house in

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<v Speaker 4>an hour, Yeah, see you then, because it just wouldn't happen.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know what happened.

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<v Speaker 4>We went did the courses, spent three hours there, had

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<v Speaker 4>a great time.

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<v Speaker 2>All the way home, they're talking about how much fun

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<v Speaker 2>it was.

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<v Speaker 3>For them to love it, Like I can understand what

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<v Speaker 3>you went through, but for them, they don't have a clue.

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<v Speaker 3>So You're like, come on, guys, just trust me, it's

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<v Speaker 3>going to be amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>So then at the end of it, they're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>that really was amazing.

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<v Speaker 3>I wonder if they have that reflection moment of going,

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<v Speaker 3>I shouldn't have tortured mum like that.

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<v Speaker 1>For the whole.

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<v Speaker 4>It literally goes from one extreme to the other. So

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<v Speaker 4>you have kids that want to do something every single day,

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<v Speaker 4>get up with the sparrows, and then next minute you

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<v Speaker 4>have that don't want to do anything with you and

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<v Speaker 4>sleep until lunchtime. And then you got husbands that scream

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<v Speaker 4>at everyone to not laugh at.

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<v Speaker 3>Them, including other people's children also doing the course with us.

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<v Speaker 4>So it's funny because Day was excited to go. I

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<v Speaker 4>was excited to go, kids were excited to go.

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<v Speaker 2>They were all raving about it.

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<v Speaker 4>On the way home, Ja was telling me he's never

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<v Speaker 4>going backwards.