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Speaker 2: Hey, jis, I'm out?

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Speaker 1: And this is two broad Chicks, the show that shares

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Speaker 1: life lessons and tips to help make you rich in life.

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Speaker 1: And welcome back for another fabulous episode. But I do

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Speaker 1: say so myself self proclaimed look is anything not? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Come on like be a number one biggest fan.

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Speaker 2: If you can love yourself, how the hell are you

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Speaker 2: gonna love somebody else? Can I get an amen?

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Speaker 3: And happy Spring has sprung?

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Speaker 1: Spring is officially spring. Do you feel like it feels

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Speaker 1: like spring?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? You can feel it in the air and the

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Speaker 4: air is starting to smell like jasmine and freezes, which

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Speaker 4: is always how you know.

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Speaker 1: I love it? Well, Today we are chatting a very

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Speaker 1: fun topic.

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Speaker 3: You've probably seen.

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Speaker 1: It on your doom scrolls late at night, and it

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Speaker 1: is the Great lock In. And we're going to be

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Speaker 1: chatting the Chicks Guide to the Great lock In because

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Speaker 1: we kind of discussed this last week and I hadn't

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Speaker 1: even seen any of this, believe it or not, ripleys.

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Speaker 1: But when we were talking our Hot Chicks Spring checklist

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Speaker 1: last week, my last thing on the checklist was to

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Speaker 1: lock in for spring and then literally two days later,

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Speaker 1: I get all this lock the Great lock In content

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Speaker 1: and I was like, there you go.

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Speaker 4: Which being like, there's we're in the last what is

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Speaker 4: it the year?

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Speaker 3: Like, now's the time to lock in?

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Speaker 4: You've got four months left to like check your goals

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Speaker 4: before twenty twenty six, And we were like, oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: And also so many of you chicks like really loved

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Speaker 1: that one piece of the checklist. You loved multiple pieces

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Speaker 1: of the checklist, but that was one that we got

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Speaker 1: lots of feedback on.

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Speaker 2: So we were like, let's dive into it more.

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Speaker 4: It's clearly resonating with a lot of people, so let's

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Speaker 4: put a Broke Chicks twist on it.

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Speaker 2: I am like every other girl, yeah, and I wouldn't

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Speaker 2: have it any other way.

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Speaker 1: But before we get into it, we must discuss a

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Speaker 1: position of the we yep, So, Sally Beddy, love my life?

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Speaker 2: What are you obsessed with?

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Speaker 3: Have you heard of mister fantasy?

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Speaker 2: Do I have Internet connection? Of course I've heard of

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Speaker 2: mister fantasy.

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Speaker 3: I am upset.

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Speaker 2: Now let me ask you the real question, mister fantasy.

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Speaker 2: Smash or pass?

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Speaker 3: Smash?

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Speaker 2: Sash now smash.

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Speaker 4: So for anybody who isn't familiar if this hasn't been

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Speaker 4: all over your fyp. Somebody by the name of mister

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Speaker 4: Fantasy started posting on TikTok somebody last month, right, and

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Speaker 4: he's this very like quirky British character.

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Speaker 3: He has almost like the.

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Speaker 4: Doors like haircut, like a black bob with like a

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Speaker 1: And he's sort of like the Beatles meets like seventies disco.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's he's definitely, yeah, a quirky character that I

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Speaker 4: think people were like, ah, who's this guy? But then

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Speaker 4: also he draws a striking resemblance to kJ Appa aka

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Speaker 4: Archie from Riverdale and.

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Speaker 1: Erraord Jack from The Map That Leads to You, which

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and so a lot of people were being like,

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Speaker 4: what is actually going on because he has the.

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Speaker 3: Same tattoos as kJ Affer.

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Speaker 4: When you actually like get close ups of his face,

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Speaker 4: But again, like this man is an actor, like this

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Speaker 2: To it, never confirmed nor denied.

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Speaker 4: Exactly because I think that plays into obviously the whole

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and he's.

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Speaker 4: Just dropped his first single, Mister Fantasy, self titled, and it's.

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Speaker 3: Is it for a movie?

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Speaker 1: He's going into a music career because a lot of

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Speaker 1: a lot of the songs that he was saying I

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Speaker 2: So yeah, and I just I think he's so hot.

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Speaker 4: It's so I just find it so funny that you're

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Speaker 1: How many followers does mister Fantasy have now, let's have

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Speaker 3: He's got three hundred and ninety thousand follows.

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Speaker 2: One I seen kJ halfa yeah, and I just love it.

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Speaker 4: He's the sort of person that, with the characters that

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Speaker 1: I think to be in Riverdale you have to be

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Speaker 1: be honest. True, my obsession is and it's kind of

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Speaker 1: So my question to you is, would you take one

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Speaker 2: I would live in a box same sames at all.

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Speaker 1: Literally, but I was like, that is a wild stat

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but that's the thing, like, think of all the

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Speaker 4: people that are stuck in relationships with complete duds. And

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Speaker 4: to get away from that passage.

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Speaker 2: True, Well, shall I get into the episode. Let's go

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Speaker 2: The Great lock In. I love this name.

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's very girl at one am doing

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Speaker 1: a complete rebranded Pinterest totally.

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Speaker 2: Which is me.

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Speaker 2: I was literally about to say that was the third thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, But in case you haven't seen this on

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Speaker 1: your FYP yet, the Great lock In is a new

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Speaker 1: viral trend which emerged mid August, and basically it's people

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Speaker 2: First, I've seen a mix of dates.

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Speaker 2: But it's never too late. Yeah, you can lock in

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Speaker 2: right now, baby, exactly.

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Speaker 3: It's never too late to lock in.

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Speaker 2: It's never too late to lock in.

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Speaker 1: And according to TikToker Katie Glenn, whose video has amassed

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Speaker 1: life overnight, but it's about stacking evidence that you are

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Speaker 1: that girl.

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Speaker 2: One consistent win at a time.

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Speaker 3: Love that.

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Speaker 2: So what did you think when this trend hit your fyp?

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Speaker 3: I also loved it.

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Speaker 4: I love when something has like a very short and sweet,

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Speaker 4: I feel like really encapsulates what this time of year

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Speaker 4: even where we've ended up at this part of the year,

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Speaker 4: and take advantage of the time that we have left

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Speaker 3: So I really like it.

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Speaker 4: I think that sometimes when I see like I would

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Speaker 3: Because I do feel like the girlies usually.

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Speaker 4: whereas I saw a few men doing the lock in

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Speaker 1: I find my FIP didn't even didn't even put that forward, yeah,

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Speaker 1: because it was like you don't want you know.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. But I think what I like about the Great

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Speaker 4: lock In as opposed to something like seventy five day

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Speaker 4: Hard Challenge is that it doesn't have set rules.

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Speaker 3: It's customizable.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So unlike the seventy five hard which is very rigorous.

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Speaker 1: And I think you guys know how I feel about it.

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Speaker 1: I think I've ranched and raved about it a billion times.

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Speaker 1: It's like no cheat days before and after photos exercise

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Speaker 4: every day, and like the act of writing it out

448
00:21:17,760 --> 00:21:20,560
Speaker 4: every day, when I've done it, I think is where

449
00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:23,639
Speaker 4: I'm like, yay, whereas the list beforehand, it's more of

450
00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:26,480
Speaker 4: the okay, cool, Now I know what to write down

451
00:21:26,520 --> 00:21:28,399
Speaker 4: every day and what I'm going to focus on every day.

452
00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:31,040
Speaker 4: But I do agree some of the lock in, like

453
00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:33,359
Speaker 4: tiktoks and stuff that I've seen have like nine points

454
00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:38,240
Speaker 4: on them and they're all very extreme, so I think, yeah,

455
00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:41,520
Speaker 4: and also you can't fully take in well, I feel

456
00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:46,000
Speaker 4: that you can't necessarily take in like the enjoyment and

457
00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:48,880
Speaker 4: excitement of achieving a goal if there's a billion other

458
00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:51,560
Speaker 4: things that you're okay, cool, Well I've ticked this off

459
00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:52,720
Speaker 4: and now I've got to do this.

460
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Speaker 2: So I love it.

461
00:21:53,480 --> 00:21:56,679
Speaker 1: To do list, Like I would literally pass away without

462
00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:59,919
Speaker 1: my daily to do list. This is just within the

463
00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:02,399
Speaker 1: context of the lock in that I'm coming from, that

464
00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:05,440
Speaker 1: it's more of a mentality. Yeah, yeah, Like I think

465
00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:09,800
Speaker 1: I would actually explode if I didn't have my spreadsheets

466
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:11,680
Speaker 1: and planners, yeah, total.

467
00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:14,960
Speaker 2: And diary, Like I'd be like, so, what's happening today?

468
00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:15,919
Speaker 2: Who are you? Who am I?

469
00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:16,800
Speaker 3: Yeah?

470
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Speaker 1: But we also had some more tips on ways to

471
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Speaker 1: lock in, and you had a rule yes, so.

472
00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 3: It's then never missed twice rule.

473
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Speaker 4: Okay, Like we said, you chicks know that we're not

474
00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:33,119
Speaker 4: huge fans of things like the seventy five hard or

475
00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:35,880
Speaker 4: any sort of challenge that allows no flexibility.

476
00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:37,440
Speaker 2: Do you know what, I'm a fan of a cheat

477
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:38,400
Speaker 2: day every day.

478
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:41,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, you need to give yourself wriggle room for when

479
00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:44,800
Speaker 4: life happens, whether that is you had a really busy

480
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:47,000
Speaker 4: day at work, you had a bad sleep, so it

481
00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:50,639
Speaker 4: would actually do you injustice if you got up early

482
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:53,200
Speaker 4: and you didn't sleep in, Like, you need to allow

483
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:59,040
Speaker 4: yourself flexibility to allow cheat days in quotations for these

484
00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 4: things that are on your lip. But the never missed

485
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:05,639
Speaker 4: twice rule is that you never miss a thing on

486
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Speaker 4: your list two days in a row. So if your

487
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Speaker 4: goal is to get ten thousand steps and one day

488
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:17,359
Speaker 4: you're just like exhausted, you're really busy at work, you

489
00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:20,760
Speaker 4: don't get the ten thousand, you don't completely write it

490
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Speaker 4: off or you don't punish yourself. Yeah, but also you say, okay,

491
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Speaker 4: I missed it today, that's fine. Tonight, I'm going to

492
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Speaker 4: get a good sleep, I'm going to go to bed early,

493
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Speaker 4: and tomorrow I'm going to get up and go for

494
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Speaker 4: a walk before work to try and get some of

495
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Speaker 4: those steps in and get.

496
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Speaker 2: That momentum back.

497
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Speaker 1: Can you have like when it's the never missed twice rule,

498
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Speaker 1: is that like you can have multiple days yeah, that

499
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Speaker 1: like separated that you're like, oh, I feel off it today,

500
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Speaker 1: or like Friday, I'm just not going to do anything,

501
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 1: and like that's not like you can have multiple of

502
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Speaker 1: those single days that you're like, Jim, I'm just gonna

503
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Speaker 1: have a little day off.

504
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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's more so trying not to have two consecutive

505
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Speaker 4: days where you don't do whatever the goal is. Because

506
00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 4: I also do think that missing two days is enough

507
00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:04,720
Speaker 4: to fall off.

508
00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:08,440
Speaker 1: Absolutely, I'd be like it's done, it's over.

509
00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:10,120
Speaker 3: Yeah.

510
00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 4: But and of course there are circumstances where this may

511
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 4: not happen, Like if you're sick.

512
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Speaker 1: Why is it that whenever you like lock into something,

513
00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:26,800
Speaker 1: you always fucking get sick at the start? Okay? My

514
00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:30,320
Speaker 1: tip is to beware the dopamine budget.

515
00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:32,000
Speaker 2: I think with things like this.

516
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 1: It's very easy to get really excited and be like

517
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 1: I'm gonna buy these four hundred dollars sneakers because I'm

518
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:42,240
Speaker 1: gonna run every day, or I'm gonna join this one

519
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:45,919
Speaker 1: gym and sign up to a twelve month contract that

520
00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:47,600
Speaker 1: I'm now locked in for because I'm going to be

521
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:51,080
Speaker 1: a completely different person somehow magically tomorrow that I am today.

522
00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 1: And yeah, I don't spend your paycheck on trying to

523
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Speaker 1: become a new person, Like it shouldn't cost any money

524
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:02,520
Speaker 1: if you to do the great lock in. Like if

525
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:04,479
Speaker 1: you're thinking, oh, I'm gonna buy a whole new wardrobe,

526
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be this person.

527
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:06,199
Speaker 2: Why no?

528
00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like, you don't need a new active were set

529
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:10,240
Speaker 4: to do the lock in.

530
00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:13,399
Speaker 1: If you don't have the habit now, Buying something is

531
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:16,320
Speaker 1: not going to magically create the habit for you.

532
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:19,639
Speaker 4: No, or if anything, it will give you an incentive

533
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:21,760
Speaker 4: to do it the first time, and then as soon

534
00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:24,120
Speaker 4: as you wash that outfit and it no longer feels new,

535
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:26,119
Speaker 4: you're gonna lose that motivation. You need to find the

536
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:27,960
Speaker 4: motivation beyond a purchase.

537
00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 1: Instead of buying the thing to make the habit happen,

538
00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:37,160
Speaker 1: focus on the reward so you can look into things

539
00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:40,879
Speaker 1: like habit reward loops, where you know, if you are

540
00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:45,160
Speaker 1: consistent with something for three weeks, you get a little

541
00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:47,239
Speaker 1: ten dollar gift at the end of the week, and

542
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:50,119
Speaker 1: then at the fourth week you get a fifty dollars

543
00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:52,879
Speaker 1: gift and you can do like mini mini mini big

544
00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:55,640
Speaker 1: of like that kind of habit loop, or you can

545
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:59,840
Speaker 1: look at doing an automatic transfer every day until the

546
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 1: first of December. I'm not fucking locking until the thirty

547
00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 1: first of December. I've got parties to go to. Not

548
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 1: Christmas time, not Christmas Christmas.

549
00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:12,120
Speaker 3: December one, but christ after Black Friday. I feel I'm

550
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:13,480
Speaker 3: a right off.

551
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:18,439
Speaker 1: I'm drunk from the first of December to the twenty

552
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 1: fifth of December, small break for swims until news and

553
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:22,960
Speaker 1: then I'm drunk again.

554
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:26,120
Speaker 2: All right, no one bothered me. Out of office is on?

555
00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:30,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, so yeah, I'm like, don't even like

556
00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:33,160
Speaker 1: the thirty it's on the first of December.

557
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 2: It's on the first.

558
00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:35,159
Speaker 3: December, and January is a right off.

559
00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, don't even I'm literally just in an astral

560
00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:41,280
Speaker 1: plane looking down at the Earth being like oh no,

561
00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:47,360
Speaker 1: literally yeah, but focus on you know, if you transfer

562
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Speaker 1: five dollars a day, ten dollars a day, whatever it is,

563
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 1: and then at the end you get to buy Seale

564
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 1: a treat. There's a dress I want that I am

565
00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:56,439
Speaker 1: thinking of making my treat.

566
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Speaker 3: Oh, I can't wait to find out.

567
00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:02,359
Speaker 2: You already know what dress it is. However, like we've said,

568
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 2: it is very personal. This is very personal to what

569
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 2: you want to do.

570
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,679
Speaker 1: Where I'm never gonna get on this podcast and be like,

571
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 1: here's yourt five things you need to do every day

572
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:14,320
Speaker 1: to be happy, successful, hot, smart.

573
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 3: And reach. There's always a tnc ohay.

574
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 1: Always a tasy. And also my favorite part is I'm

575
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:21,919
Speaker 1: not the police.

576
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 2: You have free will. I don't like it. If you

577
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:26,560
Speaker 2: don't like a tip, you never have to do it.

578
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 2: This is just all suggestion, baby sent exactly. So.

579
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Speaker 1: In order to figure out what you want to lock into,

580
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:39,640
Speaker 1: I have five questions to ask yourself before you lock in,

581
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 1: before you do the great lock in, before you lock

582
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 1: in for spring or autumn or wherever you are situated.

583
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 1: Here are the five questions to ask to understand how

584
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:50,159
Speaker 1: the fuck you're gonna lock in?

585
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 4: Okay?

586
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 2: Number one?

587
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:54,040
Speaker 1: Am I choosing this because I want it or because

588
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:58,560
Speaker 1: I think I should want it? It helps separate external pressures,

589
00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 1: whether it's society, relateationships, family, friends, from your internal desires

590
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:06,480
Speaker 1: of what you actually want for yourself. Number two, I

591
00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 1: really like this one. Does this decision give me more freedom?

592
00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:11,480
Speaker 1: Or take it away.

593
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:14,400
Speaker 2: So it's a really a good way to.

594
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 1: Test if the lock in feels expansive and it's going

595
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 1: to build upon your life, or if it's going to

596
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 1: feel restrictive and take away from the things that truly

597
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 1: make you happy.

598
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 2: Exactly.

599
00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 1: Number three, if I had to live with this choice

600
00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: for five years, how would I feel? This is a

601
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:35,359
Speaker 1: really good question because it helps you kind of see

602
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 1: a future version of is this actually going to help

603
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 1: me build habits that create an identity that I want

604
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:46,240
Speaker 1: to be long lasting? If not, is this achievable? It

605
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 1: kind of zooms out of the moment and the pressure

606
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 1: and forces you to consider like medium term impact without

607
00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:54,920
Speaker 1: committing to forever. Yeah.

608
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:59,440
Speaker 2: Number four, what's the worst case scenario if I couldn't

609
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 2: handle it? Okay?

610
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 1: So it brings perspective and reduces fear by proving most

611
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:08,920
Speaker 1: lockins aren't permanent or scary and it's not the end

612
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 1: of the world if you do fall off. Yeah, like

613
00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:14,480
Speaker 1: you can just jump back on, like, what's the worst

614
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 1: thing that will happen?

615
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 2: Oh I miss one day? Okay, Tomorrow'll just freestart exactly.

616
00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 1: And then number five, am I making this choice from

617
00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 1: fear or excitement. So fear based decisions often feel like

618
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:30,640
Speaker 1: a trap. And we've mentioned this in a New Year's

619
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 1: Resolutions episode before as well, that goals made out of

620
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:40,000
Speaker 1: negative based emotions or projections are more likely to fail

621
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 1: than those made out of positive projections. So doing things

622
00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 1: because it is going to bring a positive rather than

623
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:50,760
Speaker 1: a negative. So let's use the health example because it's

624
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 1: one of the easiest ones, but there's so many you

625
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: could do. Right is being like, oh, I want to

626
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 1: lose weight, I want to lose five kilos, that's a

627
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:01,480
Speaker 1: negative projection versus I want to build up my strength

628
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:04,000
Speaker 1: to run five kilometers, that's a positive.

629
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Speaker 2: So looking at it like that. Yeah, and excitement based

630
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 2: ones are going to get you out of the bed.

631
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:11,040
Speaker 1: In the morning exactly. You're going to be like, I

632
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 1: can't wait to do this. And I think focusing on

633
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 1: the feeling you have after doing whatever it is your

634
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 1: lockin is focused on is going to make it so

635
00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:20,600
Speaker 1: much more fun and exerting.

636
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, base your lock in on things that make you

637
00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 4: feel joy, not to get away from things that make

638
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 4: you feel guilty.

639
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, but I have a question for you. If

640
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:34,400
Speaker 1: you could recommend one product for a lock in.

641
00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 2: What would have been why Oo?

642
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 4: I have one that I want to say, but I

643
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 4: don't know if I should say it.

644
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,720
Speaker 3: Why It would be the orerry.

645
00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 4: And I feel guilty saying this because I do know

646
00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 4: that we are two broke chicks and we very rarely

647
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 4: recommend expensive purchases.

648
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 3: But we both got orra rings at the end of

649
00:30:58,320 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 3: last year.

650
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 2: It was our bonus. It was that Christmas bonus.

651
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly.

652
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:05,520
Speaker 4: And I do feel like it has really helped me

653
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 4: get absolutely a better big picture of my internal health

654
00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:15,479
Speaker 4: because I would be focusing on things like, you know,

655
00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 4: like my steps or other external sort of factors like

656
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 4: that which are really helpful, but I couldn't see, like,

657
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:27,479
Speaker 4: for example, my readiness score, which I love seeing at

658
00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:28,960
Speaker 4: the beginning of the day, and I love that my

659
00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 4: goals get adjusted based on that.

660
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 1: It actually helps you not expect so much of yourself daily, yeah,

661
00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:38,120
Speaker 1: whereas I would be like, no, this is my goal

662
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:39,840
Speaker 1: and I have to hit it every single day.

663
00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 4: Whereas I feel like the order ring has given me

664
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:45,640
Speaker 4: a better understanding of how I'm feeling and how I

665
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 4: should adjust my goals based on that, so I'm not

666
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 4: stretching myself too thin and it's helped me build healthier

667
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 4: habits around my sleep health and my sleep hygiene and

668
00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 4: stuff like that. So it is a bougie bougie purchase,

669
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:02,840
Speaker 4: And obviously you don't have to go with that specifically,

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Speaker 4: but I do think that if you are looking into

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Speaker 4: some sort of health tracking app or device, I feel

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Speaker 4: like it's the only consistent habit tracking to all I've

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Speaker 4: ever used, aside from my journal.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, mine would be probably my audible subscription. As someone

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Speaker 1: who feels the most like themselves when they're reading a book,

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Speaker 1: and that just brings me so much joy and makes

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Speaker 1: me so productive. Like if I need to get a

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Speaker 1: or anything that involves something like getting a task.

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Speaker 2: Done, if I put an audiobook in, it's so easy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I just I love it and I just

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Speaker 1: think it's the best. And you can get whatever you

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Speaker 1: want to listen to, whether it's self help, whether it's fiction,

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Speaker 1: whether it's some mutty little book and you're on the

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Speaker 1: train and listening to two people get down, you're like

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Speaker 1: nobody knew, yes exactly. I love seeing like girls listening

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Speaker 1: to things like or reading something on their kindle.

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Speaker 2: I'm like you, dirty doll, that's sluody, bloody book. Well,

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Speaker 2: I would love to know how you chicks are also

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Speaker 2: locking in.

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Speaker 1: If you have any tips, feel free to check them

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Speaker 1: in the comments on Spotify and we love you, Love

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Speaker 1: you chicks, the great locking Beans. We'll see you on

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Speaker 1: the first of December to get pieced Christmas Us and

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Speaker 1: all the chicks.

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Speaker 2: I would love that. We should absolutely do that. All Yeah,

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Speaker 2: come to the live show. Probably should have been at

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Speaker 2: the top of the episode.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe that should have been my obsession.

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Speaker 1: Of the week. Absolutely, but yeah, we have the live

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Speaker 1: shows in Melbourne, Brisbane and Sydney. Be sure to get

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Speaker 1: your tickets. They are selling out and we will have

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Speaker 1: more details and all the giveaways that are coming alongside that.

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Speaker 1: Maybe we'll give away some ow rings at the live show.

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Speaker 1: All right, chicks, thank you so much for having us

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Speaker 1: in your ear holes.

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Speaker 2: We love to be here and we'll catch you next

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Speaker 2: catch on Thursday. We will, all right. Thanks to Mike

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Speaker 2: came out for making this episode of Two Brough Chicks happened.

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Speaker 1: Love you bye bye.

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