Speaker 1: Appod Shape Production.
Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of Am I a Bad mom? Podka?
Speaker 3: It's the question that we continue to ask over and over,
Speaker 3: day in, day out.
Speaker 1: It's a great reflective moment. Am I a bad parent?
Speaker 1: Could have done it differently?
Speaker 2: You know? It's two weeks till school holidays again, yes, you.
Speaker 3: Did remind me before two weeks.
Speaker 2: Halfway through, you know, six months till Christmas.
Speaker 3: No, we don't need to talk about that. That's way
Speaker 3: too far off. We do need to talk about though,
Speaker 3: just a little laugh out loud moment.
Speaker 1: Elsie plays netball.
Speaker 3: We have like a WhatsApp group chat for netball team,
Speaker 3: you know you do for every group that you're in.
Speaker 3: And the manager team manager pops it up and says,
Speaker 3: there's a fun raising.
Speaker 1: Day baked sale.
Speaker 3: It's on the fifteenth of June, please bacon donate.
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, shoot, we're going away that weekends.
Speaker 1: So sad not to be able to help.
Speaker 2: You're not going away, are you? No?
Speaker 1: I am?
Speaker 3: But then the team coach, who is my sister in
Speaker 3: law just writes your message and goes, haha, are you though?
Speaker 3: Are you really sad to be missing out on the
Speaker 3: bake day?
Speaker 1: I was like, shut up.
Speaker 4: Is this a day where you have to actually bake something?
Speaker 4: Like you can't just take because when there's been bake
Speaker 4: days in the past, like I'm the one that goes
Speaker 4: to Woolies and gets the.
Speaker 2: Pre made okakes.
Speaker 1: You could do that.
Speaker 4: Do you feel like there's a bit of shame around
Speaker 4: that though?
Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure I probably would have done that option
Speaker 3: of going and pretending like I'd made the caramel size
Speaker 3: but just got it from Like, well, do you.
Speaker 2: Know what I reckon? There's a good option.
Speaker 4: And this is off the back of the fact that
Speaker 4: I went to that health retreat recently and my kids
Speaker 4: are hating the fact that they're getting all healthy, organic food,
Speaker 4: which is gonna stop. Like then my husband's on the
Speaker 4: weekend brought them bonbons. I was like, how about that
Speaker 4: no sugar rule, Like that's got out of the window.
Speaker 4: Two weeks after us go to one of the bake seals, Yeah,
Speaker 4: and make something like super healthy like you know where
Speaker 4: they substitute like sugar for honey cacaw was you know,
Speaker 4: it's not nice, Like the desserts aren't nice. To do
Speaker 4: it again, they're the ones that don't sell at those
Speaker 4: bake days and then you're the person that has to
Speaker 4: pick up your tup away container.
Speaker 2: That's still full of bake goods.
Speaker 3: Look, I don't participate in much of those, but just
Speaker 3: got called out by my sister in law on the
Speaker 3: group chat for the netball group.
Speaker 2: They're listening. She's not really going away anywhere.
Speaker 1: No, I am going away, but I'm just not really
Speaker 1: sad about it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, sure, am I a bad mum for forcing them
Speaker 4: out of the house.
Speaker 3: Your girls at their age group that they are in,
Speaker 3: they tend to like to hibernate until at least lunchtime.
Speaker 1: Yep.
Speaker 4: What I've realized about having teenagers and this is like
Speaker 4: you go from one battle to the other. And we
Speaker 4: talk about this often, like it's ages and stages, and
Speaker 4: then there's always battles around each age, and then you
Speaker 4: get some stuff gets better and then some stuff gets worse. Right,
Speaker 4: So you would be in the stage where you have
Speaker 4: school holidays and your girls.
Speaker 2: Will probably go, what are we doing today?
Speaker 1: Every day?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Every day?
Speaker 4: So they're wanting a plan, They're wanting you to spend money,
Speaker 4: They're wanting something to go and do to entertain them
Speaker 4: for that day. Find it very hard just to sit
Speaker 4: at home and entertain themselves.
Speaker 3: And I thank you Katie for recognizing that it would
Speaker 3: only be in the school holidays.
Speaker 1: But it's like every weekend, Like Elsie, on the way
Speaker 1: home from Netbil the other day, can.
Speaker 2: We just stop and do something fun? Our lives are
Speaker 2: so boring.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've just stat at Netbull for two hours for you. Ye,
Speaker 3: but yeah, let's go and drop a thousand at time zone.
Speaker 1: What do you want from me? Kid?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: So your girls are not there anymore.
Speaker 4: No, It's like so it goes from one extreme to
Speaker 4: the other because now they're teenagers. They don't want to
Speaker 4: go anywhere, they don't want to do anything for you,
Speaker 4: And so I will say, Okay, we're gonna go out
Speaker 4: and we're gonna do this today, and they're like, like,
Speaker 4: I get the eye rolls. So I booked and I'm
Speaker 4: going to be talking about something that we talked about
Speaker 4: recently because you also went there. And I'm like, these
Speaker 4: guys should really sponsor the podcast. They don't, but god,
Speaker 4: I wish I did the tree top challenge.
Speaker 2: So it's this is fantastic. You're up high, you're doing
Speaker 2: the like walking along.
Speaker 4: The tightrope and through the nets and stuff like that,
Speaker 4: and then you got zip lines.
Speaker 2: I like to.
Speaker 4: Suggest things to do that I know I'm good at,
Speaker 4: and that also my husband isn't very good at because
Speaker 4: I'm quite competitive, and so I quite enjoy when I'm like,
Speaker 4: oh look at me, you go and I'm like racing
Speaker 4: ahead and I'm like four courses through.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and he's still all stuck because.
Speaker 2: He's a big man, and these things are not men
Speaker 2: for big men. Yeah.
Speaker 3: No, the ziplining for me, i'd be going because even
Speaker 3: just getting on it for us, I go.
Speaker 4: And this is not like, am I bad wife episode?
Speaker 4: But I did enjoy watching he's coming down the zip line.
Speaker 4: And again, you know, like if you're a big guy
Speaker 4: on a zip line, like it's a very different experience
Speaker 4: to a small you know, seven year old who's like
Speaker 4: flying and just landing at the end, like there's a
Speaker 4: crash landing at the end, like you've got so much
Speaker 4: more gravity in your force and yeah, and so he's
Speaker 4: coming down and you can see his legs going and
Speaker 4: my first thought was, Oh, he's doing that to be
Speaker 4: funny like it because it looks funny like he's moving
Speaker 4: his legs all around. He's later told me that he
Speaker 4: needs to come in front on like he's come in
Speaker 4: facing forward like the minute, the other way around, like
Speaker 4: it's a problem. So these little funny things he's doing
Speaker 4: with his Legacies Act. And then what's happened is he's
Speaker 4: not quite got to the end, like it stopped before
Speaker 4: the end, so he's had to grab hold of the wire.
Speaker 4: And then what you have to do in that situation
Speaker 4: is you have to turn around, so going backwards, but
Speaker 4: it's a lot because you're going uphill.
Speaker 1: You monkey climb.
Speaker 4: Back to get up there, but it's really hard on
Speaker 4: your arms. So anyway he's doing this, I'm finding it
Speaker 4: really funny because it's not me. I have to start laughing,
Speaker 4: and the girl's laughing, and he's gone, stop laughing.
Speaker 2: And then there's this little kid. There's nothing to do
Speaker 2: with us. He's this other little boy.
Speaker 1: Stop laughing.
Speaker 4: I was like, mate, you can't tell someone else's kids
Speaker 4: to stop laughing. I was looking at this kid'ry around it.
Speaker 2: He's just joking. I'm not joking.
Speaker 1: Oh, I love it.
Speaker 4: Anyway, that wasn't even part of the story. I just
Speaker 4: that in as to why I like going to the
Speaker 4: tree Top Challenge because I'm pretty good at it, so
Speaker 4: I quite like it.
Speaker 1: Did you girls go okay? Yeah?
Speaker 4: So the whole point in me bringing this up is
Speaker 4: that they did not want to go. So I have
Speaker 4: said the day before tomorrow, guess what we're doing, because
Speaker 4: I know now, don't ask beforehand just to because once
Speaker 4: it's booked, we have to go.
Speaker 2: Guess what we're doing tomorrow. Both of them are like
Speaker 2: looking at.
Speaker 4: Me, like, what the fuck are we doing? So we're
Speaker 4: going to the Streetop Challenge. There was a kind of
Speaker 4: a halfer don't want her to feel bad because she
Speaker 4: thinks she's excited and she thinks we're excited and we're not.
Speaker 4: But then there was also like a slight eye roll
Speaker 4: from Holly and Amelia's like yay, okay. I said, guys,
Speaker 4: I know right now that you don't want to go
Speaker 4: to this, but you have to trust me in that
Speaker 4: I've booked it and it's.
Speaker 2: Gonna be fun.
Speaker 4: Yes, you're not gonna want to get up and go
Speaker 4: and get ready, but you're gonna have fun. Yeah, And
Speaker 4: so got them up in the morning. All the pushback,
Speaker 4: I was.
Speaker 1: Like, what's it always have to be like this?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 4: Why does my day have to start with bribing you
Speaker 4: to get yourself dressed and out a house on time
Speaker 4: so that we can make the time that we've booked
Speaker 4: for this and have fun as a family.
Speaker 2: Why does it have to be such hard work for me?
Speaker 1: Where did they say nothing? Nothing fronted?
Speaker 4: Then I'm like, I've got myself ready, pets are fair,
Speaker 4: dishwashers emptied, I've put the washing away vacuum to the house,
Speaker 4: and I'm like, okay, guys, let's go okay, off we go, okay,
Speaker 4: guys through that whole process of you going all right,
Speaker 4: we've got an hour, all right, we've got forty five minutes.
Speaker 4: All right, we've got thirty nine minutes. Just have to
Speaker 4: Why can't I just say we're leaving the house in
Speaker 4: an hour, Yeah, see you then, because it just wouldn't happen.
Speaker 2: But you know what happened.
Speaker 4: We went did the courses, spent three hours there, had
Speaker 4: a great time.
Speaker 2: All the way home, they're talking about how much fun
Speaker 2: it was.
Speaker 3: For them to love it, Like I can understand what
Speaker 3: you went through, but for them, they don't have a clue.
Speaker 3: So You're like, come on, guys, just trust me, it's
Speaker 3: going to be amazing.
Speaker 1: So then at the end of it, they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: that really was amazing.
Speaker 3: I wonder if they have that reflection moment of going,
Speaker 3: I shouldn't have tortured mum like that.
Speaker 1: For the whole.
Speaker 4: It literally goes from one extreme to the other. So
Speaker 4: you have kids that want to do something every single day,
Speaker 4: get up with the sparrows, and then next minute you
Speaker 4: have that don't want to do anything with you and
Speaker 4: sleep until lunchtime. And then you got husbands that scream
Speaker 4: at everyone to not laugh at.
Speaker 3: Them, including other people's children also doing the course with us.
Speaker 4: So it's funny because Day was excited to go. I
Speaker 4: was excited to go, kids were excited to go.
Speaker 2: They were all raving about it.
Speaker 4: On the way home, Ja was telling me he's never
Speaker 4: going backwards.