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Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad
Speaker 2: Mum Podcast. I'm actually getting quite excited to head towards
Speaker 2: the end of the year.
Speaker 1: Like I feel like I need a bit of a break. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know that.
Speaker 2: You know, kids, you don't really get a break, Like
Speaker 2: sometimes it's even harder when they're not at school.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I think the break is more the break in routine. Yeah,
Speaker 3: the break in having to rush to school, having to
Speaker 3: fill the lunchboxes, having to like remind them that they've
Speaker 3: got swimming lessons. Yeah, like I'm not doing the swimming.
Speaker 3: That has to come a point where you remember to
Speaker 3: take your swimming stuff. Why doesn't your brain say, oh,
Speaker 3: it's Wednesday. I have swimming this all.
Speaker 2: The time, And even with teenagers, wage it doesn't change.
Speaker 2: It's like, why do I have to be your pa
Speaker 2: and my own?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't get it. I'm trying to like encourage
Speaker 3: Gracie to, like, especially for this last term, to try
Speaker 3: and take everything on herself. You know, like you're going
Speaker 3: into high school next year. You have to somewhat find
Speaker 3: maybe like a diary or like a Monday to Friday.
Speaker 3: What have I got on this week because I'm sure
Speaker 3: that the same emails are not as entailed of their movements.
Speaker 3: Do I still get emails in a high school that
Speaker 3: tell me when their assessment is due and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: Oh, not their assessments. I'm worried about that.
Speaker 3: I'm you're worried about that stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But what you'll find is that they'll drum it
Speaker 2: into them pretty soon. You know, you need to be organized,
Speaker 2: and they might give them a planner or something like that,
Speaker 2: but they'll have to work it out, and they'll also
Speaker 2: remind them in class. But what they'll also say is,
Speaker 2: you know, this is what we expect of you now.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And what you'll find is she'll do it because it's
Speaker 2: someone else telling her.
Speaker 1: It's not you.
Speaker 2: If it was you telling her, she'd be like, fuck
Speaker 2: what mom say? She's still going to be across it
Speaker 2: all if you make it obvious, like I'm not gonna
Speaker 2: know about this stuff, you just have to wake it up.
Speaker 3: That's what I was worried about. I was like, how
Speaker 3: did you forget it was Wednesday? I know it's Wednesday
Speaker 3: because I got to get up and go to work.
Speaker 3: You got up and when it's Wednesday. Oh, it doesn't
Speaker 3: matter about swimming, just pack your bag. Pack your bag
Speaker 3: that she goes. Why can't you have reminded me the
Speaker 3: night before.
Speaker 1: Because you're the PA, you're the diary.
Speaker 3: Oh yes, I had nothing even to come back with
Speaker 3: on that note. I was just like, and then, you know,
Speaker 3: you beat yourself up, as you do being a mom.
Speaker 3: You go, maybe I should have just packed her bag
Speaker 3: the night before. Would have been so much easier. She
Speaker 3: wouldn't have had all of that mess around, she wouldn't
Speaker 3: have had to come home.
Speaker 2: And the problem is is that, yes, it is easier
Speaker 2: for you to just do that or remind her or
Speaker 2: pack the bag or whatever, like it's that's super easy.
Speaker 1: That takes you like two seconds.
Speaker 2: Yeah, However, all you're doing is extending they're not needed
Speaker 2: to know anything about what today is gonna entail.
Speaker 3: Just to top that off, just to make it so
Speaker 3: that I'm not the only one that's in it. One
Speaker 3: of the mom's got to fit stop the other morning.
Speaker 3: It's a seven o'clock class, so most of them bring
Speaker 3: the kids. They sit like in the krash area. By
Speaker 3: the time we're finishing, they just walk to school. Anyway,
Speaker 3: She rocks up and she's in a mood right, And
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, everything okay, And she's like, how
Speaker 3: do you walk out of the house with your shoes on?
Speaker 3: So one of her boys have walked out of the house,
Speaker 3: She's drove fifteen twenty minutes to cod to fit Stop
Speaker 3: to then have to leave Stop after the class to
Speaker 3: drive all the way home to drive them all the
Speaker 3: way back to school. Because he just goes, I don't know,
Speaker 3: I just forgot. Yeah, but you've got socks on your feet.
Speaker 3: How did you forget the shoes? And he genuinely stood
Speaker 3: there in front of all of us and was like,
Speaker 3: I don't know, I just forgot.
Speaker 1: Oh.
Speaker 3: It's like it's mind blowing, mind blowing.
Speaker 1: That is like have you ever forgotten to put your
Speaker 1: shoes on? When you know?
Speaker 3: I looked at him, I said, but how come all
Speaker 3: of us can come to the gym and know that
Speaker 3: we have to put our shoes on to come to
Speaker 3: the gym. It's as simple as that. And he just
Speaker 3: looked at me. It was just like shrugging. And mind you,
Speaker 3: he's the same age as else, so he's.
Speaker 2: Just like doesn't care, be quite right, big fuss. Shoes
Speaker 2: are overrated?
Speaker 3: When he was leaving, I was like, enjoyed the day
Speaker 3: at school with those shoes on. Am I a bad
Speaker 3: mum for not having a comeback?
Speaker 1: Or you didn't think of one quick enough?
Speaker 3: No, No, I didn't know. So this moment, maybe I'd
Speaker 3: had a really long day, but I was like kind
Speaker 3: of just feeling like dumbed down a bit and was
Speaker 3: just like I can't even fight, just can't even fight,
Speaker 3: couldn't even come up with a comeback. It had like
Speaker 3: moments of flashback to my own school days where we
Speaker 3: used to do it all the time as kids, but
Speaker 3: here I am as an adult saying don't do that
Speaker 3: because it'll sink into your skin. So one of them
Speaker 3: comes home and she has a big imprint of pen
Speaker 3: all over her leg, and then I look at one
Speaker 3: of the hands and there's heaps of ink all over
Speaker 3: her hand, but like proper drawn, like she sat there
Speaker 3: obviously really bored as shit doing something at school, maybe learning,
Speaker 3: drawn all over her leg, drawn all over her hand.
Speaker 3: And then I said, baby, you can't do that. You
Speaker 3: can't draw on your stuff like that. Ink is really
Speaker 3: bad for you to sink into your skin. It's like poison.
Speaker 3: I don't know if that's true, but that's what my
Speaker 3: mom anyway. So then here I am, like years later
Speaker 3: saying this to my own child, and I was just like,
Speaker 3: look how much ink you've got. You've got it on
Speaker 3: your leg, your arm, you do.
Speaker 1: Just see me with drawing all over me.
Speaker 3: I just said, you can't anyway. I went down the line.
Speaker 3: If you can't, it's poisonous, it's bad for you, it's
Speaker 3: bad for your skin. She goes, well, you can't talk.
Speaker 3: She goes, you've got tattoos. Oh yeah, I said, excuse me.
Speaker 3: She goes, that's ink.
Speaker 1: If it's not pen ink, I don't even know what
Speaker 1: that's made of, what chat.
Speaker 3: Is made of that? So I just sat there, Well,
Speaker 3: I don't know the answer mind you like, I've only
Speaker 3: got the very fine line and you like they're not sleeves,
Speaker 3: like everything can be hidden.
Speaker 2: But the ink is injected under your skin, whereas she's
Speaker 2: only drawing over it. So I mean, the argument would
Speaker 2: be that hers is better for her.
Speaker 3: So there I find myself in this situation not having
Speaker 3: it come back. Also, as I'm standing there talking to her,
Speaker 3: just kind of like almost trying to fight my point
Speaker 3: of the story, but not really having any backing. I'm like,
Speaker 3: find myself, start to like turn my arm so that
Speaker 3: you can't see anything. It was like, that is so
Speaker 3: disrespectful of you. I have an adult like obviously, which
Speaker 3: kid was it?
Speaker 1: Elsie?
Speaker 3: Yeah, of course. And she's standing there and she's like, yeah,
Speaker 3: well you can't talk. You've got them all over you,
Speaker 3: all over me. I was like, I don't have them
Speaker 3: all over me. And I said, do you see me.
Speaker 1: Drawing all over my haven't you?
Speaker 3: No, I've got like onto but they're tiny, tiny, They're
Speaker 3: all fine line sort of tiny. Anyway, the whole point
Speaker 3: of this is is that when you get bailed by
Speaker 3: your child that you have no comeback. It feels so awkward,
Speaker 3: so awkward.
Speaker 2: Also, let's just have a like little think for a
Speaker 2: moment of the stuff that kids do that makes no sense.
Speaker 2: You've sat there and you've drawn all over your leg.
Speaker 2: I remember having a conversation and this is one of
Speaker 2: those things that you think you're never going to say
Speaker 2: as a human being. I remember saying to my girls,
Speaker 2: and they must have been about two or three maybe,
Speaker 2: and I was like, gosh, stop drawing on your sandwiches.
Speaker 2: I never thought I would ever say those words, stop
Speaker 2: drawing on your sandwiches.
Speaker 3: Stop drawing on sandwiches, someone said to me the other day.
Speaker 3: They said like, very similar, but they had to say
Speaker 3: stop drawing with your shit because they've taken nappy off
Speaker 3: and had started drawing with it all over the wall.
Speaker 3: And I was like, I can happily say that I
Speaker 3: never well, I never had.
Speaker 2: That coloring crayons on the walls, which is very frustrating,
Speaker 2: but that's the totally other thing.
Speaker 1: And yeah, you're right, I never had that with my girls.
Speaker 2: I've heard so many stories about babies that get to
Speaker 2: the point where they can take off their nap and
Speaker 2: they're like, oh, yeah.
Speaker 3: Mum told me to go to sleep, and so instead
Speaker 3: I'm going to shit in my nappy and then write
Speaker 3: with it on the wall. And she's got.
Speaker 1: Twins, Oh god, learning from each other.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. I was like, I wouldn't have coaked
Speaker 3: my nephew and my niece both different times where my
Speaker 3: mother Nanadee was babysitting them using my porter cot. They
Speaker 3: both did it at my house in my portercot and
Speaker 3: I looked at Mom and I was like, nah, nanad
Speaker 3: they're on your watch. I ain't helpful with that shit.
Speaker 3: Like literally, I was like, what is with these kids?
Speaker 3: To talk about the grandparent ererupt she was a firecracker
Speaker 3: that day. Happened twice over the time, and then after
Speaker 3: the second time it was that horrific. But I was like,
Speaker 3: just throw the fucking thing out. I don't want the
Speaker 3: porta coop back. I'd rather kids sleep on the floor
Speaker 3: and then keep that.
Speaker 2: Just throw it out, because it doesn't matter how hard
Speaker 2: you clean that, ye know, even when like when you
Speaker 2: do nappies and stuff and you get some on your finger,
Speaker 2: the amount of times you wash your head and the
Speaker 2: smell doesn't come out.
Speaker 3: I genuinely when talking to other people that are going
Speaker 3: through the toddler stages and they're talking about this so passionately,
Speaker 3: and they're just like, I didn't know what to do.
Speaker 3: And you're like, oh man, you're in the trenches, like
Speaker 3: right now, that kind of stuff. Yeah, we've all been
Speaker 3: through it, but that is like trench's material. She's like,
Speaker 3: I didn't know what to do. I said, well, what
Speaker 3: did you do? And she goes, I don't know. I
Speaker 3: just picked the kid up, sort of not wanting to
Speaker 3: touch it, and then sort of dropped it into the
Speaker 3: shower and just thought I'd just hose them off.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, a hard one. It is, so where
Speaker 2: did you get to with the stop?
Speaker 3: Nothing had legway, then ninety seconds wouldn't have worked. Nothing,
Speaker 3: I had nothing. I was speechless. I was like, look down.
Speaker 3: I sort of covered them back up and was like,
Speaker 3: I've been defeated by my nine year old. And I
Speaker 3: was like, this is bullshit. You're just coloring in on
Speaker 3: your skin in your head. You walk away. You've got
Speaker 3: about fifty comebacks, but at that particular point on that day,
Speaker 3: I had nothing.
Speaker 2: It's not what you need to do in that situation
Speaker 2: is you need to take some time out right down
Speaker 2: those comebacks and then go back to them and go, hey,
Speaker 2: just by the way, that conversation that we had yesterday
Speaker 2: that you don't remember or care about anymore, well, I've
Speaker 2: got this to say now. The reason I've got tattoos
Speaker 2: is because blah blah blah blah blah, your ink is
Speaker 2: so much worse for you. I've done the research, I've
Speaker 2: looked at Google.
Speaker 3: I don't even know if it is or it is it.
Speaker 3: And I was just like, I remember someone saying that
Speaker 3: to me I'll just go with that. You know, like
Speaker 3: someone teld me, don't we in the skin?
Speaker 1: It's really bad for you.
Speaker 3: And it's like poison in your skin. You're not thinking
Speaker 3: about that way laying they're getting your tattoo. What about
Speaker 3: the people that are covered in tattoos, Like literally I
Speaker 3: saw someone the other day, literally their whole head had
Speaker 3: been tattooed. Oh, I just need And then I'm worried
Speaker 3: about my kid getting a text and.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but then let's have a look at how bad
Speaker 2: hair dye is for us.
Speaker 3: Oh, we don't need to go down much to