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Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome back to Bounce Forward with me.

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Speaker 2: Tif Paul, I'd like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of

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Speaker 2: the land on which I'm recording this podcast, who were

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Speaker 2: under people of the cooler nation. I pay my respects

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Speaker 2: to elders past and present. Hannah DMed me with a

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Speaker 2: fantastic question, Tiff, I've always wondered, does Ed let you

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Speaker 2: train him at all? And this is a question I

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Speaker 2: get asked all the time. Ed is actually a secret PT. Yes,

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Speaker 2: he has his PET qualifications. He got it when he

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Speaker 2: was in his early twenties, so he does sort of

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Speaker 2: know what he's doing with himself. He's never trained clients,

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Speaker 2: but he can definitely put a little program together for

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Speaker 2: himself and his techniques pretty good. The problem with me

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Speaker 2: training him is he just doesn't like me saying you

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Speaker 2: can go a little harder, you can go a little stronger.

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Speaker 2: How about another rep how about we tweet this. How

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Speaker 2: about we add that he hates it. So we have

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Speaker 2: a rule for the benefit of our relationship and our

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Speaker 2: marriage that we have separate gym memberships.

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Speaker 1: We go to separate gyms.

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Speaker 2: And it might sound pretty crazy, but it keeps us

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Speaker 2: saying it does allow me to help him with mobility

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Speaker 2: and stretching, because I think all men just neglect that.

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Speaker 2: And he is super tight, like he does leg day,

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Speaker 2: but he won't stretch, he won't recover properly.

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Speaker 1: So I'll do a lot of banded and stick.

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Speaker 2: Mobility with him, and he's very compliant, but complains and

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Speaker 2: groans and then pretends he's died afterwards. In terms of

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Speaker 2: getting exercise done, we very much just tag teamate. One

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Speaker 2: of us has the kids, the other one goes and exercises,

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Speaker 2: and you know, we always have a bit of a

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Speaker 2: diary meeting at the beginning of the week and I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 2: I'd really like to train Tuesday and Thursday. He's like, okay,

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Speaker 2: I'll do Monday Wednesday, and we make it happen and

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Speaker 2: look at the logistics of the day. My parents their

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Speaker 2: fitness instructors and they actually train together. So my dad

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Speaker 2: he just bought a pair of Apple VR goggles and

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Speaker 2: he walks on the treadmill in his virtual reality watching

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Speaker 2: a loud movie. And my mom she'll be stretching on

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Speaker 2: her ballet bar and I walk in and I think,

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Speaker 2: what is this? This is crazy? Like I don't think

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Speaker 2: I could do that. But they very much help each

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Speaker 2: other with strength training. They have a sauna and a

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Speaker 2: cold plunge pull and they do taekwondo together and they

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Speaker 2: teach together and they love that. But Ed and I

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Speaker 2: just have never been able to get that dynamic right

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Speaker 2: where he's the client and I'm the PT and I'm

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Speaker 2: in charge. It's just never worked for us. But I

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Speaker 2: do love socializing disguised as exercise. So one of my

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Speaker 2: top tips is that if Ed and I need to

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Speaker 2: catch up, you know, away from the kids, I have

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Speaker 2: a download or logistics or what's coming up kind of.

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Speaker 1: Chat, we'll go for a walk and get a.

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Speaker 2: Coffee with the PRAM or something like get ours steps up.

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Speaker 2: And I do that with my mom and with my sister,

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Speaker 2: just gossip with my friends. Let's do a walking catch up.

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Speaker 2: And it's just it has so many benefits. Then you're

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Speaker 2: not sitting down, you're getting your steps up, you're meeting

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Speaker 2: with a friend, you're socializing. It's so healthy and so

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Speaker 2: I'm a big fan of that, and Ed and I

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Speaker 2: do a lot of that kind of stuff. We do

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Speaker 2: enjoy exercising together in that capacity, but as far as

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Speaker 2: it goes me being the PT in the relationship. It's

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Speaker 2: an epic fail. So Ed got his PTE qualification before

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Speaker 2: he met me. It's very important that I point that out.

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Speaker 2: And he definitely has improved and gotten fitter over time

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Speaker 2: and being with me. I'd like to think he's gotten

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Speaker 2: fitter and stronger and learnt some things, but he would

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Speaker 2: never say it was because of me.

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Speaker 1: I don't think he'd.

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Speaker 2: Always say it's because him, and he's training and you

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Speaker 2: know the progress he's made. He often comes to me though,

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Speaker 2: and says, I'm bored. I'm bored with my strength training

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Speaker 2: because he loves lifting weights like you'll never see this

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Speaker 2: man running. He's six foot five, he's very tall. He

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Speaker 2: just he doesn't love cardio, but he loves the weights.

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Speaker 2: And I try and get a bit of conditioning in there.

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Speaker 2: I say, come on, jump on the bike, do a

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Speaker 2: few sprints at the end of your session, do a

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Speaker 2: good warm up like I try and encourage him, and

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Speaker 2: he does do it every now and then. But he

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Speaker 2: loves lifting the heavy weights, and he says, I get

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Speaker 2: so bored, tip And that's when I'll tweak things for

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Speaker 2: him and help him with the program and try and say,

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Speaker 2: you know, let's change the if you're doing like a

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Speaker 2: chess press lining down, let's do angle chest press or

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Speaker 2: I don't know, like we just tweak it so ever

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Speaker 2: so slightly that he kind of feels like it's new,

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Speaker 2: but never so much that he feels like it's been overtaken.

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Speaker 1: So that's my art.

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Speaker 2: I always try and bring something new, but not too new,

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Speaker 2: because he'll freak. When I met ed, the fact that

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Speaker 2: he was fit and that he'd loved going to the

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Speaker 2: gym and that he didn't mind eating simply and healthily

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Speaker 2: like I did was a big tick and green flag

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Speaker 2: in my book, and you know, we bonded over that.

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Speaker 2: And the fact that he would turn up to a

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Speaker 2: date with some protein powder in one of those protein

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Speaker 2: shakers and we'd go the movies and he'd have some

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Speaker 2: protein on him. I was like, whoa, Yeah, you know,

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Speaker 2: we're connecting here. And we would definitely go to the

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Speaker 2: gym when we were dating together and do separate workouts

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Speaker 2: within the gym, but yeah, it was definitely a bonding moment.

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Speaker 2: And the fact that he would cook for me and

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Speaker 2: serve up you know, steam chicken or boiled chicken with

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Speaker 2: some simple vegetables, some sweet potato and simple condiments like

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Speaker 2: a balsamic vinegar or something like that.

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Speaker 1: I thought, oh, you're my man.

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Speaker 2: Like back then when I was really particular about eating

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Speaker 2: healthily and things like that, it was a huge help.

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Speaker 2: It was a huge help. But now we're more relaxed,

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Speaker 2: but we still cook very healthily, and as you've heard

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Speaker 2: on this podcast, Ed does most of the cooking. I

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Speaker 2: do most of the inspo. Of course I cook for

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Speaker 2: the kids. Of course I'm cooking. He's at work. I'm

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Speaker 2: always cooking, but he loves to cook much more than

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Speaker 2: I do. I kind of find it a chore, to

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Speaker 2: be honest.

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Speaker 1: I do. It's not my favorite thing to do. I

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Speaker 1: love cleaning.

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Speaker 2: I find cleaning more exciting and fun and rewarding than

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Speaker 2: I do cooking. So you win some, you lose some.

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Speaker 2: Thanks so much for listening to Bounce Forward. I'd love

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