1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:07,281 Speaker 1: Appod Shape Production. 2 00:00:22,681 --> 00:00:26,961 Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of Am I a Bad mom? Podka? 3 00:00:27,161 --> 00:00:30,041 Speaker 3: It's the question that we continue to ask over and over, 4 00:00:30,281 --> 00:00:31,161 Speaker 3: day in, day out. 5 00:00:31,801 --> 00:00:34,321 Speaker 1: It's a great reflective moment. Am I a bad parent? 6 00:00:34,641 --> 00:00:35,681 Speaker 1: Could have done it differently? 7 00:00:36,001 --> 00:00:39,200 Speaker 2: You know? It's two weeks till school holidays again, yes, you. 8 00:00:39,161 --> 00:00:43,921 Speaker 3: Did remind me before two weeks. 9 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:44,361 Speaker 2: Halfway through, you know, six months till Christmas. 10 00:00:44,721 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 3: No, we don't need to talk about that. That's way 11 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:50,601 Speaker 3: too far off. We do need to talk about though, 12 00:00:50,921 --> 00:00:53,481 Speaker 3: just a little laugh out loud moment. 13 00:00:53,681 --> 00:00:54,681 Speaker 1: Elsie plays netball. 14 00:00:55,200 --> 00:00:58,361 Speaker 3: We have like a WhatsApp group chat for netball team, 15 00:00:58,481 --> 00:01:00,801 Speaker 3: you know you do for every group that you're in. 16 00:01:01,441 --> 00:01:04,561 Speaker 3: And the manager team manager pops it up and says, 17 00:01:04,601 --> 00:01:05,840 Speaker 3: there's a fun raising. 18 00:01:05,601 --> 00:01:06,641 Speaker 1: Day baked sale. 19 00:01:07,681 --> 00:01:11,401 Speaker 3: It's on the fifteenth of June, please bacon donate. 20 00:01:11,521 --> 00:01:14,481 Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, shoot, we're going away that weekends. 21 00:01:14,521 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 1: So sad not to be able to help. 22 00:01:16,961 --> 00:01:18,961 Speaker 2: You're not going away, are you? No? 23 00:01:19,681 --> 00:01:20,321 Speaker 1: I am? 24 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:23,641 Speaker 3: But then the team coach, who is my sister in 25 00:01:23,761 --> 00:01:26,840 Speaker 3: law just writes your message and goes, haha, are you though? 26 00:01:26,961 --> 00:01:28,681 Speaker 3: Are you really sad to be missing out on the 27 00:01:28,681 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 3: bake day? 28 00:01:29,801 --> 00:01:30,840 Speaker 1: I was like, shut up. 29 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:33,961 Speaker 4: Is this a day where you have to actually bake something? 30 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 4: Like you can't just take because when there's been bake 31 00:01:36,601 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 4: days in the past, like I'm the one that goes 32 00:01:38,640 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 4: to Woolies and gets the. 33 00:01:39,801 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 2: Pre made okakes. 34 00:01:41,081 --> 00:01:41,601 Speaker 1: You could do that. 35 00:01:41,681 --> 00:01:43,440 Speaker 4: Do you feel like there's a bit of shame around 36 00:01:43,441 --> 00:01:43,720 Speaker 4: that though? 37 00:01:43,801 --> 00:01:47,921 Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure I probably would have done that option 38 00:01:48,361 --> 00:01:51,361 Speaker 3: of going and pretending like I'd made the caramel size 39 00:01:51,481 --> 00:01:53,321 Speaker 3: but just got it from Like, well, do you. 40 00:01:53,321 --> 00:01:54,641 Speaker 2: Know what I reckon? There's a good option. 41 00:01:55,001 --> 00:01:56,641 Speaker 4: And this is off the back of the fact that 42 00:01:56,681 --> 00:01:58,881 Speaker 4: I went to that health retreat recently and my kids 43 00:01:58,921 --> 00:02:01,481 Speaker 4: are hating the fact that they're getting all healthy, organic food, 44 00:02:01,641 --> 00:02:04,321 Speaker 4: which is gonna stop. Like then my husband's on the 45 00:02:04,321 --> 00:02:06,481 Speaker 4: weekend brought them bonbons. I was like, how about that 46 00:02:06,561 --> 00:02:08,481 Speaker 4: no sugar rule, Like that's got out of the window. 47 00:02:08,521 --> 00:02:12,321 Speaker 4: Two weeks after us go to one of the bake seals, Yeah, 48 00:02:12,321 --> 00:02:14,921 Speaker 4: and make something like super healthy like you know where 49 00:02:14,921 --> 00:02:18,761 Speaker 4: they substitute like sugar for honey cacaw was you know, 50 00:02:19,441 --> 00:02:23,281 Speaker 4: it's not nice, Like the desserts aren't nice. To do 51 00:02:23,321 --> 00:02:29,801 Speaker 4: it again, they're the ones that don't sell at those 52 00:02:29,841 --> 00:02:32,161 Speaker 4: bake days and then you're the person that has to 53 00:02:32,161 --> 00:02:34,201 Speaker 4: pick up your tup away container. 54 00:02:33,761 --> 00:02:35,481 Speaker 2: That's still full of bake goods. 55 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:39,721 Speaker 3: Look, I don't participate in much of those, but just 56 00:02:39,761 --> 00:02:41,801 Speaker 3: got called out by my sister in law on the 57 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 3: group chat for the netball group. 58 00:02:44,601 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 2: They're listening. She's not really going away anywhere. 59 00:02:47,321 --> 00:02:49,441 Speaker 1: No, I am going away, but I'm just not really 60 00:02:49,481 --> 00:02:50,161 Speaker 1: sad about it. 61 00:02:50,240 --> 00:03:03,441 Speaker 4: Yeah, sure, am I a bad mum for forcing them 62 00:03:03,601 --> 00:03:04,361 Speaker 4: out of the house. 63 00:03:06,041 --> 00:03:08,721 Speaker 3: Your girls at their age group that they are in, 64 00:03:09,561 --> 00:03:12,361 Speaker 3: they tend to like to hibernate until at least lunchtime. 65 00:03:12,561 --> 00:03:12,761 Speaker 1: Yep. 66 00:03:12,881 --> 00:03:16,041 Speaker 4: What I've realized about having teenagers and this is like 67 00:03:16,401 --> 00:03:18,361 Speaker 4: you go from one battle to the other. And we 68 00:03:18,401 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 4: talk about this often, like it's ages and stages, and 69 00:03:21,281 --> 00:03:24,841 Speaker 4: then there's always battles around each age, and then you 70 00:03:24,921 --> 00:03:27,681 Speaker 4: get some stuff gets better and then some stuff gets worse. Right, 71 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:31,361 Speaker 4: So you would be in the stage where you have 72 00:03:31,401 --> 00:03:33,761 Speaker 4: school holidays and your girls. 73 00:03:33,561 --> 00:03:35,001 Speaker 2: Will probably go, what are we doing today? 74 00:03:35,121 --> 00:03:35,601 Speaker 1: Every day? 75 00:03:36,081 --> 00:03:36,401 Speaker 2: Yeah? 76 00:03:36,441 --> 00:03:36,961 Speaker 1: Every day? 77 00:03:37,001 --> 00:03:39,281 Speaker 4: So they're wanting a plan, They're wanting you to spend money, 78 00:03:39,321 --> 00:03:42,160 Speaker 4: They're wanting something to go and do to entertain them 79 00:03:42,241 --> 00:03:44,641 Speaker 4: for that day. Find it very hard just to sit 80 00:03:44,681 --> 00:03:46,441 Speaker 4: at home and entertain themselves. 81 00:03:46,881 --> 00:03:49,641 Speaker 3: And I thank you Katie for recognizing that it would 82 00:03:49,641 --> 00:03:51,281 Speaker 3: only be in the school holidays. 83 00:03:51,641 --> 00:03:54,481 Speaker 1: But it's like every weekend, Like Elsie on the way 84 00:03:54,481 --> 00:03:56,081 Speaker 1: home from Netbil the other day, can. 85 00:03:55,961 --> 00:03:58,841 Speaker 2: We just stop and do something fun? Our lives are 86 00:03:58,921 --> 00:04:00,761 Speaker 2: so boring. Yeah. 87 00:04:00,961 --> 00:04:02,921 Speaker 1: Maybe I've just stat at Netbull for two. 88 00:04:02,761 --> 00:04:06,481 Speaker 3: Hours for you. Ye, but yeah, let's go and drop 89 00:04:06,481 --> 00:04:07,801 Speaker 3: a thousand at time zone. 90 00:04:08,721 --> 00:04:10,401 Speaker 1: What do you want from me? Kid? 91 00:04:10,641 --> 00:04:10,881 Speaker 2: Yeah? 92 00:04:10,961 --> 00:04:12,601 Speaker 1: So your girls are not there anymore. 93 00:04:12,721 --> 00:04:14,521 Speaker 4: No, It's like so it goes from one extreme to 94 00:04:14,561 --> 00:04:16,561 Speaker 4: the other because now they're teenagers. They don't want to 95 00:04:16,561 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 4: go anywhere, they don't want to do anything for you, 96 00:04:19,201 --> 00:04:21,281 Speaker 4: And so I will say, Okay, we're gonna go out 97 00:04:21,281 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 4: and we're gonna do this today, and they're like, like, 98 00:04:23,601 --> 00:04:27,241 Speaker 4: I get the eye rolls. So I booked and I'm 99 00:04:27,241 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 4: going to be talking about something that we talked about 100 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:31,561 Speaker 4: recently because you also went there, And I'm like, these 101 00:04:31,561 --> 00:04:34,281 Speaker 4: guys should really sponsor the podcast. They don't, but god, 102 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:36,361 Speaker 4: I wish I did the tree top challenge. 103 00:04:36,841 --> 00:04:40,481 Speaker 2: So it's this is fantastic. You're up high, you're doing 104 00:04:40,521 --> 00:04:41,961 Speaker 2: the like walking along. 105 00:04:41,681 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 4: The tightrope and through the nets and stuff like that, 106 00:04:44,241 --> 00:04:45,521 Speaker 4: and then you got zip lines. 107 00:04:46,041 --> 00:04:46,841 Speaker 2: I like to. 108 00:04:47,521 --> 00:04:49,961 Speaker 4: Suggest things to do that I know I'm good at, 109 00:04:50,241 --> 00:04:52,921 Speaker 4: and that also my husband isn't very good at because 110 00:04:52,921 --> 00:04:57,161 Speaker 4: I'm quite competitive, and so I quite enjoy when I'm like, oh, 111 00:04:57,241 --> 00:04:59,241 Speaker 4: look at me, you go and I'm like racing ahead 112 00:04:59,241 --> 00:05:01,241 Speaker 4: and I'm like four courses through. 113 00:05:01,401 --> 00:05:03,761 Speaker 1: Yeah, and he's still all stuck because. 114 00:05:03,521 --> 00:05:05,761 Speaker 2: He's a big man, and these things are not men 115 00:05:05,841 --> 00:05:08,561 Speaker 2: for big men. Yeah. 116 00:05:08,641 --> 00:05:12,561 Speaker 3: No, the ziplining for me, I'd be going because even 117 00:05:12,801 --> 00:05:16,121 Speaker 3: just getting on it for us, I go. 118 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:20,320 Speaker 4: And this is not like, am I bad wife episode? 119 00:05:20,361 --> 00:05:25,961 Speaker 4: But I did enjoy watching he's coming down the zip line. 120 00:05:26,001 --> 00:05:28,681 Speaker 4: And again, you know, like if you're a big guy 121 00:05:28,761 --> 00:05:31,241 Speaker 4: on a zip line, like it's a very different experience 122 00:05:31,241 --> 00:05:33,641 Speaker 4: to a small you know, seven year old who's like 123 00:05:33,761 --> 00:05:36,880 Speaker 4: flying and just landing at the end, like there's a 124 00:05:37,041 --> 00:05:40,601 Speaker 4: crash landing at the end, like you've got so much 125 00:05:40,681 --> 00:05:46,881 Speaker 4: more gravity in your force. And yeah, and so he's 126 00:05:46,961 --> 00:05:49,041 Speaker 4: coming down and you can see his legs going and 127 00:05:49,241 --> 00:05:51,681 Speaker 4: my first thought was, Oh, he's doing that to be 128 00:05:51,721 --> 00:05:54,361 Speaker 4: funny like it because it looks funny like he's moving 129 00:05:54,401 --> 00:05:56,960 Speaker 4: his legs all around. He's later told me that he 130 00:05:57,121 --> 00:05:59,921 Speaker 4: needs to come in front on like he's come in 131 00:06:00,161 --> 00:06:03,161 Speaker 4: facing forward like the minute, the other way around, like 132 00:06:03,201 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 4: it's a problem. So these little funny things he's doing 133 00:06:05,761 --> 00:06:12,681 Speaker 4: with his Legacies Act. And then what's happened is he's 134 00:06:12,801 --> 00:06:16,840 Speaker 4: not quite got to the end, like it stopped before 135 00:06:16,880 --> 00:06:19,121 Speaker 4: the end, so he's had to grab hold of the wire. 136 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:20,840 Speaker 4: And then what you have to do in that situation 137 00:06:20,961 --> 00:06:23,281 Speaker 4: is you have to turn around, so going backwards, but 138 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:25,400 Speaker 4: it's a lot because you're going uphill. 139 00:06:26,521 --> 00:06:28,921 Speaker 1: You monkey climb. 140 00:06:28,721 --> 00:06:31,481 Speaker 4: Back to get up there, but it's really hard on 141 00:06:31,481 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 4: your arms. So anyway he's doing this, I'm finding it 142 00:06:34,601 --> 00:06:38,801 Speaker 4: really funny because it's not me. I have to start laughing, 143 00:06:39,521 --> 00:06:43,241 Speaker 4: and the girl's laughing, and he's gone, stop laughing. 144 00:06:46,361 --> 00:06:49,241 Speaker 2: And then there's this little kid. There's nothing to do 145 00:06:49,361 --> 00:06:52,561 Speaker 2: with us. He's this other little boy. 146 00:06:52,921 --> 00:06:54,081 Speaker 1: Stop laughing. 147 00:06:55,961 --> 00:06:58,961 Speaker 4: I was like, mate, you can't tell someone else's kids 148 00:06:58,961 --> 00:07:02,041 Speaker 4: to stop laughing. I was looking at this kid'ry around it. 149 00:07:02,641 --> 00:07:05,401 Speaker 2: He's just joking. I'm not joking. 150 00:07:07,841 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 1: Oh, I love it. 151 00:07:08,561 --> 00:07:10,481 Speaker 4: Anyway, that wasn't even part of the story. I just 152 00:07:11,481 --> 00:07:13,001 Speaker 4: that in as to why I like going to the 153 00:07:13,001 --> 00:07:13,840 Speaker 4: tree Top challenge. 154 00:07:13,681 --> 00:07:15,801 Speaker 2: Because I'm pretty good at it. So I quite like it. 155 00:07:16,161 --> 00:07:17,601 Speaker 1: Did you girls go okay? Yeah? 156 00:07:17,721 --> 00:07:19,761 Speaker 4: So the whole point in me bringing this up is 157 00:07:19,761 --> 00:07:22,561 Speaker 4: that they did not want to go. So I have 158 00:07:22,681 --> 00:07:26,641 Speaker 4: said the day before tomorrow, guess what we're doing because 159 00:07:26,641 --> 00:07:29,681 Speaker 4: I know now, don't ask beforehand just to because once 160 00:07:29,721 --> 00:07:30,761 Speaker 4: it's booked, we have to go. 161 00:07:31,241 --> 00:07:33,761 Speaker 2: Guess what we're doing tomorrow. Both of them are like 162 00:07:33,801 --> 00:07:34,281 Speaker 2: looking at. 163 00:07:34,201 --> 00:07:38,481 Speaker 4: Me, like, what the fuck are we doing? So we're 164 00:07:38,481 --> 00:07:41,041 Speaker 4: going to the Streetop Challenge. There was a kind of 165 00:07:41,041 --> 00:07:44,561 Speaker 4: a halfer don't want her to feel bad because she 166 00:07:44,681 --> 00:07:47,561 Speaker 4: thinks she's excited and she thinks we're excited and we're not. 167 00:07:48,401 --> 00:07:51,441 Speaker 4: But then there was also like a slight eye roll 168 00:07:51,561 --> 00:07:57,361 Speaker 4: from Holly and Amelia's like yay, okay. I said, guys, 169 00:07:57,601 --> 00:08:00,481 Speaker 4: I know right now that you don't want to go 170 00:08:00,761 --> 00:08:04,201 Speaker 4: to this, but you have to trust me in that 171 00:08:04,401 --> 00:08:05,881 Speaker 4: I've booked it and it's. 172 00:08:05,721 --> 00:08:06,401 Speaker 2: Gonna be fun. 173 00:08:06,961 --> 00:08:08,761 Speaker 4: Yes, you're not gonna want to get up and go 174 00:08:08,841 --> 00:08:12,041 Speaker 4: and get ready, but you're gonna have fun. Yeah, And 175 00:08:12,081 --> 00:08:15,401 Speaker 4: so got them up in the morning. All the pushback, 176 00:08:15,721 --> 00:08:15,921 Speaker 4: I was. 177 00:08:15,921 --> 00:08:17,241 Speaker 1: Like, what's it always have to be like this? 178 00:08:17,361 --> 00:08:21,401 Speaker 4: Like why does my day have to start with bribing 179 00:08:21,561 --> 00:08:24,801 Speaker 4: you to get yourself dressed and out a house on 180 00:08:24,881 --> 00:08:27,041 Speaker 4: time so that we can make the time that we've 181 00:08:27,081 --> 00:08:29,280 Speaker 4: booked for this and have fun as a family. 182 00:08:29,321 --> 00:08:31,081 Speaker 2: Why does it have to be such hard work for me? 183 00:08:31,601 --> 00:08:33,681 Speaker 1: Where did they say nothing? Nothing fronted? 184 00:08:35,841 --> 00:08:39,681 Speaker 4: Then I'm like, I've got myself ready, pets are fair, 185 00:08:40,041 --> 00:08:44,321 Speaker 4: dishwashers emptied, I've put the washing away vacuum to the house, 186 00:08:44,761 --> 00:08:48,681 Speaker 4: and I'm like, okay, guys, let's go okay, off we go, okay, 187 00:08:48,681 --> 00:08:52,281 Speaker 4: guys through that whole process of you going all right, 188 00:08:52,321 --> 00:08:55,281 Speaker 4: we've got an hour, all right, we've got forty five minutes. 189 00:08:56,001 --> 00:08:59,401 Speaker 4: All right, we've got thirty nine minutes. Just have to 190 00:08:59,761 --> 00:09:02,921 Speaker 4: Why can't I just say we're leaving the house in 191 00:09:03,001 --> 00:09:05,961 Speaker 4: an hour, Yeah, see you then, because it just wouldn't happen. 192 00:09:07,281 --> 00:09:08,241 Speaker 2: But you know what happened. 193 00:09:09,121 --> 00:09:14,361 Speaker 4: We went, did the courses, spent three hours there, had 194 00:09:14,361 --> 00:09:15,001 Speaker 4: a great time. 195 00:09:15,161 --> 00:09:16,881 Speaker 2: All the way home, they're talking about how much fun 196 00:09:16,881 --> 00:09:17,321 Speaker 2: it was. 197 00:09:17,561 --> 00:09:20,081 Speaker 3: For them to love it, Like I can understand what 198 00:09:20,361 --> 00:09:23,521 Speaker 3: you went through, but for them, they don't have a clue. 199 00:09:23,561 --> 00:09:26,201 Speaker 3: So You're like, come on, guys, just trust me, it's 200 00:09:26,241 --> 00:09:27,081 Speaker 3: going to be amazing. 201 00:09:27,441 --> 00:09:29,681 Speaker 1: So then at the end of it, they're like, oh, 202 00:09:29,761 --> 00:09:30,841 Speaker 1: that really was amazing. 203 00:09:31,321 --> 00:09:33,601 Speaker 3: I wonder if they have that reflection moment of going, 204 00:09:33,641 --> 00:09:35,441 Speaker 3: I shouldn't have tortured mum like that. 205 00:09:35,641 --> 00:09:37,201 Speaker 1: For the whole it. 206 00:09:37,161 --> 00:09:39,761 Speaker 4: Literally goes from one extreme to the other. So you 207 00:09:39,841 --> 00:09:42,361 Speaker 4: have kids that want to do something every single day, 208 00:09:42,441 --> 00:09:45,681 Speaker 4: get up with the sparrows, and then next minute you 209 00:09:45,761 --> 00:09:48,521 Speaker 4: have that don't want to do anything with you and 210 00:09:48,561 --> 00:09:52,321 Speaker 4: sleep until lunchtime. And then you got husbands that scream 211 00:09:52,361 --> 00:09:54,121 Speaker 4: at everyone to not laugh at. 212 00:09:54,081 --> 00:10:00,401 Speaker 3: Them, including other people's children also doing the course with us. 213 00:10:00,521 --> 00:10:03,161 Speaker 4: So it's funny because Day was excited to go. I 214 00:10:03,201 --> 00:10:05,841 Speaker 4: was excited to go, kids were excited to go. 215 00:10:06,361 --> 00:10:07,801 Speaker 2: They were all raving about it. 216 00:10:07,841 --> 00:10:09,881 Speaker 4: On the way home, Ja was telling me he's never 217 00:10:09,921 --> 00:10:10,601 Speaker 4: going backwards.